Tag Archives: Pressure

Free Pass

14 Nov

Every choice we make has consequences. If we’re careful and thoughtful, and do our best to choose the best possible options, chances are the consequences of those decisions will work in our favor. But people are complex and life is complicated. Things go wrong, unexpected problems arise, and we make mistakes. If we’re stressed, overwhelmed, angry or distracted, we might make a decision that isn’t in our best interest and has dire results. We are free to choose anything we like, but we’re not free to choose the results of those decisions. There is no way to escape our accountability for the choices we make. It doesn’t matter is we were stressed, upset, confused, or convinced by someone else to do something. If we make a decision, it belongs solely to us, and we’ll answer for what happens next. When we choose the first step on any path, we also choose the last. Accountability must be satisfied and there is no way to escape. We may have good excuses for why we did something, and they may be convincing, but there are no free passes. We are responsible for every decision we make. Nobody can make us do anything we don’t want to do. If we acquiesce when we know it’s the wrong choice, we must endure what comes. We can try to explain our way out, and offer any excuses we think might help us, but nothing can change the path we’ve chosen. Once a decision is made it cannot be erased. But even if we’ve erred, we can do what is necessary to fix the situation, and then proceed forward with renewed confidence and choose more carefully. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices, and nothing can prevent us from reaching our goals. With wisdom and patience, we can choose the roads that will move us forward and help us find success.

There are a lot of excuses and reasons for bad decisions. If the situation was intense and we felt pressured, we may say we couldn’t help what happened. We are always in control of everything we do, and even if we’re being pressed or bullied, we can stand firm and make the best decisions possible. Every choice we make takes us somewhere and by being proactive and thoughtful, we can make the best decisions that bring us the results we most desire.

It’s good to be kind and have mercy on someone who chooses badly, but justice must prevail. Nobody is perfect and even if others are considerate and understanding, we are still accountable for our choices. Once we’ve chosen a road, we must travel it to the end. There is no way to erase the past and the best we can do is choose more wisely moving forward. Life is all about learning and every step teaches us something to carry forward. We are able to learn from our mistakes and make excellent choices. Every goal is possible and with wisdom and care, we will reach them.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision that’s bringing you difficulty and trouble, think about your next steps forward. You can change course and turn your direction toward where you most want to go. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Two Wrongs

5 Aug

Every decision we make takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and careful, and take time to see the road ahead before we choose, we have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. There’ll always be unforeseen complications and details we don’t know about, and sometimes things will go wrong. But most of the time, if we consider all our options, we can make excellent choices that bring us the results we desire. If we get involved in a situation where someone has a lot of influence over us and asks us to do something we aren’t sure about, we may hesitate. If they’re forceful and determined to push us their way, despite our concerns, we may acquiesce and go along. Sometimes other people’s decisions will work out for us but other times we may end up headed for trouble. We always have the choice to change direction and start again, but if we’re swept up under someone’s influence, we may feel powerless to turn around. One bad decision may lead to another, and then another, and before we know it, we’re in foreign and difficult territory, far from where we want to be. Two wrongs can never make anything right. They don’t cancel each other out, and continuing on the wrong road in the hopes that somehow it will magically turn into the right one, will never work. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter what others choose or how much pressure they bring in an effort to take us along, we can make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to anything we don’t want. Nobody knows more about where we want to go than we do. We can have the lives we desire most by making careful choices that lead us to the destinations we want. Every blessing is possible and with patience and determination, we will find true happiness.

Some people like to control others to get what they want. If we have something they want, they may do all kinds of things to try and make us give it. If we don’t agree, they may manipulate the situation to pressure us into compliance. It’s very difficult and unpleasant to deal with situations like these, and if being honest and straightforward doesn’t work, we may consider something underhanded in an effort to escape. We’re always accountable for everything we do, and there is no excuse powerful enough to turn bad behavior into good. Choosing well will always bring blessings. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to make decisions that reflect our high standards and hold fast to what is noble and right.

If we go along with a bad decision that complicates and negatively impacts our life, we can stay with it and hope things will improve, or stop and rethink the way forward. No decision is written in stone and we can change direction at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to correct our course. Every road is possible and with determination and focus, we can move toward the destinations we want the most.

Today if someone is pressuring you to make a choice you don’t agree with, stand firm and choose what’s best for you. You’re in control of your life and can go anywhere you desire. Every option is available and you will find the right way forward. Choose roads that will take you where you want to go, and make your dreams come true.

Adding It Up

2 Jul

We all learned to add in grade school and it’s a skill we use often in all kinds of ways. Adding one plus one will always make two, no matter where we are or what we’re doing. It’s a constant that never changes. Adding up all the factors in play helps us find the solutions we need to take another step and move forward. However, there may be times when our vision may be clouded and we don’t see the whole picture before us. People are complex and when we’re interacting with them, they may present themselves in ways that create a certain picture that may or may not be accurate. The sum of all the parts sometimes doesn’t add up to the image they want to portray. If they tell us they’re always honest, we may have no reason to doubt them. But then, perhaps we see them cheat on a time sheet, or lie about where they are, or take something that isn’t theirs. Everything we do is a factor in the overall equation. If we want the end result we’re seeking, and want to be the people we say we are, all the parts have to add up. We can say anything, but we aren’t what we say, we are what we do. We can choose to live our lives with integrity, honesty and clarity and bring light into the world. Or we can choose another path, deceive those around us, manipulate situations and forge ahead pushing others out of the way, and disregarding anyone but ourselves. The choices are ours to make but one thing is certain. We will always be the sum total of our decisions no matter which way we choose. One plus one will always equal two. Nothing can change the truth. We can live our lives any way we like and if we choose well, and make strong, honest decisions, will have the lives we dream about. Every blessing is possible and each step we take can move us closer to gaining them.

Although we’re always in control of our lives, there may be great pressure to comply with the views of those around us. If we align ourselves with actions and behaviors we aren’t comfortable with, we may get along, but the price may be high. It’s impossible to be genuine and conform at the same time. We can respect other ideas, and still be ourselves. We can be honest and choose our own road going forward.

If what we’re being told doesn’t match what’s happening, or if the road is convoluted and confusing, and nothing is adding up to the picture we’ve been given, we may need to take another look. We can stop and objectively view all the parameters before us. We are wise enough to see things as they really are and make the best decision moving forward. We can have the lives we want the most, and ensure everything we desire is adding up to the results we seek.

Today, take a moment to look ahead and make sure the road you’re on is headed toward the destination you desire. You are wise and capable, and can reach any goal you seek. Look at the possibilities around you and choose the direction that takes you forward. Pay attention and ensure each step moves you closer to where you want to be. Add everything up and find the answers you need to reach success. You are amazing and nothing can hold you in place. Everything is possible and you will win.

Loud Voices

29 Mar

We live in the world with billions of other people. They come from all kinds of different backgrounds, and believe countless different things. Their opinions are important to them and if they’re passionate about what they think is right, they may be very loud and persistent in an effort to make others follow along. They may tell those around them what they should eat, what they should believe, what they should do, how to act or countless other things. We’re all entitled to our own ideas and perspectives and can live our lives any way we like, but we don’t have the authority to command others to embrace our choices. We all have the gift and privilege or free agency and can make any decisions we desire. We don’t need to do anything someone else’s way or follow anyone else’s ideas or beliefs. Our lives are ours to design and we can live them any way we like, even if it’s different from those around us. There isn’t one perfect way to live. There are endless expressions and interpretations of every facet of life. We can make our own choices and let others choose what’s best for them. Demanding sameness and conformity will only suffocate and repress free expression and ingenuity. Every choice has its own benefits and drawbacks, and we can make them independently, regardless of what’s going on around us. We can listen to the opinions of others, and then choose for ourselves. We know who we are and what we want. We can live our lives in ways that bring us the blessings we seek and take us where we want to go. Our wisdom and insight will guide us along, and with focus and determination, we can have the lives we dream about.

It’s easy to do things when everyone is in agreement. If we’re all on the same page and embrace the same goals, we can move forward with little distraction or division. It’s fine to go along with something if it moves us further down the road we want to travel, but we need never succumb to conformity if it’s not what we want. We are valuable and worthwhile, and have gifts to offer nobody else can bring. The world is enhanced because we are here and we can be confident is being exactly who we are.

Opinions come and go, trends change and ideas modify as time passes. What was popular before may be passé now and what was considered all the rage last year may be a forgotten memory. It doesn’t matter what others are doing or how much importance they put on fitting in. We can decide what works for us and what we want. Our uniqueness and individuality bring depth and flavor to every situation. There isn’t now, nor has there ever been, anyone else like us. We can share who we are and make decisions that take us where we want to go and give us the lives we desire.

Today if there is pressure from those around you to conform, remember you are awesome and valuable just as you are. You don’t have to go along with anything you don’t want. The whole world is blessed because you are here and your presence enhances us all. You are amazing. Be confident and decide what you want most. Make decisions that will bring you the life you dream about and happiness will be yours.

Passing

27 Aug

There are unlimited opportunities to try, new things to experience and different activities to participate in throughout our lives.  We may be eager to take on some of them and others we may do simply because of where we are and what’s going on.  Our choices are ours to make but sometimes because of the situation we’re in we may feel pressured to do something we don’t want or go somewhere we’d rather avoid.  Those around us may suggest something because they think it’ll be good for us or will move us forward toward a goal we’ve been seeking.  They may be right but ultimately we know ourselves better than anyone else and if we don’t want to participate, we can pass.  There are all kinds of opinions out there and we can listen to them and take whatever we feel is helpful, letting the others go.  We are always in control of our lives and can go along and take all the suggestions offered, or stay where we are and determine our own road forward.  It’s good to participate with others when that participation gives us something we desire or need.  But if we want to go a different way, we can step back and choose our own path.  We don’t always have to swim upstream but sometimes going in a different direction than everyone else is the only way to our goals.  Our lives are ours to design and we are responsible for every decision we make.  If we go along when we don’t want to and end up somewhere we didn’t want to go, we own it.  We’re wise enough to know how we want to proceed.  Every choice we make will take us somewhere.  Making the choices that take us where we most want to go will bring us satisfaction and happiness.

There can be a lot of pressure to go along when we’re in a group.  Sometimes if we’re in a situation where they have authority over us we may need to comply.  But most of the time we can choose our own path.  Even if everyone else wants us to go along, if it’s not something we desire, we can go another way.  We can let others make their own choices and move forward without us.  Our experiences are unique to our personal lives and we determine our personal destinations.  We can be in control and make the decisions that take us where we want to go the most.

It’s nice to have others around us as we navigate through our days but there may be times when our desires require us to move forward alone.  We all chart our own courses and have all the courage and determination we need to succeed at anything we choose.  We can find the way forward by ourselves and reach any goal we desire.  We determine what our lives will be even if it’s different than what others want for us.  The roads we take are ours to choose and every destination is possible.  We can make all our dreams come true by focusing on what’s most important and then doing what it takes to get there.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you really don’t want to do, remember you know yourself better than anyone else.  You know what you want and what you need.  Be confident and choose the paths that will open the doors to your goals.  You can do anything.  The whole world is there for you and every dream can come true.