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Measures

3 Aug

As we go through our lives, we’ll face many challenges and trials. Some of them will be annoying and not serious, but others may be very difficult. We may face some desperately painful moments that push us hard and make us question our ability to survive. Nobody gets a perfect, easy life. We’ll all face trouble and problems, and agonizing times that try us. Sometimes we may find our way quickly and figure out what to do next, but other times we may be seriously confused and unsettled. They say desperate times call for desperate measures, but making decisions in the midst of desperation may take us down the wrong road. If we’re so entangled and embroiled in the situation that we can’t see the way forward, we may reach out and grab anything we can in the hopes that it will save us. Pulling things from the dark is a dicey scenario. We have no idea what we’ll get or what it will bring. It’s hard to be patient when we’re suffering and worried, but jumping to the first possible solution may create more trouble moving ahead. No matter what we’re going through or how desperate we may feel, we can stop and stand still and take the time we need to look around and see everything clearly. There is no problem without a solution. Every single answer we need will be there for us but if we run ahead in an effort to quickly end the pain, we may jump right over it. By remaining calm in the storm and standing still long enough to settle our thoughts, we will see what needs to be done and where we need to go. There isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. If we trust ourselves and take our time, we will find the way forward. The road is already there and by stepping forward with confidence we’ll reach success. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine and nothing can overcome us or hold us down forever.

We may have a relationship with someone who continually makes bad choices and chooses things that bring distress and difficulty. If we’re closely entangled with them, their choices may bring us hardship. We only have control over ourselves and everyone has the right to choose anything they desire. However, if a relationship is uncomfortable, we can step back and decide how we want to continue. There is no need to endure endless turmoil because of a personal connection. We can set our own boundaries and decide how we will proceed. Every possibility is there for us and we can make choices that bring us satisfaction and peace.

When we’re struggling through a complicated and difficult time, we may have a lot of important decisions to make. It can be overwhelming to face many challenges and choices at the same time. Although there is a lot going on, we are in control of how we handle them. We can look at everything objectively and decide what is most important. After we settle that, we can move to the next issue, and so on. Rome wasn’t built in a day and we don’t have to solve everything at once. We can take things step by step and with patience and persistence, will prevail.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult situation that has knocked you down and you don’t know what to do, trust yourself. You are smarter and more capable than you think you are. Nothing is too complex or hard for you to unravel and understand. Take your time and step forward. All the answers are there for you. You will find them and reach success.

Gutters

22 Jul

People are complicated. There are endless expressions, ideas, emotions and personal experiences that color our behaviors and how we act and react to the world around us. No two people are exactly the same. We all have our own ideas about life and chart our own courses, making individual decisions that take us to various destinations and bring endless results. Two people can have the same exact experience and yet come away with entirely different perspectives. We may feel things intensely or be able to brush off what happens with little thought. We’re all different, and those differences bring great depth and richness to the world, but can also cause complications. If we’re not confident and disagree with those around us, we may hold our feelings in, and try to keep a low profile in an effort to prevent conflict or intense disagreement. That might work, but pretending we’re fine when we’re not, or going along with something we believe is wrong will eventually work against us. It’s like having clogged gutters on a house. They look fine from the outside and as long as the weather is nice there are no problems. But when a storm comes and the rain is intense, the water will not flow away and protect the house from flooding. Instead, it will build up and splash over the sides, soak the wood nearby and may cause great permanent damage. The same is true if we hold in how we really feel. We may look fine on the outside, but keeping our real thoughts to ourselves may cause us great stress and inner turmoil as we try to get through a difficult situation. It’s hard to feel good when we’re not being our true selves. Being open and allowing our honest opinions to flow will enable open communication and allow for greater understanding. We are entitled to our own opinions even if they’re different from those around us. We can be confident in expressing ourselves truthfully and making choices that reflect our own personal standards. Our input is important and the whole world is better because we are here.

It’s always easier to navigate through decisions if everyone is on the same page. When everyone agrees on the way forward, the road will be smoother than if there is dissent. When there is disagreement, the process may take longer and be more complex, but every idea has value. The simplest answer isn’t always the best in the long run, and a paved road will not always lead to the destinations we desire most. Allowing everyone to give their full and honest opinions about the choices ahead will open new doors and allow for alternative interpretations of every situation, shining a light on a completely new perspective.

Families and traditions are powerful influences in our lives. If we want to do something different from the way things have always been done in the past, we may face serious resistance and opposition. We may be pressured to just go along even if we disagree. We can always do anything we like, but pretending to be something we aren’t is like dealing with clogged gutters. Our true feelings may be held back for a time, but eventually we’ll need to express ourselves and be honest about who we are and what we want. Every expression has value and our contributions, even if different, are important. There is great satisfaction and happiness in being true to ourselves and living our lives openly and confidently.

Today if you don’t agree with what’s going on around you, speak up. Your voice is important and your feelings are worthwhile. Stand tall and show us who you are. You bring great richness and depth to the world and your contributions count. Be confident and honest. You are amazing and powerful. There is nobody like you in all of creation and nobody else can give the gifts you have to offer. You are precious and priceless, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

New Normal

20 Jul

Life is full of challenges. Change is constant and nothing stays the same forever. It seems that as soon as we get used to something, it turns into something else. We only have control over the decisions we make and there are endless modifications that may occur without our knowledge, consent or agreement. When our lives are suddenly and unexpectedly turned toward a new direction we didn’t choose, we may feel confused and angry. What’s going on here? How did everything suddenly go upside down? Unplanned changes in our jobs may occur that take us down paths we don’t want and never considered, new developments in our physical form may require us to modify what we’re doing or how we proceed, or a thousand other things may happen that leave us stunned and unsure. Nothing is static and everything is in flux all the time. We can make excellent plans for the future and feel confident they are sensible and stable, and they may be, but still something may turn it all inside out. We can’t read the future and it’s impossible to know what will happen next. When the road turns and we are facing a new normal, we will likely feel unsettled at first and uncertain about what to do next. We won’t have all the answers we need right away, but they will be there for us. By taking our time and looking at the entire situation objectively and openly, we will be able to discern what our next steps should be and how we can move forward. Life is full of challenges. We’re all going to get turned around from time to time but that doesn’t mean we can’t move forward. There are endless roads to every destination. If the one we’ve been traveling has disappeared, we can step onto another. We can make whatever modifications we need and adjust our trajectory until we find the right path. The way ahead may seem dark at first, but the light will shine through. We are wise and capable, and every goal is still there for us. With determination and patience, we will reach success.

There is no such thing as fate. We create our own lives and make our own decisions. When things go sideways, those around us may tell us it’s a sign that we shouldn’t proceed, as though there is someone somewhere pulling all the strings. Of course, that’s nonsense. Things sometimes go wrong, roads turn, and unexpected things happen. They may occur because of situations we can’t control, or someone’s decision we don’t know about or a million other reasons. Crap happens. It doesn’t mean we have to stop moving forward or that somehow we can’t succeed. It just means we need to change our direction and try a different route. We are certainly capable of managing whatever comes, and nothing can keep us from any destination we desire.

When our lives suddenly turn and we’re facing a new normal that is difficult and hard to understand, if we are overwhelmed, we may believe we can’t survive. It’s just too much. We’re under water and there’s no way out. But then one day passes and we’re still here. Then another comes and somehow, we’re still breathing. Sudden changes take time to adjust to but we are stronger and more resilient than we imagine. We can sit down if we need to but when we’re ready to move again, every door will be there for us. Nothing is strong enough to hold us down forever. Our dreams are waiting, and with focus and confidence we will reach them all.

Today if everything has changed and your future is uncertain, stand still and look at everything before you. All the answers you need are already there and you will find them. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward with confidence. Nothing can keep you from success – nothing. You are powerful and wise, and will reach every destination you desire. All your dreams are still possible, and you will reach them. Be confident. The whole world is there for you.

Fixer

12 Jul

Our lives are full of experiences. There are things we can control – our decisions, what we do, and where we go – and a lot of things we can’t. Although much of what happens is beyond our reach we are always in control of our own lives. The road won’t always be paved and we may face a time where it seems like everything we touch goes wrong. Problems will come, complications will arise, people will make decisions that impact us negatively, and crap will happen. We’re all going to go down in flames at some point. But no matter what is going on, no matter how bad everything seems, there will be an answer and a way out. When we’re under water with trouble, we may think we’ll never get through, but the answers we need will be there for us. We may have to search long and hard, but we can find them. When we’re suffering we may wish that someone would come and save us. It would be so great when we’re having a hard time if someone else would just fix it and let us move on. That’s a nice dream but it’s unlikely to ever happen. All our problems belong solely to us, and nobody is going to sign up to fix our lives and pave our roads for us. If we’re overwhelmed and can’t see our way clear, we can wait until things settle a bit and then decide on our next steps. We may try to ignore what’s gone wrong, denying there is anything amiss, and look the other way for as long as we like, but nothing will change until we face it head on and do what is needed to correct it. Standing still instead of unraveling what’s gone wrong will never take us where we want to go. We are intelligent and can find our way through anything that happens. By being patient and taking everything one step at a time, there isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine, and nothing can hold us in place indefinitely. We can trust ourselves to solve any problem we must, and move forward toward success.

Everybody wants a life of ease and comfort where nothing goes wrong. Nobody dreams about suffering and going through terrible trials. We can do everything possible to try to prevent problems and stay out of trouble, and we might succeed in some ways. But there are billions of people sharing the earth with us, and the decisions they make may bring problems our way. We can’t stop anything from happening but we can be confident we can manage whatever comes.

Everyone is responsible for their own lives. There isn’t any designated referee who will be there to run interference, and block trouble before it reaches us. We are wide open and may get over run by something that takes us by surprise and complicates our lives in difficult and unsettling ways. Trouble comes to us all, but we are capable and can fix anything that goes wrong. We can be confident that no matter what the issue is, we’ll find the solution we need to move forward and reach success.

Today if you’re going through a difficult time and are beset by problems and complications, remember all the times you’ve been successful in the past. No matter what’s happening, you will find the answers you need to get through. You are strong and wise, and nothing can overcome you. Trust yourself and be confident. Every single success is possible, and you will reach them all.

Preconceived

21 Jun

We live in an Information Age. Never before has access to information been easier or quicker than it is today. If we want to know anything, we can quickly find most facts we need with the click of just a few buttons. That’s great when we need to learn about something new or investigate a confusing situation. However, this has no bearing on the information we need from others for various projects we are working on. We can only use the information we are given and the parameters required for any task we want to accomplish. Sometimes we’ll get all the facts we need to proceed and reach every destination, but other times there may be holes in our knowledge and understanding, and we may go blindly ahead unaware that we’re headed for trouble. We don’t know what we don’t know. If we haven’t got all the information necessary to reach success, we’ll likely run into problems and snags along the way. When we hit a blockade and can’t go any further, we can ask for assistance and try to figure out what we’re missing. Black holes exist in space. We know they are there but don’t have any idea what’s in them. It’s the same when we try to advance with less than all the facts. We know where we need to go, and may have an excellent plan to get there, but without all the information we’re going to get stuck at some point. Although we don’t know what’s missing, it’s likely someone will be there who can fill in the holes. We can ask others for advice, and look for additional facts that will help us reach success. We can do anything we desire, but not every road will be clear and paved. There are going to be hiccups, road blocks, and detours that may hold us in place until we find a way around them. We have enough intelligence and insight to figure out any problem that arises, and can be confident that even if the road gets tangled, we’ll find our way forward. Every destination is possible, and nothing is strong enough or convoluted enough to keep us from success.

We all have our own opinions about things, and if we’ve heard about a difficult situation or someone who made a project stressful, it may color our idea of how things will go when we get involved. Preconceived notions are notoriously inaccurate. Trusting rumors or other people’s interpretations will never give us the entire story. We can listen to any advice or suggestions we’re given and still leave our minds open and not prejudge what may or may not happen. We’re smart enough to figure out how things work and find our way forward with confidence and clarity.

Sometimes once we start on a new project we see that everything is completely different than we thought when we started. If it turns out the destination we’re working toward isn’t something we want after all, we can stop and look at all the possibilities available, and chart a new course moving forward. We are always in control of our lives, and can do anything we like. Every goal is possible and we have enough wisdom to get all the information we need to succeed.

Today if the plans you’ve made for the road ahead aren’t working, stop and get the information you need to proceed. If you need help, ask for it. Every answer is there for you and nothing can keep you from reaching any destination. You are amazing and wise, and everything is possible. Trust yourself, and step forward. The whole world is there for you and you will prevail.