Tag Archives: Clarity

Doing and Saying

27 Aug

There are all kinds of people around us every day. We see them at work, at the store, on the road and just about everywhere we go. We’re all busy living our lives and accomplishing whatever we want or need to get done. What we do defines us, and lets people know who we are, and where we’re headed. As we interact with others, we can say anything. We can tell the truth about ourselves, or make up any story we like. If we wish our life was different, or that we were further down the road than we are, we may embellish and fabricate our situation to present the image we want to portray. Talk is cheap and easy to manipulate. But what we say doesn’t identify us. We are defined by what we do. Our actions tell the world who we are and what we stand for. If they don’t match what we’re selling, it will be hard for others to trust us. They might fall for lies at the beginning, but the truth will always rise, and when it does, we might lose more than we can imagine. Nobody wants to be fooled, and if we discover we’ve been manipulated, we might walk away from the relationship, and never return. Good, strong relationships are a great blessing in our lives. They enrich our experiences and bring us comfort and satisfaction. If we’re deceptive and purposely misleading about who we are or what we’re doing, we may end up burning every bridge behind us. Nobody has a perfect life, and we’re on the road to somewhere. Choosing wisely and being honest about ourselves will open doors, and move us closer to our goals.

Sometimes what people say doesn’t exactly match what they do. Someone may say they love us but can never find time to spend with us. Or they might say they’re honest, but their ethics at work are slippery at best. We can say anything at any time, but what we say will never determine who we really are. That can only be defined by what we actually do. We are capable of making excellent decisions, even when they’re inconvenient or difficult. We can choose the road ahead with clarity and integrity, and reach success.

There may be times when due to external pressures or expectations, we say we’ll do something we aren’t sure we can achieve. Once we agree to whatever we’ve been asked to do, we are committed and must follow through. If there is no way to do what we’ve agreed to, we can go back and discuss other possible options. We are wise and intelligent, and can be clear about our capabilities and desires. By being honest in our agreements, and openly communicating our plans, we will move ahead with great confidence and success.

Today if you’re tempted to pretend to be something you’re not, or embellish what you’ve done to impress someone, remember what you do defines who you are. Be clear and honest in everything you do, and those around you will honor and trust you. There is greatness inside you. Trust yourself, and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you will achieve great success.

The Last Mile

15 Jul

Working hard to complete a difficult goal can be exhausting. Some things take a lot to accomplish, and we can’t know when we start how convoluted or complex they may become as we progress. If it’s taken a long time to move ahead, and each step has been fraught with complications and problems, it may seem we’ll never prevail. When we’ve been working hard to reach a specific destination, and we’re tired, there may be times we feel like it’s just too much. We’re worn out, and the end of the journey still seems far away. Unfortunately, we can’t see the end of the road at the beginning, and even though we’re progressing and moving forward, solving issues as they arise, it might seem the struggle is endless. It’s impossible to see into the future, and although we may not be able to see it, we may be on the very last mile of the road. The end may be only steps away. Success depends not only on enduring the road moving ahead, but actually completing the journey and arriving at the destination. If we quit before we get there, we will carry everything we learned forward with us, but we will never win the fight. We are always in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can turn our course at any time, and let go of any goal we desire. If the road is too long and cumbersome, and we don’t want to continue, we can change direction and move on to something new. But if we really want to reach success, no matter how hard it’s been, we will always have enough strength and wisdom within us to continue forward. Today may look bleak, filled with trials and endless worry, but tomorrow is coming, and success is just ahead. We are more powerful than we know, and nothing can keep us from anything we desire. By trusting ourselves, and taking one more step forward, we will prevail, and claim the prize.

Building a house takes a lot of time, planning, and organization. We can get all the materials we’ll need assembled together, but just having them loaded up into a pile will not create the house. We must begin assembling each piece in order, starting with the foundation and working up from there. The same is true when we’re working hard to reach a goal. We must plan as we move forward, untangling each complication and solving each problem along the way. Step by step, with determination and persistence, we will be successful in pushing ahead. We are capable of achieving greatness, and nothing can keep us from our goal.

When we’re working hard, fatigue may become an issue. It’s impossible to be at our best if we’re tired and unfocused. Stepping back and taking time away to recharge will help us find clarity and open new ideas that will pave the road ahead. We are intelligent and can do anything we desire. We have all the stamina and wisdom we need to keep moving forward, and reach success.

Today if you’ve been on a long road, and are beginning to feel you will never prevail, step back and decide how you want to proceed. Every answer is already there for you. You are capable of greatness. Stand strong and step forward. Success is just ahead, and nothing can keep you from it.

Confusion

23 Oct

A lack of understanding or a state of disorder. Cambridge English Dictionary

Our lives are busy and as we go from one task to another we may get caught up in our responsibilities and forget exactly where we’re headed. It’s easy to lose track of the big picture when we’re busy dealing with details and specific items that need our attention. When we’re focused on doing something we must get done, it may be hard to pay attention to the personal goals we value and want to accomplish. It’s easy to get carried away with one thing and another and as we busily go from one task to the next we may forget other things we value. Life has a way of taking control and distracting us if we don’t focus on what’s most important. We decide what we’ll do at every moment and we must be in control of our lives if we want to accomplish the things we want the most. We are responsible for the lives we create. If they are filled with rushing around in confusion trying to do many things at the same time, we will have busy, confusing lives that will bring us little satisfaction. There will always be more to do than we can accomplish. If we want to be happy and completely fulfilled each day, we must plan our time in ways that bring us clarity and success. We can plan our activities to allow us to complete anything pressing and still remember our personal goals and objectives. There is great satisfaction in being clear on what’s most important to us and then planning our lives to ensure we accomplish them.

There are unlimited ways we can spend our time. We can go from one idea to the next in a flash and spend all our time trying new things. Being busy and rushing around doesn’t always mean we’re being successful. Running from one place to the next does not guarantee we’re moving forward. If we want to accomplish specific goals we must plan the way ahead, and make time to reach them. We are smart enough to design our lives in ways that help us find success. We can eliminate confusion and find the road forward.

There are many people around us all the time and they may ask us to do things for them to help them reach their goals. It’s good to be helpful and we can serve as much as we like, but we can remember that our objectives are also important and guard the time we give away to ensure we have enough for ourselves. True happiness comes when we live our lives in clear ways that take us where we really want to go. Every destination we desire is possible and we have everything we need to accomplish any goal we choose.

Today if you’ve been running around accomplishing a lot of tasks that haven’t moved you forward, rethink your plans. Your personal goals and objectives are important and valuable. Clear your thinking and manage your time so you can make them yours. You are capable and wise and nothing is out of reach. Plan for your dreams. They are waiting for you and you can make them come true.

Pernicious Anger

25 Jun

Pernicious – Causing insidious harm or ruin; ruinous; injurious; or hurtful.

There are ups and downs in all our lives.  Things go right, they go wrong, disappointments happen, people let us down and there are endless other outcomes.  Anger is a normal part of life.  If someone does something that affects us negatively or our experience is far from what we want or expect we may get angry.  There is nothing wrong with feeling anger but how we express it can affect what happens next.  If we lash out at others and say or do things that are beyond what the relationship can bear, we may damage it beyond repair or lose it altogether.  Pernicious anger may ruin our connections going forward.  We are always in control of our lives and if we allow angry emotions to determine how we act we may end up somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we feel ourselves getting carried away in a wave of disappointment or anger, instead of acting out we can step back and allow ourselves to calm down before we react.  The fight or flight reflex is very strong and powerful but generally we neither need to fight nor run away to find resolution.  We can take a breath, stop and think and give ourselves a moment to see everything before we respond.  Learning to act on disappointment instead of react to it will help us find a positive outcome.  No problem is improved by adding intensity and anger to it.  We can control our actions and responses even in times of duress and navigate anger effectively.  There is always a possible positive outcome and if we take our time we’ll find it.

Self-control is a learned response.  Children express anger by crying, screaming or pouting but as we grow and mature if we want to be successful adults we must replace those instantaneous responses with something more thoughtful and successful.  There are few things more disagreeable than an adult who acts like a child.  We can learn the skills we need to be patient in disappointment and tolerant when things go wrong.  We are mature enough and wise enough to find the best way forward no matter the situation.

It’s impossible to listen to other perspectives if we’re concentrating on smashing the opposing point of view.  If we over react every time something goes wrong or someone disagrees with us we may end up burning bridges and ruining relationships.  We might win the current battle but lose the connection going forward.  We can align our priorities and address conflict in ways that protect our sincerest interests.  Maturity and wisdom come with practice and we can choose wisely in difficult times to help us become the people we most want to be and preserve the relationships we value.

Today if feel intensely angry over something, before you react take a moment to look at the situation objectively.  Determine what is most important before you move forward and then choose the path that will take you there.  You are wise and strong and what you want most is possible.  Every positive outcome is there for you and with patience and clarity you will find it.

It’s Not My Fault

18 Oct

We have many experiences every single day and sometimes our lives don’t exactly go the way we planned or the way we most want them to. When things go wrong because we run late, we miss an appointment, we overextend ourselves, or we drop the ball on a responsibility, it’s tempting to say “It’s not my fault,” and then blame the circumstance or someone else involved. Sometimes things really are out of our control and we aren’t responsible for the result, but other times, although we may want to blame someone else, the problem lies with us. When we are the reason things go wrong it’s best to accept our part in the problem and then find a way to fix it. There is great blessing in understanding personal responsibility. It’s a gift that enables us to find our way and clarify our path forward more successfully. When we fully acknowledge exactly what we’re doing when we falter we can learn how to be more successful in reaching our goals. Nobody gets everything right every time. We all take left turns from time to time. Understanding when we’ve failed to follow through and learning from the experience helps us become more honest with ourselves and those around us. And that honesty allows us to see where we need to change to find greater success.

It’s easy to point our fingers outward when things go awry. There are countless excuses we may offer and some of them may be valid. But even if our excuse is valid, we are still responsible for the promise we made. If we own our responsibility, and claim obligation over it we will often find a way to complete it as promised. Our ability to follow through on our promises reflects who we truly are. If we take them lightly and offer excuses when we drop the ball, we may lose the trust of those around us. But if we do all we can to honor them, making no excuses for failure, others will know they can depend on us.

Things go wrong sometimes and we can’t predict the future. If we simply cannot fulfill a commitment we’ve made, we can discuss the situation with the others involved and together come up with a plan to work around the problem. We can be pro-active and acknowledge when things aren’t going to work out. If we over commit, we can revise the plan. If our schedule changes and we can’t complete something we’ve promised, we can ask for help. Communicating our concerns will help us resolve any issue that arises and address a situation before we fail. There isn’t anything we can’t handle. We can keep our promises and we can move forward with confidence and clarity and address any problems that come our way.

Today if you realize you aren’t going to be able to keep a commitment you’ve made, address the situation openly and find a workable solution. Revise your plan and do what is needed to work around the problem. You are wise enough to solve any problem that comes your way. Face it head on and continue moving forward with confidence.