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Shake it Off

31 Aug

We interact with lots of people as we go through our lives. They come and go in and out of our lives on a continual basis. Some relationships are close and strong, others are casual and fleeting. How close we are depends on our circumstances and what’s going on, and lots of other factors. Human beings are complex and even when we know someone well, they may do something, or say something, that confuses us and catches us off guard. We can never know everything about anyone, and even those we are very close to may surprise us from time to time. We may get hurt by something they do or say, or misunderstand their intentions. Not everyone will care about our feelings and someone my offend us – either accidentally or on purpose. When we’re hurt by someone we care deeply about, it can be hard to shake it off. It can be difficult to let go of the pain inflicted by someone close to us. Of course, we can hold onto anything for as long as we like. If there is no resolution, we can carry it with us throughout our lives and let it color how we feel and what we do indefinitely. Hanging onto pain will never bring us happiness, and may hold us back from success. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with butterflies and rainbows. We’ll all go through hard times, face pain and suffering at some point, and have to muddle through difficult issues. It’s the nature of life. But we are intelligent and can see above whatever has gone wrong to the road ahead. Pain hurts but we can decide to shake it off, let it go, and continue on. We are the only ones powerful enough to hold us down and keep us from moving forward. With determination and focus on the road ahead, we can push forward and achieve our greatest goals and desires. Every dream is there for us, and we will prevail.

There is an old saying that, “The best revenge is living well.” If someone has hurt or maligned us, they may rejoice in our temporary demise and suffering. Instead of rewarding them by keeping quiet and staying under water, we can overcome them by simply choosing to stand strong and continue forward. There isn’t anything anyone can do that can hold us down indefinitely. We are strong and powerful, and we know what we want. There is no situation painful enough to paralyze us forever. Every goal we desire is waiting, and we can step forward to claim them all.

Each day is a new beginning. It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or last week, or last year. What matters is what we do today. If the road we were on has ended and there is no way to continue, we can step off and start in a new direction. There are unlimited roads possible and every destination is waiting. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we want. It’s all there for us. We need only decide to begin, and step forward.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to look ahead, remember how strong and capable you are. Stand firm and shake it off. Nothing is powerful enough to hold you down. Decide what you want and start again. Trust yourself, be confident, and step forward. Every goal is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.

Grasping Straws

27 Jul

We go through countless different experiences as we navigate through our lives. When things are going well, it seems we can do no wrong, and every answer shows up the moment we need it. But life is complex and we’ll never get a paved road that lasts forever. Things will change, our circumstances will alter and we may take a dive we didn’t plan. If a lot is going wrong and it seems that nothing helps, we may become desperate and start grasping for anything that might work. When we’re under water and miserable we may not be thinking clearly and even the most outlandish, ridiculous schemes may start to seem possible. We may choose something we would never consider if we were on more solid ground and our vision was clearer. Desperate times sometimes call for desperate measures, but decisions made in panic without thought will rarely work out the way we want them to. Every decision will bring a result and once we choose the first step on any path, we are also choosing the last. Where we end up may be eons away from where we want to go. We will all face difficult, hard, challenging, desperate moments and what we do while we’re in the mire will determine what comes next. No matter where we are or what’s going on, we will always have the resources we need to choose our next steps wisely. We may be under pressure to move, but we can take the time necessary to see everything clearly and decide which way is best moving forward. If we make a bad choice we aren’t doomed forever. We can simply look at what hasn’t worked and then look again and correct our course. Even when everything is upside down, success will be possible. We are stronger and more intelligent than we think we are and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. The answers will always be there for us and with patience and determination, we will find them and reach success.

Nobody is perfect and we will all fail at some point. It might just be a wrong turn, or we may be completely turned around, backwards and upside down. Continuing on the same course when it’s obviously not working won’t fix the situation. Some things work themselves out over time, but those instances are rare. If we find we’re going in the wrong direction or have made a bad choice, we can stop where we are and see the entire situation objectively. There are endless roads to every destination and we can change direction at any time, and reroute the way forward.

Some people like to hold grudges and remind us when we’ve faltered in the past. They may believe that since we failed once we’re doomed to fail again, but the past can never predict the future. It doesn’t matter if we took a wrong turn before, or if we’ve tried several times and still haven’t found the right answer. The way ahead is there for us and if we persist and continue forward, we will find it. Nothing can keep us from any destination we desire. We already have everything we need to succeed and we will reach them all.

Today if everything has gone wrong and there are walls blocking your path, trust yourself. All the answers are there for you. Stand firm and be confident. You are intelligent and wise, and will find the way forward. Every success is already there for you. Focus on the goal ahead, and step forward with clarity and patience. You are amazing and capable, and will reach every destination you desire.

Leaving With Grace

25 Jun

Life is full of ups and downs. Everyday brings us something new and we never know what will come next. Sometimes all our plans go well and we make good, strong connections that pave the road ahead and help us reach our goals. Other times, despite our best efforts, things go awry and we face changes we didn’t plan on. Relationships end, jobs change, people leave, and roads turn. There will be times when we must walk away and start in a new direction. Nothing is permanent and life is unpredictable. If the change takes us by surprise and we are heartbroken, we may feel angry that we can’t have what we thought was there for us. It’s normal to be upset when what we desire and plan on is no longer possible. We can scream and shout, belittle others who are involved, stamp our feet and slam all the doors, but that will not change our new reality. Serious disappointments are hard to navigate and we may give into every immature and vicious emotion possible, and that may make us feel better for a while, but it will only delay the inevitable realization that we are powerless over the change we must face. Instead of giving in to our most base instincts and lashing out at whomever or whatever has caused our discomfort, we can stop and step back. We can stand still and quiet for a moment and give ourselves time to adjust to what’s happened. There is great courage and stamina within us all, and if we take a moment to breathe, we will be able to manage what’s happened and see our way forward. We may have to leave where we are, and we may be unhappy and unsettled, but by trusting ourselves and remembering who we are, we can leave with grace. Nothing is more powerful or gives us more strength than self-control in times of great discomfort. Everything may have come apart, and the bottom may may fall out of all our plans, but the world hasn’t ended. We are still here, and can still succeed. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely and keep us from our goals. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still possible, and with determination and patience, we will reach them all.

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go. We can make all kinds of plans and chart our course ahead, and everything may go well, or we may be stopped in our tracks. Nothing is guaranteed and even if we’re sure we’re on the right road, things may change and we may get turned around and end up going in the opposite direction. Decisions may be made we have no control over that impact us negatively, or someone may enter the picture who takes over and changes our trajectory. A lot can happen, but nothing can keep us from moving ahead. We can adjust our plans, and step forward in a new direction and still reach success.

There is greatness in all of us. When things go wrong, and everything turns, even if we are upset and unsettled, we can trust we will find our way forward. By honoring our personal nobility, we can step away from any situation with grace and patience, and decide how we want to proceed. There will never be anything so difficult and complex that we can’t find our way through. We can trust ourselves to uncover all the answers we need, and step forward sure of success.

Today if your situation has changed and you must start again, if you feel overwhelmed and defeated, be confident. You have overcome many difficult and challenging times, and already possess everything you need to find your way forward. Nothing has changed. Your dreams are still there waiting. Stand tall and step forward. There is great success just ahead, and you will reach it.

After

10 Jun

Nobody gets a perfect life and we all face challenges and difficult passages that try us and test our strength and courage. When we’re struggling and trying to get through something difficult, our attention is focused on the problem at hand, and as we try to find our way through, we may exert a lot of personal energy into solving it. The problem may be intense, and we might feel overwhelmed as we try to push through it, but as we struggle, we’re gaining behavior traits that increase our understanding of life and give us additional tools to carry forward. It’s hard to believe anything good can come out of a terrible trial, but every experience, even the awful ones, give us something of value to take with us. After the trial is over and we’re on solid ground again, we will be different. Our wisdom will have increased, and we will have more endurance, and a greater ability to cope when things go wrong. The greater the hardship, the greater the blessing in the end. Nobody wants to suffer, but there is much to be gained as we untangle serious complications and find new ways to move through turmoil and strife. Life is all about learning, and we learn the most when things go wrong. Hard times will come to us all. How we handle them and what we learn from them is up to us. If we pay attention, and hold onto every lesson possible, we will be embellished and enriched because of the experience. We may fall down, and doubt our ability to survive, but in truth, there is nothing we can’t manage and overcome with patience and determination. Every blessing is waiting for us and we can claim them all. Life can be hard, and at some point, we may suffer greatly. But by trusting ourselves, and standing firm, we will prevail. Success will always be possible, and nothing can keep us from it.

We share the world with billions of other people. They are infinitely creative and unpredictable, and may do things that hurt us and leave us devastated. Best friends may betray us, lovers may leave us, and trusted associates may lie. We are precious and valuable, and our presence is a gift to the world around us. There is greatness in us, and even if others walk away and leave us abandoned and alone, we will have what we need to move forward and succeed.

We may face a terrible personal disaster that impacts us so greatly it changes the entire course of our lives. No storm can last forever, and when it’s over, we may end up standing on foreign ground with no idea how to proceed. No matter what has happened there will be a way to recover and begin again. We are stronger than we imagine, and nothing can hold us down forever. Every success is there for us, and we will reach them all.

Today if you’re standing in the aftermath of some personal catastrophe and have no idea what to do, trust yourself. You have all the wisdom and intelligence you need to step forward and succeed. Your dreams are still there for you and every destination awaits. Stand tall, and step forward with clarity and confidence. You are amazing and you will succeed.

Never Ending

21 May

Life is full of decisions and choices, and we all want to make the best ones we can. Good decisions will often bring us results we like, but nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter from time to time. There are a lot of things that may come into play that affected our ability to choose wisely. Maybe we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, or perhaps someone misled us, or we couldn’t see the whole story, or it was Wednesday. There’s a lot going on all the time and there are constant distractions happening around us. There is no way to do everything right every time. We might make a choice that just makes us uncomfortable, or it might be so far off the mark it blows up in our faces and everything crumbles. The worst disaster of all time cannot possibly last forever. Everything is always changing, and nothing is never ending. No matter what’s happened, it will eventually resolve. We might have to do some serious lifting to fix it, and we may need the help of others, but we will find all the answers we need and be able to repair whatever has gone wrong. Life will go on. A wrong turn is just that. It doesn’t mean we have to remain in place, or that there will never be the chance of success. We can re-direct our course and change direction at any time. The whole world is there for us and nothing can hold us down forever. There are unlimited roads to every destination and with determination and focus, we will find our way forward. There is endless potential for success, and we can do anything. By letting go of what went wrong, and keeping our eyes on the road ahead, we’ll find our way forward. We are powerful and wise, and will prevail.

If we’ve made a serious error in judgement, when it’s done, it’s done. We can do what is needed to correct our course ahead, and then move on. However, there may be someone who refuses to let us forget it, and may remind us of it constantly. We don’t need reminders of a past mistake, but they may bring it up over and over again. When they do, we can politely explain we’re aware of what happened and ask them to let it go. If they continue to hold onto it, it will be their burden to carry and we can ignore them.

Every experience teaches us something of value to carry forward. Instead of berating ourselves for making a mistake, we can look at everything objectively, see where we could have done things differently, and learn all we can from the experience. No matter what’s happened, life will continue, and tomorrow will come. We have unlimited chances to change our lives, and we can let go of any wrong turns and begin again. We have so much to offer. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with confidence, we will succeed.

Today if you’re bogged down by a past error in judgement, remember how intelligent and capable you are. Previous mistakes do not determine your future. You are strong and wise, and have everything you need to reach any goal. Trust yourself and be confident. Every single destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.