Tag Archives: Pain

Looking Over Your Shoulder

22 Nov

Life is complex and unpredictable. We will experience things we never imagined and face challenges that may try us and push us to our limits. We’ll also have some wonderful days filled with happiness and each event we experience will remain in our memories as we continue forward. Nobody gets a perfect life with all paved roads and unending success. Everyone will have hard times, and go through periods of distress, worry, and confusion. Although we always want to succeed at everything we do, it’s likely we’ll face failure at some point, and our lives may be upended. We may lose our jobs, forfeit our money, our lovers may leave us and countless other difficult things may happen. If we’ve been seriously hurt it may take significant time for us to heal and trust ourselves and our lives again. When we are ready to start over, the scars of what’s happened will remain and may continually prod us not to trust what lies ahead. Lots of things could happen but nobody can read the the future. We don’t know what will happen, who will enter our lives, or how things will work out. Things may have gone wrong in the past, but the past can never predict the future. However, if we continually look over our shoulder at where we were and obsess over everything that went awry, it will be nearly impossible to move forward. If our eyes are looking back, we will not be able to move ahead. There is much to be learned as we go through our lives, and although they hurt, the hardest times teach us the most. Instead of looking back and trying to dissect everything that went wrong, we can use the skills we’ve gained from what’s behind, and step forward armed with more information and greater confidence. Life is always moving ahead, and each day we get the chance to try again. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing can hold us back when we’re ready to move. We can look forward with clarity and be sure of success.

We may go through something that’s so painful and encompassing that it stops us in our tracks and shakes us to our very core. We may be temporarily paralyzed and unable to move. Our minds may race trying to grasp what’s happened and we may feel completely overwhelmed and lost. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, and bad stuff happens. Our world may be rocked and we may be dumbfounded for a moment, but we are intelligent and wise, and already possess everything we need to face anything that comes.

Our lives belong solely to us. We decide how we will proceed and what we will do. Situations may develop that take us off course, but the road will remain, waiting for us to return. Nothing can prevent us from moving toward any destinations we desire. If we must modify our plans, we can. If we must turn and go in another direction, we will find the way. We are powerful and highly capable, and we will succeed.

Today if you’ve been looking back and holding onto a painful memory, remember how important your life is. You have incredible gifts to offer, and the whole world in enriched because you are here. Turn your eyes to the road ahead, and stand strong. Nothing can keep you from your dreams. Be confident and step forward with clarity and resolve. You are amazing, and every blessing awaits.

Jagged Edge

14 Jun

Everyone wants an easy life where things always go smoothly and nothing gets in the way. We all want to sail through our days without resistance and trouble. It’s nice to dream about but this is real life and there is always a lot going on. There are people all around us making decisions, many of which we know nothing about but could affect us anyway. Complications come, trouble happens, issues arise and things get messy. If we’ve been seriously impacted and are devastated and hurt, it can feel like we’re covered with jagged edges. Nothing is smooth, nothing is easy and we may be overwhelmed and unsure. Hard times will come to us all, and what we do with them and how we handle them will determine what happens next. If we get angry and refuse to look at the problem, it will remain unsolved and unchecked indefinitely. However, if we stand strong, no matter what has gone wrong, and face everything with courage and clarity, there isn’t anything we can’t manage. The situation might be extreme, and we may be stunned at where we are, but the answers will always be there. By taking our time and trusting ourselves, we can take everything apart step by step and find the way forward. Life is complicated and we may suffer, but there isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us down forever. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and will prevail. Every dream is still there for us, and with determination and patience, we will succeed.

We all have things we think we could never survive – the death of a spouse, the betrayal of a lover, the loss of our fortunes, and endless other things. Life is long and at some point our worst dreams may come true. We may believe our lives are destroyed and there is no way we can get through but that will never be true. Even in our darkest hours, even if we’re sure we’re done and there is no hope, there will still be light ahead. There will always be a way out and we are smart enough and strong enough to find it.

When we’re in the midst of despair, someone may tell us to give up and surrender, that there is no way we can ever handle what’s happening. That is only their opinion and nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. There is great courage and wisdom inside us, and when we’re pressed against the wall, we can pull from deep within to find the answers we need. The jagged edges of pain and desperation will not overcome us, but sharpen our vision and bring us clarity. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

Today if you’re suffering through a very difficult passage and feel overcome, trust yourself. You are stronger and more powerful than you think you are. Stand strong and be courageous. You already have everything you need to prevail and nothing can keep you from success. Step forward and be confident. You are amazing and capable. Trust yourself. Every dream awaits and you will make them yours.

One Tiny Star

16 Feb

We experience all kinds of ups and downs as we go through our lives. There will be many different situations and we’ll be happy, sad, stressed, relieved, scared, irritated, and thousands of other possibilities. We can’t see beyond where we are and there is no way to predict what will happen next. Everything may be moving along well when suddenly there is a turn, something changes, and everything is upside down. We’ll all face times of difficulty and grief, and when it’s extreme, the darkness may be pervasive and intense. When things are going wrong, when we’re alone and bereft, when it seems there is no hope, we may be overwhelmed and convinced we will not survive. It’s hard to believe in light when all we can see is darkness ahead. But even on the darkest night, even when it feels like all is lost, there will still be one tiny star, one glint of brightness still visible in the distance. There will never be a time, no matter how bad things get, when everything is black. There will always be something good waiting in the wings. By focusing on the one small thing that’s going right, we will find the courage we need to continue on. Even if we lose everything, all our friends desert us, our lover walks away, all our money disappears, our cars are repossessed, we get fired from our jobs, and absolutely nothing is going right, it’s not the end. It may be a horrible, stressful, hard time, but it’s not the end of our lives. We’re still here, still breathing, and there is still great potential for the road ahead. Life is unpredictable, and every day will bring something new, but nothing is powerful enough to overcome us and hold us in place forever. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and will find our way through whatever comes.

There are a lot of things that can go wrong, and if we constantly think about the potential for disaster, we may never extend ourselves beyond what we know. There is comfort in familiarity and routine, but we have unlimited potential and can trust ourselves to reach further. There might be complications, but we are intelligent and can manage them. There might be problems, but we are wise and will find our way.

We may suffer through loss and disappointment that’s so great we feel paralyzed with pain. Grief and despair are not easy to navigate, but they cannot last forever. Change is constant, and no matter what we’re facing today, in time, it will change. The sun will shine again, our spirits will lift, and we’ll begin to look forward with confidence. There will always be something that’s working, and by focusing on what’s going right, we can move ahead sure of success.

Today if you’re going through serious trials, and it’s dark and threatening, look at everything objectively. There is still one tiny star shining light for you. Stand strong and take a step forward. Nothing can hold you down when you’re ready to move. Be wise and confident. Every blessing and every success is still there for you, and nothing can keep you from them.

Look Away

7 Dec

We share the planet with billions of other people.  They are all around us, coming and going, connecting or just passing by.  We love some of them, tolerate others and try to ignore the ones that make our lives difficult and complicated.  Some connections are easy and flow with little stress or anxiety, but others can be complex, fraught with intensity and hard to manage.  We may feel uncomfortable if we must deal with someone who is temperamental or bossy, or an old lover who broke our heart comes around, and we might do everything we can to avoid their attention.  We may try to blend into the background, keep our head down and look away, anything to prevent them from approaching us.  If that works, we may breathe a sigh of relief that we have averted any connection with them.  Nobody wants to deal with difficult people or situations, but there is no way to hide forever.  The very person we definitely don’t want to run into may show up unexpectedly, catch us off guard, and we may suddenly find ourselves face to face with them.  At that moment, it will be up to us how we handle what happens next.  We can shrink and try to disappear, which will never work, or we can stand firm and trust ourselves to find the best way through.  We already have every bit of courage and wisdom we need to navigate any difficult situation.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine.  Nothing is too hard for us to get through, and with patience and grace, we will find our way.

Every experience we have teaches us something.  When our experiences are good, we gain greater confidence and helpful knowledge that embellishes us and helps pave the road ahead.  But hard times come to all of us, and when we go through something painful and destructive, it may leave a lasting mark on us.  We may lose our trust in others, doubt ourselves, or be afraid of what will happen next.  There is no way to change the past, but there will always be a way to move forward.  We don’t have to hold onto what hurts us forever.  We can look at everything objectively and find ways to let go and move ahead.  Every destination is still there for us and every success is still possible.

Problems rarely solve themselves, and if we’ve left something unresolved because it was just too painful to look at it, it will remain.  Time cannot fix what’s been left unattended.  Trouble becomes heavier as it waits, reminders will arise, and eventually we’ll have to face the inevitable.  It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is or how tangled it has become.  We can find the answers we need, and when we’re ready, can do what is needed to settle the issue once and for all, and move on.  

Today if you’ve been trying to avoid a situation or someone difficult, remember how strong and powerful you are.  You are perfectly capable of managing anything you must and there is nothing that can overcome you.  Be confident and stand firm.  Every blessing is already waiting for you, and with patience and determination, every success will be yours.

Shake it Off

31 Aug

We interact with lots of people as we go through our lives. They come and go in and out of our lives on a continual basis. Some relationships are close and strong, others are casual and fleeting. How close we are depends on our circumstances and what’s going on, and lots of other factors. Human beings are complex and even when we know someone well, they may do something, or say something, that confuses us and catches us off guard. We can never know everything about anyone, and even those we are very close to may surprise us from time to time. We may get hurt by something they do or say, or misunderstand their intentions. Not everyone will care about our feelings and someone my offend us – either accidentally or on purpose. When we’re hurt by someone we care deeply about, it can be hard to shake it off. It can be difficult to let go of the pain inflicted by someone close to us. Of course, we can hold onto anything for as long as we like. If there is no resolution, we can carry it with us throughout our lives and let it color how we feel and what we do indefinitely. Hanging onto pain will never bring us happiness, and may hold us back from success. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with butterflies and rainbows. We’ll all go through hard times, face pain and suffering at some point, and have to muddle through difficult issues. It’s the nature of life. But we are intelligent and can see above whatever has gone wrong to the road ahead. Pain hurts but we can decide to shake it off, let it go, and continue on. We are the only ones powerful enough to hold us down and keep us from moving forward. With determination and focus on the road ahead, we can push forward and achieve our greatest goals and desires. Every dream is there for us, and we will prevail.

There is an old saying that, “The best revenge is living well.” If someone has hurt or maligned us, they may rejoice in our temporary demise and suffering. Instead of rewarding them by keeping quiet and staying under water, we can overcome them by simply choosing to stand strong and continue forward. There isn’t anything anyone can do that can hold us down indefinitely. We are strong and powerful, and we know what we want. There is no situation painful enough to paralyze us forever. Every goal we desire is waiting, and we can step forward to claim them all.

Each day is a new beginning. It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or last week, or last year. What matters is what we do today. If the road we were on has ended and there is no way to continue, we can step off and start in a new direction. There are unlimited roads possible and every destination is waiting. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we want. It’s all there for us. We need only decide to begin, and step forward.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to look ahead, remember how strong and capable you are. Stand firm and shake it off. Nothing is powerful enough to hold you down. Decide what you want and start again. Trust yourself, be confident, and step forward. Every goal is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.