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Tag Archives: Pressure

Adding It Up

2 Jul

We all learned to add in grade school and it’s a skill we use often in all kinds of ways. Adding one plus one will always make two, no matter where we are or what we’re doing. It’s a constant that never changes. Adding up all the factors in play helps us find the solutions we need to take another step and move forward. However, there may be times when our vision may be clouded and we don’t see the whole picture before us. People are complex and when we’re interacting with them, they may present themselves in ways that create a certain picture that may or may not be accurate. The sum of all the parts sometimes doesn’t add up to the image they want to portray. If they tell us they’re always honest, we may have no reason to doubt them. But then, perhaps we see them cheat on a time sheet, or lie about where they are, or take something that isn’t theirs. Everything we do is a factor in the overall equation. If we want the end result we’re seeking, and want to be the people we say we are, all the parts have to add up. We can say anything, but we aren’t what we say, we are what we do. We can choose to live our lives with integrity, honesty and clarity and bring light into the world. Or we can choose another path, deceive those around us, manipulate situations and forge ahead pushing others out of the way, and disregarding anyone but ourselves. The choices are ours to make but one thing is certain. We will always be the sum total of our decisions no matter which way we choose. One plus one will always equal two. Nothing can change the truth. We can live our lives any way we like and if we choose well, and make strong, honest decisions, will have the lives we dream about. Every blessing is possible and each step we take can move us closer to gaining them.

Although we’re always in control of our lives, there may be great pressure to comply with the views of those around us. If we align ourselves with actions and behaviors we aren’t comfortable with, we may get along, but the price may be high. It’s impossible to be genuine and conform at the same time. We can respect other ideas, and still be ourselves. We can be honest and choose our own road going forward.

If what we’re being told doesn’t match what’s happening, or if the road is convoluted and confusing, and nothing is adding up to the picture we’ve been given, we may need to take another look. We can stop and objectively view all the parameters before us. We are wise enough to see things as they really are and make the best decision moving forward. We can have the lives we want the most, and ensure everything we desire is adding up to the results we seek.

Today, take a moment to look ahead and make sure the road you’re on is headed toward the destination you desire. You are wise and capable, and can reach any goal you seek. Look at the possibilities around you and choose the direction that takes you forward. Pay attention and ensure each step moves you closer to where you want to be. Add everything up and find the answers you need to reach success. You are amazing and nothing can hold you in place. Everything is possible and you will win.

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Loud Voices

29 Mar

We live in the world with billions of other people. They come from all kinds of different backgrounds, and believe countless different things. Their opinions are important to them and if they’re passionate about what they think is right, they may be very loud and persistent in an effort to make others follow along. They may tell those around them what they should eat, what they should believe, what they should do, how to act or countless other things. We’re all entitled to our own ideas and perspectives and can live our lives any way we like, but we don’t have the authority to command others to embrace our choices. We all have the gift and privilege or free agency and can make any decisions we desire. We don’t need to do anything someone else’s way or follow anyone else’s ideas or beliefs. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we like, even if it’s different from those around us. There isn’t one perfect way to live. There are endless expressions and interpretations of every facet of life. We can make our own choices and let others choose what’s best for them. Demanding sameness and conformity will only suffocate and repress free expression and ingenuity. Every choice has its own benefits and drawbacks, and we can make them independently, regardless of what’s going on around us. We can listen to the opinions of others, and then choose for ourselves. We know who we are and what we want. We can live our lives in ways that bring us the blessings we seek and take us where we want to go. Our wisdom and insight will guide us along, and with focus and determination, we can have the lives we dream about.

It’s easy to do things when everyone is in agreement. If we’re all on the same page and embrace the same goals, we can move forward with little distraction or division. It’s fine to go along with something if it moves us further down the road we want to travel, but we need never succumb to conformity if it’s not what we want. We are valuable and worthwhile, and have gifts to offer nobody else can bring. The world is enhanced because we are here and we can be confident is being exactly who we are.

Opinions come and go, trends change and ideas modify as time passes. What was popular before may be passé now and what was considered all the rage last year may be a forgotten memory. It doesn’t matter what others are doing or how much importance they put on fitting in. We can decide what works for us and what we want. Our uniqueness and individuality bring depth and flavor to every situation. There isn’t now, nor has there ever been, anyone else like us. We can share who we are and make decisions that take us where we want to go and give us the lives we desire.

Today if there is pressure from those around you to conform, remember you are awesome and valuable just as you are. You don’t have to go along with anything you don’t want. The whole world is blessed because you are here and your presence enhances us all. You are amazing. Be confident and decide what you want most. Make decisions that will bring you the life you dream about and happiness will be yours.

Passing

27 Aug

There are unlimited opportunities to try, new things to experience and different activities to participate in throughout our lives.  We may be eager to take on some of them and others we may do simply because of where we are and what’s going on.  Our choices are ours to make but sometimes because of the situation we’re in we may feel pressured to do something we don’t want or go somewhere we’d rather avoid.  Those around us may suggest something because they think it’ll be good for us or will move us forward toward a goal we’ve been seeking.  They may be right but ultimately we know ourselves better than anyone else and if we don’t want to participate, we can pass.  There are all kinds of opinions out there and we can listen to them and take whatever we feel is helpful, letting the others go.  We are always in control of our lives and can go along and take all the suggestions offered, or stay where we are and determine our own road forward.  It’s good to participate with others when that participation gives us something we desire or need.  But if we want to go a different way, we can step back and choose our own path.  We don’t always have to swim upstream but sometimes going in a different direction than everyone else is the only way to our goals.  Our lives are ours to design and we are responsible for every decision we make.  If we go along when we don’t want to and end up somewhere we didn’t want to go, we own it.  We’re wise enough to know how we want to proceed.  Every choice we make will take us somewhere.  Making the choices that take us where we most want to go will bring us satisfaction and happiness.

There can be a lot of pressure to go along when we’re in a group.  Sometimes if we’re in a situation where they have authority over us we may need to comply.  But most of the time we can choose our own path.  Even if everyone else wants us to go along, if it’s not something we desire, we can go another way.  We can let others make their own choices and move forward without us.  Our experiences are unique to our personal lives and we determine our personal destinations.  We can be in control and make the decisions that take us where we want to go the most.

It’s nice to have others around us as we navigate through our days but there may be times when our desires require us to move forward alone.  We all chart our own courses and have all the courage and determination we need to succeed at anything we choose.  We can find the way forward by ourselves and reach any goal we desire.  We determine what our lives will be even if it’s different than what others want for us.  The roads we take are ours to choose and every destination is possible.  We can make all our dreams come true by focusing on what’s most important and then doing what it takes to get there.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you really don’t want to do, remember you know yourself better than anyone else.  You know what you want and what you need.  Be confident and choose the paths that will open the doors to your goals.  You can do anything.  The whole world is there for you and every dream can come true.

Opting Out

21 May

There are a lot of people continually coming in and out of our lives.  Every individual brings with them specific ideas that may influence us in diverse ways.  If they are powerful and we admire them, that influence may be strong and far reaching.  Simple comments said in passing may make us see our situation in new ways and we may decide to change.  In our close relationships, the views and opinions of those we love are powerful.  If they feel strongly about something we may go along with them even if we aren’t sure it’s what we should be doing.  We may get into a situation where someone we love asks us to do something that is important to them, but that we are uncomfortable doing.  Our values and personal ideals are important.  We can always go along with anything in order to get along but each decision we make reflects who we are.  If we do things that are not in keeping with the standards we’ve set, no matter what our reasons are, we cannot be authentic and true to ourselves.  People will not trust us if we continually change with each new opinion that comes along.  We never have to do anything that isn’t in keeping with the standards we’ve set for our lives.  If someone asks us to do something that compromises us, we may opt out.  We can be gracious and kind, and still choose what is best for us.  We know who we are and where we want to go.  We decide what is important and how we want to live our lives.  There are countless ideas about life, and we may choose what works for us.  Holding fast to our personal choices will give us confidence.   Our lives belong to us and through our excellent decisions we can become the people we most want to be.

It’s important to be flexible and adapt to different situations as they come along.  Being able to change does not mean we must abandon who we are.  We can move in a new direction and still hold fast to the ideals we value.  There will always be lots of choices that take us from the paths we want to travel but with determination and focus we can make the best decisions and move forward with confidence while keeping true to what we want most.

Times change and what was considered appropriate and valuable in the past may no longer apply.  We may be in situations when we’re pressured to do something that is acceptable to others but uncomfortable for us.  We set our own personal standards and the ideas of those around us may differ from what we want in our lives.  We never have to conform to anything that goes against the values we’ve set.  We can go our own way and make our own choices.  Life is a great blessing and when we live it in ways that embellish who we really are we find true happiness.

Today if you’re in a situation that compromises the standards you’ve set for yourself, you may opt out and go a different way.  You know who you are and what you want.  You can choose the roads that reflect your personal standards and express your individuality with grace and confidence.  Every choice is yours to make.  Choose the way that takes you to your best self and you will find true happiness.

Boomerang

3 Apr

We go through all kinds of experiences and changes as we navigate through our lives. Each day brings us new lessons that teach us and give us tools for success. Our understanding of life deepens as we experience many different situations and scenarios, and we decide what we want as we move forward. Sometimes we progress exactly as planned and move continually ahead toward our goals. But other times things happen that turn us back around into a situation we thought we had left behind. Something happens that reels us back in and before we know it we find ourselves back at the beginning where we don’t want to be. People are complex and sometimes we make decisions that take us off the road leading forward and loop us back to where we’ve been. Even if we want to change our lives, the pull to return can be great. It’s possible to go back and revisit situations from our past and still continue moving forward, but if we cling to them it will be more difficult to head to the future. We don’t have to sever our connections to where we’ve been but if we want to find success moving forward we can’t hold onto situations that keep us in place. We know what we want and are capable of every success we desire. No dream is out of reach. If we find ourselves stepping back we can step forward again. The road ahead is always there for us and we can achieve any goal we desire.

We are responsible for the lives we live. If we’re unhappy, frustrated, or unfulfilled, it’s up to us to change the situation. We deserve complete happiness but we are the ones responsible for bringing it into our lives. If we want to change we can. There may be pressure from those around us to keep things the same, we may be afraid to alter our course because we don’t know what will happen, or we may be lazy and decide we can deal with things as they are. But there are unlimited possibilities around us and we can do anything we really want to do. We can choose the path that will take us exactly where we want to go and find complete contentment knowing we are in control of our future.

It’s easy to stay in a routine, even if it’s not what we want. We know where we are and what to expect. We may step away for a moment, but if we aren’t committed to change we may be quickly pulled back. We are in charge of our lives and nothing is strong enough to hold us down when we want to move forward. We can do anything we desire and no destination is too far to reach. We can step away from situations we don’t want and open all the doors ahead. Our lives belong to us and we can design them any way we choose.

Today if you find yourself looping back to what you left behind and want to continue forward, be confident and turn around. The whole world is there for you and anything is possible. Let go of anything that holds you in place and move ahead. You are strong and capable and nothing will keep you from success. Step forward. The future is there for you and you will reach it.

Resolve

15 May

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives.  When we have a big decision to make we may take our time to consider all the parameters of what will happen when we choose and give ourselves lots of space to think about which way we want to go.  We can take all the time we need, but sometimes as we’re moving along suddenly we know what we want to do.  We’ve passed a turning point and are suddenly and completely sure and firmly resolved on the way forward.  We may not know what turned the tide that brought the decision, we may not be aware of what happened or didn’t happen that decided the way forward but we are sure and unshakable in our conviction.  Suddenly the task is done and we are confident of where we want to go and what we want to do.  When that happens all our doubts fade quickly away and the road ahead becomes clear.  It’s very rewarding when we are sure of ourselves.  Others may still have concerns but if we’re confident they will mean nothing.  We know clearly what we want to do, we know with assurance where we want to go and nothing can change our minds.  Once the decision is made all that remains is to move forward toward the destination.

There are many roads and countless directions in our lives.  Some will say go one way, others will say go another.  There are influences and pressures on us all the time from those who care about us, those who want us to succeed and others who may want something else.  Like static on a radio the noise can be constant and distracting.  When we need to decide something important that static may get louder as others give us their opinions and advice, requested or volunteered.  We may become overwhelmed with all the information offered and get stuck trying to find the right way through.  If we take a step back and close the door for a time, if we allow ourselves to be quiet and listen to our own personal thoughts, all the inspiration and clarity we need will rise.  We already know what we want to do.  If we take a moment to let our minds rest the confidence we are seeking will come.

We are very intelligent and insightful about what we really want and need.  We know ourselves better than anyone else ever could.  We know where we want to go and we know what we need to get there.  Trusting our personal direction and judgment and allowing ourselves time to think and consider our options will allow us to choose the right road going forward.  We can suddenly be sure even if we’ve been confused for a time.  We can suddenly be confident even if we’ve been tremulous.  We have everything we need to succeed already.  Trusting our excellent ability to make good choices and then doing what is needed to make the destination come to us will bring us all the success we seek.

Today if you’ve suddenly decided you know the way forward and you are sure even if others doubt, trust in yourself.  You have everything you need to succeed.  Be confident.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  You know what you want, you know what you need and you know where you want to go.

Finding David

28 Apr

We’ve probably all heard the story of David and Goliath. David was a normal sized man who came up against Goliath, a mean and vicious giant. Goliath tried to kill David and if were only a matter of size and strength would have succeeded. But David was skilled with a slingshot and in the midst of being pursued, sent a rock sailing through the air that hit Goliath in the head and killed him. When we think about this story we may marvel at David’s ability to keep his wits about him while being chased by a murdering giant, and being able to steady himself enough to make the shot that saved his life. While it’s unlikely we will ever be in the same sort of circumstance, we may face times in our lives when we feel we are being pursued or overtaken by something far bigger than we are that is threatening and making us afraid and unsure. It might a person who has power over us or a situation we can’t control. Whatever the threat, we may feel it’s too big for us to overcome. No matter what the issue or how powerful the other players are, we always have choices about what we will do. We can run and hide if we decide the fight is too strong but hiding from our problems will never solve them. We can pretend the issue isn’t a big deal and look the other way, but ignoring issues doesn’t solve them either. In the end, the only way to address whatever is disturbing our peace is to face it head on. Like David, we have to stop and turn around, and look right at the head of the problem. There isn’t any issue too hard for us to face and solve. We have enough courage and wisdom to manage anything that comes. We can find the David within us, face our problems, consider our options and find the way forward that brings us success.

There are some people who want to control others and situations. They need to have the final say, they demand their way be honored and they want to be in charge of where things are going. When we must work with them we may find it hard to be heard and if we push against them, they may aggressively constrict our efforts and exert pressure upon us. If we strongly believe in our views we may struggle with them before decisions are reached. Although it may be uncomfortable to disagree, our opinions are valuable and we deserve to be heard. We can state our case and press for what is important. We have all the strength and courage we need to proceed and win.

We may face a painful situation where we have little or no control over the outcome. If there is nothing we can do to mitigate the problem we may need to simply endure. It’s hard to wait through hard times when we have no control. But even as we wait we can exercise the courage to be still, and the wisdom to listen. If our only option is to endure well, we can still choose the best course forward and succeed.

Today if you’re facing a threatening situation and you feel apprehensive, find the David within you. You have all the courage you need to face anything you must. Reach for it and be strong. You are secure and capable. Look ahead, aim high, and push forward. There is nothing too big for you to overcome.