Thin Skin

7 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world and they each have their own ideas about life and how things should go. We know who we are, and are sure about what we want and how we want to move forward. It’s easy to make friends and feel comfortable when those around us are like us. When they believe the same things we do, and understand our point of view, it’s easy to connect and build alliances. But the world is a big place, and people come from many diverse backgrounds. There will be many others who are vastly different than we are, and their views may be in direct opposition to what we believe is right. That does not make them wrong, or wicked, or less than us. It only makes them different. If we can’t tolerate anything outside our own ideas, it will be very difficult to interact with them. We are entitled to believe anything we desire and we can form our own opinions about everything in life. But if we’re so thin skinned we cannot tolerate anyone who is different, it may be difficult for us to get along. Some people say they “celebrate diversity” but when someone questions their ideas and presents an opposing view, they shut down or become angry. No two people are exactly the same. Everyone has their own perspective, and unless they are hurting others, each has value. We don’t have to adopt anything we don’t want, and can decide how we’ll live our own lives. We can be confident in our views, and strong enough to accept other points of view, even if we don’t understand or agree with them. Life is full of variety and variation. We can be welcoming and respect other points of view, and still hold onto to what is most important. Everyone has worth, and we can honor each individual, and still choose our own way forward.

When we’re growing up, what we experience in our families seems normal and right. As we mature, we begin to see other expressions and understand that our experience is unique to us and not universal. We can hold onto exactly what makes us comfortable and refuse to change, or we can embrace other points of view and allow them to enrich our understanding of the world around us. Holding on may feel comfortable, but will never allow us to expand our thinking and become more accepting.

Life would be easier if everyone was the same. If we were all on the same road with the same ideas, there would be less conflict and more harmony. That may be true, but it’s the differences that bring great richness to our experience, and broaden our thinking. We can accept difference and uniqueness, and honor the right for everyone to express their own ideas and viewpoints. Life is a great teacher, and by being open and welcoming, we will gain great insight and wisdom.

Today if you want everyone to agree with you and find it hard to accept different points of view, remember we are all important and worthwhile. Each expression has value. Be open to new ideas that will enhance your experience and help you understand the world. You are incredible and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Let others tell you who they are, and welcome new ideas. Your life will be enriched, and you’ll find great satisfaction moving forward.

In Between

6 Aug

Change is constant and is the only thing we can really count on. Some changes come as expected and we navigate through them easily, but life is unpredictable. We may face a time when something unexpected turns everything upside down and we are stopped in our tracks. It may take time to figure out what’s happened, and what to do next. As we stand still trying to process the new landscape and decide on our next steps, we may feel disoriented and unsure. When the road ahead is something we’ve planned for, the distance in between where we are and where we’re headed is clear and easy to see. But if our future is suddenly in doubt and we can’t yet see the way forward, we may feel momentarily paralyzed and unable to move. The space between where we are and where we want to go may be dark, and unclear. We never know what will come and there is no way to see what lies ahead. Things may go wrong, we may get turned around, the road we’re on may disappear, or a thousand other developments we can’t foresee. No matter what happens, the answers we need will be there for us. We don’t need to panic, or worry we won’t succeed. We can take one step at a time, solve each problem as it arises, and find the way forward. Detours are not the end of the journey. They may delay us and make the road ahead more complex, but they cannot keep us from our goals. Life is full of challenges but we are strong enough and wise enough to manage whatever comes. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely and we have everything we need to succeed. Surprises will come, trials may beset us, and we might have to stop and regroup before we proceed.  But we are intelligent and wise, and will find the way forward.

The world is huge and we are never restricted to one place forever. We can always venture forth toward something new. Although our routines are familiar and comfortable, when we’re ready for a something different, we can stretch forth and move onto a new location or situation. While we’re in the process of moving from what we know to what we want, there may times of uncertainty and doubt. It’s not easy to let go of the familiar, and reach for something more. But we know what we want, and are perfectly capable of managing anything that’s required to get us there. Every destination is possible, and with determination and faith, we can do anything.

It’s easy to navigate through common territory we know well. We feel at ease when the road is familiar and we’re used to the scenery. We barely need to look where we’re going and can continue forward without much thought. But there are endless opportunities possible, and when we’re ready, we can step beyond the pavement, and chart a new course. Every single dream is possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to make it ours. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything.

Today if you want to move onto something new but aren’t sure you will succeed, trust yourself. You are stronger and wiser than you imagine. Be confident and step toward the dreams you desire. Everything is possible. Believe in yourself and move ahead. You are amazing and capable, and nothing can keep you from success.

Square Peg

5 Aug

Everyone is different and we all see things from our own perspectives. Our lives are shaped by the experiences we have and as we move forward, each experience colors the way we see things and how we want to proceed. There is no one perfect way to live life. We have endless opportunities to do anything we like, and can design our lives any way we choose. When we’re true to our own personal needs and desires, we can find great satisfaction and happiness. But there are lots of other people around us all the time, and if they have influence over us, we may be tempted to choose what they think is best instead of listening to our own inner voice. It’s certainly easier to let others plot our course and simply follow along, but sitting in the back seat will never put us in control of where we’re headed. Going along with someone else’s ideas about what we should be doing will only take us where they want us to go, which may be far from the destinations we desire most. Someone else’s destination is just that – someone else’s. It’s like trying to force a square peg into a round hole. It’s never going to fit. We know who we are and what we want, and nothing is powerful enough to keep us from the goals we want most. We don’t have to assimilate into what others are doing or conform to anyone’s ideas about our lives. We are in complete control of our own destinies. Every road is there for us and nothing is out of reach. By stepping forward and choosing our own journey, we will reach every destination with confidence and clarity. We can have the lives we desire most, and every dream is possible.

Some people are very confident and think they know how to live in the best ways. They may give us suggestions and direction for moving forward, telling us they know what we need. We can listen to any advice we get, but one thing is certain – nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We already know what we want, and have all the wisdom and courage needed to achieve any goal we desire. Every destination is waiting for us, and we will reach them.

We may be pressured by family or friends to do things a certain way that works for them and makes their lives easier. It’s good to be helpful, but we don’t have to give up everything to get along. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and the paths we choose are specific and unique to our own personal desires. We can value our relationships and still hold onto our own identities. Being true to who we really are and moving toward the goals we want the most will bring us lasting happiness and fulfillment. We deserve every blessing, and with determination and focus, we can make them ours.

Today if you’ve been putting your own ideas on hold and going along with those around you, remember how incredible and unique you are. You bring great light and joy to the world, and every gift is there for you. Decide what you want the most, and step forward and claim it. Nothing can keep you from your dreams. They’re all there for you, and you will make them yours.

What They Have

29 Jul

We share the planet with lots of other people. They constantly come in and out of our lives, and unless we live on a deserted island, they are all around us. Every person is unique and we all have our own ideas about how things should go and what we should do. We make our own decisions along with all the others around us. When we see someone with a life we think we want, we may wish to be like them. We might watch them and begin to copy what they do, thinking it will bring us what we want. If someone at work is more successful than we are, we could follow their lead and it may bring us greater success. It’s true that if we do everything someone else does, we may get what they have. If it turns out that’s what we really want, we’ll be happy, but seeing just what’s on the outside can never tell us the entire story. Seeing someone with lots of money and influence may look appealing, but doesn’t expose the long hours of work, missed chances for a family and time with friends, or the loss of connections from intense ambition that may also be part of the package. Following another person’s choices will only take us where they want to go, and will never take us to the life we want the most. Our dreams and goals are specific and personal to us. There isn’t anyone else like us in all of creation, and we have gifts to offer the world that nobody else can give. Being true to who we are, and honoring our own choices will bring us great satisfaction. Our happiness is important. By choosing our own journey, we can make all our dreams come true.

If we’re dissatisfied with what we have or what we’ve accomplished, we may struggle with low self-esteem. If we see someone who has more of what we want, we may envy their lives, and feel diminished by their success. Envy is a powerful emotion that never brings happiness. We can step away from it by focusing on the good we’ve accomplished, and reminding ourselves that nobody has everything. Instead of feeling envious, we can celebrate the success of others, focus on our own goals, and move forward with confidence toward the dreams we want to accomplish.

There are endless ideas about life and what is means to be successful. We may have pressure from family or friends to live a certain way, and accomplish certain goals. We can always go along, and take their suggestions, but if they don’t lead us to our own destinations, happiness will elude us. Our lives belong to us. We can listen to any advice given, and then choose the roads that will take us where we most want to go. All our dreams are there for us. We can do anything. By creating our own individual journeys, and reaching our personal goals, we will find happiness and great success. Everything is possible, and we will win.

Today if you’ve been following someone else because what they have is attractive, remember there is always more to the story. Chart your own course for the future. You know what you want, and have everything you need to succeed. Be confident, and step ahead with clarity and focus. Every dream is there for you, and you will make them yours.

The Very End

28 Jul

Life is filled with opportunities. We can do anything we like, and each day brings new possibilities. If we’re focused on what we want to accomplish, we can design our lives in ways that bring us great satisfaction and lasting happiness. All options are possible, but few will come without effort. Of course, we can sail along and just let things roll out as they will, and we may be happy with what we get. But without direction, our lives will simply be a reflection of whatever is happening around us. Without thought and effort, we will never reach the goals we most desire. When we’re looking ahead and are focused on a particular destination, if we plan well and move forward with determination, each step will take us closer to the goal. Some things come quickly, but others will require attention and diligence, and we may have to strain to push ourselves forward. If we’ve been trying hard, and seemingly pushing uphill for a long time, it may be difficult to continue. A marathon race is a long distance. The first few miles may fly by, but as we press forward, putting one foot in front of the other, we will tire. When we get close to the finish line, we may be exhausted, and begin to doubt we can make it. Anyone can accomplish the first mile of a race. It’s the last mile that’s the hardest, and defines who we are. We will never win unless we’re willing to endure to the very end, no matter how hard the race becomes. If we only start out well, excited and full of energy, and then sit down and stop when the road gets hard and miles stretch before us, we will never succeed. Some challenges are very difficult, and will try us, perhaps more than we think we can endure. But there are great reserves of strength and stamina within us. We have all the courage and temerity we need to win. We are strong and powerful, and if we’re determined, nothing can keep us from success.

There is no way to see into the future, and we never know when we begin what will happen or how things will go. Some roads are paved, well-traveled, and easy, and are a snap to navigate. But others may take us through foreign territory, where we don’t know the players, and the terrain is difficult and unknown. Stretching beyond what we know is never easy, but if we want to move toward our goals, we can step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything we can’t manage, and no complication that can hold us in place. We are intelligent and capable, and will find the way forward.

Nobody has unlimited energy and there will be times when we’ll tire and run out of steam. A long challenge will test our ability to endure, and we may have moments when quitting looks very appealing. We can do anything we like, and if the journey is more than we can handle right now, we can step away and do something else. Change is constant, and the chance to start again will come. Every goal is possible and we have everything we need to reach them.

Today if the road you’re on is hard and you’re tired of struggling, look ahead. The end is closer than you think, and you have everything you need to prevail. Be strong and step forward. Nothing can keep you from success, and you will win.