Being the Fly

19 Jan

“Will you walk into my parlour?” said the Spider to the Fly…” Mary Howitt

Many of us have heard the story of the spider and the fly. The spider lures the fly into its web with flattering words and compliments, and in the end the fly is captivated and then is captured. In life, there are all kinds of people with all kinds of ideas and agendas. If they want us to join them, they may flatter and cajole us, offering us gifts or constant attention. If we’re careful and sure of ourselves, we may see through the manipulation and be able to walk away, but there may be times we miss the mark. We might align ourselves with someone who looks like a friend and ally, only to discover once we’re next to them that they are completely different than we thought. Once the shine of newness and flattery is gone, the stark truth of what’s happening will appear. If we’ve been caught up in something we don’t want, we aren’t doomed to stay forever. It doesn’t matter what we’ve been promised, or how much they reassure us that what we can plainly see isn’t the truth. We’re in control of our lives and can step away from anything that makes us uncomfortable or is heading somewhere we don’t want to go. Nobody knows everything and there will likely be times when we’ll be deceived. We may have been the fly at the beginning, but we are never so entangled we can’t escape. Once the truth is clear, we can decide how we want to proceed, and choose the best road forward. Nothing can hold us down indefinitely, and with courage, and wisdom we can do what is needed to correct our course at any time, and continue forward toward success.

If we want to convince someone to do something, we might embellish facts, or leave out information that may dissuade them from agreeing. We can do anything we like, but truth is powerful and will eventually rise and become evident. Bending details, and glossing over problems in an effort to get someone’s support may work at the beginning, but as time marches on, all the flaws and issues we left out will show themselves. It’s far better to be completely honest and upfront, explain the facts as they are, and let those around us decide for themselves.

When we are captivated by someone, it may be hard to see everything as it truly is. If they are very attractive, we may be blinded by their beauty and unable to clearly focus on what is real. It’s exciting to feel the thrall of attraction, but we can take our time and stop for a moment to look at everything objectively. Infatuation is intense and fleeting, but we can keep our wits about us and hold fast to reality. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and patience, we can make our dreams come true.

Today if you’re being lured to do something you aren’t sure of, think about what you really want. You are intelligent and wise and can discern what is real. Decide what you want the most, and step forward with determination and focus. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Be confident and strong. Every single destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.

Perfection and Excellence

18 Jan

There are levels of success in everything. Most of us want to do our best and when the results are something we truly desire, we may put a lot of time and effort into our endeavors. We may strive to do things perfectly so we can elude complications or additional stress. It’s fine to aim for perfection, but reaching it is rarely possible. We only have control over our own choices, and no matter where we are or what we’re doing, chances are something is going to get in the way. Having a paved road that’s clear and free from interruption is always the hope, but this is real life, and there are often all kinds of variables at play over which we have no control. Setting our sites on perfection is noble, but may work against us in the long run. Instead of pushing to do things perfectly, we can instead strive for excellence. If we continually do the very best we can and choose the best roads ahead, we will find the way forward with confidence when problems arise and things get jammed up. Perfection is never a requirement for success. Staying focused on the goal, and consistently doing things that move us forward will take us there. We deserve every happiness, and are worthy of every success. By making wise choices, and keeping our eyes trained on the road ahead, nothing can keep us from anything we desire.

Success comes in many different ways. There is never only one road to any destination. When we’re planning our next steps, we may look at all the options possible and decide on how we’ll proceed. Although we may be confident the choice we made is absolutely, positively the best plan, someone else may be just as confident choosing a completely different model. Different interpretations do not mean someone is wrong. We can trust ourselves to find our way forward, and despite hiccups along the way, be confident of success.

If we’re convinced we must do things perfectly, we may spend countless hours defining and refining our plans. It’s good to explore the most advantageous methods possible, but if we’re seeking perfection we may never do anything but work on the plan. There will rarely be a time when absolutely everything falls perfectly in line or every single possibility has been addressed. Life is fluid and constantly changing. We can make the best plans possible where we are now, and reach the goal by being flexible enough to face any changes as we move forward.

Today think about the goals you want to achieve. Look at all the options possible, make a plan, and take the first step forward. Don’t worry about what may go wrong. If something gets in the way, all the answers you need to get around it will be there. There is greatness in you and incredible success ahead. Be confident and sure. The road ahead is waiting, and nothing can keep you from any destination you desire.

Pushed Beyond

14 Jan

Everyone has dreams and goals they want to achieve, and places they want to go. We can do anything we like but how we proceed depends on a lot of factors. Timing is everything. There may be times when something we want is out of reach and nothing we do can bring it closer. When that happens, we can set it aside for a while until the situation changes and then try again. If we’re focused and determined we can generally get to whatever goal we’re seeking. But that doesn’t mean we have to push ourselves beyond our limits. We don’t have to work on the goal 24/7 and sacrifice everything else in our lives, seeing only the one destination to the exception of all others. Giving everything up to the exclusion of one desire, and doing nothing but working on that constantly, pushing ourselves beyond what is reasonable, may create serious complications that come back to bite us. We don’t have to destroy our personal lives and health to reach any goal or prove we are worth some standard we have set. Instead of only seeing the prize at the end, we can focus on our personal growth and progress, and find the way forward with calm and confidence. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and we don’t have to do everything all at once. We are valuable and a great blessing to the world just as we are. Whatever goals we accomplish will enhance our experience and bring us greater satisfaction. There is no rush to reach success. It will always be there for us, and with consistency and determination, we can do anything we desire. Every day is a blessing, and we have everything we need to find great success.

When we want something badly, it’s hard to patiently work through whatever is needed to make it ours. If we want to lose weight, we may decide it all needs to come off this week. We know it took us a lot longer to gain it, but we want it off – like now. Instead of looking at the situation realistically, we may starve ourselves or exercise our bodies into complete exhaustion thinking we can make things change immediately. Extreme measures rarely work, and the costs we have to pay for them may be high. By taking the time necessary to logically think through what is appropriate and reasonable, we can come up with a plan that works effectively, and helps us reach our goal.

The influence of others often comes into play when we’re trying to accomplish something. They may tell us how they think we should proceed, and give us all kinds of suggestions. We can certainly take any advice offered, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what will work, and how to proceed in ways that take us to success. By trusting ourselves and being patient, every goal is possible. Nothing is out of reach and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been pushing yourself to exhaustion trying to reach a goal, stop and think about all the options possible. You are completely capable of accomplishing anything you desire. Make a workable plan and step forward with confidence. Every destination is already there for you, and with patience and clarity, you will reach them all.

Hardly Noticeable

13 Jan

Everyone has an idea of where they want their lives to go and what they want to do. We decide what we want the most and then make a plan and begin to do what is needed to make it ours. It sounds simple, and on paper it is, but this is real life and rarely goes exactly the way we planned. There are endless influences all around us. Advertisers constantly bombard us with their ideas of what we should do and who we should be. Others in our circle may give us advice and guidance, even if we don’t ask for it, and our families are always there to share their views on what we’re doing or not doing. Although we know what we want, sometimes other voices may make us question our decisions, and pull us away from the road ahead. We may step to the left just to keep the peace and think we’ll get back on track as soon as things settle down. After all, one step to the left is hardly noticeable in the big scheme of things and we can trust ourselves to regain our momentum in time. But nobody can predict the future and sometimes one step to the left leads to another, and then another and before we realize it, we may be far away from what we really want and going in the opposite direction. Going from point A to point B is rarely a straight, uninterrupted line, but we have a better shot at success if we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead and don’t get distracted trying to please someone else. Every destination we desire is possible, and we have everything we need to make it ours. By focusing on the goal and continuing forward, nothing can keep us from success.

What we do determines the person we will become. If we want to be honest but there’s a better chance of getting what we want if we fudge the truth a little, or shift our ethics, we may be tempted to take the bait. If we do, we may get away with it, and nobody may know, but we will know we are compromised and that may color our decisions moving forward. It’s much easier to cheat the second time, and each time after that. We decide who we will be. By choosing wisely and following the standards we most desire, we’ll find great satisfaction and peace.

It’s not always easy to be completely honest and when the road ahead gets hard the temptation to bend our ethics to get through may be great. We can lie our way out of a mess, cheat others to get ahead, and manipulate and twist the truth until it fits our desires. But everything we do determines who we are. We are capable of great success and when we strive for perfection and choose the best possible options, honoring the nobility we possess, we will achieve greatness and complete happiness.

Today if you’re tempted to step a little off course in an effort to get to a goal, remember who you are. There is greatness in you. Think about what you want the most, and make the best choice to achieve it. You have the potential to bring great light to the world. Choose wisely, and be honest. Every success is there for you, and you will make them yours.

Time To Re-Set

12 Jan

The beginning of a new year can be an exciting time. We may review the last year and think about everything we’ve accomplished and the things we didn’t get done, and then decide what we want to do now. There’s a brand new calendar and we can set any goal or make any resolutions we like. Making a resolution means we absolutely and definitely resolve to do something. We are firm in our decision and nothing will move us from it. When there’s something we really want to accomplish we may be determined to get it done, but life isn’t like a story book where every complication that comes is easily solved and we can continue forward unscathed. Crap happens and it happens to us all. Unexpected developments come up, people get in our way, something blocks us from moving forward, and a million other snags might happen. Making a resolution looks good on paper, and if everything falls into place the way we plan, we may well reach success, but there’s no guarantee that will happen. We may decide that no matter what happens, no matter what gets in the way, no matter what we have to sacrifice, we’re going to succeed, but if we do that, the price we must pay may be great. We don’t need an all or nothing decision to make any changes we desire. We can set a goal and then take the first step toward making it ours. Then we can take the next step. If something gets in the way, we can go around it by modifying our plan. If we’re flexible and able to adjust as our situation changes, we have a greater chance of reaching success. We can do anything we desire but we can’t do everything all at once. By moving ahead with patience, logic and wisdom, we will reach our goals and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Life is uncertain and we never know what will happen next, but no matter what comes, we are in control of the decisions we make. If we set a goal last year that we didn’t achieve and we still want it, we can re-set it and begin again. There is no time limit for success and sometimes it takes longer than we planned. Each step forward will get us closer to the goal, and even if we don’t get all the way to the destination, we can take everything we’ve learned so far to help us continue forward.

Change is constant and nothing is written in stone, and sometimes our plans go up in smoke. We change, the situation changes, people come and go and everything may be completely different than when we started. What we wanted last year may have been perfect for where we were, but no longer fits where we want to go. We never have to continue toward any goal we no longer desire. Our lives are ours to design, and we can do anything we want and go anywhere we desire. It’s all there for us, and we will prevail.

Today if you didn’t get to your goal last year and still want to achieve it, create a new plan and take the first step forward. The past never predicts the future, and you have everything you need to succeed. Be confident and sure. You are amazing and smart, and nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and start again. Every success is possible and you will make them yours.