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Holding the Bag

20 May

We share our lives with lots of other people. Everyone has their own responsibilities and things they must address, and we all have things we continually need to get done. We’re all different and not always on the same playing field. Some of us have more money than others, more opportunities, more influence, more contacts and endless other benefits. We each have specific and unique lives, can control some things, and deal with the rest. When we interact with those around us, we may make commitments to do things, or be somewhere to help or assist in some project or task. If we’re honest when we make the deal and keep our word, generally everything works out fine. But some people don’t value honesty or loyalty, and may say they’ll do something they have no intention of following through on. If we’re the ones they gave their word to and they fail to show, we may be stuck holding the bag. It may be very uncomfortable to have issues we didn’t commit to pushed over onto us because someone else didn’t follow through. If that happens, what we do next is up to us. We can shake our heads, drop everything, and simply walk away, but if that affects others negatively, even though we weren’t initially at fault, it may come back to bite us. We can try to choose what’s best for all involved, but that may require our time and energy. By looking at everything clearly and objectively, we can decide how we want to proceed. We never have to cover for anyone else’s bad decisions, and can make the best choice for each situation. Every answer we need will be there and we can trust ourselves to choose wisely. The decisions of others may complicate our lives from time to time, but we know who we are and can move forward with confidence.

Families are complex. We all have our own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and they may vary greatly even in the same family. If one person struggles with poverty, some may step up to help, and others may not. Each has their own reasons, and despite being in the same family, they may philosophically be very far apart. We can do what we like and make our own decisions, but still be respectful of those whose choices are very different. Few things have only one right answer and there are endless interpretations for everything. By staying true to who we are and honest with those around us, we will feel good about our choices, even if they are different.

Wherever we are, if there are others around us, we may feel pressure to conform to the group. If we make a suggestion they don’t agree with, but it will benefit our situation, we can proceed on our own. We never need permission or agreement to do anything we desire. We know what we want to do and possess everything necessary to make it ours. If we need information, we can find it. If we need help, we can ask for it. There isn’t anything too difficult or complicated for us to manage, and with persistence, focus and determination, we can accomplish whatever we desire.

Today if you’ve been left holding the bag because someone didn’t follow through, decide how you want to proceed. If the goal is important, look at all the possibilities and choose the best road ahead. You are intelligent and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and stand strong. Every single destination is possible and nothing can keep you from success. It’s all there for you. Step forward and claim it.

Tea Leaves

19 May

Every day we make lots of decisions, and each choice for good or bad, changes something. Some things go exactly the way we want them to, but that doesn’t always happen. We are capable of achieving many successes in our lives, but chances are we’re also going to experience some failures. If we’ve taken a wrong turn and fallen hard, and everything has gone haywire, we may struggle to figure out what to do to straighten our course. Nobody is perfect and there is no way to see the end of any road at the beginning. We’re all going to face failure at some point but that will never be the end of the journey. Some people may criticize, pointing out our failures as proof that we will never succeed at anything. They may believe the past will predict the future, but a previous disaster doesn’t mean nothing will ever go right again. Being superstitious, reading tea leaves to see the future, or believing previous mistakes will hold us down forever is just fiction. Like any good book of fiction, once we put it down, it can be forgotten. No matter what’s already happened, we can trust ourselves to do anything we like. Success will always be possible, and with persistence and focus, nothing is out of reach. We can always find the way forward, and achieve any goal. We are more powerful and wiser than we think we are, and can accomplish anything we desire.

Life is a constant process of learning. Everything we do teaches us something, and when things go wrong we learn what doesn’t work. If we learn all we can from each experience, and take that knowledge forward with us, it will increase our ability to understand the world more clearly and see the road ahead. There will always be countless complications and unforeseen developments that take us by surprise and upend our plans. Change is constant, and when the way forward turns or gets blocked, we can step back, look at everything objectively and choose the best options to proceed. Problems may come but that can’t stop us from reaching success. We are intelligent and wise, and will prevail.

Our personal behaviors may be an asset or a liability depending on what we express. If we have a quick temper and are easily angered, it may be harder to see solutions when things go wrong. If we’re vindictive and judgmental, it may be difficult to get agreement and support from those around us. We can pave the road ahead with wisdom and clarity, or complicate it by making choices that hold us back. We are all responsible for our own lives, and the decisions we make will either move us forward, or create obstacles. We know what we want and can do anything we choose. By being wise and thoughtful and doing what is needed to move ahead, every success will be possible.

Today if you think a past failure will prevent you from gaining success, stop and think again. Learn everything you can from what’s already happened and step forward with confidence. The past can never predict the future, and every goal is within reach. Decide what you want the most and begin the journey to make it yours. You are strong and wise, and nothing is out of reach. Every happiness is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Another Let Down

8 Apr

Everyone makes their own decisions and we’re all accountable for each choice we make. If we make commitments and honor them, people will learn to trust us. If we give our word and then just forget about it because we really didn’t mean it, others will understand we are not reliable. Life is complicated and we will face all kinds of dicey and uncomfortable situations. If we’re pressed against something we don’t think we can manage, we might say anything just to escape. We may agree to do what someone else wants, or say we’ll take care of the issue, when in fact we have no intention of doing either. We may focus on simply looking good for the moment and getting away, and push off any responsibility we have for following through. We can do anything we like, but one thing is certain – every decision we make will have a result. Dodging our accountability doesn’t eliminate it. We own every choice, good or bad. If we can’t do something, or don’t understand how to proceed, instead of making up stories to get through, it’s far better to be completely honest about what’s happening. Nobody knows everything and we’re all going to be in situations that confound us and tangle the way forward. If we’re open about our true feelings and refuse to agree to something we cannot do, we can stand strong and step forward with confidence. Our lives are what we make them. By being truthful and clear, we can pave the road ahead and reach success.

It’s good to trust others, but we may face a situation when that trust is abused and broken. Maybe someone makes a date with us, but then fails to show. They may have a very convincing excuse, and we may forgive them and try again. If they stand us up a second time, it will be harder to believe them when they try to explain. Some people don’t care how their decisions affect others. They may make all kinds of commitments they never intend to keep, and if we care for them, their irresponsibility may hurt us deeply. We know who we are and what we want. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can step away and go in a new direction

There is an old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn be twice, shame on me.” Continually trusting someone who constantly lets us down will never take us where we want to go. There is no way to change anyone else or control their decisions. Once we see who they are and how they act, it’s up to us to decide what our relationship with them will be. We never have to stay in any relationship that brings pain or discomfort. There will always be another road and a new way forward. By trusting ourselves, and choosing what’s best for us, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been let down again by someone, think about what you want the most. You are more precious and powerful than you imagine, and deserve complete happiness. There is nothing strong enough to hold you in place. Choose the roads that will lead you to success and step forward confident and sure. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself. The best is just ahead.

Ants

2 Feb

Nobody gets a perfect life where nothing goes wrong and at some point, we will all face challenges and problems of some kind. Often they are mere annoyances we can resolve pretty quickly and move on. We’re intelligent and able to find answers when we need them and can usually navigate through whatever comes. But life is uncertain and nobody knows what will happen next. We may experience a heart pounding, crushing development that leaves us standing frozen and unsure. Ants can carry up to twenty times their body weight. If we had to do that, it would be close to 4,000 pounds. If we really worked at it, we might be able to get there, but most of us would never be able to carry that much. Physical weight is one thing, but emotional weight can feel just as heavy and when something terrible happens, can seem impossible to bear. We may not have to actually lift something tangible, but we may be completely overwhelmed by grief, confusion, and loss. The unexpected death of a loved one, being suddenly abandoned by a lover, the destruction of our personal finances, and endless other painful things may happen. We don’t have control over everything that will come, but we are capable of controlling what we do when they arrive. At first we may be paralyzed and unable to process the situation, or we may jump up and scream, and refuse to believe what’s happened. Nothing we do can change the facts, and after the initial shock and despair, we can begin to decide what to do next. We are far stronger than we think we are, and even if our worst dreams come, we will find our way through. If we need to stop and think, we can. If we need advice, we can ask for it. All the answers will be there for us when we’re ready to see them and start again. Life is complex and at times very difficult. But there isn’t anything that can hold us down forever, or keep us from moving forward. By trusting ourselves, and taking things one step at a time, we can get through anything and find relief. There will always be a way ahead, and with faith and determination, we will find it.

When we’re young and experience our first love, and things eventually end, we may believe we’ll never love anyone else again. We may think we’ll never get over losing the love of our lives. But time passes, we develop and mature, and everything changes. We find someone new, and move on. In the midst of heartbreak and disappointment, it may seem we’ll never get through. We may suffer greatly and believe the pain will be permanent. But life is all about change, and no matter what we’re going through today, tomorrow will be different. We can hold onto our courage, and trust ourselves that no matter what’s gone wrong, we will prevail.

Some people love drama and hold onto difficult situations, revisiting them again and again, milking them for every emotion. We can hold onto disappointment for as long as we like, but until we set it down and let it go, we will remain exactly where we are. There are endless destinations waiting for us and every success is possible, but we must be willing to leave the past behind and step forward to gain them. We deserve complete happiness, and when we’re ready to begin again, we can make it ours.

Today if you’re suffering through a painful disappointment and feel overwhelmed and unable to cope, trust yourself. You have already overcome many difficult situations and you will find your way through. You are far wiser and more capable than you realize, and nothing can hold you down forever. Stand strong, and be confident. The answers are there and you will find them. Every destination is waiting, and they will be yours.

Clearing It Away

16 Nov

Our lives are busy and there is often a lot that needs our attention. We have relationships to nurture, jobs that need our time, chores to take care of, people to consider, and the list goes on and on. Every experience we have teaches us something, and they may also leave us with unfinished business. Unresolved issues will linger and hang onto us until we face them, and do what is needed to take care of them. We can try to avoid thinking about them but like static electricity, they cling to us and continually remind us they are there. There may be unresolved feelings from a former relationship, or conversations we need to have in an unsettled situation. Whatever the issue, carrying it around will never bring us freedom or peace. Until we clear it away, we may feel burdened and get stuck unable to move ahead. It’s not easy to open painful doors and look inside, but the only way to let go of whatever is holding us down is to bring it all out in the open and address every unfinished aspect. We have everything we need to face anything we must, and already possess all the courage and wisdom necessary to find our way through. By being completely honest with ourselves and those around us, and taking the time to work through any issue, we will find great release and satisfaction. All the answers we need will be there for us, and we will find the road ahead. Success is waiting, and by looking at everything clearly, and stepping forward with confidence, we will reach it.

There is an old saying, “Out of sight, out of mind.” That works with some things but simply looking away from trouble will never fix it. Hiding from something we don’t want to face changes nothing. No matter how long we look away and pretend things are different than they are, the problem we’re avoiding will wait until we turn back around. There is no need to run from trouble. We have all the courage and wisdom necessary to solve whatever comes. By trusting ourselves, and taking control, we can solve any complication and find the road ahead.

We may face an issue that is so complex and difficult we struggle to get through. Everyone has different experiences and chances are someone around us will have information and ideas that will assist us in finding the answers we need. By reaching out to others, and being open about what’s happening, we can get the help needed, and reach success. Nothing can hold us in place, and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been holding onto unresolved feelings and conflict, stop and look at everything openly and objectively. Let go of any unfinished business and clear away any unsettled issues. Close the books on the past, and start again. You are amazing and capable, and bring great light to the world. Trust yourself and be confident. There is great success just ahead, and nothing will keep you from it.