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Tea Leaves

19 May

Every day we make lots of decisions, and each choice for good or bad, changes something. Some things go exactly the way we want them to, but that doesn’t always happen. We are capable of achieving many successes in our lives, but chances are we’re also going to experience some failures. If we’ve taken a wrong turn and fallen hard, and everything has gone haywire, we may struggle to figure out what to do to straighten our course. Nobody is perfect and there is no way to see the end of any road at the beginning. We’re all going to face failure at some point but that will never be the end of the journey. Some people may criticize, pointing out our failures as proof that we will never succeed at anything. They may believe the past will predict the future, but a previous disaster doesn’t mean nothing will ever go right again. Being superstitious, reading tea leaves to see the future, or believing previous mistakes will hold us down forever is just fiction. Like any good book of fiction, once we put it down, it can be forgotten. No matter what’s already happened, we can trust ourselves to do anything we like. Success will always be possible, and with persistence and focus, nothing is out of reach. We can always find the way forward, and achieve any goal. We are more powerful and wiser than we think we are, and can accomplish anything we desire.

Life is a constant process of learning. Everything we do teaches us something, and when things go wrong we learn what doesn’t work. If we learn all we can from each experience, and take that knowledge forward with us, it will increase our ability to understand the world more clearly and see the road ahead. There will always be countless complications and unforeseen developments that take us by surprise and upend our plans. Change is constant, and when the way forward turns or gets blocked, we can step back, look at everything objectively and choose the best options to proceed. Problems may come but that can’t stop us from reaching success. We are intelligent and wise, and will prevail.

Our personal behaviors may be an asset or a liability depending on what we express. If we have a quick temper and are easily angered, it may be harder to see solutions when things go wrong. If we’re vindictive and judgmental, it may be difficult to get agreement and support from those around us. We can pave the road ahead with wisdom and clarity, or complicate it by making choices that hold us back. We are all responsible for our own lives, and the decisions we make will either move us forward, or create obstacles. We know what we want and can do anything we choose. By being wise and thoughtful and doing what is needed to move ahead, every success will be possible.

Today if you think a past failure will prevent you from gaining success, stop and think again. Learn everything you can from what’s already happened and step forward with confidence. The past can never predict the future, and every goal is within reach. Decide what you want the most and begin the journey to make it yours. You are strong and wise, and nothing is out of reach. Every happiness is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Shoulda Woulda…

5 May

Everyone’s experiences in life are different. We make our decisions and choices based on what we’ve learned, what we want, and how we feel. Some things go exactly the way we expected, and others, not so much. Most of the time we try hard to choose the best path moving forward. We don’t know what we don’t know and there is no way to have every single fact about every single situation. We must work with what we have and deal with the consequences. If we’ve had a stumble and something we did blew up in our faces, there may be others around us willing to give us their opinions about what happened. They may tell us we should have done this or that differently, or maybe if we’d asked them they would have had all the answers. Uh huh, sure. It’s very easy to armchair quarterback and see everything clearly after the fact. We can look back with all the knowledge we now possess and see where we made the wrong turn, but using insight and knowledge we didn’t have at the beginning to judge our actions is a fool’s game. It’s always easy to see the road after we’ve traveled it, but there is no way to see the end at the start. No matter what’s happened, we don’t need to demean ourselves thinking we should have done things differently. We can learn from what’s happened, and take all that knowledge forward to help us in the future. What’s done is done and there is no way to change the past. We are intelligent and completely capable of making excellent choices. By trusting our own personal wisdom and doing everything we can to move ahead with clarity, we will reach success. Nothing is permanent and we have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Most of us have met someone who thinks they know everything. They tell others what they should do, where they should go, how they should dress, and everything else they have an opinion about. We can certainly take any advice we’re offered, but we know who we are and what we want. We can listen to suggestions and then move forward according to our own desires and decisions. There isn’t anything we can’t manage or figure out, and with patience and focus, we can achieve every goal.

When things go wrong, someone may tell us if we’d only done it their way everything would have worked out. Maybe they think they have more insight into our personal lives than we do, which frankly is impossible. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. If something goes wrong, it’s not the end of the road or the end of our journey. Mistakes are just detours that tell us what doesn’t work, which is valuable information. We can stand strong and step forward with confidence, continuing on to success.

Today if your plans have gone awry and didn’t work out, do not despair. Learn everything you can from the experience, and take all the wisdom and insight you’ve gained forward with you. You are amazing and have greatness inside you. Trust yourself and be confident. Nothing is out of reach and every destination is waiting. Step forward and make them yours.

Opening A Window

15 Apr

Life is long and filled with all kinds of experiences. We never know what will happen next or how things will develop. Sometimes we sail along with hardly a care or worry, and other times we may feel beset by trouble and turmoil. Things may go wrong because of decisions we’ve made or the decisions or actions of someone else. And sometimes crap just happens. When we’re struggling, if we get overwhelmed with stress and complications, and have been pushing hard for a long time, we may tire and begin to feel hopeless. It may seem like nothing we do changes anything and there is no end to the grief and despair. We may be convinced this is it, this is as good as it’s ever going to be and our lives are ruined. Once we lose hope in any chance of change, we may give up and surrender to our darkest fears and emotions. If we’re in a dark, stuffy room, it can feel like there is no air. But if we open a window, the cool air will stream through, and refresh and lift us. Hard times come to us all but no matter how bad the situation seems, there will always be hope. We can open a window in our hearts, trust in ourselves, and be sure that nothing will overcome us and hold us down forever. The situation may be dire, and we may be consumed with concern, but change is constant and cannot be held back. Tomorrow will come, the sun will rise and in time, however long that takes, things will improve. We will learn to adjust and overcome whatever we must to find peace again. Happiness and success will always be possible. We are wise and strong, and can do what is needed to get through and reach them both.

Running a marathon is hard. It takes lots of training, endurance and stamina. Sometimes it may seem we’re running a marathon in our lives. Lots of things are trying us and we may have to push hard against obstacles to make any headway. Just when we think we can see the finish line, things change and there are miles yet to go. Big, intense trials are hard to get through. They test our patience, our strength, and sometimes our sanity. But we are stronger and wiser than we think we are, and every answer we need is always there for us. By taking things one step at a time and keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will prevail.

If we must face a difficult health situation, a sudden unexpected death of a loved one, an unforeseen loss of a job, or a dozen other difficult scenarios, we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. At first we may feel lost about our next steps. What do we do now? How can we face this? It may seem there is no way to survive, but that will never be true. There will always be a way ahead. We can stop and stand still, and take time to determine how we want to proceed. We are powerful and highly capable, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with worry and trouble, and it seems nothing you do moves you forward, remember all the times you’ve already overcome serious and difficult challenges. You are wise and powerful, and even if the road is long and hard, you will prevail. Nothing can keep you from moving ahead, and every destination is still there for you. Be confident and stand strong. Every dream is waiting, and you will reach them all.

Changing Them

12 Apr

We meet all kinds of people as we go through our lives. With some we build strong relationships and connections, others are co-workers and acquaintances, and there are some we just wave to in passing. There may be a time when we meet someone and are instantly captivated by them. Maybe it’s the way they look, or there is undeniable chemistry between us. Infatuation can be intense and if we’re under the spell, we may lose all sense of restraint and normalcy. There may be an extreme desire to abandon all caution and do anything to get closer. But first impressions can never tell us everything, and as we interact and spend time together, issues may arise that under normal circumstances may send us packing. If we’re entranced, we may think they don’t matter, we can do what is needed to change the other person so it won’t be an issue. We may believe that by spending more time with them, even marrying them, they will change and the problems will go away. Thinking we can change anyone else for any reason is a recipe for disaster. We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose, and the odds that we’ll be able to alter someone’s personality in ways that work better for us are slim to none. We are who we are, and although change is always possible, it must come from inside us and the desire to change must be great. No relationship is perfect, but if we’re willing to accept others for who they are instead of trying to change them, we have the best chance of success. We all have a lot to offer, but our gifts are different and varied. Looking at everything objectively and realistically will help us decide how best to proceed. We deserve complete happiness, and by being open and seeing things clearly, we will achieve it.

Love means different things to different people. To some it means we will do everything for them and change our lives to fit their model. They may tell us that if we love them, we’ll do as they ask. We’ll change the way we look, or how we act, or what we like, or a million other details. Loving someone doesn’t mean we give up who we are. We are unique and valuable and have individual gifts to offer nobody else can give. We never have to acquiesce to ideas we don’t want or that take us from who we really are. If the relationship requires more than we want to give, we can step away and move in a new direction.

Rushing into a relationship rarely leads to long term satisfaction. Getting to know someone takes time. Learning how we relate to one another and what works takes focus and effort. Running fast into the wind will definitely take us somewhere, but if we can’t clearly see where we’re headed, we probably won’t end up where we wanted to go. We can have rich, fulfilling relationships if we take things one step at a time. Our lives are important, and we deserve every good gift. Being thoughtful and wise, we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been captivated by someone and can’t get them out of your mind, stand still and think about how you want to proceed. Take the time you need to really know them, and then choose your next steps forward. You are amazing and have so much to offer. Everything you desire is possible, and with wisdom and patience, they will be yours.

Cards We Get

16 Mar

Life is unpredictable and nobody knows what will happen today or tomorrow or next week or ever. We may be humming along and everything is going fine when suddenly something changes and we have an entirely new set of problems and issues we have to face. We only have control over our own decisions, and there are things happening all around us all the time we don’t know about and have no control over. We get what we get. It’s like playing cards. We may know the rules of the game and even be very good at playing it, but we have no control over the cards we get. We might luck out and get four aces, or we might get a jumble of cards that have nothing to do with one another that take us nowhere. There’s no way to know anything before we get them and how we manage the situation determines what happens next. If everything is useless, we can fold, and walk away from the game. Or we can play along and try to move ahead despite our misfortune. If we’re facing a turbulent, difficult, trying issue and we feel overwhelmed, we can always just sit down and refuse to do anything, hoping we can just wait it out until it goes away. That might work but if we don’t find the answers to our problems they will never stay away forever. Unresolved issues always return until we take them apart and fix them. Hiding from conflict just delays the inevitable. No matter what’s happening or how confusing and convoluted the problem, we have what we need to find our way forward. The answers are always there for us and with patience and determination we will find them. Success is always possible, and nothing is powerful enough to hold us down. We are strong and wise, and will find the way forward.

Nobody gets a charmed life where all the streets are paved in gold and every day is sunny and bright. Life is filled with challenges and trials, and every time we unravel and solve one, we gain more information and new skills to take forward with us. If we’ve been struggling with one thing after another, we may tire and feel we can’t succeed. We can always step back, stand still and take the time we need to rest and look again at all the options possible. There will never be a tangle we can’t unravel or a problem we cannot solve. We are intelligent and capable, and we will prevail.

If we’re on a road trip and there are many obstacles and detours on the road ahead, we can look at a map and find another way around. There will never be only one road forward or one answer to any complication or problem. Other possibilities will be available and we can always re-route the way forward and change direction. Every destination is there for us and with determination, focus and clarity, we will find the best way forward and reach success. We can do anything we desire and every dream is possible.

Today if you’re facing a complicated and difficult issue and don’t know how to proceed, look at everything objectively. Nothing can hold you in place indefinitely. Trust yourself. There is a way forward and you will find it. You are more powerful and stronger than you imagine, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Stand strong and step forward. Every success is waiting and you will claim them all.