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In the Mud

25 Jan

Muddy, unpaved roads can be tricky to navigate. It’s hard to tell how thick mud is and if we hit a spot that’s very deep we may get stuck. It’s almost impossible to get traction through the mire as it oozes, and although our tires may spin around we may get nowhere. It’s frustrating to end up in the mud with no way to move forward but if we’re prepared we can address the situation and continue on our way. In our lives as we push forward toward our goals, it’s impossible to know what lies ahead. Sometimes the road we’re on gets messy, and just like getting stuck in the mud, we may be held in place until things clear again. If the complications are caused by others we may have to wait until they change their course or allow us to pass. However, many times, the obstacles are created by something within ourselves. Maybe we doubt we can continue forward, or we’re confused about what we should do next. Sometimes we get stopped because we lose our focus and have forgotten why we’re on the road to begin with or exactly where we’re headed. Life is complicated and busy, and there are lots of distractions around us. If we forget our reasons for going forward we may simply stay where we are. It’s like getting stuck in the mud. We’re still on the road but we’re going nowhere. Getting stuck doesn’t mean the journey is over. We can rethink our position, examine where we are and decide what we want to do next. Every goal is within reach and we can keep moving forward no matter what’s happened. We can address the mud, reset our priorities, and begin again. Mud happens, but we have everything we need to overcome it and achieve success.

There is no way to know what the future will bring. We can make the best plan possible and try to envision the complications we may face, but our situations are constantly changing and unforeseen problems may arise. If we aren’t devoted to the goal we may stop or retreat at the first snag. When we get to a difficult turn we can throw our hands up and walk away, or we can take the time we need to see everything clearly and plot our way through. Some problems may be intense and complex, but no matter what comes we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to figure them out. There really isn’t anything strong enough to hold us in place if we want to continue forward.

Some roads will be more difficult than we imagined when we began. We may find the journey takes more time and energy than we planned on. If the demand is greater than we can manage now, we can set the goal aside and return to it when our situation has changed. There is no rush to complete a goal and sometimes all we need is more time. We can do anything we want to do and work around any complication. We can decide what’s most important and continue forward.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t move forward, look at the situation objectively and see where the problems lie. Decide if you want to continue or wait until things change, and then proceed. You can do anything and no goal is too far to reach. Set your priorities and continue forward. Success is always there for you, and you will find it.



21 Nov

Life can be complicated and we may experience all kinds of twists and turns as things unwind and occur. Sometimes everything goes well and other times we may worry about what is coming and how we’ll manage. Worry may rob us of our comfort, and our confidence, and we may struggle through sleepless nights wondering what will happen. Nobody knows what today will bring and tomorrow is out of our control. We can try to guess what will come but guessing doesn’t make us clairvoyant. Worry is merely the imagining of outcomes. Unfortunately, when we are struggling with worry, most often the only outcomes we envision are negative. But there are many sides to every story. Negative outcomes may happen but positive possibilities are always there as well. Worrying about what disaster may come will never cause or prevent anything. The energy we expend thinking about what may go wrong will not bring us comfort in return. We can wonder about the future but as we wonder we can imagine not only the way things may fail but also the way things may succeed. There will always be unknown developments and possibilities out of our control. No matter what may go wrong we have everything we need to get through and find the answers we need. We can let go of worry and doubt. We are strong and able to handle anything that happens. There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for us to figure out and we have everything we need to overcome anything we face.

We choose how we live our lives. We can complain and find problems with every experience. We can bemoan our lot in life and whine when things don’t go our way. There will always be plenty to complain about but seeing only the complications will never bring us happiness. Instead, we can determine to see the endless possibilities for goodness before us. Everyone goes through hard times and nobody lives on a rainbow filled with roses and sunshine. Things will go wrong and sometimes we may fail. But no matter what happens or what problems we must face, we have everything we need to find the way through. The sun will always rise again and we have endless opportunities to win.

We may face extremely difficult challenges that make us question our ability to survive. Sometimes things go very wrong, and unexpected, serious developments may take our breath away. When those things happen, we may feel overcome and unable to move. But we have everything within us already to face anything. There is nothing too difficult for us to manage and we have all the wisdom we need to find our way through. Life is unpredictable and when bad things happen we need not lose our faith. Good things are always just around the corner and we will prevail.

Today if you’re worried about something that may happen and feel overwhelmed at the possibilities before you, remember there are many sides to every story. Even if the bottom falls out you will stand strong. You are powerful and capable. Nothing will overcome you. Be confident. You have everything you need and you will succeed.


9 Jun

We can do a lot of things well and accomplish many goals throughout our lives.  When we have sufficient determination and time we can generally get to most desired destinations.  But sometimes we may try to accomplish something and no matter what we do can’t seem to move forward.  When we struggle and push and still can’t get ahead it’s very frustrating.  Life is complicated and we don’t always know everything when we begin a journey.  If we truly cannot achieve what we’ve set out to do right now it doesn’t mean we have failed.  We can look at the situation objectively, see what the problem is and then revise our plans.  We may need additional information or we may need to wait until we are in a different place in our lives.  Although it’s important to try our best to reach our goals, there is no value in trying over and over again to accomplish something that cannot be accomplished right now.  Recognizing limits is important.  If we simply cannot move forward no matter what we’ve tried the timing may be wrong or we may need to wait until our circumstances have changed.  If the destination is out of reach now we can set it aside and do other things and try again later.  All planes get grounded from time to time.  Once we see what is needed to move forward we may begin again.  We don’t have to stay grounded forever.  We have everything we need to be successful and continue forward.

We only have control over our personal decisions and what we do.  Sometimes when we’re trying to accomplish something and others are involved, their decisions may derail us and push us off track.  If we must have the agreement of others to move forward and that is not forthcoming we may be stopped in our tracks and unable to progress.  If we can’t bring them into agreement we may need to find a way around them to continue forward.  If that isn’t possible it may be necessary to set the goal aside until things change.  Life is fluid and ever changing and in time our circumstances will adjust and we’ll be able to start again.

Unpredictable complications are always a factor.  We can’t know what we don’t know and sometimes there is more to the story than we are aware when we start out.  Others may keep facts from us, things may develop that stop our progress or our lives may change in such a way that we can’t continue forward at this time.  When those things happen we can revise our plans to accommodate whatever has happened and decide how we want to proceed.  We can wait if we need to and do other things until our situation changes.  Life is long and a road that is blocked today may well be clear in the days ahead.  We can prepare for the future and be ready when the time is right to start again.

Today if you’ve been working hard on accomplishing something and no matter what you do can’t move forward, stop and look at the situation openly and completely.  Revise you plans if you need to and if the timing is wrong, set the goal aside and work on other things.  Be patient and continue forward.  Although you may have to wait, eventually everything you desire will come.

Going Forward

6 Dec

The road we travel as we live our lives is long and has many turns and twists as we navigate through the years. Sometimes things go well and other times we struggle to get through. It’s not always easy to push forward when there is wind blowing in our face, blinding us and making it hard to keep going, or rain muddying the way forward. If we’re sure we’re headed in the right direction we may stay the course and keep moving ahead with confidence. However, if the road is very hard and there are obstacles in front of us we may doubt our ability to press on. We might wonder if we’ve lost our way, if we need a better map or someone to help us, or if we’ll ever get to the destination. There are so many things that can happen to cloud our view forward and it takes determination to keep walking. We have everything we need to be successful and we know where we want to go. If we persevere, no matter what we face, we can continue. Confusion may come but we can find the answers we need. We can confidently take one step after another, even when it’s hard to see, and reach any destination we choose.

Our journey through life is long, and we will pass many stops along the way before we reach the end. Some are unexpected but each place offers us something to carry with us going forward. We may go somewhere foreign and feel uncomfortable and eager to leave but as we navigate the path we learn different ideas that will enrich us. Sometimes we reach a place that feels like home where we are happy and feel accepted, and as we move forward they buoy us up and give us confidence. We learn something new with everything we experience, and as we travel forward we change and develop a new and richer understanding of our lives and who we are. Each experience changes us in some way and we learn more about ourselves and who we really want to be.

Sometimes the way forward is easy and we move ahead with little resistance. Things go well and all the doors seem to open for us. But life is unpredictable and can be perilous. Everything changes continually and no matter where we are now, our circumstances will change. We will meet different people, experience new challenges, and learn to cope with everything we face. We’ll learn to manage all the bumps, complications, and disappointments as we travel and we’ll become stronger and truer to ourselves. Each day teaches us something we need to be successful. Learning every lesson well helps us find our way.

Today if your journey is thwarted with complication and problems, if you feel tired having to face yet another challenge, keep moving forward. There are rewards and blessings waiting for you. Each trial gives you a gift and each challenge teaches you something you need. You know where you want to go and you can persevere and find success. You are strong and capable of managing anything. Keep going forward. You have everything you need to succeed.

Getting it Back

28 Nov

There may be times in our lives when things out of our control change what we can do and where we can go. If the change isn’t permanent we may work hard to do whatever is needed to turn things back. We may be determined to get our lives back the way they were before the development interrupted our plans. But sometimes getting our lives back the way they were before everything changed isn’t where we want to be once we have the chance to return. Sometimes during the process of growing, healing, progressing or solving what was in our way we change. We become someone new. Our personalities are the sum of our experiences and everything we experience changes us in some way. What we thought was a detour when it started may turn out to be a course correction. We may find a new road fits us better than the original and discover the path we were on isn’t what we want anymore. We may get our lives back but not exactly the way they were. Life is all about changing and sometimes unexpected developments show us a clearer vision of what we want.

When we’re happy and things are going our way, we don’t want anything to change. Everything is comfortable and we feel content just the way it’s going. But nothing stays the same forever. Change is constant and inevitably something will alter our course. We may be required to adjust our path to continue forward. If we refuse to see the complication before us and hold on tightly to the way things were, it will be impossible for us to go forward. We’ll get stuck holding on to what we think we need and denying what is really happening. Some changes require adjustment and getting used to. Sometimes we need a little time to wrap our heads around what has happened and figure out what to do. We can take the time we need but if we want to continue growing and learning we will have to choose a path and begin taking steps in a new direction. Change can be hard and unsettling but we can manage it. We can find our way even if the road we were on is no longer available.

Nobody can tell the future or see what will come tomorrow. The best we can do is openly evaluate where we are and where we want to go, and then plan our steps forward. There will be complications, there may be problems and we might stumble a time or two. But there isn’t anything we can’t figure out and nothing we can’t solve. With determination and courage, we will see through the twists and turns and find our way. Wherever we are now will change in time. We can embrace the changes as they come and accept them as the natural course of life. We deserve to be happy and we can confidently face anything that comes and plot a successful course forward.

Today if you’re facing a complication that has changed everything and you want your life back the way it was, take a good look at the opportunities available to you. Consider everything that’s possible and plan your way forward. You can handle any changes and developments. You are strong and wise and you will find your way to happiness. You have everything you need already. Your life is yours to design and there isn’t anything you can’t do.

What Is

22 Nov

Sometimes we want things in our lives to be different than they are. Maybe we aren’t happy in a relationship, maybe we don’t like our jobs, maybe we wish we looked differently, or want a change that has eluded us. There are times when the life we’re living may not be who we really are or where we really want to be. We may wish things were different, we may dream about the situation changing and we may hope our lives will shift to something closer to what we want. We can work toward changing anything we want and modify our lives in ways that make us happier. But until we make the changes needed, we are where we are. Learning to live with what is real right now can help us understand and plan for changes to get us where we want to be. Sometimes when we’re unhappy we may look the other way and pretend things are different than they are. We may ignore the situation and just keep plowing through a life that doesn’t fulfill us. But ignoring a situation never changes it and we deserve to be happy. We can find true happiness by facing our lives as they are, seeing what is right now, and then making a plan to correct our course to get the lives we really want.

Some people have trouble living in the present. They constantly talk about the past and live through their memories or dream about a future that is different than what they’re living. Memories are great and we learn a lot from the lessons of the past but that is behind us and cannot be re-lived. It’s over and although we may revisit it, if we let it control our present it may paralyze us and keep us from moving forward. Dreaming of our future may help us formulate plans to make it a reality but we must do more than dream. Continually thinking about how things could be takes us away from what they are. What is now is what we’re living. If we want to change, we can but simply dreaming about it will do nothing but freeze us in place. If we can openly see and accept where we are we can then decide where we want to go and begin moving forward.

It can be hard to accept difficult changes that come to us. If someone we love leaves us or betrays us, if we get hurt and can no longer use our body the way we have before, or some other severe challenge enters our lives we may find it hard to move forward. We may wish we could go back in time and change things. It may be hard to cope with our new reality and live with our lives as they are. But whether we cope with them and accept them or live in denial, what is real is what we’re living. When we see things as they truly are, we can begin to move forward. Accepting truth opens the doors to understanding and understanding helps us find ways forward to happiness. We can be happy no matter what life gives us. We know what we want and with determination can find our way to any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been looking the other way and refusing to face a situation in your life that is uncomfortable, remember you deserve to be completely happy. There isn’t anything too difficult or complex for you to face. See everything as it is and make a plan to move forward. You have so much light to offer. Let it shine on you today.


17 Nov


“There is a crack in everything. That’s how the light gets in.” Leonard Cohen

It seems our lives would be wonderful if everything went the way we wanted it to. It would be so much easier if there were no complications and things always worked out in our favor. When our lives are difficult and there is a lot of static, lots of things going awry and we’re busy trying to sort it all out, we might wish things were different. We understand that nothing is perfect and we cope with problems and obstacles in our way as they come up. We are capable of managing any complication we face but sometimes we wish it was easier. It’s the nature of life to be imperfect. Very few natural things are flawless and there are cracks everywhere. But the cracks aren’t just imperfections, they are also openings that let light shine through. That light can bring us new ideas, show us new roads, or unveil new destinations for us going forward. When we’re stressed and something goes wrong, often we find information that helps us going forward. We gain strength from the conflict, patience from the endurance, and sometimes find new direction in the experience. Cracks in the plan sometimes open up new horizons and take us places we never dreamed of.

Wood grain can be very beautiful. There are many kinds of woods, many colors and hues, many different types of grain and when they are cut and polished they all have a unique beauty. There are imperfect knots in wood which are formed when branches drop off as the trunk of the tree expands and the grain grows around the remaining base of the branch. Knots are usually considered defects and are generally harder than the surrounding grain which can make sawing difficult. But although they are imperfections, they are quite beautiful and add a lot to the finished product. If the wood were completely flawless with all the grain lines running perfectly straight it would be boring. The knots add interest, beauty and character to the wood. Yes, they are imperfect but that imperfection is what makes them so lovely.

Nobody wants a life filled with problems. We all want things to go well and be able to move forward without a lot of drama. Sometimes that happens but most of the time we have to adjust to one thing or another in order to progress. If we can see the complications as opportunities to learn something new and chances to expand our understanding, we will navigate them more easily. There may be cracks in the armor as we go forward but they will open up new ideas that help us continue. There may be knots in the wood as we try to make something happen, but if we polish them and see how they shine we can find new ways to get to the destination. If we can see beauty in the confusion, and possibilities in the problems, we’ll conquer whatever we must face.

Today if you’re in a situation with a lot of complications and feel overwhelmed, look at the possibilities before you. Each difficulty brings new ideas and opportunities to see things differently. Take a good look at everything. There is light shining through to show you the way. You will see it and find success.