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Defining the Deal

12 Jul

Every single person on earth is different. There are all kinds of personalities and temperaments, endless expressions and ideas, and no two people are exactly alike. What one loves, another despises, what brings pleasure to one, brings frustration to another. We may believe our interpretations are right but actually they are only right for us. When we’re growing up in our first family, the patterns and traditions we learn seem to be the only way to live. But as we grow and are exposed to the world we learn that everyone has their own ideas about how life works and what they do. When we must face an extreme difficulty and are having trouble finding our way it may be a big deal for us to process. We may struggle to find our footing and reach out to those around us for advice and help. Someone may look at our situation and feel it’s ridiculous and our worries are unfounded. Perhaps what we’re going through seems insignificant, and it might be if it happened to them. But it’s not happening to them, it’s happening to us and everybody’s life experience is different. What’s meaningless to one may be crucial to another. We are the only ones who know how important any issue is to us. We are the ones who define the deal and decide if it’s important and far reaching or something less we can manage and move on. It doesn’t matter if everyone around us sees things differently, we can define any issue in ways that make sense to us and find our way through.

When we’re struggling it doesn’t help to have someone diminish our feelings. Telling us we shouldn’t feel one way or another is futile and ineffective. Our feelings often come unbidden and may be intense and painful. While we may not always be able to control how we feel we can control what we do. We can listen to whatever advice we deem helpful, learn as much as possible about the situation and then decide how to move forward. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to figure out any issue and find the answers we need.

When we’re facing a big decision or our situation is fraught with complications and it’s hard to see the way ahead, doubts may creep in and we may find it hard to move forward. When there are a lot of things going wrong we may get jumbled up in the noise and confusion and struggle to figure out what to do. We never have to solve everything all at once. We need only look at where we want to begin. Every problem has a solution and even if it’s a big deal and very complex we can solve it. We are smart enough and strong enough to do anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and feel daunted and unsure, decide on the first step you want to take. You don’t have to find all the answers today. Simply determine how to begin and take the first step forward. The solutions are there and with patience and diligence you will find them all. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you. Be confident. You know what you want and you will prevail.

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Waiting for a Sign

10 Jul

When we’re trying to find our way forward and aren’t sure which road to choose, and there are a lot of variables and decisions to be made, we may feel daunted and overwhelmed at the task. It can be hard to make decisions when there are a lot of possible good choices and if we’re confused and unsure we may hope for a sign to point the way. Signs are helpful and we use them every day to guide us and give us the direction we need to move forward safely and in the right direction. They are often easy to understand and help us navigate difficult passages. When we’re unsure in our personal decisions we may wish for a clear and obvious sign that points us toward where we want to go and gives us the information we need to find success. We can wish for a sign that tells us what to do and hope it will come but it’s unlikely to happen. If we take the time to think about our decisions and rely on our personal experiences and wisdom to guide us we will find the best way forward. We already have all the tools we need to make the best choices going forward. We have all the signs we need inside us. There is no need to wish for answers – we can find them on our own. We are capable of making excellent decisions. There isn’t anything we can’t figure out and everything we need is available. We can be confident and brave moving forward and choose the best roads to take us to any destination we desire.

Life is all about cause and effect. Things always happen for a reason but the reason may not be what we imagine. When something changes that seems to be pointing us in a new direction, before we change course, we can take the time to look at the situation objectively and ensure it will take us where we really want to go. There is no pre-destination at play. We make all our decisions independently and choose the paths we want to travel. Every road will take us somewhere and there are endless possibilities before us. We need only decide where we want to go and then take the first step forward.

When we’re in difficult and challenging situations it would be great if someone came along at just the right moment to tell us exactly what to do to reach success. That might happen at some point but generally we must find our own way forward. There is no need to be intimidated even if the decisions before us are hard and far reaching. We have everything we need to evaluate any circumstance and choose the best way forward. We are intelligent, strong and capable of making the best choices. All the answers are there for us and we will find them.

Today if you’re facing a big decision and wish there was some sign to point the way, remember all the good decisions you’ve already made and trust yourself to choose wisely. You know what you want and where you want to go. Look ahead and decide on the best road forward. Every success is there for you. Take the first step. You know the way and you will reach the destination.

Passing Chances

29 Jun

There are endless opportunities available to us as we go through our lives.  When we choose a path we want to pursue and work to push forward we often find success.  There isn’t anything we can’t do but we only have control over our own choices.  Other people may do things that hold us up, situations may develop that prevent us from moving forward, and an endless array of complications may arise that keep us from our goal.  There is always a chance of success no matter what we’re seeking but our lives are complex and sometimes things get in the way.  The door we must walk through to succeed may be blocked or crowded or locked in a way we can’t overcome.  There may be times when the chance to move forward passes us by and we must wait until the opportunity arrives again.  If everything we wanted to accomplish was completely in our control nothing would be impossible.  But in the real world control is mostly an illusion and except for the choices we make ourselves, all bets are off.  It’s disappointing to want something badly and be prevented from achieving it because of factors beyond our reach.  Our desire may be sufficient and our willingness to do what is needed may be intense but if we aren’t the only ones playing the game we may have to sit this round out and wait until things change.  Change is the only constant we can rely on.  Life continually evolves and whatever was in our way in the past will eventually move aside and we’ll be able to reach the goals we desire.  We have everything we need to accomplish anything.  Being willing to wait when we must and start again when the time is right will ensure our success.

Our decisions are ours alone and we can choose anything we desire at any time.  We don’t need the agreement of others as we design our lives but if they work against us, despite our strong desire to succeed, we may have to modify our direction for a time.  There is no reason to indefinitely push against strong winds of dissent.  We don’t have to change our focus but if we can’t move ahead we can step aside and wait until the situation improves.  Sometimes the difference between success and failure is only timing.  We can look at each situation objectively and determine the best way forward.

Some situations only come around once in our lives.  They are rare but when they happen if we can’t embrace them when they are possible we may have to leave them behind.  There is no one right way to live life.  If we miss the chance to move forward on one road there will always be another to travel.  We can be flexible and accept change as it happens.  If we must redirect our course, we can find the best way forward.  Learning to bend and modify our plans when necessary will help us continue on the roads we most want to travel and ensure we’ll reach success.

Today if you’ve missed the chance to do something you wanted because of situations beyond your control, look ahead and choose the next road that will move you forward.  You are creative and wise and nothing is beyond your understanding.  Success is still possible and with time and patience you’ll reach it.

 

Heartache

21 Jun

There are a lot of things that happen to us as we go through our days. When things go wrong and we get hurt, the pain may be intense and hold us in place. If our heart has been broken by something that’s happened or something someone has done it may take serious time for us to overcome the situation and start again. It’s hard to look at what hurts but the only way forward is to see everything that’s happened and decide what to do next. We don’t have to dissect every detail and take it apart but if we take the time to see the situation completely and have the courage to look at everything openly we will find the way forward. Only by seeing everything clearly will we be able to let go and move on. We can try to pretend things are different than they are and avert our gaze when it’s painful, but truth is the only thing that matters. We have enough courage and strength to face whatever is real and enough wisdom to begin again. Life is all about change and sometimes the changes that come are painful but we are capable of seeing the truth and finding our way forward. Heartaches happen and we may be devastated but we learn valuable lessons from everything we experience and can carry that knowledge forward with us. Heartache hurts but we are strong enough to get through. Happiness is always possible. We have everything we need to heal and find our way again.

If we’ve been devasted by an unexpected development, instead of facing it openly and moving forward, we may hold onto the pain and get stuck. We might believe that by holding on somehow things will get better or we may be so hurt we feel paralyzed and can’t move. It takes time to process what’s happened and understand what to do next. There is no need to feel rushed but by looking at the situation as objectively as possible we will understand what we want to do and can begin again. Trouble comes to all of us. We can find our way through anything, even the most difficult situation, and move forward.

Life continues on no matter what happens to us. The world continues to rotate, the sun will always rise and even if we feel stuck right now, we’ll find our way again. Change is constant and no matter what we’re going through today, tomorrow will be different. Every moment brings something new and opens new doors for us. Our lives are always in our control and when we’re ready, there is no destination we can’t reach. The future is wide open and waiting. We can change direction and move toward success. We have everything we need to find complete happiness and satisfaction, and with wisdom and patience we will reach it.

Today if you’re heartbroken and feel you can’t face the situation, if you’re lost and unsure about what to do next, trust yourself. You are stronger and wiser than you realize and nothing is too hard for you to overcome. Look up and look ahead. There are countless roads waiting for you. You can do anything. Be confident and sure. You have everything you need already and every success is possible.

 

Finding Balance

22 May

Life is busy and there are always a lot of things going on. No matter what we’re facing we can center ourselves and stand strong. The middle of anything must be stable in order to find balance. If it leans a little to one side or is weak, everything will fall over. We understand this when it comes to physical things we are trying to settle but the same is true within ourselves. When we’re in the midst of turmoil or stress, or a storm is raging around us, the only way to stand strong and straight is make sure we’re centered and focused on the way ahead. Distractions will always be a factor and if we look away and drop our focus we may falter and lose our balance. If we’re off kilter and leaning far in any direction but forward we may fall and take ourselves far from where we want to go. Learning to balance the many things we deal with every day takes practice. We must prioritize what is most important and find a way to accomplish them to keep us moving forward. There isn’t any destination we can’t reach and planning and concentrating on the goal will ensure we get there. No road is paved in gold and there will always be complications and unforeseen developments that tangle us up and muddy the way forward. They may push against us and require our time and effort to resolve but they need not knock us off course. We are capable of managing anything that comes and still continuing toward the goal. We can strengthen our resolve, settle our concerns and regain our balance. Every goal is possible and nothing is complex enough to keep us from success. We can stand strong even when the winds are heavy and push forward with confidence.

When we’re in a difficult situation and there are a lot of things going on we may feel we’re being pelted by an unlimited number of issues and begin to lose our balance. It can be hard to find the road ahead when all we can see is confusion and complication. There is no way to solve many problems at once but by standing firm we can solve one at a time until the situation is manageable. There isn’t anything too hard for us to unravel and we will always find the answers we need. We can be confident that we’ll find the way through and reach success.

Life teaches us something new with everything we experience. We carry those lessons forward with us to help us navigate new situations and challenges. We can rely on our personal strength and confidence to anchor us and help us when things become difficult and the winds start to blow. We’ve overcome many difficulties already and have all the wisdom we need to move forward and reach any goal we desire. We know who we are and what we want. Nothing can keep us from any destination we choose. We are powerful and wise and will always prevail.

Today if you’ve lost your balance because of what’s going on around you, remember how powerful and strong you are. Stand straight and step ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t understand and overcome. You are wise and courageous and nothing is out of reach. Be confident. All options are available and nothing is too far away. Every success is possible and you have everything you need to win.

Day One

24 Apr

Our lives take all kinds of unexpected twists and turns. We may be traveling along with everything rolling out exactly as planned and run into a complication that changes everything going forward. Sometimes it’s just a detour we must navigate around but other times it may be a complete break that prevents us from continuing on the same road. We have no control over most of what comes to us. There are always circumstances out of reach we cannot predict and other people making decisions that may impact our plans. Change is constant and when it comes to us in ways that completely rearrange where we were headed it can be disconcerting and confusing to try to figure out what to do next. If the road we were traveling is no longer available we will have to decide where we want to go next. Starting over at day one doesn’t mean we’ve lost anything. It’s just a change in direction. There are countless possibilities before us and endless roads to travel. We can take a moment to decide what we want to do and then look at all the options before us. When we’re ready we can step onto a new path and move forward toward any goal we desire. There are few times in our lives when things go exactly as planned and we move from one point to the next in a perfectly straight, uninterrupted line. Things happen, people get in the way, problems come up and complications confound the way forward. We are wise, flexible and intelligent enough to figure out anything that comes. Every destination is possible and no matter what stands in the way, we will reach it.

If there was only one possible road to success and that road became impassable we could never succeed. When we make a plan for our lives we may not be able to see all our options at the beginning and might believe there is only one way to achieve our goals. Whether we can see them or not, there are unlimited possibilities for every choice we make. We can have faith that if our first choice doesn’t work out there will be another. If that too fails, there will be another option again. There will always be another choice possible for us and nothing will keep us from our goals.

Having to start over and begin again doesn’t mean we’ve lost anything. We learn as we go and all the things we gain as we travel forward stay with us. All the lessons we’ve already learned will help us continue on our journey. Everything we do teaches us something of value. We become wiser and stronger with each complication and our endurance increases as we overcome problems and trials along the way. There is no timetable for success. We will achieve it and reach every destination we desire.

Today if everything has changed and suddenly the way forward is no longer available, look at all the options possible. There are many roads to any destination. You can begin again and continue your journey. Every goal is possible and nothing is too complex or difficult for you to navigate and overcome. Keep moving forward. The whole world is there for you and nothing is out of reach. Every success is possible. You have everything you need to get to any destination. Take another step forward. You can do anything and all your dreams can come true.

Calm Waters

9 Apr

Sometimes our lives get complicated and things go wrong.  There’s always a lot going on around us, people coming and going in and out of our lives, and endless situations we have no control over.  We may get tangled up and twisted around when situations arise that are intense and complex, and finding the way out may elude us for a time.  When we are beset by problems and issues we may be stressed and worried about how to get through.  It may be hard to concentrate and we may be unable to rest thinking about everything we must face.  Outside issues will always be a factor in our lives.  We can only control what we choose and what we do.  The rest is up for grabs and what comes, comes.  When we’re in acute situations that test our patience and understanding it can be hard to find peace.  But what happens on the outside of our lives need not disrupt our calm within.  We can have faith in every instance that no matter what is going on, and no matter how intense the issue is, we will find the answers we need.  We can trust our wisdom and ability to find the way forward and when we do we will find comfort.  Above every dark storm, the sun is still shining, and no problem lasts forever.  When we’re in the midst of turmoil we can hold fast to calm waters within and find the way.  We are stronger and more capable than we realize.  We can find the answer to any problem and navigate any complication with grace and patience.  We have everything we need to find our way forward.  Success is always there for us and we can trust ourselves to find it.

We all hope for the best in every situation but sometimes the worst scenario we imagined may actually happen.  We may be stunned and stopped in our tracks if everything goes wrong, but we will only be held down for a moment.  There are answers all around us and we are perfectly capable of finding them.  No matter how extreme or dire the situation, we have everything we need to overcome it.  There isn’t anything strong enough to keep us from our dreams and goals.  We can find the answers we need in every instance and continue forward with confidence.

When things go wrong and we find ourselves in foreign territory, if we’ve been trying to get through for a while and still can’t move forward, we may believe we will stuck there forever.  That will never happen.  Life is all about change.  Nothing can stay the same indefinitely, and everything we are experiencing now will be different going forward.  It may take time for the situation to adjust and we may have to be patient as we work through it, but we have everything we need to succeed and will find our way.  There is no road too complex for us to navigate and every door will eventually open.

Today if you’re stressed over something you’re going through and feel upset and worried, remember how strong you are and trust in your ability to overcome.  There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well.  You are amazing and capable of managing anything that comes.  Be confident and step forward.  This is just a complex moment and you will find the way forward.  All your dreams are there for you.  Keep moving ahead and you’ll reach them.