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Holding Tight

28 Sep

Life can be complicated and sometimes lots of things happen that distract us from the road we want to travel.  There are often many different things going on at the same time and it can be difficult to focus on the goals we’re trying to achieve.  It’s rare when everything goes exactly the way we plan and there are no problems moving ahead.  Complications may muddy the way and unexpected developments may hang us up and hold us in place.  We can manage many objectives at the same time and are able to overcome any problem before us, but while we’re navigating through one mess or another, we may set our personal goals aside.  Setting something aside doesn’t mean abandoning it but when there’s a lot going on, sometimes situations take over and as we untangle ourselves from the fray it may be hard to go back and pick up where we left off.  One thing often leads us to another and if we don’t hold tight to the goals we really want to achieve, they may get lost in the shuffle.  We can be effective in solving whatever problems arise and still go back and return to our personal goals.  Success is always an option if we control the direction we’re traveling.  Our dreams won’t come true on their own and our goals won’t be achieved simply by waiting for them to arrive.  We must do what is needed to create the lives we want.  It doesn’t matter what gets in the way, we have everything we need to focus on what’s most important and reach any destination we desire.  Our lives are up to us to design.  We can simply let events decide our path, or we can proactively and purposefully determine where we will go.

Tradition and custom are powerful motivators.  If something has been done the same way for a long time, people become accustomed to the pattern and comfortable with the result.  If we want lives like those around us they are easy to achieve.  We need only follow everyone else and copy their choices.  But we are individuals and our dreams are specific to who we are.  We never have to do something one way simply because it’s always been done that way.  We can express our own ideas and move forward on a new road.  There are unlimited ways to live a successful and fulfilling life.  We can step onto our own path and reach for what we want the most.

The road to our dreams is rarely paved and smooth, and filled with light. There will be times when things will get in our way, detours will happen, and we may even face a complete road block.  It doesn’t matter what complications arise, there will always be a way around them.  We are intelligent and when we get stuck will find the answers we need to continue forward.  Having faith in our ability to achieve whatever goal we choose will help us manage any problems that arise.  We can be confident of success and sure of the way forward.

Today if there’s a lot of noise and complication, and the path to your goal has problems blocking the way, keep moving forward.  You can find your way around anything before you.  There is always a solution and you are wise and creative enough to find it.  Be confident.  You can reach any goal you desire and make all your dreams come true.

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Not the End

7 Sep

When we’re facing a difficult challenge and aren’t sure we can manage, when things go wrong and we can’t see the way forward, or when we’ve been caught in a situation that changes the trajectory of our lives in ways we never expected, we may feel lost and confused.  It can be hard to see our next step when we’ve been stunned by something that takes our breath away or must face something so difficult we don’t know how to get through.  We may stand stunned, unable to move or think, and have no idea what to do next.  Big trials come to all of us at some time in our lives.  Our worst fears may be realized and situations we never dreamed we could endure may press on us.  When our lives are suddenly dangling on what we believe is the precipice of disaster, it may seem impossible that we’ll be able to get through much less survive.  We may face terrible trials but they are not the end of our journey.  We may need time to process what’s happening, but when we’re ready, we have all the courage and wisdom to continue forward.  It can be hard to trust that things will improve when we’re in the depths of despair, but change is constant.  Darkness cannot last forever.  The sun always rises again and we will find our way.  Whatever we’re going through today will be different tomorrow.  We have everything we need to face whatever comes, find the answers we need to prevail, and continue forward.  If we are overwhelmed, we can find support.  If we have fallen down, we can stand up again.  There isn’t anything we can’t do.  We can be brave even when we’re unsure, and confident even we don’t know what will happen.  Life is filled with challenge and we have everything we need to face it.

When we’re young we imagine many wonderful things will happen to us as we grow and never think the bottom will fall out of our plans.  As we age, many wonderful things do come but we may also have many trials and disappointments we didn’t plan on.  We have no control over most of what happens and even if we plan carefully, sometimes everything goes up in smoke.  Nobody wants to go through hard times, but they will come to us all and when they do we can find our way through.

It seems life would be wonderful if all our dreams came true and we never had a bad day.  If we were always healthy and strong, had plenty of money, and never had to endure any challenges.  That might be wonderful but that isn’t reality.  We live in the real world and some days are going to be hard, some things are going to stink, and we are going to lose from time to time.  The lessons we learn when things go wrong are valuable and make us stronger and wiser as we move forward.  We can value the strength we gain as we struggle and be grateful for the understanding we gain as we learn from trials.  Life is an incredible blessing.  We can live wisely and find courage and strength when we need them.

Today if you’re facing a terrible challenge and have no idea what to do next, remember how wise and powerful you are.  You will find all the answers you need.  Nothing is too strong or difficult for you to manage.  Be confident and move forward.  You have everything you need already and there is happiness just around the corner.

On the Inside

29 Aug

There may be times in our lives when we desire a big change.  Perhaps we’ve been through something difficult that has taken a toll on us, or we’ve been in the same place for a while and feel the need for something new, or we just want to start over.  It may seem when we’re down or things aren’t going well, a new place and a fresh start will do a lot to help us move forward.  We can always change our lives anytime we want to and there isn’t anything strong enough to hold us in place if we really want to move.  Change does help a lot of things but it can’t change what’s really going on inside us.  The fears, uncertainties, and worries we may be struggling with will follow us wherever we go and stay with us until we’re ready to face them and let them go.  A change in scenery can make us feel better for a while but real contentment comes when we’re honest with ourselves about everything we’re doing and are willing to do what is needed to address anything holding us back.  Happiness can only come from within and we have the power to be completely happy no matter where we are.  When we’re ready to face what is keeping us down and open all the doors to the secrets tucked away we’ll be able to begin on the road that will take us to contentment and peace.  Our lives are always in our control and if we aren’t happy we are the only ones who can change them.  We can remove the darkness that is keeping us from complete happiness and step into the light.  We deserve every happiness and when we’re ready to step forward we will have it.

When people are unhappy, sometimes they pull others down with them.  They say misery loves company but we don’t have to spend time with anyone who makes us miserable.  It’s nice to be helpful and offer solutions but everyone must face their issues on their own.  We will always have enough to manage in our own lives without trying to take on someone else’s troubles.  We can be compassionate and kind, and let them find their own way forward.

Guilt is a powerful tool some people use to get us to do what they want.  It’s effective but guilt is a self-inflicted injury and nobody can make us feel it.  We’re all responsible for our own decisions and there is never a need to feel guilty about anything we haven’t done.  Each day is a gift and a blessing.  Living it fully and choosing to do what we must to be happy will bring us joy and comfort.  Paying attention to how we feel on the inside and valuing our personal happiness will bring us great satisfaction and clarity.  Our lives belong to us and we can change anything we want to have the best life possible.

Today if you feel like changing everything because you’re stressed or things have gone wrong, look inside and think about what’s really happening.  Remember that your happiness comes from within and real change will come when you let yourself find it.  You deserve the very best of everything.  Open all the doors.  You are precious and valuable, and nothing is out of reach.  Trust yourself and step into the light.

Getting Experience

21 Aug

There are all kinds of ups and downs in all our lives. Sometimes everything runs along smoothly with little disruption or discord, and other times it seems every step we take brings more problems and trouble. In the midst of trials and confusion when it seems nothing will go right, it can be hard to understand how the experience is helping us and what we could possibly be gaining as we struggle. Nobody wants trouble in their lives and we try to avoid it whenever possible. But trouble will come no matter what we do and when it does, how we manage and overcome it broadens our understanding of life and who we are. It’s not fun to suffer and if the trial is intense and the burden heavy we may believe it’s impossible to get through. We may want to quit, give up and walk away rather than face what we must to resolve the issue. It’s always easier to surrender rather than work through our problems but if we do, we can never prevail. No matter how hard an issue is, no matter how complicated the situation, we have everything we need to navigate through it successfully. It may take serious thought and pondering and it may take a lot of time, but we can find the way. Every experience teaches us something of value. Each trial brings worthwhile understanding and every lesson enriches our lives in some way. We grow and mature because of the experiences we go through. Up or down, easy or hard, each step teaches something new. Complete happiness and satisfaction are possible if we’re willing to work through everything that comes. We are stronger and more capable than we realize and nothing is too difficult for us to manage.

There may be times when it seems our lives are out of sync. We can’t find the right path, nothing is working and we may feel beset and confused. When we can’t advance, we can stop and stand still for a moment and look at all the options before us. There will never be a time when all the roads ahead are closed. If we widen our vision and see all the possibilities, we will find the way. We can untangle any confusion before us and find success.

Life is all about change. The only real guarantee we have is that what we’re going through today will be different tomorrow. No road stays the same forever. Things will turn and we will find the way. What we learn as we travel becomes part of us and helps us as we move forward. The wisdom we gain enriches us and deepens our understanding. Life is an incredible blessing and if we’re patient in suffering and trust our ability to overcome whatever we must, we will find great joy and satisfaction as we move forward.

Today if you’re in the midst of trials and confusion and can’t see the way forward, if every step seems to complicate the situation further, have faith. Walk with confidence and remember how strong and capable you are. As you gain wisdom and insight you are getting closer to the person you really want to be. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage. You are amazing and powerful, and every blessing will come.

That’s It

26 Jul

Frustration is a constant factor as we deal with issues that come in and out of our lives. Most of the time we deal with small frustrations and hang ups, work them out, and move on. But if the thing that’s making us crazy is something we can’t change or we can’t seem to find a way around it we may throw our hands up and surrender. Maybe it’s an annoying individual who always gets in our way or up in our faces making ridiculous or absurd demands that are unworkable, or a situation that no matter what we do refuses to resolve. When we’re tired of dealing with an issue and fed up with trying to find a way to move forward we may decide that’s it, we’re done and walk away. Although we’re capable of finding any answers we need given enough patience and time, sometimes our patience runs out and we don’t want to spend any more time looking. We can change course anytime we choose and no matter what is pending, can move on. Timing is always a factor and we may have to step back and wait for our situation to change before we can resolve an issue. It’s frustrating to feel like there is no way forward and it can be hard to walk away from something we really want to resolve. Getting some distance from an issue will often open new ideas and perspectives and stepping back will allow us to see the situation in a new light. There isn’t anything we can’t figure out and every answer will appear in time. We can set an issue down, work on something else and return when we are refreshed and ready to begin again.

Looking at something too closely may impair our vision of the entire project. Under a magnifying glass a walnut can look like a brain and be completely indiscernible for what it really is. If we’re too close to an issue or too involved in it emotionally, it can be hard to see the entire picture and find the answers we seek. What is impossible to see up close can become clear if we step back and look again. Seeing everything from a wide perspective will help us find the way forward and open up new possibilities we couldn’t see before. If we disengage and look at the situation objectively we will find the road ahead.

There can be a lot of noise and static around us as others come in and out of our lives and unexpected things happen. There may be many facets to the problem we’re facing and combined together they may be hard to untangle. If there are a lot of distractions and complexities it may be difficult to see all the facts we’re dealing with. We can quiet the noise by clearing our focus and deciding where we want to begin. We can solve one issue at a time and find our way to success. We are capable of managing anything we must. We are intelligent and strong, and nothing is too difficult for us to solve.

Today if you’ve had enough trying to solve an issue and are ready to quit, step back and see the entire picture. Give yourself time to think. You know how to solve even the most difficult problems. Look at everything objectively and the answers will come. You are wise and powerful and nothing is beyond your reach. You will find all the answers you need and reach success.

Defining the Deal

12 Jul

Every single person on earth is different. There are all kinds of personalities and temperaments, endless expressions and ideas, and no two people are exactly alike. What one loves, another despises, what brings pleasure to one, brings frustration to another. We may believe our interpretations are right but actually they are only right for us. When we’re growing up in our first family, the patterns and traditions we learn seem to be the only way to live. But as we grow and are exposed to the world we learn that everyone has their own ideas about how life works and what they do. When we must face an extreme difficulty and are having trouble finding our way it may be a big deal for us to process. We may struggle to find our footing and reach out to those around us for advice and help. Someone may look at our situation and feel it’s ridiculous and our worries are unfounded. Perhaps what we’re going through seems insignificant, and it might be if it happened to them. But it’s not happening to them, it’s happening to us and everybody’s life experience is different. What’s meaningless to one may be crucial to another. We are the only ones who know how important any issue is to us. We are the ones who define the deal and decide if it’s important and far reaching or something less we can manage and move on. It doesn’t matter if everyone around us sees things differently, we can define any issue in ways that make sense to us and find our way through.

When we’re struggling it doesn’t help to have someone diminish our feelings. Telling us we shouldn’t feel one way or another is futile and ineffective. Our feelings often come unbidden and may be intense and painful. While we may not always be able to control how we feel we can control what we do. We can listen to whatever advice we deem helpful, learn as much as possible about the situation and then decide how to move forward. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to figure out any issue and find the answers we need.

When we’re facing a big decision or our situation is fraught with complications and it’s hard to see the way ahead, doubts may creep in and we may find it hard to move forward. When there are a lot of things going wrong we may get jumbled up in the noise and confusion and struggle to figure out what to do. We never have to solve everything all at once. We need only look at where we want to begin. Every problem has a solution and even if it’s a big deal and very complex we can solve it. We are smart enough and strong enough to do anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and feel daunted and unsure, decide on the first step you want to take. You don’t have to find all the answers today. Simply determine how to begin and take the first step forward. The solutions are there and with patience and diligence you will find them all. You are amazing and nothing is too difficult for you. Be confident. You know what you want and you will prevail.

Waiting for a Sign

10 Jul

When we’re trying to find our way forward and aren’t sure which road to choose, and there are a lot of variables and decisions to be made, we may feel daunted and overwhelmed at the task. It can be hard to make decisions when there are a lot of possible good choices and if we’re confused and unsure we may hope for a sign to point the way. Signs are helpful and we use them every day to guide us and give us the direction we need to move forward safely and in the right direction. They are often easy to understand and help us navigate difficult passages. When we’re unsure in our personal decisions we may wish for a clear and obvious sign that points us toward where we want to go and gives us the information we need to find success. We can wish for a sign that tells us what to do and hope it will come but it’s unlikely to happen. If we take the time to think about our decisions and rely on our personal experiences and wisdom to guide us we will find the best way forward. We already have all the tools we need to make the best choices going forward. We have all the signs we need inside us. There is no need to wish for answers – we can find them on our own. We are capable of making excellent decisions. There isn’t anything we can’t figure out and everything we need is available. We can be confident and brave moving forward and choose the best roads to take us to any destination we desire.

Life is all about cause and effect. Things always happen for a reason but the reason may not be what we imagine. When something changes that seems to be pointing us in a new direction, before we change course, we can take the time to look at the situation objectively and ensure it will take us where we really want to go. There is no pre-destination at play. We make all our decisions independently and choose the paths we want to travel. Every road will take us somewhere and there are endless possibilities before us. We need only decide where we want to go and then take the first step forward.

When we’re in difficult and challenging situations it would be great if someone came along at just the right moment to tell us exactly what to do to reach success. That might happen at some point but generally we must find our own way forward. There is no need to be intimidated even if the decisions before us are hard and far reaching. We have everything we need to evaluate any circumstance and choose the best way forward. We are intelligent, strong and capable of making the best choices. All the answers are there for us and we will find them.

Today if you’re facing a big decision and wish there was some sign to point the way, remember all the good decisions you’ve already made and trust yourself to choose wisely. You know what you want and where you want to go. Look ahead and decide on the best road forward. Every success is there for you. Take the first step. You know the way and you will reach the destination.