Everyone is different and each of us has our own, unique style for how we live and what we do. There are endless versions of humanity, and no two people are exactly alike. Although everyone understands this, we may face a time when someone tells us we should be doing things more like them. If we’ve suffered through a painful experience or disappointment, we may feel devastated and upset. How long it takes us to get over it and feel confident again is specific to the experience and our personal feelings. If it’s taking a while to regain our footing, someone may tell us to “Get over it!,” as though that will fix everything. They may have a timeframe they believe is sufficient for us to grieve and then expect us to jump back in, all fixed up and ready to go again. Although they may be on the clock in their own lives and set defined boundaries for personal experiences, our own choices and expressions may be very different. It is not our job to make everyone around us comfortable with our decisions. What we go through and how we manage is unique to each of us. If we need time, we can take it. If we need to step away, we can. We are the only ones who know everything we’re experiencing, and we never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas about how we should process anything. Some adjustments are difficult, and we don’t have to rush through them in order to comply with anyone else’s ideas. When we’re ready to start again, the road will be there for us. Every opportunity is possible, and we can trust ourselves to step forward, and claim them.
We may go through a difficult passage, when it seems no matter what we do, we fail. It may feel like the planets have aligned against us, and there is no hope. If we are overwhelmed and sure of defeat, we may think the only option is to give up. Just let go of our dreams, and fall down into an endless cycle of misery. No matter how it feels, there will never be a time when success will not be possible. Hard times will come, we may run into a big wall in front of us, and the road may get seriously hard, but nothing lasts forever. With patience and persistence, we will find our way through. All our dreams are waiting, and we can make them ours.
There is no timeframe for grief. It takes as long as it takes. We can’t rush it but we can work to understand it, and regain our footing. Holding onto pain and disappointment will never change what’s happened. We are strong enough to look at everything objectively, learn what we can, and begin to look ahead. Standing still gives us time to think, and plan for what we want to do next. When the clouds begin to clear, and we feel the sun again, we can move toward the destinations we most desire. We are more powerful and capable than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.
Today if you’ve been suffering through a difficult situation and can’t see the end of the road, trust yourself. Take the time you need to heal and find peace, and when you’re ready, start again. You are amazing and bring great light to the world around you. Be confident, and believe in yourself. Every single success is there for you, and you will reach them all.
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