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Fries and Ketchup

24 Nov

At Thanksgiving time we may take a moment to reflect on our lives and where we are. We all take a lot for granted. We get used to having a place to sleep, clothes, food, and many other enhancements that make our lives comfortable and enjoyable. As we’re rushing from one activity to another, working our jobs, tending to our chores and trying to get everything done, it’s hard to think about all the blessings we have. Of course, nobody gets a perfect life where everything is rainbows and sunshine all the time, and we’re all going to suffer from time to time. We may go through horrible, intensely difficult days that try us and push us to our limit, but those times won’t last forever. Even if we fail, even if we lose all our earthly possessions, even if everyone we know turns against us, there will still be something to be thankful for. We’re still here, and we’re still breathing. Taking the time to be grateful for whatever we have, helps us tune into where we really are, and what we’re doing. If we’re unhappy, we can change. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. Everything is possible and we are stronger and more powerful than we think we are. There are so many possibilities, and every destination is there for us. By remembering how much we have to offer, and how precious and rare we are, we can decide how we want to proceed.  There isn’t anyone else like us.  We are a gift to the whole world. We can be grateful for all we have, and move toward the lives we want the most.

When things are going wrong and it seems nothing we do works out, we can reset our thinking by focusing on the small gifts around us.  If we’re having lunch, we can be grateful for fries and ketchup.  They aren’t that valuable, are available everywhere, but when we want them, bring us great pleasure. It’s a small thing to focus on but if something that small can bring us happiness, how great will be our joy when we think about all the other blessings in our lives.  

Some people are never happy. They find problems in every situation, and complain constantly. If we’re happy, they may try to bring us down so we can share their misery. Our lives belong to us and every decision is ours to make, and we never have to embrace any negative attitude. Our journey is ours to design, and we can disconnect from any relationship that keeps us from reaching true happiness. There is greatness in us all. By being grateful for everything in our lives, we will find enormous comfort and satisfaction. 

Today, remember how amazing you are and how much you bring to the world. You have gifts to offer nobody else can give. You bring great light to everyone around you, and have so much to offer.  Focus on all the blessings in your life, and be grateful for every experience.  Every single dream you desire is within your reach.  Be sure, be confident, and be happy.  Every success is there for you and you will reach them all.

Letting It Fall

19 Nov

Life is complex and we’ll go through many different experiences.  Some things are predictable and easy, but we may face difficult and painful situations we don’t believe we can survive.  There may be serious hardship and disappointment, and our hearts may get broken. There is no way to know what tomorrow will bring, and even if we try to plan well, and are careful in our decisions, things may change and our world may get turned upside down.  Getting hurt isn’t easy and if we must endure intense pain, we may build a protective barrier around our feelings.  We may erect an invisible shield of armor to keep others from getting close enough to hurt us. We may keep them at arms length and try not to get too attached. Doing something to prevent getting hurt seems like a good idea, but if nobody can get close to us, we will never be able to build strong, lasting relationships.  It takes courage to let others really know us and share our most intimate thoughts and ideas.  Nobody wants to suffer, but we are intelligent and have all the courage and wisdom we need to understand who we can trust. If we let the armor fall a little, and allow someone to get close, we will open the possibility for deep personal interaction and find joy in building a close connection. We have so much to offer, and bring such light to the world. We can share that light with those around us, and open the door to great happiness.

Few things hurt more intensely than a broken heart. If we’ve been hurt by someone we love, and the pain has been overwhelming, we may swear off close relationships indefinitely.  We may decide we’ll never fall in love again, and do things that will prevent us from getting too close.  We can choose to live our lives alone, but the connections of others bring great depth and richness to our lives. We can learn from what has passed, and take that knowledge forward to help us build a confident, happy life. By using wisdom and trusting ourselves, we can let others in, and find lasting contentment.

When trust has been broken, it’s very difficult to build back up. If someone has hurt us deeply, we may struggle to trust them again. We’re all human and nobody is perfect. People make mistakes, sometimes serious mistakes.  Their decisions belong to them, and need not affect the choices we make. We know who we are and what we want, and can be confident that no matter what has happened in the past, we will reach great success moving forward.

Today if you’ve been building armor around yourself to protect you from pain or heartbreak, trust yourself. You are more powerful than you imagine, and nothing can hold you down forever. Stand strong and look ahead with confidence. You have all the courage and wisdom to face whatever may come. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage, and there is great happiness ahead.

Letting Them

25 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world. Most of them are good and try to do their best. They aren’t hateful, don’t kick dogs or take candy from small children. But there are all kinds of people in the world, and not everyone will be nice, kind, moral, decent, or law abiding. We will likely meet someone at some point who is mean to us, or treats us with disrespect or worse. We’re in control of our lives and decide who we will have relationships with and what we will tolerate. Nobody wants to be abused, but we might find ourselves in a situation where due to circumstances around us, or those in authority over us, we have let others ridicule, demean, or hurt us intentionally. Maybe they are a family member we don’t feel we can disobey or stand up to. Or a boss who has the power to wreck our lives. Maybe they are someone we have a relationship with that is hurtful but we can’t seem to disengage from. There are endless scenarios, and one thing is certain, we are the only ones who can stop others from hurting us. Someone else may step in from time to time and defend us, but generally it’s all on us. Others will hurt us for as long as we let them. No matter what we’ve been told or led to believe, we are worthy of respect and valuable to the world. Our presence here brings great light and goodness to the world, and nobody else can offer the gifts we have to give. We deserve complete happiness, and with courage and authority, we can make it ours. Nobody is more valuable than we are. If we’re being abused, we can stand strong, be confident, and speak up. Our future is ours to design, and we can step away from any situation that isn’t working, and move in a new direction at any time. We are more powerful than we believe, and every blessing is there for us.

Some people like to put others down. They may criticize our appearance, the way we talk, the decisions we’ve made or endless other things. If someone doesn’t like something we’re doing, that is their problem to deal with. We don’t need the approval of others to do anything we desire, and we don’t need permission to begin. Like the stars in the sky, we are unique and have our own light to share. By moving away from those who hold us back and take control of our lives, we can reach any goal or destination, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Family relationships can be very powerful, and when they are toxic can bring great frustration and grief into our lives. We only have control over our own decisions, and cannot prevent others from doing or saying things that hurt us. But we decide how we’ll manage what they do. We never have to stand still and take abuse. We can speak up and set whatever necessary boundaries we need to ensure our comfort and protection. We are strong and capable, and can have the lives we desire.

Today if someone has been hurting you and making you feel small, remember how unique and amazing you are. There isn’t anyone else like you in all of creation. You bring great blessings to the world, and deserve the very best of everything. Be confident and take control. Every single dream is waiting for you, and you will reach them all.

Logical

18 May

As we go through our lives, we decide what we’ll accomplish and where we’ll go. As we progress, the road will likely wind around and bend as it takes us to many places along the way. There’s a lot to see as we move forward, and we can alter our plans at any time and take any detours we like to experience everything we’re interested in. Every road has a destination, but as we look ahead, the next logical step forward may not be exactly what we want. Just because a road continues in one direction, doesn’t mean we have to continue with it. We can adjust our trajectory and change lanes at any time. We are constantly learning and growing and as we move forward and see more of the scenery and options possible, we may decide on a new plan. We can never see the end of the road from the beginning, and even if we’re sure we’re headed in the right direction when we start out, our focus may change mid-stream, and if we want, we can re-route the way forward. We’re always in control of our decisions and can do anything we like. We may start out headed east, and then decide that going north will give us more of what we desire. Nothing is written in stone and we can change anything at any time. Logic is important, but logic is part of reasoning and has nothing to do with our feelings. Sometimes our feelings change about what we want, and we may decide to do something different. There is no one perfect way to live life. There are unlimited roads to travel and endless places to go. We can alter our plans at any time and move in a different direction whenever we’re ready. Starting out going one way does not require us to keep going the same way. Every destination is possible and as we move forward, we can adjust our course at any time to make sure we end up exactly where we want to go. All goals are there for us, and we will reach success.

Making a good, solid plan for moving ahead is helpful. However, we don’t live in a vacuum, and life is complex. There are often unexpected developments that may get in our way or block the road ahead. We can’t read the future or predict what others will do. When problems develop, we don’t have to give up and walk away. We are smart enough to see everything clearly and find the answers we need to keep moving forward.

Mathematical equations are solved by following clear and concise rules. We can try to achieve our personal goals by applying the same type of objective logic, and sometimes that will work. But we aren’t robots and it’s impossible to completely divorce ourselves from our feelings. We are human beings and feel some things deeply. Listening to everything, how we think and how we feel, will help us make the best decisions and reach success.

Today if the plans you’ve made are perfect on paper, but aren’t working out exactly as you hoped, think about how you want to proceed. Every goal is possible, but you may need to modify your direction to reach them. There are many roads to every destination. You are intelligent and wise, and every success is possible. Trust yourself and step forward. Success is just ahead, and you will reach it.

Making It Ours

14 May

Strong, healthy relationships embellish our lives. It’s good to build connections with others and share our lives with them, and when we do, we may find great comfort and satisfaction in their company. Most people are kind and welcoming, will value our friendship and association, and treat us with respect. But there are all kinds of people in the world, and we may get involved with someone who is unpredictable, unreliable, or dysfunctional. If we build relationships with them, and spend a lot of time interacting with them, they may create trouble and bring havoc into our lives. If we care for them, we may find ourselves excusing their bad behavior and even taking the blame for them when they act out. Making their issues ours will never fix the problem or bring us happiness. When we first get to know someone and they let us down, we may excuse it because we understand they’re struggling. As time goes by and they fail to follow through again and again, we may continue to give them additional chances and try to be patient. It’s noble to be patient with others but it’s not appropriate to constantly excuse bad behavior if it hurts us. We are valuable and should be cherished and treated with the utmost care and respect. If someone close to us continually breaks promises and leads us along time and again, it is appropriate to step away. Nothing can be gained by being constantly let down and hurt. We can be polite and kind, and let others own their problems by removing their negative influence from our lives. Dysfunctional relationships never work. We deserve complete happiness and can make decisions that will bring it to us. By valuing ourselves, we can step forward with confidence and choose the best roads moving forward. Happiness is there for us, and we have everything we need to reach it.

When we’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it may be hard to walk away even if we’re unhappy. We may feel the weight of history, friends and family may encourage us to tough it out and stay, and we may not want to hurt the other person’s feelings. A lot of things may come into play, but there are no valid reasons to stay in a relationship that isn’t working. Nothing is worth the price of our happiness. Changing direction and starting over isn’t simple, but we are smart enough and strong enough to change anything at any time.

Nobody knows the details of any relationship, but the parties involved. What people see on the outside is just a small representation of the whole picture. Our lives belong to us and we don’t need to feel compelled to explain any decision we make. We know what we want and have everything necessary to reach any goal. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine and can do anything we desire. By trusting ourselves, and doing what is necessary to be happy, we will find great comfort and satisfaction.

Today if you’re not happy in your current situation, make a plan to change. The future is yours to design, and you deserve the best of everything. Be confident and trust yourself. Every single blessing is there for you. You are amazing and powerful, and every dream is waiting. Step forward on the road that will make them yours.