Archive | October, 2022

Hard Choices

31 Oct

We will make millions and millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Some of them are consequential and have serious results, and others we may make on the fly without any impact. Choices that have clear and defined likely results may be easy to make. We can look at what will happen based on what’s happened before, and then decide how we want to proceed. The hardest choices are often those that have no right or wrong answer. There is no best way to proceed, but only the way we choose. When there is a wide open possibility no matter which way we go, we may struggle with making the decision. For instance, when deciding on a change in our career, we may apply for a lot of positions. If we get offered two very good options, with comparable benefits and we like them both, how will we choose?  It can be hard to discern between equally beneficial options but if we take our time and look closely, there will be some differences that may help us decide. Every decision we make will bring a result. By looking at everything clearly, and deciding how we want to proceed, we will make excellent choices and reach the destinations we most desire.

We may face a time when we must make a choice that will dramatically change our lives. If we’re unhappy in a relationship that we’ve had for a long time, and we want to step away and go in a new direction, it may be painful even if we’re sure it’s the right decision for us. If it’s too hard, we might give in and just remain despite how we feel. Breaking away from someone we’ve been attached to is never easy but we deserve complete happiness, and if we want something different, we have all the wisdom and courage to do what is necessary to get it.

When we were children, chances are our parents did everything they could to protect us and keep us safe. As we grew and matured, in order for us to learn and grow, they had to step back and let us make our own decisions, even if we were headed down the wrong road. It’s hard to watch someone you love do something you are sure is going to hurt them, but each of us is responsible for our own lives, and we can trust ourselves to make choices that will take us where we want to go.

Today if you’re facing a hard decision and aren’t sure how to proceed, look at everything objectively and clearly. Take the time you need to discern everything to find the best road forward. You are extremely capable and can make excellent choices. Focus on what you want to achieve, and be confident. Every success is possible, and you will reach them all.

Without Exception

26 Oct

There are few absolutes in life. No matter where we are or what we’re doing there will always be a lot of variables and differences. Even if we stay in the same place and do the same things, our experiences will never be exactly the same. There are endless things that affect every decision and every move we make. We can’t control what others do or what goes on in the world, but we always have control over ourselves. Our choices belong solely to us. If we are careless and haphazard, and don’t pay attention to the cues and situations around us, odds are we’ll have some unpredictable and uncomfortable experiences. Who we are is defined by what we do, and we can set any standards we like for our own behavior. For instance, we may determine that we will never break the law, rob a bank, kill someone or cheat on our taxes. Those are big problems that would likely bring intensely unpleasant ramifications. But what about the choices that aren’t so extreme. If we want to be honest, will we decide that no matter what, without exception we will always be honest in all our dealings? It sounds straightforward enough, but life is complex and there are lots of situations around us that may make that decision more difficult than we imagine. How will we handle it if we discover we were given too much change at the store, or the checker only charges us for one mango when in fact there were two, or we have the chance to sneak into a theater or concert without paying or being seen? We may excuse these as small and insignificant, but there is no sliding scale for honesty. How we interpret that is up to us. We may do whatever we like, but at the end of the day, our lives will be a reflection of the choices we make. We know what we want and how we want to live our lives. By being true to the standards we set for ourselves, we will find great satisfaction and happiness. There isn’t anything we can’t do once we decide. Every choice is possible and with wisdom and clarity, we can choose the roads that take us where we most want to go.

Peer pressure isn’t just limited to our teen years. Wherever there are others around us we may experience pressure to be like something or do something. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and their own interpretation of what is acceptable. We may be pressed to follow the group even if we disagree, but we never have to do anything we don’t want to do. If we’re uncomfortable we can step back and go in a different direction. Those who respect us will honor our decisions. Our lives are ours to design, and we can do anything we like.

As time passes, cultures change, but no matter what those changes are, truth will always remain. The influences around us may be great, but we can take our time and evaluate what is happening and where it will lead. We are strong enough and smart enough to find the best way forward. We don’t have to follow the crowd to reach success. It is there, waiting for us to make the choices that will take us to it.

Today decide what kind of life you want to lead and determine where you want to go. Look at every option before you and choose the road that will take you to the goal. You have everything you need to achieve great success. Trust yourself and be true. Every destination is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Sorry, Not Sorry

24 Oct

Nobody is perfect and although we may try hard to do everything right, and always say the right things, at some point we’re going to falter. We interact with lots of other people and they all have their own ideas about how things should go and what we should say. If we do something without thinking, or if we’re mad and do something on purpose that causes pain or distress for someone else, we may, or may not, feel bad about it. A lot depends on the situation and our relationship with the other party. If they are someone who is very difficult and we struggle to get along with them, and we say something that offends them, we frankly may not care. They can deal with it.  After all, we have to deal with them all the time. Other times we might do something offensive simply because we don’t have all the facts, or our information is inaccurate. When the mis-step is pointed out to us, we may apologize and correct our course moving forward. Life is full of all kinds of differences and interpretations, and it’s impossible to get them all right every time. Every situation is different and we can look at everything objectively and then decide our next step. Most of us want to get along with others, and try not to put obstacles in the road ahead by hurting those around us and making enemies. If we cause a problem we can always do what is needed to fix it. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to understand. By choosing wisely and making the best decisions moving forward, we can be sure we’ll reach success.

Not everyone is nice and easy to get along with. Some people are rude, impolite or even mean. They have their own reasons for how they act and we need not spend any time trying to figure that out.  However, if we have to interact with them, we will need to find a way to do it without causing too much distress. We don’t have to succumb to anyone else’s demands if they are not in authority over us. We can listen to them, respond politely, and then make the best choice moving forward. 

Families and relationships are complex. If we’re in a situation with someone we love where they are constantly criticizing and berating us, or telling us what to do, we may feel oppressed and overrun. We’re all entitled to our own opinions but we don’t have any control over anyone else. Everyone gets to make their own choices. Our lives are our responsibility and we always have the power to step away from any situation that isn’t working. We can define how much contact allows us to stay connected without letting others control us. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’ve offended someone, look at the situation carefully and completely, and determine the best step forward. Be polite and gracious, even if you disagree, and continue moving toward your goals. You are highly capable and intelligent, and will always find your way. Be confident and wise. Every single blessing is waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

Someone Else

19 Oct

Everyone is unique and we are all different in our own ways. We have our own dreams and desires, and our own opinions about how things should go and what should happen. If we’re confident and self-directed, we will make whatever plans we want and move toward the goals we want to achieve. By keeping our eyes on the road ahead, chances are we’ll accomplish much. But not everyone is sure about what they want or where they’re going. If we don’t know how we want to proceed, and see someone who seems to have everything together, we may decide to follow them. We may emulate the things they do, learn to talk like them and even dress like them in an attempt to feel connected and moving forward. It’s helpful to watch successful people and learn about how they get things done, but that doesn’t mean we need to be just like them in order to succeed as well. We all have specific and individual gifts to offer. Trying to be someone else will never bring us complete satisfaction or true success. We don’t have to be a carbon copy of anyone in order to reach our goals. We already have everything we need to prevail, and by trusting ourselves and choosing our own paths, we can reach any destination we desire. Every answer we need is there for us, and with clarity and confidence nothing is out of reach.

We are constantly bombarded with advertisements that tell us if we do one thing or another, act a certain way, dress like them, or buy what they are selling, we will find great success and happiness. The people in the ads are always beautiful and happy, and the promise is that if we do whatever it is they’re touting we’ll be beautiful and happy too. There is no one perfect way to live life, and endless roads to every destination. We know who we are and what we want to bring the success and happiness we desire. By choosing our own road and doing things our own way, we will reach every success.

Some people think they have all the answers. If they are loud or powerful, they may try to convince us to do what they say. We can do anything we like, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We can be exactly who we are and move forward sure of success. There are endless roads ahead, and with determination and patience, we will find the one that works best for us, and proceed until we reach the goal.

Today if you’ve been copying someone else trying to reach success, remember there is greatness in you. You are amazing and highly capable. Make your own plans and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal with confidence. Every single destination is waiting for you, and by keeping your eyes focused ahead, you will achieve great success.

Beaten and Destroyed

14 Oct

Everyone wants an easy, happy life. We all want to find true love, win the lottery and be enormously successful. It’s nice to think about the situations we dream of that we believe will bring us endless happiness and long lasting peace, but life isn’t nirvana and no matter who we are or what we’re doing, odds are at some point things will go wrong. There is contention and opposition in everything, and if we’re on the wrong side of the story, we may suffer greatly. We may face failure in business, we may lose our money, our lovers may walk out, a serious health issue may develop, or a million other unexpected possibilities. If the situation is devastating and at first we have no idea how to proceed, we may feel beaten down and lost. It may seem our lives are destroyed and there is no way to recover. Bad things will come to us all, serious and unbelievable events may knock us down, and we may be sure we’re doomed and will never survive. It’s hard to have faith in the light when all we can see is darkness. Terrible things may happen but nothing stays the same indefinitely. No matter what’s gone wrong or fallen apart, or how our plans have blown up, everything will eventually change. Even when we’re unsure, we can trust that we will find our way. Even if it seems there is no answer, an answer will come. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage and manage well. We can stand firm in the wind, and be confident we will prevail.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. It’s hard to understand when someone we trust or love intentionally does something to hurt us. Instead of wasting time trying to figure out why they did what they did, despite the pain, we can step back and look at the situation objectively. Their actions have been destructive, but they have given us more information that will help us as we move forward. We know them better now than we did before, and can do what is needed to protect ourselves in the future. The pain will eventually ease and we will find our way forward.

If we do something that causes a serious setback, we may lose our confidence. It may seem we aren’t smart enough, or capable enough, or any number of other factors. None of that is true. Even when we make excellent decisions, we have no control over what happens next. Failure is painful but it gives us valuable information. By focusing on what we’re learning, we can use it to help us move forward, and be confident and sure of success.

Today if everything has fallen apart and you are devastated and unsure, remember how strong and capable you are. The whole world is blessed and embellished because you are here. Look at everything objectively and learn all you can, and then start again. You have so much to offer.  Trust yourself and move forward. Every dream awaits, and you will make them yours.