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Making it Real

22 Jan

There are unlimited things we can accomplish as we go through our lives. Every option is possible and deciding what we want to do is the first step toward achieving it. However, simply defining what we want doesn’t change anything in our lives. Setting a goal doesn’t suddenly create it for us. If we want the change, whatever it is, we’ll have to modify our lives in some way to make it happen. Continuing to do the same things the same way will only allow us to maintain the same lives we’re living now. We can dream about the goals we have in mind and think about them for as long as we like. We can plan and ponder and consider everything necessary to move toward them but until we actually begin to redesign our efforts to accommodate what is required to gain them, nothing will change. Our dreams are reachable and we can make them come true. We can gain every attribute we desire if we’re willing to invest what is necessary to make them real. Nothing is out of reach. We are powerful and capable, and can decide what we want and then change our lives to move us toward success. The lives we dream about are possible. We need only focus and step forward with determination, and the willingness to face any obstacle before us and move past it. There isn’t anything that can hold us in place. We are strong enough to achieve whatever we desire and wise enough to find our way to any goal. The whole world is there for us and we can accomplish anything.

Complications are a normal part of life. No matter what we’re doing or where we’re going chances are some problem will arise that makes moving forward difficult or some obstacle will stand in our way to prevent us from pushing through. A setback isn’t the end of the road but a signal that points us in a new direction. There are countless roads to every destination and if the road we’re on gets blocked we can turn our course and continue forward on a different path.

It’s impossible to see the future and sometimes the goals we set take longer than we planned or turn out to be more difficult than we imagined. We’re in control of our lives and can let go of any objective at any time. We can change our plans but if the goal is still important it doesn’t matter how long it takes or how hard it is to push ahead. Success is always possible and we can accomplish anything we truly desire. We can hold fast to the road ahead and continue forward through anything and find our way. We have unlimited potential and by exercising faith and diligence, can reach any goal we choose and have the lives we want.

Today if you’re thinking about something you want to achieve, plan your way forward and take the first step toward the goal. Be confident and start the journey. You can accomplish anything you desire. You are strong and capable, and will find your way forward. Every dream is possible and with determination and patience you can make them come true. The life you desire most is waiting for you. Step forward and claim it.

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All Tied Up

7 Jan

Life is unpredictable and even when we plan well and do everything possible to move forward, sometimes due to circumstance or decisions made by others out of our control, we may be stopped in our tracks. Complications are always a factor and can get in the way and prevent us from advancing. When our hands are tied and there’s nothing we can do to change the situation, the desired goal may have to wait. We can complain about it, bemoan our position and kick against the barriers before us, but that will not help. We may feel better expressing our displeasure but the situation will remain and we’ll have to find a way to cope. No matter where we are in our lives, there are always many things to accomplish. It’s positive to be actively engaged and if the goal we want right now isn’t available, we can step back and review our options. The world is filled with opportunities and the opening provided by the change in our situation is the perfect time to explore them. There are unlimited doors to open and endless possibilities before us. We can change our thinking, redirect our attention, and start something new. In time, it’s likely the original road will open again and we’ll be able to continue toward the previous goal, but in the interim we can take advantage of what’s possible now. Every day is a blessing and even when things go wrong, there is the chance to do something positive. We can adjust when we need to, reroute our way forward, and find success in any endeavor we desire. Every option is possible and nothing is out of reach. Even when the world around us changes we can keep moving forward toward the destinations we want the most and find happiness and peace.

Everyone complains sometimes. It’s natural to express dissatisfaction if things aren’t going the way we want them to and complaining allows us to vent our frustration. But continuing to complain over something we can’t change without doing anything to improve our situation isn’t helpful. We can sit and grumble about what went wrong for as long as we like, and nothing will change. We’re always in control of our lives and when we’re ready can begin toward something new that will recharge us and give us satisfaction. We are never truly stopped. We can always continue moving forward and with patience and determination get the lives we want.

Unexpected changes can be unsettling and if we’re confused, we may need to stand still until we can see everything clearly. Taking time to look around and see where things stand will help clarify what to do next. There will always be another road to travel and another goal to reach. We have everything we need to decide what to do next and where we want to go. Every success is possible and nothing can prevent us from reaching it.

Today if everything has changed and all your plans have gone up in smoke, stand strong and have faith. Success is always possible and there are many options available to you. Decide what you want and begin toward a new goal. You are wise and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and make your dreams come true.

Hanging On

13 Mar

Everything we experience in life goes forward with us. Good times and happy moments, or disappointments and catastrophes, come with us as we move ahead. Whatever we experience becomes part of who we are. How much influence our past has over our lives is up to us. Happy times may give us optimism for what lies ahead, and problems may hold us back from venturing forward. The past lies behind us and no matter how events affected us when they occurred, it’s up to us how much power they have going forward. If we’ve been through a heartbreaking and difficult experience and still feel the sting, we may be unable to let go of the pain enough to find joy. We can hold on tight to disappointment and sorrow and drag it through our lives indefinitely. We may keep the reminders of what went wrong bright in our minds until we have the courage to let them go. Letting go of pain will not diminish what has happened. We can understand how our lives have been impacted, accept the changes that have occurred, and still find our way to happiness. We don’t have to hang onto sorrow any longer than we want to. We can let it go, set it down, and walk away knowing what we’ve learned will help us as we move ahead. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences. Some of them may devastate us and at times we may believe we’ll never be happy again. We can’t stop sorrow from coming but happiness is our responsibility and when we’re ready, we will have it again. Our lives are precious and valuable. No matter what we may face, we can find our way to peace and joy. Every day brings new promise and there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Personal heartbreak is a painful and agonizing experience. If we’ve been betrayed, or lied to, or everything we believed turned out to be false, we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. It’s hard to find our footing when everything we thought was solid turns out to be shifting sand. When we’re slipping around trying to find our way, we can have confidence and trust in our ability to overcome. There isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us in place indefinitely. We know who we are, we know what we want, and we will find our way through.

Intense disappointment and sorrow may make us doubt our personal worth and ability to succeed. We may believe nothing will ever be right again, and we’ll be stuck in misery forever. Nothing in life is permanent and no matter what we’re going through, no matter how fierce it seems right now, it will change. There is no wind strong enough to blow us down. There is no suffering powerful enough to last forever. We have everything we need to step forward and find release. We are in control of our lives and will prevail.

Today if you’ve had a serious disappointment and feel frozen and unable to move, remember how strong and powerful you are. There isn’t anything capable of holding you down. You are wise and strong and have all the confidence you need to overcome anything. Take a step forward toward the light. Great happiness is waiting for you. Everything you need is just ahead. Move toward it and you will succeed.

Blocked Number

30 Mar

Getting a call from a blocked number is like playing one-sided tag. Someone is there to tag us but we can’t return the favor. They are invisible and we can’t call them back. If we block our number before we call someone we can find them but they can’t find us. It’s a control mechanism we may employ to protect our privacy and keep our information secret. While there may be appropriate times to block ourselves before we reach out, often it’s done to keep us apart and separate. It’s a one-sided game. The caller is protected and locked away. We may meet people who are very good at telling us what they want, and defining what works for them but unable to hear us when we express our feelings in return. They know how to ask for their needs but seem unable to hear the needs of others. If we only see ourselves and what we want and only focus on our own road ahead ignoring those around us, it’s like sending out a blocked call. We know where we’re going and we aren’t interested in seeing anything else. It’s the truest form of selfishness. It’s good to look out for ourselves and determine our own way forward and we can make any decisions we like. But if we only see our own narrow road ahead we will miss the opportunities and lessons we may learn by interacting and embracing those around us. We don’t have to block our number to get what we want. We are smart enough and wise enough to be open and still reach our destination.

When one person carries all the cards in any relationship there will be problems. Every successful relationship requires balance. They give a little, and we give a little. If one is always up and the other down, the relationship is destined to fail. There is risk in anything worth pursuing and nothing is stable without balance. If we want a successful relationship in any arena we must let our walls down and be open. We cannot completely protect ourselves with armor and expect to get close to anyone. Shields and blocks are good for keeping an enemy out but if we employ them when we’re trying to build connections we will fail.

It can be unsettling to let others get close to us and know us deeply. When all our doors are open and the light is pouring in we may feel vulnerable and tremulous. Our connections will only be as close as we let them. If we keep ourselves a step back we may have a workable relationship but it will be superficial. Only when we’re brave enough to show our true selves completely will we achieve a deep and satisfying association. The more we give the more we’ll get in return. Our lives are richer when we let others in and we’ll find true happiness when we unblock our connections.

Today if you’ve been keeping yourself a step back and not completely committing to a relationship, think about your options. You can let your walls down and have rich and rewarding connections to those around you. Open up and let others in. Your life will be richer and embellished in positive ways you can’t imagine. Connect with those around you. You have so much to offer and we all want to know you.

The Water is Wide

26 Sep

There are times in our lives when we simply cannot get to our goals alone. Although we accomplish much, there will be moments when the water is too wide to cross by ourselves and we need the help of others to get across. If we are very independent, it may be hard to accept assistance. If we are shy, we may be afraid to ask. If we are arrogant, we may try to do it ourselves even when we know it’s impossible. Getting help when we need it is beneficial. It’s wise to understand our limitations and asking for help doesn’t mean we’re weak or incapable. Nobody can do everything. When we need others to get across and ask for help it shows we are strong enough to accept the situation and work around it. If we want to do it alone we may feel disappointed that we need support and it might be hard to admit we can’t get there on our own. But the goal we’re seeking is the focus. If we can’t get to it alone, working with others will often help us achieve it. We are capable of understanding the big picture and finding a way to succeed even if we can’t do it by ourselves.

Personal success is defined in many ways. Some people prefer to accomplish many things alone and like to fly solo in their endeavors. If they hit a snag they can’t navigate by themselves, instead of including others they may change their plans to get around it. They eventually find their way but it may take longer than if they had asked for the assistance of others. We all have different talents and perspectives. If we allow others to share theirs with us, we often find the answers more quickly. We can embrace the experiences of others and invite them into our journey to navigate the path forward more easily. Listening to many other interpretations of the situation may bring us the answers we’re seeking. We can open up and bring others in and get the help we need.

Competition is a normal part of the human experience. Some of us are more competitive than others and if we need to feel like the winner in every endeavor, we may try to get to our goals before anyone else. There is reward in being first but there is much to be learned by collaborating. If we’re in a situation that stops us and are struggling to find our way through, allowing others to collaborate and share in the victory may help us find our way to success more easily. But if our desire to do it alone supersedes our willingness to allow others in, success may elude us. There is much to be gained by allowing others into our journey. We are capable of doing many things well, and often we won’t need assistance. But when we do, the door is always there for us. Opening it and allowing others in will help us get to the goal we’re seeking. And getting to the goal is the primary objective.

Today if you’ve been struggling with something that has you stumped and aren’t sure how to proceed, ask those around you for their advice and counsel. You may be surprised by what you learn and you’ll find your way to the other side. The water may be wide but by working together you will find your way across. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Get the help you need and you’ll succeed every time.

Filters

24 May

Life brings us a lot of different experiences. Some are happy, some sad, things go well and then not so well, disappointments and victories come, and with each experience we learn something more about ourselves, our lives, and those around us. As we change we carry information forward from what we’ve learned. Those lessons help us understand more about who we are and what we want, but they may also color the way we perceive things. For instance, if we have a very bad experience with a dog, we may fear or hate all dogs going forward. Or if something painful happens to us in a specific situation, we may avoid all similar situations in the future. It’s good to learn from our experiences but if they create filters that restrict our lives we may miss out on opportunities available to us. If we learn as we go without fear or avoidance, we will be more successful in living fully and embracing our lives completely. We can’t predict the future but the odds of repeating an exact experience going forward is unlikely. Allowing one bad or uncomfortable situation to color our lives indefinitely may keep us locked down and unable to see everything available to us. We can navigate difficult experiences, learn from them, and then move on. This life is all about change. We don’t have to hold onto anything that holds us back.

Sometimes we have pre-conceived ideas about things based on what we’ve seen in the past or what we’ve been taught. The problem with assuming is that we’re often wrong in the assumption. If we decide something is round because it was round before, and we’ve heard it’s round but never seen it, we may proceed accepting that as truth even if what we’re looking at is a square. Our minds can play tricks on us if we let them and we can be convinced of something that isn’t real because of where we’ve been or what we’ve seen in the past. If we can set our personal experiences aside and look at our situations objectively and openly, we may find that things are completely different than what we first imagined they would be. Learning to see things as they really are will open our lives up to new possibilities for growth and understanding, but we must be willing to see clearly and accept what is real.

It’s wise to protect ourselves from situations we believe will hurt us or make our lives difficult. And there is nothing wrong with pro-actively trying to be in the best place we can. But if we lock the doors around us because we are afraid from a previous experience, or we aren’t sure we can manage whatever is locked behind them, we may be protected from possible pain but we may also prevent possible happiness. If we filter our possibilities because we are unsure or afraid, we also filter any benefits that may come to us. It takes courage to step out of our comfort zones and take a chance, but we have sufficient courage to do anything we want. We are able to make excellent decisions and brave enough to move forward. Life teaches us a lot and we can do everything we need to be successful and happy. There isn’t anything we can’t manage and we can open all the doors in front of us.

Today if you’ve been holding back because of experiences in the past and you aren’t sure about going forward, remember you can do anything. Open all the doors. There is nothing you can’t handle. Be confident. You have everything you need to be successful and happy.

Baggage

2 Jan

As we navigate through our lives our experiences leave impressions on us. Sometimes they are scars from events that have hurt us, sometimes they are precious memories from times when things were wonderful, and sometimes they are just an accumulation of things we learn. Everything we experience changes us in some way, but when we have bad experiences, they may leave lasting marks that we carry with us. If the scars are painful and heavy, they can impact our lives going forward. Like baggage we can’t abandon, we pull it along with us. It might be small like an overnight bag or we may have a dozen over-sized steamer trunks we drag along. Whatever it is, it takes effort to carry it and can make it hard for us to experience joy or see the possibilities of happiness in front of us. It takes work to carry heavy baggage, it’s strenuous, and it takes concentration. We have to watch where we’re going more carefully, and navigate complicated turns with precision. It’s hard to be spontaneous, or trust that we’ll get through. When we’re carrying a lot behind us our lives are harder and we feel the weight every day.

Nobody has a perfect life. Nobody gets through without some disappointment or pain, sadness or grief. We all suffer and have bad experiences along with the good ones. It’s how we handle them that affects our lives going forward. If we’re suffering and have been hurt, we can hold onto the pain for the rest of our lives. We can carry distrust, bitterness, wariness, anger, and suspicion with us. We can keep ourselves separate from those around us and hold on to our baggage, checking it, making sure it’s still there, and keeping it close. Deep betrayal, loss of faith, intense disappointment, and pain are difficult to go through. They change us and if we let them, can paralyze our lives. We can give our control over to them, lock our security safely away, and allow them to make every personal decision we have. But we don’t have to do that.

We have the power to face whatever comes to us. Bad experiences can be conquered. Even the one thing we think we could never overcome is possible to move past. Our ability to move forward in our lives is only hampered by our own decisions. We can carry our baggage with us for as long as we want to. But when we’re ready to be happy again, we can set it down and walk away. We don’t need it to make any decisions going forward, and we can be happy if we let it go. Leaving it behind does not diminish the pain we suffered when we had it. But if we really want to be happy again, we have to let it go and walk away. We have the power to control our lives. We can’t change what’s already happened, but we can change how much we let the past determine our future. We deserve to be happy. We deserve to be free of pain. We deserve everything we are hoping for. We can do anything we want and we don’t need any previous baggage holding us back. We can leave it behind and move on.

Today if you’ve been letting something from your past determine how you’re living your life, if you’re holding onto pain or disappointment, you can let it go. You can set it down and walk away, leaving it behind as you move forward. You don’t have to carry anything with you. You have all you need to be happy and successful. Let go. You deserve only the best. You have everything you need to be happy. Embrace that.