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Confidence

12 Aug

Personal confidence is a great asset. It’s buoys us up if we doubt and gives us courage for what lies ahead. We feel confident when we know what we’re doing and the outcomes we desire are easy to achieve. It’s easy to feel strong and capable when we know the road ahead and have been successful in managing it in the past. Personal confidence grows when we achieve the goals we desire and move forward down the roads we choose. It’s good to be confident and feel in control, and able to prevail. But life is filled with all kinds of surprises and unknowns, and we will eventually come upon a situation where we have to do something we’ve not only never done before, but doubt we can achieve. Having to step forward when we’re unsure will test our resolve and challenge us in ways that may be uncomfortable and difficult. We don’t know what will happen, and we may not believe we’ll get through. We may not believe we’ll succeed or even survive the test, but we’re stronger than we think we are, and no matter what we must do, can find the courage to accomplish it. We will always have enough strength and determination to face whatever may come. We already possess great reserves of tenacity and fearlessness, and we can pull from deep within to get whatever tools we need to succeed. Nothing is too difficult or complex for us to manage. Even if we’re scared, uncertain or worried, we can trust ourselves to step forward and find our way. We can test our confidence and prevail. There is no road too hard, no hill too high, and no path too steep for us to overcome. We can do anything we desire and every goal is possible.

All our dreams are possible and we can set our sights on any destination we want. Others around us may not believe we can succeed, and may try to dissuade us from pursuing a goal out of fear that we’ll fail. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. We don’t need agreement or permission to go after our dreams. We may take any advice we like, and then continue forward toward the goals we’ve chosen. We are powerful and capable, and nothing is out of reach.

Believing we can win is the first step in every endeavor. If we aren’t sure we can manage it, and think we’ll try but feel pretty confident we won’t prevail, we will fail. It’s unlikely we’ll accomplish anything despite ourselves. Generally, if we don’t think we can do something, odds are we won’t be able to do it. However, if we are determined to prevail, and decide we’ll push through whatever may be in the way, nothing will keep us from our goal. There isn’t any destination too far away, or accomplishment too difficult for us to manage. We are strong and wise, and can have the lives we want.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and don’t feel confident you can overcome the obstacles in front of you, remember how strong and powerful you are. You are more capable than you think you are, and can do anything you decide to do. Be confident and step forward. The goal is reachable and nothing will keep you from it. All your dreams can come true, and you will prevail.

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The Gift

8 Aug

We have all kinds of responsibilities and tasks to get done. Some are routine and we’re used to managing them, but other stuff comes up and if we’re facing something difficult or unpleasant, we may put it off and try to avoid it. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to deal with it, and we would love someone else to volunteer to take it off our hands. When we have a lot to carry, it would be very convenient to hand everything that’s weighing on us over to someone else and walk away. Just leave it with them and let them deal with it. We can try that and we might be able to get rid of a few things but nobody is going to forget the little gift we gave them, and in time, they may bring us an even bigger one to deal with in return. Fair is fair, and if we expect others to take care of our crap, we have to be willing to take care of theirs. Since there is no way to know how big their issues might be, it’s better to stand firm, and manage the issues we have on our own. It doesn’t usually work to push our problems off on others but that doesn’t mean others won’t try to push their troublesome tasks off onto us. If we’re open and welcoming, they may simply hand them off and ask us to take care of them. We might be okay with that once in a while, but if it becomes habit, it might seriously impact our time and our relationship. Everyone is responsible for their own lives and their own responsibilities. We don’t have to solve anyone else’s problems or carry their burdens for them. Our lives will bring us enough to manage, and if we manage it well, and take care of things as they arise, we will feel great satisfaction as we move forward. Our confidence will rise and we’ll find great success.

Some people need more attention and help than others. They may be unsure of their abilities, need more information, they may be confused, or they may just be lazy. Whatever the case, if we’re asked to help, we can certainly step up and try to assist. But helping with an issue isn’t taking ownership of it. The problem does not belong to us and we are never responsible for solving it. We can help where possible and offer any advice we may have, and allow those who own the problem to find the answers they need.

There are all kinds of problems and complications in life. Nobody can solve them all or save anyone else. We can take care of our own issues and, when possible, help those around us take care of theirs. We are strong enough for anything our life brings, and can solve any problem or face any trial that arises. If asked, we can help those around us, but we can never carry the load for everyone else. We can be considerate and try to assist, but the responsibility for the success of others lies with them. We can take care of our responsibilities, share when we can, and find great success and happiness moving forward.

Today if someone has asked you take on a problem that belongs to them, you need not agree. Be helpful, but let others manage their own issues, and give the gift of self-reliance. You are incredible and wise, and we’re all enriched by your presence. Set the best example moving forward and the whole world will benefit.

Escape

6 Aug

Life is full of options and opportunities. Every single day brings something new into our lives, and new people will come and go as time passes. Sometimes we make lasting relationships and spend significant time with someone, getting to know them well, and incorporating them into our lives. If our values are similar, and we’re interested in the same things, those bonds may be very strong. It’s good to make close connections but it won’t happen with everyone we meet. We may have passing interactions with people we see once and don’t see again. As we’re getting to know someone and begin to build rapport with them, we learn more about them. We might find we have lots in common, or we may discover their true attributes are nothing we want to be involved with. Maybe they’re dishonest, or make horrible decisions that bring grief and destruction to everyone around them, or they have deep, hidden hatred for others. We never have to stay in any situation or relationship that makes us uncomfortable. We can always step back, and step away. There is no reason to continue an association that isn’t working or that will bring us discomfort. Escape is always an option in every circumstance, no matter what’s going on. We can choose another path and go our own way. We are never inexorably tied to anyone else. Our lives belong to us and we can manage them in ways that are positive and work well. If someone around us is doing things we don’t want, or is making decisions that don’t work for us, we can walk away. We’re all responsible for the lives we live. Every choice we make takes us somewhere, and we can ensure where we’re headed is where we want to go. Every blessing is possible and there are unlimited roads to travel. We can have the lives we dream about and find great, abiding happiness.

Most of us try to be helpful and want to be patient with others who are struggling. We can be supportive but it’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves. It never works to try to fix someone else’s life for them. Everyone owns their own problems and must find their own solutions. We’re not responsible for saving anyone else, and we need not accept or excuse bad behavior, or go along with bad decisions. We can set an excellent example for success, and step forward with confidence and clarity.

We may be asked to help when someone has twisted their lives up and don’t know what to do. We can be kind and offer any advice we feel appropriate, but they must solve their problems on their own. Getting tangled up in the confusion of someone else’s mistakes will not help them find resolution. We can be supportive and still allow them to do what is needed to resolve their situation. We all have everything we need to find the way forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that’s uncomfortable, and you don’t want to continue, you can step away. You know what’s best for you and how you want to proceed. Take control and do what is needed to change direction and start again. You are valuable and important, and can go anywhere. Make the best decisions moving forward and you will reach your goals. Nothing can keep you from the life you desire.

Two Wrongs

5 Aug

Every decision we make takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and careful, and take time to see the road ahead before we choose, we have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. There’ll always be unforeseen complications and details we don’t know about, and sometimes things will go wrong. But most of the time, if we consider all our options, we can make excellent choices that bring us the results we desire. If we get involved in a situation where someone has a lot of influence over us and asks us to do something we aren’t sure about, we may hesitate. If they’re forceful and determined to push us their way, despite our concerns, we may acquiesce and go along. Sometimes other people’s decisions will work out for us but other times we may end up headed for trouble. We always have the choice to change direction and start again, but if we’re swept up under someone’s influence, we may feel powerless to turn around. One bad decision may lead to another, and then another, and before we know it, we’re in foreign and difficult territory, far from where we want to be. Two wrongs can never make anything right. They don’t cancel each other out, and continuing on the wrong road in the hopes that somehow it will magically turn into the right one, will never work. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter what others choose or how much pressure they bring in an effort to take us along, we can make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to anything we don’t want. Nobody knows more about where we want to go than we do. We can have the lives we desire most by making careful choices that lead us to the destinations we want. Every blessing is possible and with patience and determination, we will find true happiness.

Some people like to control others to get what they want. If we have something they want, they may do all kinds of things to try and make us give it. If we don’t agree, they may manipulate the situation to pressure us into compliance. It’s very difficult and unpleasant to deal with situations like these, and if being honest and straightforward doesn’t work, we may consider something underhanded in an effort to escape. We’re always accountable for everything we do, and there is no excuse powerful enough to turn bad behavior into good. Choosing well will always bring blessings. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to make decisions that reflect our high standards and hold fast to what is noble and right.

If we go along with a bad decision that complicates and negatively impacts our life, we can stay with it and hope things will improve, or stop and rethink the way forward. No decision is written in stone and we can change direction at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to correct our course. Every road is possible and with determination and focus, we can move toward the destinations we want the most.

Today if someone is pressuring you to make a choice you don’t agree with, stand firm and choose what’s best for you. You’re in control of your life and can go anywhere you desire. Every option is available and you will find the right way forward. Choose roads that will take you where you want to go, and make your dreams come true.

Piling On

18 Jul

Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and sometimes it seems like it twists and turns right on top of us. We can manage any complication that comes along, but when they come linked together, it can get crazy. We get up in the morning and discover there’s no water because there’s been a water main break somewhere, then the microwave door explodes open for no apparent reason and throws hot food all over us, the car developed a flat tire overnight, and we can’t find our keys. It can happen, or any of a million variations on the theme. We’ve all been there and will probably go there again. Sometime it’s like a chain reaction – one thing goes wrong, and then another, and another and we’re left standing confused and overwhelmed. It’s hard to explain when trouble piles on and we may feel we’re cursed or doomed in some way. Of course, that’s not possible. The whole world hasn’t turned against us, and nobody orchestrated this to drive us crazy. When a combination of unrelated troubling events come together, they may stop us in our tracks. Lots of things can always go wrong, but they can always be turned back around. The water main will be repaired, the microwave can be adjusted, the flat tire can be fixed and we will find our keys. Instead of seeing roadblocks as a complete stop and getting upset, we can see them as merely a detour in our plans, and confidently and capably manage them. We can maintain our composure and see everything clearly so we can plan our next steps. Everything we do teaches us something of value, and no matter how dire the circumstance, there will always be something for which to be grateful. Our worst day will have blessings for us. We are strong and smart, and nothing can overcome us. We can continue moving forward no matter what’s in the way, and find success.

When we’re furious and angry, it’s impossible to reason clearly. It might feel good to vent all our frustration and tell the whole world how mad we are, but it won’t help us find the answers we need. Even if everything goes wrong and we’re completely frustrated, we can keep our composure and think clearly. Everything we need is already there for us and with patience and self-control, we will more easily find the way forward.

We can never predict what will happen next and there is no way to prepare for the unknown. No matter how well we plan, something may go wrong. There may be no way to continue on the road ahead and we may have to completely regroup and find another possibility. It’s not easy to change direction and start again, but we are more powerful than we realize and can do anything we must to find our way. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we will prevail.

Today if everything seems to be going wrong and the road ahead has disappeared, trust yourself and be confident. You are wise and intelligent, and nothing can keep you from success. There will always be another way forward, and you will find it. Look at all the options available and start again. Every success is possible, and you will reach it.

Dark Shadows

17 Jul

Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything, and go anywhere we want. It’s nice to have agreement from those around us when we make decisions, but their agreement doesn’t have to be a deciding factor. We don’t need permission for our choices and can do whatever we feel is best for us, even if we must go alone. Everyone has their own opinions and ideas, and we might decide to do something that someone close to us opposes. They may try to dissuade us and if that doesn’t work, may resort to criticism and ridicule. They may tell us we’re heading down a dark road and will face problems and suffering because of our decision. While it’s true we’ll all make at least one disappointing choice in our lives, it’s also true that we’re in control of our lives, and if things go wrong, we can turn and correct the situation. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves and nobody else has our personal intuition or insight. We are capable of choosing the best roads ahead and can reach any destinations we desire. If those around us don’t agree, they may stay behind. We can move forward on our own and achieve any goals we set. Dark shadows may fall on us, but we have everything we need to move back into the light. We can choose the roads that will take us closer to where we want to be, and make decisions that will ensure success. If the road turns and things get complicated, we know how to adjust our direction and find the way forward. Everything we desire is possible and nothing is beyond our reach. We can create the lives we want the most and move forward with confidence that we will succeed.

Change is a challenge for everyone. Some people are more resistant to it than others, and will do whatever is necessary to keep things the same. If we propose something new, they may react strongly and refuse to agree. If we need their cooperation to move forward and can’t get it, we may have to set the goal aside until our situation changes. If cooperation isn’t necessary, we may listen patiently to any comments and advice we may receive, and then proceed to move forward on our own. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we desire.

We may face a time when someone wants us to do something we’re uncomfortable with. Maybe we’re unsure we can succeed, or the road ahead is unknown and complicated. If we’re compelled to participate, we can trust ourselves to find the way forward. If things go well, we’ll find satisfaction in success. If they falter and we stumble, we’ll learn from the experience. There is something to be gained no matter what happens. Every step teaches us something of value, and we are wise enough to gain from each lesson.

Today if you’ve decided to change your direction and those around you disagree, decide what you want the most. You don’t need permission to design your life. Every possibility is available and you can do anything you desire. Step forward on the road that will take you where you most want to go. Your success is waiting, and will bring you great happiness and satisfaction.

Vertical World

10 Jul

There are endless opportunities all around us every day. We can do anything we like and go to unlimited locations. When we look around, there is always something new to see. There are others sharing the journey with us, and endless experiences waiting to be enjoyed. However, if we only have our eyes trained on the road ahead, we may miss them. It’s good to be focused and determined to move forward, and we can accomplish a lot by staying true to the road we’re on. If we want to be the first, the best, the fastest, or the most successful, we may only look for ways to move us closer to the goal. Being competitive and eager may push us forward but as we’re advancing, it may be hard to think of anything but the road ahead. We may hold tight to an invisible vertical line that points straight to the destination we desire and fail to notice anything else. If we don’t waver, odds are we’ll succeed in our endeavors, but as with everything in life, there will be trade-offs. We may miss connections with those around us, the companionship of working together, and the chance to learn from those who are walking beside us. Staying in a vertical world will limit our ability to gain knowledge from those with experiences we desire, or build relationships that may open doors for us in the future. Every dream is possible and we certainly have everything we need to prevail at anything we want to do. Allowing others to share the road with us, and learning from their experiences may provide much valuable information and insight. Nobody knows everything. We can strive for success and still reach out to those beside us. The relationships we build and the companionship we share will make the journey easier and more rewarding. Every success is possible and we can achieve anything we desire. Allowing others to join us moving forward will bring great satisfaction and fulfillment.

The fastest way to get from point A to point B is a straight line. Everyone understands this, but rarely in our lives will it be possible to travel in them. Most of the time the road bends, there are detours, construction, and things in the way. We can always modify our direction to get around whatever is blocking the road ahead, and when we do, we learn new things and see new places. We can reach every destination but we may not reach it exactly when we planned. Learning to be flexible and alter our course when needed will help us find the success we desire.

There is no time frame for success. We may set a deadline for completing something and do everything in our power to make sure we get everything done, and still we may be diverted along the way. A delay isn’t a failure. If things get backed up and we can’t move forward, we can look at all the options possible and find another way. There will always be another road and nothing can keep us from reaching our goals.

Today if you’ve been focusing only on the way forward and have kept your eyes on each step ahead, remember those around you. Look beside you and extend yourself to others. Success will come. There is great happiness waiting for you. Share the journey with others, and together you will prevail.