Tag Archives: Heartbreak

Taking Time

27 Jun

When we’ve been through a seriously painful event, we may suffer greatly. The death of a loved one, a terrible and difficult break-up of a relationship, or a personal and deep betrayal from someone we trusted, may bring us intense sorrow and serious anguish. It takes time to process painful and difficult changes and find a way to manage them. Pain and grief have their own timetables, and how long it takes us to adjust to our new reality is different for every person and every situation. It’s impossible to predict how long it will take until we feel settled again. Nobody wants to suffer for a long time but there are no rules for coping with grief and sadness. We must take things as they come and do our best to continue forward each day. We can always control what we do but we can’t always control how we feel. Recovery will take the time it takes, but no matter how hurt we are or how desperate things may seem, healing will come. Change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever, not even suffering. If we’ve been struggling for a long time, we may feel we should be further down the road, but we are changing a little every day and in time, no matter how long that takes, we can overcome anything. Life is filled with unexpected developments and if we’ve been surprised by a painful and disappointing experience, we can trust that no matter how difficult it is today, we will find our way through. We’re stronger than we think we are and nothing is powerful enough to overcome us. Every blessing is still there for us and we will find peace and happiness again.

Heartbreak comes in many forms. When we’ve been heartbroken, no matter what the circumstances are, we can find our way through in our own way and in our own time. There is no need to rush and we can take all the time necessary until we feel whole again. Nobody knows our deepest sorrows better than we do, and we can move forward one step at a time. Being patient and allowing time to find our footing again will enable us to heal and proceed again with confidence. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and no matter what we’re facing, we have everything we need to prevail.

Some people may try to push us forward in an effort to alleviate our suffering. They may make all kinds of suggestions or give us advice about how to let go and move forward. We can listen to whatever they offer, but we know what we need and can trust ourselves to find our next steps. Pain gives us patience, and we learn how resilient and strong we are as we navigate through it and continue forward. We are powerful and capable, and nothing can hold us down forever. We already have everything we need to prevail and find all the answers.

Today if you’ve been through a serious and painful event, and feel lost and frozen in place, give yourself time to think and rest. There’s no rush to get through. Stand still until you feel ready to move forward again. You are strong and wise, and nothing will overcome you. Trust yourself and take another step forward. Every dream is still there, every blessing is possible, and you will prevail.

Looking Ahead

9 Nov

There are all kinds of people in the world and as we go through our days we’ll come in contact with many different kinds of personalities.  Some will be welcoming and fun, others may try our patience, and we may even interact with some truly mean and evil people.  Often we can tell by their actions what someone is like, but people are smart and may hide traits they don’t want others to see.  If they’re good at hiding, we may become their friends and spend a lot of time with them before we really see them for who they are.  They may suddenly turn on us and display behaviors we were previously unaware of.  We may be left confused and stunned trying to figure out what’s happening.  People can do anything they want and sometimes their choices hurt us.  They may blame us for something we haven’t done, judge us for a simple mistake, sabotage us around others or even do things to keep us from moving forward.  If we can’t reason with them or get them to listen to us, we may not be able to resolve the issue.  We all make our own decisions and if someone has decided we’re the enemy no matter what we do, we may have to accept things as they are and walk away.  People change when it’s important to them and if our relationship is important enough, those involved will do what is necessary to make it work.  Not every connection will be positive and we may need to let go from time to time.  We are worthwhile and if we aren’t valued can choose another path.  We deserve every happiness and can do what is needed to ensure we get it.

Our perceptions form our reality.  If we see things clearly and openly, often those perceptions will be accurate.  But we are influenced by the experiences we’ve had, and if they’ve been negative and hurtful, our perception may affected.  Jumping to conclusions based on emotion may color our understanding further and may make things seem very different than they really are.  We can take our time and set impressions aside until we understand everything clearly.
If we’re open to listening to everyone’s opinions and withhold judgement until we get all the facts, we’ll have a better chance of seeing the situation as it really is.

Misunderstandings happen and often we can correct them and clear the air, but sometimes the link gets broken and nothing we do will fix it.  It’s heartbreaking when someone we’re close to shuts the door on our relationship and we may feel great sadness.  But life is constantly changing and what is broken today may mend in time.  We can be kind and patient, and hope for the future.  Nobody knows what tomorrow will bring and we can be hopeful that in time we’ll reach a positive outcome.  We are strong and valiant, and can navigate through any complication.  We know what we want and will find success.

Today if you’ve been hurt by someone and are unable to change the situation, remember misunderstandings don’t define you.  You are worthwhile and valuable.  The whole world is better because you are here.  Be patient and kind, and show us your true self.  Set the best example you can.  Success will come and you will prevail.

The Delete Key

3 Jun

In this day of computers, anything we write or create may be erased with the push of a button.  It’s very convenient if we change our plans or make a mistake.  All we have to do is press the delete key and all evidence of the activity disappears.  It’s like magic. Sometimes we might wish we had a delete key for our lives.  Maybe we do something we regret, or say something we didn’t mean, or get involved in a situation that brings us sorrow.  It would be great when those things happen if we could just delete the experience and move on.  It would be such a blessing to be able to remove all reminders of the event and completely erase it from our lives.  Sadly that is never an option.  In this life, once a card is played it’s there forever.  Our actions, good or bad, become part of our irrevocable history.  We all make mistakes.  They can’t be avoided and they teach us the lessons we need to learn to be happy and successful.  But it doesn’t feel good when we’re in the midst of them and have to push through whatever complications they bring us.  Although we may wish for the delete key in our lives, if we can remember that each experience teaches us something of value we can move forward with confidence despite what has happened in the past.

As we go through our lives we enjoy happy experiences and hope they’ll stay with us.  We endure the hard ones as well, and pray they’ll end quickly.  But we learn the most from the hard times as they mold us and teach us about who we are and what we want.  Often as we look back at the things we’ve been through we see the times that were the hardest taught us the most valuable lessons.  It’s hard to be grateful for difficulty and nobody prays for trouble in their lives.  But the trouble is what teaches us.  We learn good things from the easy times and enjoy them when we have them.  The hard times aren’t usually enjoyable and even if we wish we could magically make them disappear, give us endurance and help us find pleasure and joy even when things are going wrong.  Those gifts brings a richness to our lives that easy living could never give us.  Everyone wants to live a strong, rich life and struggling helps us achieve that.

We all have some regrets.  Perhaps we have deep regrets for decisions we’ve made, but we all have the opportunity to learn from those experiences so we don’t have to repeat them.  The sorrow of heartbreak helps us appreciate those who love us.  The remorse for dishonesty reminds us how important it is to be true.  The sting of betrayal teaches us how to be loyal.  Every problem brings a blessing.  If we can remember what we’re learning when we’re struggling we won’t yearn for the delete key.  We can embrace whatever comes to us – good or bad – learn from it and go forward with more understanding and greater confidence.  People often use the phrase, “It’s all good,” when describing an experience.  In our lives that’s true – it’s all good in one way or another.

Today if you wish you could go back and erase something, and remove it as though it never happened, stop and look at how much you learned from the experience.  You have come so far and each day takes you closer to where you want to be.  Embrace everything you’re going through.  You’re becoming the person you most want to be with each step you take.  And that person is the perfect reflection of you.