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Waiting for Luck

15 Feb

There are a lot of things to accomplish in our lives. We have responsibilities to tend to, jobs to work, chores to get done, and endless details that need our attention. Sometimes we get so caught up in our ‘to do’ lists and carried away with all the particulars of our every day lives, we set our dreams and personal goals aside. They sit dormant in the backs of our minds waiting for us to engage them. In the meantime, we spend our time getting other things done and wait for the moment when we can open the door back to them and begin to make them come true. Life has a way of taking over and if we don’t control how we spend our time, our time will control us. Waiting for the perfect moment to arrive when everything is settled and we can finally do what we’ve been putting off is like waiting for luck. It’s probably not going to show up anytime soon. Life can be complicated and waiting for the perfect time to finally do what we want most is futile and unrealistic. If we want to find real success we must take control of our decisions and move forward. There will be complications and interference, and dozens of things that need to be done, but we can, in the midst of any situation, make time for what we really want to do. How we spend our time reflects what we value most. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we’re willing to do what is needed to make it happen. As soon as we decide they are important, we can begin to make our dreams come true. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we choose. Choosing well will help us find success and happiness.

When there is something we really want to accomplish, no matter how busy we are, we find a way to get it done. But if we aren’t really committed to a task, we may put it off until we ‘find’ time to do it. Time is constant. It doesn’t wait, it doesn’t bend, and it can’t be found. Waiting to find time to do anything is the same as saying it’s not a priority. Only we can decide what is important to us. Being honest with ourselves about our choices will help us move forward in ways that will take us where we want to go, and bring us satisfaction.

Sometimes we may hesitate before beginning toward a goal. We may not be confident we can reach it, or face criticism because it’s different than what others think we should do, or we may be unsure of the way forward. Hesitation is a pause we can use to consider all our options before we begin. We can move forward in ways that work uniquely for us, and with determination and focus, reach any destination. There is nothing we can’t accomplish and no road is too long to travel. We have everything we need to go anywhere we choose. Everything is there for us. We need only begin.

Today if you’ve been waiting for everything to fall into place so you can start reaching your goals, begin now. Take the first step forward and plan your life around what you really want to accomplish. Be in control of the road ahead and all your dreams will come true. You can do anything. Be confident. Every goal is within reach, and you will get there.

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Working Doubt

14 Feb

We all face difficult situations that make us doubt our ability to get through.  Doubt is simply a feeling of uncertainty or lack of conviction that something will work.  It’s a normal response when we face situations that are unknown or threatening in some way.  We can’t see what lies ahead and when we’re facing challenging issues we may feel unsure moving forward.  We may be convinced we cannot prevail and may worry about what will happen next.  We can effectively manage and address our doubts with hard work.  When we’re working hard and are actively engaged in something there is no time for worry.  We’re busy processing where we are and planning for our next move.  Fear gets pushed aside as we begin to plan our way forward and each step we take quiets any doubts we may have.  There is an old saying that when the going gets tough the tough get going.  If we begin moving forward when we are concerned, we will feel stronger and more in control.  Hard times come to us all.  We can try to hide from them, ignore them, and look the other way but they will persist until we address them.  Even if we don’t have enough confidence to feel comfortable, we can begin to work the problem and sort it out.  We can untangle all the details, and as we resolve each question our confidence will rise and the doubts we may have felt at the beginning will subside.  We are strong and capable, and possess all the wisdom we need to overcome anything that happens.  There isn’t anything too complicated or difficult for us to manage, and by working hard we can find our way through any problem.

The world is big and complex.  There are unlimited things that can happen and no way to predict what will come.  If we’ve been through several difficult challenges in a row we may start to doubt our ability to continue.  Sometimes things go wrong consecutively and when we’re tired from the struggle we may feel like giving up.  It’s hard to feel positive when we’re in a negative position.  But if our backs are against the wall we can be pushed no further.  If we’re on the bottom we can only move up.  We can reach deep within ourselves and find the strength and courage we need to continue one more time and work the problem.  We can push off the wall and stand up again.

They say the harder we fall the stronger we rise.  When obstacles before us are heavy and there is a lot to work through, we gain strength as we learn new lessons and find our way forward.  Overcoming each challenge teaches us something we can carry ahead with us, and pushes us to manage more effectively.  We can find the way around any barriers and prevail.  Hard lessons often bring great blessings.  We can be confident even when we doubt, and strong in our conviction that we will win.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation that is so complex you aren’t sure you will get through, trust yourself.  You’ve overcome hard times already and have everything you need to prevail.  Pull from the strength and courage you possess and move forward with confidence.  Nothing is too difficult for you to overcome.  Take control and start moving.  There is great success just ahead.

Digging In

13 Feb

Nobody is right all the time. We all make mistakes and choices we regret. Sometimes we go the wrong way and have to correct our course, sometimes we go too far and have to back track, and sometimes we just bomb completely and have to start over. It happens. We’re only human and can only know what we know at any given time. When things go wrong and we discover we’ve made a mistake, we can acknowledge the error and then do what is needed to correct it. But there may be times when although we know we’re wrong, refuse to accept it and dig in, pushing forward defending a position that will not work. Maybe we’re embarrassed or prideful, or think if we keep going the wrong way somehow, magically it will turn into the right way. Whatever our reasons, if we continue moving ahead on the wrong road we will never find success. It’s hard to face any kind of failure but looking at it completely, and determining to correct what is needed is the best way forward. We are always in control of our lives and can change focus at any time. As soon as we see we’re going the wrong way we can turn in a new direction. The world is filled with endless possibilities. Limiting ourselves to only one road and holding fast to it  headed somewhere we don’t want to go, will only bring us sorrow. We can let go of pride and control, and change our lives. Everything is possible if we’re willing to be flexible. Happiness is always there and we can reach it.

Traditions are powerful motivators. If we’re doing something that has been done the same way for a long time we may hold onto it even if it’s not working. We may believe if we stay the course a little longer it will correct itself and we’ll find success. That might happen but if something truly isn’t working, it’s better to step back and find a different option. Things change and what worked in the past may not be feasible anymore. Being open to trying something new or opening a different door may be all that’s needed to take us forward. We have everything necessary to succeed, and embracing all possibilities will help us get there.

Confidence is a great attribute that will carry us through many complicated and difficult times. If we’re confident in our ability to overcome trials we have greater strength moving forward. But confidence in the midst of continual setbacks may keep us from finding new solutions that will take us where we want to go. We can be confident and still humble enough to recognize when things aren’t working and modify our plans. Every option is available and there are endless choices to make. We can change direction when necessary and create a new plan to move us forward. We are capable of great success, and being willing to be flexible will help us achieve it.

Today if you’ve been stalled despite your efforts to push forward, look at all the options available and find the road that will move you ahead. Modify your plans to find success and start again. All the answers are there for you, and you will find them. Redirect your course and you’ll reach your goal. Be open and see everything clearly. Nothing will keep you from the prize.

Taking Time Out

8 Feb

Our lives are constantly changing and there are endless things to address and manage as we move along. In the midst of our regular responsibilities, taking care of chores, managing appointments, and getting work accomplished, we have our personal dreams and desires that need attention. It’s easy to get caught up in the maintenance of our lives trying to keep things going. We may be busy, but it’s important to take time out and think about the dreams we hold dear and all the goals we want to achieve. It’s difficult to find true happiness by checking off boxes and getting lists of details completed. Our personal dreams and goals will continually niggle at us and remind us of what we really want. It’s good to be responsible and get all the details of our lives taken care of but real contentment only comes when we are living the lives we dream about and headed toward the destinations we really want. Time is a limited commodity and once it passes can never be recaptured. How we use it is up to us. If we are self-directed and in control, we can manage our tasks and still make time to do all the things we dream about. Our lives are ours to live and every decision we make takes us somewhere. We deserve complete happiness and when we make our dreams come true, we will find it.

There are only so many hours in a day and nothing we do can extend it, even if we desperately want a little more. If we are ineffective in managing our responsibilities and don’t get things done, we may complain that there just isn’t enough time. That may be true but often we end up with incomplete tasks because we ineffectively used the time we had. There are endless activities to distract us and if we are unfocused or lack discipline we may waste our time and end up completing nothing. Learning what works and how to manage our time going forward will help us find success. We can do anything and with proper planning will get where we want to go.

Down time is a good way to recharge our imagination and refuel our energy. Getting away from our responsibilities to take a walk, visit a friend, read a book, or simply think about our lives, can rejuvenate us and open new ideas going forward. We don’t have to move constantly to get things done. Stepping back and taking time out will often bring us new insight and help us see things in new ways. We know what we want and where we want to go. We can manage our lives to make sure we feel our best and have what we need to move forward. Everything is possible and we can do what is needed to make all our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve been running around getting things done and you’ve accomplished much but feel unsettled, take time out to think about what you want most. You deserve complete happiness. You can make all your dreams come true by planning carefully and managing your time. It’s all there for you. You can get to any destination you desire. Nothing will keep you from success. Plan well and go forward with confidence. Everything is possible.

Thorns

7 Feb

Every beautiful, fragrant rose is a delight to see.  They are lovely but each stem is studded with ferocious thorns that can cut and hurt when we touch them.  Thorns can do a lot of damage and we must be careful when handling even the loveliest of blossoms.  It seems counterproductive to have such a beautiful flower with such a terrifying enhancement, but this is how many of our experiences are in life.  When we want something desirable and wonderful, we often have to go through something difficult to get it.  The old saying there is no such thing as a free lunch is true.  If we want roses, we have to put up with thorns, and if we want to achieve our goals, we have to do what is required to get there.  Sometimes there may be quick answers and shortcuts that will take us further and more quickly, but often we must take the long way around one step at a time, and endure everything in our path to make the dream a reality.  We may get tired, frustrated, overwhelmed, or just fed up with the struggle, and still the road is long before us.  We must have enough temerity and grit to grind through the tough times if we want to make it to the goal.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish if we’re willing to do what is required.  Being willing to push a little harder, endure a little longer, and continue forward one more time will take us where we want to go.  We can manage thorns and overcome them.  We can reach any goal and find complete satisfaction and happiness in our lives.

There will always be plenty of people around us who have opinions about our lives.  They may say we can’t win at what we’re attempting.  It’s too hard, it’s too complicated, it’ll take too much time, or we aren’t strong enough to get through it.  It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks of our decisions or the path we’re on.  We are in charge of our lives and can do anything we like.  If others disagree, it’s on them.  We don’t have to change our plans or desires just because they aren’t what someone else would choose. We can do things our way and travel any road we desire.

When the journey has been long and arduous, and we’re weary of complications and problems, we may decide to set the goal aside for a time.  Life is long and there are many things to accomplish.  If we can’t move forward toward one goal and nothing we do improves the situation, we can move on to something else and return to it later.  Sometimes success is all about timing. Our lives are constantly changing and when our situation is different we may find the road ahead is clear and we can reach the goal.  We can get to any destination we desire, and be confident we will find success.

Today if you’ve been pushing through a sea of thorns and complications, and the goal is still out of reach, decide how you want to go forward.  You can continue to push ahead, or set it aside  until your situation changes and then try again.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You are strong and wise, and nothing is out of reach.  Plan the way forward and be confident.  You will get to the destination and find success.

The Greatest Risk

31 Jan

We can do anything we set our minds to.  We can achieve any goal, go anywhere, and accomplish anything we desire.  The whole world and all its options are always available to us but nothing will come without action.  They say the greatest risk of all is inaction, and that’s true in every arena of our lives.  It’s unlikely that anything we truly desire will come to us without effort.  Our lives are in our control and every choice we make takes us somewhere.  If we choose to sit on the sidelines or ride along with everyone else and put no effort into our direction, our lives will roll out on their own and we may end up somewhere we never wanted to go.  It’s like getting on a bus not knowing the destination and simply arriving wherever it takes us.  Of course, if we haven’t decided where we want to go, one bus is as good as another.  But our lives are the greatest blessing we possess.  Doing nothing to make them the way we truly want them will never bring us happiness.  Although it’s easier to let others make decisions about where we go and what we do, living authentically and in control of our destinations will bring us great satisfaction and joy.  It isn’t always easy to forge ahead our own way, and there may be others who disagree with our choices, but we are in charge of our lives and may live them any way we choose.  Taking control, taking action, and moving forward with purpose will take us where we want to go and help us fulfill all our dreams.

Before we begin any journey we must decide where we want to end up.  It’s pointless to travel around going here and there and having no destination in mind.  Being busy doesn’t always equate to being productive.  If we flit from one idea to the next, and constantly change our focus, chances are we’ll spend our time actively engaged in going nowhere.  It’s easy to get caught up in a world filled with distractions and if we aren’t careful we may find a lot of time has gone by and we’ve accomplished little.  We can decide what we want, where we want to go, and then move forward.  We are in control of our decisions and can accomplish anything we desire.

Change is the only constant in life and sometimes on the road to a destination we may face insurmountable obstacles.  Sometimes even if we know where we want to go the road ahead is blocked and we can’t move forward.  We can decide to stop and wait until things improve and our situation changes.  Deciding to wait is not inaction.  It’s choosing to revise our plan going forward.  But no wait is permanent and when things change if we still want to get to the goal, we must begin again.  We can have any kind of life we want.  We need only choose the road and start walking.

Today if you’ve been thinking about something you want to accomplish but have done nothing to move toward it, make a plan and begin.  You can do anything.  You can go anywhere.  Decide what you want the most, and start forward on the road that will take you there.  There is nothing out of reach and you can make all your dreams come true.  Start walking.  Success is just ahead.

Fairytales

26 Jan

We are in control of our lives and everything we do, where we go, and what we want to accomplish.  However, we don’t have any control over what others choose or how they impact us.  We live in a world with millions of other people all making decisions.  Sometimes their decisions can get in our way and stop us from moving forward.  When that happens we can look at our options and find another road.  If we’re deeply enmeshed in a situation and intensely desire a chosen outcome, when we’re stopped in our tracks, instead of changing direction we may wait, hoping things will happen on their own.  Maybe we have a job where we’ve been promised advancement but over time those promises haven’t materialized.  Or we’ve fallen in love with someone who says if we’re patient and wait they’ll come around and spend their lives with us, but nothing changes.  Reality isn’t always what we want it to be and if it’s hard to accept we might choose a fairytale instead.  We may cling to a situation hoping it will change even if there is no indication that will ever happen.  Hoping for a fairytale will never bring us lasting happiness.  Fairytales are not real.  They do not exist in the real world.  Holding onto something that will never happen holds us in place and prevents us from moving forward.  We deserve complete happiness.  We deserve the lives we want the most.  Spending our time wishing for something that will never be will only bring us sorrow.  We can look at everything openly and honestly, and choose the roads ahead that will take us where we want to go and bring us complete happiness.  Our lives belong to us and there is nothing strong enough to keep us from success.

It’s good to be patient and wait when we need to.  Patience is an excellent quality and we can wait as long as we like, but we need not be patient indefinitely.  If nothing changes we can evaluate how long we are willing to continue before moving forward toward a new goal.  Our lives are precious and we are always in control of our decisions.  We can choose happiness and continue forward at any time.

It’s possible to follow a dream we desire indefinitely.  We may convince ourselves if we just try a little harder or wait a little longer everything will work out.  Sometimes a little more patience or effort will push things forward.  If they don’t, we can look at the situation objectively, let go of any fairytales we’ve been holding onto, and decide how to move forward.  Fairytales are wonderful stories of make believe that have no bearing on the real world.  We can see our lives clearly and openly, and accept what is real.  True happiness is always available to us.  We can face everything truthfully and confidently, and have the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been hoping and waiting for something to happen but nothing has changed, think about what you want the most.  There are unlimited possibilities available for you to find complete happiness.  See everything clearly and understand what is real.  Move forward and you’ll make your dreams come true.  Nothing is out of reach.  Take control and get what you want.