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Bottom of the List

10 Sep

We all want positive connections with those around us.  Good, strong relationships embellish our lives and when we feel supported and loved things go more easily, even during times of stress.  It’s nice to have someone in our corner who cares about us and helps us when we need it.  Helpful and happy relationships are a great asset every day of our lives.  But sometimes things don’t work out the way we want them to.  If we have a connection with someone who continual breaks their promises or ignores us when we need them, we can feel like we’re at the bottom of their list.  They may say we’re important but it’s hard to believe we matter if we’re treated like we’re insignificant and aren’t heard.  Some people take a very casual view of their relationships and don’t value them as strongly as we may desire.  We deserve to feel cared for and certainly are worth the very best friendships and connections possible.  There are always plenty of options available and if we aren’t getting what we need we can build new relationships that will be more supportive.  We are important and valuable, and having others around us who cherish our friendship and love is important.  We can take the steps we need to make connections that bring us the support we desire.  Every happiness is possible and we can have it in our lives.

We’re all connected to each other and what we do affects those around us.  If we fall down on promises we make or pretend to care when we don’t, our influence will have a negative impact on those around us.  We may have good intentions but good intentions mean nothing if there is no action to back them up.  Ignoring those we say we care about will eventually ruin the relationship.  Continually breaking our word will destroy any trust others may have in us.  We own every single decision we make and if we go about our lives without any thought for those around us, we may find ourselves standing alone.  We can be wise and considerate and remember our actions speak far louder than anything we say.  If we choose to, we can make excellent choices and build strong connections that bring us happiness and joy.

There may come a time when what we thought would be a good connection turns out to be something else entirely.   We can only know what others show us and some people may pretend to be something they aren’t or to have feelings they don’t possess to get something from us.  Truth will always rise and if we’ve been deceived we may struggle to understand what has happened.  We only answer for the choices we make.  If others deceive us they are responsible for the results of that decision.  We are worth the very best of everything including our relationships.  We can move forward from a disappointment with confidence, taking any lessons learned with us.  Happiness is always possible and we will find it.

Today if you’ve been pushed aside again and again, and feel like you don’t matter, remember you are precious and priceless.  The world is better because you are here.  Go forward with confidence.  You deserve the very best of everything and you can have it.  Nothing can stop you from achieving complete happiness.

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Not the End

7 Sep

When we’re facing a difficult challenge and aren’t sure we can manage, when things go wrong and we can’t see the way forward, or when we’ve been caught in a situation that changes the trajectory of our lives in ways we never expected, we may feel lost and confused.  It can be hard to see our next step when we’ve been stunned by something that takes our breath away or must face something so difficult we don’t know how to get through.  We may stand stunned, unable to move or think, and have no idea what to do next.  Big trials come to all of us at some time in our lives.  Our worst fears may be realized and situations we never dreamed we could endure may press on us.  When our lives are suddenly dangling on what we believe is the precipice of disaster, it may seem impossible that we’ll be able to get through much less survive.  We may face terrible trials but they are not the end of our journey.  We may need time to process what’s happening, but when we’re ready, we have all the courage and wisdom to continue forward.  It can be hard to trust that things will improve when we’re in the depths of despair, but change is constant.  Darkness cannot last forever.  The sun always rises again and we will find our way.  Whatever we’re going through today will be different tomorrow.  We have everything we need to face whatever comes, find the answers we need to prevail, and continue forward.  If we are overwhelmed, we can find support.  If we have fallen down, we can stand up again.  There isn’t anything we can’t do.  We can be brave even when we’re unsure, and confident even we don’t know what will happen.  Life is filled with challenge and we have everything we need to face it.

When we’re young we imagine many wonderful things will happen to us as we grow and never think the bottom will fall out of our plans.  As we age, many wonderful things do come but we may also have many trials and disappointments we didn’t plan on.  We have no control over most of what happens and even if we plan carefully, sometimes everything goes up in smoke.  Nobody wants to go through hard times, but they will come to us all and when they do we can find our way through.

It seems life would be wonderful if all our dreams came true and we never had a bad day.  If we were always healthy and strong, had plenty of money, and never had to endure any challenges.  That might be wonderful but that isn’t reality.  We live in the real world and some days are going to be hard, some things are going to stink, and we are going to lose from time to time.  The lessons we learn when things go wrong are valuable and make us stronger and wiser as we move forward.  We can value the strength we gain as we struggle and be grateful for the understanding we gain as we learn from trials.  Life is an incredible blessing.  We can live wisely and find courage and strength when we need them.

Today if you’re facing a terrible challenge and have no idea what to do next, remember how wise and powerful you are.  You will find all the answers you need.  Nothing is too strong or difficult for you to manage.  Be confident and move forward.  You have everything you need already and there is happiness just around the corner.

Something Different

6 Sep

We make all kinds of personal connections as we go through our lives. Some of them are strong and we hold onto them for many years. We may become attached to someone we feel is very much like us who does things that make us happy and enhance our lives. As the connection grows, we believe in them and trust they are who they appear to be. Often that’s the case and we move forward knowing we can count on them and find comfort having them in our lives. But some people are dishonest and do things that make others believe they are someone they aren’t in order to create a close connection that gives them something they desire. When someone says all the right things that push all our happy buttons, it can be hard to imagine they are lying. If we trust them and give our hearts to them and then find out they aren’t who we thought they were but someone completely different, we may feel devastated. It’s hard to understand such manipulation and if it happens to us we may be crushed and lose confidence in ourselves. We can’t control the decisions of others and it’s good to trust and believe in them. If that turns against us, the one who deceived is responsible. Life can be complicated and we never know what will come next. No matter where we’ve been or what’s already happened, we can trust ourselves to make excellent decisions going forward. If we fell, we can get back up. We are strong and powerful and nothing can hold us down.

Strong, long lasting relationships take continual work and compromise. If both involved are willing to do what is needed to find resolution as problems arise, there’s a good chance for a positive outcome. But if we’re in a relationship where we’re doing all the work and the other person is ignoring their part while pretending to care, we may give too much of ourselves away and end up feeling empty and alone. We deserve the very best of every situation and never need to take on someone else’s responsibility. We can decide what’s best for us at every turn. We know what we want and with wisdom and courage we can do what we must to achieve it.

If we’ve been fooled by someone pretending to love us who isn’t the person they professed to be, we may struggle to forgive ourselves for falling for them. We may feel we should have known better but we can’t see things that are hidden. If we’d had all the facts from the beginning we would never have believed the lie. We are smart and intelligent and if someone fools us, we can take what we’ve learned forward and be confident in our ability to make the best decisions.

Today if you’ve fallen for a lie or are in a relationship that isn’t working, remember you are wise and valuable, and deserve every happiness. Let go of any guilt for mistakes in judgment and move forward with confidence. You are certainly capable of making excellent choices. Leave the past behind and step toward the future. There is great success and happiness ahead for you. Keep moving forward and you’ll reach it.

The Pace

5 Sep

Everything we do has a beginning and an end.  Both are important but what goes on between them is generally where all the learning, and struggle take place.  There are often many things pressing on us and sometimes our “to do” list may be long and daunting.  As we navigate through it, we prioritize what is most important and try to do that first, and then hope to get as much of the rest done as possible.  If there are a lot of difficult items to address we may get weary.  If we’re exhausted it won’t really matter what is next to do, we may decide it isn’t worth the effort and simply stop.  We may reach a point when fatigue takes over and we’re done – whether the list has been completed or not.  Running out of steam and feeling the pull of exhaustion is a clue that perhaps we’ve planned to do more than is reasonable.  It’s good to set goals that stretch us and help us learn new things but if those goals are beyond what we can physically manage, it may be time to regroup and make a new plan.  We don’t have to move constantly and do everything at once.  We’re in control of how we spend our time and can plan our days to accomplish what is most important and allow ourselves time recharge.  We set the pace of how we’ll go forward.  By being realistic about what we can do and honoring our personal needs, we will accomplish much and feel energized.  We can take care of business and take care of ourselves at the same time.  We are strong and can manage many things well.  There isn’t anything we can’t do with careful planning and effective time management.  Everything is within reach and we can accomplish anything we set out to do.

There may be pressure from those around us to do more, do it faster, and push ourselves harder.  There are lots of different opinions about how we should live our lives and we may certainly listen to all of them.  We know what we want and how we want to accomplish it.  Everyone may choose the roads they want to travel and the speed they want to run.  We know who we are and will find success when we are true to what works for us individually.  Deciding the direction and pace we will travel will take us to the goal.  We can go anywhere and do anything, and we can do it our way.

The world defines success in many different ways.  To some it’s how fast the goal is accomplished.  To others it’s how far we push ourselves to get there.  We can decide what determines our personal success and it need not agree with anyone else’s ideas.  We’re all unique and our interpretations are valuable and important.  We may not see things the way others do, and we may not travel the same roads.  But we can still reach success and accomplish anything we desire.  There are endless roads to every destination.  We can travel our own way and find the treasure.

Today if you’re being pressured to get things done more quickly or to change direction, decide what you want the most and plan the way forward to get there.  You can do anything you desire and nothing will keep you from your goals.  Set the pace that works for you and step forward.  You know what you want and you will get there.

I Can’t

4 Sep

Life is sometimes easy and everything moves along without much trouble. We sail through our days without much travail or stress, and feel confident about the future. It’s great when things come together easily and we don’t worry about what’s next. But those moments will never be permanent and in time, however much time that takes, things will change and trouble will come. We can’t control the decisions of others or much of what goes on around us and eventually there will be complications and trials. If the situation is intense and we don’t feel confident we may believe we can’t get through. It may feel too hard, too painful, too serious or just too much for us to deal with. The urge to run and hide or simply ignore the entire predicament may be great. We might look the other way and refuse to talk about it, but one thing is certain, ignoring a problem or pretending it doesn’t exist will never solve it. We all have limits to what we feel we can do but those limits are not set in stone and each trial teaches us something new that stretches what we can tolerate and understand. It isn’t fun to suffer or feel the pressure of trouble in our lives but we always have what we need to not only endure but to overcome. When we think we can’t do it, we can stop and think again. There is nothing we can’t manage and no problem is too complex for us to solve. We can dig deep and the resources we need will be there. All things are possible and we are strong enough and wise enough to continue forward and do anything we must to find success.

There are limitless ideas and experiences in the world. We’ll go through things we don’t imagine will happen and face complicated and confusing situations that may confound us and make us wonder how we will ever get through. But with each step we take, more information is revealed and as we move forward we’ll find all the answers we need. We’ve learned many things already and can trust in our ability to understand what is happening and believe we will prevail.

Some problems are very complicated and take considerable time to unravel and resolve. If we’re tired and weary of the struggle, we can stop and take a break. Fatigue will only make the situation more difficult and taking time away will often open up new ideas for moving forward and help us uncover the answers we’ve been seeking. We can do things our own way and in our own time and find success. There isn’t anything we can’t handle and we’ll find our way through no matter what we’re facing.

Today if you have a serious situation to navigate and feel it’s too much for you to handle, remember how strong and capable you are. It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is, you will solve it. It doesn’t matter how difficult the road ahead, you will find the way. You are amazing and strong, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Be confident. Push ahead and trust yourself. All the answers are there and you will find them. Keep moving forward. Success is only one step away.

Standing Alone

31 Aug

It’s great to have the support of others when making difficult decisions.  Knowing there are those around us who understand our situation can make it easier to choose and help us find the right way forward.  But sometimes we may make a decision nobody else agrees with.  Perhaps there is something they don’t want to face, or they feel they know the situation better than we do and have a more effective solution than we’ve chosen.  Or they may simply dislike the direction we want to travel.  We don’t need agreement or support for any decisions we make, and we don’t have follow everyone else if we want to turn another way.  We are the only ones who know ourselves and our situation completely and are perfectly capable of making excellent choices.  However, in a difficult situation where the road ahead may have serious complications, if our decision doesn’t go along with what others want, we may stand alone.  It’s not easy to be the only one who wants to go in a different direction and if we’re criticized because of our choice we may lose some personal connections.  We should always be true to what is most important to us and value the standards and choices we make.  If we differ from those around us we are strong and confident enough to take any push back that comes our way.  Our lives belong completely to us and we can live them any way we desire.  We can make our dreams come true by choosing the roads that take us to them, even if we must go alone.

People are often most comfortable around others who are like them.  If we’re different, the pressure to conform may be great.  It will always be easier to go along with those around us than to forge our own path forward.  There is comfort in the herd but we can never completely be ourselves if we’re simply doing what everyone else is doing.  Breaking away and taking our own personal road is the only way to reach our goals and make our dreams come true.  We don’t need to worry about being alone.  We know what we want and where we want to go, and nothing can stop us from finding success.

Everyone defines success their own way.  For some it’s simply getting through the day without trouble.  For others it means to reach for the highest peak possible.  The ideas of others belong to them and need not become ours unless we want them.  There are infinite possibilities in every life and we can decide where our priorities lie and what is most important to us.  We can make any decisions we like and take any road we desire.  There may be others traveling with us or we may take a solo journey.  In either case, our determination and courage will take us to the destinations we choose and we’ll find the success we seek.

Today if you’re standing alone because you’ve chosen a path others don’t want to take, be confident.  You know where you want to go and you have everything you need to move forward.  You have endless potential and nothing is out of reach.  Have courage, and remember how wise and strong you are.  You can do anything.  All your dreams are possible and you can make them come true.

Momentum

30 Aug

“Strength or force gained by motion or by a series of events.” Miriam-Webster

There are a lot of people around us all the time. We may not interact with all of them but there will be some with whom we build strong connections and come into contact with every day. Influence can be very powerful and if we’re involved with people who have strong ideas and opinions, our on-going contact with them may change our lives. Behaviors have a way of rubbing off on others and without even noticing, we may find we begin to look like them and act like them simply because of their constant interactions with us. Like an on-coming tide, there may be momentum in their influence over us. We may get swept up in what they’re doing, what they believe, and how they think we should live our lives. We can change anything about what we’re doing at any time but it’s important to be in control of the changes we’re making. Going along with someone because they are powerful and we admire them will not allow us to genuinely be who we are. Each of us is unique and have special gifts to offer the world that no one else can give. If we surrender that uniqueness to fit into someone else’s ideas, our gifts may remain unopened and our influence in the world may be quieted. We can be close to others and still hold onto our personal beliefs and desires. We can share our lives and still remain true to who we are. Momentum can be powerful but nothing is strong enough to carry us away if we are happy where we are. Our individuality is precious and by staying true to our core beliefs and values we enhance the lives of everyone around us.

When we’re children we mimic what our family does. We do things the way our parents tell us to and do not yet have our own personal style or belief system. As we grow and get to know the world we decide what is best for us and who we want to be. Every step we take defines us and creates the unique personality we share with others. By being ourselves, we bring diversity and variety to the world around us and enhance the experiences of others.

We are in control of our personal lives but if we don’t know what we stand for or who we are we may bend and follow every idea that comes along. There are a lot of different perspectives and we must decide which ones are best for us. We can’t be everything to everyone. We can clearly determine what we will and won’t do, and how we will live our lives. The design is ours to create and each day we can adjust and refine our way forward until we are happy with the lives we’re living.

Today if you’ve been following someone you admire who has definite ideas about what you should do, remember you know yourself better than anyone else. Decide how you want to live your life and then move forward in ways that bring you every blessing you desire. You are a gift to the world just as you are. Show us your uniqueness and share your life with us. We all want to know you. Your presence is a great gift to us all.