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Steering the Ship

28 Jan

Sometimes life takes us to places we don’t want to go.  When we’re struggling we may question how we ended up here.  How did we get to this place that doesn’t fit or move us forward?  We can’t read the future and it’s not always easy to see where a path will take us.  It takes time to consider all possible eventualities but if we don’t rush and think carefully before choosing we’ll have a better chance of ending up where we want to go.  Odds are no matter where we are it’s exactly where we were headed.  Every road has a destination and will take us there every time.  But it’s not the end of the journey.  If we’re unhappy we can move on to someplace that feels better and fits us more perfectly.  We’re always in control of our lives and can go anywhere we want but we have to decide where that is and then do what is necessary to get there.  We can design our lives any way we like but we must take control.  A ship at sea without a rudder and someone turning the wheel to direct it forward will simply flow wherever the water takes it.  Our lives are the same way.  If we don’t control our decisions and choose our paths, life will choose them for us.  We can decide what we want and then steer our ship in the direction we want to go.  There isn’t anything we can’t do and every destination is available but we must take control and move forward toward success.  It’s all up to us.  The world will do what it will and we can follow along but taking charge of what we’re doing will bring us satisfaction and fulfillment.  We know what we want.  With persistence and determination we can achieve anything and reach any shore we desire.

There are always all kinds of unknown variables that may come into play in every decision we make.  Because we never know what’s around the next corner or who will enter the picture, learning to be flexible is an asset that will help us succeed.  There are many ways to accomplish any task.  We can keep our eyes focused forward, make changes as needed, and get to the goal.  We have everything we need to reach any destination.  We can bend when we need to and find our way.

Some people are very self-directed and forceful.  They place great value on their ideas and may be very convincing.  We can follow anyone at any time and simply go wherever they’re headed.  It’s easy to acquiesce and do what we’re told but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves.  What’s best for one doesn’t mean it’s best for all.  Our personal choices are valuable and worthwhile and we can have any kind of life we choose.  We can take our own roads and reach the places we want the most.  Our lives belong to us and we can make our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve been letting others steer your ship and just following along, remember how valuable you are.  You can do anything you want.  Decide where you want to go and step forward.  Be confident and trust yourself.  You have everything you need to prevail and nothing is out of reach.  All your dreams are possible and with determination you will make them come true.

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The Last Step

23 Jan

Life takes us down many roads and to countless destinations. Every decision we make takes us somewhere and if we’re wise, we’ll make choices that take us to the places we desire most. But life can get complicated and we’re often busy with details and responsibilities. In the confusion and noise persisting around us, if we’re rushed or distracted, we might make a choice that turns out to be something we never wanted and takes us to a place we don’t like. It’s important to remember that each time we choose the first step on a path we are also choosing the last. It’s unlikely we’ll be able to change the destination of any road and we’ll inevitably end up where it’s headed. As we’re making choices in our personal lives, we can’t always see the end from the beginning. There will always be unknown factors and influences that may convolute our path. Although we can’t know everything that may happen, if we take the time to review the possibilities we can see before we choose, we have a better chance of getting the results we’re hoping for. Life is filled with unknowns but we are wise enough to evaluate all the options before us and make the best choices moving forward. The path may twist and we may have a blind curve or two, but we can be confident of success by evaluating each situation and choosing the best way forward. There are unlimited possibilities available to us. We can make excellent choices and get to all the destinations we desire the most.

It’s easy to walk on a paved, lighted road that’s clear and has all the signs we need to point the way forward. When everything is planned for us and the road ahead is open and leads exactly where we want it to go, we can quickly and easily achieve our goal.
But our lives don’t often work that way. We may be unclear about which way to go, unsure if we can manage the task, and worried about the complications that may arise. There is no way to read the future and we must trust ourselves to make the best choice possible before we begin. No matter what road we choose, if the destination is important, we will overcome anything in our way. We have everything we need to succeed and with determination will reach the goal.

Nobody is perfect and everyone makes mistakes from time to time. If we’ve made a  mistake in judgement and have taken a road to somewhere we don’t want to go we can stop and redirect the way forward. Nothing is permanent and we can alter our direction at any time. A mistake is inconsequential once we correct our course and we can move forward with confidence that we’ll succeed. Every dream is possible and with wisdom we can make decisions that will bring us the lives we desire most.

Today if you realize you’re on the wrong road and the destination ahead isn’t what you’re seeking, step to the side and consider all your options. Change direction until you’re facing the goals you desire and then step forward. You are amazing and powerful, and everything is possible. Choose the best road ahead and make all your dreams come true.

Making the Choice

16 Jan

Lots of things happen to us as we navigate through our lives. Sometimes everything goes well and we feel settled and secure, but other times we may be beset with trouble and anxiety. Life is all about change and we can be assured that no matter what we’re experiencing now will not remain forever. Every day brings something new, and good or bad, how we get through it is up to us. Nobody has a charmed existence filled with butterflies and sunshine. We all suffer from time to time and go through difficult passages that test us and push us to our limits. Every situation brings its own pack of issues but we can decide no matter what comes to be strong and find peace even in trial. We can’t control what goes on outside of us but we’re always in control of what we do and how we manage each event. We can choose to be confident when things go wrong and stand strong no matter what comes. We can trust the answers we need will arise when we’re ready for them and believe we’ll prevail in every situation. There really isn’t anything too powerful or overwhelming for us to handle. We are braver and more capable than we may realize. Trials and trouble will come and we may feel unsure at first but we have everything we need already inside us to find our way forward. Winds may blow against us and storms may rage for a time but nothing lasts forever, and if we trust ourselves and rely on our intuition and personal wisdom, we will prevail. Each time we overcome adversity we gain more insight and knowledge about ourselves and the world around us. Those gifts go forward with us and help us become the people we most want to be.

Everyone likes to complain when things go wrong. We can bemoan our situation for as long as we like and tell those around us how unfair life is and how oppressed we feel. There’s nothing wrong with venting our personal feelings and we may feel better after getting it all out in the open. But complaining doesn’t solve anything and won’t move us ahead of the issue. Instead of talking about the problem, we can begin doing what is needed to solve it and let it go. When we do, we can move forward and continue on our journey toward success.

Every day we choose what we’ll do and where we’ll go. Those around us and the situations we’re in may influence the decisions we make, but in the end the responsibility for each choice is ours. If we aren’t happy it’s up to us to change things until we’re in a better place. We own our lives and every decision we make takes us somewhere. We can plan our steps forward to get to the destinations that bring us lasting happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’re unhappy with your current situation, remember you’re in control of your life. You deserve the best experiences possible and can do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most and take the first step toward achieving it. Be confident and choose well. You are powerful and strong. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Everything is possible and you can make your dreams come true.

Hard Line

14 Jan

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never come in contact with many of them, there are others around us most of the time. Sometimes it’s easy to interact with them but other times they may interfere with our plans, get in our way, object to our ideas, and basically make it harder for us to do what we want to do. It takes some skill and decorum to get through sticky situations when someone else isn’t on the same page we’re on and doesn’t share our views. Compromise is always a possibility but if we’re mad or determined to get things our way, we may draw a hard line and refuse to budge. That might work for us sometimes, but often all it does is escalate the situation and make things worse. If others feel their views are dismissed or ignored, we may find ourselves in an emotionally charged and difficult position. The whole idea is to move forward in every aspect of our lives, and there are many roads to every goal. Whatever we want to accomplish can likely be done in several ways. Instead of deciding it’s our way or the highway, we can open our minds up to the possibilities and options presented by others and bring them on board. Everyone wants to be heard and feel valued. We can get to our goals and reach every destination by listening carefully and finding a solution that expresses everyone’s point of view. It takes a little more work than just forging ahead our own way, but the ultimate success is worth it. Everyone has good ideas. We can include them in our plans and move forward.

We’re all at different places on the spectrum of intelligence and understanding. Some people are very smart and understand concepts and ideas quickly and completely. Others take more time to comprehend the goal and what must be done to accomplish it. How fast we understand the issue doesn’t define our success. When everyone is ready, they can contribute ideas for success, decisions can be made, and a plan can be put into motion. Everything is attainable and with patience and cooperation we can reach any goal.

When we’re confident and have a clear understanding of an issue, if we want others to agree with us, we may state our position and the reasons why we feel the way we do. We may convince those around us to follow our lead, or they may prefer to do things their way. There is not one, absolute, perfect answer to any problem. We can accept modification of our plans that include everyone’s perspective. The idea is to get to the goal – not necessarily to get to it in one specific way. We can be tolerant and patient enough to include those around us and choose the best road ahead.

Today if you’re sure you have the perfect answer to a problem but others around you disagree, listen carefully to their suggestions. There are always many roads to any destination. Include those around you and find an answer that represents everyone. You are wise and strong. Share your wisdom and allow others to share theirs with you. Compromise will bring freedom and success. You have so much to offer. Be willing to listen and move forward with confidence.

All Tied Up

7 Jan

Life is unpredictable and even when we plan well and do everything possible to move forward, sometimes due to circumstance or decisions made by others out of our control, we may be stopped in our tracks. Complications are always a factor and can get in the way and prevent us from advancing. When our hands are tied and there’s nothing we can do to change the situation, the desired goal may have to wait. We can complain about it, bemoan our position and kick against the barriers before us, but that will not help. We may feel better expressing our displeasure but the situation will remain and we’ll have to find a way to cope. No matter where we are in our lives, there are always many things to accomplish. It’s positive to be actively engaged and if the goal we want right now isn’t available, we can step back and review our options. The world is filled with opportunities and the opening provided by the change in our situation is the perfect time to explore them. There are unlimited doors to open and endless possibilities before us. We can change our thinking, redirect our attention, and start something new. In time, it’s likely the original road will open again and we’ll be able to continue toward the previous goal, but in the interim we can take advantage of what’s possible now. Every day is a blessing and even when things go wrong, there is the chance to do something positive. We can adjust when we need to, reroute our way forward, and find success in any endeavor we desire. Every option is possible and nothing is out of reach. Even when the world around us changes we can keep moving forward toward the destinations we want the most and find happiness and peace.

Everyone complains sometimes. It’s natural to express dissatisfaction if things aren’t going the way we want them to and complaining allows us to vent our frustration. But continuing to complain over something we can’t change without doing anything to improve our situation isn’t helpful. We can sit and grumble about what went wrong for as long as we like, and nothing will change. We’re always in control of our lives and when we’re ready can begin toward something new that will recharge us and give us satisfaction. We are never truly stopped. We can always continue moving forward and with patience and determination get the lives we want.

Unexpected changes can be unsettling and if we’re confused, we may need to stand still until we can see everything clearly. Taking time to look around and see where things stand will help clarify what to do next. There will always be another road to travel and another goal to reach. We have everything we need to decide what to do next and where we want to go. Every success is possible and nothing can prevent us from reaching it.

Today if everything has changed and all your plans have gone up in smoke, stand strong and have faith. Success is always possible and there are many options available to you. Decide what you want and begin toward a new goal. You are wise and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and make your dreams come true.

Rewrite

18 Dec

Our lives are filled with experiences and we face new situations every day.  When we do well we feel confident and positive about our future.  It’s great when things go as planned and we prevail, but sometimes things go the other way and we not only falter but may actually fail in what we’re trying to do.  Failure hurts and can rattle our confidence and make us believe we can’t succeed.  But it also brings us many personal blessings and is a great teacher.  It we allow ourselves to see everything clearly, including our mistakes, we can learn a lot about what doesn’t work and use the lesson to help us moving forward.  However, if we refuse to see where we’ve blundered and decide instead to rewrite history so it looks like we had nothing to do with what happened we won’t learn anything from the experience.  There will always be other people and situations to blame and if we look for them we’re sure to find them.  Pretending we’re not responsible when we fail will never help us.  If we want to gain as much as we can moving forward, we must own both our successes and our failures, and let them stand clearly and truthfully.  When we are honest about our shortcomings, we learn valuable lessons that teach us about success and show us the way ahead.  There is no need to rewrite history.  We can let it stand as it happened, gain as much as possible from the experience, and step forward with clarity and confidence.  We are capable of every success and nothing is too far for us to reach.  Every step we take teaches us something of value.  If we take a wrong turn, we can correct our course.  We can reach any goal we desire with determination and courage, and every destination is there for us.

We are the only ones who can define who we are and what we want to achieve.  There will always be others with opinions about our lives and what we’re doing, and we may certainly listen to them but we are responsible for our own decisions.  If we follow along with someone else and things work out we’ll be glad we made the decision to go with them.  However, if everything goes south we may feel bad and blame the other party for leading us along.  While the idea may have started with them, we own the choice we made to follow along and are responsible for where we end up.

Everybody makes mistakes and when they’re extreme and far reaching, if we’ve hurt others along the way, we’ll have to deal with the situation we’ve created.  Looking the other way trying to ignore the mess we’ve made will not make things better.  We can own every decision we make, even if it fails, and do what is needed to rectify the situation.  There is no need to rewrite the past.  We can own what’s happened and move forward confidently and with purpose.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and are trying to figure out what to do next, own your part and take a step toward resolving the issue.  There is no shame in failure and you can learn much and take that knowledge with you.  Be confident and clear in your decisions.  You are capable of great success and nothing can hold you down.  Keep moving forward.  The best is yet to come.

What We Get

14 Dec

Our lives belong to us and we’re responsible for every decision we make.  We can make excellent choices as we try hard to do our best moving forward, but there may be times when we’re unhappy with where we are or what we’re doing.  Where we are is often the result of decisions we’ve made and if we’re not comfortable we have the power to change things.  We can always stay in place for as long as we like, and it’s easy to keep doing the same things even if we’re unhappy.  We are the ones making the choices that affect our lives, and in the end, we all end up with the lives we wanted the most.  If we hate our job but are unwilling to find another, our choice is to stay and endure.  If we’re in a difficult relationship but prefer it to being single and we stay, we decide our happiness must take a back seat.  We can complain about our lot in life but complaints will never change anything.  If we want real happiness and the chance to create the lives we want the most, we must be willing to do what is needed to make it happen.  What we get in the end is reflected by the decisions we make.  We never need to stay in a situation that isn’t working and even if it’s hard to break away, we have everything we need to do just that.  Our lives are ours to design.  Whether we have happiness and satisfaction, or frustration and disappointment, is up to us.  There are often many factors involved when we want to change, and it’s not always easy to step away from where we are to get to where we want to be.  But we are strong and capable, and have everything we need to succeed at anything we desire.  We can have happy, fulfilling lives if we make the choices necessary to create them.

Change is constant and nothing ever stays the same indefinitely.  Learning to roll along with the punches as they come helps us manage any situation we’re in.  But if the road we’ve been traveling turns into something we didn’t expect or ends up taking us somewhere we never wanted to go, we can step off it and turn in a new direction.  It takes courage to change lanes and start again but we are brave enough to face whatever is needed to create the lives we want.  We never have to stand still if we want to move.  We’re in control of our lives and can do what is needed to make them happy.

One thing always leads to another and every decision takes us somewhere.  It’s up to us to make sure the choices we’re making are creating the life we want.  If we don’t control our lives, someone else will.  Nobody knows what we want or need better than we do.  We must be the ones driving the train if we want to get to the destinations we desire.  We can go anywhere and do anything, and every option is possible.

Today if you’ve been coasting through a situation you don’t want, remember your life is yours to design.  You can do anything and go anywhere.  Take control of your decisions and make choices that will take you exactly where you want to go.  You are incredible and deserve complete happiness.  Choose the roads that will take you to it and step forward.  Every success is waiting for you.