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Over It

4 May

We go through many different experiences as we navigate the days, months and years of our lives. Some things are unexpected and take our breath away with their sudden appearance and intensity, and there may be times when it seems all at once everything has changed. What we counted on is no longer available and the whole landscape looks different. When we go through challenging and difficult periods, we may have to work hard to overcome serious issues and complications. But in time, as we find our way through, we’ll get over it and move on. We are very capable and can manage whatever happens, but life has a way of looping around. What we think we’ve mastered or overcome, may creep back in a new way that takes us by surprise and suddenly we’re reminded of where we were. It may seem that despite all the work we’ve done and everything we’ve accomplished, we’re right back at square one, but that won’t be completely true. Every day and with everything we do, we gain more insight and the tools we need to move forward. Old problems may resurface, but we will never be exactly the same today as we were the first time we faced them. We don’t need to fall down and get overwhelmed. Instead, we can step back, look at everything objectively and trust that we have everything we need to process any complication or situation that arises. We are stronger, wiser and more powerful than we think we are, and there isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. With confidence and clarity we can find all the answers we need and continue ahead toward success. There isn’t anything we can’t do, and every destination will always be there for us.

There are all kinds of people in the world and we’ll meet many different types of personalities. Sometimes we may have to work with someone who is rude or hateful, or for reasons we can’t identify seems to dislike us. It may be very difficult to engage with them and find any common ground. Everyone is entitled to their own opinions and beliefs, but we are not entitled to hurt others or make them feel bad. If there is a way to modify the situation so we don’t have to work with them, we can take it. If not, we can make the best choices possible and set the best example for good, fair behavior and continue on.

Heartbreak is very painful and can take a long time to recover from. No matter how hurt or disappointed we are, by focusing on our own personal goals and success, we will find the ways needed to overcome and heal. Once we’re on solid ground again, all the challenges and struggles we faced will bring us greater strength and wisdom. Wounds hurt but nothing lasts forever. By taking our time and learning all we can, we will gain great blessing and benefit from the experience, and more understanding as we move ahead.

Today if something you thought you were over has resurfaced and you feel like you’re back at the beginning again, take another look. You are wiser and more capable than you imagine and have learned many powerful and helpful lessons. Trust yourself and stand strong. Every dream you desire is there for you and every destination is possible. Nothing can hold you in place, and you will prevail. Step forward, confident and clear. Success is there for you and you will claim it.



5 Nov

Every day we live is a chance to experience joy and do something to move us closer to where we want to be. We are in control of our days and the choices we make. When we choose well, we are content, but sometimes things don’t go exactly the way we want them to. Imagine you are holding one chopstick that represents your day today. As long as you hold onto it you’re in control and you can do anything you want. But if you give it away to someone else, they will be in charge for the day. We all want to be in control of our days, so it seems foolish to hand them over to anyone else. But if we let the hurt or pain caused by someone else control us, that is exactly what we do. We give our day away. While it’s true that some wounds don’t heal right away, each day we let the disappointment, pain, fear, or anger control our lives, we give that day to the person or situation that caused it. And the irony is that those who have hurt us usually have no idea they have control.

Pain is a part of life. We can’t prevent it, we can’t escape it, we can only process it and move through it. If we lived alone on an isolated, deserted island, everything would be in our control. But we live with others, and their decisions, for better or worse, affect our lives. We bump into each other, we annoy each other, and we sometimes hurt each other. Of course, we also love each other, we share joy, and we embellish each others’ lives. It’s a mixed bag. When we get hurt, and don’t heal right away, we grieve until we’re able to move on. That’s normal. But if we let the hurt define our lives, if we let it keep us from moving forward, and are unable to let it go, we give our lives away to it. Our lives are important. They count. We have a lot to offer. Losing even one day is a great loss.

Getting over serious pain or disappointment isn’t easy. It takes work, and it takes time. How much time it takes depends on a lot of factors. Only we can decide when to let it go and begin to move forward. We can hold onto it for as long as we like but each day we do, we have to symbolically give up our chopstick, and the control over our lives. In some situations it takes considerable time to process everything, and not having control isn’t an issue. But in time, if we want to be happy again, if we want to move forward, we will have to heal and take control again. Life can be complicated. It can extremely joyful, or desperately sad. Nobody knows what each day will bring, but we can face whatever comes. We can overcome any disappointment, any disaster, and any loss. And when we’re ready, we can recover and guide our lives to where we most want to be.

Today if you’ve been struggling with something that has been so difficult you’ve been stopped in your tracks, think about the way forward. You have so much to offer. Take the first step in regaining your control. Own your day today. Hang on tight. Lift your head and look forward. There is a road waiting for you. You have everything you need to get to it, and by taking the very first step you’ll find your way back to happiness again.