Tag Archives: Loss

Failing Forward

24 Aug

As we go through our lives we’ll face countless challenges, trials and problems. No matter how hard we plan the road ahead, there is no way to predict what will happen or what may get in the way. We never know what lies around the next curve and despite our efforts to succeed, we will undoubtedly at some point face failure of some kind. Failure is a complex event sometimes filled with feelings of inadequacy and doubt, but when things go wrong and our plans blow up, we find out what doesn’t work. It doesn’t mean we’re dumb, or cannot succeed, but only that what we tried wasn’t successful. If we use all we learn from what went awry we will gain more information and skills to take with us moving forward. Failure doesn’t mean the end of the journey, and can, in the end, move us forward toward success. Nobody knows everything and we learn by doing. It’s impossible to get every road paved from beginning to end, and there will always be unexpected and unforeseen complications that may arise. By keeping our eyes open, and learning everything we can with each new development, we will be able to find the way ahead and reach the goal. We are intelligent and capable and when we are determined, nothing can keep us from any destination we desire. By trusting ourselves and continuing on, no matter what happens, we will succeed.

Sometimes things go wrong and we may experience a time when it seems that no matter what we do we simply cannot move forward. The goal eludes us and we feel stuck. Timing is important and current circumstances may be working against us. If we can’t move now, we can set the goal aside until our situation changes, and then try again. We have unlimited chances to reach success, and there isn’t anything too complex or difficult for us to manage.  Every destination is possible and with wisdom and patience, we can reach them all.

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go, and if we’ve failed to reach the goal more than once, someone may tell us to give up and let it go. Nobody knows what we want better than we do. Our lives belong to us, and we don’t need agreement to go anywhere or do anything. We can look at everything objectively, weigh all our options, and make the best plan for moving forward. Every single dream is possible, and with persistence and clarity, we can make them ours.

Today if your plans have failed and you feel like you can’t win, remember all the times you’ve been successful in the past. Just because something is difficult, doesn’t mean it’s impossible. Think about how you want to proceed, and start again. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are, and nothing is out of reach. Trust yourself and step forward. Success is just ahead, and you will reach it.

The Road Ahead

15 Aug

Wherever we are in life, there will always be endless new roads around us. Options are unlimited and we can make any decisions we like. If we’ve been on the same road doing the same things for a while, we may feel there is no way we can start again. It may seem impossible to stand up and turn in a new direction, and too hard to change. Change isn’t always easy, but we are in control of our lives and are never frozen on one path. If we’re headed somewhere we don’t want to go, but feel compelled to continue because of a relationship or other pressures, we may believe there is nothing we can do. If those around us are insistent that we stay with them, we may comply and keep moving toward a goal or destination we haven’t chosen. We can do anything we like, but our lives belong to us and our happiness is our responsibility. Our dreams are possible and we can do anything we like. Decisions of others belong to them, and we never have to follow along if we want something else. We know who we are and we know what we want. We don’t need agreement or permission to do anything we desire. By looking at everything openly and objectively, and choosing the way forward that leads where we want to go, we will find great satisfaction and happiness. Every destination is possible and nothing is out of reach. By being confident and trusting ourselves, we can have the lives we want the most. We are intelligent and wise, and everything is there for us. All our dreams are possible, and we can make them ours.

Life is full of unexpected developments. We never know what will happen next, and we may face a difficult time that is complex and challenging. If the road ahead seems dark and filled with trouble, we may feel powerless and unsure. We only have control over our own decisions and things may go awry and our worst fears may be realized. It’s hard to find our footing when there is little light and we are overwhelmed, but we are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing is powerful enough to keep us from moving forward. Every success will still be there for us and with patience and clarity, we will find all the answers we need.

We can make excellent plans and still things can go sideways. There will always be factors we can’t see and information we don’t know about. Everything may blow up and we may face complete failure, but failure isn’t fatal. Once we discover what doesn’t work, we can start investigating new ideas and open new doors. Failure is just a detour and never the end of the journey. By learning all we can from what’s happened, we can take new skills ahead with us until we reach success.

Today if the road ahead is dark and bleak and you can’t see a way out, stop and look at everything clearly. There is always another option. Open your eyes and focus on the goal you want to reach. You are powerful and strong, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Be confident and step forward. Every destination awaits, and you will reach them all.

One Tiny Star

16 Feb

We experience all kinds of ups and downs as we go through our lives. There will be many different situations and we’ll be happy, sad, stressed, relieved, scared, irritated, and thousands of other possibilities. We can’t see beyond where we are and there is no way to predict what will happen next. Everything may be moving along well when suddenly there is a turn, something changes, and everything is upside down. We’ll all face times of difficulty and grief, and when it’s extreme, the darkness may be pervasive and intense. When things are going wrong, when we’re alone and bereft, when it seems there is no hope, we may be overwhelmed and convinced we will not survive. It’s hard to believe in light when all we can see is darkness ahead. But even on the darkest night, even when it feels like all is lost, there will still be one tiny star, one glint of brightness still visible in the distance. There will never be a time, no matter how bad things get, when everything is black. There will always be something good waiting in the wings. By focusing on the one small thing that’s going right, we will find the courage we need to continue on. Even if we lose everything, all our friends desert us, our lover walks away, all our money disappears, our cars are repossessed, we get fired from our jobs, and absolutely nothing is going right, it’s not the end. It may be a horrible, stressful, hard time, but it’s not the end of our lives. We’re still here, still breathing, and there is still great potential for the road ahead. Life is unpredictable, and every day will bring something new, but nothing is powerful enough to overcome us and hold us in place forever. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and will find our way through whatever comes.

There are a lot of things that can go wrong, and if we constantly think about the potential for disaster, we may never extend ourselves beyond what we know. There is comfort in familiarity and routine, but we have unlimited potential and can trust ourselves to reach further. There might be complications, but we are intelligent and can manage them. There might be problems, but we are wise and will find our way.

We may suffer through loss and disappointment that’s so great we feel paralyzed with pain. Grief and despair are not easy to navigate, but they cannot last forever. Change is constant, and no matter what we’re facing today, in time, it will change. The sun will shine again, our spirits will lift, and we’ll begin to look forward with confidence. There will always be something that’s working, and by focusing on what’s going right, we can move ahead sure of success.

Today if you’re going through serious trials, and it’s dark and threatening, look at everything objectively. There is still one tiny star shining light for you. Stand strong and take a step forward. Nothing can hold you down when you’re ready to move. Be wise and confident. Every blessing and every success is still there for you, and nothing can keep you from them.

What We Feel

20 Dec

People come in and out of our lives constantly. We have families, friends, acquaintances and people we simply notice in passing. There are billions of people in the world and each has a unique perspective about what’s going on and where we’re headed. We may be attracted to someone’s ideas, or how they express themselves, and as we interact with them, our feelings for them may grow and increase. We may begin to fall in love and expect the other person is having the same experience. People fall in love all the time, and when those feelings are reciprocated, our connection becomes deeper. It’s wonderful to find someone who loves us and with whom we can share our lives. But sometimes things may go another way. Our tender feelings might be strong but they will not create the same experience in someone else. We may discover we’re on completely different pages. It’s very painful to realize the one we love does not feel the same way about us. If that happens, everything will change. No matter how much we want to be close, if our feelings aren’t returned, we’ll have to chart a different course going forward. There is no way to make someone love us, no matter what we do, or how hard we try. It’s either there, or it isn’t. We are lovable and amazing but if the feelings aren’t there, we’ll have to find a new way to continue. It’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves, and we can decide what’s best moving forward. We deserve to be completely happy, and can decide what works best for us. Unrequited love can be very painful, but we have a lot going for us, and with patience and wisdom, we’ll find the right way ahead. We can do what is needed to find balance, and ensure our happiness.

A one-way love affair will never bring us complete satisfaction. If we’re in a situation where we’re in love by ourselves, we may feel completely devastated, and alone. We can recognize our feelings and honor them, and then create a plan that takes us to a new situation and helps us move toward a new goal. By focusing on our own choices, we will begin to heal and find true happiness. We are intelligent and highly capable of doing anything we desire. We can accept the way things are, and then step forward with confidence.

When we suffer a great loss, we can take the time we need to grieve. Every painful process will be resolved in time, but every experience is different, and there is no way to know how much time that will take. We are strong and wise, and will find our footing again. We have so much potential and by focusing on where we want to go and what we want to do, will create the lives we want the most.

Today if you feel unloved or unappreciated, remember how incredible and valuable you are. You are a gift to the whole world. Your light shines on all of us, and we are blessed because you are here. Every dream you desire is within reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and then step forward with confidence and clarity. There is great happiness ahead, and nothing can keep you from success.

On the Level

14 Jun

As we go through our lives we experience a lot of ups and downs, successes and disappointments, and give and take. We never know what each day will bring and sometimes things go well, and sometimes they don’t. As we navigate all the changes and challenges we adjust and accommodate whatever is happening to keep ourselves on an even keel as much as possible. We can usually cope with whatever comes and mostly take it all in stride. We know the importance of perspective and as we face each situation try to keep things as level as we can so we can move forward with confidence. But if something extreme happens, something unpredictable and devastating, we might find our balance upset and everything leaning to one side. Our perspective is slanted and we struggle to stand up straight. Although we all go through hard times there isn’t anything we can’t manage. We can figure out how to right ourselves and find our way but it may take time as we process everything that’s happening. When our world has been shaken and we feel unstable, and when the road we’re on feels rocky and unsure it’s sometimes hard to look ahead. But we have all the courage we need and all the inspiration required to make things right again. It’s all inside us. We need only take some time to find our way and we’ll be able to correct the balance again.

Sometimes we all wish we could see the future. It seems if we could know what’s coming before it arrives we could better prepare for it. That might be true, but knowing what lies ahead could work against us as well. If we are overwhelmed at what we’re going to face we may try to hide instead of face it head on. We really don’t know how we’ll respond to anything until we experience it. We are where we are right now, and we’ll respond to whatever comes to us when it arrives. We can draw on all the experiences we’ve navigated already and find our way through whatever happens. There is nothing we can’t face and nothing we can’t conquer.

There are certain things we all think we could never survive. The loss of a loved one, the betrayal of a close friend, or maybe a serious financial setback. We may think there are things that will break us and from which we could not recover. But that is never true. Nobody wants to go through devastating losses or face extreme disappointments but even if we’ve been knocked completely down, we can get back up again. There isn’t any problem without a solution. There is no storm that doesn’t end. Even if we’ve completely lost our balance and our world has been shattered, tomorrow will come. And we will find a way through. We have more courage and strength than we know. We have everything we need to conquer anything we face. We can reset our level, we can rebalance the scales, and we can move forward. There is nothing that will stop us from succeeding.

Today if you feel overwhelmed and devastated by something that’s happened, remember how strong you are. You have overcome so many things already. This is just one more challenge and you have everything you need to conquer it. You are strong and capable and you can overcome any problem. Look ahead. This is just a storm and it will pass. Move forward with confidence. You have everything you need to succeed.