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Sticks and Rocks

4 Mar

There is a lot of uncertainty in life and we never know what will happen next. There’s no way to see what’s around the next bend or what lies ahead. The best we can do is build the best foundation possible in our plans, and modify them as needed to accommodate whatever changes may come. When laying the foundation for a road, the area is plowed smooth and cleared of debris before the first layer of pavement is applied. If rocks and sticks are left in the way and get covered, as they move or disintegrate, they will compromise the strength of the base being prepared. As we try to lay a strong foundation for the future, if we ignore problems that need our attention, or leave issues unsettled, just like sticks and rocks in the foundation, our plans may become unstable and falter. Nobody likes to face difficult, hard to manage situations but looking the other way and pretending they don’t exist will never help us move forward. Crap happens, and it’s going to happen to us all at some point. What we do when things go wrong will impact how successful we are as we move ahead. By taking the time to unravel complications and find solutions to problems as they arise, we can pave the road ahead and make our journey easier. We are wiser and more capable than we imagine, and there isn’t anything too complex or hard for us to overcome. Every destination is possible if we take care of problems along the way, build a solid foundation, and do what is needed to succeed. We can go anywhere and do anything, and nothing is out of reach.

When there is a lot to do or a long way to go, we may look for shortcuts and ways to make the journey easier. Shortcuts may seem like a good idea, and sometimes they work out just fine, but if we miss necessary steps that ensure our success, they may come back to bite us in the end. If there’s a big event coming up we want to look our best for and have put off losing the ten pounds we wanted to lose before it happens, we may decide to go on a starvation diet to try and lose it all in two weeks. That’s definitely a short cut but it’s so extreme it may not work. By looking at the goal clearly and openly, we can choose the best way to achieve it without taking shortcuts, and reach success.

If we want to accomplish something, but do nothing to prepare to get to the goal, it’s unlikely we’ll get there. If we need to alter our plans due to complications or unforeseen changes, we can. If we need more information, we can get it. If we need help, we can ask for it. Everything we desire is possible, but we must put forth the effort required to make it ours. We are powerful and strong, and have all the wisdom we need to do anything we like. Every goal is possible, and when we’re ready, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if there’s something you want to do, begin laying the foundation to begin. You have everything necessary to prevail and all the answers you need are there for you. Decide what you want the most, and chart your course forward. Every dream is possible, and nothing is too difficult or complicated for you to manage. Trust yourself and be confident. All your dreams are there waiting. Step forward and make them yours.

Forget That

23 Feb

There are generally people around us most of the time. We have family members, friends, acquaintances, work associates, and people we only see in passing. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go, what we should be doing and endless other situations. We’re all entitled to our own opinions and decisions, and if we like, we may share them with others. If we are open about our desires and what we want to do next, we may freely express our thoughts to someone else. They may think we’re right on target and encourage us to move forward, or they may not. If they disagree with our plans, they may say the idea is ridiculous, or there is no way we could ever achieve the goal. They may tell us to forget that, and move onto something more reasonable – translation, something more like what they would do. We can always take any advice we like, but we know ourselves better than anyone else. Our friends may tell us to go one way, our family may point in another direction, and others may have different ideas. There are unlimited versions of what we could do and if we try to follow everyone else’s advice, we may end up going nowhere fast. If we want to take a road trip to a specified destination, there are all kinds of maps available. There will be lots of routes possible and if we can’t decide which way we want to go we might take one road for a while, then switch to another, then maybe turn around to jump onto a different highway to see what it has to offer, and on and on. We might eventually get to the destination, but it will likely take far longer and be much more difficult than if we had decided at the beginning exactly which way we wanted to go and stuck to the plan. We can do anything we like and listen to all kinds of opinions, but we are in control of our lives and once we determine exactly what we want, can step forward with confidence that we will succeed. Every destination is possible, and with clarity and focus, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Customs and traditions are powerful and may be very important to us. As we navigate through our lives, they may color our decisions and choices. We can always stay inside the lines of what has always been done, and conform to whatever patterns and customs we choose. But we’re unique and despite any pressures around us, may choose anything we like. We have our own specific gifts to offer that no one else possesses, and by honoring who we are and what we want, can bring great light and blessing to the world.

It’s always easier to manage a group of people when everyone is doing the same things, but there is great richness that comes from encouraging different ideas. Variety brings refreshment and opens new doors that may not have been previously considered. We can do whatever we like, while allowing others to also make their own choices. There are always many roads to any destination, and by being open to something new, we will learn more about ourselves and the world around us.

Today remember you are entitled to have the life you want the most. You don’t need agreement or permission from anyone to make any choices you desire. The whole world is open to you and every road is possible. Decide what you want to do and where you want to go, and take the first step forward. Every blessing awaits, and every dream is possible. Be confident and sure. Nothing can keep you from success, and you will make it yours.

Remembering Again

15 Feb

Life can be complicated and we’re often busy taking care of all the details necessary to keep everything running smoothly. There can be a lot going on and sometimes if we’re so focused on getting things done and moving on to the next task, we may lose sight of the big picture. As we go through our experiences we learn new things, what works, what hurts, what stops our progress and a million other things. The lessons we gain give us insight and understanding that help us as we continue on and open new doors ahead. But life is busy and it’s possible to forget even an important lesson while we try to untangle today’s issues, and get ready for tomorrow’s. Someone may say something that reminds us of some mistake we made in the past, and we quickly remember what didn’t work and change course before we repeat a bad experience. There are reminders all around us of where we’ve been and what we’ve done already. If we’re so busy we don’t notice them, it’s possible we’ll travel down the same road that brought disaster once before and get to do it all over again. We date different people but they all have the same abusive personality, we repeat the same lack of judgement at work that creates stress and difficulty, or other things we’ve already proven do not work but neglect to change. We’re in complete control of every decision we make and there is no way to escape accountability for every action. There is nothing to be gained from lessons we choose to forget. Learning from our mistakes and using that knowledge to adjust our course moving forward will help us find happiness and reach success. We can do anything we want and have the lives we most desire by learning everything possible as we move ahead. Every destination is possible and with clarity and focus, nothing can keep us from anything we want.

Back when records were used to record music, sometimes there would be a nick in the disc creating a skip, and the music would repeat the same phrase over and over again. If we refuse to learn from our mistakes, our lives may be like that. We may repeat the same bad decisions over and over again. Repeating a bad mistake doesn’t make it better. We deserve complete happiness, and by remembering what we’ve learned along the way and applying it to what we’re doing now, we can achieve it. Everything is there for us. We just need to do what is needed to make it ours.

Traditions and routines are very powerful. There is nothing wrong with having a predictable life, but doing the same things can only bring the same results. If what we’re doing isn’t making us happy, we can change. We don’t have to stay in any relationship that doesn’t work, or keep a job that makes us crazy. There are always many options possible and we have everything we need to do anything we like. Every blessing is there for us, and with determination and patience, we can make them ours.

Today if you’re doing something that isn’t making you happy, think about what you really want. You are in control of your life and can design it any way you like. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step forward. There is great happiness just ahead and you will reach it.

Remembering the Dream

8 Feb

Our lives are busy and we often have lots of responsibilities and things we need to address. When there’s a lot going on and we’re jumping from one task to the next, our days can seem to rush by. The needs and concerns of life can be all encompassing and at times, it can seem like there is no end in sight. It’s good to be busy accomplishing the things that matter and move us forward, but sometimes all the details we’re taking care of are just busy work. They capture our attention and keep us occupied, but do nothing to take us closer to our own personal goals. The complications of life can be constant, and there is no doubt that if we let them, will control all our time and focus. Our desires are important and setting our dreams aside may be necessary sometimes, but if we set them aside and forget about them, nothing will change. It’s easy to get caught up and lots of time may pass before we stop and think about the dreams waiting for us. We can be responsible and take care of business, and still take time to remember where we most want to go, and begin the journey forward to actually get there. Our dreams are important, but they will remain unreachable as long as we ignore them. No genie or fairy godmother is going to show up to give us what we want. It’s up to us to make things happen, and create the lives we want the most. We are wise and more powerful than we think we are. We can do anything and go anywhere, but we have to define what that is, and then step forward on the path that will take us to it. We can take care of our lives, and still plan for tomorrow. Everything is possible, and with determination and a clear plan, we can achieve anything. Success is waiting for us, and we already possess everything necessary to make it ours.

We have no control over the circumstances into which we are born. Some of us are born into privilege and wealth, some are born into poverty, some to parents who love and cherish them, some not so much, and thousands of other situations. We are dependent on others for care and support until we reach maturity, and then our lives are our responsibility. Where we started can never determine where we end up. We have complete control over the decisions we make. If we keep our eyes focused on what we want to achieve, our chances of success are great. We are highly capable of accomplishing whatever we desire, and every dream is possible.

Standing around and talking about what we’re going to do or making endless plans for when we’re going to start will not change our situation. What we want is possible but we must do what is needed to make it ours. Anything worth having is worth working for. No matter where we are, or what’s going on, there will be something we can do to move forward. Every step counts, including the small and insignificant ones. By staying focused on the destination, we can find our way ahead, and with effort and persistence, reach any goal.

Today if you’ve been busy and have set your dreams aside, stop and think about what you want the most. The destinations you dream about are possible. Make a plan and take the first step forward. You are intelligent and wise, and will find all the answers you need. Stand strong and look ahead. Every goal is there for you, and you will succeed.

Being the Fly

19 Jan

“Will you walk into my parlour?” said the Spider to the Fly…” Mary Howitt

Many of us have heard the story of the spider and the fly. The spider lures the fly into its web with flattering words and compliments, and in the end the fly is captivated and then is captured. In life, there are all kinds of people with all kinds of ideas and agendas. If they want us to join them, they may flatter and cajole us, offering us gifts or constant attention. If we’re careful and sure of ourselves, we may see through the manipulation and be able to walk away, but there may be times we miss the mark. We might align ourselves with someone who looks like a friend and ally, only to discover once we’re next to them that they are completely different than we thought. Once the shine of newness and flattery is gone, the stark truth of what’s happening will appear. If we’ve been caught up in something we don’t want, we aren’t doomed to stay forever. It doesn’t matter what we’ve been promised, or how much they reassure us that what we can plainly see isn’t the truth. We’re in control of our lives and can step away from anything that makes us uncomfortable or is heading somewhere we don’t want to go. Nobody knows everything and there will likely be times when we’ll be deceived. We may have been the fly at the beginning, but we are never so entangled we can’t escape. Once the truth is clear, we can decide how we want to proceed, and choose the best road forward. Nothing can hold us down indefinitely, and with courage, and wisdom we can do what is needed to correct our course at any time, and continue forward toward success.

If we want to convince someone to do something, we might embellish facts, or leave out information that may dissuade them from agreeing. We can do anything we like, but truth is powerful and will eventually rise and become evident. Bending details, and glossing over problems in an effort to get someone’s support may work at the beginning, but as time marches on, all the flaws and issues we left out will show themselves. It’s far better to be completely honest and upfront, explain the facts as they are, and let those around us decide for themselves.

When we are captivated by someone, it may be hard to see everything as it truly is. If they are very attractive, we may be blinded by their beauty and unable to clearly focus on what is real. It’s exciting to feel the thrall of attraction, but we can take our time and stop for a moment to look at everything objectively. Infatuation is intense and fleeting, but we can keep our wits about us and hold fast to reality. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and patience, we can make our dreams come true.

Today if you’re being lured to do something you aren’t sure of, think about what you really want. You are intelligent and wise and can discern what is real. Decide what you want the most, and step forward with determination and focus. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Be confident and strong. Every single destination is there for you and nothing can keep you from success.