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Small Moves

19 Jan

Nobody gets a perfect life and we all have things we’d like to change about ourselves or our situation. They may be big alterations like wanting to move to a new location or changing our careers. Big changes take a lot of planning and encompass many moving parts that may be complex and difficult to navigate. But not everything we want to change is all encompassing. There may be smaller things we’d like to alter, like exercising more or taking more time for friends and family. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but lots of things will happen on their own. Life has its own rhythm and if we just coast along we’ll end up in a lot of places and do a lot of things, but they may not be the things we want the most. Routine is comfortable and even if we dream of something different, unless we focus and decide to do what is necessary to make them ours, we might just go from day to day and let things remain the same. Change requires effort and will likely push us out of our comfort zones. Thinking about everything and looking at the whole picture may be overwhelming, and instead of jumping in and starting, we may back away thinking we can’t do it. In reality, we can do anything we really want to do, but we can’t do it all at once. Instead of trying to make lots of changes right away, we can break it down into small moves that are easy to manage. Small moves are just as effective as big ones, and each step we take will move us a little closer to the goal. In time, if we persist, we’ll reach the destination. Success is always possible and there is no rush to reach it. We can make small changes and take our time. As we move closer, we’ll gain more confidence and see everything more clearly. We can have the lives we desire most. Every single destination is possible, and we have everything we need to make them ours.

Rome wasn’t built in a day. Historians believe it took approximately 1,010,450 days to construct. That’s a lot of time and effort to create one city. We won’t ever need that much time to complete any goal we desire, but it helps to remember we have all the time we need to get it done, and we don’t have to hurry to get there. We can plan our time effectively and move forward at a pace that allows us to feel comfortable and still achieve the goal.

When we want something badly, we may try to rush to obtain it. If we suddenly decide we’re finally going to lose the twenty pounds we’ve gained over the last five years, we may take drastic measures to make it happen fast. Making big moves to achieve a goal may seem like a good idea at the beginning, but it’s hard to maintain behaviors that require us to make big changes immediately. We’ll be more successful making reasonable alterations we can stick to that lead us step by step to success.

Today if you’ve decided you want to make a change, think about small moves that will take you to the goal. You really are so amazing and capable and can accomplish anything you set your mind to. Decide what you want, and then step forward with confidence. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed. With persistence, you can make all your dreams come true, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Demanding More

12 Jan

Everyone on earth is valuable. We all have unique gifts to give that no one else can offer. Our talents differ with our strengths and weaknesses, and the great expanse of differences brings depth and richness to the world. It’s good to be positive and self-confident, but if we get ahead of ourselves, at some point we might begin to believe we are better, smarter or more capable than everyone else around us. We may demand more attention, more money, or more influence than we currently possess. If we esteem ourselves above those we’re interacting with, we may get a false sense of superiority and desire more control. Everyone has something of value to present and recommend moving forward. Some people have more information and can offer more complex and far reaching suggestions. We are certainly intelligent and should be recognized when we are part of any plan or solution, but demanding more than we have simply because we feel we deserve it is a fool’s game. If the facts don’t agree with our heightened sense of worth, we’ll be disappointed. A strong and confident self-image is important but will never move us ahead if we haven’t achieved what is needed to get there. By recognizing exactly where we are and understanding the contributions we’ve made and what we have yet to achieve, we can clearly see the road ahead. Everything we desire is within our reach if we accomplish what is needed to achieve it. We can be patient and focused, and with determination and resolve reach every goal. The whole world is blessed and enriched because we are here. By learning all we can, and contributing every good thing, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

People work differently and have their own ideas about how things should be done. If we’re quick to find solutions, those around us who are aren’t as fast may seem to be dragging their feet. We may think they aren’t as committed or dedicated as we are, but speed doesn’t define commitment. Working more slowly doesn’t mean there is a lack of interest or devotion to the project. We can accept differences in others, understand our part in the process, and work together to achieve the goal.

If we are very confident, we may believe we have the answers for every problem that arises. We may be very wise and have a lot to offer, but nobody has all the answers for everything. Being open to different suggestions and seeing our situations through someone else’s eyes, will bring a broader understanding and help us see every possible option. We are intelligent and capable, and will find every answer to ensure success.

Today if you feel you’re worth more than you’re getting and are demanding more control, remember everyone has something of value to offer. Be open to other ideas and suggestions, and you’ll have a greater understanding of everything before you. You are amazing and have so much to offer. Listen carefully and let your light shine. The whole world is enriched because you are here. Step forward with confidence and clarity, and every success will be yours.

Not Exactly

6 Jan

The words we choose, and the things we say as we go through our lives explain who we are, what we want, and what we need from those around us. It’s good to be truthful, but sometimes the truth isn’t exactly what we want everyone to know. Maybe it will reflect poorly on us or expose a bad decision that has taken us somewhere we don’t want to be. We can say anything, make up any story, and create our own little reality, but truth is powerful, and even if we try to hide it now, it won’t stay hidden for long. We can justify and excuse manipulating others with half-truths or even all out lies if the circumstances are difficult or we’re afraid of what the real facts might cause. We can say anything to cover ourselves or someone else, and we may get away with it – at least for a while. However, whatever short term benefit we get will be outweighed by the long-term losses we may suffer. Each time we sacrifice our integrity to do something dishonest, we lose a little bit of confidence and self-respect. We know we’re being deceitful and if we continue misleading others, we will suffer. We are valuable and worthwhile, and there isn’t anything worth losing our self-respect or personal dignity. Every answer we need will always be there for us and we are intelligent and highly capable. There is no need to lie or bend the truth to get ahead or accomplish our goals. Nothing is too difficult for us to accomplish by being honest and truthful. There is greatness in each one of us, and we are impressive just as we are. We already possess everything we need to do anything we want. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with clarity and focus, we can reach every goal and every destination. Nothing can keep us from our dreams, and we will succeed.

Fiction is a great diversion, but there is no place for it in our everyday lives. We live in reality, and pretending or lying that things are different than they are will change nothing. If we don’t like where we are, we can move. If we don’t want the situation we’re in, we can change it. We’re in control of our lives and never have to stay anywhere we don’t want. Every option is possible, and we have everything we need to prevail.

Who we are and how we’re seen by those around us is a reflection of the things we do. We can design our lives any way we like. We are never frozen in place and nothing can hold us down when we’re ready to move. By facing things exactly as they are, warts and all, we can decide how we want to proceed. If we want something different or something more, instead of just talking about it, we can make it happen. Every single goal is possible, and we are wise enough and strong enough to make them ours.

Today if you’ve been embellishing the truth or hiding facts as you interact with others, think about who you really want to be. There is greatness inside you and by choosing well and being completely honest, you can reach every destination you desire. Be the best you can be, and every door will open for you. All your dreams are waiting. Step forward with clarity and claim them.

Toolkit

3 Dec

When we want to build something, we must assemble all the tools needed to get the job done. Tools are great assets that help us in many ways. All tools are good for something, but none are good for everything. A hammer is a very useful and valuable tool, but if we need to screw a bolt into a board, a hammer is useless. Choosing the right tool for our needs enables us to get the job done. Having lots of tools is nice, but they are only helpful if we actually have the tools we need. Identifying the right tool is easy when we’re building. We know when we need a hammer, a screwdriver, a measuring tape, etc. But in our personal lives, when problems arise we may be confused about how exactly to proceed, and what skills will help us through. Everyone has their own unique personal toolkit accumulated for all the experiences we’ve had as we’ve navigated through our lives. What one possesses may be very different from someone else. We might face a situation where we find we don’t have the tools we need to comprehend what’s happening or how to proceed. Someone close by may have exactly what is required to help us, and they can share their wisdom and experience with us and give us the information we need to move forward. We all have tools to share, and there will always be a solution possible. By reaching out to those around us and asking for help when we need it, and sharing our knowledge to assist someone else, we can reach success in every endeavor.

Life is complicated and unpredictable. We never know what will happen next. Even if we plan carefully and do our best to ensure we avoid as many problems as possible as we move ahead, things may go wrong. Someone or something may get in the way and prevent us from moving forward. If we can’t move, we can stand still and look at the situation objectively. There will always be another way forward. By using the skills we already possess, and trusting ourselves, we can find a way around any obstacle, and continue on toward success.

Conflict is a normal part of life. We’re all individuals and no two people are exactly alike. Our differences bring depth and richness to our experience, but they can also bring disharmony and stress. During times of conflict we can scream and yell, and demand that others listen and obey, which really never works. Or we can draw on our experiences and express our viewpoint gracefully and with patience. By using the skills we’ve already gained we can effectively communicate our opinions and find compromise that honors everyone. We are smarter and more capable than we think we are, and with determination and focus, can achieve anything.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and don’t have the tools you need to get through, reach out to those around you and ask for help. Each experience will give you new skills that will enrich your understanding and help you move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. You are intelligent and wise, and can manage anything. Nothing can hold you in place for long. Every success is possible, and you will prevail.

Doomed

16 Sep

Life is filled with challenges and opportunities to learn through many different trials and difficulties. Nobody lives in nirvana, and we’ll all have times when we must face difficult situations that try us and push us to our limits. Many times, we’ll navigate them well and everything will resolve in ways that help us move forward. But we aren’t perfect, and we may get tangled up and make decisions that don’t work out for us, or take us down the wrong road. Mistakes are normal. We can’t know everything and there will be times when we’ll stumble and fall. Failure teaches us what doesn’t work, and helps us understand how to change direction and find the answers needed to reach success. Making a big mistake doesn’t mean we’re doomed to persistent and unmitigated failure moving forward. We aren’t stained for life and we don’t carry every mistake with us moving ahead. If we’ve made a bad choice, we can simply turn around and choose again. Our past will never determine our future. Everyone fails at some point. It’s inevitable. If we fall down, we can get back up and start again. There are unlimited possibilities and endless chances for success. No matter where we’ve been or what’s happened, each new day brings the opportunity to move in a new direction and reach our goals. If we’re not happy where we are, we can move. We never have to stay in any situation we don’t want, and can redirect our focus toward the things we desire most. Our lives are ours to design. Nothing is powerful enough to keep us from the destinations we desire most. If we stumble, and the road is uncertain, we can do what is needed to steady the way forward. Every possibility is there for us and the options available are unlimited. We can be confident and sure as we step forward that we will prevail and reach success.

We build different kinds of relationships with others each day. Some connections are positive and help us move ahead. Others may pull on us and hold us in place. If we’re deeply engaged with someone who prevents us from moving ahead, we may get stuck and unable to move. We are always in control of everything we do, and can change anything we desire. If a connection isn’t working, we can step back, look at all the options available, and go in another direction. We can do anything, and every success is possible.

Each experience teaches us something new to carry forward with us. If we must suffer through a difficult time filled with duress and strife, we will gain strength and deeper understanding as we find our way through. If we’ve made a bad decision, we can learn everything possible as we navigate the issue and find resolution. Learning all we can from each situation will enable us to acquire tools to help us in the future. We are smart and capable, and nothing can keep us from our goals.

Today if you’ve fallen down and made a mistake that is holding you back, decide how you want to proceed and step forward with confidence. Every destination is still there for you, and nothing can hold you in place. Be wise and confident, and step forward toward your goals. All your dreams are possible, and you will make them yours.