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Dropping It

27 Jul

There are endless things we can accomplish in our lives, and success is always a possibility. Some things are easy, take little time to achieve, and we sail right through to the end with little inconvenience. Other things, not so much. We may have a big challenge that requires lots of planning, extensive time, and endless work to get to success. It may take a long time, and there may be many complications, snags, unexpected developments and endless issues as we move ahead. Each step we take, and each problem we solve moves us closer to the goal, but when that movement is minuscule, and hardly noticeable, and we’ve been trying for a long time, we might decide we’ve had enough. We might choose to drop the ball, and walk away. We can do anything we like, but dropping the ball will only help us lose the game. It will never take us to the prize. Everyone has their own limits, and if we’re tired of the struggle, and frustrated with how difficult it’s been to move the needle even a little, we might give up. It’s hard to keep pushing forward if we feel we’ll never prevail. We’re in control of our lives and can decide at any time how we want to proceed. We can continue forward, or let the goal go and move onto something else. But we cannot achieve any goal by dropping the ball and walking away. If it’s important to us, we have everything we need to find our way to success. It may take more time than we want, and might be harder than we thought at the beginning, but we are strong and capable, and if we want to win, we will. Our lives are ours to design. We can do anything and go anywhere, and nothing is out of reach.

Time is always an issue when we’re trying to accomplish something. Nobody has unlimited time, and there are responsibilities to take care of, jobs to accomplish, tasks that need our attention, and endless interruptions. When we’re trying to reach our personal goals in the midst of all the other things we have to do, it can be hard to get to them. If the goal is important to us, we can prioritize our lives in ways that give us the opportunity to push forward. We’re in control of everything we do, can focus on what’s most important, and move forward toward success.

It’s impossible to be successful if we’re half in on the deal. If we only kinda want to accomplish the goal, we’ll only be kinda successful. If we really want to move forward, we must be committed. That means we must make a plan and then stick to it. Complications will undoubtedly arise, things may get in the way, and we might get off track a time or two. But if we’re intent on reaching the goal, nothing can keep us from it. Everything we want to do is possible. Every destination is within reach. We need only decide what we want, then step forward and claim it.

Today if you’ve been on the same road toward a destination for a long time, and are tired of the struggle, decide what you want the most. If the goal is still important, stay the course and reach it. If you no longer want to continue, choose how you want to proceed. You can have the life you dream of if you’re willing to do the work. Pick the ball back up and step forward. Every success is there for you, and you will reach it.

Loud Mouth

22 Jul

There are billions of people on the planet sharing space with us. We’ll never see them all but there will likely always be people around us. We are constantly interacting with others, some we know and others who are strangers in passing. Everyone out there is making their own decisions, and doing things that may affect our lives, not always positively. Some people have strong personalities and are very forceful. They know what they want and make sure everyone around them is aware of where they’re headed. If we’re timid and more reserved, and don’t agree with them, they may run over us pushing forward, never looking back. If we must work with them, and they power over us, and we feel intimidated, we may shrink down and try to blend into the background to avoid a confrontation. It can be hard to stand our ground in front of someone determined to diminish us. Everyone is valuable, and we all have things to offer that are important and worthwhile. Those who are louder may try to push us, but being loud doesn’t mean they have all the answers or know everything. It just means they’re loud. We don’t have to outmatch them in sound or muscle to make our positions known. We can speak up with confidence and clarity, and offer our own perspectives. Nobody will see things exactly as we do, and we can share our point of view in ways that open new doors ahead. We are the only ones who can give the gifts we have to offer. By trusting ourselves, and refusing to shrink, we can contribute to every situation and be part of the road ahead. There is greatness within us. We can share our impressions and ideas, and find intense reward and satisfaction.

Nobody sees everything the same way. We all perceive what is happening through our own filters, formed by the experiences we’ve had so far. What is obvious to one, may be unseen to another. There will rarely by only one way to accomplish anything, or one road that leads to a destination. When we feel strongly about a situation, we can share our thoughts with others involved, and then allow them to express their ideas as well. We don’t have to insist that everything be done our way, but can compromise and bring everyone into the plan.

If we must work with someone who believes they are the only one who has the answers, and they refuse to hear another other options, it may be hard to feel valued and appreciated. If they have authority over us, we may have to follow their instructions. But if not, we can express our opinions and suggestions, and request consideration. If they refuse, we may decide to step away. We have much to offer, and our contributions make the world a better place.

Today if you have to work with someone who is loud and forceful, and is trying to convince you their way is the only possible option, trust yourself and remember your ideas are valuable. Speak up and share your thoughts with those around you. You are amazing. There is nobody else like you in all of creation. You bring light and wisdom, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Along the Way

13 Jul

As we go through our lives there will likely be times when we badly want to accomplish something in particular. If we’re intensely interested in getting to the goal, it may consume our thoughts, and we may try to manipulate every step we take in order to move closer to it. We may become obsessed with getting there, and concentrate solely on what we need to do next to move forward. It’s good to be focused on the goals we want to accomplish but every day is a blessing, and as we push ahead, there will be other things going on. There will rarely be a time when we are only working on one thing. Most often, other areas and aspects of our lives will need our attention, and there will always be unexpected developments that require our consideration. If we only focus on the goal we’re seeking, we may brush other things off that happen along the way, and see them as distractions instead of opportunities. We are learning with each step we take and as we manage each issue, we gain new skills to carry forward. The road ahead is important, but there are other benefits we’re gaining as we move along. No matter what road we’re on, we’ll have lots of experiences along the way that open our vision a little more, and teach us something new. If we rush forward, focused only on our goal, we will miss the richness gained by embracing each step and learning all we can. Every goal is possible, and we already have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can trust ourselves to reach success, and still be involved in the world around us. There are unlimited blessings waiting for us, and we can have the lives we dream about.

Only concentrating on the road ahead might help us move forward a little more quickly, but tunnel vision prevents us from seeing what’s going on around us right now. If we ignore our relationships, thinking we’ll just set them aside until we reach success and then go back to them, we might find that when we go back, there is nothing there. Neglect can ruin connections and we might lose a precious bond pushing ahead. Good, strong relationships embellish our lives and bring us great satisfaction. We can keep our eyes on the goal we desire, and still make our personal connections a priority. If we do, we’ll find great success in all areas of our lives.

Each day we learn something new. We pick up a little more information about where we are and what we’re doing, and learn more about those around us and our place in the world. Being present for today instead of thinking only of tomorrow, will open our minds to every opportunity and help us open new doors ahead. Each day is a blessing, and by paying attention, not just to our personal goals, but to everything happening around us, our lives will be rich and fulfilling.

Today if you’re intent on reaching a goal, and are focused on your next step ahead, look up and see every opportunity around you. Today is the most important day of your life. It’s the only day you can live right now. Move toward the destinations you desire while embracing the world around you now. You are incredible and capable, and every goal is already there for you. Success is yours, and you will have it.

Treadmill

19 Jun

We interact with lots of people as we navigate through our lives. We build relationships with those around us, we make friends, we have family members, and there are others we only see in passing. When our connections are positive, they embellish our lives and bring us great satisfaction and happiness. But not every relationship works well, and if we’re in a situation where there is continual strife and contention, it may wear on us and make us unhappy. We never have to stay in any situation we don’t want, but relationships are complex, and because of history or habit, we may stay where we are even if it doesn’t bring us peace or happiness. We might go over the same territory again and again, and the same issues over and over with no end in sight. Like being on a huge treadmill with an endless track that goes around and around, and never moves us forward. We are in control of our lives and can endure any situation for as long as we like. Relationship habits can be hard to break, and even if we’re miserable, we may stay and repeat the same problems and behaviors indefinitely. Our personal happiness is important. If we’re not getting what we need to find it where we are, we can step away. The unknown may be intimidating at first, but foreign territory is only foreign until we make it ours. Every new road is unknown in the beginning, but we have all the courage we need to take it and start something new. We deserve complete and fulfilling happiness, and can make decisions that will bring it to us. Nothing is impossible, and we cannot be held in place when we’re ready to move. We can trust ourselves to make positive choices, and choose the roads that will take us to the destinations we desire most.

We can all make choices that take us where we want to go. We never have to choose options that bring us hardship, and if we find we’re on the wrong road, can always change direction. We aren’t responsible for creating happiness for anyone else, and we aren’t required to do anything we don’t want to do. Our lives belong solely to us, and with wisdom and clarity, we can make decisions that take us where we want to go. Every possibility is there for us and all options are available. We can chart our own course toward whatever goal we desire, and find complete success.

It’s good to be patient, but we never have to wait indefinitely for something to change so we can be happy. If we’re in a relationship that is difficult, we may stay hoping the situation will improve or the other person will change, and things will get better. That might happen, or it might not. Waiting around for change that may never come will not benefit us. We don’t need agreement or permission to alter our course. When we’re ready to move ahead, we can step onto another road, and pursue success.

Today if you’re in a situation that is not making you happy, decide what you want the most. Complete happiness is always possible, and it’s there for you. Step off the treadmill, and walk forward with confidence. Every dream is possible, and nothing is out of reach. You deserve every good gift. Look ahead and move toward your dreams. You are capable of greatness, and nothing can keep you from success.

What He Said

5 Jun

Everyone has their own ideas and opinions about the world and what we should be doing. We’re all unique, and there will always be differences and variations on a theme. We’ll rarely be in a situation where everyone agrees with everything that’s going on. Every viewpoint has value and we can choose our own way forward, while still honoring and respecting the ideas of those around us. If we’re unsure about how we feel about something, instead of waiting until we have all the information we need to form our own opinion, when asked, we may simply say, “What he said,” and go along with whatever those around us believe. We may agree without all the facts simply because it’s easier, and we don’t want to rock the boat. Going along to get along might make things go more smoothly at first, but may take us somewhere we don’t want to go. It’s our responsibility to design our own lives and make our own decisions. Leaning on someone else will never help us become the people we really want to be, or take us to the destinations we desire most. We can always coast along for as long as we like. We can let others decide what is right and do what they tell us to do. But being a puppet on someone else’s string will never bring us complete happiness or satisfaction. We are smart enough and strong enough to direct our own lives. We don’t have to remain in a tide rushing toward a shore we haven’t chosen. By deciding what we want most, and choosing the way forward to achieve our goals, we can have the lives we dream about. When we take control, nothing can keep us from success. Every single dream is there for us, and we can make them all ours.

It takes courage to stand up for what we believe in, especially if those around us have differing views. We own our own ideas and opinions, and they are valuable and worthwhile. We don’t need the approval of others, or permission to live our lives any way we choose. There are unlimited goals to reach and limitless places to go. By choosing what we want the most and standing firm in our decisions, we can accomplish anything. We can swim against the tide and live our lives according to our own values and desires. Nothing is out of reach, and we will prevail.

It can be hard to stand up to those who are forceful and loud about their preferences and ideas. They may press us to conform and follow along, and we may feel pressure to comply. But our lives belong to us alone, and we never have to do anything we don’t want to do. We can listen to other viewpoints, respectfully and calmly express our own opinions, and step onto our own roads moving ahead. All options are possible and every destination is there waiting for us. By trusting ourselves, and choosing our own path, we will reach every goal, and achieve complete happiness.

Today if those around you are telling you what to do and how to feel, remember your ideas and opinions are valuable. You can follow your own voice, and choose your own way forward. The whole world is there for you, and every dream is possible. Have faith in yourself. The destinations you want are waiting for you. You are amazing and will reach every success you desire. You can make all your dreams come true.