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Tights and a Cape

8 May

Life is filled with challenges and opportunities that teach us new things and give us more information about the road ahead. Sometimes things roll along with little trouble, and other times it seems like everything that can go wrong is going wrong. Nobody gets a free pass on problems. They come to all of us, and when they do, we must find our way through them. We may wish for a life of ease where every day is like a holiday, but if we actually had lives like that, we would learn nothing about ourselves or the world around us. Thankfully, wishes aren’t reality, and we’re going to struggle from time to time. When we’re in the midst of trouble and feel overwhelmed, the answers we need will be there but they may not be obvious. Some answers require us to dig deep and search for them. During times like those it would be terrific if Superman was real, and could show up and just solve everything for us. Unfortunately, if we want tights and a cape to save us, we’ll have to provide them ourselves. We might have to search diligently, and ask for help to find our way through, but we are smart and perfectly capable of managing any issue that’s complicating our lives. Things will go wrong, we will stumble, our plans may disintegrate, and we might find ourselves somewhere we never wanted to go. But we are creative and wise, and there isn’t anything that can hold us down indefinitely. The answers will be there for us and with patience and determination, we will find them. We are capable of incredible success, and nothing is strong enough to keep us from it. Every problem can be solved, and we have everything we need to prevail.

When we’re struggling with something difficult, we may reach out to those around us for help and support. Everyone has different experiences and if we’re facing something new, chances are there will be someone who has already traveled that road, or who can point us in the right direction. If we’re very independent, we may choose to find the answers on our own. We can always do that, but it may take more time and effort than if we reach out for help. Asking for help doesn’t mean we’re weak or can’t do things on our own. We all have a different collection of skills. We can get advice from someone who knows the way forward until we gain our own expertise.

When we’re facing a hard challenge, there may be some who’ll tell us we’ll never prevail and we should just give up and forget it. We can take any advice we like, but we are stronger and more powerful than we think we are. There really isn’t anything we can’t manage. By confidently stepping forward even when we’re unsure, we can open the doors ahead and find our way to success. Life is full of opportunities and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to reach any destination we desire.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and are unsure about how to proceed, trust yourself. You’ve already overcome many difficult problems and you have everything you need to solve any complication. You are intelligent and wise, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Look forward and step ahead with confidence. Success is there, waiting for you to arrive, and you will reach it.

Check

10 Apr

Everyone wants an easy life where things go well and we can sail along. If we were all alone and there wasn’t anyone else to mess up our plans or make decisions that create problems, it might be possible. But even then, things would go wrong from time to time and we’d have to negotiate a new way forward. Life is filled with all kinds of opportunities for us to learn and grow, some of which we’d like to avoid. Things will get in our way, we’ll face unforeseen complications and we might hit a wall we can’t get over. We never really know what will happen next, but we are smarter and more powerful than we might think we are, and there will often be a way around whatever isn’t working. In the game of chess, when one opponent corners another they may place them in “check” meaning they are facing capture but there is still a way out. This is far different from “checkmate” where they are captured and there is no escape. In our lives we’ll likely face many situations where we feel we’re in checkmate, that we’ve been cornered and there is no way out. However, most of the time if we look carefully and take the time to see everything objectively, we’ll see another option. Of course, if we simply decide we’ve been overtaken, and throw our hands up in surrender, we’ll never know what we could have done. There will be few times in our lives when there will be no options available to us. Most of the time, if we’re careful and patient, we’ll see a way through whatever is happening. Being in “check” is uncomfortable, but it isn’t the end. We are wise and capable, and can find the answers we need. Every road is possible, and even if we get tangled up and turned around, we can find the way forward. We can be sure of success, and step ahead with confidence.

When we make plans for what we want to accomplish, we may feel sure everything will work out. But complications may come up and we get stuck. If all we can see is the one way we’ve already tried, and that didn’t work, we may feel the goal is unreachable. But there is never only one road to any destination. If the first one doesn’t work out, we can try another. If that fails as well, there will be an additional road to travel. By looking at every possibility before us, we can find the way forward and reach success.

There may be a time when we face a situation where we simply cannot achieve what we’re seeking. There may be factors out of our control that keep us from getting to the goal and we can’t move. We can’t control what others are doing or decisions being made that impact our progress. However, change is constant, and if we’re stuck, we can set the goal aside for a time until the situation improves. Nothing stays the same forever, and when things change, we can try again. We are capable and smart, and will find our way.

Today if you feel like you’ve been overcome and there is no way forward, look at all the options around you and see what’s possible. You are very intelligent and powerful, and will find the way forward. Be patient and persistent. Every destination is there for you. Nothing can keep you from your goals forever. Keep your eyes focused on the way ahead, and you will prevail.

Full Stop

18 Mar

Life is filled with unexpected developments and unforeseen complications. We can’t read the future, and each day there’s a chance something will stop us in our tracks. Maybe it’ll be something personal, or maybe it’ll be something huge, like a world-wide virus that is beyond our control and prevents us from moving ahead. Things happen and sometimes they get in the way. We have complete control over our own lives and the decisions we make, but everything else is out of reach. People make choices that affect us, illness strikes, disasters come, and we may find ourselves standing still, unable to move. When we’re facing a full stop and there is no way to move, we can take the time we need to see everything clearly and decide what we want to do. If we can’t move, we can still use our time effectively. We can evaluate all the possible options and prepare ourselves for when things change, and we can begin again. Nothing ever stays the same indefinitely, and soon our situation will change and we’ll be able to start forward again. Life is uncertain, nothing is written in stone, and we never know where the road will take us. But with confidence and clarity, no matter what happens or what problems we must face, we can always find our way. We have all the patience and wisdom we need to manage whatever comes. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need, and be ready when the door opens again.

It’s frustrating when we have a lot we want to do but because of circumstances cannot move forward. It’s hard to wait when we have a goal in mind and are eager to get to it, and it feels almost impossible to stand still when all we want to do is move. If we’ve evaluated all the possibilities before us and we still can’t progress, we can choose to do something else. If we have to remain in place, we can spend the time working on personal goals that don’t require us to move. Everything always changes, and soon we’ll be able to take control again. Until then, we can find satisfaction in doing what we can, and prepare for the future.

During times of stress and uncertainty, it’s hard to feel comfortable and safe. We don’t know what will happen next or where we’ll end up. But there is never any way to know those things, even when our lives are going well. No matter how bleak things look right now or how unsure we are, we can trust that everything will eventually settle and we’ll be able to stand strong again. No storm can last forever. The rain will stop, the skies will clear, and the sun will break through. We are resilient and capable, and nothing can stop us. We are more powerful than we imagine and in time, we will prevail.

Today if you’re unsure of the road ahead, and are worried you won’t find your way, trust yourself. You are stronger than you think you are and nothing can overcome you. Be confident and courageous. Every blessing is still there for you and with patience and determination you will reach every goal. Success is yours, and nothing will keep you from it.

Hear What I Say

10 Feb

We communicate constantly in many different ways. Although most of our communication is non-verbal, what we say counts a lot. Good communication skills can open many doors for us and when we’re open and state exactly what we want and how we feel, those around us will understand us more clearly. What we say not only communicates to those around us, but has a great impact on us as well. If we’re feeling awful and express that, our words may reinforce our feelings. Each time we tell others or ourselves out loud how badly we feel, we are listening. Our verbal expressions tell us again what’s going on. If we continually talk about how awful things are, or that we’ll never get through whatever is happening, we are teaching ourselves to believe it. That doesn’t mean we shouldn’t talk about our feelings – we should – but we need to remember that each negative statement not only communicates how we feel to others, but tells us as well. We hear everything we say. Repetition secures our memory, and if what we’re learning is we’re unhappy, we won’t likely forget it. Nobody lives in nirvana and there will be times when our lives don’t go the way we want them to. Bad things will happen and we will struggle. As we’re navigating through a hard time, we can pay attention to the messages we give ourselves and remember how strong and capable we are. We can trust ourselves to overcome whatever we’re facing and find peace and happiness once again. If we say things that boost us up, the road will be easier. There isn’t anything we can’t handle. We can be confident and clear that no matter where the road goes, we will prevail.

How we phrase our concerns can have an impact on how they affect us. When we’re facing a difficult challenge, we can say we’ll never manage it and it’s impossible. Telling ourselves we can’t handle a situation may construct roadblocks ahead and keep us from finding solutions. It’s impossible to look for answers when we’re focused on failing. No matter how hard the issue is, we are smart enough to figure it out. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we have all the tools we need to do anything.

Even when things are going wrong, we can have faith in our abilities and the future ahead. Terrible things may happen, we might fall down, and everything we thought was real may disintegrate. But we will still be here and nothing can hold us in place forever. The sky is never going to fall. Darkness will lift, and the sun will rise again. We are incredibly capable and nothing can keep us from success. We already have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing a very hard challenge and feel overwhelmed, remember how many obstacles you’ve already conquered. Remind yourself that you are powerful and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You are amazing and can accomplish incredible things. Be confident and trust yourself. Nothing can hold you down, and you will succeed.

Waiting

16 Jan

Our lives are often busy and we sometimes have a lot to accomplish in a short period of time. When we’re pressed for time, we may find ourselves in a situation where we must wait for something. Waiting is a common fact of life, and if we’re impatient, may be hard to endure. Sometimes we have to wait in line, which isn’t too bad if those ahead of us are efficient and quick, but that’s rarely the case. Everyone has their own pace and sometimes there are delays. If we feel those in front of us are wasting our time, it can be maddening. Nobody wants to wait to get their tasks completed, and if we’re in a hurry, it may very difficult to stand still while the minutes tick by. We may not be able to do anything to move ahead physically, but we are always in control of our thoughts. We can get impatient and frustrated, and let our anger rise, or we can take a deep breath and try to think of something else. Accepting the situation, even if it’s not where we want to be, and taking a step back to relax and let our minds rest will help us until we’re ready to move. There will be time to accomplish our tasks and if not, it’s not the end of the world. We can modify our plans to accommodate any delays. Nothing is so important it’s worth losing our self-composure over. We are capable and wise, and no matter what’s in our way, will be able to reach success. Each moment is a blessing, and we can manage every step with confidence and control until we reach our destination.

We have lots of different kinds of relationships. We have families, friends, co-workers, lovers, acquaintances and others. Each has a level of attention and interaction needed for them to grow and strengthen. Being continually put on hold by someone we’re attached to may damage our connection. If they’re too busy to get to us, or we can never reach them, the bonds that hold us close will diminish. Over time, if nothing changes, chances are the relationship will fail. Valuable connections need attention, and time to build. We can manage our personal relationships so they are healthy and strong, and enjoy the benefits from building strong alliances and friendships.

When we’re trying to accomplish something that requires the help of others, it’s important that everyone acknowledge the importance of communication. When we talk to one another and share our perspective, whatever we’re doing is enhanced and our understanding increases. If we hold others back and make them wait because we aren’t comfortable or want to have control over the situation, progress will be stalled. Success often depends on everyone sharing and doing their part. We are wise and capable, and can be confident in everything we do. We are important to everything we’re involved in, and with patience and cooperation can reach any goal.

Today if you’re in a hurry and have to wait, instead of getting impatient and frustrated, take the time to think about your plans and modify what is needed to accommodate the delay. You are incredibly smart and will always know what to do. Be confident and calm. Every goal is possible, and you will succeed.