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Life Sentence

10 Aug

Life is a continual process of learning. Every step we take and every decision we make teaches us something. Although we may try to make the best choices possible, sometimes important details are disguised or we may be distracted and choose something that turns out badly. There is no way to know everything and we all make mistakes from time to time. If we’ve made a choice that has had terrible results we may need to work hard to fix it. Bad decisions happen and if they are extreme we may feel we’ve ruined our lives. We may be sure there is no way to repair the situation and we are lost, but everything is transient and nothing is permanent. There is no life sentence pronounced upon us when we fail. We aren’t doomed to remain in pain and anguish forever. It’s just a mistake. Even if it feels like a terminal disaster, it’s just a mistake. And mistakes can be amended. We can figure out what is needed to correct our course going forward and find the right road. If others have been hurt by our decision we can do what is required to apologize and turn things around. Nobody is perfect and there is no guide book to warn us before we make decisions. We will often choose wisely and generally find our way, and if we stumble we can adjust our direction ahead and start again. Life is all about learning. We learn everything we need to know as we move along. Detours may happen and we may falter, but we are capable of regaining our footing and continuing forward to success.

If we make a bad decision that impacts a personal relationship in serious ways there may be long lasting consequences. If the damage is great we may lose the connection with the other person completely. They may choose to walk away from us and leave us behind. We can try to repair the situation but we cannot make anyone continue forward with us against their will. We can learn as much as possible from the experience and take that information forward to help us in the future. Sometimes things break and can’t be repaired but we can remain open to starting again if the opportunity comes.

We are free to choose anything we like but we cannot control the results of those choices. Sometimes things will go exactly as planned and other times they may work against us. Learning to see things openly and objectively, and being willing to look at all sides of every problem will enable us to make the best choices. We are capable of making excellent decisions and have everything we need to succeed. We can trust in our ability to choose wisely and if things go awry, we can choose again to correct our way forward.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and have caused yourself or others pain or discomfort, look at the issue completely. See the best options going forward and choose the path that will correct your course. You are intelligent and wise, and can do amazing things. The road to success is there for you. Seek it, and find it. There isn’t anything you can’t do and do well. You have everything you need right now to succeed.

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Getting Back Up

9 Aug

Life is unpredictable.  No matter what we’re going through today, chances are tomorrow will be different.  We take life as it comes one step at a time and sometimes things happen that knock us down.  We may face serious disappointments we didn’t expect or someone may do something that hurts us and knocks us off course.  Life rarely happens in a straight line as we travel along.  There are generally all kinds of curves, detours and complications we must navigate moving forward.  If we’ve suffered a big setback and the wind has been knocked out of us there may be some confusion about how to get back on track.  We may feel disoriented and lost for a time and if the break has been severe enough, we may doubt our ability to continue forward.  Getting knocked down happens but it’s never a permanent situation.  It doesn’t end our journey and no matter what has happened, no matter how painful it is or how desperate we feel, we can get back up again.  We can rely on our internal strength even when the wind is fierce against us.  We can trust that no matter what comes we’ll overcome it and continue forward.  We may have to choose another road, or adjust our trajectory and there may be many obstacles to conquer to continue again.  It doesn’t matter what needs to be done.  We have all the courage, wisdom and strength to solve any problem and resolve any issue that is holding us down.  Nothing will stop us from standing up and moving forward.  There is a lot to be learned from conflict and we can take all the lessons we’ve gained forward with us.  We are strong and mighty, and nothing is too hard for us to overcome.

If we’ve had lots of success and have kept our eyes focused on our goals we may not see trouble brewing ahead.  When it comes we may try to figure out what went wrong as we attempt to unravel the problem before us and if we are responsible for the setback we will learn a lot by reviewing what happened.  But sometimes things change because of the decisions of others or developments out of our control.  When problems come and we get stuck, no matter what caused the situation, we can find our way forward again.

Learning to get back up after being knocked down takes determination and courage.  It doesn’t matter how difficult it may be to find our way again or if we have to go alone.  If we are determined to continue forward we will manage the complications and find our way.  We have all the courage we need to get up and keep going.  We are stronger than we think we are and nothing can stop us.  Success is always there for us.

Today if you’ve been knocked down and you feel lost and aren’t sure you can continue, get back up.  There isn’t anything strong enough to hold you down.  You have everything you need to succeed and nothing can stop you from winning.  The wind may be strong but you are stronger.  Keep going forward.  Everything you desire is waiting for you and you will have it.

Rear View Mirror

8 Aug

As we go through our lives we experience many scenarios and situations. Sometimes they are beneficial and we build connections and remain. Others times they may be passing encounters or situations that are uncomfortable and we decide to let go. Although we can choose where we’ll go and how we’ll live our lives we might face a time where we end up in a place that isn’t working for us but is hard to disengage from. Perhaps it’s a difficult relationship that is unmanageable but we aren’t sure how to change it. Or maybe it’s a pattern we’ve developed that worked in the beginning but no longer brings us happiness. Life is filled with all kinds of opportunities and experiences. If we find ourselves doing things that aren’t bringing us joy we can change them. It doesn’t matter if we’ve been doing the same thing for years or if the change we desire causes temporary turmoil. What matters is that we live our lives authentically and in ways that bring us satisfaction and joy. We are the only ones who can create happiness in our lives. We know what we want most of all and we can let go of anything that prevents us from achieving it. We can drive forward leaving what doesn’t work in the rear view mirror. Our lives are ours to design our own way. If others disagree we can still do what is best for us. We can move forward and leave the past behind. We have all the wisdom and courage to make the decisions we need to be completely happy and fulfilled.

Routines make us feel comfortable and if we do the same things every day we may feel secure because the scenery doesn’t change. Routines are great for sameness but not effective if we want to grow and stretch. We can’t discover how far we can go if we stay in the same place day after day. There are limitless things we could do with our lives and endless experiences we could enjoy but we must be open to new things and willing to step away from the norm. We can try something new and stretch beyond where we are today.

When our relationships with others are difficult and we feel restricted it’s hard to express who we really are. When others have expectations of what we’ll do or how we’ll act and we comply with their desires we may get along for a time. We may be able to go through the motions but eventually our true selves will push forward and we’ll need to change. Who we really are is precious and valuable. We don’t have to fit in, we don’t have to pretend, and we can genuinely be our best selves. Nobody could possibly design a better fit for us than who we already are. We can share that and be truly happy. The uniqueness and individuality we bring is priceless and a gift no one else can bring.

Today if you’re in a situation that isn’t where you want to be or going along with something that isn’t what you really want to do, reframe your way forward. You can be yourself and choose a path that reflects what you want most. You are unique and wonderful just as you are. Leave the games behind and be yourself. You are a gift to the world and your uniqueness blesses us all.

Revision

7 Aug

We all have particular behavior idiosyncrasies that make us unique and special.  We have some traits that bring us happiness and help us manage our daily lives and we are grateful for them.  We may also have some behaviors that don’t work so well and hang us up from time to time.  We all learn behavior patterns as we grow and when we’re accustomed to doing things a certain way we may continue even if they bring us discomfort.  Whether or not we continue to repeat them is up to us.  We can have any kind of life we want.  If we want a life filled with drama and tension, it’s not difficult to create.  But if we want lives filled with peace and harmony we may need to look at our behaviors clearly and objectively and change some patterns in order to achieve it.  We all know what’s best for us and when we’re doing things that will bring problems and complications to our lives.  In every decision we can do our best to create situations that bring order and calm instead of conflict and tension.  We can’t control what others do but we can determine to carefully consider all the options before us and choose the options that bring resolution and comfort.  Every day is a blessing.  Learning to care for ourselves and make the most positive choices will help us enjoy our time and bring us peace and added joy.

Some decisions fill our lives with conflict.  They may include some kind of deception or manipulation that intensifies the problem.  If we like tension or feel energized when there are problems to solve it’s not difficult to create a life filled with trouble.  If we want constant struggle we can create scenarios that make it happen.  We may manufacture situations to prove how strong we are or how affective we can solve difficult situations.  It takes a lot of energy to live in continual conflict. There is enough natural complication in our lives already and we don’t have to prove anything to anyone.  We can revise decisions that may bring added conflict and make choices that resolve it by choosing peace over contention.

Learning to live peacefully opens doors to new opportunities.  Everyone enjoys being around those who have a positive outlook and seek the best options in their decisions.  There is no way to completely avoid conflict but when it comes we can decide to do things that will minimize the problem and defuse the intensity.  We are in complete control of our decisions and can make any choice we desire.  Since we can never choose the outcome of any choice we make it’s in our best interest to weigh our options carefully and make the decisions that have the greatest chance of bringing the results we desire.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well.  Learning to live peacefully and happily will bring us great reward and satisfaction.  Our lives are precious and we can fill them with joy.

Today if you’ve been struggling with conflict and pushing against resolution, look at the issue clearly and decide the best way forward.  You have everything you need to be happy and successful.  Make decisions today that will bring you joy in the future.  You are precious and priceless.  Be happy and choose wisely.

Broken or Blessed

4 Aug

Relationships are important to all of us.  When we have a healthy and strong network of family and friends around us we feel supported and cared for.  Relationships come in all varieties and when they are good for us they are blessings in our lives.  But sometimes we may develop a relationship with someone who doesn’t have our best interests at heart.  Perhaps they are dysfunctional in their own lives and use us to fill in the gaps and missing pieces they experience within themselves.  Or maybe they see us as a stepping stone to something better.  Sometimes they may manipulate us into believing they care for us when they don’t or convince us to trust them in ways that work against us.  If they need more than we’re comfortable giving or have problems that interfere with our happiness it will be impossible for us to continue.  We don’t have to end any relationship that is important to us but if it’s hurting us we can find ways to manage it that ensure we’re comfortable and safe.  If a relationship is too difficult it may break and we may have to walk away.  Our personal happiness and safety are important and if we’re in a relationship that hurts us or makes us feel unsure we can change our involvement.  There are all kinds of people in the world and some need more than we can give.  We don’t have to continue in any situation that doesn’t work.  We can choose a new path at any time and are in complete control of our lives.  We know ourselves and know what is best for us.  Taking control and choosing the best road forward will bring us happiness and peace.

Perception is reality and sometimes our perception of an issue may be different than someone else’s.  What is acceptable and appropriate for one person may be offensive and unwelcome to another.  If we develop a relationship with someone whose ideas about what is right differ from ours, there will likely be conflict.  It may be possible to find a compromise but if the differences are extreme and feelings are strong it may become unworkable.  If we’re involved with someone whose personal values are far different than ours we may need to step back.  We deserve to be happy and choose to live our lives according to our personal standards.  We need not compromise what is most important to us.

There are few things more rewarding than a loving relationship with someone who respects us and treats us with kindness.  We feel strong when we’re with them and confident going forward knowing they have our backs and we can count on them for support.  Sharing our lives with someone who understands us and cares for us is a great blessing.  We can have any kind of relationships we desire.  We know what we want and what we need, and if we choose well we will be happy.

Today if you’re struggling with a relationship that brings you pain and frustration, consider all your options going forward.  You are in control of your life and you deserve every happiness.  Make choices today that will bring you comfort and joy.  You know what you need and you know what to do.  Be confident.  You have everything you need to have the life you desire.

Planning to Fail

3 Aug

There are a lot of things we want to do and we may think about how our lives would look if all our dreams came true. We can achieve anything we desire but first we must define what is needed to gain success and then we must be willing to do everything required. Even if we want something badly, there may be times we make decisions that keep us from succeeding. For example, if we want to lose weight but continue to overeat, or we want to be successful in our careers but do only enough to get by, or we want to be physically strong but refuse to exercise. If we don’t do the things needed to succeed we are in essence planning to fail. Success is always available but it won’t come to us simply because we want it badly. We must determine what it takes to achieve it and then we must do it. We can bemoan our lot in life, complain about missed opportunities and feel we’ve been cheated because the life we want the most hasn’t been achieved. We may feel better having a personal pity session but it won’t move us closer to where we want to go. No matter what has passed already there are countless opportunities now we can embrace and pursue to get where we want to go. We never have to stay where we are. We can plan to succeed and move forward with confidence by deciding exactly what we want and then doing what is needed to get it. We are in control of our lives and can do anything we choose. We can be as successful as we desire. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We can plan to succeed and we can win.

It’s easy to envy others’ successes. When we see those who have achieved goals we desire we may think it was easier for them than it is for us or they somehow found a secret we haven’t yet discovered. We can’t see the years of struggle they may have had to endure or the many failures they had to crawl out from under to keep going. We don’t know what kinds of disappointments they faced or how many times they had to start again. We only see their success. Few successes come without work. We can achieve anything we desire but we must be willing to work for it.

It’s a true axiom that we always do what we want to do most. We may argue that sometimes we don’t have a choice but in reality, we always choose what we will do. Even if there are pressures from those around us to comply with their decisions, we can always go our own way. We don’t have to have to go along to keep the peace, we don’t have to do what is expected, and we don’t have to fit in. We can live our lives any way we choose. Our successes are choices we make and we can achieve anything we desire.

Today if you’ve been wanting to succeed at something but have made choices that have prevented you from moving forward, set your sites on the goal and plan to achieve it. Do what is needed to create the life you want the most. This is your time and you deserve every success. Plan to succeed and then do what is needed to make it happen. Nothing can stop you and you will win.

 

Looking Good

2 Aug

These days there is a lot of focus on our external appearance.  Everywhere we look there are ads for products to make us look younger, thinner, more desirable and more beautiful.  Some of us are short, some tall, some heavy, some thin, some old, and some young.  The scope of appearance among us is very broad and diverse.  We can try to look like all the pictures we see of famous, beautiful people and we may succeed but looking good according to the standards set by others may not bring us happiness.  There is great joy to be found in difference and if we all looked the same the scenery would be quite boring and uninspiring.  It’s important to embrace our own personal style and rejoice in our own special appearance.  We are one of a kind.  There has never been and never will be another person exactly like us.  We can love our own personal beauty even if it differs from what those around us think it should be.  When we are happy and content with who we are, when we are striving to be our very best and doing the things we most want to do our external appearance will reflect joy and peace and there is nothing more beautiful.  Finding beauty by looking good on the outside is only part of the story.  It also includes how we feel about ourselves.  We are all beautiful in different ways.  Living our lives purposefully and directing them toward the destinations we most want to achieve will bring us light and happiness that will be reflected in all we do, and will create more beauty than anything else ever could.

Our outward appearance is always affected by what is going on inside us.  If we are struggling with conflict and stress it will be reflected in our appearance.  It’s impossible to hide everything we’re going through and even if we’re great actors, there will likely be a crack in the armor.  Difficult times come to all of us and as we navigate them we may appear to be tense or even angry to those around us.  We will find comfort and respite from the trial if we remind ourselves we can manage anything that comes and will be successful.  We can overcome every challenge and continue to walk forward with confidence.

If we are living unethically or dishonestly we may try to appear to be doing things differently and we may be able to fool those around us for a time.  We may continue to smile and act as though we’re doing things well and it may work for a while but eventually what we’re doing secretly will rise and become apparent through our behavior.  We can’t look our best if we’re living deceptively.  If we want to be our best we must do our best.  We have everything we need to choose wisely and move forward on roads that will bring us true success.  Living honestly and true to our personal values will bring us joy and that will bring us true beauty.

Today if you want to be truly beautiful, make the best choices you can.  Choose to be honest and travel the roads that will bring you joy.  If there is stress and conflict, remember how powerful and capable you are.  There isn’t anything too difficult for you to manage and you will prevail.  You are a great blessing to us all and your true personal beauty is a gift to the world.