Tag Archives: Heartbreak

Screen Door

10 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life with few complications and problems. We can try to make decisions that will prevent things from going wrong and try to manipulate our lives so we don’t get tangled up in situations we don’t want. We can avoid heights to prevent falling, wear gloves to avoid germs, be more cautious in every activity to try to dodge any possible pain and suffering, and do everything we can think of to control what happens next. We can do everything possible to stay within the lines, and still, even with all our doings, life is going to happen. We can control what we do, but that’s where it ends. We have no control over anything else. The rain is going to fall, things will go wrong, and we’re going to get enmeshed in trouble from time to time. It’s the nature of life. Trying to control our future or stop anything we can’t control is like trying to hold back a flood with a screen door. Doors are designed to keep things out or keep things in, but a screen door will never hold back a flood. The water will come rushing through even if we lock it tight and lean against it. Nobody gets a charmed life with only sunshine and paved roads. We’re all going to face challenges, trials, problems, crap we never imagined and countless other annoying and difficult situations. We may suffer greatly, get our hearts crushed, and feel completely destroyed. Hard times may come but no matter what happens, we will survive. We may have to stop for a time to find our way through, but there isn’t anything strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely. By trusting ourselves, making good decisions, and standing with confidence, we can unravel any issue and find resolution. All our dreams are possible, and we have everything we need to reach every destination. Complete success is there for us, and we will make it ours.

It might seem that if we keep our lives small, do the same things every day and don’t try anything new, we’ll be protected from problems and trouble. Avoiding risks may keep us from getting hurt in some ways, but if we never take a chance on something new, we’ll never know what we’re capable of accomplishing. Doing the same things will only take us to the same places. The whole world is there for us and every possibility awaits. We are stronger and more capable than we imagine and can reach anything we desire.

Traveling a new road can be daunting. We don’t know what lies around the next bend or when the road will turn. It can be unsettling to step into the unknown, but foreign territory is only foreign until we make it ours. As we take each step forward, the way ahead will open and we’ll see more. If we keep going, our courage will increase and we’ll overcome every obstacle with confidence and clarity. We have so much to offer, and there is so much we can do. We can step forward, sure of success, and as we conquer one road after another, we’ll find great excitement and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been trying to keep everything in line and controlled, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing will come that you cannot manage. You are amazing and stronger than you imagine. Be confident and step forward with courage. Every destination is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Look Away

7 Dec

We share the planet with billions of other people.  They are all around us, coming and going, connecting or just passing by.  We love some of them, tolerate others and try to ignore the ones that make our lives difficult and complicated.  Some connections are easy and flow with little stress or anxiety, but others can be complex, fraught with intensity and hard to manage.  We may feel uncomfortable if we must deal with someone who is temperamental or bossy, or an old lover who broke our heart comes around, and we might do everything we can to avoid their attention.  We may try to blend into the background, keep our head down and look away, anything to prevent them from approaching us.  If that works, we may breathe a sigh of relief that we have averted any connection with them.  Nobody wants to deal with difficult people or situations, but there is no way to hide forever.  The very person we definitely don’t want to run into may show up unexpectedly, catch us off guard, and we may suddenly find ourselves face to face with them.  At that moment, it will be up to us how we handle what happens next.  We can shrink and try to disappear, which will never work, or we can stand firm and trust ourselves to find the best way through.  We already have every bit of courage and wisdom we need to navigate any difficult situation.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine.  Nothing is too hard for us to get through, and with patience and grace, we will find our way.

Every experience we have teaches us something.  When our experiences are good, we gain greater confidence and helpful knowledge that embellishes us and helps pave the road ahead.  But hard times come to all of us, and when we go through something painful and destructive, it may leave a lasting mark on us.  We may lose our trust in others, doubt ourselves, or be afraid of what will happen next.  There is no way to change the past, but there will always be a way to move forward.  We don’t have to hold onto what hurts us forever.  We can look at everything objectively and find ways to let go and move ahead.  Every destination is still there for us and every success is still possible.

Problems rarely solve themselves, and if we’ve left something unresolved because it was just too painful to look at it, it will remain.  Time cannot fix what’s been left unattended.  Trouble becomes heavier as it waits, reminders will arise, and eventually we’ll have to face the inevitable.  It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is or how tangled it has become.  We can find the answers we need, and when we’re ready, can do what is needed to settle the issue once and for all, and move on.  

Today if you’ve been trying to avoid a situation or someone difficult, remember how strong and powerful you are.  You are perfectly capable of managing anything you must and there is nothing that can overcome you.  Be confident and stand firm.  Every blessing is already waiting for you, and with patience and determination, every success will be yours.

Letting It Fall

19 Nov

Life is complex and we’ll go through many different experiences.  Some things are predictable and easy, but we may face difficult and painful situations we don’t believe we can survive.  There may be serious hardship and disappointment, and our hearts may get broken. There is no way to know what tomorrow will bring, and even if we try to plan well, and are careful in our decisions, things may change and our world may get turned upside down.  Getting hurt isn’t easy and if we must endure intense pain, we may build a protective barrier around our feelings.  We may erect an invisible shield of armor to keep others from getting close enough to hurt us. We may keep them at arms length and try not to get too attached. Doing something to prevent getting hurt seems like a good idea, but if nobody can get close to us, we will never be able to build strong, lasting relationships.  It takes courage to let others really know us and share our most intimate thoughts and ideas.  Nobody wants to suffer, but we are intelligent and have all the courage and wisdom we need to understand who we can trust. If we let the armor fall a little, and allow someone to get close, we will open the possibility for deep personal interaction and find joy in building a close connection. We have so much to offer, and bring such light to the world. We can share that light with those around us, and open the door to great happiness.

Few things hurt more intensely than a broken heart. If we’ve been hurt by someone we love, and the pain has been overwhelming, we may swear off close relationships indefinitely.  We may decide we’ll never fall in love again, and do things that will prevent us from getting too close.  We can choose to live our lives alone, but the connections of others bring great depth and richness to our lives. We can learn from what has passed, and take that knowledge forward to help us build a confident, happy life. By using wisdom and trusting ourselves, we can let others in, and find lasting contentment.

When trust has been broken, it’s very difficult to build back up. If someone has hurt us deeply, we may struggle to trust them again. We’re all human and nobody is perfect. People make mistakes, sometimes serious mistakes.  Their decisions belong to them, and need not affect the choices we make. We know who we are and what we want, and can be confident that no matter what has happened in the past, we will reach great success moving forward.

Today if you’ve been building armor around yourself to protect you from pain or heartbreak, trust yourself. You are more powerful than you imagine, and nothing can hold you down forever. Stand strong and look ahead with confidence. You have all the courage and wisdom to face whatever may come. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage, and there is great happiness ahead.

The End is Near

26 Aug

We’ll go through countless different experiences and scenarios as we navigate through our lives. We will build relationships, make connections, work with others, and learn a lot about who we are and how the world works. We can’t predict the future and there is no way to know what will happen next. Change is the only thing we can count on. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, eventually our situation will change. Nothing can stay the same forever, and although we may intellectually recognize this, it isn’t always easy to accept the changes when they appear. Our relationships are important, and it feels good when they’re going well. If both parties are invested in keeping the relationship strong, and willing to do what it takes to stay connected, they may last our entire lifetimes. But not every relationship will survive the test of time. People change and those changes may move us further apart instead of holding us close. Saying goodbye when we don’t want to leave can be heartbreaking. We may try to do anything to salvage the situation, and that might work, but there will be times when no matter what we do, the die is cast, and our lives are headed in a new direction. Unless our next move brings us greater advancement and joy, endings are rarely easy. When the winds of change blow over our lives, and we’re facing a new reality, we may feel unsettled and unsure. However, we are wise and strong, and can find our way through whatever comes. Success will always be there for us, and every dream is still possible. By trusting ourselves, and believing in our ability to succeed, we can step forward with confidence and clarity.

When we’re happy and everything is working out, it would be great if we could freeze time. If we could just stop everything and stay where we are we would never have to worry. But this is real life, and we only have control over our own decisions. Events beyond our reach will happen, and our lives will eventually be impacted. If we’re facing the end of something we love and value, we may believe that’s it. The new road is just too hard to face and we’ll never survive. That will never be true. We are capable of managing whatever we must, and in time, with patience and determination, we’ll forge a new path and find happiness again.

The first day of a new situation is like a blank page. Nothing has yet been written, and every option is possible. We can decide how we want to proceed, and start to create the life we dream about. By opening new doors, and trying something new, we will find great refreshment and excitement. There are endless possibilities and we can do anything. Every single destination is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if you’re facing the end of something you don’t want to lose, stand strong and look ahead. Turning the page is just the beginning of something wonderful. You are amazing and talented, and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Step forward with strength and confidence. The whole world is there for you, and you will find great success.

Taking Time

27 Jun

When we’ve been through a seriously painful event, we may suffer greatly. The death of a loved one, a terrible and difficult break-up of a relationship, or a personal and deep betrayal from someone we trusted, may bring us intense sorrow and serious anguish. It takes time to process painful and difficult changes and find a way to manage them. Pain and grief have their own timetables, and how long it takes us to adjust to our new reality is different for every person and every situation. It’s impossible to predict how long it will take until we feel settled again. Nobody wants to suffer for a long time but there are no rules for coping with grief and sadness. We must take things as they come and do our best to continue forward each day. We can always control what we do but we can’t always control how we feel. Recovery will take the time it takes, but no matter how hurt we are or how desperate things may seem, healing will come. Change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever, not even suffering. If we’ve been struggling for a long time, we may feel we should be further down the road, but we are changing a little every day and in time, no matter how long that takes, we can overcome anything. Life is filled with unexpected developments and if we’ve been surprised by a painful and disappointing experience, we can trust that no matter how difficult it is today, we will find our way through. We’re stronger than we think we are and nothing is powerful enough to overcome us. Every blessing is still there for us and we will find peace and happiness again.

Heartbreak comes in many forms. When we’ve been heartbroken, no matter what the circumstances are, we can find our way through in our own way and in our own time. There is no need to rush and we can take all the time necessary until we feel whole again. Nobody knows our deepest sorrows better than we do, and we can move forward one step at a time. Being patient and allowing time to find our footing again will enable us to heal and proceed again with confidence. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and no matter what we’re facing, we have everything we need to prevail.

Some people may try to push us forward in an effort to alleviate our suffering. They may make all kinds of suggestions or give us advice about how to let go and move forward. We can listen to whatever they offer, but we know what we need and can trust ourselves to find our next steps. Pain gives us patience, and we learn how resilient and strong we are as we navigate through it and continue forward. We are powerful and capable, and nothing can hold us down forever. We already have everything we need to prevail and find all the answers.

Today if you’ve been through a serious and painful event, and feel lost and frozen in place, give yourself time to think and rest. There’s no rush to get through. Stand still until you feel ready to move forward again. You are strong and wise, and nothing will overcome you. Trust yourself and take another step forward. Every dream is still there, every blessing is possible, and you will prevail.