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Looking Clearly

2 Nov

As we go through our lives we’ll have countless experiences. Sometimes things happen we never dream would come, and if they are difficult and challenging, we might at first try to ignore them. If we don’t look at it, we don’t have to face it, so we avert our gaze and concentrate on what’s more comfortable. That might work for a while, but if the issue is pervasive and constant, eventually it will grab our attention and we’ll have to face it. Maybe there’s a health issue we don’t want to acknowledge, or a relationship problem we’ve been assiduously ignoring, or a work situation that’s deteriorating. Whatever it is, odds are it’s not going to go away until we turn around and look at everything openly, and then do what is needed to address it. We can’t control what comes to us or what happens outside our own decisions. Things we don’t expect are going to happen. We may be completely caught off guard and concerned about what we’ll do, but even if our worst dreams come true, we have all the courage and wisdom we need to address them and do what is necessary to get through. If we need help, we can get it. If we need professional guidance, it will be there for us. There is a solution for every problem we’ll encounter. By keeping our eyes open and refusing to look away, we will more effectively find the answers we need. We are stronger than we think we are, and there isn’t anything that can hold us in place indefinitely.

Everyone wants an easy life where everything goes well and we can sail through without worry or concern. We may wish for that, but this is real life, and no matter who we are, we’re going to face trials and tribulations of some sort. Nobody wants their world turned upside down and it’s hard to go through serious, and challenging times. We may feel isolated and alone, but chances are no matter what’s happened, someone else has already traveled that road. We can reach out and ask for help, and get the support and information we need to fully understand the situation and find the way ahead.

Change is constant and no matter what we’re going through today, it will be different tomorrow. Even long term problems modify as we move forward. There is no reason to get ahead of ourselves and think we can’t survive.  We can be patient and take things one step at a time. Modifying as we go, and learning with each passing moment will help us move forward and manage effectively. Life is unpredictable, and bad things may happen, but we are wise and capable, and will find all the answers we need.

Today if you’re facing a difficult development and feel overwhelmed and unsure, trust yourself. You are stronger and wiser than you imagine and there isn’t anything you can’t handle. Be confident, and stand strong. Look at everything clearly and decide how you want to proceed. There isn’t anything you can’t manage, and there is still great success ahead. Keep moving forward and every dream will be yours.

Taking It With You

9 Aug

Life is complicated and ever changing. Every day brings something new to deal with and understand. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go, and when they don’t go the way we want them to, we may suffer great pains of disappointment and frustration. Most of the time we can manage the ups and downs, but if something terrible happens, it may change the way we think about our lives and we may struggle to move on. When we suffering with personal problems and feel lost and confused, we may think a change of scenery will help. We may believe that if we just go someplace new we can start again and everything will be fine. A change in location will force us to concentrate on lots of new things until we get settled. We may be too busy to notice what’s been going wrong and feel some relief. A different place may distract us for a time but no matter where we go, or what new activity we get involved in, we take everything with us. Problems don’t usually solve themselves, and they will remain quietly waiting until the dust settles again. We can try to tuck them away, and hide them deep inside, and that may work for a time, but eventually they will rise and remind us they are there. There is nothing to be gained by dragging problems along indefinitely, and the best we can do is stop, open all the doors, look at everything clearly and find the answers we need to resolve them once and for all. If we’re unsure we can do it alone, we can ask for help. By reaching out to someone we trust, we can get the assurance and encouragement we need to do what is necessary to finally let go. Life is a great blessing. Holding onto unresolved conflict will never help us move forward. We are intelligent and have everything we need to prevail. Nothing is strong enough to hold us down when we’re ready to move. Every success is always possible and we can start again, and make them ours.

Nobody gets a charmed life filled with paved roads and endless parties. We’re all going to suffer through hard times, face difficult challenges and struggle to find the way ahead. Nobody wants to suffer, but the hard trials we face teach us a lot about ourselves and the world around us. If everything always worked out and nothing ever went wrong, we would know very little about reality. The things that test our patience, and push us to our limits bring us the tools we need to live fully and successfully. When we must push hard to move forward, finally reaching the goal brings great happiness and satisfaction.

Nobody is perfect or knows everything. We may face something that is so difficult and complex, we have no idea how to process it much less solve it. Everyone’s experiences are different and it’s likely someone else has been through the very issue we’re struggling with. Reaching out to others will open new doors and bring new ideas for resolution. We’re not alone if we allow others to help. All the answers we need are already there for us. We can do what is needed to take things one step at a time until we find our way forward. Nothing is out of reach and we will prevail.

Today if you’re facing a serious problem and are thinking of running to a new place to find relief, remember how strong and capable you are. You are wiser and more intelligent than you realize, and nothing can keep you from success. Take your time and look at everything objectively. Reach out for help if you need it, and be patient. You are amazing and all the answers you need are there. Trust yourself and be confident. Every destination is waiting and every success is possible.  Stand strong and step forward. There is light just ahead, and you will reach it.

Breaking Apart

20 Jul

Life is a continual process of letting go. We learn and grow as we move forward, and our lives are continually modified as things develop. Change is constant and we may face a time when due to circumstances beyond our control we must let go of something we cherish deeply.  Health concerns, financial changes and a thousand other developments may prevent us from continuing an activity that has brought us great satisfaction. Our lives may be suddenly be altered in ways that are difficult to accept and hard to understand.  If we must walk away from something we love deeply, we may feel we’re breaking apart. The pain and sorrow may be intense and we may believe we’ll never find happiness again. When we’re suffering and trying to make sense of a new situation, it may seem impossible to navigate and find peace and comfort. Sudden, difficult changes are not easy to get through but we are intelligent and stronger than we imagine. No matter what has happened or what we must leave behind, we can find the road ahead and figure out how to proceed. There is no rush to find all the answers. We can take our time and think about all the options and possibilities available. When we’re ready we can take the first step and begin a new journey. Change isn’t easy but difference doesn’t always mean less. Happiness and success are still there for us, and we can be confident we will achieve them both.

What we do defines who we are, and our lives are embellished by the activities we participate in.  If something changes and we can no longer do the things we love so much, we may suffer serious grief and despair trying to figure out what to do next.  How do we replace something that has defined us for so long?  What could possibly take its place?  At first we may believe it’s hopeless and nothing will ever bring us the same satisfaction we’ve had so far. Life is complicated and things go wrong, but a turn in our direction does not end the journey. There will always be something new to try and in time we will find another way ahead. Life is long and nothing can prevent things from changing. By being open to new options and trusting ourselves, we will find all the answers we need.

Truth is truth and trying to force something that doesn’t work is a waste of time and energy. We can only work with what we have at any given moment, and sometimes the options possible do not match what we want. We can try to ignore the facts and drag everything along with us, determined to make it work which will only exhaust us in the end. By looking at everything objectively and openly, and accepting our situation where it is, we can make a plan to change what we can, and move forward toward success. Seeing things as they really are and not how we wish they were will help us open the doors ahead and reach the destinations we desire.

Today if your situation has changed and you must let go of something you love and desire, think about all the possibilities ahead. Change isn’t the end of the journey. You are wise and intelligent and every answer you seek is there for you. Be comforted and confident. All the destinations you desire are still there for you.  Modify your plans and step forward with clarity and confidence.  Nothing can keep you from your goals and you will succeed.

Unexpected Consequence

13 Jun

Every single decision we make will bring some sort of result. Many times we can see what will happen if we choose something, but not always. Life is complex and there is no way to know everything about anything at any time. There will always be unknowns, and situations beyond our reach that may impact something we’re doing. Once we’ve made our choice and things start to unfold, all the ramifications of the road ahead will start to show themselves and we may be surprised by what we see. Some complications may be very involved and if we had known about them before hand we may have chosen another way forward. Unexpected consequences happen. We don’t know what we don’t know and even when we try our best to choose wisely, sometimes things go awry. There is no way to read the future, or predict what will happen next. The best we can do is look at all our options carefully, and decide on the best way forward. We are intelligent and highly capable. If things go wrong and our plans go up in smoke, we have everything we need to look again and make another choice. There isn’t anything we can’t do if we’re willing to continue forward. Nothing is out of reach and with wisdom and patience every goal is possible.

Some decisions have known possible results. If we smoke throughout our lives, the odds that we’ll get cancer are increased. If we constantly make poor decisions, the chances of finding happiness are minimized. If we continually overeat, the possibilities of losing weight will be lost. Sometimes even when we know the results of our decisions are not going to be what we want, we may make them anyway out of weakness, impatience or because at the moment, we just don’t care. To live well and successfully takes thought and patience. We really can have the lives we want the most, but we must be willing to choose the things that will bring it to us.

People are creative and will surprise us from time to time. Someone may take a stand and get in our way because they do not agree with what we’re doing. We share the world with billions of others and although we have the right to choose the roads we’ll take, we also have to navigate around those who are going in the opposite direction. Distractions may pull us off course, and we may get turned around and confused, but if we keep our eyes on the goal, we will find our way forward. Every success is possible and with clarity and determination, no matter what gets in the way, we will win.

Today if you have a specific goal you want to achieve, think about the decisions you are making. Choose things that will pave the way forward and help you move closer to the prize. You are smarter and more powerful than you think you are. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and begin. Every single dream is possible, and you will make them yours.

Opening A Window

15 Apr

Life is long and filled with all kinds of experiences. We never know what will happen next or how things will develop. Sometimes we sail along with hardly a care or worry, and other times we may feel beset by trouble and turmoil. Things may go wrong because of decisions we’ve made or the decisions or actions of someone else. And sometimes crap just happens. When we’re struggling, if we get overwhelmed with stress and complications, and have been pushing hard for a long time, we may tire and begin to feel hopeless. It may seem like nothing we do changes anything and there is no end to the grief and despair. We may be convinced this is it, this is as good as it’s ever going to be and our lives are ruined. Once we lose hope in any chance of change, we may give up and surrender to our darkest fears and emotions. If we’re in a dark, stuffy room, it can feel like there is no air. But if we open a window, the cool air will stream through, and refresh and lift us. Hard times come to us all but no matter how bad the situation seems, there will always be hope. We can open a window in our hearts, trust in ourselves, and be sure that nothing will overcome us and hold us down forever. The situation may be dire, and we may be consumed with concern, but change is constant and cannot be held back. Tomorrow will come, the sun will rise and in time, however long that takes, things will improve. We will learn to adjust and overcome whatever we must to find peace again. Happiness and success will always be possible. We are wise and strong, and can do what is needed to get through and reach them both.

Running a marathon is hard. It takes lots of training, endurance and stamina. Sometimes it may seem we’re running a marathon in our lives. Lots of things are trying us and we may have to push hard against obstacles to make any headway. Just when we think we can see the finish line, things change and there are miles yet to go. Big, intense trials are hard to get through. They test our patience, our strength, and sometimes our sanity. But we are stronger and wiser than we think we are, and every answer we need is always there for us. By taking things one step at a time and keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will prevail.

If we must face a difficult health situation, a sudden unexpected death of a loved one, an unforeseen loss of a job, or a dozen other difficult scenarios, we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. At first we may feel lost about our next steps. What do we do now? How can we face this? It may seem there is no way to survive, but that will never be true. There will always be a way ahead. We can stop and stand still, and take time to determine how we want to proceed. We are powerful and highly capable, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with worry and trouble, and it seems nothing you do moves you forward, remember all the times you’ve already overcome serious and difficult challenges. You are wise and powerful, and even if the road is long and hard, you will prevail. Nothing can keep you from moving ahead, and every destination is still there for you. Be confident and stand strong. Every dream is waiting, and you will reach them all.