Tag Archives: Familiar

Finding the Why

30 Aug

Our decisions and choices are motivated by many factors. There are things we want for ourselves, things other people want us to do, and stuff we have to do just because we are where we are. Every day brings new responsibilities and assignments, some we’re happy to manage, and others bring frustration and annoyance. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and if we’re adamantly opposed to whatever is before us, we can step away. But we aren’t alone here, and our relationships with those around us sometimes involve doing things we’re not thrilled about, or don’t want. Every decision we make belongs to us and there will always be a reason for each choice. If we’re not happy and are doing things that continually perpetuate feelings of discontent, it’s important to understand why we keep doing them. If there are family pressures, we don’t feel we can ignore, or professional responsibilities we can’t leave, we may be stuck for now. But if we’re doing things that aren’t making us happy or moving us forward, and there is no real reason to continue, we can step back and decide what we really want, and change direction. Once we understand why we’re doing something, we can determine what we want to do next. Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything we like. There is no situation or individual with the power to hold us in place. We can turn away from anything that isn’t bringing us happiness or fulfillment, and choose a different road. We can have the life we imagine and reach any goal. We are powerful and wise, and we know what we want. There is a road to every destination we desire and with focus and determination, we will find success.

We’re all individuals, different and unique in our own personal way. What’s important to one may mean nothing to someone else. There isn’t one, perfect way to live life, and every interpretation has benefit. Tradition can be very powerful and if we’ve been living our lives based on what’s always been done in the past, we may feel secure keeping things the same, but that doesn’t guarantee we’ll be happy. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we deserve to be happy. If the road we’re on isn’t fulfilling our dreams or bringing joy into our lives, we can choose another.

There are routines we follow regularly that are familiar and that help bring order into our lives. We know what to expect, and there are few surprises. However, repeating the same things again and again can be powerful. We may continue doing something without even understanding why we’re doing it. Every day is a gift, and if we don’t pay attention, we may miss the opportunity to accomplish what we want the most. We always have the power to move toward the goals and destinations most important to us, and create the lives we desire.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t taking you where you want to go, look at all the possibilities before you and change direction. You know what you want, and have everything you need to achieve it. Your life is precious and valuable, and you can do anything you desire. Be confident. Nothing can keep you from complete success.


31 Jul

People come in and out of our lives constantly. Sometimes we make connections that last only a brief time, and sometimes we have lifelong relationships. No matter how many attributes we may share, we are all unique and define our lives by the choices we make. When we care about someone, their influence over us may be great. We want to make them happy so there may be times when we agree to do something we don’t really want to do. That may not be a problem for inconsequential decisions – where to have dinner, what movie to see, or what to do over the weekend. However, if they want us to do things that impact our lives negatively, or change our direction toward something we don’t want, and we go along, we may end up somewhere we never wanted to go. It’s not always easy to stand up for our own decisions when someone we love is pressuring us to go along with theirs. We can always agree to anything and do what everyone else thinks we should, leaving our personal choices behind. But it’s important to remember that when we choose the first step on a path, we are also choosing the last. If we go along with someone else’s decision in the beginning, we will end up at the destination they’ve chosen. Our lives are important and how we define them is up to us. We can have the lives we want the most, but we must make the decisions necessary to achieve them. Nobody will ever know more about what’s important to us than we do. We can choose our own roads to travel. If everyone agrees it may be easier, but even if they don’t, we can move forward with confidence toward any destination we desire. Our lives are ours to design and nothing is out of reach. Each step we take can move us closer to the lives we dream about.

Everyone has opinions about everything. Someone may think they have better ideas about how we should live than we do, and share them with us. They may say anything they like, but we never have to take any advice we don’t want. We can listen patiently and thank them for their input, and then choose our own way forward. There is no one perfect way to live life. We can do things our way, and go to the destinations we most desire. Expressing our own individuality and making our own choices will bring us great reward and satisfaction.

When we’re young we learn a lot about life from our families. The patterns we grow up with are comfortable and familiar. As we become adults, we may choose to adopt those same patterns in our lives, or we may decide to go another way. We don’t have to keep doing something just because we’ve done it that way in the past. There are unlimited versions and variety to every experience. If we want to change something, we can. Our lives can represent who we are individually, and sharing our unique gifts will bring richness and variation to the world around us.

Today if you’ve been going along with those you care about and letting go of what you want the most, remember your influence is valuable. Define your life by making choices that express your individuality. Show us who you are. You bring richness and goodness to the world. We’re all blessed because you are here.

Waiting to Change

10 Mar

We all have things we do well.  We know what is easy for us and where we excel.  Sometimes there are things we need to change in order to move forward or to achieve something we really want.  If that includes something we don’t like or something we don’t know how to do we may hesitate.  Our behaviors and skills will never change on their own no matter how long we wait or how hard we wish.  If we want or need to change something in our lives we must actively engage in doing what is needed to bring it about.  That may mean venturing into areas we don’t know, or trying to do something that makes us uneasy.  We can change anything we want if we do what is needed, but nothing will change simply by waiting for it.  Our lives are ours to design any way we choose.  If we want to try something new or reach for something higher we may have to step into foreign territory.  But foreign things become familiar after we do them for a time and we can master any new behaviors we choose.  We can reach for the stars, go for our biggest dreams and become anything we decide we want to be.  We are capable of adapting and modifying ourselves at any time.  Change is always possible and we can make it happen if we are determined and continue toward it step by step.  There really isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we want it badly enough.  We can step onto any path and find success.

It’s easy to sit and dream about what we want to do.  We can talk about it for years on end and hope our dreams will magically come true.  Thinking and talking will only take us so far and if we really want what we’ve been dreaming about we must take action.  Every accomplishment requires effort.  When we’re ready, we can look carefully at what we want to do and then make a plan to achieve it.  We may have to learn some new skills, we may have to step way out of our comfort zone, and it may take time to accomplish the goal, but if we really want it we can achieve it.  It’s great to have dreams but making them come true is what brings happiness.

Every road has a destination.  We know the roads we customarily travel and we know where they’ll take us.  If we stay on the same roads year after year we will only experience what they have to offer.  When we want something different we have to step away from the familiar and choose another path.  There is no way to reach a new destination by taking the same journey over and over again.  There is no limit to the things we can do or learn but change requires us to step away from the road we’re on to find it.  We have everything we need to find a new way forward.  We know what we want to do and where we want to go and we can make the choices needed to find success.

Today if you’ve decided you want to reach a goal and change your direction, take the first step on a new road.  You have everything you need to make any dream a reality.  Decide what you most want to do and then begin forward toward success.  There is nothing that will stop you and you will reach the goal.