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Cold Wind

10 Oct

Life is filled with unexpected experiences. Sometimes there are surprises that suddenly and swiftly change our focus or direction. If the turn is beneficial we may be happy things changed but sometimes what comes isn’t what we want and we may stumble as we try to find our footing. If we experience something very upsetting we may be stunned and stopped in our tracks. We can only control what we do. The rest is like a game of chance. Maybe things will go the way we plan and maybe they won’t. When they don’t and the result is difficult we may struggle to push ahead. We may feel like a cold wind has consumed us and we are frozen in place. It can be hard to discern what to do next and we may need time to recover before we can chart our way forward. We may feel lost and unsure, as though our whole world has tilted away from us and we are alone and adrift, unable to recognize any landmarks to guide us. No matter what has happened or how devastating the change may be, we are still in control of our lives. No matter how much things shift we still know who we are and can be confident that we will succeed. Even if the challenge is extreme, even if we are in disbelief and must stand still for a moment, we have everything we need to start again. There is nothing we can’t overcome. No pain, no matter how intense, can last forever. The fog will lift, the winds will cease, and we will move forward. Trials can only test our strength. They can never stop us. We have everything we need to do anything we choose. We can change our direction and begin again.

If we have the air knocked out of us, we can bend over for a moment and wait for it to return. It will always return and we will recover. The same is true when we face very difficult unexpected developments. When things change suddenly we may need to stop, bend a little and wait. There is always plenty of air around us and we will find the way to breathe again and move forward

There are endless options available to us all the time. There is no one single way to live our lives. We have limitless choices we can make and infinite directions we can travel. No destination is ever too far or too difficult for us to reach. If we face an unexpected hill we cannot climb, we can reroute our course. If there is a sudden roadblock in our way, we can go around it. There isn’t anything we can’t comprehend and nothing is powerful enough to stop us. Difficulties may come, but we have everything we need to manage them. We are strong and powerful, and completely capable of finding success.

Today if something has happened that has suddenly changed everything, take a moment to see the situation clearly. There isn’t anything too difficult for you to understand and you will find your way forward. Your life belongs to you alone and you are in control. Decide what you want and then begin again. There isn’t anything out of reach. You are powerful and strong, and nothing will stop you. Be confident. You are amazing, and every success is waiting for you.

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Speeding Along

4 Oct

When we have a lot of things to do and we’re busy rushing from one point to the next, our days can pass by in a blur.  We may have dozens of tasks waiting for our attention and in an effort to get to them all we may rush forward trying to get as much done as possible.  Going faster will often help us get more things done but it’s possible to rush so quickly through our days that we forget our focus and what it is we’re actually trying to accomplish.  If there is pressure from others to hurry along we may find ourselves running from one place to another unaware of exactly what we’re doing.  We may end up engaging our auto pilot and just keep rushing forward.  Our days go by quickly even if we pay attention and if we’re distracted we may find days, even weeks have passed and we don’t remember how we spent the time.  Time is a commodity we can never replace.  It passes whether we pay attention or not, and once it’s gone can never be recaptured.  Getting so caught up in running forward may prevent us from having our fullest experiences while we’re here.  We can be successful in completing many tasks and still take the time we need to be aware and engaged, and enjoy each moment as it passes.  We are in control of every decision.  We can manage our time effectively and slow down enough to live our lives each moment.  This life is a precious gift.  Honoring it and being in control of our time will bring us great contentment and success.

We live in a “hurry up” world.  Never before have we been expected to accomplish more than we are today.  We are constantly bombarded with suggestions that we can go further faster, we can accomplish more with less, and we can do many things effectively at once.  While it’s often true that we may move faster, it doesn’t always follow that doing so will bring us success.  It doesn’t matter what others expect or what timeframe they follow.  We are in control of our decisions and we can plan our lives in ways that bring us both success and happiness.

As we travel along there are many clues and cues available to us with each step we take.  Sometimes the very answer we’re seeking is right in front of us but if we rush by too quickly we may miss it.  It’s impossible to think clearly about our objectives if our first priority is the speed with which we reach them.  Our days will pass no matter how we spend them.  We can do things in ways that work best for us, take the time we need to see everything clearly, and accomplish any task before us.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well.  We can achieve any success we desire and we can do it in our own timeframe.

Today if you’ve been pushed to rush faster and get to the goal more quickly, think about what you’re trying to accomplish and find the road that works best for you.  You know yourself better than anyone else and you know what you need to succeed.  Listen for inspiration and make the best choice going forward.  You are amazing and capable and nothing is out of reach.  Plan your time and move ahead with confidence.  Every destination is available to you.  Find success your way and happiness will follow.

Make Me

29 Sep

We know what we need to do and there may be times when we need someone else to accomplish something before we can move forward.  If they aren’t as motivated as we are we may have to wait.  We can only control ourselves and our decisions and even if we ask again and again, we may have to wait until the other party decides to complete the task.  It’s maddening when what’s important to us is reliant on someone else’s actions and they are not moving forward.  There is no way to make anyone do anything.  But if we cannot continue forward with a project or plan because someone else has stopped our progress we have options.  We can look for a way around the action we’re waiting for, we can develop another plan to move forward without the cooperation requested, or we can set the plan aside for now and work on other projects.  We don’t need to be held hostage any longer than we desire.  We are always in control of our own lives and if things don’t move forward in our first plan, we can create another one.  We don’t need to give up control of our progress forward.  There are always many ways to every goal.  If we must set the plan aside for now, we can, and return to it when everything is in place.  We are smart enough to find the way to any destination we desire.  We can adjust our trajectory and turn our course to find the way forward.

Some people are very internally focused.  They only want to work on their personal goals and if asked to help with someone else may agree, but then set it aside until they decide to address it.  Since their objectives revolve around their personal desires they may not recognize the importance of completing tasks to help others.  We don’t have to wait indefinitely for them to comply, and when we’re ready can find another way around the issue.  We can work around any obstacle and reach any goal.

There may be times when others don’t agree with a goal we’re seeking.  They may not believe it’s the best choice or feel it’s too difficult to achieve.  If we must work with them to get the job done we may face many obstacles if they question every decision we make.  Everyone has their own viewpoint about the road ahead and we may ask for their suggestions for ways to accommodate everyone’s ideas about how to move forward.  Bringing all the voices together may help us advance and find success even if there is dissention.  No goal is out of reach and we can patiently and thoughtfully move forward through complications and problems as they arise.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  Success is always available to us and we will achieve it.

Today if you’ve been waiting for someone to do something that will allow you to move forward and nothing has changed, review your options and find another way around the issue.  There are many roads and directions available and you will find the right way ahead.  Every goal is within your reach and you will achieve it.  Keep your eyes open.  All the answers you need are there for you.  Success is just ahead and you will find it.

One Inch

22 Sep

We can live our lives any way we choose.   We can do what we want, go where we want and make any decision that brings us what we’re seeking.  If we aren’t as happy or satisfied as we want to be we can change our plans.  But change can be difficult and we may hesitate, unsure that we will succeed.  Big changes in our lives don’t usually happen all at once.  Change comes step by step as we modify our behaviors and make different choices.  If we want to be more active we don’t have to go out and try to run five miles our first day, but we could choose to take a longer walk.  If we want to write a book we don’t have to complete it in a week.  We could write it one page at a time and day by day get closer to the goal.  We don’t have to change everything all at once.  We can take it step by step.  Every desired change can come into our lives if we move closer to them each day.  We can turn just a little, move forward one inch at a time and before we know it the change we sought will be within reach.  We can have the lives we dream of if we’re willing to do what is needed to achieve them.  Like turning a large ship, degree by degree we can adjust our trajectory forward until we’re headed in the direction we want the most.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.  We have all the wisdom and courage necessary to make changes that bring us complete fulfillment and happiness.  It’s all up to us and we can do anything.

Although we are in charge of our lives there may be times when others and situations around us take control.  We may find ourselves in routines and patterns that weren’t planned but evolved as we made one decision after another.  Over time if those routines don’t bring us satisfaction and joy we can change them.  We can alter how we move forward, modify how we interact, and decide on a new destination.  We can figure out exactly how we want things to go and if others are involved we can navigate around their needs.  Our lives belong to us exclusively and we can design them any way we choose.  We can do what makes us happy and brings us contentment.

Tradition is a powerful influence.  If we’re in a group where things have always been done one way and we decide to try something new, there may be dissension.  Even if someone knows us very well, nobody knows what we want and need better than we do.  We don’t have to go along just because it’s the way things have been done in the past.  We can go our own way, choose our own path and design our futures to fulfill our unique desires.  We are all precious and valuable, and deserve every happiness.  We can take control and do what is needed to achieve the things we want the most and find complete fulfillment and joy in our lives.

Today if you feel like you’re on a path that isn’t taking you where you want to go, change your direction and plan your way forward.  Every goal is within reach and there isn’t anything you can’t do.  Modify your course and direct it to the things that will bring you complete fulfillment and joy.  This is your life and you deserve every happiness.  Every door is there for you to open.  Move forward with confidence and all your dreams will come true.

One Way

20 Sep

We make millions of choices as we go through our lives.  Sometimes we see only one path that fits where we want to go, and other times there may be many versions that will work and we must decide which to choose.  No matter where we’re headed or how far down the road we’ve traveled, we may face a moment when we need to change our focus.  Maybe the original goal is no longer what we want, the destination looks different the closer we get, or our circumstances have changed and what worked before will no longer fit.  We can go in any direction we choose at any time.  Life is not a one way street and we can change lanes, turn around, or adjust our journey whenever we desire.  If we’ve been on the same path for a while and have invested a lot of time and energy moving forward we may think we must go all the way to the end, even if the destination there is no longer where we want to go.  Nobody wants to waste their time and energy but as we’ve traveled we’ve learned new things, probably met new people and experienced new horizons.  None of that is wasted time.  It doesn’t matter how far we’ve come, and it doesn’t matter how much time we’ve taken.  We can change direction.  Our dreams and desires may change as we go through our days and our choices can change with them.  We are always in control of what we’re doing and where we’re headed.  We know what we want and we know where to go.  Choosing what’s best for us, even if it means a change, empowers us going forward.  We can be confident in the road ahead and create our lives any way we want them.

If we take time to think about where we want to go we’ll be more successful in finding the right road forward.  There are limitless places to find and they are all available to us.  If we jump to decisions before determining exactly what we want, we may discover we’re constantly changing direction and going nowhere.  Choosing well will help us complete the journey and find satisfaction.  Everything is possible and no destination is too far away or too difficult to reach.  We can decide what we want, plan our way forward, and reach success.

We may find ourselves at the end of a journey only to find the goal we were seeking isn’t exactly what we hoped for.  Sometimes we don’t have all the information before we begin or the destination is different than we imagined.  We can continue on from where we are and move forward to the place we desire.  Life is all about learning.  We learn with each step we take and the lessons we gain go forward with us.  There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish and if we end up somewhere that doesn’t fit we can simply modify our way ahead.  All destinations are available to us and nothing is out of reach.  We have all the wisdom and confidence we need to find success.

Today if you’ve been on a long road to a destination you’ve been hoping for but aren’t sure it’s what you really want, take a moment to think about the way ahead and choose the best direction going forward.  You can go anywhere and do anything you desire.  You are capable and strong and nothing is out of reach.  Keep moving forward. All your dreams are waiting for you and they are just ahead.

Sidelines

18 Sep

When we go to an event and aren’t performing, we sit on the sidelines.  It’s fun to be observers of things we enjoy and sitting on the sidelines watching can be gratifying and exciting.  In our lives we have countless opportunities to join into different activities and decisions.  Sometimes we may sit back and watch as things progress but other times it’s important to be involved.  If we are unsure about what will happen or feel concerned about the outcome, we may decide to sit it out, simply choosing to wait and see what happens.  For some situations that may work but if we don’t participate and our voice isn’t heard we will have no influence over what comes.  If the issue is very important to us, stepping back and letting things simply roll out as they will may not bring us the results we’re hoping for.  We know what we want and the only way to ensure the road goes to the destination we desire is to be involved.  The sidelines are great when the show doesn’t involve us but in our personal lives, allowing others to make decisions that impact us and not speaking up will never take us where we want to go.  We are wise enough to know the way forward, and strong enough to do what it takes to get there.  Our lives belong to us and allowing someone else to decide what they’ll look like will never bring us happiness.  We know what we want and what we need, and have all the power and control necessary to make it happen.

When we have someone in our lives who has a forceful and strong personality and they disagree with the decisions we make we may find ourselves acquiescing to their opinions even we want to do something else.  It may seem easier just to agree with them than try to make them understand our point of view.  The first time it may seem like no big deal, and then the second time comes, and then the third and before we know it we may find we’re in a pattern of doing everything they suggest without questioning.  Even if someone strongly disagrees with us, we can do things our way.  We don’t have to explain our point of view, we don’t need permission, and everyone doesn’t have to agree.  We know who we are and what we want, and we can forge our own path regardless of the opinions of others.

Sitting on the sidelines when there are complex issues to solve may be easier than getting involved and being part of the decisions going forward.  If we don’t voice our opinion, nobody can disagree.  If we don’t give a suggestion, nobody can ignore it.  But everyone has something to share and we all have a perspective with valuable insights.  The way we see things is unique and worthwhile, and sharing it with others will bring us great growth and satisfaction.  We are powerful and wise, and the world needs our input.  We are brave enough to join in, speak our minds, and share in the experience.

Today if you’ve been sitting on the sidelines and not joining in with the issues around you, speak up.  You insights are unique and your opinion is valuable.  Be confident.  You can change the world by sharing who you are.  You have so much to offer and we all need to hear your perspective.

Connections

14 Sep

There are billions of people on the earth. We will never meet them all but we are connected to them in many ways. We influence each other constantly as we navigate our lives. Whether we’re aware of it or not, we change every situation we’re in just because we’re there. We have more influence on those around us than we may realize. If we’re happy and feel good, our positive energy will show and those who see it will be drawn to us. We have the power to lift others by our example and can be a great influence for good. Conversely, if we’re struggling we may push others away. The impact we make is up to us. Our connections to those around us may be invisible but will always be present. We can be mindful of our influence and remember how important we are in everything we do. We can share ourselves in ways that are comfortable and allow others to share with us in return. When we keep our connections strong we feel more confident and supported. We’re all in this together and that bond can be the glue that takes us from trial to success. We have millions of brothers and sisters around us who can help us through difficult trials and rejoice with us when things go well.

We all process trouble differently. Some people like to talk things out with others, some people bury themselves in activity as a way to get through, and some of us just want to be left alone. Being alone can give us the space we need to clear our heads and find the answers we seek. It can be helpful for a time but being locked away will also keep the influence of others away. Everyone has different experiences and someone near us may know things about our situation that are helpful. We can reach out to those we trust and allow them to share their advice with us. A different perspective may open new options we hadn’t considered and those options may help us find our way forward more easily.

There is a grove of over 40,000 aspen trees growing in a forest that are not individual organisms but in essence all one tree. They share the same network of roots and each tree is a clone of the one next to it. In some ways, we are like that grove of trees. Although we are all individuals, as people we share a common ancestry and even though our desires are different our needs are the same. We can lean on each other in times of discomfort and enjoy each other’s company when things go well. Remembering and strengthening our connections to those around us will bring us comfort and confidence, and help us find new ways forward to success.

Today if you’ve set yourself apart and are facing a problem alone, remember the help available from those around you. Reach out for answers and let others in. We’re all cheering for your success. You’re a valuable member of the team and we’re glad you’re here. You deserve the very best of everything. Strengthen your connections to those around you and let them help you make your dreams come true.