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In the Dark

9 Jan

We all have dreams about what we’d like to do, places we want to see, and accomplishments we hope to achieve. Sometimes we take the steps needed to start the journey toward those dreams but there may be times when what we want seems so far away and out of reach we only think about it and do nothing to move toward it. It’s like standing in the dark in a closet and looking out through the slats in the door. We can see the rooms before us and all the possibilities, but we remain hidden and quiet, merely looking at what could be. There is no risk if we stay where we are, comfortable and secure in our place and what’s around us. If we protect ourselves from new experiences we may feel safe, but that safety comes at a great price. Standing in the dark and looking out at the world of available opportunities will never move us forward toward our dreams. Every dream is possible but nothing will come without effort. We must open the doors and walk forward toward the destinations we desire. We can be confident in our ability to find the road ahead. There isn’t anything we can’t do. We can take one step forward and then take another, and keeping our eyes focused ahead we will achieve any goal we set. Our lives are completely in our control and nothing is strong enough to hold us back or keep us in place. Every chance is possible. Every dream is available. We can begin moving toward anything we desire, and find success.

It’s nice to be familiar with our surroundings and those we encounter. We feel comfortable knowing the landscape and who we will meet. It’s great to have a network of friends and acquaintances, and strong ties with those around us. But every friend was once a stranger. Every comfortable location was once a foreign land. We can bravely step away from the familiar and forge new paths toward any destination we desire. No matter how strange things seem at first, we will know them and make them our own. The world is filled with possibilities and we can achieve anything we desire.

No journey is without trouble. We may take a wrong turn, we may meet someone who works against us, and we may stumble along the way. We don’t need to run back to the familiar when things go wrong. We can look at the situation before us, remember why we’re pushing forward, and find the way through. There really is no problem too difficult for us to solve and no complication too perplexing to figure out. We have everything we need to do anything. Nothing will stop us from finding success. We are strong and powerful, capable and wise. We can accomplish any goal we desire.

Today remember how important your dreams are. If you’ve been staying close to what’s comfortable and familiar, look ahead and take the first step toward your deepest desire. You can accomplish anything. Step out of the darkness and push ahead. All your dreams are there for you, and nothing will keep you from them.

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You Pick

23 Jan

We interact with all kinds of people every day. Sometimes we say hello in passing, sometimes we have long conversations and work together, and sometimes we have disagreements. If a discussion becomes intense, the disagreement may escalate. When things become contentious and tempers rise, we may become very uncomfortable. But we always have a choice to continue the conversation and let it play out no matter what, or stop and return to it again another time. Unfortunately, when we’re in the heat of the situation, especially if offensive things are being said, we may get so caught up that we forget to think about anything but pushing forward. Being in control of ourselves is easy when things are going well but when we’re in conflict it’s harder and more difficult to manage. However, no matter what is said or done, we always have the opportunity to choose how we will proceed. We can step back until things settle down, or we can go storming ahead and give it all we’ve got. We get to pick. Of course, the other party gets to pick too. But if they’re pressing the argument and we don’t want to continue, we can step away.

As human beings, we have all kinds of instinctive survival mechanisms. The fight or flight reflex is part of that. If we feel we’re being attacked, it prompts us to either fight back or leave the situation. Which way we go depends on how we’re wired and how much self-control we can exercise at the time. For some of us the first response to threat is to fight. For others the first thought is to run – or leave the situation. We’re all geared a little differently but no matter what we instinctively feel, we have the option to control our response by thinking about it first. If we’re fighters, that means we have to stop before we escalate the situation further and think of a better plan. If we’re runners, we have to be brave enough to face the situation and determine how to navigate it more effectively. Either way, the choice is ours. The excuse some offer when things go wrong of, “That’s just how I am,” is unhelpful. Conflict comes to us all. How we manage it is up to us.

Sometimes even if we try to modify a volatile situation, or try to diffuse the tension, the other party will not back down. That is their choice and if that happens and nothing we say or do improves the situation, if things continue to escalate and we don’t feel secure, we can walk away. We don’t have to stay engaged in any interaction that makes us feel distressed or threatened. We are entitled to do what is best for us. Even if the other party has some sort of authority over us, we may calmly state that we are not comfortable and need to leave. Sometimes just stating our discomfort will diffuse the situation and things will improve. Sometimes not. Every situation is different but we have the right to feel calm and safe in all our dealings. We are valuable and important. We can pick what we’ll do and what we’ll take. We can choose to stay and continue an exchange or we can leave. Leaving doesn’t mean we’re conceding or giving up. It means we are choosing to control how we will go forward.

Today if you’re involved in a discussion that makes you uncomfortable, decide how you want to handle it. You can try to work through it or you can leave and return to it another time. You can be polite and respectful and get what you need to go forward. Your feelings are valuable and should be honored. You can be in control of yourself. Be confident and choose what is best for you.