Tag Archives: Routine

Crap Happens

15 Oct

Nothing is permanent in life. No matter what’s happening or what we’re going through today, it’s guaranteed to change. We go through good times, bad times, upheavals, and placid moments, and each day brings us something new. Everything is continually moving forward toward something else. That’s a great blessing when we’re going through difficult periods or facing a terrible crisis, but when things are going well, we may wish everything would stay the same and time would stand still. However, holding our lives in stasis is never an option. We can’t read the future and it’s impossible to prepare for something we can’t predict. When something terrible happens or our lives turn in ways that bring disharmony and distress, how we react will often determine how well we manage the problem. If we jump to anger or hysteria, it will be harder to concentrate on the issue and fully understand what’s happening and what we should do. We will all face difficult days and unfortunate challenges. When they are extreme, we may feel overwhelmed and completely lost, but in fact, there isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. If we keep our heads when disaster strikes, we have a better chance of finding the answers we need. Nothing can be gained by screaming and kicking, or refusing to look at what we feel is intolerable or unacceptable. Crap happens and sometimes it happens to us. When everything turns and we’re in the dark and feel buried alive by trouble, we can be still and allow ourselves time to think and process what’s going on. Nothing will come that we can’t handle. We are stronger and more courageous than we think we are, and in our darkest moments, can find the way ahead. We can trust ourselves to be wise and careful, and step forward with confidence. Trouble may come, problems may confound us, but we will prevail.

If we like routine, we may try to set our lives up in ways that prevent too much change from entering the picture. That might work in some ways but we aren’t in control of anything but our own decisions and behaviors. Everything else is out of our hands. Others may make choices that impact us, our situations may change instantaneously without warning, and we may end up somewhere we never planned to go. With patience and faith, we can process any changes that come, and continue forward with determination and certainty.

When we’ve been struggling with a problem for a while and it feels like nothing is changing, we may begin to believe we will be stuck forever. But even when we don’t notice, change is happening. Each step we take moves us closer to where we want to be. There may be many steps necessary before we’re in the clear, but as we press forward, success is assured. We are powerful and wise, and will always find our way forward.

Today if you’re in a terrible situation, and you’re struggling to find your way out, remember how many times you’ve already prevailed. Continue to press forward and all the answers will come. You are amazing and strong, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident. Every blessing is waiting for you, and you will win.

Finding the Why

30 Aug

Our decisions and choices are motivated by many factors. There are things we want for ourselves, things other people want us to do, and stuff we have to do just because we are where we are. Every day brings new responsibilities and assignments, some we’re happy to manage, and others bring frustration and annoyance. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and if we’re adamantly opposed to whatever is before us, we can step away. But we aren’t alone here, and our relationships with those around us sometimes involve doing things we’re not thrilled about, or don’t want. Every decision we make belongs to us and there will always be a reason for each choice. If we’re not happy and are doing things that continually perpetuate feelings of discontent, it’s important to understand why we keep doing them. If there are family pressures, we don’t feel we can ignore, or professional responsibilities we can’t leave, we may be stuck for now. But if we’re doing things that aren’t making us happy or moving us forward, and there is no real reason to continue, we can step back and decide what we really want, and change direction. Once we understand why we’re doing something, we can determine what we want to do next. Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything we like. There is no situation or individual with the power to hold us in place. We can turn away from anything that isn’t bringing us happiness or fulfillment, and choose a different road. We can have the life we imagine and reach any goal. We are powerful and wise, and we know what we want. There is a road to every destination we desire and with focus and determination, we will find success.

We’re all individuals, different and unique in our own personal way. What’s important to one may mean nothing to someone else. There isn’t one, perfect way to live life, and every interpretation has benefit. Tradition can be very powerful and if we’ve been living our lives based on what’s always been done in the past, we may feel secure keeping things the same, but that doesn’t guarantee we’ll be happy. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we deserve to be happy. If the road we’re on isn’t fulfilling our dreams or bringing joy into our lives, we can choose another.

There are routines we follow regularly that are familiar and that help bring order into our lives. We know what to expect, and there are few surprises. However, repeating the same things again and again can be powerful. We may continue doing something without even understanding why we’re doing it. Every day is a gift, and if we don’t pay attention, we may miss the opportunity to accomplish what we want the most. We always have the power to move toward the goals and destinations most important to us, and create the lives we desire.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t taking you where you want to go, look at all the possibilities before you and change direction. You know what you want, and have everything you need to achieve it. Your life is precious and valuable, and you can do anything you desire. Be confident. Nothing can keep you from complete success.

Greatness Within

5 Mar

We all have incredible potential to do amazing and wonderful things. There is no limit to what we can accomplish and the world is filled with possibilities. But potential is only evidence of what is possible and reflects our unrealized expectations. If we don’t apply ourselves and act on our desires, it will lie dormant waiting for us to arrive. There is greatness inside all of us. We have abilities beyond what we dream is possible but uncovering our true capabilities won’t just happen while we sit around and wait. We’re in control of our lives and what we do with them is our responsibility. All the potential in the world will mean nothing if we don’t magnify it and use it to move forward. It’s easy to go with the flow and follow others along. It’s easy not to get involved and stay on the sidelines, or sit in the back seat and let someone else take us where they will. We can have the lives we dream of, but they will require focused effort and determination. The whole world is there for us and nothing is too far to reach but we must take the first step. We can have rich, fulfilling lives filled with satisfaction and reward but we must create them for ourselves. There isn’t anything we can’t do and no place we can’t go. We can decide what we want and then do what is needed to gain it. Every blessing is possible. We have all the potential and wisdom we need to succeed.

If we routinely display bad behavior, are rude or mean, or criticize and disparage others, people may avoid us and it will be hard to create and build strong relationships. It’s impossible to see anything good hiding behind bad behavior. Unhappiness may be the cause, however, spreading our unhappiness around onto others will never resolve the issue. We can take the time to look at our lives objectively and turn our course toward what we want the most. Nothing is strong enough to keep us where we don’t want to be. We can have happy, fulfilled lives by choosing the roads that will take us where we want to go.

Some people like a simple life filled with routine that’s predictable and comfortable. They don’t stray from what they know or push themselves too far. It’s fine to have a small life if that’s what we want, but the world is filled with all kinds of possibilities and we have everything we need to embrace something new and enrich our lives. We don’t know what we can achieve until we try. We can go further than we think we can and accomplish goals beyond our reach. There is greatness within us and we can reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been staying within your routine, look around and see all the options there for you. You have so much to offer and can accomplish amazing things. Remember how powerful and strong you are, and go after your dreams. They’re available to you and you can reach them. There is greatness within you and everything is possible. Open all the doors and move forward with confidence. All your dreams can come true and you will succeed.

Step Two

6 Jul

There are all kinds of scenarios we envision for our lives and many different things we want to do and experience.  We can work hard toward our goals and with determination and persistence may achieve many of them.  There will be times when things don’t go the way we planned and what we thought we’d gain escapes us.  There are countless factors always involved in every decision we make and most of them are out of our control.  When we get stopped and everything we thought would work out has crashed and burned, we may get stuck at step one of our plan.  We can redirect our path forward and decide if the original goal is still worth the effort or if we want to let it go and move on to something else.  We can always roll over and give up when the going gets tough.  We’re in charge of our lives and can change anything we like at any time.  But if we still want to push forward toward the destination we’ll have to create a new plan and begin again.  There is always more than one way to accomplish any goal.  If our first attempt doesn’t work, we can try again.  If that fails, we can create yet another plan and can continue until we find the path that takes us all the way there.  Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we want to do.  We only need to decide exactly what that is.  Everything is possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to succeed.  If one road doesn’t work we can choose another.  There are unlimited possibilities and nothing can keep us from success.

We never have to stay in a situation we don’t want.  It doesn’t matter what others are doing around us, it doesn’t matter what is expected or how things usually go.  We can live our lives any way we choose and if we don’t like where we are, we can move.  We can leave relationships that are unfulfilling or that don’t make us happy.  We can move from locations that don’t offer us the opportunities we desire.  We are always in control of our lives and if we want something different we can get it.  Complete happiness is possible and by directing our lives toward the things we want the most, we will find it.

It’s easy to go along with the routines we’ve established even if we’re unhappy.  There is comfort in knowing what to expect and it takes courage to reach for something more.  But we have sufficient courage to step away from where we are and strive for the lives we most desire.  Every dream is possible and we can begin moving toward them whenever we’re ready.  The whole world is there for us and nothing is too far or too difficult to reach.  We need only take the next step forward and start on the road that will take us where we want to go.  All roads are open and waiting.  The possibilities are endless and we can achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’re stuck and want a change, look ahead and decide what you want the most.  You can have the life you dream about.  You can make your dreams come true.  Take the next step forward toward the destination you desire.  Every opportunity is possible and nothing is out of reach.  Make your dreams come true and find the happiness you deserve.

Leaving it Behind

30 Apr

We have all kinds of different relationships in our lives.  There are friends, colleagues, acquaintances, neighbors and many kinds of personal connections.  As we interact with them our experiences run the full gamut of emotion.  Sometimes we get along well and everything goes smoothly but there may be times when someone does something offensive or hurtful, and dealing with them is painful.  When we have a bad experience or someone acts in ways that destroy our trust or constantly negatively impact our lives we may step away from them.  We deserve to be happy and difficult relationships may bring us intense disharmony and conflict.  We are in control of our lives and never have to stay in any situation we don’t want.  The other party may want us close and press us to continue forward with them but we can make our own decisions.  We always have the power to move forward and can leave any negative relationship behind.  Our happiness is our responsibility.  We need not suffer indefinitely through a dysfunctional or destructive situation.  We can confidently choose a new road that moves us toward the goals we desire.  Our lives belong to us and we may design them any way we like.  There isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us in place.  We deserve the very best of everything and have sufficient courage and wisdom to achieve it.

Patterns and expectations can be powerful influences in our lives.  If we’ve been managing a difficult relationship for a while and want to change there may be pressure from others involved to keep things the same.  People like routines.  They help us understand what to expect and when we stick to them, even if they are destructive, we may feel secure simply because we know the situation well.  But routines are just patterns we design and we can change them when they don’t work.  We know what we want and can modify our direction at any time.  There is no reason to embrace unhappiness in an effort to keep the peace.  Our happiness is valuable and we can do whatever is needed to gain it.

Changing direction moves us away from where we are into the unknown.  It may be unsettling to choose a new road going forward but every road we travel is foreign at first.  We don’t know what the future will bring and we may be unsure about our steps as we move forward.  There are wonderful possibilities ahead and we are capable and strong enough to face any new situation with confidence.  We can look forward and discover every potential success.  The whole world is ours for the taking.  Every opportunity is available.  We can go anywhere and achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been struggling through a difficult situation and want a change, step away and start again.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold you in place.  Every possibility is available to you.  Turn your course onto the road you desire and move toward the goals you seek.  There is greatness in you and nothing is out of reach.  You can do anything and make all your dreams can come true.

Rear View Mirror

8 Aug

As we go through our lives we experience many scenarios and situations. Sometimes they are beneficial and we build connections and remain. Others times they may be passing encounters or situations that are uncomfortable and we decide to let go. Although we can choose where we’ll go and how we’ll live our lives we might face a time where we end up in a place that isn’t working for us but is hard to disengage from. Perhaps it’s a difficult relationship that is unmanageable but we aren’t sure how to change it. Or maybe it’s a pattern we’ve developed that worked in the beginning but no longer brings us happiness. Life is filled with all kinds of opportunities and experiences. If we find ourselves doing things that aren’t bringing us joy we can change them. It doesn’t matter if we’ve been doing the same thing for years or if the change we desire causes temporary turmoil. What matters is that we live our lives authentically and in ways that bring us satisfaction and joy. We are the only ones who can create happiness in our lives. We know what we want most of all and we can let go of anything that prevents us from achieving it. We can drive forward leaving what doesn’t work in the rear view mirror. Our lives are ours to design our own way. If others disagree we can still do what is best for us. We can move forward and leave the past behind. We have all the wisdom and courage to make the decisions we need to be completely happy and fulfilled.

Routines make us feel comfortable and if we do the same things every day we may feel secure because the scenery doesn’t change. Routines are great for sameness but not effective if we want to grow and stretch. We can’t discover how far we can go if we stay in the same place day after day. There are limitless things we could do with our lives and endless experiences we could enjoy but we must be open to new things and willing to step away from the norm. We can try something new and stretch beyond where we are today.

When our relationships with others are difficult and we feel restricted it’s hard to express who we really are. When others have expectations of what we’ll do or how we’ll act and we comply with their desires we may get along for a time. We may be able to go through the motions but eventually our true selves will push forward and we’ll need to change. Who we really are is precious and valuable. We don’t have to fit in, we don’t have to pretend, and we can genuinely be our best selves. Nobody could possibly design a better fit for us than who we already are. We can share that and be truly happy. The uniqueness and individuality we bring is priceless and a gift no one else can bring.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t where you want to be or going along with something that isn’t what you really want to do, reframe your way forward. You can be yourself and choose a path that reflects what you want most. You are unique and wonderful just as you are. Leave the games behind and be yourself. You are a gift to the world and your uniqueness blesses us all.

Opting Out

13 Apr

There are all kinds of people in the world and limitless types of personalities. We interact with them every day and their influence in our lives varies. Most of the time we get along fine but there may be times when we struggle with someone else’s behavior or decisions. Perhaps they have trouble controlling their temperament, maybe there are honesty issues, or they are difficult for us to understand. If we must collaborate with them we may find the experience challenging and frustrating. Although there may be times when we absolutely must deal with a difficult person, generally we have the option of going another way. We don’t have to stay in any relationship we don’t want. Even if we’ve been dealing with the situation for years, unless we absolutely must keep them in our lives we may opt out and step away. Sometimes we get into a manipulative situation where the other person tries to control us or in some way exerts power over us. It doesn’t matter how much time we’ve been involved, it doesn’t matter how much the other person expects from us, and it doesn’t matter what others think. If we aren’t happy and want a change we may have it. We can do anything that is best for us regardless of other opinions. If we aren’t happy where we are, we may opt out and take another road.

It’s wonderful to have a long term successful relationship with someone else. We can share our lives together and over time develop a closeness that is very rewarding and fulfilling. But if we’re in a relationship that is hurting us or making us feel unworthy, no matter how long we’ve been involved we may change the situation. We can express our feelings and discuss what we need to be happy. If the other person is willing to work with us we may be able to stay in the relationship. However, if after we’ve said what we need they decide they don’t want to change anything we can do what is required to be happy.

It’s easy to get caught up and stay in difficult relationships because we’ve been in them so long they have become routine. Routines may be comforting even when we’re unhappy because we know what to expect. But our happiness is important and every single day we trade it away we lose a precious gift we could give to ourselves. There isn’t anything we can’t do when we’re ready. If we’re unhappy we can change. We deserve the lives we want most and we can give them to ourselves. We don’t have to stay stuck in difficult circumstances. We deserve every happiness and we may opt out and start again at any time.

Today if you’re in a situation where there is discord and you want more happiness in your life, evaluate the situation objectively. There are countless opportunities available for you. You are worth more than you can imagine and deserve to be completely happy. If what you’re doing isn’t working, make a change. You have all the courage and wisdom you need. The world is a better place because you’re here. Today do what is needed to find happiness. Nothing can stop you and you are worth it.