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Obstacles

16 Jun

Obstacles are those frightful things you see when you take your eyes off your goal.” Henry Ford

No matter what goals we’re striving for or what we’re seeking chances are it won’t just fall into our laps without some effort.  While it’s true some things come more easily than others, it’s also true that what we want most generally takes work.  There will always be complications and unforeseen problems and keeping our eyes on the goal helps us navigate them and move through them patiently and effectively.  But sometimes our vision is blocked and when we see all the things that may go wrong and everything we must overcome to get to the destination we may lose our confidence.  If all we can see are the problems blocking our way it’s impossible to see the road ahead.  If we lose our focus and can’t see the way forward we can take a break.  We can take the time we need to regroup and refocus.  We can recharge and when we’re ready to start again the road will still be there waiting.  We can accomplish anything we want to and if we keep our eyes on the destination, no matter how complicated things get or how many times we have to revise our plans, we will have all the wisdom and courage we need to continue on.  Every dream we seek is available to us.  Every goal can be reached and every destination conquered.  We can plan our way forward effectively and do what works best to achieve anything we desire.

Nobody knows what the future will bring and we may be surprised by something we never expected to stand in our way.  It may be hard to figure out how to navigate around complications.  All the answers we need are available to us but we have to keep our eyes open and be willing to look for them in order to find them.  If we are determined we will find everything we need to discover a way around any obstacle.  We know where we want to go and we can choose the best way forward.

It’s nice to think about things working out without any effort but thankfully that isn’t real life.  The struggle to make something work, and the effort it takes to make our wishes become reality teach us the lessons we need to find additional success going forward.  The challenges we overcome and the trials we navigate give us priceless tools that teach us how to find success.  The experience we gain as we push through difficult situations is valuable and worthwhile.  If we remember what we’re learning when things go wrong we will have more confidence to continue.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we keep our eyes on the goal and keep moving forward.

Today if you’ve been distracted by all the things in your way that are keeping you from moving forward, focus on the goal you want to achieve.  Complications are just indications that you need to adjust your path forward.  You can accomplish anything you desire.  Keep your eyes on the goal and take another step.  You’ll get there and all your dreams will come true.

Uncovering Truth

13 Jun

As we go through our lives we experience many things. We have bad experiences, good ones, difficult times, easy moments and a huge spectrum of emotions. We feel everything we go through and whatever we experience involves some sort of emotion. Some people are stoic and it’s hard to know what they are feeling and others wear everything out in the open for all to see. Whether we display them or not we will feel a broad range of emotions every day. They help us understand what we’re going through but we must be careful that our emotions don’t deceive us. Feelings can lie to us and make us believe things that aren’t true. They are often reflective of experiences we’ve had in the past and if we have unresolved fear, unsettled disappointment or uncertainty our emotions may bring it to the surface again. They may color our interpretation of what we’re going through now even though they have nothing to do with our current situation. When we feel unsure or afraid we can take a moment to think about what is triggering the emotion. Does it pertain to what’s happening now or is it just a memory resurfacing? We can uncover the truth and take control of our lives. Emotions are complex and deeply ingrained in who we are. We can manage them effectively by looking at them objectively and seeing them for what they are.

Our emotional memories are very strong. Someone may say something or we see something that reminds us of a difficult time and all the emotions we felt may come flooding back. We can’t control the response but we can control what we do when it happens. If we’re suddenly overwhelmed with sorrow or fear we can take a breath, let the flood wash over us and then objectively determine how we will go forward. We don’t have to crash and burn because a difficult memory has momentarily overtaken us. We can resettle ourselves and remember the past is behind us and need not control us going forward. Every day brings new opportunities for growth and learning, and we can let the past go and keep walking.

Everything we experience changes us in some way. We are all the sum total of our experiences and each experience teaches us something we can take with us going forward. Even our worst trial gives us some value that benefits us. When old emotions take us back to the struggle, we can find the lesson we learned to help us going forward. Feelings may lie to us and tell us we haven’t moved at all, but we can uncover the truth and continue forward with confidence. We are amazing, capable and strong. There isn’t anything we can’t do or overcome.

Today if you feel bad over something in the past and it’s affecting your ability to move forward, look at the situation clearly and see everything you’ve learned. You can take the best lessons forward with you and leave the rest behind. You have everything you need to find happiness and success, and nothing will hold you back. Take control and move forward. The best is there for you and you will be happy.

 

Paying the Bill

5 Jun

There is an old saying that there is no such thing as a free lunch, meaning no matter what we do or what we seek there will always be a price to pay.  Everything we do has a consequence.  We are not isolated living on a desert island alone and every choice we make, everything we say, and every action we take will have a result that may impact others.  We are accountable for everything we do and if we create stress or problems we will have to correct the situation.  If we are wise and careful in all our dealings our balance sheet may be easier to manage than if we simply do anything we like without regard to what may happen afterward.  We know how to make excellent decisions and for the most part try to do our best, but complications come to us all and sometimes the way forward is cloudy and hard to decipher.  When that happens we make the best decisions with what we have and if things go awry we can do what is needed to turn things around.  Being accountable for our actions is not optional and is required in everything we do.  We can make positive decisions and plan our choices carefully so they bring us the results we are seeking.  We can pay our bills as we go and move forward with confidence taking all we’ve learned along with us.

Some people are careless and thoughtless.  They make decisions based on how they feel at the moment with no regard to consequence.  There may be issues with self-control, temperament, or personal discipline and when things go wrong they often blame others or circumstance.  We can do anything we like and if we don’t care about others we can make choices based simply on our personal desires.  Whether we acknowledge it or not we are accountable and must pay for every choice we make.  We can make excuses and blame others but in the end we own our decisions.  If we are selfish we may lose connections with others, if we are insensitive we may lose relationships with those we care about and if we are careless we may hurt those around us and ourselves in the end.  Like a pebble dropped in a pond, every decision we make may have many ramifications.  Remembering those possibilities will help us make the best decisions possible and prevent problems as we move forward.

Even when we’re careful and plan wisely sometimes things go wrong.  When they do if we’ve been wise in our decisions we will find the way through.  There are always lots of factors we can’t control and there may be situations of which we are unaware.  When problems develop we have all the courage and wisdom we need to find the answers and re-direct our way forward.  We can see all the options available to us and choose the best road ahead.  There isn’t any complication too complex for us to manage and we will find success.

Today if you’ve made a mistake in judgment and the consequences are difficult to manage, look ahead and find the best way forward.  You know where you want to go.  Choose wisely and move ahead with confidence.  You are strong and smart, and there isn’t anything you can’t do and succeed.  Keep moving.  The best is yet to come.

Indelible Ink

31 May

When we’re working on a project with ink pens sometimes we might slip and get a mark on our clothing.  If the ink is permanent and indelible we may be stuck with the mark forever.  We could scrub and scrub and try every possible cleaner but if the ink is permanent it will remain.  It’s frustrating to get a mark on something we can’t remove and when it happens each time we see it we will be reminded of when it happened.  We might think of our lives that way.  We make choices and it’s easy to believe the results of our choices are permanent.  While some decisions may bring lasting consequences no matter what has happened often there is a way to modify the outcome.  Life is unpredictable but the one thing we can always count on is everything will change.  Even if we try hard to make the best decisions, there may be times when because of circumstance or unknown factors we may choose something that takes us somewhere we don’t want to go.  It doesn’t mean we are doomed to stay there.  We can evaluate where we are at any time and change any situation we don’t want.  No mistake has the power to hold us forever.  There is no indelible ink involved.  We can change direction, correct any errors, resolve any problems and move forward.  The road to success is never a straight upward line.  We travel here and there as we find our way and when we hit a snag or choose the wrong door we can back up and turn again.  There isn’t anything we can’t change and we can reach any destination we choose by continuing forward with confidence.

Guilt is a self-imposed emotion.  Nobody can make us feel guilty.  Although they may say or do things that trigger that response we decide whether we hold onto it or not.  It does nothing to help us move forward and it can’t correct any problems we are facing.  Sometimes we will err and when we do we can look at the situation openly and then determine the best way forward.  Regret is a common response to a bad choice but it need not stop us from continuing on.  We have the ability to make excellent decisions and we can correct any mistake we’ve made and move forward toward success.

There may be times when a situation arises where a decision has disastrous consequences.  We don’t always have all the facts and sometimes things go awry.  If we’re facing a difficult situation that is hard to unravel we may feel we’ve ruined our lives and there is no way out.  But life is constantly changing and nothing stays the same forever.  If we step back and see the problem objectively we will find a way through and be able to begin the process of rebuilding.  We can be confident in choosing wisely and we will find success.

Today if you’re facing a mess and feel lost trying to find your way through, you have everything you need to overcome anything before you.  You are wise enough to make excellent decisions and correct your course.  There is nothing you can’t resolve and no problem too great for you to manage.  You are strong and capable.  Do what is needed to move forward and be confident.  You have everything you need to succeed.

Mirage

19 May

We all have things we want to accomplish, dreams we want to pursue and goals we want to achieve.  We can plan for them and work toward them until we succeed and sometimes when we get to the destination everything is exactly like we thought it would be.  Other times we may arrive and discover the goal we were after isn’t exactly what we expected.  Like a mirage in the desert something may look good from a distance but upon closer inspection is a bit different.  If we’ve worked hard for a long time to achieve the goal and then discover it isn’t what we want after all we may be disappointed or feel we’ve been cheated.  We can’t know everything from the beginning but if we pay attention as we move along there are often clues that will give us more information about the road we’re on.  If we simply storm ahead sure of ourselves, we may find in the end we’ve reached a destination that isn’t anything like what we want.  Everything we do changes us in some way and as we’re moving forward our lives are evolving and we may find what we sought at the beginning isn’t what we want now.  We can turn our course and change direction any time we’re ready.  There are countless roads that lead to happiness.  Which one we choose depends on where we want to go and what we want to become.  The whole world belongs to those who take it.  We can do anything and go anywhere. If we’ve reached a place that doesn’t fit we can turn our course and begin again.

Few things in life are permanent and unchangeable.  Most ideas and decisions can be changed and modified if needed.  If we are open and honest with ourselves and clearly see what isn’t working we can modify our plans to find happiness.  If we aren’t happy we need not stay in any situation and if we don’t feel fulfilled and content we may change whatever is needed to correct our course.  We may leave a relationship, a job, move to a different location or open a new door.  Whatever is needed to find joy in our lives is available to us and we have enough courage and wisdom to move forward to get it.

Some situations are very alluring and captivating.  Like a mirage in the distance they call to us and we may be consumed with attaining them.  We can make all our dreams come true but first we must be sure that what we’re seeing is exactly what we want.  Do we really want what’s at the end of that road?  Are we sure we are willing to do what is needed to achieve it?  Being clear on what is required to move forward and then making our decision will enable us to find success.  We can take the time we need to make the best decisions for our future and then plan our way forward. We can be wise and careful and find the happiness we seek.

Today if you’ve been working hard to reach a goal but aren’t sure it’s exactly what you’re seeking, take a moment to think before you proceed.  See all your options clearly and choose the road that’s best going forward.  You know what you want and are wise enough to make excellent choices.  Happiness is there for you.  Look for it, plan for it and then begin forward to achieve it.

Resolve

15 May

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives.  When we have a big decision to make we may take our time to consider all the parameters of what will happen when we choose and give ourselves lots of space to think about which way we want to go.  We can take all the time we need, but sometimes as we’re moving along suddenly we know what we want to do.  We’ve passed a turning point and are suddenly and completely sure and firmly resolved on the way forward.  We may not know what turned the tide that brought the decision, we may not be aware of what happened or didn’t happen that decided the way forward but we are sure and unshakable in our conviction.  Suddenly the task is done and we are confident of where we want to go and what we want to do.  When that happens all our doubts fade quickly away and the road ahead becomes clear.  It’s very rewarding when we are sure of ourselves.  Others may still have concerns but if we’re confident they will mean nothing.  We know clearly what we want to do, we know with assurance where we want to go and nothing can change our minds.  Once the decision is made all that remains is to move forward toward the destination.

There are many roads and countless directions in our lives.  Some will say go one way, others will say go another.  There are influences and pressures on us all the time from those who care about us, those who want us to succeed and others who may want something else.  Like static on a radio the noise can be constant and distracting.  When we need to decide something important that static may get louder as others give us their opinions and advice, requested or volunteered.  We may become overwhelmed with all the information offered and get stuck trying to find the right way through.  If we take a step back and close the door for a time, if we allow ourselves to be quiet and listen to our own personal thoughts, all the inspiration and clarity we need will rise.  We already know what we want to do.  If we take a moment to let our minds rest the confidence we are seeking will come.

We are very intelligent and insightful about what we really want and need.  We know ourselves better than anyone else ever could.  We know where we want to go and we know what we need to get there.  Trusting our personal direction and judgment and allowing ourselves time to think and consider our options will allow us to choose the right road going forward.  We can suddenly be sure even if we’ve been confused for a time.  We can suddenly be confident even if we’ve been tremulous.  We have everything we need to succeed already.  Trusting our excellent ability to make good choices and then doing what is needed to make the destination come to us will bring us all the success we seek.

Today if you’ve suddenly decided you know the way forward and you are sure even if others doubt, trust in yourself.  You have everything you need to succeed.  Be confident.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You know what you want, you know what you need and you know where you want to go.

Straight Lines

24 Apr

When we want to be successful at something and are working hard to make things happen and push us ahead, we may expect our progress to move forward in a straight line.  If we’re diligently focusing it seems feasible to expect to make continual progress toward the destination.  It would be great if the line from where we are to where we want to go was straight and pointed up all the time.  We can achieve any goal we set our minds to but expecting to get there without delays or detours may not be what we experience.  Things happen, people make decisions, plans change and we may have to go sideways or even turn back a few steps to get back on track.  Success rarely comes easily and generally requires us to rethink, retool, and redirect from time to time.  We can plan and prepare and even if we’re sure the way forward is paved and clear, problems may arise that stop us in our tracks and force us to change our plans.  If the goal we’re seeking is important and we are determined to succeed, we can continue on no matter what complications come.  It may not come easily, the road may not be straight and the way forward may get dark from time to time.  We have enough courage and wisdom to find our way when things go wrong, and we are smart enough and strong enough to do what is needed to find success.

Some goals seem simple when we begin.  We know where we want to go and the road to get there is obvious and clear.  As we plan our way forward we may believe the goal will be easy to achieve.  Sometimes we are right, everything goes exactly as expected and we get to the destination with little struggle or time.  But other times, even if we’ve planned well and are sure the road we want to travel is available and ready for us, things may go awry.  There may be someone making decisions that block our way forward, or things change and the road we planned to travel is no longer available.  We may have to stop and find a new way to get to the destination.

Roadblocks and detours give us the opportunity to stop and think about our way forward again.  Sometimes when we stop in the middle of a journey we find better and easier roads to travel than we saw at the beginning.  We may find the detour points us in a direction previously unknown that gets us to the goal more quickly.  Every problem brings with it information that helps us going forward.  If we embrace the situation and take time to evaluate everything while we’re stopped, we may find answers we’ve been seeking.  There isn’t any goal we can’t achieve.  We have everything we need to find our way forward no matter how complicated the road becomes.  We are wise and powerful, and nothing can stop us from the success we desire.

Today if you’ve been pushing forward and there have been complications that stop your progress, take a moment to look around and see the whole picture.  There are answers there and you will find the way forward.  You can do anything.  There is nothing too complicated or difficult for you to overcome.  Rethink the road ahead and keep going.  Success is waiting for you and you will have it.