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Asking For It

16 Oct

There are lot of things going on in our lives all the time. Everything is constantly changing and although we may have a good hold on what’s happening now, it could all shift in a moment and then suddenly we’re in foreign territory. Nobody knows everything and when we find ourselves in situations where we aren’t sure how to proceed, we can always ask for help. There will often be someone around who has information that will assist us, but if we never inquire or open the door to communication, we won’t have access to it. Some people feel uncomfortable asking for help. Perhaps they perceive it as a sign of weakness or defeat, but in truth, asking for assistance doesn’t mean either of those things. It’s just asking a question and enables us to connect to possibilities that otherwise may not be found. If we’re determined to find all the answers on our own and don’t involve others, we may find our way ahead but it might take a lot longer and be more difficult than it needs to be. There are lots of sources available to us and asking for information and advice may make things much quicker and easier than trying to do it all by ourselves. We’re good at many things and always have the potential for great success. By being open to those around us and welcoming help when we need it, our success may be magnified and increased. There are unlimited roads to every destination but because of complications in the way, we may not see them. Allowing others to point the way and help direct us around any obstacles will move us forward and help us reach our goals. Learning to ask questions will open all the doors ahead and pave the way forward. We are wise and capable, and nothing can keep us from any destination we desire.

We can’t anticipate what we don’t know and sudden changes may put us in situations that are unfamiliar and confusing. If the situation is complex and we don’t know where to turn or how to proceed, asking for guidance can save a lot of time and effort. There is no need to re-invent the wheel. We can lean on someone else’s understanding until we gain our own.

When we enter a dark room at night, it’s hard to see. If the room is familiar to us, we may be able to navigate through the darkness and still find our way, but if we’re in a new place, that will be difficult, if not impossible. Turning on a light immediately changes everything. We can see clearly and move forward without any problems. The same is true when we’re moving through our lives. If we don’t have any idea where we are or what lies ahead, getting help from others is like turning on the lights. They can show us the way forward, and help us navigate through until we find our way. Success is always possible, and we can reach any destination getting assistance along the way.

Today if you’re stuck and can’t see the way forward, ask those around you for help and assistance. They have information that will help you open the doors ahead and continue toward your goal. Everything you need is available. Arm yourself with additional information and step ahead. Nothing is out of reach and every goal is possible. You will reach your destination and find great success.

One Bite

1 Oct

There are endless opportunities available to us all the time. We can look at all the options possible and then choose where we want to go and what we want to do. The beginning of a new quest brings refreshment and excitement as we look ahead at new destinations and what we will accomplish. Some goals are easy and don’t take a lot of time but others may be more complex, requiring us to devote many hours and lots of concentration in order to achieve them. When we have a long journey ahead of us we may be tempted to try to take some shortcuts to shave off a little of the time and effort necessary. That might work or we may find nothing but the long way forward will get us there. When we’re eager to get to the end, we may try to do more, or do it faster to move us ahead more expeditiously. Instead of taking it step by step, one bite at a time, we may attempt to take on the whole thing at once thinking it’ll speed things up. We can try anything, but that old saying of “haste makes waste” make come into play and work against us. Rushing ahead may help in some ways, but we may miss some important information and cues along the way. There is always much to be learned in every endeavor and if we’re patient and plan our steps ahead carefully, we can take advantage of everything we can gain from the experience. Taking it one bite at a time is often the best way to proceed. Unless there is some time constraint pressing us, we can move ahead at a pace that allows us to advance and still learn everything possible from the experience. Success is always there for us, and nothing can keep us from reaching any goal we desire. We have all the wisdom and courage we need to go anywhere and do anything. We can make our dreams come true and have the lives we desire.

Few things in life go as planned, and even fewer go exactly the way we want them to. Disappointments will come and getting angry and upset won’t help us process them. Life is filled with unexpected developments. There is always more going on than we can see or even imagine. When a roadblock appears and we can’t advance, there will always be a way around. There are many roads leading to every destination. If one doesn’t work, we can always start again from another perspective and find our way forward.

If we’ve been pushing forward toward a goal for a long time and don’t see any progress, it may be time to re-assess our actions. Perhaps we’re moving too quickly and missing important cues for the road ahead. Or we’re distracted by other things that take us off course and we are constantly having to regroup. Every goal is possible but we must focus and keep our eyes on the road if we want to succeed. We are capable of accomplishing anything we desire, and with determination we can reach any destination.

Today if you’ve been trying to do too much at once and are stalled in your progress, step back and look at everything clearly. Decide on the way forward and take it one bite at a time. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach. Step forward with confidence and claim the prize. Everything is possible and you will succeed

Follow the Leader

30 Sep

Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we like. We always know who we are but there may be times when we modify our course to follow someone else, and decide to pattern our lives after theirs. If they’re successful in ways we desire, we may choose to copy their actions and decisions in the hopes that we’ll achieve the same success for ourselves. There are countless self-help books available that tell us if we want to be happy or accomplish something important, we need only copy what the author has done and we’ll succeed. Whether that is accurate or not is debatable but if we believe them, we may try to emulate their lives instead of living our own. Like the child’s game, Follow the Leader, we can copy anyone else’s moves and decisions at any time. We can follow them for as long as we like and we might end up somewhere we want to go – or we might not. It all depends on the decisions we make along the way. Each of us is unique and our life expressions are individual to our own experiences. Trying to be like someone else might move us closer to a goal, but if we only copy another’s choices, we’ll never know what we could do on our own. We are highly capable and able to achieve anything we desire. There isn’t a destination we can’t reach, and we already possess everything we need to be successful. Following along will only take us where someone else wants to go and teach us someone else’s lessons. There are endless paths to discover and we can create the lives we dream about by finding them on our own. We can forge our own unique road ahead and achieve any goal we desire. Nothing is beyond our reach and we will find great success.

When we’re unsure about where we’re headed, we can lean on someone else’s decisions and direction until we feel more confident. However, if we continue to rely on decisions made by others, we won’t reach the destinations we most desire. There is no way to reach our personal goals by following someone headed in a different direction. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. We can trust ourselves and step ahead with confidence, and reach every destination we desire.

There are countless possibilities in life and before we decide what we want we may follow many different ideas and try on various viewpoints and opinions. Every option has its benefits and drawbacks, and as we explore each, we will discover what’s important to us and what we want most. There are endless opportunities and we can design our lives any way we like. We are the only ones with the gifts we have to offer and the whole world is blessed because we are here. Every option is possible and with determination and focus, we can have the lives we dream of.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s ideas and decisions, trust yourself and decide to create the life you want the most. Step forward with confidence. You can do anything and nothing is too far to reach. Think about what you want the most and then move toward your goal. Nothing can keep you from any destination you desire. Success is there for you, and you have everything you need to reach it.

That Loving Feeling

26 Sep

Human relationships can be very rewarding. Our lives are enhanced and enriched when we have deep, strong connections to others that are positive and uplifting. When we first find someone we’re attracted to and begin to draw close to them, we may be filled with infatuation. It can be a dizzying, delirious feeling that makes us weak in the knees and unable to concentrate. The first rush of love can be quite intense but it cannot last. If we stay close, time and interaction will ripen our feelings to a deeper, more sustaining sense of love. Being in love can be an incredibly positive experience that augments our lives and enhances our senses. But if we want the love to last it must move beyond feelings. We must do things that show how we care, learn how to support one another, and live our lives in ways that include each other. Although we may have very strong and intense feelings about someone else, love itself is a verb that requires action if we want it to last. We can’t focus only on ourselves, and our personal wants and desires, and expect to have a healthy, strong relationship. That means we must be willing to give our time, our energy, and our attention, and meet our partner’s needs with grace and patience. The best relationships in our lives will come when we do everything we can to build them up and make them last. Human bonds that complete our lives and bring us great happiness are precious and rare. It’s extraordinary to find someone we love with whom we want to build a future. It’s more precious than anything else we may experience. By valuing our relationships and treating them with care, doing everything possible to make them strong and vibrant, we will find great happiness.

The things we want in life are ever changing. One year we’re sure we want one thing and the next we’re on to something new. But our needs are a different story. We can change what we want at any time, but our needs are hard-wired into who we are. If we’re in a relationship and we’re sure we’re in love but the other person doesn’t fulfill our basic needs for attention or communication, it’s unlikely it will survive. We’ll have to choose to either continue an unworkable situation or move on. We deserve every happiness and the best relationships possible.

The world is filled with all kinds of people. It’s possible to fall for someone who is narcissistic and selfish. We may overlook the things that are difficult in the beginning, but eventually it will be impossible to ignore bad behavior. We are worth the best relationships possible. We need never surrender to a situation that doesn’t make us happy or bring us a deep fulfilling connection. We can decide what we want, and then do what is needed to make sure we get it.

Today if you’re in a relationship that isn’t making you feel worthwhile and cared for, you can change direction. Every happiness you desire is possible. You are amazing and all your dreams can come true. Care deeply for yourself and choose wisely. There is tremendous happiness waiting, and you will reach it.

The Price

18 Sep

We can do anything we want in our lives. We can accomplish any goal and reach any destination. Everything is possible but nothing will simply happen because we desire it. Despite what we want, and what some may tell us, few things are free and basically everything we desire will require something from us. It may be monetary, physical, emotional or technical, or any of an unlimited variety of sacrifices. If we want the goal, we’ll have to pay the price. It’s up to us to determine if the price is worth what we’re trying to gain. Sometimes that will be easy to discern – as in the case of monetary cost. If we don’t think the item we want is worth the cost, we won’t pay it. However, other factors aren’t as easy to perceive, and we may find ourselves in a situation where what we’re giving far exceeds any benefit we will derive in the end. We are intelligent and capable, and would never knowingly enter into an agreement that will take more than we want to give. Unfortunately, sometimes the parameters and costs aren’t easy to ascertain and we may forge ahead blindly hoping everything will work out. We never have to stay on any road if we aren’t comfortable or there are no benefits for us to continue. We are in control of our lives, and if we’ve chosen something that isn’t working out the way we want, we can step away and change direction. We can achieve anything we desire if the costs to accomplish it are possible and we’re willing to pay them. Our lives are ours to design. We can go anywhere and do anything. Choosing the roads we want the most and managing them well, will bring us great satisfaction and happiness moving forward.

Successful relationships are partnerships of giving and taking. We give our time and attention to someone else, and support their efforts, and they give the same back to us in return. We offer help and consideration when things get hard, and loving kindness to smooth the way ahead. If we’re in a situation where we’re giving and the other person is only taking, the balance will be unsettled and we may pay more than we’re comfortable with. We deserve complete happiness and can change anything in our lives at any time. We can have happy, healthy relationships that bring us great pleasure and contentment. By choosing carefully, and making sure our connections are balanced and even, we will find great happiness and satisfaction.

In the retail market, prices change and fluctuate. The same can be true in our personal lives. We may enter into an agreement with the understanding that things will go a certain way, but as time passes the situation may change. If we’re not getting the benefits we need from our involvement, we can alter our course. Nothing in life is permanent. We can change anything at any time. We know what we want, and can do what is needed to ensure we achieve it.

Today if you’re in a situation where you’re giving more than you’re receiving, remember how valuable you are. You deserve every happiness and success. Every road is open and you can go anywhere and do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most, and step forward toward your goal. Nothing is out of reach and you will prevail.

Make Me Happy

13 Sep

Our lives are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had and a result of every choice we make. If we choose things that take us where we want to go, we often find happiness. But choices can be affected by those around us, or situations that have influence over us. If we’re trying to impress someone and they’re doing something we normally wouldn’t like, we might choose it to show our alignment with them. Following someone else’s ideas can only take us where they’re headed. Our lives are always in our control. Doing things opposed to the life we desire will only delay or completely prevent us from finding true happiness. If we lack confidence or are unsure about where we want to go, we may pattern our lives after someone we admire. There’s nothing wrong with mimicking good, strong characteristics, but we’re responsible for our own lives. We can’t be who we are and someone else at the same time. Nobody else can make us happy. It’s a responsibility that falls completely on us. When we live authentically, and make choices that represent who we really are, happiness will follow. We are unique and valuable just as we are. There is no need to conform to those around us, or try to fit into someone else’s mold. We have individual and specific gifts to offer and nobody could ever replace us. We can be confident in living the lives we want the most, and choosing the roads that take us where we want to go. Every dream can come true and we can reach any destination we desire. Nothing is out of reach and complete happiness is always possible.

Our lives are our responsibility. If we’re not happy, it’s up to us to do what’s needed to change. We never have to stay in any situation indefinitely. There will always be options available and we can alter our course until we’re on the road we desire most. If others want us to stay where we are, they may try to hold us in place. We can stay in any situation for as long as we like but if we’re ready to move forward, nothing can keep us down. We deserve complete happiness. If we’re not getting it, we can change our lives and direction until we reach it.

Life is filled with responsibilities and details that require our attention. If we’re very busy attending to many obligations, our personal happiness may be pushed aside. It’s easy to forget ourselves when we’re busy serving others, but our personal needs are important. If we neglect ourselves, and let our own desires sit dormant, it will be impossible to feel complete. Nothing is more important than our personal health and well-being. When we nurture ourselves, and take the best of care, everything will come more easily, and we’ll find satisfaction and success moving forward.

Today if you’ve been setting aside your own personal needs in order to take care of everything else, remember you are important and priceless. You can have the life you dream about. Make choices that will take you where you most want to go and show us who you are. There isn’t anyone else like you and we need the gifts you have to offer. Step forward with confidence and claim your happiness. It’s always there for you, and every blessing is possible.

Twisted Roads

12 Sep

As we’re pressing forward toward the goals we want to achieve, sometimes the road turns or we’re taken off course. Unexpected developments often occur and when they do, we may have to change direction. There will always be options for moving ahead and each choice will give us information that helps us continue forward. We’re capable of making our own decisions but there may be times when others or outside influences force us to take a direction we don’t want or don’t like. If that happens, we may be sure we’re headed the wrong way and attempt to return and start again. But life continues on and despite our best efforts we may continue to be pulled along against our will. There are endless roads to every destination and even when we’re sure we’re not headed in the right direction, sometimes we may be surprised to find we have arrived at exactly where we need to be. An unexpected change of direction can take us somewhere we didn’t know we wanted to go. Nobody knows everything and every decision we make is determined by what we can see at the moment and the information we have. There will always be more details we don’t know. The road we’re on may get twisted up and turned around, and then surprisingly take us to the very place we most want to be. It’s impossible to see the end from the beginning. We may be diverted by a turn that takes us someplace new, and enhances our experiences in ways we never imagined. Being open to every possibility will bring us unexpected blessings, and enhance our lives in rich and wonderful ways.

We always know what we want the most. We may not share our desires with anyone but we understand where we want to go and what we want to do. Confusion and disagreement don’t change our desires, and with determination we can achieve every goal we choose. Sometimes there’s a straight road ahead, but other times we may get sidetracked along the way. Life is filled with all kinds of surprises. It’s impossible to control anything outside ourselves. We can let changes happen and still move forward with confidence.

Even if we plan well and are sure we know where we’re headed, things may change. We can’t see the end from the beginning, and although we have faith we’ll reach our destination, how long that takes or where we’ll go along the way is unknown. A broken road that becomes impassable requires us to change our plans. The path may not take us to the original goal we wanted but may turn and open new doors and horizons before us. We may discover a new destination that brings us great happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’re trying to reach a goal but everything is pushing you in a different direction, step forward with confidence. If you must change your course, be open and discover what lies ahead. You may be surprised to find great blessings and happiness waiting for you. Life is filled with unexpected changes and each has great potential. Be open and ready. The whole world is filled with possibilities. There is great success and happiness waiting for you, and you will reach it.