Tag Archives: Temper

Tea Leaves

19 May

Every day we make lots of decisions, and each choice for good or bad, changes something. Some things go exactly the way we want them to, but that doesn’t always happen. We are capable of achieving many successes in our lives, but chances are we’re also going to experience some failures. If we’ve taken a wrong turn and fallen hard, and everything has gone haywire, we may struggle to figure out what to do to straighten our course. Nobody is perfect and there is no way to see the end of any road at the beginning. We’re all going to face failure at some point but that will never be the end of the journey. Some people may criticize, pointing out our failures as proof that we will never succeed at anything. They may believe the past will predict the future, but a previous disaster doesn’t mean nothing will ever go right again. Being superstitious, reading tea leaves to see the future, or believing previous mistakes will hold us down forever is just fiction. Like any good book of fiction, once we put it down, it can be forgotten. No matter what’s already happened, we can trust ourselves to do anything we like. Success will always be possible, and with persistence and focus, nothing is out of reach. We can always find the way forward, and achieve any goal. We are more powerful and wiser than we think we are, and can accomplish anything we desire.

Life is a constant process of learning. Everything we do teaches us something, and when things go wrong we learn what doesn’t work. If we learn all we can from each experience, and take that knowledge forward with us, it will increase our ability to understand the world more clearly and see the road ahead. There will always be countless complications and unforeseen developments that take us by surprise and upend our plans. Change is constant, and when the way forward turns or gets blocked, we can step back, look at everything objectively and choose the best options to proceed. Problems may come but that can’t stop us from reaching success. We are intelligent and wise, and will prevail.

Our personal behaviors may be an asset or a liability depending on what we express. If we have a quick temper and are easily angered, it may be harder to see solutions when things go wrong. If we’re vindictive and judgmental, it may be difficult to get agreement and support from those around us. We can pave the road ahead with wisdom and clarity, or complicate it by making choices that hold us back. We are all responsible for our own lives, and the decisions we make will either move us forward, or create obstacles. We know what we want and can do anything we choose. By being wise and thoughtful and doing what is needed to move ahead, every success will be possible.

Today if you think a past failure will prevent you from gaining success, stop and think again. Learn everything you can from what’s already happened and step forward with confidence. The past can never predict the future, and every goal is within reach. Decide what you want the most and begin the journey to make it yours. You are strong and wise, and nothing is out of reach. Every happiness is there for you, and you will reach them all.

On the Lookout

17 Mar

“Never to suffer is never to have been blessed.”   Edgar Allan Poe

We all have ups and downs in our lives.  Some days are wonderful, some days are merely okay, and some days try us with difficulty and trouble.  When we’re struggling with complications and problems and our lives are twisted up in confusion we may feel overcome with stress and anxiety as we try to find a way through.  When terrible times come upon us we may feel beset, completely surrounded by trouble, and uncertain we can manage.  But no matter what we’re going through there is always something beneficial for us.   No matter how hard the trial, or how difficult the problem, as we navigate it there will be something positive waiting for us.  We may not see it at first but if we are on the lookout for the one good thing, the one piece that works, or the one bit of information that is helpful, we will find it.  It’s always there and is the blessing to help us through.  It may not be evident at first, and it may not be easy to see but it is there and will lift us and help us through.  We find our true courage when we face difficult trials.  We learn how to solve problems by solving problems.  No life is without difficulty but with each challenge comes a blessing.  Looking for it, finding it and embracing it, will give us added fortitude and power.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and nothing we can’t solve.  Every trial we face makes us stronger and more powerful.  We are invincible and unwavering in courage.

When we are children and things go wrong we may lose our temper, cry, scream or run from the situation.  As we grow and face disappointments along the way we have the opportunity to gain tools that will help us mature and process problems effectively.  If we choose not to face our problems and instead try to hide or push them off onto someone else, or make excuses instead of addressing them, the opportunity for growth is lost.  We can embrace every difficulty that comes to us, take it apart piece by piece and with each step forward find resolution. As we solve each problem our understanding of how life works will deepen and we’ll become stronger and more capable.

Learning to face life bravely takes experience.  If we never have problems we cannot understand how to manage them or overcome them.  Every experience – good and bad – teaches us something and everything we learn works for our benefit.  Even in our darkest hours when we aren’t sure we will survive there is a blessing that will help us.  We can keep our eyes open and actively look for the good in every situation.  When we do, our experience will be embellished and we will have added courage and confidence that we will prevail.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well.

Today if you’re facing a big problem and you feel beset and overwhelmed, look for the one thing that is going right.  It’s there for you.  Embrace it and let it lift you and help you along.  You can solve anything and you are strong enough and brave enough to prevail.  Success is always there for you.  You will find the answers and you will win.

Sticks and Stones

27 Aug

Name calling is something most of us have done at one time or another. We get frustrated and angry, and before we know it an insulting and derogatory name or label directed at someone else flies out of our mouths. It often happens before we even think about it. We say it, we vent, and it’s over. Unfortunately, once it’s said it doesn’t go away, and it’s there forever. We can’t take it back. If we make a habit of calling people names, we may negatively impact our relationships. The old saying that “Sticks and stones may break my bones, but names will never hurt me” isn’t exactly true. Being called a name is hurtful. It stings and can cause a lot of damage, especially if the other person is someone close to us.

If someone calls us something uncomplimentary, we may throw the insult back at them by calling them a name in return. That’s fair right? They started it, and we’re going to end it. But that’s not the whole story. Our negative response, if it’s strong enough, may well end the conversation, but the damage may be long lasting. There is another way. If someone we’re interacting with gets angry and calls us something derogatory, we can choose to end the encounter. We don’t have to continue the conversation, and we can instead walk away and wait to talk with them until after things have calmed down. It takes self-control not to jump into the fray and exchange barb for barb, but we can do it. If we walk away and end the discussion before the situation becomes more intense, we have a better shot at preserving the relationship.

Sometimes we get angry and are so furious we are the ones to call someone else something awful. We may regret it the moment it passes our lips, or we may regret it later when we think things through. But what’s done is done, and there’s no changing it. If we pay attention we can recognize when we’re reaching a breaking point, and stop the discussion until everyone settles down. If we do, we may prevent situations we’ll regret. It’s always easier to protect a relationship before the damage is done than it is to patch things up after there’s been a destructive complication.

Today if you’ve been called a name by someone close to you, you may be hurt and think of leaving the relationship. Try to step back and give yourself time to think. When the dust has settled and you’re calm again, you’ll make the best decision going forward. If you’re the one who’s lost their temper and said things you regret, as soon as possible talk with the others involved and apologize for anything that was inappropriate. Our relationships are important. They take time to build. It can be hard to fix things when we’ve hurt them, but it’s harder to lose them altogether. Life is a two way street. When we get into the wrong lane, we need to adjust and correct our course. You can do that. Today, choose the high road. Be the one who makes the situation right, and brings things back to center.