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Value

12 Dec

We can accomplish many things as we move through our lives.  What we get done depends on our objectives and how we spend our time.  Life is busy and there are endless distractions, and some distractions are very entertaining and powerful.  If we aren’t mindful they may take more time from us than is helpful.  We can get caught up in the latest computer game, spend extra time shopping with no objective in mind, or simply sit daydreaming about how life could be for hours on end.  There is nothing wrong with doing things we enjoy but if we let mindless activities consume our time they may cripple our ability to move toward the things we really want.  We’re always in control of our decisions and can do whatever we want.  We can stay in the same place for years on end – our whole lives if we want to – or we can move forward toward the dreams and goals we desire.  The value we place on how we spend our time will have great impact on how successful we are.  Life is filled with endless opportunities and all kinds of distractions to keep us from them.  Learning to control what we do and plan our days to include the things we enjoy, as well as time to move toward our goals, will bring us real happiness and true success.  Every dream is possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to accomplish it.  We can have the lives we want the most but they won’t just fall in our laps.  We have to plan our days and manage our time in ways that move us closer to the goals we desire.  We can do anything and nothing is beyond our reach.  Every dream can come true and we can reach any destination we desire by planning our steps forward and managing our time to get there.

In this age of constantly changing technology it’s impossible to keep up with all the new developments and advances that arrive each day.  There is always a new program, a new phone, a new game, or a new app we can investigate and make our own.  It’s exciting to see and learn new things but continually looking at what’s next won’t move us forward.  By focusing on where we want to go and purposefully taking steps that move us closer to our goal we’ll reach every destination we desire.

The world is huge and filled with billions of people.  It may seem we’re insignificant and our influence makes no difference but each decision we make and each time we interact with someone else, we change the world.  We’re more important than we imagine and everything is different because we’re here.  Nothing can replace us and everything we do tells the world who we are.  By choosing well and taking steps that bring us personal success we give great light to those around us and change the world for the better.

Today if you’ve been spending time doing things that aren’t moving you forward, remember how important your goals are.  Success is always there for you but you must plan for it and walk toward it.  Your choices can open all the doors to the destinations you desire.  You are amazing and worth more than anything else in the world.  Everything you do takes you somewhere.  Choose the path that takes you closer to where you want to be.

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All the Way Around

10 Dec

Life teaches us many lessons that help us understand ourselves and the world better.  Sometimes we experience issues that are very difficult and hard to face.  When we’re in a situation that’s painful and hard to get through, in our discomfort, we might rush forward without looking too closely or staying too long.  Nobody likes to be anywhere that makes them feel bad.  We may think if we run fast enough the pain won’t follow us and we can put a bad experience behind us in a hurry.  However, unresolved issues don’t just magically float away because we don’t want to deal with them.  We can try to ignore them, run past them, look the other way and pretend they don’t exist, but they will remain until we face them openly and completely.  There is no way to move through any problem and leave it behind if we’re unwilling to address it.  Some things take time to fix and we don’t have to solve everything at once but if we want to be happy and something is holding us down, we must face it.  Life isn’t always easy and we may have very difficult and challenging times, but they aren’t permanent and we can find our way through.  We can manage any complication or problem that comes and with courage and determination, continue forward.  Life is an incredible gift and learning to live it happily will enhance every experience.  We have enough courage and wisdom to stand firm and be confident we will prevail even in the darkest moments.  Nothing is strong enough to keep us from moving ahead.  We’re in control of our lives and can do whatever is needed to find success.

Not every day is filled with sunshine and rainbows.  There will be times when things go wrong and we end up struggling and looking for answers.  Most of the time we’ll know what we need to do to get through, but if we’re completely confused and lost, we can ask someone we trust for help.  Things will go wrong and we’ll have hard days – it’s the nature of life.  But no matter what comes, we already have everything we need to prevail.

In difficult situations that are very painful, although we know what we need to do, the answer may be something we don’t want to face.  In an effort to avoid the issue, we may go all the way around everything else trying to find an easier, more agreeable solution.  That might work once in a while, but often the only way to solve a bad situation is to go straight through it.  We can stand firm and face everything exactly as it is and then with patience and wisdom, trust ourselves to find our way.  There isn’t anything strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely.  We are powerful and strong, and can always find the answers we need.

Today if you’re in the midst of a situation you don’t want to face and feel like running the other way and leaving it behind, stop and look at everything clearly.  You have everything you need to prevail.  The solutions are there for you and you have enough courage and wisdom to find them.  Trust yourself.  You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is too hard for you to manage.  Nothing will keep you from success.

A Fair Shake

28 Nov

When we are children we’re taught to always play fair.  Cheating is seriously discouraged and we’re told to play by the rules and treat others fairly.  Those are true concepts and being fair in everything we do enhances our ethical standards and helps others trust us.  But sometimes things happen outside our control that aren’t fair and we may end up in situations that are difficult to manage and hard to understand.  We only have control over our own actions and it doesn’t feel fair to be subjected to someone else’s bad decisions but nobody is an island and there may be times when that happens and our lives are negatively impacted.  We can strive to always be fair but life won’t always cooperate.  Unexpected things can go wrong at any time.  We may get sick, or have a freak accident, or be hurt by circumstances beyond our reach.  Our sense of fairness may get bruised when things turn against us.  When we’re in the midst of unearned and unexpected trials we may suffer but we can hold onto our confidence.  Even if it’s hard to find our footing we can trust that we can still stand tall and look ahead.  No problem can last forever.  In the end, most of the time life is fair but while we’re in the middle, muddling through, we may get lost a time or two.  Life is constantly changing and we have all the courage and wisdom we need to navigate even the hardest times.  We can hold onto what we know is true and find our way.  Nothing is powerful enough to stop us from moving forward and every blessing is just steps away.

It seems fair that we should all get what we deserve.  Bad people who do things to hurt others should suffer and good people who are helpful and kind should gain happiness.  However, there will likely be times when we see bad people succeed while those who are trying their best struggle.  The law of the harvest is inescapable and immutable.  If we plant seeds of discontent, disharmony and pain, we will eventually reap the harvest of those choices.  It might not happen right away, and years may go by before we see things change, but balance will come. We are all accountable for everything we do and the choices we make determine our future happiness.

The old saying that “there is no such thing as a free lunch,” is correct.  Everything we do exacts a price of some sort.  If we make good choices that move us closer to where we want to be, we will reap the benefits and find success.  If we jumble up the works with confusion, complication and turbulence the way forward will be harder to navigate and more difficult to find.  We can make excellent choices that pave the road to happiness and peace, even in times of trial.  We can have the lives we dream about by choosing wisely and continuing forward with confidence and wisdom.

Today if you feel life is unfair and you can’t win, move toward your next step.  You can navigate through any complication or trial and choose wisely in ways that will bring you happiness.  Your life is yours to design and all your dreams can come true.  Nothing can keep you from success.  Continue forward and you will prevail.

Intermission

1 Nov

Years ago, when there was a long movie, the producers would put an intermission near the middle of the production. It was a time for movie goers to get up and stretch, purchase refreshments or visit the bathrooms. They were several minutes long and gave everyone a break from sitting and watching. Those days are behind us now but the idea of intermission is a valuable tool we can use in our personal lives. When we’re involved in a long, complex project or trying to complete a difficult goal, we may be encouraged to hurry and continually press forward to reach it. It’s good to be focused but it’s helpful to stop from time to time and take a breather, review where we are, and look ahead to plan our next steps. There is nothing to be gained by rushing forward without looking, getting tangled up somewhere we didn’t intend to go and having to backtrack to start again. It’s far better to stop from time to time to look at where we’re headed and make sure we’re going in the direction that will bring us success. The old saying of “haste makes waste,” may come into play if we hurry toward our objectives without taking time to think about where we’re going. Rushing around doesn’t always mean making progress. We can take an intermission, stand still for a moment, review our objectives and then plan the way forward. Just a few minutes of careful consideration in advance may save us hours of revision later. We can get to any destination we desire and by thoughtfully preparing our way forward will arrive at the perfect time. We know where we want to go and can reach any goal we choose. All options are possible if we plan effectively and use our time wisely.

We may be in a situation where we’re pressed to give quick answers and find fast solutions. We are wise and capable and can find any answers we need but we don’t have to jump on the first ones that come to mind. We can step back for a moment and allow ourselves time to consider all the possible options before choosing the next step. Giving ourselves time to let ideas rise will give us a wider perspective of the situation and help us uncover the best way forward. There isn’t anything we can’t understand and if we pause for a moment, will find every answer we need.

Sometimes when we step back and look at everything openly we see things we didn’t notice before. We may discover our ideas about what we want have changed, and the goal we were striving for is no longer where we want to go. Instead of continuing forward toward something we don’t want, we can turn toward a new destination and start on a new path. We can do anything we choose and by taking time to look at where we’re headed will ensure we reach the destinations we most desire.

Today if you’ve been pushing forward and focused only on the goal ahead, take a moment to step back and look at everything again. Think about where you’re headed and consider every possibility going forward. The whole world is there for you and you can go anywhere you want to go. Look around and choose the road that takes you to the places you desire most. You deserve every happiness and by making the best choices moving forward will achieve it.

Pushing Back

30 Oct

We’re all different and our opinions and beliefs are unique to our own personal experiences. We will not always agree with those around us, and there may be times when we face backlash because we won’t go along. Some people are uncomfortable accepting ideas and opinions that are different from their own. They prefer to have everyone in agreement and going the same way as they are. But it’s naive to believe we will all be on the same page in everything. We are designed to make our own decisions and find our own paths. The world is filled with differences that enable us to explore new ways of thinking and fresh viewpoints that enlighten us and broaden our understanding. We never need to conform if we want something different. If others try to push us into molds they desire, we can push back. We don’t have to fight or struggle but can simply state our position and then go forward embracing it as we choose. The world is filled with unlimited ideas and possibilities. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we desire. We can go along with others if that suits us, or we can forge our own path in a new direction. There is great satisfaction and confidence when we live our lives genuinely, choosing each step we take. We are the only ones who can impact the world with the gifts we offer. We can be our true selves and clearly express our own individuality. Every road is possible and we can go anywhere and do anything we want.

There are all kinds or popular ideas and trends going on all the time. Often, they are only momentary infatuations and what was all the rage just a few months ago is long gone now. When something is intensely popular we may feel compelled to embrace it because of those around us even if we don’t really like it. It’s fine to go along with inconsequential ideas and trends if that’s what we want to do but we can always step back and remain true to ourselves even if we’re different. There is great value in our own expressions and we add depth and richness to the world around us simply by being who we are.

We may be in a situation where others want to do something we don’t care to participate in. We’re entitled to our own views and decisions and never need to do anything we don’t want to do. If we’re pressured and cajoled to go along we may certainly acquiesce if we choose to. Or we may gently and politely push back and decide to go another way. We always have control over our own lives and can decide what we’ll do at every moment. We know who we are and what we want, and moving forward with confidence and clarity will bring us the success we desire.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you don’t want to do, remember your life is yours to design. You can live it your way. Choose the path you will travel and keep your eyes on the goal. You are powerful and strong and can go anywhere you choose. Every destination is possible. Live your life your own way and you’ll find great happiness and satisfaction.

Confusion

23 Oct

A lack of understanding or a state of disorder. Cambridge English Dictionary

Our lives are busy and as we go from one task to another we may get caught up in our responsibilities and forget exactly where we’re headed. It’s easy to lose track of the big picture when we’re busy dealing with details and specific items that need our attention. When we’re focused on doing something we must get done, it may be hard to pay attention to the personal goals we value and want to accomplish. It’s easy to get carried away with one thing and another and as we busily go from one task to the next we may forget other things we value. Life has a way of taking control and distracting us if we don’t focus on what’s most important. We decide what we’ll do at every moment and we must be in control of our lives if we want to accomplish the things we want the most. We are responsible for the lives we create. If they are filled with rushing around in confusion trying to do many things at the same time, we will have busy, confusing lives that will bring us little satisfaction. There will always be more to do than we can accomplish. If we want to be happy and completely fulfilled each day, we must plan our time in ways that bring us clarity and success. We can plan our activities to allow us to complete anything pressing and still remember our personal goals and objectives. There is great satisfaction in being clear on what’s most important to us and then planning our lives to ensure we accomplish them.

There are unlimited ways we can spend our time. We can go from one idea to the next in a flash and spend all our time trying new things. Being busy and rushing around doesn’t always mean we’re being successful. Running from one place to the next does not guarantee we’re moving forward. If we want to accomplish specific goals we must plan the way ahead, and make time to reach them. We are smart enough to design our lives in ways that help us find success. We can eliminate confusion and find the road forward.

There are many people around us all the time and they may ask us to do things for them to help them reach their goals. It’s good to be helpful and we can serve as much as we like, but we can remember that our objectives are also important and guard the time we give away to ensure we have enough for ourselves. True happiness comes when we live our lives in clear ways that take us where we really want to go. Every destination we desire is possible and we have everything we need to accomplish any goal we choose.

Today if you’ve been running around accomplishing a lot of tasks that haven’t moved you forward, rethink your plans. Your personal goals and objectives are important and valuable. Clear your thinking and manage your time so you can make them yours. You are capable and wise and nothing is out of reach. Plan for your dreams. They are waiting for you and you can make them come true.

House of Mirrors

18 Oct

We’re all different and our experiences as we go through our lives make us into the people we become.  Most of us learn from things that go wrong and adjust our lives to prevent making the same mistakes going forward.  But some people have trouble discerning the mistakes they make.  It’s hard for them to understand how their actions connect to what happens to them.  It’s not our place to judge what anyone else does but if we have people like this in our lives, we may be affected.  It’s hard to have a relationship with someone who continually makes choices that bring heartache and trouble.  We may find ourselves continually adjusting to the next disaster and trying to find a way around it.  Although we are only responsible for the decisions we make, we may be seriously impacted by those made by others close to us.  Like paint, they can smear their dysfunction all over our lives and before we know it we may get caught up in their problems in ways that are not helpful.  If we remember we are individuals and have complete ownership over our own decisions, we can stand beside someone who struggles and be supportive without becoming part of the issue.  We can be friends without getting caught up in turmoil and confusion.  Learning to stand beside someone and still stand apart will help us navigate through any difficult relationships we have.  Life isn’t always easy but we have everything we need to find the right road going forward that will bring us comfort and peace.

We don’t know what we don’t know.  Sometimes we may begin a relationship with someone that seems positive and satisfying.  We connect with them, we think we understand them and they seem to understand us.  It’s great to make connections with others that make us feel good and brighten our lives.  But sometimes people hide their true selves and it takes time for their real behaviors to shine through.  When things change, if the turn is dramatic enough, we may feel we’ve entered a house of mirrors.  Nothing is as we thought and we aren’t sure what to do next.  We are always in control of our lives and never have to stay in any situation that is uncomfortable.  We can make a turn and change our lives at any time.

We may get into situations where the people we’re associating with begin to make decisions we aren’t comfortable with.  They are choosing to continue toward a goal we don’t want or their methods are ideas we don’t agree with.  We always have the power to change any relationships in our lives.  We aren’t assigned to others and can move in a new direction away from those near us at any time.  Our lives are ours to design and we can decide how we will proceed.  We can be confident when we make choices that take us where we want to go and courageously continue forward toward success.

Today if you’re in a relationship that isn’t working or have been caught up in a situation that is moving you toward a destination you don’t want, take control.  You know where you want to go and have everything you need to get there.  You don’t have to stay in any situation that isn’t comfortable.  Change direction and move forward toward success.  You can do anything you desire and every option is possible.