Archive | July, 2019

Defining

31 Jul

People come in and out of our lives constantly. Sometimes we make connections that last only a brief time, and sometimes we have lifelong relationships. No matter how many attributes we may share, we are all unique and define our lives by the choices we make. When we care about someone, their influence over us may be great. We want to make them happy so there may be times when we agree to do something we don’t really want to do. That may not be a problem for inconsequential decisions – where to have dinner, what movie to see, or what to do over the weekend. However, if they want us to do things that impact our lives negatively, or change our direction toward something we don’t want, and we go along, we may end up somewhere we never wanted to go. It’s not always easy to stand up for our own decisions when someone we love is pressuring us to go along with theirs. We can always agree to anything and do what everyone else thinks we should, leaving our personal choices behind. But it’s important to remember that when we choose the first step on a path, we are also choosing the last. If we go along with someone else’s decision in the beginning, we will end up at the destination they’ve chosen. Our lives are important and how we define them is up to us. We can have the lives we want the most, but we must make the decisions necessary to achieve them. Nobody will ever know more about what’s important to us than we do. We can choose our own roads to travel. If everyone agrees it may be easier, but even if they don’t, we can move forward with confidence toward any destination we desire. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. Each step we take can move us closer to the lives we dream about.

Everyone has opinions about everything. Someone may think they have better ideas about how we should live than we do, and share them with us. They may say anything they like, but we never have to take any advice we don’t want. We can listen patiently and thank them for their input, and then choose our own way forward. There is no one perfect way to live life. We can do things our way, and go to the destinations we most desire. Expressing our own individuality and making our own choices will bring us great reward and satisfaction.

When we’re young we learn a lot about life from our families. The patterns we grow up with are comfortable and familiar. As we become adults, we may choose to adopt those same patterns in our lives, or we may decide to go another way. We don’t have to keep doing something just because we’ve done it that way in the past. There are unlimited versions and variety to every experience. If we want to change something, we can. Our lives can represent who we are individually, and sharing our unique gifts will bring richness and variation to the world around us.

Today if you’ve been going along with those you care about and letting go of what you want the most, remember your influence is valuable. Define your life by making choices that express your individuality. Show us who you are. You bring richness and goodness to the world. We’re all blessed because you are here.

Square One

30 Jul

We can do anything we want in our lives. We can set goals and achieve them, go to any destination we desire, and create the lives we want the most. We always know what we want, but sometimes we may sabotage ourselves and do things that keep us from success. There are all kinds of reasons for this – we may not really believe we can win, we may not be convinced it’s what we want, or we may let others or situations influence us and hold us in place. We may go around and around in circles, saying, and even believing we want something, but doing things that prevent it from happening, and ending up at square one. Change won’t just happen because we want it, and our dreams won’t come true simply because we feel we deserve them. We can have the lives we want but we have to do what is necessary to create them. Nobody can change overnight and we don’t have to do everything all at once. We can make small adjustments that move us closer to the goal and incorporate them into our lives in ways that work for us. We can have the lives we dream about by choosing steps each day that open the doors to realizing them. It doesn’t matter how many false starts we’ve had, and we don’t have to change everything immediately. We can concentrate today on doing what is needed to push us ahead. Then tomorrow, we can do it again. Each day we can focus on doing our best and in time we’ll reach the goal. Nothing is impossible. We are never locked in place and can change anything we desire at any time. Every dream is reachable and with persistence, determination and focus, we can do anything.

Nobody will ever make our dreams come true for us. There is no magic genie, no secret combination, or hidden mystery that will unlock the way forward. We already possess all the keys needed to open all the doors ahead. We can be confident that no matter what stands in front of us, we will find our way around it. There is no situation too complex or difficult for us to manage, and manage well. All the answers are there for us, and when we’re ready, we’ll find them.

Nobody gets a perfect life with only paved roads and no problems. Life is filled with complications, unexpected details, snags, and obstacles. But for every issue we encounter, there will be a solution. There will always be an open road ahead and no matter how convoluted things get, or how many times we falter, we can find it. We are more powerful and capable than we realize, and nothing, absolutely nothing, can keep us from success. Every dream and every desire are possible. We have everything we need to reach every single goal.

Today if there’s something you want that you haven’t yet accomplished, remember how strong and capable you are. It doesn’t matter how many times you have to start again. You can do anything you desire, and every blessing is possible. Decide what you want, and then begin toward the goal. You really can have the life you dream about. Be confident. Take another step. Nothing is out of reach and you will prevail.

Best Revenge

26 Jul

There are all kinds of people in the world and although many of them are kind and considerate, we may find ourselves interacting with someone who is mean or cruel, who does something that hurts us or impacts us negatively. We may be angry and desire revenge, which is always an option, but seeking revenge will only take up a lot of our time and energy, and will never move us forward. The best way to get back at someone who has purposely made our lives difficult, is to live well and move forward with grace and dignity. Nothing bothers mean, selfish people more than to see those around them succeed. If we want the best revenge, we can live with strength and confidence. We are far more valuable than any petty, vengeful action we could take, and choosing to express our incredible worth by keeping our standards high will ennoble us, and set an excellent example for those around us. There will always be unhappy people who want to bring those around them down and make them feel small. We don’t have to take the bait. We can stand strong and continue to reach out in kindness and charity, even to those who don’t deserve it. The old saying, “The best revenge is living well,” is true. Nothing can compare to a life well lived, filled with goodness and clarity. Our lives are ours to design, and no matter what happens or what others may do, we can always make the best choices possible. It takes two to fight and when conflict arises, we can choose grace and patience, and keep our composure. We have everything we need to prevail in any situation. We are worth more than we can imagine. Every blessing is possible, and with patience and restraint, we will find every success.

It’s not easy to stay calm and think clearly when we feel like hitting back, and thrashing someone causing us grief. But we’re in control of our lives, and everything we do. We can stand still, take a deep breath and allow ourselves time to keep our composure, objectively see the situation, and decide on the best way forward. We can be our own best friend and give ourselves every advantage by carefully choosing the best options before us and maintaining our self-control.

Some people find satisfaction in creating turmoil and conflict, and enjoy stirring things up and getting others agitated and confused. They like to tease and torment, and try to gin up anxiety and distress. It’s difficult to deal with them, and if we fall into their trap, may find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. We can always leave any situation that makes us uncomfortable. We can find happiness by choosing wisely, and becoming the people we most want to be.

Today if you’re angry because of something someone has done and are thinking of ways to get back at them, before you decide, consider what’s best for you. Your life is important and valuable, and every choice you make will take you somewhere. Make choices that will bring you increased happiness and peace. Be wise and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every blessing is there for you, and you will find great success. The whole world is blessed because you are here. You are amazing.

Heart

25 Jul

We live in a world with billions of people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there are many others around us all the time. They come and go every day, and we build connections and relationships, some just in passing, and others that last our entire lifetimes. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas about how the world works and how things should go. We may agree, or disagree, and every exchange teaches us something new. Sometimes misunderstandings arise and we may have no idea what went wrong. There are always a lot of distractions on the surface, but if we want to know what’s really going on, we’ll have to dig a little deeper. If we want to find out what’s really happening, we’ll have to get to the very heart of the matter. That may mean looking at things we’re uncomfortable with and allowing ourselves to be see where we may have gone wrong. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we discover we’ve done something that’s caused pain or discomfort, we can look at the situation openly and do what is needed to amend it. In times of distress or misunderstanding, it will never serve us to ignore the issue and pretend it will go away on its own. Most problems won’t resolve without the input of those involved. They may get pushed back and ignored, but they will remain unsettled until we clearly look at them and do what is needed to address them. If we refuse to see them, we will carry them forward with us indefinitely and they may affect our future happiness and comfort. We deserve to live happily and unencumbered by problems. We can face any situation pulling on us and find the answers we need to resolve it and let it go. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find every answer we desire. Our lives are important and we are valuable. We can live effectively and openly, and find every happiness.

Some people are very private and don’t like to share their feelings. They may not tell us if we’ve done something that’s offended them. Instead, they may pretend everything is fine but we may sense something is amiss. It can be hard to find answers when the person holding them isn’t comfortable sharing information with us. We can be patient and understanding, and extend the hand of friendship even in times of duress. Showing we care, despite any friction, will help us build trust and open the doors to better communication.

We have all kinds of relationships, and can always choose to build a bridge, or close a door. We don’t have to continue relationships that are painful, or destructive, and we can walk away if a situation isn’t working. If we aren’t comfortable, we can change direction and step away. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives, and we have everything we need to get them.

Today if you feel something amiss in a relationship and don’t know what to do, think about what’s happened and get to the heart of the matter. Reach for understanding, and then move forward with confidence. Nothing is too complicated for you to comprehend, and you will find all the answers you need.

Big Swing

24 Jul

Life is filled with opportunity and there really are no limits to what we can accomplish if we set our minds to the goal and do what is needed to make it ours. The world is filled with things to do and places to see, and we can move forward toward any goal we desire. Taking a big swing and pushing toward something new can be intimidating and we might hesitate, unsure of our ability to succeed. Our lives will always be a reflection of the choices we make, and if we want a small, simple existence, it’s easy to accomplish. We can stay in our seats, and watch the world go by, safe and secure in our place, where everything remains the same. But if we stand still and stay within our comfort zones, we will never know what we could do or where we could go. Nothing is really beyond our reach and if we want to, we can make our dreams come true. Swinging for the fences takes courage and strength. We may be doubtful at first but we have everything we need to do anything we want. We can reach further, press harder, and push ourselves toward new, and higher goals. We have nothing to lose. If we fall down, we can get back up. If one road fails, we can try another. Every possibility is there and we can fill our lives with rich and varied experiences that will give us great satisfaction and bring us complete happiness. We deserve every benefit in life, and they’re all there for us. We’re stronger and more capable than we may realize and can do anything we desire. Nothing is too far away or too difficult to reach. We can be confident of our success, and step forward with determination and clarity. Everything is possible. We can do anything we desire and have the lives we dream about.

Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. People are filled with their own opinions about how life should go and may tell us what they think we should be doing. They may share their views with us, but those views don’t need to become ours. We know what we want and where we want to go. It doesn’t matter if others agree or come along. We can chart our own course and achieve any goal we desire. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we choose. We can make our own decisions and have the lives we want the most.

Perfection may be our goal, but it will rarely be our achievement. If we expect things to go perfectly simply because we desire them, odds are we’ll be disappointed. There are a lot of things going on all the time, and endless complications can arise. It doesn’t matter what gets in our way, we have everything we need to adjust our trajectory and continue moving forward. Every goal is possible. Every single one. We can have the lives we dream about, and find complete happiness.

Today if you’re thinking about a big goal but aren’t sure you can achieve it, step forward and start anyway. Nothing is too complex or difficult for you to overcome. You are strong and wise, and more powerful than you may realize. Be confident and take a big swing. You can do anything. Success is there and you will reach it.