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Making It Rock

16 Apr

Life is complex and since we don’t live in a vacuum there will likely be other people around us much of the time. When we’re closely connected to someone else, they may have suggestions about how they think we should live our lives and what we should be doing. It’s easier to nod and agree than to set out on our own, and in an effort to keep things even, we may simply go along. When we’re in a group and everyone is doing the same things, there may be pressure to conform. Following along may keep the peace, but it’s impossible to reach our own destinations by riding in the back seat. Most people feel comfortable when those around them are on the same page and doing the same things. It’s easy to fit in when you look like everyone else. Floating along downstream may be scenic and comfortable but sitting in someone else’s boat won’t take us where we want to go. The destinations we desire can only be reached if we step out on our own and begin toward them. Getting out of a boat is going to make it rock, and some may be unhappy because we’re upsetting the balance. “Why can’t you just sit still and go along” they may ask. Well, we could, but our lives are important, and all our dreams are waiting. When we’re ready to reach them, we can step away from the tide and set out on our own. Support from those close to us would be nice, but we don’t need it to design the way forward. We know what we want, and already possess everything we need to get it. By choosing what’s most important to us and moving toward the goals we most desire, we will gain great happiness and satisfaction. Every single dream is possible, and with conviction and determination, we will make them ours.

Blue is a beautiful color. It’s the color of the water and sky, and it’s pleasing to see. It’s lovely, but if everything we wore and everything we owned was blue, it would become tiresome and boring. Colors are enhanced when they’re accented by their opposites or those next to them on the spectrum. Differences bring depth and interest, and enrich our experiences. We never have to go along with all the “blues” if we want to be something else. Every color and every choice are possible, and we can paint our lives any way we desire.

Life is unpredictable and we never know what will happen next, but we can plan our way forward, moving toward the goals we most desire. Complications will likely come, problems may arise, and the road may get twisted and turned around, but we are intelligent and can find our way forward. Broken pavement doesn’t mean a final stop. We can step around what’s in the way and continue toward the goal. Every destination is possible, and we have all the wisdom and courage we need to reach them all.

Today think about what you want the most, and then take the first step toward the goal. You are amazing and your life is important. Every dream is possible, and you are powerful enough to make them yours. Decide what you want and begin toward the goal. Nothing is out of reach, every dream is waiting, and you have everything you need to succeed. Trust yourself and be confident. The whole world is there for you.

Wrong Way

31 Mar

Life is complicated and we’re constantly bombarded with decisions that must be made. Some are inconsequential but others may have far reaching consequences. Before we decide anything, we can look at all the options available, and the possible results of whichever choice we make, and then decide what we want to do. We’re responsible for every decision we make and have everything needed to make them well. But there are lots of others around us who may influence us to go in one direction or another. Their suggestions may be beneficial, or they may try to push us in a direction that might not benefit us but serves their purposes. If they are very loud and powerful, they may manipulate and coerce us to follow their promptings. If we do, we may end up going in the wrong direction and complicating our lives moving forward. It’s very disappointing to realize we’ve chosen badly because of someone else’s influence. Trying to point the finger at them when things fall apart will never change the fact that the choice was ours to make, and we own the results. Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to stumble from time to time. That doesn’t mean we can’t correct our course and start again. When big decisions are upon us, we may listen to any advice that’s offered, and then trust ourselves to choose what is best. If we are pressured to go in a direction we don’t want to travel, we can decline and take the road we desire most. There are many roads to every destination. We may get waylaid, turned around, or have to backtrack and start again, but we will find our way. If one direction doesn’t work, we can adjust our trajectory and move ahead in another. Every success is possible, and we have everything we need to go anywhere and do anything.

Every decision we make takes us somewhere and alters our life in some way. We hardly pay attention to the mundane daily choices we all make, but even though they are seemingly inconsequential, if we make them badly, we may suffer. What we choose to wear may seem like nothing except for the day we have that big meeting with someone we really want to impress. We may not pay attention to what we’re eating until some health issue arises. We don’t live in a vacuum, and everything will have a result. Being mindful, even of the small things, will enable us to move forward more confidently and successfully toward any goal we desire.

Some people are very confident and think they have all the answers to every situation. It’s annoying to have them continually tell us how we should proceed, and what we should do. They may know a lot about many things, but nobody can possibly know us better than we know ourselves. We can listen to any advice, and then choose what’s best for us. Just because a road they choose is paved and easy doesn’t mean it’s the right road for us. We know what we want and will reach every destination we desire.

Today if you’re facing a big decision, trust yourself. Every answer you need is there for you and you have everything you need to choose well. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Every success you desire is within reach, and you will make them yours.

First

24 Mar

In nature, there is order to how things happen. Each season has its own influence and impact, and no matter what comes, they continue to follow the same patterns. When it’s cold outside, everything hibernates and waits. When it starts to warm, seedlings begin to burst and grow, and leaves start to pop out on trees. We all accept this as part of the natural order. One thing prepares for the next. The same is true in our personal lives. We can decide to run a marathon, but first, we must commit to training for it. If we want a job that requires a lot of knowledge, we must first do what is required to obtain it. Doing what is needed in the first place will enable us to accomplish the goal that comes after. If we’re very confident, we may try to jump ahead of what needs to be done first and charm our way to what we want, and we might get lucky once or twice, but nothing takes the place of real preparation. What comes first is important to what comes next. Builders understand that to build a strong, enduring structure, they must begin by digging a deep foundation and fortifying it in ways that will support the building through whatever comes. Without first creating the foundation, the whole thing will eventually fall. We know what we want, but we must be willing to do whatever is required to achieve it. We can talk about what we’re going to do until we’re blue in the face, but until we step forward and start, nothing will change. Accomplishing whatever we must, one step at a time, from beginning to end, will take us to the goal. We can do anything and go anywhere. Nothing is beyond our reach, and we will succeed.

When we fly on a plane, we’re instructed that if something goes wrong and we need oxygen, to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first before we try to help others. If we can’t breathe, we won’t be able to assist anyone else. Taking care of ourselves before we devote our time to others is important. Sacrificing our personal needs and pushing ourselves to exhaustion will stop us in our tracks and keep us from accomplishing anything. We are the most important people in our lives, and it isn’t selfish to take care of ourselves first. By making sure we have what we need to be healthy and strong, we will be able to reach any goal we desire and serve those around us.

Repetition can only reinforce what we’re doing. If we continually do the same things, we won’t be able to move onto something new. Every goal is possible, but they won’t just fall into our laps because we desire them. We must take the first step forward and then do what is needed to make them ours. We have all the courage and wisdom necessary to achieve any goal we desire. By trusting ourselves, and stepping forward with confidence, we will reach success.

Today start at the beginning and take the first step toward the destinations you desire most. You are intelligent and capable, and know what you want. Trust yourself. You are more powerful than you imagine. Every dream is there for you, and with determination and faith, you can make them yours.

Scrubbing the Roster

23 Feb

When there are big changes in organizations, and new leadership comes on board, instead of training all the previous personnel, they may start over with their own team. It may be easier to scrub the roster of the old participants and begin with an entirely new group. We may reach a point in our lives when we decide to make significant changes in what we’re doing and where we’re going. Our focus has shifted, and we now want to move onto something new. Those who have been with us in the previous situation may not agree with our decision to alter our plans. They may continually tell us it’s not a good decision and question every step we take. If we reach a point where we want less dissention, we may choose to step away from them. Deciding to scrub our own personal roster may enable us to move forward more easily, but it may cause us some discomfort as we step away. Routines and everyday connections are comfortable, but it’s impossible to stay in one place and move onto another at the same time. If we’re ready for a change, and want to proceed in a new direction, we may need to re-evaluate who we’re interacting with and choose another way forward. Our relationships are important, and we don’t have to sever our connections to those around us. We may find a new way to connect with them that allows us to continue building our relationship and doesn’t prevent us from moving toward our new goals. Our lives are ours to design and we are in control of our own destiny. By choosing what is best for us and stepping forward toward success we will find great happiness and satisfaction. Everything is possible, and we will prevail.

There are crossroads and turning points in all our lives. We change as we move forward and what we wanted yesterday may now seem undesirable. The destination we were headed toward is no longer what we want. There are always countless roads available, and when we’re ready for a change, we can step away from where we are and start a new journey. Nothing is out of reach, and every goal will always be possible. We can have the lives we dream about and nothing can keep us from success.

Custom and tradition are powerful forces. It’s comfortable to continue doing things the way they’ve always been done, and it takes courage to step away from the norm and chart our own course. We are intelligent and know exactly what we want and where we want to go. It’s possible to honor tradition and still do things our own way. Our lives are important, and our dreams are ours to create. With determination and focus, we can accomplish everything we desire, and find true happiness.

Today if you’ve decided to make a turn and go in a new direction, take the first step forward. You are wise and powerful, and will find the way to success. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from making them yours. Be confident and move ahead. The destinations you seek are within reach, and you will achieve them.

Small Moves

19 Jan

Nobody gets a perfect life and we all have things we’d like to change about ourselves or our situation. They may be big alterations like wanting to move to a new location or changing our careers. Big changes take a lot of planning and encompass many moving parts that may be complex and difficult to navigate. But not everything we want to change is all encompassing. There may be smaller things we’d like to alter, like exercising more or taking more time for friends and family. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but lots of things will happen on their own. Life has its own rhythm and if we just coast along we’ll end up in a lot of places and do a lot of things, but they may not be the things we want the most. Routine is comfortable and even if we dream of something different, unless we focus and decide to do what is necessary to make them ours, we might just go from day to day and let things remain the same. Change requires effort and will likely push us out of our comfort zones. Thinking about everything and looking at the whole picture may be overwhelming, and instead of jumping in and starting, we may back away thinking we can’t do it. In reality, we can do anything we really want to do, but we can’t do it all at once. Instead of trying to make lots of changes right away, we can break it down into small moves that are easy to manage. Small moves are just as effective as big ones, and each step we take will move us a little closer to the goal. In time, if we persist, we’ll reach the destination. Success is always possible and there is no rush to reach it. We can make small changes and take our time. As we move closer, we’ll gain more confidence and see everything more clearly. We can have the lives we desire most. Every single destination is possible, and we have everything we need to make them ours.

Rome wasn’t built in a day. Historians believe it took approximately 1,010,450 days to construct. That’s a lot of time and effort to create one city. We won’t ever need that much time to complete any goal we desire, but it helps to remember we have all the time we need to get it done, and we don’t have to hurry to get there. We can plan our time effectively and move forward at a pace that allows us to feel comfortable and still achieve the goal.

When we want something badly, we may try to rush to obtain it. If we suddenly decide we’re finally going to lose the twenty pounds we’ve gained over the last five years, we may take drastic measures to make it happen fast. Making big moves to achieve a goal may seem like a good idea at the beginning, but it’s hard to maintain behaviors that require us to make big changes immediately. We’ll be more successful making reasonable alterations we can stick to that lead us step by step to success.

Today if you’ve decided you want to make a change, think about small moves that will take you to the goal. You really are so amazing and capable and can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Decide what you want, and then step forward with confidence. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed. With persistence, you can make all your dreams come true, and find great satisfaction and happiness.