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Exempt

5 Oct

We share the world with billions of other people, and there will always be people coming and going in and out of our lives. They interact with us, work with us, share families with us, or just see us in passing. Everyone is different and we’re all doing different things. In an effort to make things go more smoothly, there are rules for civility and politeness that help us all get along without increasing friction. Most of us try to be pleasant and polite, and don’t get up in other people’s faces just to annoy them. We try to get along and be positive, but there is always the exception. No matter where we are, there may be someone who is rude and difficult, who may make our lives miserable. They have bad manners, interrupt us when we’re speaking, leave a trail of trash behind them, and ignore any suggestions for improvement. They don’t care how they affect others or if they degrade those around them. It’s very hard to deal with people like this. They can complicate our days and when they come around, we may try anything to avoid them. People will do what they will do, but we can hold fast to the standards we set. There will always be many roads to get to our goals, and we can find ways around any problem that arises. We can be polite even if those we encounter are not. The road to success is rarely paved and clear, but we have everything we need to move ahead, no matter what is standing in the way.

Some people are very good at telling others what they should do, how they should act, and where they should go. They constantly preach and pontificate, giving instructions regarding whatever is happening around them. They are great at explaining the rules and demanding compliance, but because they see themselves as set apart on a higher plane, feel they are exempt from following them. They simply do what they want, and expect others to accept it. It is never appropriate to set standards for others we do not intend to follow. We are all part of the whole, and if one must comply, we should all comply.

We are all human beings sharing the planet at the same time. Although some may have fame and fortune, some may have privilege and power, nobody is more worthwhile than anyone else. Our circumstances do not determine our value. We are precious and priceless because we are unique, and there isn’t anyone now, nor has there ever been anyone who can offer the gifts we have to give. We deserve complete happiness, and can do what is necessary to achieve it. Every blessing is there for us, and every dream is possible.

Today if you must deal with someone who is unpleasant and rude, remember how valuable you are. Set the example for excellence and step forward with confidence. You know what you want and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and every destination will be yours.

Steadfast

28 Sep

There are opposites in everything – black and white, good and evil, right and wrong. Whatever opinions or beliefs we hold, someone, somewhere will have an opposing view. Endless ideas and interpretations are everywhere and if we haven’t decided which way we’re going, we may be pulled in countless directions. We can listen to all the views around us and when we’re ready, decide what is best and how we want to proceed. Everyone is different and we will undoubtedly face times when our views clash with those around us. If everyone else is singing one song and we’re on another page, we will likely face conflict. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and decisions, but that doesn’t mean the power of the group won’t come into play. It’s far easier to get to the goals desired if everyone agrees. When there is dissent, it can make the road a lot rockier. In an effort to make things easier for those around us, we may be pressured to go along and asked to conform with something we disagree with. Of course, we can do anything we like and if we want to acquiesce we can, but our ideas are important and we are entitled to express them any way we like. We never have to follow anyone else if we want something different. We can be polite and still be steadfast in our decisions. Our lives are ours to design, and we may live them any way we choose. We don’t need agreement or permission to choose our own way forward. By trusting ourselves, and being confident, we can step ahead on the roads we desire most, and find great success.

Some people are very loud and forceful. They believe their ideas are best and may press us to do things their way. Being loud may open some doors, but certainly doesn’t equate to having power over us. We can do what we like, even if it’s different from everyone else. There are countless roads to every destination, and we can choose the ones we’ll travel. Our dreams are ours alone. We can take control, choose our own direction, and move toward any destination we desire.

Group think squashes creativity and removes individual responsibility. Nobody makes their own decisions, and nobody gets blamed when things go wrong. Nothing could be more damaging to personal growth. It’s good to have friends and build connections, but we can connect with others and keep our own autonomy. We are all unique and have special, individual gifts nobody else can offer. By honoring our personal differences, and stepping forward according to our own specific desires, we will bring great depth and blessing to the world around us.

Today if you’re being pressured to align yourself with others, remember your contribution is important. Trust yourself and follow your own road. You have so much to offer and bring gifts nobody else can give. Be steadfast and confident. You are amazing and powerful. Your light brings great joy and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Lifeboat

22 Sep

Life is complicated and there are a lot of things to take care of, manage, and watch over. Everyone wants to be strong and healthy, and we have a lot of information about what we need to do to accomplish that. We need to eat the right foods in the right quantities, get plenty of rest, drink water and exercise. Everyone knows these things, but our lives are busy and although we want to be healthy, we may not take the time to do what is necessary to achieve it. We may grab fast food on the go, work too late or too much and become sleep deprived, and decide to sit and watch TV instead of getting the exercise we need. Maybe we think we’ll change later when things settle down, but life continues on, and rarely slows down for anyone. Time continues its march forward and before we know it, years may have passed and we haven’t done anything differently. We own every decision we make and the results that come. Many people believed the Titanic was unsinkable. After it hit the iceberg and started taking on water, some thought it wouldn’t be an issue and they’d be fine. When a few passengers started boarding the lifeboats, others remained behind, confident everything would be fine. The first lifeboats went out only half full, and when the Titanic tilted and began to sink, everyone panicked, and wanted one, but by then it was too late. We can do anything we like, but if we don’t do what is needed to get to the goals we desire, it’s like deciding not to get on the lifeboat. We may not sink in a ship, but we may suffer consequences we don’t want. Our lives are ours to design and we can create them any way we like. By deciding what we want the most, and then taking control of our decisions, we can reach any goal we desire. Everything is possible if we’re willing to do what is needed to make it ours. We are capable and wise, and when we’re ready, nothing is out of reach.

Change will never happen simply because we desire it. If we want something different, we actually have to do something different. Staying in a bad relationship, keeping an unfulfilling job, or repeating behaviors that bring us difficulty will never make us happy. Our happiness is important and we can change whatever we need to make sure we achieve it. We are powerful enough and brave enough to do anything we desire. We need only take the first step and continue forward, and we’ll reach the goal.

It’s good to be independent, but if we want to do something that is very difficult and we are unsure, we can ask for help. We all have different experiences and no matter what we’re trying to do, odds are someone will have information that will assist us. By reaching out to those around us, we can get the support we need to move forward and reach success. There is greatness inside us, and with persistence and determination, we can move mountains.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation and feel like you’re going under, trust yourself. Look at everything possible, and do what is needed to pave the road ahead. You have so much to offer. Be wise and make decisions that will move you closer to the goal. Nothing is out of reach. You are in control of your life and can do anything you desire. Decide what you want, and step forward. Every success is possible and you will prevail.

Not Biting

21 Sep

There are all kinds of people in the world and we’ll have all kinds of interactions with them. Most of the time things will go just fine, we’ll communicate and get along without issue and move on. But everyone is different and some people have very defined ideas about how things should go that may be completely different from our own viewpoint. They may demand that we respond or do something they want, and may apply serious pressure to get us to go along. They may even give us a mandatory time frame to respond or act by. People can make any demands they like, but we are in control of our own lives. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks we should do, we can make our own decisions. Just because the issue is imperative to them does not make it imperative to us. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do. The influence of others is only as powerful as we allow it to be and we have the right to live our lives according to our own desires and standards. While some people may think they’re in control of those around them, and do everything they can to press their views, we never have to take the bait. By not biting, and simply continuing forward according to our own desires and priorities, we can move through any difficult situation. We can be respectful and decline any suggestions offered. Our lives are ours to design, and when we are true to who we are and what we want, will find great satisfaction. We know who we are and where we want to go. We can set our own course and continue forward toward success.

Some people want everyone on the same page, agreeing and following along. They like conformity and are uncomfortable when others have different ideas they do not share. While it’s true that it’s often easier to move forward when others are involved if everyone stays within the lines set forth, we all have unique perspectives that are valuable and worthwhile. Sameness can only bring sameness. Different viewpoints and opinions bring depth and richness to every situation. Listening to everyone’s point of view will open new doors and enlighten the way forward.

If we want to make cookies, we must pull together many different kinds of ingredients. It’s impossible to make something delicious with just one item. A bowl full of flour is just a bowl full of flour. But if we add sugar, salt, eggs, chocolate chips and other ingredients, we end up with something wonderful. Our lives are the same way. By allowing all kinds of opinions and ideas and being open to new ways of doing things, we embellish the road ahead and enrich our experiences.

Today if someone is demanding that you do something their way and you have other ideas, be patient and polite, and then chart your own way forward. You are amazing and intelligent, and know what you want. Stand strong and step forward with clarity and purpose. Every destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.

Meant To Be

15 Sep

Everyone has their own ideas about life and what we should do. We’re all unique and can make any decisions we like. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, there is always another option possible, and we can choose our next steps whenever we’re ready. Sometimes things go wrong, what we want eludes us, our plans don’t work out and we get turned around. Those who care about us may tell us not to worry. They may say, “If it’s meant to be, it’ll work out.” People frequently say things like this as a way of easing pain or helping someone feel better. However, if things are “meant to be” outside of our control, it would mean that our lives have been programmed and there is no way to choose anything different. We are fated to experience whatever has been planned for us. Of course, that is complete nonsense. We all have free will and can do whatever we choose. There is no pre-destination in play and nothing is meant to be. Life is full of twists and turns, and we may get tangled up going in the wrong direction from time to time, but we are perfectly capable or redirecting our course and starting again. If what we want isn’t available right now, we can move onto something else. Change is constant and we may have the chance to reach the goal later. We’re in complete control of our lives. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward toward anything we desire, and be confident of success.

While most things are possible, they won’t all be possible today. We may have to wait until our situation changes, we’re in a new place, or circumstances have evolved in a way that allows us to succeed. If our goal involves other people, is dependent upon their alignment, and they don’t agree, we may not be able to accomplish the goal. Everyone has the right to choose anything they desire, and if they don’t want to go along, we may have to change our plans. There are unlimited things we can do and endless places to go. We can move in a new direction at any time, and continue on to something else.

It’s hard to be patient when we want something badly. If no matter what we do we can’t move forward, we can step back and think about how we want to proceed. We can look at all the options possible and decide on our next steps. Life is long and setting something aside for now doesn’t mean we’re giving up. Things change every day, and we can wait until the road clears, and try again. We are highly capable and intelligent, and will find our way forward.

Today if the goal you desire is out of reach, look at everything objectively and determine if it’s viable at this time. If not, move onto something else. There are unlimited options available and you have everything you need to prevail. Trust yourself, and step forward with clarity. You are really amazing have so much to offer. We’re all blessed because you are here. Step forward toward success, and make your dreams reality.