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Beaten and Destroyed

14 Oct

Everyone wants an easy, happy life. We all want to find true love, win the lottery and be enormously successful. It’s nice to think about the situations we dream of that we believe will bring us endless happiness and long lasting peace, but life isn’t nirvana and no matter who we are or what we’re doing, odds are at some point things will go wrong. There is contention and opposition in everything, and if we’re on the wrong side of the story, we may suffer greatly. We may face failure in business, we may lose our money, our lovers may walk out, a serious health issue may develop, or a million other unexpected possibilities. If the situation is devastating and at first we have no idea how to proceed, we may feel beaten down and lost. It may seem our lives are destroyed and there is no way to recover. Bad things will come to us all, serious and unbelievable events may knock us down, and we may be sure we’re doomed and will never survive. It’s hard to have faith in the light when all we can see is darkness. Terrible things may happen but nothing stays the same indefinitely. No matter what’s gone wrong or fallen apart, or how our plans have blown up, everything will eventually change. Even when we’re unsure, we can trust that we will find our way. Even if it seems there is no answer, an answer will come. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage and manage well. We can stand firm in the wind, and be confident we will prevail.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. It’s hard to understand when someone we trust or love intentionally does something to hurt us. Instead of wasting time trying to figure out why they did what they did, despite the pain, we can step back and look at the situation objectively. Their actions have been destructive, but they have given us more information that will help us as we move forward. We know them better now than we did before, and can do what is needed to protect ourselves in the future. The pain will eventually ease and we will find our way forward.

If we do something that causes a serious setback, we may lose our confidence. It may seem we aren’t smart enough, or capable enough, or any number of other factors. None of that is true. Even when we make excellent decisions, we have no control over what happens next. Failure is painful but it gives us valuable information. By focusing on what we’re learning, we can use it to help us move forward, and be confident and sure of success.

Today if everything has fallen apart and you are devastated and unsure, remember how strong and capable you are. The whole world is blessed and embellished because you are here. Look at everything objectively and learn all you can, and then start again. You have so much to offer.  Trust yourself and move forward. Every dream awaits, and you will make them yours.

Letting It Fall

19 Nov

Life is complex and we’ll go through many different experiences.  Some things are predictable and easy, but we may face difficult and painful situations we don’t believe we can survive.  There may be serious hardship and disappointment, and our hearts may get broken. There is no way to know what tomorrow will bring, and even if we try to plan well, and are careful in our decisions, things may change and our world may get turned upside down.  Getting hurt isn’t easy and if we must endure intense pain, we may build a protective barrier around our feelings.  We may erect an invisible shield of armor to keep others from getting close enough to hurt us. We may keep them at arms length and try not to get too attached. Doing something to prevent getting hurt seems like a good idea, but if nobody can get close to us, we will never be able to build strong, lasting relationships.  It takes courage to let others really know us and share our most intimate thoughts and ideas.  Nobody wants to suffer, but we are intelligent and have all the courage and wisdom we need to understand who we can trust. If we let the armor fall a little, and allow someone to get close, we will open the possibility for deep personal interaction and find joy in building a close connection. We have so much to offer, and bring such light to the world. We can share that light with those around us, and open the door to great happiness.

Few things hurt more intensely than a broken heart. If we’ve been hurt by someone we love, and the pain has been overwhelming, we may swear off close relationships indefinitely.  We may decide we’ll never fall in love again, and do things that will prevent us from getting too close.  We can choose to live our lives alone, but the connections of others bring great depth and richness to our lives. We can learn from what has passed, and take that knowledge forward to help us build a confident, happy life. By using wisdom and trusting ourselves, we can let others in, and find lasting contentment.

When trust has been broken, it’s very difficult to build back up. If someone has hurt us deeply, we may struggle to trust them again. We’re all human and nobody is perfect. People make mistakes, sometimes serious mistakes.  Their decisions belong to them, and need not affect the choices we make. We know who we are and what we want, and can be confident that no matter what has happened in the past, we will reach great success moving forward.

Today if you’ve been building armor around yourself to protect you from pain or heartbreak, trust yourself. You are more powerful than you imagine, and nothing can hold you down forever. Stand strong and look ahead with confidence. You have all the courage and wisdom to face whatever may come. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage, and there is great happiness ahead.