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Under Water

19 Apr

Every day we experience something new. We can manage our own lives but most of what comes to us is beyond our control. Other people constantly make decisions we know nothing about, circumstances change, and sometimes the road that was clear and open yesterday is completely blocked and cloudy today. Lots of things can change all at once and we may find ourselves suddenly and completely overwhelmed. Like being under water we can see what’s around us and manage things for a time, but if we want to survive, we must find a way to surface. It’s unlikely any problem we face will have the threat of actual death, but it may seem we’re being destroyed if all our plans have suddenly collapsed and we’re left standing in the wreckage. We may feel like we’re drowning and can’t breathe. Terrible things may happen, disasters may come, and in the beginning, we may have no idea how to get through, but we are stronger than we think we are and already possess everything we need to succeed. We can trust that no matter what comes we’ll find our way. We can take time to regroup, see the options before us and then step forward toward the future. Life is filled with uncertainty and we can’t predict what will come, but everything we need will always be there for us and we will find the road ahead. There will always be another day and the sun will rise again. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us down forever, and we will prevail.

People are creative and when they’re determined to do something, will figure out how to get to it. They may not care if what they want pushes us out of the way or blocks us from the road we want to take. They may take something we wanted for ourselves and barely look back as they rush forward. We can learn to modify our plans when needed, adjust to unexpected changes, and continue forward despite any unplanned developments. We know what we want and are smart enough to find our way to the destinations we desire, no matter what comes.

Some people are loud and need to broadcast every success they achieve. “Look at me, look at me,” they seem to say. It’s nice to get recognition when we’ve accomplished something difficult, but the real prize is what we’ve learned and how we’ve grown along the way. Everything we do teaches us something new and as we struggle through difficulties and complications, we gain skills we can take with us in the future. Nothing can compare to the great satisfaction that comes from overcoming a very hard challenge. We are intelligent and wise, and can solve any problem that comes, no matter how complicated or tangled. Success is always there for us and we will achieve it.

Today if the road ahead is suddenly no longer available and everywhere you look there are problems and complications, step back and look at all the options before you. Decide how you want to proceed and look forward. You have everything you need to reach the goal. Nothing can overcome you and you will find success. Be confident. You are amazing and capable, and will find the way.

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Where Are You?

18 Apr

In this day and age of technological advancements, it seems there are screens everywhere. We have our iphones, ipads, laptops, and every other conceivable device to keep us “connected,” whatever that means. It’s fine to use whatever tools we need when we have things to do but if we become so dependent on our devices that we can’t set them down, we may create problems for ourselves. If we’re constantly staring at a screen, it will be impossible to be completely effective in our personal lives. And if we let them interfere with our personal relationships, we may create uncomfortable complications we could avoid. If we’re having lunch with a friend or family member and continually watch our phones, or continue to text others, we may alienate and offend those we’re with. It’s impossible to be in two places at the same time. What is possible is to physically be in one place and mentally be in another, and the place in our head will actually be where we are. We can’t have meaningful connections with people we ignore, or engage in conversations in person at the same time as we’re engaging in the virtual world. We must decide what’s most important and where we really want to be. If we only engage in virtual connections, our in-person skills will suffer. It’s demeaning and disrespectful to expect others to wait around while we talk to someone else on-line. We decide where we want to be every moment of every day. Our personal connections are important. We’ll find great happiness and satisfaction when we value them enough to give them the attention they need and the time they deserve. Nothing is more valuable than our interpersonal relationships. We can control our choices to ensure we show how much they mean to us by caring for them and honoring them.

We’re often busy and when there’s a lot going on and someone wants to see us, we may ask them to wait a moment until we can give them the time they need. Most people are patient and will wait, but if we continually push them off because we’re distracted with one thing after another, they may give up and decide to move on. The valuable information and beneficial guidance they may have offered us will be lost if we’re unable to effectively govern how we spend our time.

Life rushes by in a flash. Every single day is a blessing and by focusing on where we are in each moment, we’ll get the most out of them. Being where we are instead of mentally checking out to someplace else will enrich our lives in deep and profound ways. Nothing is more important than this moment. We can take control of our lives and choose to live here and now, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been distracted by all the screens and technology around you, remember you only have this one day. Yesterday is gone and there are no guarantees for tomorrow. You are an incredible gift to the world. Share your life in-person with those around you and live fully in this moment, and every happiness and success will be yours.

Tidal Wave

12 Apr

Our lives are a reflection of all the decisions we make. Each choice changes our direction just a little, and as we turn here and there, our trajectory is altered. If we’re honest and try to make the best choices possible, we have a better chance of moving forward toward the goals we want with little interruption. But sometimes we may be impacted by what’s going on around us, or pressured to take a road that isn’t in our best interest. If we go along, we might find we’re headed in a direction that is nowhere near where we want to go. Like a tidal wave that starts with a small disturbance and picks up power as it progresses, one bad decision may seem insignificant at the beginning but then roll onto another, and then another, and before we know it everything is different and we’re far from the path we want to be on. Nobody wants a life filled with trouble and disharmony, and we don’t usually do things intentionally to create problems going forward.  But we may get caught up and choose something without thinking that brings complications and trouble. If we see we’re headed in the wrong direction we can always stop, and redirect the way forward. We’re always in control of our decisions and no matter what’s going on or who else is involved, can choose the paths that take us to the destinations we desire. Everyone makes mistakes from time to time. If we’ve chosen something we don’t want, we can turn around and start again. Every destination is possible and we can be confident in taking control of our actions to ensure we’re going where we want to go.

Powerful people can be very persuasive. If they have influence over us or we admire them, we might agree to do what they want even it we aren’t sure it’s in our best interest. Our decisions belong to us and if things don’t work out, we are the ones accountable for them. We cannot blame others when we make choices that don’t work out, even it they convinced us to follow their lead. We’re always in control of what we do and if we end up where we don’t want to be, can turn around and begin again.

We never know what lies ahead. Sometimes a seemingly insignificant decision can turn into a big problem if others get involved and things develop in ways we couldn’t foresee. One thing always leads to another and we never really know what will happen next. If the road we’re on turns and we end up going the wrong way, we can stop, look at our options, and change direction. Nothing is permanent and we can always change course. We know what we want and are perfectly capable of achieving it. We can do anything and go anywhere. The whole world is there for us and we will succeed.

Today if you’ve made a choice that hasn’t worked in your favor and you’re headed toward something you don’t want, stop and change direction. You’re in control of everything you do. Every destination you desire is possible and you can reach it. Decide where you want to go and start moving forward. You are strong and capable, and nothing is out of reach. Success is still possible and you will prevail.

It Doesn’t Just Happen

11 Apr

Everyone decides what kind of life they want. We make dozens of choices every day that define who we are and help us become the people we desire. By paying attention before we decide, we can choose the direction that moves us closer to our goals and further clarifies our personal expressions. But life is busy and sometimes when there’s a lot of distraction, we might choose something in a hurry that turns out differently than we hoped. We can do anything we like but if we want to be the best we can be, and move forward in gaining the attributes we desire most, we must focus on each decision we make. Mediocrity is easy. It comes without effort or attention, but excellence requires thought and consideration. Choosing excellence won’t just happen on its own. We must decide what we want and then pursue the best course of action at each turn. When we do, we’ll move closer to our goals and become more like the person we want to be. There are unlimited things we can do every single day. We can be lazy and do nothing, take the easy road when the best road is hard, or let things simply roll out on their own. We can let life take us where it will and be persuaded by other people’s ideas and decisions. Our lives will continue whether we take ownership over them or not. But if we want to achieve excellence, if we want to get to the goals we really desire and experience personal satisfaction and greatness, we must take control over our actions. Complete and fulfilling happiness is possible. By determining what we want and then focusing on excellence as we push forward, we will achieve it. We can do anything we desire and with focus, and determination, we can have the lives we dream about.

It’s so easy to be average. We don’t have to do much, we don’t have to get involved, or exert our energies above what’s comfortable. We can coast along and pretty much get through without too much effort or distress. But a mediocre life can never bring us the intense pleasure we feel when we’ve overcome something difficult, or the incredible joy that comes from succeeding against great odds. Every single road is possible and even if the journey is hard, if we want the goal, we can achieve it. Nothing is too far to reach and we can do anything we desire.

Routines are comfortable and staying inside what we know is simple. There is nothing inspiring about monotony and we can’t learn anything new by repeating the same patterns. We have so much potential and if we step away from the familiar, even just a little, we’ll discover talents and strengths we may not know we possess. We are stronger and more capable than we may realize and nothing is beyond our abilities. Striving for excellence instead of sitting still will bring us incredible gratification and satisfaction. Our lives will be enriched and we’ll experience complete joy.

Today if you’ve been sitting back and going along with the world around you, remember how unique and incredible you are. You have gifts to offer nobody else possesses. There is greatness in you. Choose excellence and be confident. All your dreams are possible and with determination and focus you will make them yours.

Tightrope Walking

3 Apr

Every day we face new situations and make many decisions. We never know what will happen next and even if we try to avoid calamity, nevertheless there will be times when it will find us. We can’t control what anyone else does or circumstances we don’t know about, and all we can do is try to make the best decisions possible that won’t tangle us up and make things difficult. Sometimes that’s easy and we feel confident we’re doing our best but if we’re under the influence of someone else, we might choose a path that doesn’t take us where we want to go. If someone we love or care about pressures us to go along with something we don’t feel comfortable with, or that’s dishonest or underhanded in any way, and we succumb, we may find ourselves walking a tightrope between doom and disaster. Maybe not doom exactly, but certainly not where we want to be. Our personal connections can be very powerful and we might agree to a negative situation in an effort to show support even if it’s not something we want to do. We’re always in control of what we do, and can certainly choose any path we like. If we follow someone else into the fire, we have only ourselves to blame when the flames get hot. It’s not easy to say no when someone we care about is pressuring us, but we’re always responsible for every choice we make, regardless of the circumstances. Despite any relationship situation, we can be polite and understanding, and still choose the best road forward. Making choices that are in keeping with our standards and values isn’t selfish. Our lives and what we do with them are up to us. We can have the lives we want the most by choosing wisely and taking the roads that lead us to success.

Everyone has their own ideas about what’s right and how things should go. We can always change our views on anything, but if there’s something we feel strongly about and someone else is trying to push us in another direction, what we choose is up to us. We never need to go along with anything we don’t agree with or that makes us uncomfortable. It doesn’t matter what others are doing, we can go our own way. We know ourselves better than anyone and can choose what we want and what we need.

People can be very persuasive when they want something badly. We may be asked to compromise our personal values in order to help someone else achieve some goal they desire. Once we step over the line away from our personal integrity, we set a new course in action. After that door is opened, it will be easier to do it again. If we continue to sacrifice our values, we will inevitably become someone else entirely. Every choice we make takes us somewhere. Where we go is up to us. If we are strong in our convictions to stay true to who we are, the paths we choose will that take us where we most want to be.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you don’t feel comfortable with, choose what defines who you are. You know how to make excellent decisions. Determine the road forward and stay true to yourself. You are an incredible gift to the world. Be strong and stand tall. Choose the best path ahead and you will succeed.

Detour Ahead

28 Mar

Everyone has an idea of how their lives should go and what they should do. If our experiences move us in the direction we want to go, we may be confident and happy we’re on the right track. But life is filled with lots of uncertainties and there may be times when something takes us away from the direction we want to travel. We can’t control what other people do and sometimes their choices knock us off track. There are always circumstances beyond our reach that may affect us, and we may end up going in the opposite direction until we can address the situation we’re in and start again. We can get to any destination we desire but it likely won’t come in a straight, uninterrupted path. Problems may develop, there may be something in the way, or we may be pulled from our focus to attend to a critical situation. There are endless complications that may prevent us from advancing but nothing lasts forever, and eventually we’ll be able to redirect our attention back to the goals we want to achieve. Nothing is permanent and there will always be another chance to start again. With renewed focus and determination, we can succeed in reaching anything we desire. Life is busy and can get in the way, but we’re in control of what we do and can plan our time effectively to ensure we accomplish what is most important. Nothing can keep us from having the lives we desire. All our dreams can come true if we’re persistent and continue forward. We can have the lives we want and nothing can stop our success.

If a lot of distractions and problems have taken us away from the road we want to be on, and a lot of time has elapsed, we may think it’s too late to get to the goal. Our situation may change, we may be in a new location or surrounded by different people, or circumstances may have evolved that make the road ahead harder to find. We can always let go of any goal we like, but if it’s still important it doesn’t matter what’s happened or what’s in the way. We can still reach success if we decide it’s what we want. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to figure out any complication and find the way forward. Nothing can keep us from our dreams.

It would be great if we could reach a goal every time we’re ready, but few things go perfectly the first time we try. We only know where we are and can’t see what lies ahead. There may be unexpected turns, or doors that are locked away, and we may have to revise our plans more than once. Every goal is possible but they won’t all come easily. Things may go wrong and there may be a detour or a roadblock, but we can trust that there will always be a way through. We have all the courage and self-confidence we need to push beyond any complication and find the way forward. Nothing is too far to reach and we will succeed.

Today if you’re been pulled from the road that leads to your goal, be patient and keep your eyes focused ahead. No complication lasts forever and you can start again. Every dream is possible and nothing can keep you from success. You are strong and wise, and can do anything. Nothing is too difficult for you to manage. All your dreams can come true and you can have the life you desire.

The Other Side

25 Mar

There are all kinds of things that can happen as we go through our days. We may be surprised by a turn of events that stops us in our tracks, or discover upon reaching a goal that things aren’t exactly as we thought. We never know what lies ahead and even when we plan carefully, something may come out of left field that knocks us off our game. Lots of things can change and without warning, the road may turn and take us somewhere we never intended to go. We can chart our course ahead but when we’re on one side of the coin it’s impossible to see the other. Life is filled with possibilities and change is constant. Just when we’re sure we know what to expect everything may shift and we may suddenly find ourselves in foreign territory. It may be unsettling or confusing at first, but we are capable of adjusting and managing any changes that come. There isn’t only one road to any destination and if there’s a detour ahead or the door we need to walk through is blocked, we can find another way forward. Keeping our focus on the ultimate goal will help us handle any complications along the way. The road may get rocky and we may get lost momentarily but we are intelligent and wise and will find success. We can go anywhere and do anything. We have overcome many obstacles already and have the skills and insight we need to move forward. The whole world is there for us and the possibilities are endless. We can be confident in our ability to succeed and find our way.

We’re in control of our lives and can design them any way we like. We can keep them small and stay within close boundaries where we feel comfortable and safe. It’s easy to maintain a routine where we know all the players and what to expect. Repeating the same patterns may give us comfort but can never bring something new that will challenge and engage us. We can trust ourselves to stretch beyond what is easy and try for something more. We have so much to offer and are capable of accomplishing great things. Reaching beyond what we know will bring us great confidence and increase our understanding of ourselves and the world around us.

We never know what we’re capable of until our limits are tested. We may think there is something we could never do but then in a great time of need discover we can accomplish it. We are capable of far more than we think we are. We’re strong and have all the courage we need to face anything. Our resilience and intelligence will help us move forward and nothing is beyond our reach. We can accomplish any goal we desire. We can set our sights as high as we like and then find success. Nothing is too difficult or complicated for us to figure out and we can make all our dreams come true.

Today if the road you’ve been on has turned and you aren’t sure you can find your way, trust yourself. The other side is already there waiting for you. You have everything you need to find the way forward. Be determined and have confidence. You know what you want and you will succeed. Keep moving forward. All your dreams are possible and you are strong enough and wise enough to reach them, and make them come true.