Tag Archives: Sorrow

On the Clock

1 Sep

Everyone is different and each of us has our own, unique style for how we live and what we do. There are endless versions of humanity, and no two people are exactly alike. Although everyone understands this, we may face a time when someone tells us we should be doing things more like them. If we’ve suffered through a painful experience or disappointment, we may feel devastated and upset. How long it takes us to get over it and feel confident again is specific to the experience and our personal feelings. If it’s taking a while to regain our footing, someone may tell us to “Get over it!,” as though that will fix everything. They may have a timeframe they believe is sufficient for us to grieve and then expect us to jump back in, all fixed up and ready to go again. Although they may be on the clock in their own lives and set defined boundaries for personal experiences, our own choices and expressions may be very different. It is not our job to make everyone around us comfortable with our decisions. What we go through and how we manage is unique to each of us. If we need time, we can take it. If we need to step away, we can. We are the only ones who know everything we’re experiencing, and we never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas about how we should process anything. Some adjustments are difficult, and we don’t have to rush through them in order to comply with anyone else’s ideas. When we’re ready to start again, the road will be there for us. Every opportunity is possible, and we can trust ourselves to step forward, and claim them.

We may go through a difficult passage, when it seems no matter what we do, we fail. It may feel like the planets have aligned against us, and there is no hope. If we are overwhelmed and sure of defeat, we may think the only option is to give up. Just let go of our dreams, and fall down into an endless cycle of misery. No matter how it feels, there will never be a time when success will not be possible. Hard times will come, we may run into a big wall in front of us, and the road may get seriously hard, but nothing lasts forever. With patience and persistence, we will find our way through. All our dreams are waiting, and we can make them ours.

There is no timeframe for grief. It takes as long as it takes. We can’t rush it but we can work to understand it, and regain our footing. Holding onto pain and disappointment will never change what’s happened. We are strong enough to look at everything objectively, learn what we can, and begin to look ahead. Standing still gives us time to think, and plan for what we want to do next. When the clouds begin to clear, and we feel the sun again, we can move toward the destinations we most desire. We are more powerful and capable than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been suffering through a difficult situation and can’t see the end of the road, trust yourself. Take the time you need to heal and find peace, and when you’re ready, start again. You are amazing and bring great light to the world around you. Be confident, and believe in yourself. Every single success is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Finished

13 May

Everyone wants an easy, happy life filled with great experiences, and joy, but every day won’t be ideal, and we’ll all go through difficulties, tragedies, disasters, and hard times. There is opposition in everything and although there will be times when everything lines up perfectly and we sail through with no problems, those moments are rare. Sometimes everything goes wrong, our plans go up in smoke, the bottom falls out, and we crash and burn. It happens. No matter how hard we try to plan for eventualities and complications, we may face a time of unexpected trials and extreme disappointment. If we’ve made a serious mistake in judgement that has led to disaster, we may feel horrible as everything falls apart and we fall down. If the error has caused serious problems not only for us but for others, we may suffer great pains of regret. We might believe the situation is so bad that we are finished and there is no way to recover. Nothing could be further from the truth. Bad situations, even the very worst, can be overcome. Life isn’t stagnant and change is constant, and whatever is happening now isn’t permanent. Even if we made the biggest mistake of all time, which isn’t possible, there will be a way to recover. The road ahead we had planned may be gone forever, but there will be other ways to move forward. There will always be a way to recover from whatever has happened. We may have to change our ideas about how we move ahead, but we can create a new plan that will open the road before us, and help us find success. We will never reach a time in our lives where everything is so bad that we are finished and unable to continue. It may not be easy, but we are strong. It might be complicated, but we are intelligent. There isn’t anything that can hold us in place forever. The destination is still there for us, and with patience and wisdom, we will find our way.

Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. What happens after we’ve made them depends on where we are, and who else is involved. If the error is egregious and far reaching, we may lose relationships, jobs, or valuable connections, which may bring us great sorrow. But tomorrow the sun will rise, and there will be opportunities to start again. It’s only over if we quit.

Some people like to play the blame game. They may constantly remind us of what we did that failed, and blame us for everything that happened afterward. We are aware of what’s happened, and don’t need a reminder. What’s done is done, and we don’t need to carry it forward to find success. We can accept our part in any decision, and then step forward in a new direction to reach the goals we desire. Success is still there for us, and with determination we’ll reach it.

Today if you’ve made a bad choice and everything has fallen apart, think about how you want to proceed. The journey doesn’t end because of a wrong turn. No matter how far you are from where you want to be, you can find the way forward. Every destination is possible, and nothing can keep you from success. Stand strong, and step forward with confidence. All your dreams are possible, and you will reach them.

Into the Unknown

14 Jan

Life is full of experiences and we never know what will happen next. There is a lot of uncertainty and what’s around the next corner may surprise us. If we’re comfortable with our routine and like the way things are now, we might try to do everything possible to keep things the same. We can try all we want, but there is no way to prevent what’s coming down the pike. When things suddenly change and the landscape quickly becomes foreign, we may find ourselves in unknown territory. It can happen over time or everything can change in an instant. Trying to grab onto normalcy and routine when the bottom falls out may be an exercise in futility. When the winds of change come, and they will come for all of us, the best we can do is hold on until we figure out how to proceed. Stepping into the unknown isn’t comfortable and we may feel lost and disoriented for a time. There will always be a way forward and if we stand still and take the time we need to see the road ahead, we’ll find it. We are capable of understanding and managing everything that comes to us. We may not like it, there may be moments of serious self-doubt and concern, and the road ahead may be dark and unclear. But we are intelligent and with patience and calm, will find all the answers we need. There are never any guarantees in life, and we may face things we don’t dream we can overcome. There may be times we’re sure we won’t survive, but the day passes, and we start again. All the courage and wisdom required to get through will be there when we need it. We are stronger and more resilient than we imagine, and nothing can keep us from success. Hard times will come. We will be tested, and we might stumble and fall. But we can get back up again, and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every destination is there for us, and nothing can keep us from success.

Change is constant and when an uncomfortable development arrives, we may be filled with dread and concern. We aren’t on the earth alone, and if the situation is frightening or unsettling, we can reach out to those we trust for advice and counsel. There will be an answer to every question and a solution to every problem. Nothing is impossible for us to unravel. By trusting ourselves, and getting help when we need it, the road ahead will open, and we’ll be able to move forward.

When we lose something we value greatly, we may grieve for a time and feel intense sorrow. When pain is prevalent, we may feel frozen and unable to move. It’s okay to stand still. There is no rush to continue forward. We can take the time we need to find peace and clarity, and when we’re ready, can begin again. All our dreams will still be there for us, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult challenge and you have no idea how to get through, trust yourself. You’ve already overcome many hard trials and trying times. You are strong and capable. Be confident and take your time. Every answer is there for you, and you will prevail.

Endless

21 Dec

Sometimes we must face a very difficult situation that carries with it extreme sorrow and sadness. Things may go very wrong, something unexpected may break our heart, and we may be left standing, bereft and broken. If the pain is very deep it will take time to recover and as we walk through it we may feel the hurt is endless. It may seem there is no bottom to the well we’ve fallen into. It’s hard to move forward when we’re in pain and we may believe the suffering will never stop, and the millions of tears and sleepless nights will never end. But each day moves us a little further down the road and away from the sorrow. Even if it’s hard to imagine, joy will return. The hurt will heal and we will be whole again. The only thing we can depend on in life is change. Whatever we’re going through today will be different in some way tomorrow. It’s impossible to keep things exactly the same over time. Just like each night eventually ends with the rising of the sun, no matter how sad and bereaved we may be, there is light ahead. We can hold on during the difficult moments knowing they will pass. We can take comfort that our suffering will end. Hard times come to us all and we each manage them our own personal way. If we need to be alone, we can. If we want to be with others, we may reach out to them. Whatever it takes to heal and right ourselves is there for us. We can be patient when it hurts, and remember this is just a passage that we will successfully walk through. Life is long and many things will come to us. We have everything we need to manage any difficulty or sorrow. We can find the light to brighten the darkness and get through.

Our individual experiences are very personal. How we manage them and process them is unique to us, and may be very different from the way those around us would handle the situation. It doesn’t matter how anyone else would manage our personal experiences. We will find the way that works for us and helps us continue walking forward. There is no one right way to live life. We can do things our way and get back on the road that leads us forward.

There are no rules for how long sorrow should take to overcome. Some people manage disappointments and trouble quickly and let it go. Others need more time to process what’s happened and decide how they want to move forward. Great upsets may change the course of our lives and we can take all the time we need to understand where we are and determine where we want to go from here. We have enough strength even when we feel weak, and we will know what to do. There is no reason to doubt. We are strong enough to face any adversity and continue forward.

Today if you’re struggling with sorrow and it seems it will never end, look back and see how far you’ve come already. If you’ve only moved one step forward you are closer to where you want to be. Have faith. You can do anything and nothing is strong enough to defeat you. There is sunshine ahead and you are only steps away from the light.

What It’s Not

5 Apr

Change is an inevitable part of life.  Every day we face new things, learn new ways of managing them, and grow a little more.  We can learn by hearing about something but mostly we learn by doing.  If we don’t know how something is done and we have to figure it out, we can jump in and start.  But sometimes in the process we don’t figure things out by seeing what something is.  Sometimes it’s what it’s not that teaches us.  If our first impressions are incorrect we may not realize it until we’ve been in the situation for a while.  For example, we meet someone who is very brusque and seems to be wrapped up in their own world.  We might think they’re rude or arrogant, but then after interacting with them over time we discover they aren’t like that at all.  First impressions are important but they can be wrong.  It’s easy to believe we know the whole situation from the first moment, but that is rarely true.  We learn about things as we go, and sometimes what we thought was real wasn’t real at all.

We can only work with what we know at any given time.  Every day brings opportunities to learn and if we embrace them, we have a better shot of understanding how things really are.  There may be times when we want our world to look a certain way and don’t want to see the truth, and we look the other way.  We can pretend we are different than we really are, or that the situation isn’t the way it seems.  We can create our own little reality that has little truth in it.  If we do, we may be happy for the moment but true and lasting happiness will elude us.  Momentary bliss will never sustain us over time.  Truth has a way of surfacing and no matter how we try to hide from it, will find us in the end.  If we open our eyes and see things as they truly are we may be uncomfortable for a time but living truthfully is the only way to real and lasting happiness.

When we make judgments and later discover we were wrong we may feel disappointment or sorrow when we learn the truth.  If we were wrong about a personal relationship we care a lot about it may hurt deeply.  When people want something badly they sometimes pretend to be whatever it takes to get it.  If the other person was willing to do or say anything to bring us close, and we discover none of it was true it can be heartbreaking.  We could decide to ignore the truth and hope that in time our dreams will become real, but that may only postpone the inevitable.  It’s best to face the truth – whatever it is – as soon as we discover it.  Sometimes things aren’t what they seem.  Sometimes they are very different.  What they really are is what is real.  We can face whatever it is and we can still find happiness.  There isn’t a road too hard for us to travel.  We can face anything and we can find our way again.

Today if you see that things aren’t as you thought, you can turn your course.  The truth is there to show you the way.  There are endless roads in front of you, and you will choose the right one.  You know more now than you did before.  Use that going forward.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You have everything you need to be happy.