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Troubled Waters

7 Oct

There are endless things that can go wrong every moment of every day. Complications may come, we might take a wrong turn, someone might do something that blocks us, the train might be late and we miss our appointment, or dozens of other scenarios. Some days it can seem like we’re in the middle of the Bermuda Triangle and nothing works. There is always trouble somewhere and eventually it will visit us. We may struggle to figure out what to do next and how to stay afloat as the waves crash overhead and we keep going under. Troubled waters will come but nothing stays the same forever. Life is constantly changing and as we tumble and twist trying to find our way, the answers will be there for us. We will untangle any mess or confusion, and the road ahead will open. We are strong and capable, and there isn’t anything we can’t comprehend and manage well. If we lose our footing, we’ll find it again. If we fall, we’ll climb back up. We are invincible and unbeatable. Nothing can hold us down indefinitely. Trials will come, mistakes will happen, and for a moment we may be caught up in confusion and disarray, but that is only temporary. We know what needs to be done, and where we want to go. Even in the midst of trouble, we can keep our focus. Our lives are a long journey, filled with experiences both good and bad. Learning as we go will give us the tools we need to move forward with confidence and reach any destinations we desire. We are powerful and wise, and nothing can keep us from our goals. Troubled waters are only a passage to the roads we most want to travel. Every dream is there for us. We will find them, and make them ours.

Nobody wants to suffer and we might wish for a life full of ease and happiness, where nothing ever goes wrong and we are always content and satisfied. That’s nice to think about but unfortunately, that isn’t how life works. There is a constant tug and pull as we push forward toward our goals. Sometimes things will go well, other times there will be complications and difficulty. There are always a lot of balls in the air, and some will inevitably fall, sometimes right on top of us. It doesn’t matter if things get complex and the road gets rough. We are strong and capable and can find our way through anything that lies ahead. Nothing can keep us from success and we will prevail.

When trouble arises, if we allow it to stop us from stepping forward, we will never achieve the goals we desire. It’s impossible to stand still and move ahead at the same time. We have everything we need to overcome any distress or adversity. If the road ahead is blocked and we cannot move forward, we can find another road. There are endless options possible and we can find our way to any goal we desire. Nothing is out of reach, and we can have the lives we want most.

Today if you’re in the midst of trouble and there are complications keeping you from advancing, step back and look at all the possibilities before you. There are endless roads to every destination and you will find the way forward. Nothing can keep you from success. You are wise and strong, and will find your way. Success is there for you, and you will win.

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Taking Time

27 Jun

When we’ve been through a seriously painful event, we may suffer greatly. The death of a loved one, a terrible and difficult break-up of a relationship, or a personal and deep betrayal from someone we trusted, may bring us intense sorrow and serious anguish. It takes time to process painful and difficult changes and find a way to manage them. Pain and grief have their own timetables, and how long it takes us to adjust to our new reality is different for every person and every situation. It’s impossible to predict how long it will take until we feel settled again. Nobody wants to suffer for a long time but there are no rules for coping with grief and sadness. We must take things as they come and do our best to continue forward each day. We can always control what we do but we can’t always control how we feel. Recovery will take the time it takes, but no matter how hurt we are or how desperate things may seem, healing will come. Change is constant and nothing can stay the same forever, not even suffering. If we’ve been struggling for a long time, we may feel we should be further down the road, but we are changing a little every day and in time, no matter how long that takes, we can overcome anything. Life is filled with unexpected developments and if we’ve been surprised by a painful and disappointing experience, we can trust that no matter how difficult it is today, we will find our way through. We’re stronger than we think we are and nothing is powerful enough to overcome us. Every blessing is still there for us and we will find peace and happiness again.

Heartbreak comes in many forms. When we’ve been heartbroken, no matter what the circumstances are, we can find our way through in our own way and in our own time. There is no need to rush and we can take all the time necessary until we feel whole again. Nobody knows our deepest sorrows better than we do, and we can move forward one step at a time. Being patient and allowing time to find our footing again will enable us to heal and proceed again with confidence. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and no matter what we’re facing, we have everything we need to prevail.

Some people may try to push us forward in an effort to alleviate our suffering. They may make all kinds of suggestions or give us advice about how to let go and move forward. We can listen to whatever they offer, but we know what we need and can trust ourselves to find our next steps. Pain gives us patience, and we learn how resilient and strong we are as we navigate through it and continue forward. We are powerful and capable, and nothing can hold us down forever. We already have everything we need to prevail and find all the answers.

Today if you’ve been through a serious and painful event, and feel lost and frozen in place, give yourself time to think and rest. There’s no rush to get through. Stand still until you feel ready to move forward again. You are strong and wise, and nothing will overcome you. Trust yourself and take another step forward. Every dream is still there, every blessing is possible, and you will prevail.

Wearing the Coat

6 Jun

Everyone has their own defined ideas about life and how things should go, and we interpret everything we experience through our own personal filters. What looks a certain way to one person can seem entirely different to another. There is no definite right or wrong in the way we translate what’s happening around us and we each decide how we’ll incorporate the outside world into our own personal understanding. If we’re able to be objective, we often find it easier to process whatever is going on, even if it’s highly charged or difficult to manage. However, sometimes our emotions get in the way and we may not be able to see past how we feel to find the way forward. If we’re intensely affected by developments around us, we may feel overcome by our feelings and frozen in place. Like a heavy coat weighing us down, we may be so emotionally involved we can’t think straight. If we’re deeply hurt, feel betrayed or have suffered a big loss, we may feel paralyzed and unable to move. Difficult times and painful complications can burrow deep within us and before we can step forward and begin to dig out from under, we must find a way to navigate through the emotional storm we may be feeling. Deep sorrows and intense anguish take time to process, and we can take all the time we need. There is no need to rush to get back on our feet. We can stand still for a moment, look at the situation clearly, and begin to find our footing. Whatever is pressing before us will wait. We already possess everything we need to get through whatever comes. There is sufficient wisdom and courage within us to find our way forward. Life can be difficult and we may slip under water a little, but we have all the resources necessary to rise above and catch our breath. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. Every road we need will appear and we will find the way forward.

There are things we may think we could never survive. However, we have all the strength and intelligence we need to overcome anything that may happen. Even if our whole world fell apart and everything we thought was true turned out to be a mirage, we would find our way through. Great sorrows may come, great disappointments may arise, and we may have to face our greatest fears. But no matter what happens we are powerful enough to find the road ahead.

When we’re overcome with emotion, the way forward may be cloudy and unclear. We can express all the sadness we need to, get it all out, and then open our eyes to the possibilities ahead. There will always be another day and another chance to find our way. There isn’t anything we can’t do and no matter how dreadful things may seem, nothing can keep us from finding happiness again.

Today if you’re suffering and are overcome with grief, trust yourself. This is just one moment. Your whole life is ahead and nothing can keep you from reaching happiness again. Every blessing will come and you will find the road you seek. Let the emotional coat fall away and take a deep breath. You are more powerful than you realize and success is just ahead. Take one step forward. Every blessing you desire is waiting.

Radiating Outward

3 Dec

We live in a world filled with people and everywhere we go there are others around us.  What demeanor we project and how we interact with them has influence over every situation.  If we’re feeling bad we may emanate sadness or ill will out to our environment, and if we’re happy our influence may be very different.  We are integral to every situation and there is no way to eliminate the influence we have over our surroundings.  When we’re distracted and busy we may not be aware of how we’re impacting those around us.  As we rush from one thing to another we may not notice how our behavior changes the atmosphere or feelings of others but everything we do changes something else.  We own every decision we make, even those we make without thinking.  If we are aware of our presence and do what we can to make our influence positive, our lives and the lives of those around us will be embellished and enhanced.  We can improve any situation we’re in and if we’re welcoming and accessible many new doors will open for us.  Our demeanor can define our position and we can change everything with a smile and a kind word.  We don’t have to pretend to be happy when we aren’t but can be mindful that the messages we send out have consequences.  People will react to what we do and say.  We can be open and honest, and receptive to those around us and pave the way forward with good intentions.  Every goal we want is attainable and when we’re agreeable and kind, all the doors ahead will open.

Some people are very stoic and keep their feelings hidden and tucked away.  Others wear their hearts on their sleeves for everyone to see and every emotion they experience is clearly visible.  No matter what type of personality we have our behaviors impact those around us.  If we’re abrupt and secretive it may be hard to develop close connections.  If we’re very emotional we may make those around us uncomfortable.  We’re always in control of ourselves and can behave in ways that bring others closer and build strong alliances.  The connections we create and the bonds we form will help us moving forward in everything we do.

There are some who have little control over their emotions and spread them all over those around them.  If they’re unhappy, mad, or upset, they may gripe and complain and smear their ill will everywhere.  Misery loves company but only because it justifies bad behavior.  If we’re miserable, making those around us feel bad will never solve anything.  We all have bad days from time to time but we can manage them without bringing others down in the process.

Today if you’re struggling with something and don’t feel happy, try to manage your feelings in ways that will improve your situation.  If you need help, get it and find your way through.  You are stronger than you think you are and nothing is powerful enough to hold you down.  Lift your head and move forward with confidence.  Every blessing you hope for and every destination you dream about is there for you and you will reach it.

Grinding Through

22 Oct

We go through endless scenarios as we navigate through our lives. Some are predictable and easy to process, some are annoying, and some are very difficult to understand and cope with. When we’re in an uncomfortable situation and there’s a lot going on that we either don’t understand or don’t want to be involved in, we may find ourselves grinding through just to manage it. There may be times when we’re somewhere we have to be but don’t want to be and every second we endure can seem like forever. Endurance may take every bit of patience we possess as we endeavor to get through. We can manage anything that comes, even if it tries us and pushes us to the end of what we believe we can tolerate. There really isn’t anything powerful enough to overcome us and we can manage whatever is required at any time. But when we’re in the midst of an unpleasant and difficult situation it may be hard to stand strong. It’s not easy to be still when everything inside us is telling us to run. In situations like that we can pull strength from deep inside and withstand whatever we must to get through. We are stronger and more capable than we may think we are and can manage anything we must. We can trust ourselves to process any situation and move forward. Every answer we need is there and as we walk through each step we’ll find our way through whatever is causing us hardship.

There are all kinds of people in the world. Some we’ll enjoy, some we’ll tolerate, and some may be difficult for us to manage. When we struggle to get along with someone else it’s often because of a difference in perspective. We all see the world through our own filters and we may struggle to understand the beliefs and ideas of someone whose perspectives are very different from our own. There are limitless ways to live life and we can express our own views while respecting whatever differences we’re up against. Compromise is always possible and with patience and understanding we can find a way to manage disagreement.

We may be in situations where we feel like the odd man out. Perhaps we’re different in ways that don’t fit with those around us and we may feel like a square peg trying to squeeze into a round hole. We may worry we’ll never be accepted for who we are. It doesn’t matter what those around us are doing or how they’re accomplishing their goals. Our expressions are valuable and worthwhile even if they’re different. We are the only person like us in the entire world and the gifts we offer express our individuality and personal worth. We don’t have to fit any model but the one we choose. Success comes in all varieties and is always available to us. We can be confident in our uniqueness and move forward with clarity and determination.

Today if you must get through a difficult situation that feels overwhelming, remember how capable and strong you are. You are wise and can understand even very complex issues. Take things one step at a time until you get through to the other side. There isn’t anything you can’t manage and manage well. All options are possible and you’ll find the way forward. Be confident. You have everything you need to prevail.

Aspersions

16 May

People have all kinds of ideas about everything.  We’re all different and the way we see the world may be completely different than those around us.  We interpret what we see and hear through our own personal filters.  Different ideas may work against us at times if what we say or do is interpreted to mean something entirely different than what we intend.  Aspersions may be unjustly cast on our character due to incorrect interpretations and may cause us great discomfort as we try to figure out what happened.  If someone says something about us that has no basis in fact or reality but is merely based on their translation of something we did, we may find ourselves trying to untangle a mess we didn’t create.  The truth will always rise in time but in the interim we may be twisted around defending ourselves even if we’ve done nothing wrong.  The world is filled with all kinds of people and we have no control over what they think or do.  They may cause us considerable grief because they mistakenly believe something untoward about us.  If that happens, we will have to work through the situation until we find resolution.  It’s frustrating to feel persecuted unjustly and it may complicate our lives until we find the way through.  Truth is truth and will always rise.  No matter what has happened we will find the answers and correct any situation necessary.  We can stand firm and confident that our personal integrity and excellence will shine through.  We will find the answers and reach resolution.

No matter how nice and friendly we are, not everybody will always be our friend.  There may be times we meet someone who doesn’t like us or with whom we find it difficult to interact.  Perhaps their temperament is unpredictable, or they are angry or judgmental.  We have no control over what others do but we can control our response to anything they bring.  We can be gracious and kind in the face of anger, and polite and calm if things get out of control.  We are always in control of ourselves and can choose the best road regardless of what is happening around us.

Some people are dishonest and unethical.  If we have high personal standards it may be difficult to interact with them.  If we must work with them and they do things that are not in keeping with our values we may be very uncomfortable.  We don’t ever have to compromise what is important to us.  We can express our personal views and walk away from any situation that isn’t in keeping with them.  Our lives are ours and we may hold fast to what is important to us.  Opinions vary but our standards are ours to keep.  We can live true to the values we cherish and stay focused on what we want the most.

Today if someone has said something about you that isn’t true, remember your actions express who you really are.  Words mean nothing when they don’t represent what is real.  Continue to hold fast to the values you cherish and be the best person you can be.  Set an example of honesty and truth to the world around you.  You are amazing and nothing can diminish you.  Be confident and strong.  You know who you are and nothing will hold you back from achieving every goal you desire.

Distant Shore

22 Mar

Disappointments and heartache are common experiences in life. They happen to everyone and can be devastating when they come to us. It can be hard to look forward and see anything in front of us when our hearts are broken or we have to face a terrible setback. Plans for our next step may elude us as we grapple with what has happened and try to find our footing. When the pain is great it may be hard to see ahead and all we can think about is making the hurt go away. It can feel like being stranded at sea unable to see land anywhere. We know there is a distant shore out there somewhere but we have no idea how to reach it. When all our plans have disintegrated and our lives feel foreign and out of control it’s hard to find the way forward. Life is all about change and even if we can’t see a future when we’re grieving over something that has devastated us, it’s still there. We will never be left without a shore waiting for us. It may be in the distance and we may need time to find our way to it, but it will always be there waiting for us to arrive. Even if we feel completely lost and alone, even if we don’t know how we’re going to get through, we will find a way. Tomorrow will come and what we’re facing today will change. We can take small steps forward until we feel confident again and are able to see the road ahead. We can stand tall in the midst of despair and look forward. There will always be another road waiting to take us where we want to go. We are strong enough and brave enough, and we have enough wisdom and intelligence to figure out anything that comes. We have all the power we need to overcome anything and we will prevail.

When our circumstances turn and we’re suddenly in a foreign and uncomfortable situation, it may be unsettling and difficult. There may be times when everything we counted on changes and suddenly we’re facing new and uncharted territory. It’s hard to feel confident when we’re in a new set of parameters and aren’t sure which way is up. But we can understand new situations and learn our way around anything that happens. We can trust ourselves to unravel even the most complicated issues and figure out what to do next.

Sorrow is an intense emotion that may overwhelm us. We may feel paralyzed by our misery and believe we’ll be stuck forever. But nothing in life is truly permanent. Everything is always changing and when we’re ready we will find our way again. Disappointments will come but we have everything we need to face whatever life brings. There will always be a way forward and we will find the roads that will take us to success.

Today if you’re heartbroken and devastated and feel like you’ll never be whole again, trust yourself. You’ve overcome many difficult complications already and you will prevail. There isn’t anything strong enough or powerful enough to hold you down. You are amazing and can do anything. Be patient and take courage. Everything you need is there for you. The shore is waiting and you will find it. Take a step forward. Happiness is just ahead.