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Letting Them

25 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world. Most of them are good and try to do their best. They aren’t hateful, don’t kick dogs or take candy from small children. But there are all kinds of people in the world, and not everyone will be nice, kind, moral, decent, or law abiding. We will likely meet someone at some point who is mean to us, or treats us with disrespect or worse. We’re in control of our lives and decide who we will have relationships with and what we will tolerate. Nobody wants to be abused, but we might find ourselves in a situation where due to circumstances around us, or those in authority over us, we have let others ridicule, demean, or hurt us intentionally. Maybe they are a family member we don’t feel we can disobey or stand up to. Or a boss who has the power to wreck our lives. Maybe they are someone we have a relationship with that is hurtful but we can’t seem to disengage from. There are endless scenarios, and one thing is certain, we are the only ones who can stop others from hurting us. Someone else may step in from time to time and defend us, but generally it’s all on us. Others will hurt us for as long as we let them. No matter what we’ve been told or led to believe, we are worthy of respect and valuable to the world. Our presence here brings great light and goodness to the world, and nobody else can offer the gifts we have to give. We deserve complete happiness, and with courage and authority, we can make it ours. Nobody is more valuable than we are. If we’re being abused, we can stand strong, be confident, and speak up. Our future is ours to design, and we can step away from any situation that isn’t working, and move in a new direction at any time. We are more powerful than we believe, and every blessing is there for us.

Some people like to put others down. They may criticize our appearance, the way we talk, the decisions we’ve made or endless other things. If someone doesn’t like something we’re doing, that is their problem to deal with. We don’t need the approval of others to do anything we desire, and we don’t need permission to begin. Like the stars in the sky, we are unique and have our own light to share. By moving away from those who hold us back and take control of our lives, we can reach any goal or destination, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Family relationships can be very powerful, and when they are toxic can bring great frustration and grief into our lives. We only have control over our own decisions, and cannot prevent others from doing or saying things that hurt us. But we decide how we’ll manage what they do. We never have to stand still and take abuse. We can speak up and set whatever necessary boundaries we need to ensure our comfort and protection. We are strong and capable, and can have the lives we desire.

Today if someone has been hurting you and making you feel small, remember how unique and amazing you are. There isn’t anyone else like you in all of creation. You bring great blessings to the world, and deserve the very best of everything. Be confident and take control. Every single dream is waiting for you, and you will reach them all.

Logical

18 May

As we go through our lives, we decide what we’ll accomplish and where we’ll go. As we progress, the road will likely wind around and bend as it takes us to many places along the way. There’s a lot to see as we move forward, and we can alter our plans at any time and take any detours we like to experience everything we’re interested in. Every road has a destination, but as we look ahead, the next logical step forward may not be exactly what we want. Just because a road continues in one direction, doesn’t mean we have to continue with it. We can adjust our trajectory and change lanes at any time. We are constantly learning and growing and as we move forward and see more of the scenery and options possible, we may decide on a new plan. We can never see the end of the road from the beginning, and even if we’re sure we’re headed in the right direction when we start out, our focus may change mid-stream, and if we want, we can re-route the way forward. We’re always in control of our decisions and can do anything we like. We may start out headed east, and then decide that going north will give us more of what we desire. Nothing is written in stone and we can change anything at any time. Logic is important, but logic is part of reasoning and has nothing to do with our feelings. Sometimes our feelings change about what we want, and we may decide to do something different. There is no one perfect way to live life. There are unlimited roads to travel and endless places to go. We can alter our plans at any time and move in a different direction whenever we’re ready. Starting out going one way does not require us to keep going the same way. Every destination is possible and as we move forward, we can adjust our course at any time to make sure we end up exactly where we want to go. All goals are there for us, and we will reach success.

Making a good, solid plan for moving ahead is helpful. However, we don’t live in a vacuum, and life is complex. There are often unexpected developments that may get in our way or block the road ahead. We can’t read the future or predict what others will do. When problems develop, we don’t have to give up and walk away. We are smart enough to see everything clearly and find the answers we need to keep moving forward.

Mathematical equations are solved by following clear and concise rules. We can try to achieve our personal goals by applying the same type of objective logic, and sometimes that will work. But we aren’t robots and it’s impossible to completely divorce ourselves from our feelings. We are human beings and feel some things deeply. Listening to everything, how we think and how we feel, will help us make the best decisions and reach success.

Today if the plans you’ve made are perfect on paper, but aren’t working out exactly as you hoped, think about how you want to proceed. Every goal is possible, but you may need to modify your direction to reach them. There are many roads to every destination. You are intelligent and wise, and every success is possible. Trust yourself and step forward. Success is just ahead, and you will reach it.

Making It Ours

14 May

Strong, healthy relationships embellish our lives. It’s good to build connections with others and share our lives with them, and when we do, we may find great comfort and satisfaction in their company. Most people are kind and welcoming, will value our friendship and association, and treat us with respect. But there are all kinds of people in the world, and we may get involved with someone who is unpredictable, unreliable, or dysfunctional. If we build relationships with them, and spend a lot of time interacting with them, they may create trouble and bring havoc into our lives. If we care for them, we may find ourselves excusing their bad behavior and even taking the blame for them when they act out. Making their issues ours will never fix the problem or bring us happiness. When we first get to know someone and they let us down, we may excuse it because we understand they’re struggling. As time goes by and they fail to follow through again and again, we may continue to give them additional chances and try to be patient. It’s noble to be patient with others but it’s not appropriate to constantly excuse bad behavior if it hurts us. We are valuable and should be cherished and treated with the utmost care and respect. If someone close to us continually breaks promises and leads us along time and again, it is appropriate to step away. Nothing can be gained by being constantly let down and hurt. We can be polite and kind, and let others own their problems by removing their negative influence from our lives. Dysfunctional relationships never work. We deserve complete happiness and can make decisions that will bring it to us. By valuing ourselves, we can step forward with confidence and choose the best roads moving forward. Happiness is there for us, and we have everything we need to reach it.

When we’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it may be hard to walk away even if we’re unhappy. We may feel the weight of history, friends and family may encourage us to tough it out and stay, and we may not want to hurt the other person’s feelings. A lot of things may come into play, but there are no valid reasons to stay in a relationship that isn’t working. Nothing is worth the price of our happiness. Changing direction and starting over isn’t simple, but we are smart enough and strong enough to change anything at any time.

Nobody knows the details of any relationship, but the parties involved. What people see on the outside is just a small representation of the whole picture. Our lives belong to us and we don’t need to feel compelled to explain any decision we make. We know what we want and have everything necessary to reach any goal. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine and can do anything we desire. By trusting ourselves, and doing what is necessary to be happy, we will find great comfort and satisfaction.

Today if you’re not happy in your current situation, make a plan to change. The future is yours to design, and you deserve the best of everything. Be confident and trust yourself. Every single blessing is there for you. You are amazing and powerful, and every dream is waiting. Step forward on the road that will make them yours.

Just Good Enough

10 May

When we want something badly, we may do whatever it takes to get it. We might spend all the money we have, call in every favor and push ourselves to the limit. Strong desires can trigger extreme measures, and if after all we’ve done, we succeed, we may feel it was all worth it. But those situations are few and far between. Most of the time, the things we desire won’t require such herculean efforts. When things are easily accessible, we might put them off. If we’re happy where we are and achieving them will require us to change something or they are inconvenient, we may set them aside. After all, everything is going okay, why test the waters to see what’s possible? We may decide we don’t need excellence and can be happy with just good enough. It’s like getting a C in class. It’s a passing grade that probably won’t take a lot of effort, and if we’re willing to settle, it’ll be fine. Settling for what’s easy will never make our dreams come true. A mediocre life will never take us anywhere we really want to go. We can coast through and just follow along, but if we want the lives we dream of, and reach every destination that captures our interest, we must be willing to do more. We are capable of achieving far more than we think we can, and every single dream is possible. If we step forward and open new doors, we may accomplish things we never thought we could. We’ll never know how far we can go if we stay in the same place. The world is huge, and there are unlimited options waiting for us. We can do anything and go anywhere. We just have to decide what we want, and then do what is needed to make it ours. Life is filled with opportunities. Our lives can be filled with every desired goal and as we achieve them, we’ll find complete and fulfilling happiness.

Routines are comfortable. As we repeat the same behaviors, we pretty much know what to expect and how things will go. It’s like walking on a treadmill. Our lives are advancing but the scenery never changes. Being busy doesn’t mean we’re moving forward. Our lives are ours to design and if we want to stay in the same place we can, but it’s impossible to learn anything new by doing the same things over and over again. We can trust ourselves to step onto a new path and begin a new journey. As we move ahead, we’ll find great reward and refreshment by opening new doors.

Every experience we have changes us in some way. We learn as we go, and each time we overcome an obstacle we get stronger and wiser. New destinations can be intimidating, and we may be hesitant to step in a new direction. But we are strong and capable, and there isn’t anything we can’t manage. There is no tangle we can’t unravel, and with determination and clarity, we can go anywhere and do anything. When we’re ready, we can create the lives we dream about.

Today, if you’ve been staying in the same lane doing the same things, but are ready to try something new, make a plan and take the first step forward. The world is filled with opportunities and destinations just waiting for you. Be confident and trust yourself. Every dream is possible, and you will make them yours.

Legacy

12 Mar

As we go through our lives, we impact the world around us. Everything we do and every action changes something. We may think nobody is noticing, but our influence may be more far reaching than we imagine. One rude comment may affect someone for a long time, and one smile may change an entire day for someone else. Who we are and what we do are our legacy to the world. What kind of legacy we build is completely up to us. If we are negative and pushy, storming through our days with no consideration for others, what we leave behind will be unpleasant and disagreeable. If we are kind and open, cheerful, and willing to help, everything we touch and everyone we interact with will be embellished. There are others around us most of the time and our influence will affect their lives in some way. No man is an island – we’re all in this together. We’re all sharing the same space. We are always in control of our lives and our actions tell those around us who we are. Whether our impact is positive or negative is our choice. They say misery loves company and when we’re angry or upset, if we want to, we can spread it all around and make everyone else miserable. Or we can exercise self-control, and value those around us enough to spare them the gory details of our disappointment. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like, but everything we do makes a mark somewhere. There is greatness in all of us, but we’re all at different places on the spectrum. We may be exactly where we want to be, or feel we’re lagging behind in some way. If there are things we want to change, we can do what is necessary to change them. Everything is possible and we can become the people we most want to be. We all have gifts to offer the world. How we offer them and how we express ourselves will determine what we leave behind.

Everyone has bad days where nothing seems to go well, and we struggle just to keep going. Life is filled with challenges and trials. If we focus on all the negative and get bogged down with depression and despair, it’s harder to keep going than if we see things more objectively. Crap happens, and it happens to everyone. We will always have whatever we need to prevail, and by looking forward and trusting ourselves, can manage anything we must with clarity and optimism.

There is great nobility in all of us. We have the potential to change the world for the better. Nobody can offer the gifts we have to give, and every interaction gives us the opportunity to improve something and strengthen those around us. Whatever we give, we will receive in return. Sharing a light in the darkness will enhance and extend the light we have to give. We have so much to offer, and with patience and clarity, we can bring goodness and excellence to everyone.

Today, remember the influence you have over the world around you. We’re all affected by the choices you make. Decide to bring joy whenever you can and share goodness and light. We’re all blessed because you are here. Show us your best and you will find great satisfaction and happiness.