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Look Away

7 Dec

We share the planet with billions of other people.  They are all around us, coming and going, connecting or just passing by.  We love some of them, tolerate others and try to ignore the ones that make our lives difficult and complicated.  Some connections are easy and flow with little stress or anxiety, but others can be complex, fraught with intensity and hard to manage.  We may feel uncomfortable if we must deal with someone who is temperamental or bossy, or an old lover who broke our heart comes around, and we might do everything we can to avoid their attention.  We may try to blend into the background, keep our head down and look away, anything to prevent them from approaching us.  If that works, we may breathe a sigh of relief that we have averted any connection with them.  Nobody wants to deal with difficult people or situations, but there is no way to hide forever.  The very person we definitely don’t want to run into may show up unexpectedly, catch us off guard, and we may suddenly find ourselves face to face with them.  At that moment, it will be up to us how we handle what happens next.  We can shrink and try to disappear, which will never work, or we can stand firm and trust ourselves to find the best way through.  We already have every bit of courage and wisdom we need to navigate any difficult situation.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine.  Nothing is too hard for us to get through, and with patience and grace, we will find our way.

Every experience we have teaches us something.  When our experiences are good, we gain greater confidence and helpful knowledge that embellishes us and helps pave the road ahead.  But hard times come to all of us, and when we go through something painful and destructive, it may leave a lasting mark on us.  We may lose our trust in others, doubt ourselves, or be afraid of what will happen next.  There is no way to change the past, but there will always be a way to move forward.  We don’t have to hold onto what hurts us forever.  We can look at everything objectively and find ways to let go and move ahead.  Every destination is still there for us and every success is still possible.

Problems rarely solve themselves, and if we’ve left something unresolved because it was just too painful to look at it, it will remain.  Time cannot fix what’s been left unattended.  Trouble becomes heavier as it waits, reminders will arise, and eventually we’ll have to face the inevitable.  It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is or how tangled it has become.  We can find the answers we need, and when we’re ready, can do what is needed to settle the issue once and for all, and move on.  

Today if you’ve been trying to avoid a situation or someone difficult, remember how strong and powerful you are.  You are perfectly capable of managing anything you must and there is nothing that can overcome you.  Be confident and stand firm.  Every blessing is already waiting for you, and with patience and determination, every success will be yours.

Carrying the Mountain

22 Oct

Everyone wants an easy life. We may dream about simply lying on a beach in the sun with no worries, and just floating through our days in blissful peace. It’s a nice dream, but for most of us, it’s far from reality. Most of the time we have responsibilities to take care of, details to manage, problems to solve and endless unexpected twists that take our time and attention. Sure we can take a vacation, and those days away from regular life are refreshing and fun, but eventually we must return. Nobody gets a perfect life. We all face trouble from time to time, and if we are going through something overwhelming and extremely difficult, we may feel the heavy weight of trial and despair. The road up the mountain may be hard, and we might stumble and fall. If we’re inundated me might feel like we have to carry everything in order to get through, but that’s not necessary. We never have to carry the mountain to get over it. Climbing it is enough. There is no need to let the issue, whatever it is, completely overcome us. If the journey is too steep, we can stop and take a rest. If the road is too tangled, we can look for another way around. Every problem has a solution, and by taking things one piece at a time, sometimes one breath at a time, we’ll find every answer needed to reach success. Nothing is so convoluted and difficult that we can’t figure it out. There is no rush. We can take our time and manage things as they arise. We are smart and capable, and will find every answer we need. The road ahead is already there. With patience and clarity we will find it, and step ahead, sure of success.

Nobody knows our situation better than we do. We are the only ones with the insight and inspiration we need to move forward. Others may offer suggestions or simply tell us what we should do. Their opinions may help, but they are only opinions based on what they can see, which is rarely the whole story. We know the facts and how we want to proceed, and can trust ourselves to choose our next steps, confident we will prevail.

If we’re facing something completely foreign and have no idea what to do, we can reach out for help. Everyone’s experiences are different, and chances are someone near us will have information that will assist us in finding our way forward. If nobody has anything to offer, we can search for whatever facts we need to move us forward. All the answers will be there for us, and nothing can keep us from success. The destination is waiting, and we will reach it.

Today if you feel like you’re carrying a mountain of trouble, set it down. Look at everything objectively and choose your next step forward. This is not too difficult for you to manage. Trust yourself and be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from success.

Shake it Off

31 Aug

We interact with lots of people as we go through our lives. They come and go in and out of our lives on a continual basis. Some relationships are close and strong, others are casual and fleeting. How close we are depends on our circumstances and what’s going on, and lots of other factors. Human beings are complex and even when we know someone well, they may do something, or say something, that confuses us and catches us off guard. We can never know everything about anyone, and even those we are very close to may surprise us from time to time. We may get hurt by something they do or say, or misunderstand their intentions. Not everyone will care about our feelings and someone my offend us – either accidentally or on purpose. When we’re hurt by someone we care deeply about, it can be hard to shake it off. It can be difficult to let go of the pain inflicted by someone close to us. Of course, we can hold onto anything for as long as we like. If there is no resolution, we can carry it with us throughout our lives and let it color how we feel and what we do indefinitely. Hanging onto pain will never bring us happiness, and may hold us back from success. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with butterflies and rainbows. We’ll all go through hard times, face pain and suffering at some point, and have to muddle through difficult issues. It’s the nature of life. But we are intelligent and can see above whatever has gone wrong to the road ahead. Pain hurts but we can decide to shake it off, let it go, and continue on. We are the only ones powerful enough to hold us down and keep us from moving forward. With determination and focus on the road ahead, we can push forward and achieve our greatest goals and desires. Every dream is there for us, and we will prevail.

There is an old saying that, “The best revenge is living well.” If someone has hurt or maligned us, they may rejoice in our temporary demise and suffering. Instead of rewarding them by keeping quiet and staying under water, we can overcome them by simply choosing to stand strong and continue forward. There isn’t anything anyone can do that can hold us down indefinitely. We are strong and powerful, and we know what we want. There is no situation painful enough to paralyze us forever. Every goal we desire is waiting, and we can step forward to claim them all.

Each day is a new beginning. It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or last week, or last year. What matters is what we do today. If the road we were on has ended and there is no way to continue, we can step off and start in a new direction. There are unlimited roads possible and every destination is waiting. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we want. It’s all there for us. We need only decide to begin, and step forward.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to look ahead, remember how strong and capable you are. Stand firm and shake it off. Nothing is powerful enough to hold you down. Decide what you want and start again. Trust yourself, be confident, and step forward. Every goal is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.

Grasping Straws

27 Jul

We go through countless different experiences as we navigate through our lives. When things are going well, it seems we can do no wrong, and every answer shows up the moment we need it. But life is complex and we’ll never get a paved road that lasts forever. Things will change, our circumstances will alter and we may take a dive we didn’t plan. If a lot is going wrong and it seems that nothing helps, we may become desperate and start grasping for anything that might work. When we’re under water and miserable we may not be thinking clearly and even the most outlandish, ridiculous schemes may start to seem possible. We may choose something we would never consider if we were on more solid ground and our vision was clearer. Desperate times sometimes call for desperate measures, but decisions made in panic without thought will rarely work out the way we want them to. Every decision will bring a result and once we choose the first step on any path, we are also choosing the last. Where we end up may be eons away from where we want to go. We will all face difficult, hard, challenging, desperate moments and what we do while we’re in the mire will determine what comes next. No matter where we are or what’s going on, we will always have the resources we need to choose our next steps wisely. We may be under pressure to move, but we can take the time necessary to see everything clearly and decide which way is best moving forward. If we make a bad choice we aren’t doomed forever. We can simply look at what hasn’t worked and then look again and correct our course. Even when everything is upside down, success will be possible. We are stronger and more intelligent than we think we are and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. The answers will always be there for us and with patience and determination, we will find them and reach success.

Nobody is perfect and we will all fail at some point. It might just be a wrong turn, or we may be completely turned around, backwards and upside down. Continuing on the same course when it’s obviously not working won’t fix the situation. Some things work themselves out over time, but those instances are rare. If we find we’re going in the wrong direction or have made a bad choice, we can stop where we are and see the entire situation objectively. There are endless roads to every destination and we can change direction at any time, and reroute the way forward.

Some people like to hold grudges and remind us when we’ve faltered in the past. They may believe that since we failed once we’re doomed to fail again, but the past can never predict the future. It doesn’t matter if we took a wrong turn before, or if we’ve tried several times and still haven’t found the right answer. The way ahead is there for us and if we persist and continue forward, we will find it. Nothing can keep us from any destination we desire. We already have everything we need to succeed and we will reach them all.

Today if everything has gone wrong and there are walls blocking your path, trust yourself. All the answers are there for you. Stand firm and be confident. You are intelligent and wise, and will find the way forward. Every success is already there for you. Focus on the goal ahead, and step forward with clarity and patience. You are amazing and capable, and will reach every destination you desire.

Leaving With Grace

25 Jun

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyday brings us something new and we never know what will come next. Sometimes all our plans go well and we make good, strong connections that pave the road ahead and help us reach our goals. Other times, despite our best efforts, things go awry and we face changes we didn’t plan on. Relationships end, jobs change, people leave, and roads turn. There will be times when we must walk away and start in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and life is unpredictable. If the change takes us by surprise and we are heartbroken, we may feel angry that we can’t have what we thought was there for us. It’s normal to be upset when what we desire and plan on is no longer possible. We can scream and shout, belittle others who are involved, stamp our feet and slam all the doors, but that will not change our new reality. Serious disappointments are hard to navigate and we may give into every immature and vicious emotion possible, and that may make us feel better for a while, but it will only delay the inevitable realization that we are powerless over the change we must face. Instead of giving in to our most base instincts and lashing out at whomever or whatever has caused our discomfort, we can stop and step back. We can stand still and quiet for a moment and give ourselves time to adjust to what’s happened. There is great courage and stamina within us all, and if we take a moment to breathe, we will be able to manage what’s happened and see our way forward. We may have to leave where we are, and we may be unhappy and unsettled, but by trusting ourselves and remembering who we are, we can leave with grace. Nothing is more powerful or gives us more strength than self-control in times of great discomfort. Everything may have come apart, and the bottom may may fall out of all our plans, but the world hasn’t ended. We are still here, and can still succeed. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely and keep us from our goals. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still possible, and with determination and patience, we will reach them all.

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go. We can make all kinds of plans and chart our course ahead, and everything may go well, or we may be stopped in our tracks. Nothing is guaranteed and even if we’re sure we’re on the right road, things may change and we may get turned around and end up going in the opposite direction. Decisions may be made we have no control over that impact us negatively, or someone may enter the picture who takes over and changes our trajectory. A lot can happen, but nothing can keep us from moving ahead. We can adjust our plans, and step forward in a new direction and still reach success.

There is greatness in all of us. When things go wrong, and everything turns, even if we are upset and unsettled, we can trust we will find our way forward. By honoring our personal nobility, we can step away from any situation with grace and patience, and decide how we want to proceed. There will never be anything so difficult and complex that we can’t find our way through. We can trust ourselves to uncover all the answers we need, and step forward sure of success.

Today if your situation has changed and you must start again, if you feel overwhelmed and defeated, be confident. You have overcome many difficult and challenging times, and already possess everything you need to find your way forward. Nothing has changed. Your dreams are still there waiting. Stand tall and step forward. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.