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Trading It Away

19 May

Our lives belong to us and we’re responsible for every decision we make. Everyone wants to be happy, and we try hard to do things that will bring it to us. There are a lot of influences around us all the time, and we might get into a situation where someone we care about pulls us away from our own road. If we love them and want a close relationship with them, they may have a lot of power over our choices. They may ask us to turn away from our own goals in order to get closer to what they want. It’s hard to resist the pull of intense personal feelings, and we may sacrifice our own journey to give them what they want. We can do anything we like, but our lives are important. If we trade away our own personal choices for someone else’s, we’ll never find complete happiness. It’s good to give of ourselves, but if we give so much, we lose our own lives, we will never feel satisfied or fulfilled. We’re entitled to our own personal happiness, and it isn’t selfish to hold onto what we need to gain it. We can serve those around us and still maintain our own autonomy. The roads we want to travel and the gifts we have to offer are unique to us and can never be given by anyone else. We are one of a kind, and everything we do changes the world in some way. If we give our power to someone else, the whole world will lose our amazing influence. We know what we want and where we want to go. We can serve others, and still hold onto our own personal journey. Every day is a precious gift, and with focus and wisdom, we can live our lives with great success, and reach complete happiness.

If someone wants something from us, they may push all our personal buttons and convince us that doing what they ask will make us happy and bring us closer together. If we love them, we might let go of our dreams to do as they ask. We may ignore our personal lives, and sacrifice our own goals to comply with their requests. However, it’s the responsibility of everyone to find their own happiness. We are not responsible for providing it for anyone else. We can offer our time and still hold fast to our own desires and destinations. We deserve the lives we want the most, and we can control our decisions in ways that help us achieve them.

We have a lot of responsibilities all the time. Our jobs, our families, our personal stuff, and everything that must be taken care of to keep things moving forward. If one area requires too much time and attention, it’s likely the other areas will suffer. We can’t control what others do, but we can control how we manage our time. There will always be a way to take care of things, and still have time for ourselves. We never need to trade everything away. We are valuable and important, and can make decisions that bring us the lives we want the most.

Today if someone close to you wants more of your time and attention than you’re comfortable with, remember you are in control. Your dreams and desires are important. Give what you can and keep moving forward. Every destination you desire is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and step forward toward your dreams. They are there for you, and you will reach them.

Tool Belt

2 Apr

We do many different things every day, and respond to endless activities, events, and eventualities as they come along. Everything we experience teaches us something new and we carry all the information and skills we gain forward with us. Like wearing a big tool belt, we add to the things we know and the attributes that make us who we are. A regular tool belt might have wrenches, hammers, screwdrivers and saws, or many other tools. Our personal one holds the many different traits and talents we possess, specific to particular tasks. If we only have a hammer, we are limited to pounding on things, or prying things up. If we need to cut something, screw something in, or turn something tight we’ll be out of luck. Just like the tools on a regular belt, it’s important for us to develop and magnify all our talents and abilities so they’ll be ready for us when we need them. If we keep all our qualities and virtues available, we’ll be confident and capable as we move forward. However, if we limit our exposure to new situations, and keep our lives close, we may set unused abilities aside. It’s fine to close the drawer on skills and behaviors we aren’t using for a while, but if we ignore them indefinitely, we may struggle when the need for them arises. Sometimes, the information and abilities we need will be critical. If we’re suddenly facing a serious challenge, we may find the very skills we need to succeed are the ones we let go dormant. We all have gifts and talents that help us navigate through our lives and manage situations that arise. We are incredibly capable and nothing is beyond our abilities. We can keep our personal tools ready and available to help us at any time, and move forward with clarity and confidence.

Everyone has responsibilities and tasks to accomplish every day. When we’re busy, it’s easy to forget about time for ourselves. We lose the time we need to exercise and stay fit, give up time to rest and relax, and forget about the personal projects we desire. We can be proactive and remember to value ourselves as much as everything else we’re doing. Nothing is more important than our health and well-being, and with careful consideration, we can make a plan that allows us to complete what’s important and still find time for ourselves.

We’re all individuals and have things we want to learn and master. Learning new skills will embellish us and the confidence that comes from mastering something new refreshes us and deepens personal satisfaction. Every skill and ability we add will enrich us and bring us greater understanding and confidence as we move forward. There are unlimited things to do and accomplish, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been busy attending to responsibilities and tasks, and neglected your own personal goals, remember how important you are. There isn’t anyone in all of creation exactly like you. You are an incredible gift to us all. Decide what you want to do, and then begin developing all the tools you need to get there. Every destination is possible, and nothing is too far for you to reach. Step forward with confidence. You are talented and capable, and can make all your dreams come true.

Hear What I Say

10 Feb

We communicate constantly in many different ways. Although most of our communication is non-verbal, what we say counts a lot. Good communication skills can open many doors for us and when we’re open and state exactly what we want and how we feel, those around us will understand us more clearly. What we say not only communicates to those around us, but has a great impact on us as well. If we’re feeling awful and express that, our words may reinforce our feelings. Each time we tell others or ourselves out loud how badly we feel, we are listening. Our verbal expressions tell us again what’s going on. If we continually talk about how awful things are, or that we’ll never get through whatever is happening, we are teaching ourselves to believe it. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about our feelings – we should – but we need to remember that each negative statement not only communicates how we feel to others, but tells us as well. We hear everything we say. Repetition secures our memory, and if what we’re learning is we’re unhappy, we won’t likely forget it. Nobody lives in nirvana and there will be times when our lives don’t go the way we want them to. Bad things will happen and we will struggle. As we’re navigating through a hard time, we can pay attention to the messages we give ourselves and remember how strong and capable we are. We can trust ourselves to overcome whatever we’re facing and find peace and happiness once again. If we say things that boost us up, the road will be easier. There isn’t anything we can’t handle. We can be confident and clear that no matter where the road goes, we will prevail.

How we phrase our concerns can have an impact on how they affect us. When we’re facing a difficult challenge, we can say we’ll never manage it and it’s impossible. Telling ourselves we can’t handle a situation may construct roadblocks ahead and keep us from finding solutions. It’s impossible to look for answers when we’re focused on failing. No matter how hard the issue is, we are smart enough to figure it out. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we have all the tools we need to do anything.

Even when things are going wrong, we can have faith in our abilities and the future ahead. Terrible things may happen, we might fall down, and everything we thought was real may disintegrate. But we will still be here and nothing can hold us in place forever. The sky is never going to fall. Darkness will lift, and the sun will rise again. We are incredibly capable and nothing can keep us from success. We already have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing a very hard challenge and feel overwhelmed, remember how many obstacles you’ve already conquered. Remind yourself that you are powerful and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You are amazing and can accomplish incredible things. Be confident and trust yourself. Nothing can hold you down, and you will succeed.

Measuring Up

17 Jan

Everything we do tells the world who we are. We’re all individuals with our own ideas about life, and what we should do. There is no one perfect interpretation regarding how life should be accomplished. Everyone gets to decide for themselves and design their lives any way they choose. Most people seem to accept that premise, but some may feel they are wiser and know more about us than we know about ourselves. They may try to instruct us on how we should proceed and tell us what our choices should be. The world is filled with suggestions and promptings to do this, or that, go here or there. We can certainly follow anyone else’s lead if we want to, but nobody can possibly know us better than we know ourselves. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we desire. We always know what we want the most, and can achieve any goal or destination we like. We decide how our lives will go, and never need measure up to anyone else’s requirements. There will always be unlimited ideas and recommendations, suggestions and instructions. We can listen to all of them, and then choose the path that works best for us. We can always change, but we are amazing and unique, just as we are. The whole world is enhanced because we are here. People may have their standards and choices, and we can respect them, but our lives are our responsibility and we can live them our way. There will never be anyone else like us. The gifts we give, and the contributions we make are exclusive to us. Letting go of who we really are, and changing to fit some norm, would rob the world of our unique offering. We are beneficial to the whole creation exactly as we are.

We are often bombarded with the opinions of others. There are endless messages that we should be more beautiful, taller, thinner, richer, more affluent, etc. Most of these are sales pitches and a lot of them are very successful. We may wish we had some attribute we don’t possess, but that doesn’t mean we aren’t perfect as we are. Trying to measure up to the world’s ideas is pointless and unproductive. When we choose to do our best in every situation, and honor our unique personalities, we will find great happiness and satisfaction.

Accepting and loving ourselves is important. It’s impossible to be completely happy if we don’t think we’re good enough, or don’t like ourselves. Personal criticism can be harsh and unrealistic. We aren’t perfect, and although perfection may be the goal, it’s unlikely we’ll achieve it. We can change anything we like but our idiosyncrasies and personal expressions make us unique. We bring variety and spice to a world that would be bland and boring without us. We are important and valuable, just as we are, and the whole world is enriched because we are here.

Today if you feel like you aren’t good enough for something or someone, remember how precious and unique you are. You are amazing, and more valuable than you can imagine. Be confident. Your spark and light augment and enhance everything, and nobody could ever take your place. We’re all blessed because you are here.

Super Hero

14 Jan

Everyone is different, and we each have our own specific talents and abilities. What is difficult for one, is easy for another, and everyone expresses a completely unique package of gifts. Just like the super heroes we’ve heard about, we all have an ability that is powerful and exclusive to us. It’s easy to identify amazing musical talents, or artistic skills that enhance and beautify the world around us. But there are lots of other gifts that aren’t as obvious, but still impressive and incredible. Maybe we’re extremely patient, or have the ability to understand others easily, or perhaps we’re emotionally strong and stable, and able to endure more than others. We might be very wise and insightful, or ambitious and intelligent. The scope of capabilities and capacities is unlimited. We all have something special but nobody can tell us what our super power is. We must uncover and discover it ourselves. Everyone gets something special and nobody is exempt. We all have something unique and powerful within us, and once we identify what our particular personal gifts are, we can use them to move ourselves forward and help those around us. The world is filled with billions of people and no two are exactly the same. Each person brings something different and individual that embellishes everything around them. Using the talents and powers we’ve been given to compliment and strengthen those around us will bring us great satisfaction and personal joy. We are an asset to the world and when we share our gifts with others, everyone benefits. The whole world is better because we are here. We are powerful and capable of bringing light to every situation.

When we see the profound abilities others possess, we may feel we are lacking. People may do impressive things that bring great attention and honor, and when they excel and we don’t share their particular talents, we may shrink and think we have nothing to offer. Every single person changes the world in some way. We don’t have to be loud and obvious to be effective in creating a positive change. The gifts we have are remarkable and make us who we are. We can be confident that our very presence compliments and enriches the world around us.

Most of us will never be famous, or Olympic stars, or invent something that changes the whole world. Our lives may seem ordinary and plain when compared to those who do amazing and incredible feats of daring or intellect. However, every single life is important and essential to our entire creation. Every day we have the chance to do something that helps someone else or makes things easier or better for those around us. We have great gifts to offer, and with each step we take and each decision we make, we can bring great joy and happiness to ourselves and everyone around us.

Today if you feel small and that your contribution means little, remember there has never been, and never will be anyone else exactly like you. You are unique and precious. When you share your gifts with us, we all benefit. Be confident. You are changing the world for good, and we are all blessed because you are here.

Planning for Success

2 Jan

We all have dreams and ideas about things we want, places we want to go, and what we want to accomplish. The options are unlimited, and we can spend all our time dreaming of the life we desire, hoping it will magically come to us. We can wish that somehow, some way, things would morph into what we want most of all, and imagine what it would be like if our lives made us happier and we felt more fulfilled. While it’s good to have dreams and goals for the future, simply thinking about them and wondering what it would be like to achieve them will change nothing. We can wish for change all we like, but wishes are simply dreams without a plan. If we want the lives we’re dreaming about we can have them, but they won’t just come to us because we desire them. We must determine what it will take to make them ours, and then begin stepping forward toward them. We can do anything if we’re willing to do what is necessary to accomplish it. We’re smart enough and courageous enough to reach any goal we want. Once we decide where we want to go, we can make a plan and move forward. If we’re happy standing still and remaining where we are, it’s easy to do. Routine and familiarity may make us feel settled and safe, but will never bring us the rewards and excitement of a life filled with new experiences and growth. Our lives belong solely to us and we can design them any way we like. If we want something more, we can reach for it. Nothing can hold us in place when we’re ready to move. Every option is possible and we have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Sometimes things don’t work out the way we want them to. If we aren’t happy, we can sit and bemoan the situation for as long as we like. We can complain about where we are and become complacent in our discontent. We may gripe because this or that didn’t happen, or we didn’t get the opportunities we feel we deserved. Life is unpredictable and things won’t always go our way, but that does not freeze us in place. We are more powerful than we may realize and can do anything we desire.

Chocolate ice cream is good. It’s really good, but it’s not the only flavor that’s delicious. There are endless other combinations and concoctions that are as delicious and enjoyable, but if all we ever get is chocolate, we’ll never have the chance to try them. There are unlimited and endless things we can do with our lives. If we stick with what we know and reach no further than where we’re comfortable, we may miss the chance to experience something wonderful and enriching. There are endless roads to travel and every opportunity is available to us. We really can have the lives we dream about. We just need to plan, and then, go get them.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something new but haven’t moved from where you are, trust yourself and step forward. The whole world is there for you and every dream is possible. You are amazing and incredibly capable. Dream big. You deserve every success and by planning and moving forward, you will reach it. Nothing is too far or too difficult. You can have the life you want, and find complete happiness.

What We Feel

20 Dec

People come in and out of our lives constantly. We have families, friends, acquaintances and people we simply notice in passing. There are billions of people in the world and each has a unique perspective about what’s going on and where we’re headed. We may be attracted to someone’s ideas, or how they express themselves, and as we interact with them, our feelings for them may grow and increase. We may begin to fall in love and expect the other person is having the same experience. People fall in love all the time, and when those feelings are reciprocated, our connection becomes deeper. It’s wonderful to find someone who loves us and with whom we can share our lives. But sometimes things may go another way. Our tender feelings might be strong but they will not create the same experience in someone else. We may discover we’re on completely different pages. It’s very painful to realize the one we love does not feel the same way about us. If that happens, everything will change. No matter how much we want to be close, if our feelings aren’t returned, we’ll have to chart a different course going forward. There is no way to make someone love us, no matter what we do, or how hard we try. It’s either there, or it isn’t. We are lovable and amazing but if the feelings aren’t there, we’ll have to find a new way to continue. It’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves, and we can decide what’s best moving forward. We deserve to be completely happy, and can decide what works best for us. Unrequited love can be very painful, but we have a lot going for us, and with patience and wisdom, we’ll find the right way ahead. We can do what is needed to find balance, and ensure our happiness.

A one-way love affair will never bring us complete satisfaction. If we’re in a situation where we’re in love by ourselves, we may feel completely devastated, and alone. We can recognize our feelings and honor them, and then create a plan that takes us to a new situation and helps us move toward a new goal. By focusing on our own choices, we will begin to heal and find true happiness. We are intelligent and highly capable of doing anything we desire. We can accept the way things are, and then step forward with confidence.

When we suffer a great loss, we can take the time we need to grieve. Every painful process will be resolved in time, but every experience is different, and there is no way to know how much time that will take. We are strong and wise, and will find our footing again. We have so much potential and by focusing on where we want to go and what we want to do, will create the lives we want the most.

Today if you feel unloved or unappreciated, remember how incredible and valuable you are. You are a gift to the whole world. Your light shines on all of us, and we are blessed because you are here. Every dream you desire is within reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and then step forward with confidence and clarity. There is great happiness ahead, and nothing can keep you from success.