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Getting the Blessing

29 Oct

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never meet most of them, there are generally people around us most of the time. We build relationships with them of varying degrees, and when we’re close to them, what they do and say may have a big effect on us. If someone does something that really hurts us, destroys our trust, or in other ways breaks down our connection, we may suffer great pain and disappointment. They may refuse to acknowledge what they’ve done and instead expect us to simply let it go and move on. Unresolved conflict doesn’t just disappear because it’s inconvenient, and we may struggle to find the way forward. Carrying around past pain and suffering and holding onto serious disappointment will never help us move ahead, and may hold us down and keep us from achieving our goals. We may think forgiveness is out of the question, but sometimes the only way to set pain down and walk away is to forgive those who have hurt us and let it go. The gift of forgiveness is hard to give in situations where the transgressor is unrepentant, but the blessings aren’t for them. The blessings go to those who have forgiven them. People who hurt others rarely feel bad about what they’re doing, but those they hurt may suffer indefinitely until they decide to forgive. Forgiving doesn’t mean we must forget what’s happened. We can remember everything clearly and take what we learn from the experience forward with us. Anger and resentment take a lot of energy to sustain, and after we forgive someone, we can release any ill feelings, sustain every valuable bit of information, and walk away with confidence. Nobody is perfect and we all falter at some point. Learning to release any negative experience, forgive those involved, and take the lessons forward, will enable us to find great success and happiness moving forward.

Few things hurt more than a broken heart. It’s painful when a relationship we desire suddenly ends, but it’s worse if it ends because of lying or cheating. It’s hard to look past the pain of betrayal and find relief. We may be shocked when we get all the facts, and decide we’ll never, no matter what, ever forgive them. We can hold onto the pain for as long as we like, but every day we give up to spite or suffering is lost and cannot be restored. Our lives are important, and we have a lot to offer. We can look at the situation clearly and objectively, let go of the sorrow, move forward and start again.

If we’re enmeshed in a difficult situation fraught with despair and grief, we may be overwhelmed and unable to see anything but the pain we’re enduring. Some things are very hard to navigate, but no matter where we are or what’s happening, there will always be a way ahead. The sun will rise again in the morning, and there will be a light to guide us through. Nothing is too hard for us to face, or too challenging for us to resolve. We are powerful and strong, and will prevail.

Today if you’re suffering because of something someone has done, think about what’s most important. Let go of any anger, and trust yourself. You are amazing and worth more than you know. The whole world is enriched because you are here. Take a deep breath, look at all the options possible, and start again. Every success awaits, and you will make them yours.

Closing the Book

18 Feb

When we read a book, we open our minds to new ideas that increase our understanding of the world and those around us. We enjoy the learning and when we’re finished, can close the book, and put it on a shelf where it may remain. In our lives we’ll have millions of experiences. Some of the lessons will be fun and enjoyable, but others might bring sadness, and heartbreak. Each is important, and as we move forward, we can draw on all we’ve learned to help us as we move ahead. A new challenge may be similar to something we’ve already gone through, and like pulling a book back off the shelf, we can remember what happened and how we navigated it, looking for clues that will assist us now. That’s helpful when we prevailed before, but if what happened was left unresolved and painful, opening it back up may flood us with difficult emotions. We may be temporarily paralyzed as we recall everything that went wrong and how much it hurt. It may feel like we’ve been transported back in time and are going through it all over again. The past is gone, and we are in complete control of what we’re doing now. We can step back and objectively view what has happened and look at where we are. No memory can keep us in place. We are strong and can do anything we like. Every book has a lesson, and when we’re ready, we can close it, and move on. We’re in control of our lives and our future is ours to design. Life is filled with challenges, but nothing can keep us from anything we desire. Remembering how strong and capable we are, and trusting ourselves to prevail no matter what comes, enables us to step forward, confident we will succeed.

When we cut ourselves, our bodies respond immediately to heal the cut and create a scar. At first, scars are thick and tough, but over time they smooth out and flatten to blend in with the surrounding skin. It’s the same when an experience hurts us. In the beginning, we may put up barriers to prevent from being injured further, but as time passes, as we begin to trust we can let those walls come down a little. It’s good to protect ourselves, but if we want to build connections and create relationships, we must be willing to start again.

If we’ve suffered through a terrible experience that has hurt us deeply, we may decide to retreat and try to keep to ourselves. Avoiding relationships and isolating ourselves may make us feel safer but will not guarantee we’ll never be hurt again. Instead of hiding we can remember all the times we’ve overcome adversity in the past and trust ourselves to manage anything that happens. We are more powerful than we realize, and nothing can keep us from moving forward.

Today if you’re going through something that brings back a past disappointment, remember how strong and capable you are. Close the book on what has passed, and step forward with confidence. You are more wise and powerful than you imagine, and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself. The best is yet to come.