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Radiating Outward

3 Dec

We live in a world filled with people and everywhere we go there are others around us.  What demeanor we project and how we interact with them has influence over every situation.  If we’re feeling bad we may emanate sadness or ill will out to our environment, and if we’re happy our influence may be very different.  We are integral to every situation and there is no way to eliminate the influence we have over our surroundings.  When we’re distracted and busy we may not be aware of how we’re impacting those around us.  As we rush from one thing to another we may not notice how our behavior changes the atmosphere or feelings of others but everything we do changes something else.  We own every decision we make, even those we make without thinking.  If we are aware of our presence and do what we can to make our influence positive, our lives and the lives of those around us will be embellished and enhanced.  We can improve any situation we’re in and if we’re welcoming and accessible many new doors will open for us.  Our demeanor can define our position and we can change everything with a smile and a kind word.  We don’t have to pretend to be happy when we aren’t but can be mindful that the messages we send out have consequences.  People will react to what we do and say.  We can be open and honest, and receptive to those around us and pave the way forward with good intentions.  Every goal we want is attainable and when we’re agreeable and kind, all the doors ahead will open.

Some people are very stoic and keep their feelings hidden and tucked away.  Others wear their hearts on their sleeves for everyone to see and every emotion they experience is clearly visible.  No matter what type of personality we have our behaviors impact those around us.  If we’re abrupt and secretive it may be hard to develop close connections.  If we’re very emotional we may make those around us uncomfortable.  We’re always in control of ourselves and can behave in ways that bring others closer and build strong alliances.  The connections we create and the bonds we form will help us moving forward in everything we do.

There are some who have little control over their emotions and spread them all over those around them.  If they’re unhappy, mad, or upset, they may gripe and complain and smear their ill will everywhere.  Misery loves company but only because it justifies bad behavior.  If we’re miserable, making those around us feel bad will never solve anything.  We all have bad days from time to time but we can manage them without bringing others down in the process.

Today if you’re struggling with something and don’t feel happy, try to manage your feelings in ways that will improve your situation.  If you need help, get it and find your way through.  You are stronger than you think you are and nothing is powerful enough to hold you down.  Lift your head and move forward with confidence.  Every blessing you hope for and every destination you dream about is there for you and you will reach it.

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Grinding Through

22 Oct

We go through endless scenarios as we navigate through our lives. Some are predictable and easy to process, some are annoying, and some are very difficult to understand and cope with. When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and there’s a lot going on that we either don’t understand or don’t want to be involved in, we may find ourselves grinding through just to manage it. There may be times when we’re somewhere we have to be but don’t want to be and every second we endure can seem like forever. Endurance may take every bit of patience we possess as we endeavor to get through. We can manage anything that comes, even if it tries us and pushes us to the end of what we believe we can tolerate. There really isn’t anything powerful enough to overcome us and we can manage whatever is required at any time. But when we’re in the midst of an unpleasant and difficult situation it may be hard to stand strong. It’s not easy to be still when everything inside us is telling us to run. In situations like that we can pull strength from deep inside and withstand whatever we must to get through. We are stronger and more capable than we may think we are and can manage anything we must. We can trust ourselves to process any situation and move forward. Every answer we need is there and as we walk through each step we’ll find our way through whatever is causing us hardship.

There are all kinds of people in the world. Some we’ll enjoy, some we’ll tolerate, and some may be difficult for us to manage. When we struggle to get along with someone else it’s often because of a difference in perspective. We all see the world through our own filters and we may struggle to understand the beliefs and ideas of someone whose perspectives are very different from our own. There are limitless ways to live life and we can express our own views while respecting whatever differences we’re up against. Compromise is always possible and with patience and understanding we can find a way to manage disagreement.

We may be in situations where we feel like the odd man out. Perhaps we’re different in ways that don’t fit with those around us and we may feel like a square peg trying to squeeze into a round hole. We may worry we’ll never be accepted for who we are. It doesn’t matter what those around us are doing or how they’re accomplishing their goals. Our expressions are valuable and worthwhile even if they’re different. We are the only person like us in the entire world and the gifts we offer express our individuality and personal worth. We don’t have to fit any model but the one we choose. Success comes in all varieties and is always available to us. We can be confident in our uniqueness and move forward with clarity and determination.

Today if you must get through a difficult situation that feels overwhelming, remember how capable and strong you are. You are wise and can understand even very complex issues. Take things one step at a time until you get through to the other side. There isn’t anything you can’t manage and manage well. All options are possible and you’ll find the way forward. Be confident. You have everything you need to prevail.

Aspersions

16 May

People have all kinds of ideas about everything.  We’re all different and the way we see the world may be completely different than those around us.  We interpret what we see and hear through our own personal filters.  Different ideas may work against us at times if what we say or do is interpreted to mean something entirely different than what we intend.  Aspersions may be unjustly cast on our character due to incorrect interpretations and may cause us great discomfort as we try to figure out what happened.  If someone says something about us that has no basis in fact or reality but is merely based on their translation of something we did, we may find ourselves trying to untangle a mess we didn’t create.  The truth will always rise in time but in the interim we may be twisted around defending ourselves even if we’ve done nothing wrong.  The world is filled with all kinds of people and we have no control over what they think or do.  They may cause us considerable grief because they mistakenly believe something untoward about us.  If that happens, we will have to work through the situation until we find resolution.  It’s frustrating to feel persecuted unjustly and it may complicate our lives until we find the way through.  Truth is truth and will always rise.  No matter what has happened we will find the answers and correct any situation necessary.  We can stand firm and confident that our personal integrity and excellence will shine through.  We will find the answers and reach resolution.

No matter how nice and friendly we are, not everybody will always be our friend.  There may be times we meet someone who doesn’t like us or with whom we find it difficult to interact.  Perhaps their temperament is unpredictable, or they are angry or judgmental.  We have no control over what others do but we can control our response to anything they bring.  We can be gracious and kind in the face of anger, and polite and calm if things get out of control.  We are always in control of ourselves and can choose the best road regardless of what is happening around us.

Some people are dishonest and unethical.  If we have high personal standards it may be difficult to interact with them.  If we must work with them and they do things that are not in keeping with our values we may be very uncomfortable.  We don’t ever have to compromise what is important to us.  We can express our personal views and walk away from any situation that isn’t in keeping with them.  Our lives are ours and we may hold fast to what is important to us.  Opinions vary but our standards are ours to keep.  We can live true to the values we cherish and stay focused on what we want the most.

Today if someone has said something about you that isn’t true, remember your actions express who you really are.  Words mean nothing when they don’t represent what is real.  Continue to hold fast to the values you cherish and be the best person you can be.  Set an example of honesty and truth to the world around you.  You are amazing and nothing can diminish you.  Be confident and strong.  You know who you are and nothing will hold you back from achieving every goal you desire.

Distant Shore

22 Mar

Disappointments and heartache are common experiences in life. They happen to everyone and can be devastating when they come to us. It can be hard to look forward and see anything in front of us when our hearts are broken or we have to face a terrible setback. Plans for our next step may elude us as we grapple with what has happened and try to find our footing. When the pain is great it may be hard to see ahead and all we can think about is making the hurt go away. It can feel like being stranded at sea unable to see land anywhere. We know there is a distant shore out there somewhere but we have no idea how to reach it. When all our plans have disintegrated and our lives feel foreign and out of control it’s hard to find the way forward. Life is all about change and even if we can’t see a future when we’re grieving over something that has devastated us, it’s still there. We will never be left without a shore waiting for us. It may be in the distance and we may need time to find our way to it, but it will always be there waiting for us to arrive. Even if we feel completely lost and alone, even if we don’t know how we’re going to get through, we will find a way. Tomorrow will come and what we’re facing today will change. We can take small steps forward until we feel confident again and are able to see the road ahead. We can stand tall in the midst of despair and look forward. There will always be another road waiting to take us where we want to go. We are strong enough and brave enough, and we have enough wisdom and intelligence to figure out anything that comes. We have all the power we need to overcome anything and we will prevail.

When our circumstances turn and we’re suddenly in a foreign and uncomfortable situation, it may be unsettling and difficult. There may be times when everything we counted on changes and suddenly we’re facing new and uncharted territory. It’s hard to feel confident when we’re in a new set of parameters and aren’t sure which way is up. But we can understand new situations and learn our way around anything that happens. We can trust ourselves to unravel even the most complicated issues and figure out what to do next.

Sorrow is an intense emotion that may overwhelm us. We may feel paralyzed by our misery and believe we’ll be stuck forever. But nothing in life is truly permanent. Everything is always changing and when we’re ready we will find our way again. Disappointments will come but we have everything we need to face whatever life brings. There will always be a way forward and we will find the roads that will take us to success.

Today if you’re heartbroken and devastated and feel like you’ll never be whole again, trust yourself. You’ve overcome many difficult complications already and you will prevail. There isn’t anything strong enough or powerful enough to hold you down. You are amazing and can do anything. Be patient and take courage. Everything you need is there for you. The shore is waiting and you will find it. Take a step forward. Happiness is just ahead.

In the Mud

25 Jan

Muddy, unpaved roads can be tricky to navigate. It’s hard to tell how thick mud is and if we hit a spot that’s very deep we may get stuck. It’s almost impossible to get traction through the mire as it oozes, and although our tires may spin around we may get nowhere. It’s frustrating to end up in the mud with no way to move forward but if we’re prepared we can address the situation and continue on our way. In our lives as we push forward toward our goals, it’s impossible to know what lies ahead. Sometimes the road we’re on gets messy, and just like getting stuck in the mud, we may be held in place until things clear again. If the complications are caused by others we may have to wait until they change their course or allow us to pass. However, many times, the obstacles are created by something within ourselves. Maybe we doubt we can continue forward, or we’re confused about what we should do next. Sometimes we get stopped because we lose our focus and have forgotten why we’re on the road to begin with or exactly where we’re headed. Life is complicated and busy, and there are lots of distractions around us. If we forget our reasons for going forward we may simply stay where we are. It’s like getting stuck in the mud. We’re still on the road but we’re going nowhere. Getting stuck doesn’t mean the journey is over. We can rethink our position, examine where we are and decide what we want to do next. Every goal is within reach and we can keep moving forward no matter what’s happened. We can address the mud, reset our priorities, and begin again. Mud happens, but we have everything we need to overcome it and achieve success.

There is no way to know what the future will bring. We can make the best plan possible and try to envision the complications we may face, but our situations are constantly changing and unforeseen problems may arise. If we aren’t devoted to the goal we may stop or retreat at the first snag. When we get to a difficult turn we can throw our hands up and walk away, or we can take the time we need to see everything clearly and plot our way through. Some problems may be intense and complex, but no matter what comes we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to figure them out. There really isn’t anything strong enough to hold us in place if we want to continue forward.

Some roads will be more difficult than we imagined when we began. We may find the journey takes more time and energy than we planned on. If the demand is greater than we can manage now, we can set the goal aside and return to it when our situation has changed. There is no rush to complete a goal and sometimes all we need is more time. We can do anything we want to do and work around any complication. We can decide what’s most important and continue forward.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t move forward, look at the situation objectively and see where the problems lie. Decide if you want to continue or wait until things change, and then proceed. You can do anything and no goal is too far to reach. Set your priorities and continue forward. Success is always there for you, and you will find it.

Sleepless

21 Nov

Life can be complicated and we may experience all kinds of twists and turns as things unwind and occur. Sometimes everything goes well and other times we may worry about what is coming and how we’ll manage. Worry may rob us of our comfort, and our confidence, and we may struggle through sleepless nights wondering what will happen. Nobody knows what today will bring and tomorrow is out of our control. We can try to guess what will come but guessing doesn’t make us clairvoyant. Worry is merely the imagining of outcomes. Unfortunately, when we are struggling with worry, most often the only outcomes we envision are negative. But there are many sides to every story. Negative outcomes may happen but positive possibilities are always there as well. Worrying about what disaster may come will never cause or prevent anything. The energy we expend thinking about what may go wrong will not bring us comfort in return. We can wonder about the future but as we wonder we can imagine not only the way things may fail but also the way things may succeed. There will always be unknown developments and possibilities out of our control. No matter what may go wrong we have everything we need to get through and find the answers we need. We can let go of worry and doubt. We are strong and able to handle anything that happens. There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for us to figure out and we have everything we need to overcome anything we face.

We choose how we live our lives. We can complain and find problems with every experience. We can bemoan our lot in life and whine when things don’t go our way. There will always be plenty to complain about but seeing only the complications will never bring us happiness. Instead, we can determine to see the endless possibilities for goodness before us. Everyone goes through hard times and nobody lives on a rainbow filled with roses and sunshine. Things will go wrong and sometimes we may fail. But no matter what happens or what problems we must face, we have everything we need to find the way through. The sun will always rise again and we have endless opportunities to win.

We may face extremely difficult challenges that make us question our ability to survive. Sometimes things go very wrong, and unexpected, serious developments may take our breath away. When those things happen, we may feel overcome and unable to move. But we have everything within us already to face anything. There is nothing too difficult for us to manage and we have all the wisdom we need to find our way through. Life is unpredictable and when bad things happen we need not lose our faith. Good things are always just around the corner and we will prevail.

Today if you’re worried about something that may happen and feel overwhelmed at the possibilities before you, remember there are many sides to every story. Even if the bottom falls out you will stand strong. You are powerful and capable. Nothing will overcome you. Be confident. You have everything you need and you will succeed.

Grounded

9 Jun

We can do a lot of things well and accomplish many goals throughout our lives.  When we have sufficient determination and time we can generally get to most desired destinations.  But sometimes we may try to accomplish something and no matter what we do can’t seem to move forward.  When we struggle and push and still can’t get ahead it’s very frustrating.  Life is complicated and we don’t always know everything when we begin a journey.  If we truly cannot achieve what we’ve set out to do right now it doesn’t mean we have failed.  We can look at the situation objectively, see what the problem is and then revise our plans.  We may need additional information or we may need to wait until we are in a different place in our lives.  Although it’s important to try our best to reach our goals, there is no value in trying over and over again to accomplish something that cannot be accomplished right now.  Recognizing limits is important.  If we simply cannot move forward no matter what we’ve tried the timing may be wrong or we may need to wait until our circumstances have changed.  If the destination is out of reach now we can set it aside and do other things and try again later.  All planes get grounded from time to time.  Once we see what is needed to move forward we may begin again.  We don’t have to stay grounded forever.  We have everything we need to be successful and continue forward.

We only have control over our personal decisions and what we do.  Sometimes when we’re trying to accomplish something and others are involved, their decisions may derail us and push us off track.  If we must have the agreement of others to move forward and that is not forthcoming we may be stopped in our tracks and unable to progress.  If we can’t bring them into agreement we may need to find a way around them to continue forward.  If that isn’t possible it may be necessary to set the goal aside until things change.  Life is fluid and ever changing and in time our circumstances will adjust and we’ll be able to start again.

Unpredictable complications are always a factor.  We can’t know what we don’t know and sometimes there is more to the story than we are aware when we start out.  Others may keep facts from us, things may develop that stop our progress or our lives may change in such a way that we can’t continue forward at this time.  When those things happen we can revise our plans to accommodate whatever has happened and decide how we want to proceed.  We can wait if we need to and do other things until our situation changes.  Life is long and a road that is blocked today may well be clear in the days ahead.  We can prepare for the future and be ready when the time is right to start again.

Today if you’ve been working hard on accomplishing something and no matter what you do can’t move forward, stop and look at the situation openly and completely.  Revise you plans if you need to and if the timing is wrong, set the goal aside and work on other things.  Be patient and continue forward.  Although you may have to wait, eventually everything you desire will come.