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Repeat Performance

27 Mar

People are complex beings with different ideas, interpretations, and beliefs that color every decision and choice. We see the world through our own unique filters, but others, even those very close to us, may see the same situations in completely different ways. We’re all individuals, and our life experiences affect how we see the world around us and color our perception of what’s happening. If we’ve been hurt badly in the past by a particular situation, we may anticipate the same pain if we get close to something similar. While the situation may seem like a repeat of where we’ve already been, nothing in life returns in exactly the same way. Life isn’t a continual round of the same things over and over again. Things change and we gain knowledge as we continue forward. If we’re faced with similar problems we suffered through in the past, how we manage them today may be completely different from how we handled them before. Our past does not determine how things will go in the future. We learn as we go, and every experience gives us something of value to carry forward. As we mature and learn more about the world and those around us, our perceptions deepen and our understanding increases. We learn something new with everything we face. Our ability to grow and develop is limitless. Each day teaches us something new, and we can get closer to the person we most want to be with each choice we make. Every destination we desire will always be possible, and we can accomplish anything.

Making the same mistakes over and over again will never move us forward. While practice may make things perfect, repeating poor judgement will not improve anything. Just because we’ve done something one way in the past does not mean we must repeat it again. Staying on the same road and hoping it will take us somewhere new is useless. We are always in control of every decision we make, and our lives are a reflection of every choice. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can move. If we don’t like where we’re headed, we can change direction. Everything is possible, and when we’re ready, we can have the lives we dream about.

Routines and traditions are powerful motivators, but repeating the same behaviors over and over again does not guarantee success. It only guarantees we’ll get the same result we’ve gotten in the past. If we want something more, or something different, we must modify what we’re doing. Every single goal is possible and nothing is out of reach. We have all the power we need to get the lives we most desire. Success is always there for us, and with focus and determination we will prevail.

Today if you’re not moving toward the goals you want the most, look at all the possible options before you. The road you’re on is only one option, and there are endless others available. Decide what you want the most, and choose the way forward that will take you to it. The past does not determine your future. You are more capable and powerful than you think. Nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. Everything you desire is there for you, and you will succeed.

Coiled Up

20 Mar

There are lots of different situations we experience as we go through our lives. Change is constant, and while we enjoy and embrace the good times, chances are something will eventually turn in another direction and we may end up in an entirely different scenario. When things change and there are a lot of unknowns, if we’re stressed and uncertain, we may feel tense and worried, like a coiled-up spring, just waiting for something to break everything apart. There is no way to know what will happen next and there will always be unknowns and uncertainty to some degree. If we want to, we can let anxiety and concern over what might happen overcome us, and stand paralyzed waiting for the bottom to fall out. While it’s possible that lots of things may go wrong, our most dreaded fears may become reality and we may be vanquished, most of the time that won’t happen. There may be complications and scary developments, but our whole world won’t collapse and there will always be a way out. There will always be another option possible and another road available. We have overcome many difficulties already, and even when we aren’t sure what to do, will find our way. There is no need to believe we won’t survive – we will. There is no reason to doubt – we are strong and capable. Things may fall apart, our plans may falter, and we might be confused and unsure. But no matter where we are or what’s happened, we already possess everything we need to turn our course, and reach success. We are more powerful than we realize and nothing, absolutely nothing, can stop us from moving forward.

The world is a huge place but with international travel, and the internet, we are far more connected to far away places than ever before. What happens in a country thousands of miles away may impact us here at home. We have no control over what anyone else does, and sometimes people do things that negatively impact everyone. When disaster strikes, and we’re suddenly restricted from doing the things we want to do, we can find creative ways to continue toward our own goals and objectives. Being flexible and learning to bend when the winds of change blow our way will help us find the answers we need to continue ahead.

There is never only one way to live or one road to travel. There are unlimited options always available to us, and if one road gets blocked, we can step onto another. We are creative and wise, and can accomplish whatever we desire no matter what may be in the way. If the road ahead is no longer available, we can find another or create our own. There will always be possibilities and every answer we need will arise. Nothing is powerful enough to keep us from our goals. We can do what is needed to gain the life we want and make our dreams come true.

Today if it seems everything has gone wrong, and you’re restricted in ways that are keeping you in place, look at all the possibilities before you. There is another way forward, and with patience and clarity you will find it. Trust yourself. You are amazing and wise, and nothing can keep you from success.

Breaking Apart

13 Mar

Lots of things go right in our lives every single day. Sometimes everything sails along without a care, and we’re relaxed and happy. Change is always constant and nothing can remain the same forever, and eventually something will modify our plans, and our lives may be turned toward difficulty or pain. Bad experiences will come our way whether we’re ready for them or not. Life is filled with all kinds of undefined complications, and when they hit us out of the blue, we may feel lost and broken for a time. Everything we thought we could count on may break apart, and we may be left standing alone, bereft and uncertain. It may feel our world has dissolved in front of us and we have no idea how to continue on. Bad things may happen, we may be devastated, and the road ahead may be fuzzy and unclear. It’s not easy to find our footing when it feels like the rug has been pulled out from under us and we’re standing in mid-air, struggling to touch the ground. Even in our most difficult times, we always have what we need to survive. We have incredible reserves of courage and stamina inside ourselves, and when we need them, can reach deep and claim them. There will never be a time when things get so bad that we’ll crumble and disappear. We are stronger than we imagine, and nothing, absolutely nothing can hold us down. Every road will always be there for us, and with determination and strength, we will find our way. Nothing can keep us from our dreams, and no matter what comes, we will succeed.

A bad personal breakup can be devastating. If our feelings for the one leaving us are deep and intimate, we may struggle to breathe when they walk away. The pain may be intense and for a moment, we may think we can’t survive. But as each day passes, we get stronger, and in time, we recover. How long that takes depends on a lot of variables, but no matter if it’s one week, one month, or a whole year, we will get through. We can take things one step at a time, and build on each success until we feel whole and complete once again.

When everything changes all at once we may need time to process what’s happened and figure out what to do next. We can’t do everything at the same time. If we step back, and take a breath, we can let our minds rest for moment. There will always be many possible options for the way forward, and we can look at them all and decide which is best. We can’t control what will come to us, but we always have control over ourselves. We know what we want and with patience, and persistence, we will find our way.

Today if your world has tilted and everything has broken apart, take the time you need to see everything clearly. Life is uncertain, but you are strong and nothing can hold you in place. Consider every possible road ahead, and choose your next steps. You are incredible and strong, and every dream is still there for you. Have faith. You will prevail.

On the Hook

26 Feb

We interact with all kinds of people. They come and go, we work, socialize, and meet with them for different reasons, and hardly a day goes by without someone else touching our lives. There may be times when we need something from them and if they’re in agreement, we move forward easily and on to the next thing. But not every situation is easy to navigate and if there’s something complex or difficult we want help with, the person we’re asking may not be sure they want to get involved. They don’t want to say yes, but don’t want to disappoint us. So, they may tell us they might help, they’ll think about it, or give us a “maybe.” That allows them to gracefully step away at least for now until they really decide what they want to do. It never helps us to hear “maybe” when we need agreement. It just puts us on the hook while we wait to see what will happen next, and gives control over our progress to someone else. There is no way to know how long it will take others to make a decision, and it’s impossible to wait and move forward at the same time. We’re always in control of our lives, and we don’t have to stay on the hook indefinitely. We can accept any indecision, and then proceed ahead according to what works best for us. There will always be a way forward. If we can’t get the help we need right now for our current plan, we can revise our options and continue on. We know what we want, and there are many ways to achieve our goals. Every road is possible and with focus, and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

It’s difficult to deal with people who struggle to make decisions. They may be unsure about what they want, or insecure about their ability to accomplish tasks. Whatever their reasons, if we need their agreement on something in order to proceed, and they cannot decide what they want to do, we may get stuck. But we never have to hold still waiting indefinitely. If the task is important and we want to move ahead, we can set a time for them to give us their decision or allow us to continue ahead on our own. Our goals are important and by planning well, and taking control, we will reach them.

If someone wants something from us and we’re not sure we want to agree, we may try to stall them. We can take all the time we like in every decision we make, but it’s inappropriate to hold others back in the interim. If we don’t know what we want to do, we can step aside and let those ready to move forward go ahead without us until we’re ready to join them. We can respect the needs of others while still doing what is best for us.

Today if you’re ready to move forward but someone else’s indecision is holding you back, look at all the options possible. There will always be another way forward. Find the road that works for you and step forward. Your dreams and desires are important, and you deserve to make them yours. Be confident and strong. Every goal is possible and you will prevail.

Need To Change

21 Feb

We live in a huge world filled with billions of people. No matter where we are or how small our location, there will be others around us much of the time. It’s unlikely most of us will go through even one day without seeing or interacting with someone else. It’s nice to build strong relationships with those around us, which help us feel connected and cared for. But we’re all individuals and nobody is exactly like anyone else. Those differences are what bring variety and depth to our experience but they may also bring conflict when we disagree or when someone does something we don’t understand. If we’re in a situation where others want to do things a certain way and we disagree, they may encourage us to change and conform so things will be easier. Of course, we can do anything we like, and if we want to follow along, we can, but we’re entitled to our own ideas and opinions, and can choose our own way. We never need to change to fit someone else’s model. While it may be easier when everyone is on the same page and going in the same direction, we’re in control of our lives and can live them any way we choose. We don’t always have to swim downstream. If we want to, we have all the wisdom and strength necessary to turn and swim against the current. Our individuality and personal choices create the lives we want. If we’re happy where we are, we don’t have to move. But if we want something different, the whole world is there for us. Our unique perspective and influence bring richness to others and the world around us. Being confident in our choices, and choosing the life we want the most will bring us great satisfaction and happiness.

Life would be easier if everyone just stayed out of our way, did what we wanted, and didn’t question us. If we had control over everyone else, we could make our choices without any interruptions or complications, and proceed forward unhindered. However, we only have control over ourselves, and those around us may have very different views about what we should do and where we should go. We can listen to any advice that’s offered, and then with confidence, choose the road ahead we most desire.

There will always be many different ways to every destination, and we can choose any way forward we like. We can move along with everyone else on a well-known path, and eventually reach success. The common roads tend to be the easiest, but aren’t always the best. Stepping in a new direction will help us reach a little further, and gain new experiences that will open doors to increased knowledge, giving us additional confidence and strength. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything. We can reach goals others only dream of, and find complete success.

Today if you’ve been going along with others but want something different, step away and choose your own road ahead. You are intelligent and capable, and can manage anything that comes. Decide what you want, and then move forward with determination. Everything you desire is possible. Nothing is out of reach. Be sure of yourself, and step ahead. All your dreams are possible, and you will succeed.

By the Book

19 Feb

There are lots of reference materials available for just about everything we want to accomplish. If we get stuck trying to do something, we can find information to guide us through and give us the directions we need. It might be an owner’s manual, a specialized book, or information we can look for on the internet. We can usually get the help we need for any problem we might encounter. It’s great to find the assistance when we need it, and be able to figure out what’s going on and how to proceed. It would be wonderful if there was a book like that about our personal lives. A reference we could go to when things go wrong and we have no idea what to do, or how to fix it. Imagine, every problem we face already recorded with a list of answers for how to proceed. Now that would be amazing, but unfortunately, that is not reality. There are no individual life manuals available, and we must find our own way through our problems and issues on our own. Fortunately, we’ll get a lot of experience managing difficulties as we go through each day. We may not appreciate the situations while we’re in them, but they give us information about how to solve problems and bring the confidence we need to move forward. Our life manual is simply our experiences. They teach us as we progress and we gain insight and understanding about ourselves, those around us, and the world in general. Everything we do teaches us something. We learn as we go, and with each experience become wiser and more enlightened.

Just like there are many roads to every destination, there will always be more than one answer to every problem. There may be times when it seems there is only one way forward, but we can modify and individualize any plans possible. Unlike working with something mechanical where the parts must be organized exactly as directed in order for things to work, we have the opportunity to differentiate each solution so it works best for us. We always know what we want most, and can do what is needed to ensure we succeed.

We may create defined guidelines for completing certain tasks and goals, and may reach them exactly as we’ve planned. But life is full of surprises and nothing is certain. Things happen, decisions out of our control are made, and we may find that our well thought out plans for moving ahead are no longer viable. We don’t have to give up the goal simply because the road has turned. We can look at all the possible options available and decide how we want to proceed. Every destination is there for us, and by being flexible and confident, we will find the way forward.

Today if you’re trying to hold onto your plans but things are getting in the way, remember there is always another way forward. You can modify your direction and find the road that takes you to your destination. Nothing can hold you in place. Every destination is there for you. Modify your ideas and move forward with confidence. You are amazing and every success is possible. Keep moving forward. You will prevail.

Keys

14 Feb

Our personalities are rich with expression and varied in how we interpret and manifest information as we move along. Nobody is completely the same all the time. We feel things differently depending on what’s going on around us and who is involved. Every day brings a new situation and we sometimes have to work hard to figure out what to do next. When we need to unlock something to get in, we may reach for our personal key ring. We might have many different keys to choose from, and in each instance must choose the specific one that opens the door we need. We may have a key for our car, our home, our office, the backdoor, maybe a shed or storage area, or many other options. They might look alike but each represents a unique opportunity to unlock the way ahead. Like the keys on our key ring, we have different personal interpretations and expressions for each situation we experience. Maybe we need our wisdom key for a particular problem, or our patience key when things get intense. We might use compassion to open the way to dialog for someone who is suffering, or simply take out the one that unlocks understanding. Each key we possess opens something new and teaches us more about the world around us. Everything we do tells the world who we are. When we use our keys appropriately in the right situations, the road ahead is often easier than if we mix them up. If we use force when endurance is needed, or leisure when we need to work, we might end up somewhere we didn’t intend to go. Learning how to manifest the right options when opportunities present themselves will move us forward toward the goals we’re seeking. We are wise and intelligent, and can find the keys that open any door ahead. Every goal is possible, and we are smart enough, and strong enough to reach them.

Every day things change and it’s impossible to know what will happen next. We learn new skills with each experience and carry all that information with us moving forward. When things go wrong or what we’re trying to accomplish gets stuck, it doesn’t mean we can’t get to the goal. It just means that for now, we don’t have the key to open this particular door. There are many roads to every destination, and we can turn in another direction and find the way ahead.

Like skeleton keys that open many doors, kindness and consideration can pave the way ahead, no matter what’s in the way. Few things make a situation better than a kind word, or a patient attitude. We can be open to new ideas and patiently work through any problems or issues that arise, confident that no matter what happens, we will reach the destination. We are capable of managing any complication, and with focus and determination, can reach any goal.

Today if you’re not sure you have all the keys you need to open the doors ahead, trust yourself. You are more capable than you realize. Every dream is possible, and you already possess everything you need to win. Be confident and step forward. Nothing can keep you from the goal, and you will reach great success.