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Blowing Leaves

26 May

Lots of people will come in and out of our lives and as the years pass, we’ll have countless experiences. What we do in each situation and the decisions we make define who we are. We communicate our thoughts and ideas through our actions and the way we communicate. We may be reserved and keep quiet much of the time, or we may be talkative and expressive with those around us. Speech is our most common form of communication and once we say something, it can never be taken back. Like leaves blowing in the wind, there is no way to go back and collect all the words we’ve said. They may be passed from one person to another, and spread far and wide. We all face times when we’ve expressed something we’ve regretted. If we’ve spoken harshly and hurt someone else, there is no way to reverse engines and make it go away. It will remain indefinitely. Of course, we can apologize if we feel remorse, but the past is unchangeable and permanent. Instead of trying to constantly repair what’s been done, we can stop and think before we speak. In the heat of the moment, our vision may be clouded by anger or despair, and we may lash out without considering the consequences of our words. When we feel the intensity rise, before we do anything, we can step back for a moment and look at everything objectively. There will always be a way out of every situation that won’t compromise us. We are smart and strong, and with focus and clarity, can find our way through any situation or issue. By trusting ourselves and taking the time we need to consider every option before proceeding, we can pave the way forward and prevent problems. We have everything we need to succeed at anything we like, and can make the best decisions moving forward.

Some people have volatile temperaments. They may fly off the handle and lash out without first thinking or even getting the whole story. Others will learn quickly not to trust them and they are very difficult to deal with. If they get in our way they may destroy our plans without giving it a moment’s thought. After the damage is done, we may be left to clean up their mess and regroup. We are only responsible of our own actions and decisions, but that doesn’t mean someone else’s won’t impact us. No matter what happens or who enters the picture, we can be clear about what we want and how we’re going to proceed. The road ahead will always be there for us and with patience and determination, we will prevail.

If something is bothering us, we don’t have to go overboard to make our point. You don’t need a grenade to kill a fly, but if we’re furious, we may grab one anyway. If we find something simply intolerable, we may let go of every restraint and blast our way through. We can do anything we like, but destroying others to make a point will never move us ahead. By remaining calm, and clearly stating our position, we can maintain control over the situation and get the results we desire. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and every success is possible.

Today if you’ve said too much or gone a little too far, step back and see the situation clearly and objectively. You are intelligent and wise, and will find all the answers you need. There isn’t anything you can’t manage, and with patience and focus, you will find your way through. Every road you desire is waiting, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident and step forward toward the goal. There is great success just ahead, and you will claim it.

Prove It

18 May

There are billions of people on Earth, and we’re all different. There are endless types of lifestyles, customs, languages, traditions and other facets that define who and where we are. People who live far apart from each other may have completely different ideas about life and how things should go. There isn’t only one way to live well, and the many expressions possible make up the human race. We are all valuable and worthwhile. We all have something to offer no matter our circumstance or situation. Some people have very defined ideas about the way things should be done and how things should work. If we must interact with them, they may require us to prove we are worthy by doing what they say and following their rules. We can define anything we like for our own personal lives, and can create rules of order for business or other projects, but we don’t have the right to tell anyone else how to live. We are all individuals and do not need to conform to anyone else’s ideas. We never have to prove our worth in order to fit in. We know who we are and what we want, and with confidence and clarity can go anywhere and do anything. Our lives are ours to design, and we all bring great depth and blessing to the world. We are unique and have specific gifts to offer nobody else can give. By honoring all the differences and contributions possible, our lives will be enriched and embellished, and we will find great satisfaction and personal reward.

It’s always easy to move forward when everyone is on the same page and going in the same direction. When the goal is defined and everyone is in agreement about how to reach it, the road ahead may be clear and unobstructed. But we’re all different and have our own ideas about how to proceed. By taking the time to listen to every suggestion and look at all the options possible, we can include everyone’s ideas and still find the best road ahead. We all have much to offer, and valuing every point of view will help bring agreement and success.

There is an old saying that “Rank has its privileges.” Oftentimes that’s true. The president of the company will likely have more influence than a newly hired clerk. But that doesn’t mean he or she has all the answers. Our perspectives are colored by our own personal experiences, and someone else may have a different view that opens up a completely new way of proceeding that will bring great accomplishment and success. We can be open to new ideas, no matter how foreign they may seem, and find the best answers for moving ahead.

Today if you’re being pressured to follow along when you disagree, speak up and share your ideas with those around you. You are amazing and highly capable and can figure out even the most complex issues. Stand strong and be open to every idea. All the answers are there for you and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every dream is possible. Be confident, and you will prevail.

Zero Resistance

6 Apr

Everyone is different and we all have ideas about how things should go and what we should do. We decide what goals we want, where we’ll go and choose every aspect of our own lives. We’re entitled to our own choices and can do anything we like. Some people think they have all the answers and know more than the rest of us. They may think their ideas are better than anyone else’s and may try to make us comply with their desires. If they will not tolerate any resistance, we may struggle when we must deal with them. Unless they have authority over us, we need never do anything we don’t want to do. It doesn’t matter if they insist, if they scream and holler or try to muscle us into compliance. We are in control of our lives and may live them according to our own desires – not somebody else’s. We can listen to any advice or direction we’re given, and then decide what we’ll do. If we’re intimidated or threatened by someone, we might go along with what they want, but control over our lives is ours alone. We need never give it up to go along. We don’t need anyone’s permission or agreement to do anything we like. Every destination and goal are possible, and if we keep our eyes looking forward, nothing can keep us from success.

It’s always easier if everyone is doing the same things. If we’re all going in the same direction there are often fewer complications and tangles along the way. Being the same as everyone else might be easier, but we’re all unique and have our own perspectives. Our ideas are valuable and important, and we have the courage and wisdom we need to express them clearly and effectively. We can change direction at any time and take a new road. We are intelligent and strong, and will find the way forward.

If there is something important we want to accomplish, and we feel strongly that we know the best way to get it done, we might try to make others involved do things our way. We may insist on compliance, sure that we have the only answer. No matter how confident we are, there are few times in life when only one way will work. Instead of forcing our views on others, we can be confident enough to listen to different ideas and allow everyone to participate in the decision. There are always many roads to every destination, and by keeping our minds open we will find the best way ahead.

Today if you’re being pushed to comply with something you don’t agree with, remember your decisions are yours to make. Listen to every perspective and choose the best road ahead. You never need to go along with anything you don’t want. You are smart and have everything you need to do anything you desire. Nothing is powerful enough to control you. Stand strong and be confident. The whole world is there for you and everything is possible.

Sticks and Rocks

4 Mar

There is a lot of uncertainty in life and we never know what will happen next. There’s no way to see what’s around the next bend or what lies ahead. The best we can do is build the best foundation possible in our plans, and modify them as needed to accommodate whatever changes may come. When laying the foundation for a road, the area is plowed smooth and cleared of debris before the first layer of pavement is applied. If rocks and sticks are left in the way and get covered, as they move or disintegrate, they will compromise the strength of the base being prepared. As we try to lay a strong foundation for the future, if we ignore problems that need our attention, or leave issues unsettled, just like sticks and rocks in the foundation, our plans may become unstable and falter. Nobody likes to face difficult, hard to manage situations but looking the other way and pretending they don’t exist will never help us move forward. Crap happens, and it’s going to happen to us all at some point. What we do when things go wrong will impact how successful we are as we move ahead. By taking the time to unravel complications and find solutions to problems as they arise, we can pave the road ahead and make our journey easier. We are wiser and more capable than we imagine, and there isn’t anything too complex or hard for us to overcome. Every destination is possible if we take care of problems along the way, build a solid foundation, and do what is needed to succeed. We can go anywhere and do anything, and nothing is out of reach.

When there is a lot to do or a long way to go, we may look for shortcuts and ways to make the journey easier. Shortcuts may seem like a good idea, and sometimes they work out just fine, but if we miss necessary steps that ensure our success, they may come back to bite us in the end. If there’s a big event coming up we want to look our best for and have put off losing the ten pounds we wanted to lose before it happens, we may decide to go on a starvation diet to try and lose it all in two weeks. That’s definitely a short cut but it’s so extreme it may not work. By looking at the goal clearly and openly, we can choose the best way to achieve it without taking shortcuts, and reach success.

If we want to accomplish something, but do nothing to prepare to get to the goal, it’s unlikely we’ll get there. If we need to alter our plans due to complications or unforeseen changes, we can. If we need more information, we can get it. If we need help, we can ask for it. Everything we desire is possible, but we must put forth the effort required to make it ours. We are powerful and strong, and have all the wisdom we need to do anything we like. Every goal is possible, and when we’re ready, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if there’s something you want to do, begin laying the foundation to begin. You have everything necessary to prevail and all the answers you need are there for you. Decide what you want the most, and chart your course forward. Every dream is possible, and nothing is too difficult or complicated for you to manage. Trust yourself and be confident. All your dreams are there waiting. Step forward and make them yours.

Forget That

23 Feb

There are generally people around us most of the time. We have family members, friends, acquaintances, work associates, and people we only see in passing. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go, what we should be doing and endless other situations. We’re all entitled to our own opinions and decisions, and if we like, we may share them with others. If we are open about our desires and what we want to do next, we may freely express our thoughts to someone else. They may think we’re right on target and encourage us to move forward, or they may not. If they disagree with our plans, they may say the idea is ridiculous, or there is no way we could ever achieve the goal. They may tell us to forget that, and move onto something more reasonable – translation, something more like what they would do. We can always take any advice we like, but we know ourselves better than anyone else. Our friends may tell us to go one way, our family may point in another direction, and others may have different ideas. There are unlimited versions of what we could do and if we try to follow everyone else’s advice, we may end up going nowhere fast. If we want to take a road trip to a specified destination, there are all kinds of maps available. There will be lots of routes possible and if we can’t decide which way we want to go we might take one road for a while, then switch to another, then maybe turn around to jump onto a different highway to see what it has to offer, and on and on. We might eventually get to the destination, but it will likely take far longer and be much more difficult than if we had decided at the beginning exactly which way we wanted to go and stuck to the plan. We can do anything we like and listen to all kinds of opinions, but we are in control of our lives and once we determine exactly what we want, can step forward with confidence that we will succeed. Every destination is possible, and with clarity and focus, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Customs and traditions are powerful and may be very important to us. As we navigate through our lives, they may color our decisions and choices. We can always stay inside the lines of what has always been done, and conform to whatever patterns and customs we choose. But we’re unique and despite any pressures around us, may choose anything we like. We have our own specific gifts to offer that no one else possesses, and by honoring who we are and what we want, can bring great light and blessing to the world.

It’s always easier to manage a group of people when everyone is doing the same things, but there is great richness that comes from encouraging different ideas. Variety brings refreshment and opens new doors that may not have been previously considered. We can do whatever we like, while allowing others to also make their own choices. There are always many roads to any destination, and by being open to something new, we will learn more about ourselves and the world around us.

Today remember you are entitled to have the life you want the most. You don’t need agreement or permission from anyone to make any choices you desire. The whole world is open to you and every road is possible. Decide what you want to do and where you want to go, and take the first step forward. Every blessing awaits, and every dream is possible. Be confident and sure. Nothing can keep you from success, and you will make it yours.