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Save Me

22 Feb

Human relationships are important to all of us. As we learn to understand others and build connections, we may rely on them for strength, balance, and support. The world is a huge place with millions of strangers, and our close relationships give us an anchor to hold onto as we face each day. It’s good to have strong associations with those close to us and when things go wrong it’s a blessing to have someone who understands us on our side. While we may reach for others in times of need, our lives are always our responsibility. We cannot push our personal issues over onto someone else to solve. Our problems belong to us and we must find our own answers. Nobody can save us from trouble or protect us from sorrow. Trouble and sorrow come to everyone and we must manage them in our own lives. If we feel unsure or weak, we can get support but, in the end, we must find the way forward ourselves. Nobody gets a free pass from struggle. How we manage our struggles defines who we are. If we lean on others and whine, refusing to face our challenges, we will never learn to be strong. If we give up and surrender when things go wrong, we will never reach the goals we desire. We have all the wisdom and strength we need to face anything we must. We can trust in our ability to overcome anything and be confident going forward. Our lives belong to us and what we do with them is our responsibility. There is no challenge too difficult to resolve and we can have the lives we dream about.

Everyone is different. Some people are very confident and bold, and if we’re timid and unsure it may seem their way forward is easier. Problems come to us all and how we manage them often depends on how we perceive their influence over us. If we’re sure they will bring our demise, we may give up and allow them to stop us in our tracks. However, if we remember all the times we’ve overcome adversity and trust ourselves to find the answers, we can move forward with confidence, knowing we will reach a resolution. There isn’t anything we can’t do, and we can find answers for any complication that comes.

In a relay race, when a runner completes their responsibility, they hand the baton to the next person to take over and finish the race. It would be great when we have serious troubles if we could do some of the work and then hand the problem off to someone else to solve. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way, and our responsibility does not end until the issue is resolved. If the problem is serious and involves many complications, it may take time to find the answers. The answers will always be there and we have everything we need to uncover them. There is nothing we can’t overcome and we are strong enough, and wise enough, to do anything.

Today, if you’re facing a difficult issue and want badly to hand it off to someone else, hold fast and move forward. You have everything you need to find the solution. There is nothing too complex or hard for you to overcome. Be confident and move forward. You will find the way ahead and reach success.


Digging In

13 Feb

Nobody is right all the time. We all make mistakes and choices we regret. Sometimes we go the wrong way and have to correct our course, sometimes we go too far and have to back track, and sometimes we just bomb completely and have to start over. It happens. We’re only human and can only know what we know at any given time. When things go wrong and we discover we’ve made a mistake, we can acknowledge the error and then do what is needed to correct it. But there may be times when although we know we’re wrong, refuse to accept it and dig in, pushing forward defending a position that will not work. Maybe we’re embarrassed or prideful, or think if we keep going the wrong way somehow, magically it will turn into the right way. Whatever our reasons, if we continue moving ahead on the wrong road we will never find success. It’s hard to face any kind of failure but looking at it completely, and determining to correct what is needed is the best way forward. We are always in control of our lives and can change focus at any time. As soon as we see we’re going the wrong way we can turn in a new direction. The world is filled with endless possibilities. Limiting ourselves to only one road and holding fast to it  headed somewhere we don’t want to go, will only bring us sorrow. We can let go of pride and control, and change our lives. Everything is possible if we’re willing to be flexible. Happiness is always there and we can reach it.

Traditions are powerful motivators. If we’re doing something that has been done the same way for a long time we may hold onto it even if it’s not working. We may believe if we stay the course a little longer it will correct itself and we’ll find success. That might happen but if something truly isn’t working, it’s better to step back and find a different option. Things change and what worked in the past may not be feasible anymore. Being open to trying something new or opening a different door may be all that’s needed to take us forward. We have everything necessary to succeed, and embracing all possibilities will help us get there.

Confidence is a great attribute that will carry us through many complicated and difficult times. If we’re confident in our ability to overcome trials we have greater strength moving forward. But confidence in the midst of continual setbacks may keep us from finding new solutions that will take us where we want to go. We can be confident and still humble enough to recognize when things aren’t working and modify our plans. Every option is available and there are endless choices to make. We can change direction when necessary and create a new plan to move us forward. We are capable of great success, and being willing to be flexible will help us achieve it.

Today if you’ve been stalled despite your efforts to push forward, look at all the options available and find the road that will move you ahead. Modify your plans to find success and start again. All the answers are there for you, and you will find them. Redirect your course and you’ll reach your goal. Be open and see everything clearly. Nothing will keep you from the prize.

Playing Chicken

23 Jan

Everyone is different, and goals and dreams vary from person to person.  What’s important to one is useless to another, what is desired by one is cast off by another, and so on.  While we may often be successful in managing those differences there will likely be times when we clash with someone else and conflict arise.  If neither side is willing to bend we may decide to play chicken and push our way forward, daring the other person to blink.  It’s good to know what we want and how to get it, but in times of conflict, pushing forward in direct opposition to someone else may not always be our best option.  Determining not to bend may escalate the conflict and before we know it the situation may spiral out of control to a place nobody wanted to go.  Being open to other opinions and listening intently to other viewpoints will help us understand opposing views more clearly.  Once we see things from both sides we may more easily find a compromise that is acceptable to everyone that allows us to move forward.  There is no one right way to do anything.  There are always several options in any scenario and if we’re open to seeing them, the way forward will be easier to find.  Playing chicken will never open the door to increased understanding or acceptance.  It will only prove we know what we want and don’t care about other ideas.  We are capable of being open and willing to hear all viewpoints.  Once everyone knows the whole story from all perspectives, finding an acceptable way forward will be possible.

It’s good to be confident about our lives and decisions, but if we allow our confidence to become superior to those around us it may turn into arrogance.  The difference between solid confidence and arrogance is the conviction that not only can we accomplish what we want to do, our ideas are better than anyone else’s.  Arrogance closes doors before us and other options available.  We can be open to new ideas and outcomes and still be confident in our ability to succeed.  New ideas will bring us fresh perspective and help us find success more easily.

We can always live our lives any way we choose.  We don’t need permission to decide what we want.  If there is dissent, we can be patient and listen to opposing views, and then make whatever decision works best for us.  There need not be tension and stress because we disagree.  We can be gracious and kind, thank others for their input and then choose the best option going forward.  Disagreement need not always turn into a fight.  We can be open and polite, and then make our decisions.

Today if there’s something you really want to do and someone is standing in your way, give them time to express their opinion and listen carefully.  Discuss your views and then decide the best way forward.  There is more than one way to do anything.  The best options are there for you.  Be open and wise.  You will find the best way forward.

Driving the Train

19 Jan

Every decision we make determines where we’ll go and what we’ll do.  There will always be outside influences and there may be times we feel pressure to do things a certain way, but ultimately our lives belong to us and we can live them any way we like.  Our happiness is our responsibility.  If we aren’t happy where we are, it’s our responsibility to do what is needed to change the situation.  We can complain about our lives, bemoan our current situation, and blame anything and everything for our dissatisfaction, but the truth is we are the ones driving the train.  If we’re in a situation we don’t want, we can change it.  If we’re in a relationship that isn’t working, we can leave it.  Making excuses for why we remain unhappy will never bring us lasting comfort or improve our position.  We can sit and imagine how our lives could be or we can do what is needed to change things.  Change can be intimidating and isn’t always easy.  It takes focus and determination but we certainly have everything we need to be successful.  We are important and our personal desires are important.  We deserve complete and fulfilling happiness.  It’s available to us if we are willing to do what is needed to find it.  We know ourselves and we know what we really want and where we want to go.  We can decide to do what is needed to create the lives we want and find happiness.  We don’t have to wait for things to improve.   We can move forward today and reach any destination we desire.

Some people believe in fate.  They may think it doesn’t matter what they do, they are predestined to have a certain kind of life and experience.  Using that as an excuse to cover unhappiness is illogical.  We have the right to choose anything and everything we do.  We can go anywhere and do anything.  There is nothing strong enough to hold us in place once we decide we want to move.  All our dreams are possible and we need not stay anywhere we don’t want.  Nothing is out of reach and we can achieve any goal and reach any objective we desire.  We are in control and can create the lives we want the most.

Fear of the unknown may be a factor when we want to do something new.  Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring and when we’re pushing forward on a new path there is no way to anticipate all the complications that may come.  The first road we try may not work out and we may need to change direction and try again.  We get unlimited chances to find our way and no matter what we face we have everything we need to continue forward.  Life is a great blessing.  All options are available.  Happiness is there for us and we can reach further to find it.

Today if you feel unhappy and unfulfilled in your life, decide where you want to go and chart a new course going forward.  Let go of the things that are holding you back and break free of anything keeping you from your dreams.  You deserve everything you desire.  Choose your destination and start moving toward it.  Everything is there for you.  Complete happiness is possible and it will be yours.


Second Guessing

10 Jan

In difficult and complicated situations when we’re making decisions about what we want or need to do, we want to make the best choice going forward.  If we need to confront someone about something they did or apologize for something we’ve done it might be difficult to decide how to proceed.  We can objectively review all the facts to clarify exactly what we want to say and how we want to address our concerns.  Once we determine what the best course of action is we can proceed with confidence and do what is needed to amend the situation.  But sometimes after we’ve decided what needs to be done we might second guess our decision.  What if things don’t go the way we want them too, what if our interaction goes awry and things get worse, what if the other person refuses to see us, the list of possibilities is endless.  Second guessing may hold us back from doing what we need to move forward and hold us in place somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we need to do something to fix a situation and default to doing nothing because we are afraid or unsure about what might happen, the situation will remain unresolved.  We will carry it with us going forward.  The only way around any problem is to solve it. There is no way to know how anything will work out when we’re trying to move forward, but one thing is certain, if we do nothing everything will remain the same.  Addressing our problems head on and facing them instead of looking away will help us continue forward toward our goals and bring us confidence.  We don’t have to hold onto any issue longer than we want to.  All the answers are there for us.  Taking control of the issue and facing it will help us find our way forward and bring us happiness and satisfaction.

There are endless “what ifs” if we think about them.  Lots of things can always go wrong but lots of things can also go right.  If we try to address a problem or situation with someone else and they don’t want to settle the issue, it then belongs to them.  Once we’ve done all we can to resolve the problem we don’t have to carry it forward.  We can’t control what anyone else does and if they will not agree to work things out, we can let it go and hope things will improve over time.

In our lives we will have the opportunity to solve many difficult situations.  Some answers will come easily and others will take time and serious thought.  There is no problem without a solution.  We can be confident in our ability to understand any situation clearly and find the answers we need.  Nothing is impossible and we are wise and capable.  Our happiness and comfort are our responsibility, and when things go wrong we can take control of our decisions and choose the best path forward.

Today if you need to solve a difficult problem and have been second guessing the way forward, choose the best solution and move ahead.  You know what needs to be done and you are wise enough to find the answers you need.  Be confident and brave.  You have everything you need to succeed.  There isn’t anything too difficult for you to resolve.  Make your decisions and move forward.  Success is there for you.

Wasted Years

4 Jan

There are few times in life when we go from one place to another in a completely straight line with no interruptions or detours. Every journey we take has many twists and turns. We don’t live in a vacuum and are subject to all kinds of outside influences. There are others around us making all kinds of decisions we aren’t aware of which may affect the road ahead. We can adjust our direction with each new situation and in time, find our way to any destination. If we get stuck and years go by before we are able to see clearly and shake free to begin again, we may feel we’ve wasted our time. Looking back over years struggling with something that was never going to work can undermine our confidence and we may believe we’ve ruined our chances for success. Even if we don’t move forward, the time is never wasted. Whatever we’re focused on, and whatever we’re doing teaches us something new. There is no need to worry about what we haven’t accomplished. The future is ahead of us and we can begin again. Time spent spinning our wheels gives us time to grow so when the right moment arrives we are ready to move. We can change anything we desire and move forward. There isn’t any goal we can’t reach. The whole world is there for us when we’re ready to take it.

When we’re on a road trip and reach a stop sign it’s our signal to wait and watch before proceeding. In our lives we come upon many stop signs but sometimes we miss them because we are busy or distracted. If we forge ahead on a road that isn’t ready for us, or isn’t complete, we will not be able to proceed. We all face situations that are not good for us, places we shouldn’t go if we want to succeed, and people we should avoid. But if we miss the signs that warn us to stop we may not realize it until much time has passed and we are lost. Getting lost will not end our journey. Once we understand the situation, we can change our trajectory and find the right way forward.

Time is valuable and irreplaceable. Nobody lives forever or knows how much time they have. We can never change the past but we have complete control over our futures. If we’ve lost time doing things that haven’t moved us forward, we can modify our choices and begin again. We have all the wisdom, strength and power we need to change any situation we desire. We can let go of what is holding us back, and be free to find our way ahead. Every moment is a passage to the next. Choosing what we want the most, and heading toward the destinations we desire will bring us satisfaction and success. We can do anything. Nothing is out of reach and the best roads ahead are there waiting for us.

Today if you feel like you’ve wasted years doing something that distracted you from where you really want to be, straighten your journey going forward and begin again. You can achieve any success you desire and go anywhere you want to go. Shake off what has held you back and start forward. All your dreams are attainable and you will reach them. Trust yourself. You already have everything you need to succeed.



17 Nov

“Find a way.”  Diana Nyad

There are many inspirational people in the world who have faced incredible odds and overcome them.  At the age of 64, swimmer Diana Nyad swam from Cuba to Florida, a journey of 110 miles.  When asked how she faced the many challenges of this quest including sharks, jelly fish stings, extreme fatigue and damaging sun burn she said every time things looked impossible she would determine to find a way forward.  Her desire to succeed was so great that no matter how hard things looked she knew she could find a way – and she did.  We may never face a physical challenge as great as this but we will endure difficult situations that test our resolve and willingness to go forward.  Sometimes we may be confident of success but other times we may doubt our ability to survive.  There really isn’t anything we can’t overcome and there are no problems without resolutions.  We discover hidden courage and resilience when we walk through turbulent and threatening trials.  Everything we need is already there within us.  We can reach deep and capture all the strength necessary to win.  No matter what comes we can find a way to move forward and get to the other side.  We are stronger than we realize.  Nothing will hold us down and we will succeed.

In baseball, when a hitter swings and misses the ball a strike is called.  After three strikes the hitter is out and can no longer continue to try.  Although we may stumble, there are no strikeouts in our lives.  We have unlimited chances to find the answers we need.  There is no scorecard and we will never be out of the game.  If we don’t succeed with the first choice, we can choose again.  If our second choice fails as well, we can continue.  We learn as we go and each fumble teaches us something new and gives us more information.  Nothing will keep us from finding the solution and with each step forward we will get closer to the goal.

After trying several options that don’t work we may become discouraged and believe we will never succeed.  There are rarely times in our lives when we must find the answers within a given time frame.  We can take all the time we need to find the best way forward.  There is no one right way to do anything.  We have unlimited options from which to choose and we will find the answers we need.  If we trust ourselves and take the time necessary to see all the options available we will find a way.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  We are strong and capable and nothing is too hard for us to overcome.

Today if you’re facing a difficult situation and feel like you can’t figure it out, step back and take a moment to see everything clearly.  You are smarter than you think you are and you know what you need to do.  The answers will come and you will find the way forward.  Everything is already there for you and you will succeed.  Trust yourself.  You are amazing and you will find the way.