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Being the Fly

19 Jan

“Will you walk into my parlour?” said the Spider to the Fly…” Mary Howitt

Many of us have heard the story of the spider and the fly. The spider lures the fly into its web with flattering words and compliments, and in the end the fly is captivated and then is captured. In life, there are all kinds of people with all kinds of ideas and agendas. If they want us to join them, they may flatter and cajole us, offering us gifts or constant attention. If we’re careful and sure of ourselves, we may see through the manipulation and be able to walk away, but there may be times we miss the mark. We might align ourselves with someone who looks like a friend and ally, only to discover once we’re next to them that they are completely different than we thought. Once the shine of newness and flattery is gone, the stark truth of what’s happening will appear. If we’ve been caught up in something we don’t want, we aren’t doomed to stay forever. It doesn’t matter what we’ve been promised, or how much they reassure us that what we can plainly see isn’t the truth. We’re in control of our lives and can step away from anything that makes us uncomfortable or is heading somewhere we don’t want to go. Nobody knows everything and there will likely be times when we’ll be deceived. We may have been the fly at the beginning, but we are never so entangled we can’t escape. Once the truth is clear, we can decide how we want to proceed, and choose the best road forward. Nothing can hold us down indefinitely, and with courage, and wisdom we can do what is needed to correct our course at any time, and continue forward toward success.

If we want to convince someone to do something, we might embellish facts, or leave out information that may dissuade them from agreeing. We can do anything we like, but truth is powerful and will eventually rise and become evident. Bending details, and glossing over problems in an effort to get someone’s support may work at the beginning, but as time marches on, all the flaws and issues we left out will show themselves. It’s far better to be completely honest and upfront, explain the facts as they are, and let those around us decide for themselves.

When we are captivated by someone, it may be hard to see everything as it truly is. If they are very attractive, we may be blinded by their beauty and unable to clearly focus on what is real. It’s exciting to feel the thrall of attraction, but we can take our time and stop for a moment to look at everything objectively. Infatuation is intense and fleeting, but we can keep our wits about us and hold fast to reality. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and patience, we can make our dreams come true.

Today if you’re being lured to do something you aren’t sure of, think about what you really want. You are intelligent and wise and can discern what is real. Decide what you want the most, and step forward with determination and focus. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Be confident and strong. Every single destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.

Pushed Beyond

14 Jan

Everyone has dreams and goals they want to achieve, and places they want to go. We can do anything we like but how we proceed depends on a lot of factors. Timing is everything. There may be times when something we want is out of reach and nothing we do can bring it closer. When that happens, we can set it aside for a while until the situation changes and then try again. If we’re focused and determined we can generally get to whatever goal we’re seeking. But that doesn’t mean we have to push ourselves beyond our limits. We don’t have to work on the goal 24/7 and sacrifice everything else in our lives, seeing only the one destination to the exception of all others. Giving everything up to the exclusion of one desire, and doing nothing but working on that constantly, pushing ourselves beyond what is reasonable, may create serious complications that come back to bite us. We don’t have to destroy our personal lives and health to reach any goal or prove we are worth some standard we have set. Instead of only seeing the prize at the end, we can focus on our personal growth and progress, and find the way forward with calm and confidence. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and we don’t have to do everything all at once. We are valuable and a great blessing to the world just as we are. Whatever goals we accomplish will enhance our experience and bring us greater satisfaction. There is no rush to reach success. It will always be there for us, and with consistency and determination, we can do anything we desire. Every day is a blessing, and we have everything we need to find great success.

When we want something badly, it’s hard to patiently work through whatever is needed to make it ours. If we want to lose weight, we may decide it all needs to come off this week. We know it took us a lot longer to gain it, but we want it off – like now. Instead of looking at the situation realistically, we may starve ourselves or exercise our bodies into complete exhaustion thinking we can make things change immediately. Extreme measures rarely work, and the costs we have to pay for them may be high. By taking the time necessary to logically think through what is appropriate and reasonable, we can come up with a plan that works effectively, and helps us reach our goal.

The influence of others often comes into play when we’re trying to accomplish something. They may tell us how they think we should proceed, and give us all kinds of suggestions. We can certainly take any advice offered, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what will work, and how to proceed in ways that take us to success. By trusting ourselves and being patient, every goal is possible. Nothing is out of reach and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been pushing yourself to exhaustion trying to reach a goal, stop and think about all the options possible. You are completely capable of accomplishing anything you desire. Make a workable plan and step forward with confidence. Every destination is already there for you, and with patience and clarity, you will reach them all.

Screen Door

10 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life with few complications and problems. We can try to make decisions that will prevent things from going wrong and try to manipulate our lives so we don’t get tangled up in situations we don’t want. We can avoid heights to prevent falling, wear gloves to avoid germs, be more cautious in every activity to try to dodge any possible pain and suffering, and do everything we can think of to control what happens next. We can do everything possible to stay within the lines, and still, even with all our doings, life is going to happen. We can control what we do, but that’s where it ends. We have no control over anything else. The rain is going to fall, things will go wrong, and we’re going to get enmeshed in trouble from time to time. It’s the nature of life. Trying to control our future or stop anything we can’t control is like trying to hold back a flood with a screen door. Doors are designed to keep things out or keep things in, but a screen door will never hold back a flood. The water will come rushing through even if we lock it tight and lean against it. Nobody gets a charmed life with only sunshine and paved roads. We’re all going to face challenges, trials, problems, crap we never imagined and countless other annoying and difficult situations. We may suffer greatly, get our hearts crushed, and feel completely destroyed. Hard times may come but no matter what happens, we will survive. We may have to stop for a time to find our way through, but there isn’t anything strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely. By trusting ourselves, making good decisions, and standing with confidence, we can unravel any issue and find resolution. All our dreams are possible, and we have everything we need to reach every destination. Complete success is there for us, and we will make it ours.

It might seem that if we keep our lives small, do the same things every day and don’t try anything new, we’ll be protected from problems and trouble. Avoiding risks may keep us from getting hurt in some ways, but if we never take a chance on something new, we’ll never know what we’re capable of accomplishing. Doing the same things will only take us to the same places. The whole world is there for us and every possibility awaits. We are stronger and more capable than we imagine and can reach anything we desire.

Traveling a new road can be daunting. We don’t know what lies around the next bend or when the road will turn. It can be unsettling to step into the unknown, but foreign territory is only foreign until we make it ours. As we take each step forward, the way ahead will open and we’ll see more. If we keep going, our courage will increase and we’ll overcome every obstacle with confidence and clarity. We have so much to offer, and there is so much we can do. We can step forward, sure of success, and as we conquer one road after another, we’ll find great excitement and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been trying to keep everything in line and controlled, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing will come that you cannot manage. You are amazing and stronger than you imagine. Be confident and step forward with courage. Every destination is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Dismissed

13 Dec

Everyone is unique, and there are endless ideas, expressions, interpretations, and beliefs.  We can design our lives any way we like, but we have no control over what others choose or what they do. It’s good to be polite and accepting of different viewpoints and decisions, and there is great richness to be gained by including those who are different than we are.  There is unlimited variety in all things, and we don’t all have to travel the same roads to reach success.  Although many of us understand and accept differences, some people are very sure their way is the only right way and will not tolerate anything else. They may demean others who choose a different path, criticize lifestyles and decisions, and lord over those who are too timid to stand up to their demands.  Being confident is one thing – being dictatorial and oppressive is something else.  Dismissing others who have a different viewpoint, calling them names, or isolating them will never bring anything positive.  Nobody alive has all the answers.  The smartest people on earth don’t know everything. We can do anything we like, go anywhere we want, and adopt any philosophy or belief we desire.  Every decision involving our lives is up to us, but that’s where it ends.  We have no authority to design anyone else’s life.  Everyone has the right to choose their own journey, regardless of what others think.  Being different does not mean being less.  We can be confident and sure of everything we choose, and allow others the same freedom.  By walking side by side, instead of forcing everyone to follow us, we will learn more about ourselves and the world around us.  There is greatness in us all.  By sharing our very best with those around us, we will embellish everyone.

Some people talk a lot about diversity and inclusion.  They expound on how important it is to accept others, but when someone has a different viewpoint from theirs, their ideas of acceptance sometimes fall away, and criticism and ridicule take their place. There is no way to be inclusive of others and then target those who don’t conform and exclude them from the conversation.  We don’t all have to agree to have value.  We’re valuable just as we are.  We can accept differences, even when we don’t like them.  By extending the hand of friendship, despite disagreements, we will make many great connections and build strong relationships.

Politics can be a contentious issue.  Some feel very strongly about their specific point of view and although they may say they are for including others, if someone is on the opposite side of the political aisle, they may dismiss them or worse.  Differences are a part of normal life, and we’re all entitled to our own opinions, no matter what others think.  By understanding we all have worth, and every idea is valuable, we can be cooperative and supportive despite disagreement.  We have so much to offer and being kind and welcoming will help us bring great light to the world. 

Today if you’re dismissing someone because their ideas don’t make sense to you, stop and think again.  Different viewpoints bring great depth and richness to our experience.  Step forward and listen to every viewpoint.  Everyone has a unique gift to offer.  Honor differences even when you don’t like them, and be open to everyone. You are such a great blessing to the world.  Give us your best, and we’ll all succeed. 

Who’s In Charge

10 Nov

There are lots of people in our lives. Everyone is unique and they all have their own ideas about how things should go. If they are very confident they know what’s right, they may share their opinions with those around them, whether they ask for them or not. Those who are loud and confident may press us into following them and doing what they say. If we let them, they may take control of our decisions and we may end up far from where we want to go. It can be hard to stand up to someone in authority whose ideas are different than our own. We may start out going along just to keep the peace, but if we continue to follow along, we may end up simply making choices without thinking. Every road has a destination and we’ll eventually end up wherever it leads. Chances are we’ll be fine whatever happens, but being fine isn’t the same thing as being happy. It doesn’t matter what those around us want, and it doesn’t matter where they think we should go. We are in control of our lives, and when we’re ready, can take charge of the journey and move toward what we want the most. Our lives are ours to design. We don’t have to do anything like anyone else. We can choose where we want to go, and then do what is necessary to reach every destination. There is greatness in us all, and with focus and determination, we can have the lives we want the most.

The influence of family can be great. There may be intense pressure to keep certain traditions and do things that are agreeable to everyone. We can certainly do anything we like, and if we want to avoid conflict, can keep a low profile and just do as requested. We own every decision we make and are responsible for our own happiness. If we want something different, we can have it. We can be polite and honor the decisions of others, and then make our own choices. Every dream is possible, and when we’re ready, nothing can hold us in place.

Life is like a box of crayons. Just like all the colors, there are many different ideas and expressions possible. Everyone doesn’t have to be blue, or red to fit in. We can express our own individual desires and dreams, and choose the roads we want the most. Our differences bring great richness and depth to our lives. We’re in control of our own destinies, and can reach any goals we desire.

Today if you’re being pressured to follow someone else’s road, remember how unique and extraordinary you are. You bring great light and blessing to the world just as you are. Decide what you want the most, and begin your journey. Be confident and strong. You are amazing and powerful, and every success is there for you.