Tag Archives: Pain

Not There Yet

20 Apr

Every day we live we experience something new. We learn more about the world and as we progress, we learn more about ourselves. When something goes wrong and we get hurt, it can be hard to figure out how to get through and move forward. If the pain is great and we are heartbroken, we may believe we’ll never be right again. Probably we will all experience serious heartbreak at one point in our lives. It can be devastating and knock us down hard. When we’re in the midst of great suffering and sadness, it’s very difficult to see how things will ever get better. But pain and turmoil cannot stop time, and we may be surprised that we actually survive day after day. Despite the pain, we will continue to breathe and go through the motions of our responsibilities and tasks. Our lives will continue, but there is no timetable for when the pain deep inside us will heal. If it takes longer than we expect, we may think it will never end. Every journey has an end, and nothing can stay the same forever. Each moment we live we heal a little more, and eventually we’ll get to the other side. We may not be there yet, and we may hurt badly, but we are strong, and will prevail. Nothing, not even something that devastates us, can hold us back forever. Each moment we are moving a little closer to where we want to be. As we heal and embrace our personal strength, we learn more about ourselves. Bad things may happen, we may be knocked down and feel overcome for a time, but we are more powerful than we know, and will stand again. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward. Every gift is possible and all our dreams are still there for us. With patience and determination, we can overcome any adversity and reach success.

Some people love surprises. They like not knowing what will happen next, and enjoy the anticipation of unexpected developments, but some surprises may bring difficulty and heartache. An abrupt breakup with someone we love, the sudden loss of a job, or something we didn’t expect that hurts us deeply may shake us and bring confusion. Life is unpredictable, and we can only control our own decisions. Things will happen we can’t foresee, and they may hurt us. No matter what comes, we will go on. The sun will continue to rise, and even if we’re unsure at first, we’ll find our way.

We’re all different and how we react to what happens is unique to each of us. Some people storm through difficulty and ignore the pain. Others feel pain deeply and struggle to stand. Recovery takes as long as it takes. There is no set timetable for getting over any disappointment or sadness. While we navigate through, we can be confident that in time, no matter how much time it takes, we will prevail. We are still capable and strong, and can do anything we desire.

Today if you’re struggling with a serious, painful situation, remember how strong you are. Nothing can overcome you, and you will find your way. Be patient, and trust yourself. Your future holds every promise and your dreams are still there for you. Nothing can hold you down. You will prevail, and find enormous success.

Carrying It With Us

27 Jan

We all want an easy life filled with happiness, comfort and fun. It would be wonderful if everyday brought something good to us, and we never had to worry or stress about anything. It’s good to dream about, but that isn’t reality. Life is filled with all kinds of experiences, and we never know what will happen next. We may face a serious time filled with trouble and sorrow. Pain is a natural part of life, and will likely come and go many times as we navigate ahead. Anything can happen, and if we’re surprised by something difficult and troubling, we may feel overcome and lost. Nobody wants to suffer but if we must walk through the fire of pain or loss, we have everything we need to survive. The pain may be intense while we’re going through it, but nothing can last forever, and in time, things will improve. After the situation is behind us, how we manage moving forward is up to us. We can hold onto the disappointment, take it with us, and allow it to color our lives indefinitely. If we do, every choice we make moving forward may be impacted by what’s happened in the past. There is no way to go back and change anything, but we don’t have to let painful memories influence our next steps and prevent us from finding happiness in the future. Letting go of sorrow and grief doesn’t mean we won’t remember where we’ve been. We will always carry every experience forward with us, but they don’t have to control our next moves. We deserve to be happy and can make choices that enrich us and take us where we most want to go. Our lives are important and we can make them any way we like. We can set our sorrows down, and move forward with confidence that we can succeed.

Painful experiences may take time to overcome. If we’ve been deeply hurt by someone or something, we may need to step back for a while until we know how we want to proceed. There is no rush, and we can take the time we need. Nothing is insurmountable, and even when we feel overwhelmed, can trust that we’ll find our way through. We are stronger than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down forever. We will find our footing again, we will know what to do, and be able to stand and walk forward. No matter what’s happened, our dreams are still there for us. We’ll find the answers we need, and prevail.

When we’re going through a difficult time, it may seem nobody could possibly understand what’s happening to us. We’re all individuals and feel things in unique ways specific to our own experiences and understanding. But we never have to suffer alone. There will always be someone willing to help and offer encouragement. We can reach out and get the help we need. Trouble comes, and when it does, we need not worry. We are wise and capable, and will always find the way forward.

Today if you’re going through something difficult and feel overwhelmed, remember how many times you’ve prevailed in the past. You are intelligent and strong, and nothing can overcome you. Have faith and step forward. Your dreams are still there, and every success is possible. Be confident. You are amazing, and you will win.

What We Feel

20 Dec

People come in and out of our lives constantly. We have families, friends, acquaintances and people we simply notice in passing. There are billions of people in the world and each has a unique perspective about what’s going on and where we’re headed. We may be attracted to someone’s ideas, or how they express themselves, and as we interact with them, our feelings for them may grow and increase. We may begin to fall in love and expect the other person is having the same experience. People fall in love all the time, and when those feelings are reciprocated, our connection becomes deeper. It’s wonderful to find someone who loves us and with whom we can share our lives. But sometimes things may go another way. Our tender feelings might be strong but they will not create the same experience in someone else. We may discover we’re on completely different pages. It’s very painful to realize the one we love does not feel the same way about us. If that happens, everything will change. No matter how much we want to be close, if our feelings aren’t returned, we’ll have to chart a different course going forward. There is no way to make someone love us, no matter what we do, or how hard we try. It’s either there, or it isn’t. We are lovable and amazing but if the feelings aren’t there, we’ll have to find a new way to continue. It’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves, and we can decide what’s best moving forward. We deserve to be completely happy, and can decide what works best for us. Unrequited love can be very painful, but we have a lot going for us, and with patience and wisdom, we’ll find the right way ahead. We can do what is needed to find balance, and ensure our happiness.

A one-way love affair will never bring us complete satisfaction. If we’re in a situation where we’re in love by ourselves, we may feel completely devastated, and alone. We can recognize our feelings and honor them, and then create a plan that takes us to a new situation and helps us move toward a new goal. By focusing on our own choices, we will begin to heal and find true happiness. We are intelligent and highly capable of doing anything we desire. We can accept the way things are, and then step forward with confidence.

When we suffer a great loss, we can take the time we need to grieve. Every painful process will be resolved in time, but every experience is different, and there is no way to know how much time that will take. We are strong and wise, and will find our footing again. We have so much potential and by focusing on where we want to go and what we want to do, will create the lives we want the most.

Today if you feel unloved or unappreciated, remember how incredible and valuable you are. You are a gift to the whole world. Your light shines on all of us, and we are blessed because you are here. Every dream you desire is within reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and then step forward with confidence and clarity. There is great happiness ahead, and nothing can keep you from success.

Heart

25 Jul

We live in a world with billions of people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there are many others around us all the time. They come and go every day, and we build connections and relationships, some just in passing, and others that last our entire lifetimes. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas about how the world works and how things should go. We may agree, or disagree, and every exchange teaches us something new. Sometimes misunderstandings arise and we may have no idea what went wrong. There are always a lot of distractions on the surface, but if we want to know what’s really going on, we’ll have to dig a little deeper. If we want to find out what’s really happening, we’ll have to get to the very heart of the matter. That may mean looking at things we’re uncomfortable with and allowing ourselves to be see where we may have gone wrong. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we discover we’ve done something that’s caused pain or discomfort, we can look at the situation openly and do what is needed to amend it. In times of distress or misunderstanding, it will never serve us to ignore the issue and pretend it will go away on its own. Most problems won’t resolve without the input of those involved. They may get pushed back and ignored, but they will remain unsettled until we clearly look at them and do what is needed to address them. If we refuse to see them, we will carry them forward with us indefinitely and they may affect our future happiness and comfort. We deserve to live happily and unencumbered by problems. We can face any situation pulling on us and find the answers we need to resolve it and let it go. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find every answer we desire. Our lives are important and we are valuable. We can live effectively and openly, and find every happiness.

Some people are very private and don’t like to share their feelings. They may not tell us if we’ve done something that’s offended them. Instead, they may pretend everything is fine but we may sense something is amiss. It can be hard to find answers when the person holding them isn’t comfortable sharing information with us. We can be patient and understanding, and extend the hand of friendship even in times of duress. Showing we care, despite any friction, will help us build trust and open the doors to better communication.

We have all kinds of relationships, and can always choose to build a bridge, or close a door. We don’t have to continue relationships that are painful, or destructive, and we can walk away if a situation isn’t working. If we aren’t comfortable, we can change direction and step away. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives, and we have everything we need to get them.

Today if you feel something amiss in a relationship and don’t know what to do, think about what’s happened and get to the heart of the matter. Reach for understanding, and then move forward with confidence. Nothing is too complicated for you to comprehend, and you will find all the answers you need.

Invisible Thread

16 Jul

The world is a busy place. There are billions of people doing billions of things all the time. Even in our small circle, there are others all around us and a lot going on. It might seem we’re all separate and doing things on our own, and sometimes we are, but in the overall scheme of things, we’re all connected more than we may realize. What one person does may have far reaching affects on the lives and decisions of those around them. Even insignificant, and seemingly unimportant choices may ripple through and change things in their path. Everything that happens creates something new. We never know how much impact our presence makes. Every step we take, every person we encounter, everything we say and do, creates a new reality around us. Like an invisible thread running through the world, our circles intertwine and our influence blends with those around us and creates the world we live in. There is no way to be in the world and leave it untouched. Just by being here we are making an impression of some kind. If we’re negative and mean, that impression may bring unhappiness and frustration. If we’re kind and caring, it may bring great comfort and satisfaction. Who we are and what we do will either embellish or detract from our experience and the experiences of those around us. We don’t live in a vacuum and will make an impact of some kind. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. We can bring light and joy and experience complete happiness. There is greatness in each of us. What we do with it is up to us.

When we think of the enormity of the world, we may feel insignificant and unnoticed. In the towns where we live, big or small, we feel ignored and overlooked. There is often a lot of noise and busyness, and if we’re demure or quiet, we may struggle to be heard. There is value in every voice and we all have something to offer. We can be confident, even if we’re not the fastest, the strongest, or the loudest, that our opinions and ideas are important. The gifts we have to offer are unique, and when we share them, we can change everything.

We’re all one human family and as such, feel each other’s pain and suffering. We feel grief when we hear of disasters and turmoil in far away places, and compassion for those who are struggling. We’re all different and there may be conflicting views, but we can overcome them by honoring our human connections and trusting each other. We’re all in this together, and each choice we make will either enrich us or detract from our experience. There is no way to remove the influence of our presence. We are integral and valuable. We can bring happiness and joy to those around us, and give light to the world.

Today if you feel like you’re not important and nobody cares about what you’re doing, remember nobody else in the entire world can give the gifts you offer. You are unique and precious, and the whole world is blessed because you are here. Be confident and trust yourself. You are amazing. Your influence reaches further than you imagine, and we are all enriched by your presence.

Making an Impact

28 Feb

Nobody lives in a bubble exclusive to those around them. We’re all part of the world and everything we do has an effect on something around us. Newton’s Third Law of Motion states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Everything we do causes something else to happen. The response may be small and we may not notice anything different but it’s impossible to live our lives without creating some sort of change. Each decision causes a ripple effect that may create a new situation somewhere else. What kind of effect we have depends on the decisions we make, and our behavior influences everything around us. If we have a happy demeanor and positive outlook, we may bring light to others. Conversely, if we’re rude or grumpy, angry or curt, we may bring something else entirely, and if we’re vengeful or manipulative, may sow seeds of discontent and distrust. Every choice will produce some sort of response. We aren’t responsible for the feelings and choices of others, but we are responsible for the way our behavior and decisions impact their lives. We are part of the whole and whether we acknowledge that or not is irrelevant. Each step leaves an imprint and it’s up to us to decide what that will do. We can be mindful of every decision and think about all the possible ramifications before we act. We have everything we need to live happily and successfully. We have so much to offer, and with patience and careful consideration, can bring light and joy to those around us.

Nobody lives in nirvana and sometimes disappointing things happen that hurt us and change how we feel about the world. When things go wrong and we’ve been hurt, we may decide we’ve had enough and determine to seclude ourselves from others. We have a lot to offer but it will be impossible to share our gifts if we lock our lives away because of pain or disappointment. We can manage anything that comes and find our way back to happiness. We are capable, strong and wise, and nothing can keep us from the lives we desire.

Happiness comes from our actions but some people think they can find it by hurting others out of spite or maliciously causing problems for those around them. Their motivations will never justify the hardship they create and, in the end, they may find themselves angry and alone. The law of the harvest is inescapable. If we sow seeds of discontent, we will never reap joy. Everything we do takes us somewhere. We can make excellent choices that take us where we want to go and bring us great happiness.

Today, think about your decisions before you act. Make sure they will bring you the results you desire. You’re in control of your life and can do anything you choose. Make choices that will take you to the destinations you want the most and bring happiness into your life. You are a blessing to us all and have so many gifts to offer. Share them with us and make the world a better place.

All the Way Back

4 Dec

We go through all kinds of ups and downs as we navigate through the many days of our lives. Sometimes we get hurt and if the pain is intense and we feel completely heartbroken, it may take a lot of time to heal. While we’re struggling, all the details and demands of our lives continue. Our families, our jobs, our commitments, and all the responsibilities of life still have to be taken care of. Each moment demands our attention and there are endless distractions. We can face them all and manage whatever we must, but if we’re hurting it will take determination and focus. Nothing we go through is powerful enough to completely stop us forever. We have inner strength that’s always there for us and we can overcome anything in time. Heartbreak can be paralyzing and make us doubt our ability to survive but we always have enough inside to get through. We can face any pain and disappointment by going all the way back and uncovering everything that’s happened. We can see it all and then set it down and walk away. Looking at everything objectively and allowing ourselves to see it clearly will help us find the answers we need to move forward. Life is a great blessing and there is always a new day before us. No matter what has happened, no matter what we’ve lost, there is always hope for the future. Every sunrise brings undiscovered blessings. We can hold on when we feel weak, and continue forward even if we aren’t sure. Each step will reaffirm our confidence and as we walk forward, we’ll find our way again. There isn’t anything we can’t overcome. We are invincible and there is power within. We can go all the way back and begin on a new road forward.

When others see us struggle, they may try to help by telling us the situation isn’t as bad as it seems, but nobody can know the depth of our personal suffering but us. It might feel impossible to get through and we may be overwhelmed by pain and doubt. Life is all about change and no matter how bleak things may seem today, tomorrow will be different. We can take the journey forward one small step at a time. We don’t need to rush or try to move in a hurry. We can take things as they come and with each step our strength will return. In time, however long it takes, we’ll feel in control again and have all the confidence we need to move forward.

Personal pain teaches us many things and helps us understand ourselves more completely. When we suffer, we learn to endure and exercise internal strength. We discover our personal fortitude and uncover the depth of our courage. We are more powerful than we think we are and nothing can overcome us. We can step forward with confidence even when we’re unsure, trusting in our own wisdom to find our next steps.

Today if you feel broken and devastated over something that has hurt you, remember you are stronger than you realize. Everything you need to continue forward is already there inside you. Reach deep and hold onto your courage. You are amazing and nothing can hold you down. Pain is only a passage to greatness. Take a step and move forward toward success. It’s all there for you and you will reach it.