Tag Archives: Pain

Look Away

7 Dec

We share the planet with billions of other people.  They are all around us, coming and going, connecting or just passing by.  We love some of them, tolerate others and try to ignore the ones that make our lives difficult and complicated.  Some connections are easy and flow with little stress or anxiety, but others can be complex, fraught with intensity and hard to manage.  We may feel uncomfortable if we must deal with someone who is temperamental or bossy, or an old lover who broke our heart comes around, and we might do everything we can to avoid their attention.  We may try to blend into the background, keep our head down and look away, anything to prevent them from approaching us.  If that works, we may breathe a sigh of relief that we have averted any connection with them.  Nobody wants to deal with difficult people or situations, but there is no way to hide forever.  The very person we definitely don’t want to run into may show up unexpectedly, catch us off guard, and we may suddenly find ourselves face to face with them.  At that moment, it will be up to us how we handle what happens next.  We can shrink and try to disappear, which will never work, or we can stand firm and trust ourselves to find the best way through.  We already have every bit of courage and wisdom we need to navigate any difficult situation.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine.  Nothing is too hard for us to get through, and with patience and grace, we will find our way.

Every experience we have teaches us something.  When our experiences are good, we gain greater confidence and helpful knowledge that embellishes us and helps pave the road ahead.  But hard times come to all of us, and when we go through something painful and destructive, it may leave a lasting mark on us.  We may lose our trust in others, doubt ourselves, or be afraid of what will happen next.  There is no way to change the past, but there will always be a way to move forward.  We don’t have to hold onto what hurts us forever.  We can look at everything objectively and find ways to let go and move ahead.  Every destination is still there for us and every success is still possible.

Problems rarely solve themselves, and if we’ve left something unresolved because it was just too painful to look at it, it will remain.  Time cannot fix what’s been left unattended.  Trouble becomes heavier as it waits, reminders will arise, and eventually we’ll have to face the inevitable.  It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is or how tangled it has become.  We can find the answers we need, and when we’re ready, can do what is needed to settle the issue once and for all, and move on.  

Today if you’ve been trying to avoid a situation or someone difficult, remember how strong and powerful you are.  You are perfectly capable of managing anything you must and there is nothing that can overcome you.  Be confident and stand firm.  Every blessing is already waiting for you, and with patience and determination, every success will be yours.

Shake it Off

31 Aug

We interact with lots of people as we go through our lives. They come and go in and out of our lives on a continual basis. Some relationships are close and strong, others are casual and fleeting. How close we are depends on our circumstances and what’s going on, and lots of other factors. Human beings are complex and even when we know someone well, they may do something, or say something, that confuses us and catches us off guard. We can never know everything about anyone, and even those we are very close to may surprise us from time to time. We may get hurt by something they do or say, or misunderstand their intentions. Not everyone will care about our feelings and someone my offend us – either accidentally or on purpose. When we’re hurt by someone we care deeply about, it can be hard to shake it off. It can be difficult to let go of the pain inflicted by someone close to us. Of course, we can hold onto anything for as long as we like. If there is no resolution, we can carry it with us throughout our lives and let it color how we feel and what we do indefinitely. Hanging onto pain will never bring us happiness, and may hold us back from success. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with butterflies and rainbows. We’ll all go through hard times, face pain and suffering at some point, and have to muddle through difficult issues. It’s the nature of life. But we are intelligent and can see above whatever has gone wrong to the road ahead. Pain hurts but we can decide to shake it off, let it go, and continue on. We are the only ones powerful enough to hold us down and keep us from moving forward. With determination and focus on the road ahead, we can push forward and achieve our greatest goals and desires. Every dream is there for us, and we will prevail.

There is an old saying that, “The best revenge is living well.” If someone has hurt or maligned us, they may rejoice in our temporary demise and suffering. Instead of rewarding them by keeping quiet and staying under water, we can overcome them by simply choosing to stand strong and continue forward. There isn’t anything anyone can do that can hold us down indefinitely. We are strong and powerful, and we know what we want. There is no situation painful enough to paralyze us forever. Every goal we desire is waiting, and we can step forward to claim them all.

Each day is a new beginning. It doesn’t matter what happened yesterday, or last week, or last year. What matters is what we do today. If the road we were on has ended and there is no way to continue, we can step off and start in a new direction. There are unlimited roads possible and every destination is waiting. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to do anything we want. It’s all there for us. We need only decide to begin, and step forward.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to look ahead, remember how strong and capable you are. Stand firm and shake it off. Nothing is powerful enough to hold you down. Decide what you want and start again. Trust yourself, be confident, and step forward. Every goal is there for you, and nothing can keep you from success.

In Pieces

15 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life where things always go well, and all our dreams and desires come true. We may dream of a world where nobody suffers, and everyone lives in peace and harmony. It’s nice to think about situations like these, but the real world doesn’t work that way. There will be good times when everything goes well and our plans work out, but there will also be hard times when our lives are turned upside down and nothing works. If something happens that hurts us badly and we are devastated, we may feel torn in pieces, holding onto the way things were before everything went south, and trying to figure out what to do now that it’s all gone. It’s hard to grasp sudden and difficult changes immediately, and for a time we may feel stunned and completely confused about what’s going on and what to do. Lots of things can go wrong – we may lose our jobs, our lovers may leave us, we may get seriously ill, or a thousand other scenarios. Nobody wants to suffer but suffering may come, and when it does, we may face our worst fears as we try to navigate through. It may seem the pain is so deep and all encompassing, that we cannot survive. No matter how bad the situation is, nothing is powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. We already have everything we need to get through anything that comes. The answers are there for us and we have all the intelligence and wisdom necessary to find them. We can stand firm even when the winds blow against us, and reach deep for the courage to continue. Feeling broken in pieces by pain and suffering isn’t easy, but we are more powerful than we think we are, and will prevail. Hard times may stop us for a moment, but we know what we want, and will find our way through. By looking at everything objectively, we will see the road ahead, and be sure of success. Nothing can keep us from any destination we desire. We will find our way and claim the prize.

There are few things more painful than a broken heart. When someone we love deeply turns away from us or hurts us beyond repair, we may feel completely fractured and sure we’ll never be whole again. Our hearts may feel torn and battered, and we may lose faith in ourselves and trust in the future. No matter how it happened, it hurts to lose love. We can take the time we need to grieve and cope with our new situation, and when we’re ready, can look ahead at all the options before us. There will always be a new road and every destination will be waiting for us.

Grief and pain have their own timetable. We can’t rush healing. It takes how long it takes. While we’re getting through, we can take care of ourselves and reach out to others for support. We can lean on the strength of those who care about us until we feel strong enough to stand alone again. Life is full of promise and possibilities. Every dream is possible, and with courage and focus, we can have the lives we desire most.

Today if you’ve been devastated and are in pain, remember how strong you are. Be still and take the time you need to heal. You are incredible and have so much to offer. We’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself and step ahead. Every dream is there for you, and you will succeed.

Into the Unknown

14 Jan

Life is full of experiences and we never know what will happen next. There is a lot of uncertainty and what’s around the next corner may surprise us. If we’re comfortable with our routine and like the way things are now, we might try to do everything possible to keep things the same. We can try all we want, but there is no way to prevent what’s coming down the pike. When things suddenly change and the landscape quickly becomes foreign, we may find ourselves in unknown territory. It can happen over time or everything can change in an instant. Trying to grab onto normalcy and routine when the bottom falls out may be an exercise in futility. When the winds of change come, and they will come for all of us, the best we can do is hold on until we figure out how to proceed. Stepping into the unknown isn’t comfortable and we may feel lost and disoriented for a time. There will always be a way forward and if we stand still and take the time we need to see the road ahead, we’ll find it. We are capable of understanding and managing everything that comes to us. We may not like it, there may be moments of serious self-doubt and concern, and the road ahead may be dark and unclear. But we are intelligent and with patience and calm, will find all the answers we need. There are never any guarantees in life, and we may face things we don’t dream we can overcome. There may be times we’re sure we won’t survive, but the day passes, and we start again. All the courage and wisdom required to get through will be there when we need it. We are stronger and more resilient than we imagine, and nothing can keep us from success. Hard times will come. We will be tested, and we might stumble and fall. But we can get back up again, and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every destination is there for us, and nothing can keep us from success.

Change is constant and when an uncomfortable development arrives, we may be filled with dread and concern. We aren’t on the earth alone, and if the situation is frightening or unsettling, we can reach out to those we trust for advice and counsel. There will be an answer to every question and a solution to every problem. Nothing is impossible for us to unravel. By trusting ourselves, and getting help when we need it, the road ahead will open, and we’ll be able to move forward.

When we lose something we value greatly, we may grieve for a time and feel intense sorrow. When pain is prevalent, we may feel frozen and unable to move. It’s okay to stand still. There is no rush to continue forward. We can take the time we need to find peace and clarity, and when we’re ready, can begin again. All our dreams will still be there for us, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult challenge and you have no idea how to get through, trust yourself. You’ve already overcome many hard trials and trying times. You are strong and capable. Be confident and take your time. Every answer is there for you, and you will prevail.

Not There Yet

20 Apr

Every day we live we experience something new. We learn more about the world and as we progress, we learn more about ourselves. When something goes wrong and we get hurt, it can be hard to figure out how to get through and move forward. If the pain is great and we are heartbroken, we may believe we’ll never be right again. Probably we will all experience serious heartbreak at one point in our lives. It can be devastating and knock us down hard. When we’re in the midst of great suffering and sadness, it’s very difficult to see how things will ever get better. But pain and turmoil cannot stop time, and we may be surprised that we actually survive day after day. Despite the pain, we will continue to breathe and go through the motions of our responsibilities and tasks. Our lives will continue, but there is no timetable for when the pain deep inside us will heal. If it takes longer than we expect, we may think it will never end. Every journey has an end, and nothing can stay the same forever. Each moment we live we heal a little more, and eventually we’ll get to the other side. We may not be there yet, and we may hurt badly, but we are strong, and will prevail. Nothing, not even something that devastates us, can hold us back forever. Each moment we are moving a little closer to where we want to be. As we heal and embrace our personal strength, we learn more about ourselves. Bad things may happen, we may be knocked down and feel overcome for a time, but we are more powerful than we know, and will stand again. We can trust ourselves to find the way forward. Every gift is possible and all our dreams are still there for us. With patience and determination, we can overcome any adversity and reach success.

Some people love surprises. They like not knowing what will happen next, and enjoy the anticipation of unexpected developments, but some surprises may bring difficulty and heartache. An abrupt breakup with someone we love, the sudden loss of a job, or something we didn’t expect that hurts us deeply may shake us and bring confusion. Life is unpredictable, and we can only control our own decisions. Things will happen we can’t foresee, and they may hurt us. No matter what comes, we will go on. The sun will continue to rise, and even if we’re unsure at first, we’ll find our way.

We’re all different and how we react to what happens is unique to each of us. Some people storm through difficulty and ignore the pain. Others feel pain deeply and struggle to stand. Recovery takes as long as it takes. There is no set timetable for getting over any disappointment or sadness. While we navigate through, we can be confident that in time, no matter how much time it takes, we will prevail. We are still capable and strong, and can do anything we desire.

Today if you’re struggling with a serious, painful situation, remember how strong you are. Nothing can overcome you, and you will find your way. Be patient, and trust yourself. Your future holds every promise and your dreams are still there for you. Nothing can hold you down. You will prevail, and find enormous success.