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All Mine

4 May

There are endless decisions to make as we navigate through our lives. Some are insignificant, some are important, some are serious, and others may completely change our direction. Not every decision will have a great impact, but large or small, they are ours to make. They may go the way we think they will and when they do, we’re happy with the choice we made. But that isn’t always the case. If we make a decision that doesn’t go well, blows up in our face, or completely ruins our plans, we’ll feel very differently about it. If others influenced us, we may try to blame them and that might deflect the attention away from us for a time, but will never hold up. If we didn’t have all the information before we pushed forward, we can blame those who provided whatever information we had. There are all kinds of creative ways to pretend we aren’t responsible, but in truth, we own every choice we make. They belong completely to us, and nothing can change that. Right or wrong, good or bad, we choose what we want, and then face whatever consequences our choices bring. Nobody is perfect and we all fall down from time to time. If we falter, and things go wrong, the destination may elude us. It doesn’t mean we won’t be successful in the future or that the roads ahead are forever closed. It’s just a detour while we figure out what to do next and learn more about the way forward. We have unlimited chances to move ahead. One bad decision can never hold us in place. We can be confident that no matter where we are, or what problems we must face, we will find our way. Every success is possible and we can be sure we will prevail.

Some people are great escape artists. They get tangled up in a problem they created, and somehow find a way to disappear before everything falls apart. When questioned they may deny their involvement or say they knew nothing about the situation. It’s not always our job to hold others accountable for what they do, even if it negatively impacts our lives. We are where we are, and trying to make someone confess their part in the mess may only waste our time. We are highly intelligent and capable, and no matter what’s gone wrong can find a way to correct our course and continue on.

It’s unfair to leave others to clean up a mess we’ve created. If we dug the hole, we need to fill it. Walking away and ignoring the issue doesn’t excuse us. Nobody gets everything right every time. If we’ve created a problem, we have everything we need to solve it. Standing firm and doing what is needed to correct our course will bring us great satisfaction and confidence. We are strong and powerful, and nothing is beyond our reach. We can do what is necessary to stay on track and move forward toward our goals.

Today if a decision you made is crashing and burning, and you want to run and hide, stand still and look at everything objectively. This is just a bump in the road. Begin to untangle the problem and decide on the best way forward. You are smarter than you think you are and nothing can hold you down. Be wise and step forward with confidence. Every success is there for you, and nothing will keep you from it.

Changing Location

24 Apr

There are endless places to go in the world, and unlimited things to see. We can choose any destination and then do what is needed to get there. All options are possible but we won’t go anywhere until we decide to move. We are where we are, and if we don’t like a particular location, we don’t have to stay there. Our lives belong to us and we have control over every decision we make. If we’re unhappy or feel unfulfilled, it’s up to us to do what is needed to change. We never have to continue to tolerate a situation simply because that’s where we are. We are strong and powerful, and nothing can hold us in place against our will, but we must decide if we’re ready to move. Change won’t just happen because we’re thinking about it. Even if we’re unhappy, life won’t simply provide something new for us. We can move or we can stay in the same situation indefinitely. Going someplace new requires effort and there are no guarantees things will work out the way we want them to. The road ahead may be easy and we might get to a new location quickly and with few problems, or it might be hard with lots of complications and twists and turns. There is no way to know in advance how hard it will be and if that’s enough to keep us in place, we can stay where we are. But if we want something different, and are ready to do what is necessary to change our situation, nothing is out of reach and the whole world is possible. We can change anything in our lives, and reach every goal ahead.

It’s very uncomfortable to hear someone continually complain about their situation or where they are in life, and do nothing to change it. We will all face times when we end up somewhere we don’t want to be. Getting there is not the end of the road or the end of the journey. We may have to wait until our situation allows us to move, but as soon as the opportunity arises, we can step away and advance toward the destinations we desire. Life is fluid and nothing is permanent. It may take planning, and we may have to work to achieve the changes we desire, but everything is possible, and we can have the lives we want the most.

Nobody can read the future, and we never know what tomorrow will bring. However, one thing is certain – if we do nothing it’s unlikely our lives will dramatically change. Standing around complaining about our lot in life may bring us temporary relief from an uncomfortable situation, but will do nothing to make things better. Our lives are an incredible blessing. We can decide what we want and then do what is needed to get there. All destinations are possible and nothing is too far to achieve. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we desire.

Today if you’re frustrated with where you are and want a change but have been unsure about moving forward, trust yourself. You are intelligent and wise, and nothing is too hard for you. Decide what you want and where you want to go. Every destination and goal are possible. You are amazing and have everything you need to get the life you want. Step forward with clarity and confidence. Every blessing is already there for you, and you will have them.

Alone and Sunk

22 Apr

We’ll face many challenges and trials as we go through our lives. They may come from decisions we’ve made or have nothing to do with us. We never know what will happen next and we may get caught unaware and surprised by an unfortunate development. When we’re going through a difficult time, and trying hard to figure out what to do, it’s helpful to have the support of others. Having those around us cheering us on and giving us advice can make the road easier to navigate, and boost our morale. But there may be times when we are all alone in the struggle and wonder how we’ll get through. If everything depends on us, we may be unsure about how to proceed. We may be standing on our own and convinced there is nobody to help. Whatever we’re facing will surely be harder by ourselves than if there was someone beside us to ask and get counsel from. If we stumble trying to find our way, we may lose our confidence and begin to think we’re sunk, and we’ll never get through. While we may have to walk alone from time to time, we’ll never be in a place where there is no one to help us. There will always be someone with the answers we’re seeking, who can guide us and assure us of success. They may not be right next to us and we may have to look a little harder to find them, but they will be there. No matter what the question is or how confused we are, we can get the help we need. We may start out alone and hesitant, but if we need assistance, it will be there for us. However, it’s up to us to seek out those we need and enlist their help. Nobody will magically appear because we’re stuck. We are intelligent and capable, and when we need it, can get the help and assistance required to reach success. Nothing is out of reach and with patience and wisdom, we will find our way.

It’s nice when we can accomplish our goals on our own. It’s rewarding and satisfying to know we have what it takes to go where we want. But life is complicated and there will be times when going alone will be more difficult than we can manage. Asking for help doesn’t mean we aren’t capable of succeeding, or that we’re weak. Seeking out more information and assistance enables us to accomplish anything we desire. No man is an island. We’re all out here together. Making the most of all the resources around us will help us reach every destination and find great satisfaction.

It’s good to be independent and take care of ourselves. We are strong and capable, and can live our lives any way we like. Some roads are easy but others are tangled and twisted, and we may get stuck trying to move forward. When our cars get stuck, we can call a tow truck. If we get stuck, we can call on someone else for help. There is no need to stand mired in the mud indefinitely, determined to do it on our own. We can reach for someone to pull us out and help us continue forward.

Today if you’re trying to get through a difficult challenge and can’t move, seek out those around you and ask for help. You don’t have to do everything all by yourself. You have so much to offer and nothing is too far to reach. Get help when you need it and confidently move forward. Every dream is possible, and you will make them yours.

Choosing Kindness

17 Apr

We make millions and millions of decisions as we travel through our lives. Some are inconsequential and don’t impact us, and others are more important and can be far reaching. It really won’t matter in the long scheme of things which shirt we decide to wear today, but our lives may be intensely impacted by who we marry, where we work, and with whom we affiliate. If we’re careful and take our time to make the best decisions we can, we may avoid complications, but even then, unexpected things may arise that give us heartburn for a time. Everyone has their own ideas and opinions regarding what they’re doing and what’s happening. If we feel others are missing the mark and we have the right answer, we may disregard them and push them aside. Everyone has something to offer, and nobody knows everything. If it’s important to us that others accept our opinion, we may insist that our idea be the one chosen. We might have the best answer and we might not, but one thing is certain. If we demand that our views are the only ones permitted, we’ll never get the chance to see what others have to offer. We’re entitled to our own opinions, and so is everyone else. Being right might be important, but if we must choose between being right or being kind, what we choose will determine what comes next. Our relationships are important and how we treat them often sets the tone going forward. If we value everyone’s point of view, and treat them with kindness even when we disagree, we will keep the lines of communication open, and protect our connections. We can share our own viewpoints, and be confident in allowing others to share theirs.

Our ideas are important, but not everyone will agree with us. We don’t need permission to do anything we desire, and we don’t need others to align with our choices. However, if we’re in a situation where we must follow someone else’s lead, and we disagree, we can still move forward with grace and patience. We don’t always have to be in control. Everyone has good ideas and there are many roads to every destination. If we must go along with something we didn’t choose, we can do so with determination and focus, and reach success.

If being right is the most important thing to us, in the rush to make others agree, we may forget how important our relationships are. We all want to be heard, and nobody wants to be bullied or pushed around. If we’re sure we have the answers, we can express our opinion with patience and kindness, and then ask for support. Others will be more interested in hearing our proposal if we’re considerate and open to their opinions as well. We are smart and capable, and with patience and grace, will accomplish all our goals.

Today if you’re sure you have the best idea for moving forward, share your thoughts with those around you and allow them to contribute. Be kind and open to other opinions and reach consensus that involves everyone. You are amazing and talented, and can accomplish anything you desire. Build connections as you move forward, and you will reach every destination. Nothing will stop you from achieving success.

Endurance Test

15 Apr

There are a lot of challenges and tests we navigate throughout our lives. We never know what we’ll have to face as the future unfolds, and although we are intelligent and capable, we may have to endure something that overwhelms us for longer than we want. Trouble comes in all kinds of ways, and there may be times when we can’t move. We aren’t alone in the world and can’t control what others are doing. We might find ourselves in a situation where someone else’s bad decisions affect us in negative ways. It doesn’t feel fair that we must suffer because of actions out of our control, and if that happens, we may be frustrated and angry. We are in charge of our lives, and nobody wants to be restrained from moving forward because of decisions out of our control. However, if that is what’s happening, we can deal with it until things change. It’s hard to be patient when we want to move, but we are intelligent and can find the way to manage whatever comes. We can look at all the possibilities waiting for us, and plan how we’ll progress when things open up again. Waiting gives us time to think about all the possible eventualities that may occur, and helps us refine our way forward. We are very strong and completely capable of doing whatever we desire. Change will come and we’ll be able to begin moving ahead again. Until then, we can work on what is available right now, and prepare for the future. Every destination we desire is waiting for us, and when we can move again, we’ll reach them.

Sometimes when we fly on a plane, we may encounter a situation where we’ve arrived at our destination, but the plane must circle for a while before we can land. We eagerly await our turn to finally get off the plane. While we wait, we may feel impatient. It’s hard to be in a holding pattern in our lives. We know where we want to go and what we want to do, and waiting to progress may weigh heavily on us. We may feel the press of time passing, and our frustration may increase. It won’t help us to get angry if we can’t change the situation. Instead of wasting our energies wishing things would change, we can use the time to get ready for when all the doors open again. We are intelligent and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. Things will resolve, and we’ll jump forward toward all the goals we desire.

Learning to endure difficult situations gives us grace, and teaches us more about ourselves. We are capable of greatness, and our power is increased as we work through every situation. The whole world is there for us and if we can’t get to our goals today, we’ll get them tomorrow. If tomorrow we’re still stuck, they will remain in place waiting for our arrival. We are powerful and wise, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’re having trouble enduring a situation you can’t change, decide what you want and determine how you will proceed. Every destination is still there for you, and all the doors ahead will open. You are amazing and can do anything you desire. Your future is waiting. Be patient, and get ready. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed.