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The Spots

14 Jun

There are all kinds of people in the world and we run into different types of personalities and behaviors every day. We like to be around people who share our viewpoints and interpretations but sometimes we may be attracted to someone who is very different. When we connect with them we may be interested in their differences at first but as time goes by we may want them to change to be more like us or in some way we think would be better for them. If we really want someone to change we may believe that with enough influence from us, they will. A leopard has spots that have evolved over time that make it unique and distinguishable. They don’t look like any other animal, nor do they try to imitate anything but what they are. We aren’t leopards but like their spots, we are unique and distinguishable by our behaviors and choices. Our personalities develop with each day that passes and every decision we make. We ultimately become the people we create. We can change anything we like at any time but it’s highly unlikely anyone else will be successful in making us change anything we haven’t chosen for ourselves. We are all responsible for our own lives. No matter how much we may want someone else to change, no matter how good our intentions are or positive the desired change may be, we can’t alter their spots. They belong solely to them and they are the only ones with the power to change them.

It’s easy to keep doing things the same way and changing course or expression takes work but we can alter our course any way we desire. We are all continually in motion and if we want to change something in our lives or behaviors, we have all the power we need to accomplish the task. The catch is we must be motivated enough to do whatever is needed and required to bring about the adjustment. It may not be easy and what we’re trying to do may take serious time and focus to accomplish. But if we’re determined there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can change our spots and direction, and more effectively find success.

Change must always come from within. If we love someone and want them to shift something in their lives we may suggest it to them. If they are reticent, we may cajole them, pester them, or continually nag them thinking that repeated reminders will make them desire the change. We can talk until we’re blue in the face and run out of air but we cannot make them choose our decisions. Our lives belong solely to each of us and every choice is ours to make. No matter what anyone else thinks, we will be the people we choose to be. It is enough to manage our own choices. We can let go and let others determine their own paths and accept their right to live their lives according to their own desires.

Today if you’ve been trying to change someone else thinking you can help them live more fully or happily, let go and focus on your own choices. We are all unique and valuable in our own way and deserve to express ourselves as individuals. You are wise and capable and can create the life you want the most. Focus on your own path and choose the best way forward. Find your own success and great happiness will follow.

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New Beginning

11 Jun

Our lives change a little every day.  When we’re on the roads we want to travel and pushing forward to complete goals we want to accomplish we feel confident and happy with the direction we’re moving.  Our lives are always in our control and no matter where we are or what we’re doing we can change them any time we want to.  Sometimes we see our lives with new perspective and what has been working fine no longer feels right.  We feel differently about the road we’ve been on and decide it’s time to adjust the way forward to a new destination.  Maybe we want a new location where we can start again in a fresh environment with new people and new places to explore.  Maybe the goals we’ve been working toward aren’t as important anymore and we want to do something else.  Life is all about change.  Everything around us changes constantly and we change right along with it.  Sometimes the changes are subtle and we don’t notice them at first but then what used to fit feels off somehow and we know it’s time to move on to something new.  There are unlimited possibilities everywhere and nothing is out of reach.  We can redirect the way forward, make any changes we desire and create a new situation that is more satisfying and fulfilling.  The whole world is there for us.  We can take the first step onto a new road and bravely chart a new course.  There isn’t anything we can’t do.  Our lives are ours to design and we can change anything at any time.

Familiarity is comfortable and it can be intimidating to leave it behind.  When we know the road well and those who are traveling with us, it’s easy to continue on and keep things the same.  Transitions bring with them all kinds of new challenges and experiences and we never know what lies ahead.  But we are strong enough and courageous enough to step into the unknown and move onto a path that takes us somewhere new.  There are endless new experiences waiting for us.  We have everything we need to change things up and find success.  All options are possible and we can make them ours.

Foreign territory is only foreign until we make it ours.  There’s a first time for everything and once we take the first steps into something new we open the doors to endless possibilities and chances for success we may never have seen before.  We can try new things, go to new places, and make the unknown ours.  When we expand our sphere of exposure, we expand our thinking and begin to see the world more completely.  We have great potential and are capable of accomplishing incredible things.  We have everything we need to go anywhere and reach any goal we choose.

Today if you feel like it’s time for a change but aren’t sure about leaving what you know, remember how strong and capable you are.  You can move into uncharted territory and make it yours.  Every possibility is there for you and nothing is out of reach.  Move forward, open all the doors, take a chance and see everything possible.  There is greatness in you and nothing is out of reach.  The whole world is there for you.  Every success is possible and you can reach it.

In Disguise

1 Jun

We experience a lot of different things as we go through our lives.  No matter how hard we try there is no way to control everything that comes to us.  Sometimes life is great, and other times the tide turns and we have to walk through difficulty and trial.  When things go wrong and we’re miserable trying to find our way through a complicated and challenging mess, it can be hard to see any benefit from what we’re enduring.  Sometimes there is just a crap storm and we may feel there’s nothing valuable in what we’re experiencing.  There may be moments when the situation is awful and nothing we can do changes it.  But there will undoubtedly also be other moments when we’re facing a big disappointment, and sure it’s the end of the world as we know it, when suddenly we see the turn has brought us a blessing we could never have predicted or expected.  We can’t read the future and a change in direction doesn’t always spell disaster.  Sometimes the turn takes us exactly where we want to go.  It’s hard to imagine a blessing when our lives are turned upside down, but when we see things from a new perspective we may find the road we’ve been seeking is already under our feet.  Life is filled with all kinds of contradictions and being willing to see everything openly will help us recognize blessings in disguise when they come.  Every success is possible but they don’t always come to us the way we plan.  Sometimes the unexpected challenge opens the door to our goal.  We can see every development as a possible window that shows us how to find our way forward.  Every destination is possible and with continued determination nothing is out of reach.

Few things come to us the moment we want them.  Most of the time we must wait for our plans to move forward or for things to fall into place so we can achieve the goal we’re seeking.  Learning to wait isn’t easy when we want something badly but patience allows us to be productive while we wait and helps us manage complications as we push ahead.  It would be wonderful if we could achieve our goals simply because we desire them but that isn’t reality.  Whatever is worth achieving is worth working for.  We can do what is needed to have the lives we desire and find success.

There is great potential in all of us but potential is only unrealized achievement.  Potential means nothing if we are unwilling to work for what we want.  We may be talented and capable but if we are lazy and do nothing to move forward we will not succeed.  Every blessing is possible and no goal is out of reach if we are willing to do what is needed to achieve it.  Waiting for our dreams to come true is like waiting for the sky to turn green.  It’s not going to happen.  We can take control of our lives, push through conflict, learn the skills we need, and create the lives we want.

Today if you’re in the midst of trouble and can’t see how anything is going to work out, be patient.  The road you’re on may lead you to the very goal you’re seeking.  You have everything you need to do anything you want.  All options are possible and no destination is too far.  Make a plan, stay the course, and reach for the stars.  They are there for you and all your dreams can come true.

Time to Breathe

23 May

As we go through our lives we play many roles.  We are daughters and sons, spouses, partners, lovers, workers, and dozens of others.  Each day requires us to fulfill some role in our lives and take care of the responsibilities attached to it.  In the midst of all this activity and interaction we may forget to stop and pay attention to what’s going on inside us.  It can be hard to express who we truly are when we’re putting out fires and getting things done.  We may neglect personal time for reflection and private growth because of everything pressing on us.  While it’s important to accomplish the things that move us forward and take care of business as needed, it’s also important to take time for ourselves.  Peace comes when we do what’s important for us to become the people we want to be.  Time is always limited and if we don’t control it, it will control us.  There will always be one more thing to get done but our personal needs are as important as anything else we need to accomplish.  Valuing time for reflection and quiet thought will settle our minds and make the road ahead easier to navigate.  We can push and push and we may find great outward success but if we’re exhausted and unhappy when we get there our efforts will be wasted.  Life is an incredible blessing.  We have only the moment we’re in.  We can value ourselves as much as any task before us.  True happiness is always possible and caring for ourselves will make it happen.

Never in history have we been expected to do more than we are expected to accomplish today.  The standard for success is very high, and rest and relaxation have sometimes fallen by the wayside.  We can be highly motivated and productive and still take time out.  The road will not disappear if we step off it for a moment.  Everything will remain and wait for our return.  Rest brings refreshment and new ideas, and allows us to focus inwardly and let our imaginations roam.  When we sit still, ideas for complex issues have time to rise and all the hidden answers we’ve been seeking may appear.  We may discover new ways forward and have more confidence when we begin again.

It’s fine to be busy and actively engaged and we learn a lot as we complete different activities.  As we move forward it’s important to remember that every battery eventually runs low and needs to be recharged.  We don’t have to wait until we feel overwhelmed or get sick from fatigue.  We can be proactive and take time to breathe even in the midst of turmoil.  Our lives belong to us and we can design them to have the highest quality and best experience possible.

Today if you’ve been pushing personal needs aside in an effort to be more effective in the tasks at hand, take a step back and rest for a moment.  Give yourself time to breathe and think quietly.  Let your imagination soar and rest from the world.  You will find greater peace and happiness and everything you are seeking will come more easily.  You are amazing and capable, and every success is possible.  Take care of yourself and everything else will fall into place.

Walking Away

17 May

There are times in everyone’s life when what we want to happen simply won’t come. We may try and try and try again to move forward but the result we’re seeking is out of our hands and no matter what we do we can’t achieve it. At some point we must decide if we want to continue pressing ahead or turn and walk away. They say hope springs eternal. We can hope for anything but hope is only the expectation that what we want to happen will come, and sometimes our expectations aren’t met. We can work toward any goal we desire for as long as we choose but if nothing we do moves us closer to it we may need to rethink the way forward. There is nothing wrong with changing our plans and walking away from something that doesn’t work. There is much to accomplish and spinning our wheels and staying in place isn’t helpful. Setting a goal aside doesn’t mean we have to give it up completely. What we can’t achieve today may come easily in the future when our lives have changed and we’re in a different place. We can look at a difficult situation objectively and choose the way forward that will bring us success. Life is filled with endless opportunities and we are capable of achieving many things as we move forward. Being wise about how we spend out time and choosing the most productive roads will open all the doors we’re seeking. Life is long and we can revisit anything we’ve set aside and try again. Everything we want to do is possible in time. We can choose what works today and plan for new destinations tomorrow.

Our personal relationships may be very important to us. There may be someone we want to get closer to but no matter what we do they remain elusive and out of reach. We may try to pursue them indefinitely but our time is valuable and if things aren’t improving we can move on to something else. We never have to stay stuck in a holding pattern waiting for something to change. We can step away and walk in a new direction. Our lives belong to us and what we do is our responsibility. We can be successful and accomplish many things, and we can direct our lives in ways that move us forward.

Patience is a beneficial attribute. It’s good to be able to wait and we can be patient with others when they need time. We can wait for as long as we like but if we want to succeed eventually the situation must improve. If it doesn’t, we can walk away for now and move on with our lives. It will never work for us to keep waiting for something that doesn’t change. There may be an opportunity in the future if we want to try again. We can move ahead and if things are different later we can revisit our previous plans.

Today if you’ve been waiting for something to happen and nothing has changed, think about how you want to move forward. There are countless opportunities for you and you need not wait indefinitely for anything. Move forward and step on the next road. Your time is valuable and your life is precious. Seek the things that bring you happiness and move toward success. All options are possible. Open all the doors and step ahead. Every happiness is there and you will achieve it.

Being True

10 May

Each of us has our own unique personality that defines who we are. We express our individual tastes and desires and learn about ourselves and what we want. If we’re confident and self-assured we will stay true to our own personal values and choices. However, if we’re unsure about how we feel in certain situations and uncertain about how to respond we may latch onto someone else’s ideas and behaviors and adopt them as our own. Some people are very forceful and strong and if we aren’t sure we may choose to emulate them instead of voicing our own opinions. It’s easy to simply copy someone else’s ideas and views instead of figuring out our own. But pretending to be something we really aren’t will never take us where we want to go. Each choice we make has a result and if we choose behaviors that don’t reflect who we are we will construct a false façade that doesn’t have anything to do with reality. We can be inauthentic and imitate others for a while but eventually who we are will surface and the incongruity may bring confusion and complications. There may be times when we don’t know how we feel about something and need more information before we can decide. We don’t have to rush in order to agree with others and we don’t have to copy their answers. We can wait until we figure out everything and then determine our next steps. Allowing ourselves to be true to who we are before we respond will help us live honestly and sure. There is nobody else on earth exactly like us and our opinions and suggestions are important. We are smart enough to understand any situation before us and can take the time we need to find the best answers going forward.

Ideas change as time passes and what was once all the rage is now old news. If we change our opinions and standards every time the world around us changes we’ll be like leaves in the wind, tossed here and there with no direction or destination in mind. If we don’t define who we are and what we believe others will have trouble trusting and relying on us because each new idea will pull us away from where we are. There are always endless choices available and we must find the ones that best reflect our personal ideals and motives. We are the only ones who can define who we are. Understanding our true nature and desires, and then choosing the roads that emulate them will bring us the success we seek.

It may take time to discover what we really want and where we want to go. Until we define the way forward we can explore all possibilities around us. We will know when something fits and will find the road we want to travel. Our futures are ours to design and we can create the lives we want when we make the choices that take us there. All options are on the table and nothing can hold us back from success. We are strong and powerful and will find the way forward.

Today if you’ve been following along with those around you because you aren’t sure where you want to go, remember your destiny is yours to create. You can go anywhere and do anything. Think about what you want the most and then start forward toward the goal. There is great success ahead for you and nothing will stand in your way.

The Destination

2 May

Nothing in life is stagnant and no matter where we are now, we are always on our way to somewhere else.  Sometimes it’s a physical change of location but often it’s a change in our thinking or situation.  The journey as we travel teaches us many things and we may embrace them as they come.  Sometimes we hear people say it’s not the destination that counts, but the journey.  In some ways that’s true.  The journey along the way is what molds us and helps us become the people we want to be.  But the destination is important.  It does us no good to travel around for years on end and never reach a goal.  If we want to be successful we must keep the destination we are seeking forefront in our focus and purposefully move toward it.  Traveling through our lives with no goal in mind will only take us from place to place.  If we don’t choose the destinations we desire, life will provide them for us and where we end up may not be where we want to go.  It’s like taking a trip to the grocery store with no idea of what we want to buy.  There are endless choices and we can simply go through the aisles throwing things in the cart.  Without thinking we may get some things we can use but chances are we’ll end up with various items we don’t want that will be wasted.  We can define where we want to go and then move forward toward the goal.  The journey will teach us many things and will enrich our lives and when we reach the chosen destination we will find happiness.  We can live our lives any way we want to.  When we live them on purpose headed in the direction we most want to travel we will find great satisfaction at the end of the journey.  By defining our destination and focusing on moving toward it we will find great success and have the lives we want the most.

Many people may have opinions about what we should be doing or where we should be headed.  There are countless interpretations about life and everyone has their own ideas.  What works for one will not necessarily work for someone else.  We can listen to all the advice we get and evaluate every suggestion that comes but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves.  We have all the wisdom we need to decide what we want to do and choose the road ahead that takes us exactly where we want to go.

If we aren’t sure about what we want to accomplish we may simply move through our lives on auto-pilot.  Auto-pilot is easy and requires no thought.  Of course, if we don’t determine where we’re headed we may go nowhere or end up in a place that doesn’t work for us.  We know what we want and with careful thought and determination we can achieve it, whatever it is.  We can have the lives we dream about.  We need only be willing to do what is needed to get there.

Today if you’ve been coasting through your days letting things unroll on their own and haven’t reached any destination you desire, take control.  You have all the power you need to create the life you want.  Every blessing is there for you and nothing is out of reach.  Choose the road forward and move toward your goals.  All your dreams are waiting to come true.  Be purposeful, reach them and make them a reality.