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After

10 Jun

Nobody gets a perfect life and we all face challenges and difficult passages that try us and test our strength and courage. When we’re struggling and trying to get through something difficult, our attention is focused on the problem at hand, and as we try to find our way through, we may exert a lot of personal energy into solving it. The problem may be intense, and we might feel overwhelmed as we try to push through it, but as we struggle, we’re gaining behavior traits that increase our understanding of life and give us additional tools to carry forward. It’s hard to believe anything good can come out of a terrible trial, but every experience, even the awful ones, give us something of value to take with us. After the trial is over and we’re on solid ground again, we will be different. Our wisdom will have increased, and we will have more endurance, and a greater ability to cope when things go wrong. The greater the hardship, the greater the blessing in the end. Nobody wants to suffer, but there is much to be gained as we untangle serious complications and find new ways to move through turmoil and strife. Life is all about learning, and we learn the most when things go wrong. Hard times will come to us all. How we handle them and what we learn from them is up to us. If we pay attention, and hold onto every lesson possible, we will be embellished and enriched because of the experience. We may fall down, and doubt our ability to survive, but in truth, there is nothing we can’t manage and overcome with patience and determination. Every blessing is waiting for us and we can claim them all. Life can be hard, and at some point, we may suffer greatly. But by trusting ourselves, and standing firm, we will prevail. Success will always be possible, and nothing can keep us from it.

We share the world with billions of other people. They are infinitely creative and unpredictable, and may do things that hurt us and leave us devastated. Best friends may betray us, lovers may leave us, and trusted associates may lie. We are precious and valuable, and our presence is a gift to the world around us. There is greatness in us, and even if others walk away and leave us abandoned and alone, we will have what we need to move forward and succeed.

We may face a terrible personal disaster that impacts us so greatly it changes the entire course of our lives. No storm can last forever, and when it’s over, we may end up standing on foreign ground with no idea how to proceed. No matter what has happened there will be a way to recover and begin again. We are stronger than we imagine, and nothing can hold us down forever. Every success is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if you’re standing in the aftermath of some personal catastrophe and have no idea what to do, trust yourself. You have all the wisdom and intelligence you need to step forward and succeed. Your dreams are still there for you and every destination awaits. Stand tall, and step forward with clarity and confidence. You are amazing and you will succeed.

Never Ending

21 May

Life is full of decisions and choices, and we all want to make the best ones we can. Good decisions will often bring us results we like, but nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter from time to time. There are a lot of things that may come into play that affected our ability to choose wisely. Maybe we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, or perhaps someone misled us, or we couldn’t see the whole story, or it was Wednesday. There’s a lot going on all the time and there are constant distractions happening around us. There is no way to do everything right every time. We might make a choice that just makes us uncomfortable, or it might be so far off the mark it blows up in our faces and everything crumbles. The worst disaster of all time cannot possibly last forever. Everything is always changing, and nothing is never ending. No matter what’s happened, it will eventually resolve. We might have to do some serious lifting to fix it, and we may need the help of others, but we will find all the answers we need and be able to repair whatever has gone wrong. Life will go on. A wrong turn is just that. It doesn’t mean we have to remain in place, or that there will never be the chance of success. We can re-direct our course and change direction at any time. The whole world is there for us and nothing can hold us down forever. There are unlimited roads to every destination and with determination and focus, we will find our way forward. There is endless potential for success, and we can do anything. By letting go of what went wrong, and keeping our eyes on the road ahead, we’ll find our way forward. We are powerful and wise, and will prevail.

If we’ve made a serious error in judgement, when it’s done, it’s done. We can do what is needed to correct our course ahead, and then move on. However, there may be someone who refuses to let us forget it, and may remind us of it constantly. We don’t need reminders of a past mistake, but they may bring it up over and over again. When they do, we can politely explain we’re aware of what happened and ask them to let it go. If they continue to hold onto it, it will be their burden to carry and we can ignore them.

Every experience teaches us something of value to carry forward. Instead of berating ourselves for making a mistake, we can look at everything objectively, see where we could have done things differently, and learn all we can from the experience. No matter what’s happened, life will continue, and tomorrow will come. We have unlimited chances to change our lives, and we can let go of any wrong turns and begin again. We have so much to offer. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with confidence, we will succeed.

Today if you’re bogged down by a past error in judgement, remember how intelligent and capable you are. Previous mistakes do not determine your future. You are strong and wise, and have everything you need to reach any goal. Trust yourself and be confident. Every single destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.

Now What?

30 Apr

Life is full of surprises. It would be great if they were all happy events like an unexpected party, found treasure or an unforeseen promotion, but we don’t live in fantasy land and sometimes the surprises that come are unwelcome and difficult. Our whole world may be turned upside down in a moment and everything we depended on and thought would happen may go up in smoke. The road we were happily pushing forward on may disappear, and the rug may be pulled out from under us. “Now what?” we may wonder. How are we going to proceed when the way ahead is gone and we are standing alone, bereft, and confused? We may struggle to see through dark, difficult days, and believe life will never be good again. It may seem as if everything is over, this is it, and we are done, but that will never be the case. We may be dumbfounded and feel lost, and unsure how to proceed. Hard times will undoubtedly come to us all, and our worst dreams may materialize before our eyes. It doesn’t matter what goes wrong, it doesn’t matter how bad the situation gets, and it doesn’t matter if at first, we can’t see any way out. The answers will be there for us. We are intelligent and highly capable, and we’ll find them. There are limitless roads to every destination. If the bottom falls out of our plans, we can make new ones. If we can’t move forward where we were, we can adjust our course and start again. Nothing is powerful enough to end our progression or hold us down forever. Nothing. Every single dream is still there for us, and we can reach them. We already have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we desire. We can stand firm, look at all the possibilities and then decide how we want to proceed. Storms will come, and dark clouds may press, but they cannot continue indefinitely. With patience and determination, we will find our way through and reach success.

Everybody stumbles from time to time, and we’ll all face challenges that try us and push us against our limits. Rome wasn’t built in a day and we don’t have to solve everything right away. We can take a break when we need it, and as our minds rest, new answers will appear. Everything we need to succeed is there for us. We can step forward with clarity and be confident we will prevail.

When we’ve been enduring a difficult situation for a while, and no matter what we do it continues, we may believe it will never end and we are doomed. Change is constant, but it isn’t always immediate. Nothing can stay the same forever, and we have everything we need to endure and manage whatever we must until our situation resolves. We are strong enough to handle any issue or problem, and will find our way through.

Today if you’re going through a difficult challenge and are struggling to find the way forward, trust yourself. You are smarter and more powerful than you imagine. Decide what you want, and step forward on the road that will take you there. Nothing can overcome you. Every success and every dream are possible, and they will be yours.

Tattoos

23 Apr

As we go through our lives, we must make millions of decisions, and each one we make brings a result and takes us somewhere. We may continue moving forward on our current path or make a choice that takes us far from where we were initially headed. There are limitless opportunities and we can do anything we like. Most of the time we may try hard and make good decisions that work out well, but we aren’t perfect, and will all make mistakes from time to time. If we make a decision that impacts our lives in very difficult and negative ways and takes us down a road that brings hardship and trial, we may be seriously adversely affected. We might struggle to get past what’s happened and it may seem that one bad decision will stick to us like a tattoo, ever present and never fading. We might falter and things may go seriously wrong, but nothing is permanent. There is no indelible ink stain that can’t be removed. The past can never predict the future, and we can learn from where we’ve been and take all that knowledge and wisdom forward with us. It doesn’t matter if we feel we’ve made the biggest mistake in history, it’s just one moment and cannot determine where we go next. No previous error can sentence us to a life of despair. There are endless chances for us to try again and re-route our course toward where we want to go. If the door in front of us is closed and locked, we can turn in a new direction and continue forward. If we’ve created a situation that is turbulent and fraught with stress, we can change it. We are in control of our lives and there isn’t anything we can’t modify if we need to. Mistakes happen, and we may fall down, but we can get back up and start again. Every success is still there waiting, and with determination and clarity, we will reach it.

If we’re in a situation where others see us make a big mistake, they may decide we can’t make good decisions and are not to be trusted. They may choose to define us by one choice, and that is their prerogative, but can never tell the whole story. We are intelligent and capable and can revise any plan or situation that isn’t working. By trusting ourselves to make good choices, and bravely stepping forward, we can find the answers we need to achieve anything we desire.

Salt looks a lot like sugar. When we bake a cake, if we add salt instead of sugar the batter may look fine, but our mistake will be obvious when we finish baking and taste the final product. The same is true in our lives. Some decisions look fine when we first make them, but we may not get all the information we need beforehand, and the entire situation may fall apart. Instead of worrying and bemoaning the error, or belittling ourselves because we faltered, we can look at everything objectively and start again.

Today if you’ve been struggling with a bad decision you made in the past, let it go. Today is what matters. You are amazing and intelligent and can make excellent choices. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and you will prevail. All your dreams are there for you, and you will reach them.

Not Moving In

2 Apr

We all have ups and downs in our lives and will suffer from disappointment or discouragement from time to time. Life can be challenging and difficult, and if we’re suffering, we may find great comfort in sharing our despair with someone who cares. Getting support and sympathy from someone else can make us feel better and help us continue on. Others may come to us for encouragement when they’re struggling, and we can be there with a listening ear and a kind word. Being supportive is helpful, but it doesn’t mean we’ll take the burden away and carry it ourselves. We can visit and share the load, but we don’t have to move in and take over. Those who are suffering may want to hand the issue over to us and leave it behind, but we all have trouble, and nobody wants to take on more. If we care deeply about them, we may really try to help, but everyone is responsible for finding their own answers and solving their own problems. It’s not fun to suffer and go through hard times, and we may face very difficult issues, but we gain much as we unravel and untangle them and find the way through. Our greatest lessons come from adversity, and as we solve each problem we are enriched and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. We have everything we need to do anything we must. There isn’t a problem too complex or too difficult for us to solve. We are highly capable, and can trust that no matter what is happening, no matter how convoluted and twisted the issue is, we can find the way through. Life is filled with possibilities and nothing can hold us down forever. We are stronger and wiser than we may imagine, and every answer is already there for us. By being confident in times of discomfort and despair, and trusting ourselves, we will prevail. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach.

Some people get overwhelmed more easily than others. When things go wrong, they become unsure of themselves, and struggle to keep going. They may worry they will fall and never be able to rise again but that will never be true. Even in our darkest moments, there will be light ahead. No storm can last forever, and the sun will always rise again. Difficult times will come to us all, and we may be overwhelmed and unsure for a time, but with focus and clarity we will find the road ahead. All our dreams will still be there waiting for us, and we can step forward and claim them.

If we’re in a relationship with someone who needs a lot of support and attention, we may spend all our time helping them get through and sacrifice our own desires and goals. It’s good to be helpful, but we’re all responsible for our own lives. If we fix every problem for someone else, they lose the opportunity to learn and grow by solving them themselves. Instead of opening all the doors for them, we can stand side by side and encourage them to step forward on their own.

Today if you’ve been leaning on someone else to get through a personal issue, trust yourself. You are powerful and strong, and nothing can overcome you. Be confident and stand tall. Every answer is there for you and you will find the way forward. All your dreams are possible, and there is great happiness ahead.