Tag Archives: Pressure

No Thanks

17 Sep

There are unlimited options available to us at all times. We can travel on endless roads, go anywhere and do anything we desire. There will be few times when there is only one possibility for the way ahead, and we can design our journey any way we like. Unless we live on a deserted island, we share our world with lots of other people. They come and go in and out of our lives constantly, and we are rarely, completely alone. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and we may get lots of advice and opinions about how we should proceed. We’re all individuals with our own choices to make but if those around us are powerful or insistent, we may decide to follow their lead, even if it’s not what we really want. If we have a personal relationship with them, their influence may be great, and we might find ourselves doing things they suggest and patterning our lives after them. That’s fine if what they’re doing and where they’re going is what we want, but if not, we can step back and choose another path. We can listen to any ideas and recommendations others have to offer, and then make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to follow someone else’s plan, and can politely decline any suggestions we don’t desire. We don’t have to go to the concert just because our friends want us to. We don’t have to ride along if we aren’t interested in the destination. We are in control of our lives and can decide what we’ll do and where we’ll go. There is no need to seek permission or agreement. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we like. Our lives are ours and we can create them in any way. By doing what is most important and seeking the goals we most desire, we’ll gain great satisfaction and happiness. Every single dream is possible, and with focus and determination, we can achieve anything.

Peer pressure will often be a factor in the choices we make. How much influence it has over us depends on how focused and confident we are in our ability to choose well. If we’re unsure, we may bend to someone else’s ideas. If we don’t trust ourselves to make a good choice, we might let others choose for us. We can bend in the wind and let things roll out as they may, or stand firm and make our own decisions. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

Family pressures and traditions are powerful. When everyone is on the same page, doing the same things the way they’ve always been done, it’s easy to get agreement. We can follow what others are doing and keep the boat steady, but every option is available. If we want something different, we can choose our own way forward. Accepting the choices of others doesn’t mean we must follow them. We can be respectful, and polite, and go our own way.

Today if you’re being pressured to do something you really don’t want to do, decide what you want the most. You are important and valuable, and can have the life you desire. Every single blessing is already there for you and with determination, and persistence, you can make every dream come true.

Doing and Saying

27 Aug

There are all kinds of people around us every day. We see them at work, at the store, on the road and just about everywhere we go. We’re all busy living our lives and accomplishing whatever we want or need to get done. What we do defines us, and lets people know who we are, and where we’re headed. As we interact with others, we can say anything. We can tell the truth about ourselves, or make up any story we like. If we wish our life was different, or that we were further down the road than we are, we may embellish and fabricate our situation to present the image we want to portray. Talk is cheap and easy to manipulate. But what we say doesn’t identify us. We are defined by what we do. Our actions tell the world who we are and what we stand for. If they don’t match what we’re selling, it will be hard for others to trust us. They might fall for lies at the beginning, but the truth will always rise, and when it does, we might lose more than we can imagine. Nobody wants to be fooled, and if we discover we’ve been manipulated, we might walk away from the relationship, and never return. Good, strong relationships are a great blessing in our lives. They enrich our experiences and bring us comfort and satisfaction. If we’re deceptive and purposely misleading about who we are or what we’re doing, we may end up burning every bridge behind us. Nobody has a perfect life, and we’re on the road to somewhere. Choosing wisely and being honest about ourselves will open doors, and move us closer to our goals.

Sometimes what people say doesn’t exactly match what they do. Someone may say they love us but can never find time to spend with us. Or they might say they’re honest, but their ethics at work are slippery at best. We can say anything at any time, but what we say will never determine who we really are. That can only be defined by what we actually do. We are capable of making excellent decisions, even when they’re inconvenient or difficult. We can choose the road ahead with clarity and integrity, and reach success.

There may be times when due to external pressures or expectations, we say we’ll do something we aren’t sure we can achieve. Once we agree to whatever we’ve been asked to do, we are committed and must follow through. If there is no way to do what we’ve agreed to, we can go back and discuss other possible options. We are wise and intelligent, and can be clear about our capabilities and desires. By being honest in our agreements, and openly communicating our plans, we will move ahead with great confidence and success.

Today if you’re tempted to pretend to be something you’re not, or embellish what you’ve done to impress someone, remember what you do defines who you are. Be clear and honest in everything you do, and those around you will honor and trust you. There is greatness inside you. Trust yourself, and step forward with confidence. Every goal is possible, and you will achieve great success.

Free Pass

14 Nov

Every choice we make has consequences. If we’re careful and thoughtful, and do our best to choose the best possible options, chances are the consequences of those decisions will work in our favor. But people are complex and life is complicated. Things go wrong, unexpected problems arise, and we make mistakes. If we’re stressed, overwhelmed, angry or distracted, we might make a decision that isn’t in our best interest and has dire results. We are free to choose anything we like, but we’re not free to choose the results of those decisions. There is no way to escape our accountability for the choices we make. It doesn’t matter is we were stressed, upset, confused, or convinced by someone else to do something. If we make a decision, it belongs solely to us, and we’ll answer for what happens next. When we choose the first step on any path, we also choose the last. Accountability must be satisfied and there is no way to escape. We may have good excuses for why we did something, and they may be convincing, but there are no free passes. We are responsible for every decision we make. Nobody can make us do anything we don’t want to do. If we acquiesce when we know it’s the wrong choice, we must endure what comes. We can try to explain our way out, and offer any excuses we think might help us, but nothing can change the path we’ve chosen. Once a decision is made it cannot be erased. But even if we’ve erred, we can do what is necessary to fix the situation, and then proceed forward with renewed confidence and choose more carefully. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices, and nothing can prevent us from reaching our goals. With wisdom and patience, we can choose the roads that will move us forward and help us find success.

There are a lot of excuses and reasons for bad decisions. If the situation was intense and we felt pressured, we may say we couldn’t help what happened. We are always in control of everything we do, and even if we’re being pressed or bullied, we can stand firm and make the best decisions possible. Every choice we make takes us somewhere and by being proactive and thoughtful, we can make the best decisions that bring us the results we most desire.

It’s good to be kind and have mercy on someone who chooses badly, but justice must prevail. Nobody is perfect and even if others are considerate and understanding, we are still accountable for our choices. Once we’ve chosen a road, we must travel it to the end. There is no way to erase the past and the best we can do is choose more wisely moving forward. Life is all about learning and every step teaches us something to carry forward. We are able to learn from our mistakes and make excellent choices. Every goal is possible and with wisdom and care, we will reach them.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision that’s bringing you difficulty and trouble, think about your next steps forward. You can change course and turn your direction toward where you most want to go. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Two Wrongs

5 Aug

Every decision we make takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and careful, and take time to see the road ahead before we choose, we have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. There’ll always be unforeseen complications and details we don’t know about, and sometimes things will go wrong. But most of the time, if we consider all our options, we can make excellent choices that bring us the results we desire. If we get involved in a situation where someone has a lot of influence over us and asks us to do something we aren’t sure about, we may hesitate. If they’re forceful and determined to push us their way, despite our concerns, we may acquiesce and go along. Sometimes other people’s decisions will work out for us but other times we may end up headed for trouble. We always have the choice to change direction and start again, but if we’re swept up under someone’s influence, we may feel powerless to turn around. One bad decision may lead to another, and then another, and before we know it, we’re in foreign and difficult territory, far from where we want to be. Two wrongs can never make anything right. They don’t cancel each other out, and continuing on the wrong road in the hopes that somehow it will magically turn into the right one, will never work. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter what others choose or how much pressure they bring in an effort to take us along, we can make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to anything we don’t want. Nobody knows more about where we want to go than we do. We can have the lives we desire most by making careful choices that lead us to the destinations we want. Every blessing is possible and with patience and determination, we will find true happiness.

Some people like to control others to get what they want. If we have something they want, they may do all kinds of things to try and make us give it. If we don’t agree, they may manipulate the situation to pressure us into compliance. It’s very difficult and unpleasant to deal with situations like these, and if being honest and straightforward doesn’t work, we may consider something underhanded in an effort to escape. We’re always accountable for everything we do, and there is no excuse powerful enough to turn bad behavior into good. Choosing well will always bring blessings. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to make decisions that reflect our high standards and hold fast to what is noble and right.

If we go along with a bad decision that complicates and negatively impacts our life, we can stay with it and hope things will improve, or stop and rethink the way forward. No decision is written in stone and we can change direction at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to correct our course. Every road is possible and with determination and focus, we can move toward the destinations we want the most.

Today if someone is pressuring you to make a choice you don’t agree with, stand firm and choose what’s best for you. You’re in control of your life and can go anywhere you desire. Every option is available and you will find the right way forward. Choose roads that will take you where you want to go, and make your dreams come true.

Adding It Up

2 Jul

We all learned to add in grade school and it’s a skill we use often in all kinds of ways. Adding one plus one will always make two, no matter where we are or what we’re doing. It’s a constant that never changes. Adding up all the factors in play helps us find the solutions we need to take another step and move forward. However, there may be times when our vision may be clouded and we don’t see the whole picture before us. People are complex and when we’re interacting with them, they may present themselves in ways that create a certain picture that may or may not be accurate. The sum of all the parts sometimes doesn’t add up to the image they want to portray. If they tell us they’re always honest, we may have no reason to doubt them. But then, perhaps we see them cheat on a time sheet, or lie about where they are, or take something that isn’t theirs. Everything we do is a factor in the overall equation. If we want the end result we’re seeking, and want to be the people we say we are, all the parts have to add up. We can say anything, but we aren’t what we say, we are what we do. We can choose to live our lives with integrity, honesty and clarity and bring light into the world. Or we can choose another path, deceive those around us, manipulate situations and forge ahead pushing others out of the way, and disregarding anyone but ourselves. The choices are ours to make but one thing is certain. We will always be the sum total of our decisions no matter which way we choose. One plus one will always equal two. Nothing can change the truth. We can live our lives any way we like and if we choose well, and make strong, honest decisions, will have the lives we dream about. Every blessing is possible and each step we take can move us closer to gaining them.

Although we’re always in control of our lives, there may be great pressure to comply with the views of those around us. If we align ourselves with actions and behaviors we aren’t comfortable with, we may get along, but the price may be high. It’s impossible to be genuine and conform at the same time. We can respect other ideas, and still be ourselves. We can be honest and choose our own road going forward.

If what we’re being told doesn’t match what’s happening, or if the road is convoluted and confusing, and nothing is adding up to the picture we’ve been given, we may need to take another look. We can stop and objectively view all the parameters before us. We are wise enough to see things as they really are and make the best decision moving forward. We can have the lives we want the most, and ensure everything we desire is adding up to the results we seek.

Today, take a moment to look ahead and make sure the road you’re on is headed toward the destination you desire. You are wise and capable, and can reach any goal you seek. Look at the possibilities around you and choose the direction that takes you forward. Pay attention and ensure each step moves you closer to where you want to be. Add everything up and find the answers you need to reach success. You are amazing and nothing can hold you in place. Everything is possible and you will win.