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Carrying It With Us

27 Jan

We all want an easy life filled with happiness, comfort and fun. It would be wonderful if everyday brought something good to us, and we never had to worry or stress about anything. It’s good to dream about, but that isn’t reality. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and we never know what will happen next. We may face a serious time filled with trouble and sorrow. Pain is a natural part of life, and will likely come and go many times as we navigate ahead. Anything can happen, and if we’re surprised by something difficult and troubling, we may feel overcome and lost. Nobody wants to suffer but if we must walk through the fire of pain or loss, we have everything we need to survive. The pain may be intense while we’re going through it, but nothing can last forever, and in time, things will improve. After the situation is behind us, how we manage moving forward is up to us. We can hold onto the disappointment, take it with us, and allow it to color our lives indefinitely. If we do, every choice we make moving forward may be impacted by what’s happened in the past. There is no way to go back and change anything, but we don’t have to let painful memories influence our next steps and prevent us from finding happiness in the future. Letting go of sorrow and grief doesn’t mean we won’t remember where we’ve been. We will always carry every experience forward with us, but they don’t have to control our next moves. We deserve to be happy and can make choices that enrich us and take us where we most want to go. Our lives are important and we can make them any way we like. We can set our sorrows down, and move forward with confidence that we can succeed.

Painful experiences may take time to overcome. If we’ve been deeply hurt by someone or something, we may need to step back for a while until we know how we want to proceed. There is no rush, and we can take the time we need. Nothing is insurmountable, and even when we feel overwhelmed, can trust that we’ll find our way through. We are stronger than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down forever. We will find our footing again, we will know what to do, and be able to stand and walk forward. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still there for us. We’ll find the answers we need, and prevail.

When we’re going through a difficult time, it may seem nobody could possibly understand what’s happening to us. We’re all individuals and feel things in unique ways specific to our own experiences and understanding. But we never have to suffer alone. There will always be someone willing to help and offer encouragement. We can reach out and get the help we need. Trouble comes, and when it does, we need not worry. We are wise and capable, and will always find the way forward.

Today if you’re going through something difficult and feel overwhelmed, remember how many times you’ve prevailed in the past. You are intelligent and strong, and nothing can overcome you. Have faith and step forward. Your dreams are still there, and every success is possible. Be confident. You are amazing, and you will win.

Taking Time

27 Jun

When we’ve been through a seriously painful event, we may suffer greatly. The death of a loved one, a terrible and difficult break-up of a relationship, or a personal and deep betrayal from someone we trusted, may bring us intense sorrow and serious anguish. It takes time to process painful and difficult changes and find a way to manage them. Pain and grief have their own timetables, and how long it takes us to adjust to our new reality is different for every person and every situation. It’s impossible to predict how long it will take until we feel settled again. Nobody wants to suffer for a long time but there are no rules for coping with grief and sadness. We must take things as they come and do our best to continue forward each day. We can always control what we do but we can’t always control how we feel. Recovery will take the time it takes, but no matter how hurt we are or how desperate things may seem, healing will come. Change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever, not even suffering. If we’ve been struggling for a long time, we may feel we should be further down the road, but we are changing a little every day and in time, no matter how long that takes, we can overcome anything. Life is filled with unexpected developments and if we’ve been surprised by a painful and disappointing experience, we can trust that no matter how difficult it is today, we will find our way through. We’re stronger than we think we are and nothing is powerful enough to overcome us. Every blessing is still there for us and we will find peace and happiness again.

Heartbreak comes in many forms. When we’ve been heartbroken, no matter what the circumstances are, we can find our way through in our own way and in our own time. There is no need to rush and we can take all the time necessary until we feel whole again. Nobody knows our deepest sorrows better than we do, and we can move forward one step at a time. Being patient and allowing time to find our footing again will enable us to heal and proceed again with confidence. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and no matter what we’re facing, we have everything we need to prevail.

Some people may try to push us forward in an effort to alleviate our suffering. They may make all kinds of suggestions or give us advice about how to let go and move forward. We can listen to whatever they offer, but we know what we need and can trust ourselves to find our next steps. Pain gives us patience, and we learn how resilient and strong we are as we navigate through it and continue forward. We are powerful and capable, and nothing can hold us down forever. We already have everything we need to prevail and find all the answers.

Today if you’ve been through a serious and painful event, and feel lost and frozen in place, give yourself time to think and rest. There’s no rush to get through. Stand still until you feel ready to move forward again. You are strong and wise, and nothing will overcome you. Trust yourself and take another step forward. Every dream is still there, every blessing is possible, and you will prevail.

Making it Real

22 Jan

There are unlimited things we can accomplish as we go through our lives. Every option is possible and deciding what we want to do is the first step toward achieving it. However, simply defining what we want doesn’t change anything in our lives. Setting a goal doesn’t suddenly create it for us. If we want the change, whatever it is, we’ll have to modify our lives in some way to make it happen. Continuing to do the same things the same way will only allow us to maintain the same lives we’re living now. We can dream about the goals we have in mind and think about them for as long as we like. We can plan and ponder and consider everything necessary to move toward them but until we actually begin to redesign our efforts to accommodate what is required to gain them, nothing will change. Our dreams are reachable and we can make them come true. We can gain every attribute we desire if we’re willing to invest what is necessary to make them real. Nothing is out of reach. We are powerful and capable, and can decide what we want and then change our lives to move us toward success. The lives we dream about are possible. We need only focus and step forward with determination, and the willingness to face any obstacle before us and move past it. There isn’t anything that can hold us in place. We are strong enough to achieve whatever we desire and wise enough to find our way to any goal. The whole world is there for us and we can accomplish anything.

Complications are a normal part of life. No matter what we’re doing or where we’re going chances are some problem will arise that makes moving forward difficult or some obstacle will stand in our way to prevent us from pushing through. A setback isn’t the end of the road but a signal that points us in a new direction. There are countless roads to every destination and if the road we’re on gets blocked we can turn our course and continue forward on a different path.

It’s impossible to see the future and sometimes the goals we set take longer than we planned or turn out to be more difficult than we imagined. We’re in control of our lives and can let go of any objective at any time. We can change our plans but if the goal is still important it doesn’t matter how long it takes or how hard it is to push ahead. Success is always possible and we can accomplish anything we truly desire. We can hold fast to the road ahead and continue forward through anything and find our way. We have unlimited potential and by exercising faith and diligence, can reach any goal we choose and have the lives we want.

Today if you’re thinking about something you want to achieve, plan your way forward and take the first step toward the goal. Be confident and start the journey. You can accomplish anything you desire. You are strong and capable, and will find your way forward. Every dream is possible and with determination and patience you can make them come true. The life you desire most is waiting for you. Step forward and claim it.

All Tied Up

7 Jan

Life is unpredictable and even when we plan well and do everything possible to move forward, sometimes due to circumstance or decisions made by others out of our control, we may be stopped in our tracks. Complications are always a factor and can get in the way and prevent us from advancing. When our hands are tied and there’s nothing we can do to change the situation, the desired goal may have to wait. We can complain about it, bemoan our position and kick against the barriers before us, but that will not help. We may feel better expressing our displeasure but the situation will remain and we’ll have to find a way to cope. No matter where we are in our lives, there are always many things to accomplish. It’s positive to be actively engaged and if the goal we want right now isn’t available, we can step back and review our options. The world is filled with opportunities and the opening provided by the change in our situation is the perfect time to explore them. There are unlimited doors to open and endless possibilities before us. We can change our thinking, redirect our attention, and start something new. In time, it’s likely the original road will open again and we’ll be able to continue toward the previous goal, but in the interim we can take advantage of what’s possible now. Every day is a blessing and even when things go wrong, there is the chance to do something positive. We can adjust when we need to, reroute our way forward, and find success in any endeavor we desire. Every option is possible and nothing is out of reach. Even when the world around us changes we can keep moving forward toward the destinations we want the most and find happiness and peace.

Everyone complains sometimes. It’s natural to express dissatisfaction if things aren’t going the way we want them to and complaining allows us to vent our frustration. But continuing to complain over something we can’t change without doing anything to improve our situation isn’t helpful. We can sit and grumble about what went wrong for as long as we like, and nothing will change. We’re always in control of our lives and when we’re ready can begin toward something new that will recharge us and give us satisfaction. We are never truly stopped. We can always continue moving forward and with patience and determination get the lives we want.

Unexpected changes can be unsettling and if we’re confused, we may need to stand still until we can see everything clearly. Taking time to look around and see where things stand will help clarify what to do next. There will always be another road to travel and another goal to reach. We have everything we need to decide what to do next and where we want to go. Every success is possible and nothing can prevent us from reaching it.

Today if everything has changed and all your plans have gone up in smoke, stand strong and have faith. Success is always possible and there are many options available to you. Decide what you want and begin toward a new goal. You are wise and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and make your dreams come true.

Hanging On

13 Mar

Everything we experience in life goes forward with us. Good times and happy moments, or disappointments and catastrophes, come with us as we move ahead. Whatever we experience becomes part of who we are. How much influence our past has over our lives is up to us. Happy times may give us optimism for what lies ahead, and problems may hold us back from venturing forward. The past lies behind us and no matter how events affected us when they occurred, it’s up to us how much power they have going forward. If we’ve been through a heartbreaking and difficult experience and still feel the sting, we may be unable to let go of the pain enough to find joy. We can hold on tight to disappointment and sorrow and drag it through our lives indefinitely. We may keep the reminders of what went wrong bright in our minds until we have the courage to let them go. Letting go of pain will not diminish what has happened. We can understand how our lives have been impacted, accept the changes that have occurred, and still find our way to happiness. We don’t have to hang onto sorrow any longer than we want to. We can let it go, set it down, and walk away knowing what we’ve learned will help us as we move ahead. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences. Some of them may devastate us and at times we may believe we’ll never be happy again. We can’t stop sorrow from coming but happiness is our responsibility and when we’re ready, we will have it again. Our lives are precious and valuable. No matter what we may face, we can find our way to peace and joy. Every day brings new promise and there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Personal heartbreak is a painful and agonizing experience. If we’ve been betrayed, or lied to, or everything we believed turned out to be false, we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. It’s hard to find our footing when everything we thought was solid turns out to be shifting sand. When we’re slipping around trying to find our way, we can have confidence and trust in our ability to overcome. There isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us in place indefinitely. We know who we are, we know what we want, and we will find our way through.

Intense disappointment and sorrow may make us doubt our personal worth and ability to succeed. We may believe nothing will ever be right again, and we’ll be stuck in misery forever. Nothing in life is permanent and no matter what we’re going through, no matter how fierce it seems right now, it will change. There is no wind strong enough to blow us down. There is no suffering powerful enough to last forever. We have everything we need to step forward and find release. We are in control of our lives and will prevail.

Today if you’ve had a serious disappointment and feel frozen and unable to move, remember how strong and powerful you are. There isn’t anything capable of holding you down. You are wise and strong and have all the confidence you need to overcome anything. Take a step forward toward the light. Great happiness is waiting for you. Everything you need is just ahead. Move toward it and you will succeed.

Blocked Number

30 Mar

Getting a call from a blocked number is like playing one-sided tag. Someone is there to tag us but we can’t return the favor. They are invisible and we can’t call them back. If we block our number before we call someone we can find them but they can’t find us. It’s a control mechanism we may employ to protect our privacy and keep our information secret. While there may be appropriate times to block ourselves before we reach out, often it’s done to keep us apart and separate. It’s a one-sided game. The caller is protected and locked away. We may meet people who are very good at telling us what they want, and defining what works for them but unable to hear us when we express our feelings in return. They know how to ask for their needs but seem unable to hear the needs of others. If we only see ourselves and what we want and only focus on our own road ahead ignoring those around us, it’s like sending out a blocked call. We know where we’re going and we aren’t interested in seeing anything else. It’s the truest form of selfishness. It’s good to look out for ourselves and determine our own way forward and we can make any decisions we like. But if we only see our own narrow road ahead we will miss the opportunities and lessons we may learn by interacting and embracing those around us. We don’t have to block our number to get what we want. We are smart enough and wise enough to be open and still reach our destination.

When one person carries all the cards in any relationship there will be problems. Every successful relationship requires balance. They give a little, and we give a little. If one is always up and the other down, the relationship is destined to fail. There is risk in anything worth pursuing and nothing is stable without balance. If we want a successful relationship in any arena we must let our walls down and be open. We cannot completely protect ourselves with armor and expect to get close to anyone. Shields and blocks are good for keeping an enemy out but if we employ them when we’re trying to build connections we will fail.

It can be unsettling to let others get close to us and know us deeply. When all our doors are open and the light is pouring in we may feel vulnerable and tremulous. Our connections will only be as close as we let them. If we keep ourselves a step back we may have a workable relationship but it will be superficial. Only when we’re brave enough to show our true selves completely will we achieve a deep and satisfying association. The more we give the more we’ll get in return. Our lives are richer when we let others in and we’ll find true happiness when we unblock our connections.

Today if you’ve been keeping yourself a step back and not completely committing to a relationship, think about your options. You can let your walls down and have rich and rewarding connections to those around you. Open up and let others in. Your life will be richer and embellished in positive ways you can’t imagine. Connect with those around you. You have so much to offer and we all want to know you.

The Water is Wide

26 Sep

There are times in our lives when we simply cannot get to our goals alone. Although we accomplish much, there will be moments when the water is too wide to cross by ourselves and we need the help of others to get across. If we are very independent, it may be hard to accept assistance. If we are shy, we may be afraid to ask. If we are arrogant, we may try to do it ourselves even when we know it’s impossible. Getting help when we need it is beneficial. It’s wise to understand our limitations and asking for help doesn’t mean we’re weak or incapable. Nobody can do everything. When we need others to get across and ask for help it shows we are strong enough to accept the situation and work around it. If we want to do it alone we may feel disappointed that we need support and it might be hard to admit we can’t get there on our own. But the goal we’re seeking is the focus. If we can’t get to it alone, working with others will often help us achieve it. We are capable of understanding the big picture and finding a way to succeed even if we can’t do it by ourselves.

Personal success is defined in many ways. Some people prefer to accomplish many things alone and like to fly solo in their endeavors. If they hit a snag they can’t navigate by themselves, instead of including others they may change their plans to get around it. They eventually find their way but it may take longer than if they had asked for the assistance of others. We all have different talents and perspectives. If we allow others to share theirs with us, we often find the answers more quickly. We can embrace the experiences of others and invite them into our journey to navigate the path forward more easily. Listening to many other interpretations of the situation may bring us the answers we’re seeking. We can open up and bring others in and get the help we need.

Competition is a normal part of the human experience. Some of us are more competitive than others and if we need to feel like the winner in every endeavor, we may try to get to our goals before anyone else. There is reward in being first but there is much to be learned by collaborating. If we’re in a situation that stops us and are struggling to find our way through, allowing others to collaborate and share in the victory may help us find our way to success more easily. But if our desire to do it alone supersedes our willingness to allow others in, success may elude us. There is much to be gained by allowing others into our journey. We are capable of doing many things well, and often we won’t need assistance. But when we do, the door is always there for us. Opening it and allowing others in will help us get to the goal we’re seeking. And getting to the goal is the primary objective.

Today if you’ve been struggling with something that has you stumped and aren’t sure how to proceed, ask those around you for their advice and counsel. You may be surprised by what you learn and you’ll find your way to the other side. The water may be wide but by working together you will find your way across. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Get the help you need and you’ll succeed every time.