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What They Have

29 Jul

We share the planet with lots of other people. They constantly come in and out of our lives, and unless we live on a deserted island, they are all around us. Every person is unique and we all have our own ideas about how things should go and what we should do. We make our own decisions along with all the others around us. When we see someone with a life we think we want, we may wish to be like them. We might watch them and begin to copy what they do, thinking it will bring us what we want. If someone at work is more successful than we are, we could follow their lead and it may bring us greater success. It’s true that if we do everything someone else does, we may get what they have. If it turns out that’s what we really want, we’ll be happy, but seeing just what’s on the outside can never tell us the entire story. Seeing someone with lots of money and influence may look appealing, but doesn’t expose the long hours of work, missed chances for a family and time with friends, or the loss of connections from intense ambition that may also be part of the package. Following another person’s choices will only take us where they want to go, and will never take us to the life we want the most. Our dreams and goals are specific and personal to us. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and we have gifts to offer the world that nobody else can give. Being true to who we are, and honoring our own choices will bring us great satisfaction. Our happiness is important. By choosing our own journey, we can make all our dreams come true.

If we’re dissatisfied with what we have or what we’ve accomplished, we may struggle with low self-esteem. If we see someone who has more of what we want, we may envy their lives, and feel diminished by their success. Envy is a powerful emotion that never brings happiness. We can step away from it by focusing on the good we’ve accomplished, and reminding ourselves that nobody has everything. Instead of feeling envious, we can celebrate the success of others, focus on our own goals, and move forward with confidence toward the dreams we want to accomplish.

There are endless ideas about life and what is means to be successful. We may have pressure from family or friends to live a certain way, and accomplish certain goals. We can always go along, and take their suggestions, but if they don’t lead us to our own destinations, happiness will elude us. Our lives belong to us. We can listen to any advice given, and then choose the roads that will take us where we most want to go. All our dreams are there for us. We can do anything. By creating our own individual journeys, and reaching our personal goals, we will find happiness and great success. Everything is possible, and we will win.

Today if you’ve been following someone else because what they have is attractive, remember there is always more to the story. Chart your own course for the future. You know what you want, and have everything you need to succeed. Be confident, and step ahead with clarity and focus. Every dream is there for you, and you will make them yours.

Do It Again

11 Jun

As we move through our lives, we experience many different things. We push toward our goals and with persistence and patience, achieve them. Some things come easily and we accomplish them quickly, but other things take time and effort, and can get complicated and difficult. We can never see the end of the road from the beginning, but if we’re persistent and determined, we can reach the destinations we desire. We only have control over ourselves, and may face a situation where no matter what we do we can’t move ahead. There may be others standing in our way, or making decisions that keep us from advancing, or the timing may make the goal impossible right now. If we get stuck, we always have options. We can look for another way forward, or we can simply keep repeating what we’re doing, hoping somehow if we just do it again, it’ll work. Repeating the same behavior over and over will not change our situation. Persistently going over the same steps won’t move us forward. If what we’re doing isn’t working, doing it again, harder, faster or with more enthusiasm won’t fix it. Going around in the same circle over and over will only hold us in place. If we want to push ahead, we’ll need to let go of the road we’re on, and move onto another. There are always many roads to every destination. Getting attached and clinging to one that doesn’t work will not take us to success. We are intelligent and can look at any situation objectively and openly, and find the answers we need to succeed. Every destination is there for us, and with wisdom and planning, we can reach them all.

From a distance it’s hard to see all the details of any situation. What looks good from afar may look very different when we get up close. A window down the road that looks open and inviting, may turn out to be a mirror on a door that is nailed shut. We can stand and hope it will turn into the window we thought it was, or we can accept what is real, and look for another way forward. We are certainly smart enough and flexible enough to adjust to whatever we must, and find our way to any goal we desire.

Our relationships are important to us, and when they’re positive bring great happiness and satisfaction to our lives. If we’re in a situation where our connection to someone else is fraught with stress, disappointment and pain, it’s up to us to decide how long we want to suffer. Enduring a bad relationship for a long time is no guarantee that it will ever change. We’re in control of our lives and our happiness is important. We can stay in any situation we want for however long we want, but there are always other options, and we can change anything at any time. We are powerful and strong, and every success is there for us.

Today if you’ve been doing the same thing over and over hoping it will work, step back and look at all the options possible. There will always be another road that leads to success. Change your focus and try something new. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is there for you, and every dream is possible. Step forward with confidence, and you will prevail.

On the Hook

26 Feb

We interact with all kinds of people. They come and go, we work, socialize, and meet with them for different reasons, and hardly a day goes by without someone else touching our lives. There may be times when we need something from them and if they’re in agreement, we move forward easily and on to the next thing. But not every situation is easy to navigate and if there’s something complex or difficult we want help with, the person we’re asking may not be sure they want to get involved. They don’t want to say yes, but don’t want to disappoint us. So, they may tell us they might help, they’ll think about it, or give us a “maybe.” That allows them to gracefully step away at least for now until they really decide what they want to do. It never helps us to hear “maybe” when we need agreement. It just puts us on the hook while we wait to see what will happen next, and gives control over our progress to someone else. There is no way to know how long it will take others to make a decision, and it’s impossible to wait and move forward at the same time. We’re always in control of our lives, and we don’t have to stay on the hook indefinitely. We can accept any indecision, and then proceed ahead according to what works best for us. There will always be a way forward. If we can’t get the help we need right now for our current plan, we can revise our options and continue on. We know what we want, and there are many ways to achieve our goals. Every road is possible and with focus, and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

It’s difficult to deal with people who struggle to make decisions. They may be unsure about what they want, or insecure about their ability to accomplish tasks. Whatever their reasons, if we need their agreement on something in order to proceed, and they cannot decide what they want to do, we may get stuck. But we never have to hold still waiting indefinitely. If the task is important and we want to move ahead, we can set a time for them to give us their decision or allow us to continue ahead on our own. Our goals are important and by planning well, and taking control, we will reach them.

If someone wants something from us and we’re not sure we want to agree, we may try to stall them. We can take all the time we like in every decision we make, but it’s inappropriate to hold others back in the interim. If we don’t know what we want to do, we can step aside and let those ready to move forward go ahead without us until we’re ready to join them. We can respect the needs of others while still doing what is best for us.

Today if you’re ready to move forward but someone else’s indecision is holding you back, look at all the options possible. There will always be another way forward. Find the road that works for you and step forward. Your dreams and desires are important, and you deserve to make them yours. Be confident and strong. Every goal is possible and you will prevail.

The Name Game

18 Feb

The world is full of names and labels that help us understand what things are and what we’re dealing with. Although they can be helpful, they can also be misleading. After all, we can call anything we want by any name we desire, and if we want to mask something undesirable, can deflect away from any negative influence. We may see this in advertising campaigns. Sales won’t increase if problems and complications are highlighted, and renaming them in ways that make them seem acceptable can help disguise them. We might do the same in our lives. For instance, instead of saying someone is mean and rude, we might simply say they are challenging and intense. Learning to label things in ways that make them seem easier may help us in some situations, but like all things, there will be two sides to the coin. Truth is truth and no matter how we try to manipulate it or color it to look like something else, will remain. It’s important to be honest in all our dealings. Difficult and unpleasant situations will remain no matter what we call them, so it’s best to simply state things as they really are. We are capable of facing any complication and managing any problem, no matter how convoluted or intense. We can see and accept things as they really are, and proceed with confidence that we’ll find our way through. We have all the wisdom and intellect we need to travel any road ahead, and every destination is possible. With clarity and confidence, we will succeed.

If we don’t like something in our lives, where we live, the job we have, or some other situation that may be embarrassing or in some way makes us feel uncomfortable, we might pretend things are different and simply use terms that aren’t exactly clear when we talk about them. We don’t ever have to tell others more than we’re comfortable with, and saying things that aren’t exactly true may bring unexpected and unwanted complications. Instead of making up a story that veers away from the truth, it’s better to simply say nothing. We’re in control of our lives and don’t have to share anything we don’t want to. We can be honest and still keep private information to ourselves.

When we’re dealing with others it’s important to be completely honest. Trying to influence someone by glossing over the truth or describing something in ways that divert what’s real may work at first, but in time, the whole story will be revealed. Things aren’t always easy but no matter what the situation is, we can face it openly and with complete clarity. We can handle anything just the way it is. We are competent and capable, and nothing can stand in our way.

Today if you’re dealing with an unpleasant situation, tell the complete truth. Be honest about what’s happening and step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to manage and manage well. The truth will pave the way forward, and you will reach your destination. Be confident and clear. You are amazing and nothing can keep you from success.

Keys

14 Feb

Our personalities are rich with expression and varied in how we interpret and manifest information as we move along. Nobody is completely the same all the time. We feel things differently depending on what’s going on around us and who is involved. Every day brings a new situation and we sometimes have to work hard to figure out what to do next. When we need to unlock something to get in, we may reach for our personal key ring. We might have many different keys to choose from, and in each instance must choose the specific one that opens the door we need. We may have a key for our car, our home, our office, the backdoor, maybe a shed or storage area, or many other options. They might look alike but each represents a unique opportunity to unlock the way ahead. Like the keys on our key ring, we have different personal interpretations and expressions for each situation we experience. Maybe we need our wisdom key for a particular problem, or our patience key when things get intense. We might use compassion to open the way to dialog for someone who is suffering, or simply take out the one that unlocks understanding. Each key we possess opens something new and teaches us more about the world around us. Everything we do tells the world who we are. When we use our keys appropriately in the right situations, the road ahead is often easier than if we mix them up. If we use force when endurance is needed, or leisure when we need to work, we might end up somewhere we didn’t intend to go. Learning how to manifest the right options when opportunities present themselves will move us forward toward the goals we’re seeking. We are wise and intelligent, and can find the keys that open any door ahead. Every goal is possible, and we are smart enough, and strong enough to reach them.

Every day things change and it’s impossible to know what will happen next. We learn new skills with each experience and carry all that information with us moving forward. When things go wrong or what we’re trying to accomplish gets stuck, it doesn’t mean we can’t get to the goal. It just means that for now, we don’t have the key to open this particular door. There are many roads to every destination, and we can turn in another direction and find the way ahead.

Like skeleton keys that open many doors, kindness and consideration can pave the way ahead, no matter what’s in the way. Few things make a situation better than a kind word, or a patient attitude. We can be open to new ideas and patiently work through any problems or issues that arise, confident that no matter what happens, we will reach the destination. We are capable of managing any complication, and with focus and determination, can reach any goal.

Today if you’re not sure you have all the keys you need to open the doors ahead, trust yourself. You are more capable than you realize. Every dream is possible, and you already possess everything you need to win. Be confident and step forward. Nothing can keep you from the goal, and you will reach great success.