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Walking Away

21 Dec

We make all kinds of connections and build lots of relationships as we go through our lives. Some are important and we hold them close, and others are created out of necessity or circumstance. Every relationship has an impact on us in some way. They may bring us great happiness and satisfaction, help us achieve some goal or destination, or simply alleviate our loneliness. When we have healthy, strong connections that embellish our lives, they may give us confidence and contentment as we move forward. But not all relationships are beneficial. If we are bound to someone else through conflict, anger, or dysfunction, our lives may be gravely impacted, and we may struggle to move ahead. We all know when we’re in bad situations, and we know what needs to be done to move away from them. But we may feel paralyzed and stuck because we are unsure of ourselves or afraid that leaving will be worse than staying. Change can be frightening, but one thing is certain. Our lives will never improve if we continue to remain in destructive situations. We are entitled to full and complete happiness and are valuable and worth every blessing we desire. The road ahead may be uncertain, but we are intelligent and can find our way to any destination we desire. We are never frozen in place. We can walk away from anything holding us back. There is great power and courage within us and nothing, absolutely nothing, can keep us from anything we desire. By trusting ourselves and choosing happiness, we can have the lives we want the most. Every single dream is possible, and with courage and determination, we can make them ours.

People say a lot of things to get what they want. If someone wants us in their life, they may tell us we need them to be happy, and without them we’ll fail. Our happiness is our own responsibility. Nobody can provide it for us despite what they may say. We already know what we want to do and where we want to go, and by achieving our own personal goals, happiness will follow. We are intelligent and wise, and completely capable of designing the lives we want. Nothing can keep us from any goal we desire, and every dream can be ours.

Routine and history are powerful motivators. If we’ve been in an unhappy situation for a long time, we may feel it’s too late to change. That is never true, and we can do anything we want at any time. When we’re ready to move forward, we can step in a new direction, leaving what doesn’t work behind. The whole world is there for us, and every road is waiting. We can go anywhere and do anything. There is sufficient courage and wisdom within us already to guide us to the destinations that will fulfill and bring us incredible happiness. By moving forward, with our eyes focused on the goal, we will succeed.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t working and you want a change, be confident and move in a new direction. Every single dream you desire is waiting for you. You have everything you need to reach them, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and trust yourself. You are amazing and can achieve complete happiness.

Trading It Away

19 May

Our lives belong to us and we’re responsible for every decision we make. Everyone wants to be happy, and we try hard to do things that will bring it to us. There are a lot of influences around us all the time, and we might get into a situation where someone we care about pulls us away from our own road. If we love them and want a close relationship with them, they may have a lot of power over our choices. They may ask us to turn away from our own goals in order to get closer to what they want. It’s hard to resist the pull of intense personal feelings, and we may sacrifice our own journey to give them what they want. We can do anything we like, but our lives are important. If we trade away our own personal choices for someone else’s, we’ll never find complete happiness. It’s good to give of ourselves, but if we give so much, we lose our own lives, we will never feel satisfied or fulfilled. We’re entitled to our own personal happiness, and it isn’t selfish to hold onto what we need to gain it. We can serve those around us and still maintain our own autonomy. The roads we want to travel and the gifts we have to offer are unique to us and can never be given by anyone else. We are one of a kind, and everything we do changes the world in some way. If we give our power to someone else, the whole world will lose our amazing influence. We know what we want and where we want to go. We can serve others, and still hold onto our own personal journey. Every day is a precious gift, and with focus and wisdom, we can live our lives with great success, and reach complete happiness.

If someone wants something from us, they may push all our personal buttons and convince us that doing what they ask will make us happy and bring us closer together. If we love them, we might let go of our dreams to do as they ask. We may ignore our personal lives, and sacrifice our own goals to comply with their requests. However, it’s the responsibility of everyone to find their own happiness. We are not responsible for providing it for anyone else. We can offer our time and still hold fast to our own desires and destinations. We deserve the lives we want the most, and we can control our decisions in ways that help us achieve them.

We have a lot of responsibilities all the time. Our jobs, our families, our personal stuff, and everything that must be taken care of to keep things moving forward. If one area requires too much time and attention, it’s likely the other areas will suffer. We can’t control what others do, but we can control how we manage our time. There will always be a way to take care of things, and still have time for ourselves. We never need to trade everything away. We are valuable and important, and can make decisions that bring us the lives we want the most.

Today if someone close to you wants more of your time and attention than you’re comfortable with, remember you are in control. Your dreams and desires are important. Give what you can and keep moving forward. Every destination you desire is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and step forward toward your dreams. They are there for you, and you will reach them.

Tool Belt

2 Apr

We do many different things every day, and respond to endless activities, events, and eventualities as they come along. Everything we experience teaches us something new and we carry all the information and skills we gain forward with us. Like wearing a big tool belt, we add to the things we know and the attributes that make us who we are. A regular tool belt might have wrenches, hammers, screwdrivers and saws, or many other tools. Our personal one holds the many different traits and talents we possess, specific to particular tasks. If we only have a hammer, we are limited to pounding on things, or prying things up. If we need to cut something, screw something in, or turn something tight we’ll be out of luck. Just like the tools on a regular belt, it’s important for us to develop and magnify all our talents and abilities so they’ll be ready for us when we need them. If we keep all our qualities and virtues available, we’ll be confident and capable as we move forward. However, if we limit our exposure to new situations, and keep our lives close, we may set unused abilities aside. It’s fine to close the drawer on skills and behaviors we aren’t using for a while, but if we ignore them indefinitely, we may struggle when the need for them arises. Sometimes, the information and abilities we need will be critical. If we’re suddenly facing a serious challenge, we may find the very skills we need to succeed are the ones we let go dormant. We all have gifts and talents that help us navigate through our lives and manage situations that arise. We are incredibly capable and nothing is beyond our abilities. We can keep our personal tools ready and available to help us at any time, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

Everyone has responsibilities and tasks to accomplish every day. When we’re busy, it’s easy to forget about time for ourselves. We lose the time we need to exercise and stay fit, give up time to rest and relax, and forget about the personal projects we desire. We can be proactive and remember to value ourselves as much as everything else we’re doing. Nothing is more important than our health and well-being, and with careful consideration, we can make a plan that allows us to complete what’s important and still find time for ourselves.

We’re all individuals and have things we want to learn and master. Learning new skills will embellish us and the confidence that comes from mastering something new refreshes us and deepens personal satisfaction. Every skill and ability we add will enrich us and bring us greater understanding and confidence as we move forward. There are unlimited things to do and accomplish, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been busy attending to responsibilities and tasks, and neglected your own personal goals, remember how important you are. There isn’t anyone in all of creation exactly like you. You are an incredible gift to us all. Decide what you want to do, and then begin developing all the tools you need to get there. Every destination is possible, and nothing is too far for you to reach. Step forward with confidence. You are talented and capable, and can make all your dreams come true.

Hear What I Say

10 Feb

We communicate constantly in many different ways. Although most of our communication is non-verbal, what we say counts a lot. Good communication skills can open many doors for us and when we’re open and state exactly what we want and how we feel, those around us will understand us more clearly. What we say not only communicates to those around us, but has a great impact on us as well. If we’re feeling awful and express that, our words may reinforce our feelings. Each time we tell others or ourselves out loud how badly we feel, we are listening. Our verbal expressions tell us again what’s going on. If we continually talk about how awful things are, or that we’ll never get through whatever is happening, we are teaching ourselves to believe it. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about our feelings – we should – but we need to remember that each negative statement not only communicates how we feel to others, but tells us as well. We hear everything we say. Repetition secures our memory, and if what we’re learning is we’re unhappy, we won’t likely forget it. Nobody lives in nirvana and there will be times when our lives don’t go the way we want them to. Bad things will happen and we will struggle. As we’re navigating through a hard time, we can pay attention to the messages we give ourselves and remember how strong and capable we are. We can trust ourselves to overcome whatever we’re facing and find peace and happiness once again. If we say things that boost us up, the road will be easier. There isn’t anything we can’t handle. We can be confident and clear that no matter where the road goes, we will prevail.

How we phrase our concerns can have an impact on how they affect us. When we’re facing a difficult challenge, we can say we’ll never manage it and it’s impossible. Telling ourselves we can’t handle a situation may construct roadblocks ahead and keep us from finding solutions. It’s impossible to look for answers when we’re focused on failing. No matter how hard the issue is, we are smart enough to figure it out. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we have all the tools we need to do anything.

Even when things are going wrong, we can have faith in our abilities and the future ahead. Terrible things may happen, we might fall down, and everything we thought was real may disintegrate. But we will still be here and nothing can hold us in place forever. The sky is never going to fall. Darkness will lift, and the sun will rise again. We are incredibly capable and nothing can keep us from success. We already have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing a very hard challenge and feel overwhelmed, remember how many obstacles you’ve already conquered. Remind yourself that you are powerful and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You are amazing and can accomplish incredible things. Be confident and trust yourself. Nothing can hold you down, and you will succeed.

Measuring Up

17 Jan

Everything we do tells the world who we are. We’re all individuals with our own ideas about life, and what we should do. There is no one perfect interpretation regarding how life should be accomplished. Everyone gets to decide for themselves and design their lives any way they choose. Most people seem to accept that premise, but some may feel they are wiser and know more about us than we know about ourselves. They may try to instruct us on how we should proceed and tell us what our choices should be. The world is filled with suggestions and promptings to do this, or that, go here or there. We can certainly follow anyone else’s lead if we want to, but nobody can possibly know us better than we know ourselves. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we desire. We always know what we want the most, and can achieve any goal or destination we like. We decide how our lives will go, and never need measure up to anyone else’s requirements. There will always be unlimited ideas and recommendations, suggestions and instructions. We can listen to all of them, and then choose the path that works best for us. We can always change, but we are amazing and unique, just as we are. The whole world is enhanced because we are here. People may have their standards and choices, and we can respect them, but our lives are our responsibility and we can live them our way. There will never be anyone else like us. The gifts we give, and the contributions we make are exclusive to us. Letting go of who we really are, and changing to fit some norm, would rob the world of our unique offering. We are beneficial to the whole creation exactly as we are.

We are often bombarded with the opinions of others. There are endless messages that we should be more beautiful, taller, thinner, richer, more affluent, etc. Most of these are sales pitches and a lot of them are very successful. We may wish we had some attribute we don’t possess, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t perfect as we are. Trying to measure up to the world’s ideas is pointless and unproductive. When we choose to do our best in every situation, and honor our unique personalities, we will find great happiness and satisfaction.

Accepting and loving ourselves is important. It’s impossible to be completely happy if we don’t think we’re good enough, or don’t like ourselves. Personal criticism can be harsh and unrealistic. We aren’t perfect, and although perfection may be the goal, it’s unlikely we’ll achieve it. We can change anything we like but our idiosyncrasies and personal expressions make us unique. We bring variety and spice to a world that would be bland and boring without us. We are important and valuable, just as we are, and the whole world is enriched because we are here.

Today if you feel like you aren’t good enough for something or someone, remember how precious and unique you are. You are amazing, and more valuable than you can imagine. Be confident. Your spark and light augment and enhance everything, and nobody could ever take your place. We’re all blessed because you are here.