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Heavy Load

26 Mar

The things we must face change every day. There can be unexpected developments that suddenly alter the road ahead, and make it necessary for us to change our plans. When things don’t work out the way we thought they would, or something serious goes wrong, there may suddenly be more to carry than we planned on. Problems arise, details get in the way, and complications creep in that make the way forward, if not impossible, certainly more difficult than we want. We already have responsibilities and things we must attend to, and when there’s a change in the road ahead, it may make getting them done more difficult. Let’s say there’s a huge field covered with rocks and it’s our job to pick them all up and move them. All we have is a big bag to carry them in and each rock we pick up and add makes the load heavier. After a while, the bag may become too heavy to carry and we have to drag it behind us, until in the end, we can’t move. When lots of things go wrong and we have to navigate through, it’s like picking up rocks along the way and trying to manage them all. If we can’t solve the problems as they arise, we add them to the bag, until we get to a point where we can’t handle any more. But we never have to carry a load that’s too heavy for us. We don’t have to solve everything right away. We can carefully evaluate what we can do, and if we can’t resolve an issue right now, instead of carrying it along with us, we can set it aside for later. When our situation clears, we can go back to the issues waiting for us and begin to unravel them, one at a time. We can decide what’s most important, and let the others things wait. With patience and wisdom, we will make the best decisions moving forward, and reach the goals we most desire.

Lots of people have lots of opinions about the way things should go. They may tell us we should be able to handle more than we’re managing, or that we need to solve every problem as soon as it appears. They are entitled to their opinions, and even if they are important to them, it doesn’t mean they must be important to us. We don’t need agreement or permission to set our own course. We have all the intelligence and inspiration we need to find the way forward, and reach any destination.

There may be times when we must deal with a lot of complicated, difficult pieces to a hard situation. When there’s a lot going on it can be challenging to find the answers we need. If we step away from the fray and take some time to see the situation objectively, our vision will clear and we will see the road ahead. We are completely capable of handling anything that comes to us. There isn’t anything that can hold us back indefinitely. We can trust ourselves to find all the answers we need, and manage every situation competently, and move forward toward success.

Today if you’re dealing with a lot of complex and difficult issues and you’re confused and concerned about finding your way, step back and look at the situation openly. All the answers you need are already there for you. Let your vision clear and the road ahead will arise. You are incredible and strong, and will always find your way. Nothing is out of reach, and you will succeed.

The Road

11 Mar

Everyday something new happens and we can’t see what’s coming next. There is no way to anticipate the unknown. All we can do is take one step at a time and face whatever presents itself as it arises. All roads have a destination and the road we’re on is going somewhere. If we’ve chosen the way ahead the destination may be clear and obvious. It’s easy to plan when we know the way forward and where it will lead. But life is uncertain and sometimes we get turned around and pointed in directions we never intended to go. People make decisions that affect us, things go wrong, unexpected events derail our plans, and endless other possibilities can knock us off course. If we’ve been pushed onto a path we didn’t choose, we may be uncertain about what will happen and unsure where we’ll end up. Foreign roads can be unsettling. When the terrain is unknown, and we can’t see ahead, it’s hard to know what to do. If we’re facing something we’ve never been through before and there is trouble and complications, we may feel lost and untethered as we try to find our footing. Stepping into the unknown isn’t easy, but we can trust ourselves and remember how strong and capable we are. We may feel lost for a moment, but we will find our way. The road may be unclear and murky ahead, but with each step we will see a little more. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to find our way through anything. Nothing is strong enough or confusing enough to hold us in place indefinitely. We’ll find the way forward, and in time, reach success.

There is no way to know everything ahead of time. Even when we plan carefully and chart our course with clarity and wisdom, things may go awry. There will always be many unknowns in every scenario. When the road turns unexpectedly, we may face problems that tangle up our plans and stop us in place. We can take the time standing still to look at all the options ahead and find the opening we need to continue forward. Things may go wrong, trouble may come, and everything may go up in smoke, but we are intelligent and wise, and will find our way through.

Sometimes things happen that completely derail our plans for the future. Everything we wanted to accomplish may suddenly be impossible, and all our ideas will no longer work. When that happens, we can sit down in frustration and refuse to move, or we can review every available option and find a new way to move forward. If we want to continue ahead, nothing will ever be powerful enough to stop us. Every dream is still there for us, and when we’re ready, we will make them ours.

Today if you’re on a road you don’t want to travel but can’t step away, be patient. Change is constant and soon you’ll be able to chart your own course. You are smart enough to manage any complication and find your way forward. Every dream is possible and with clarity and wisdom, you will gain the life you want the most. You are powerful and intelligent. Step forward with confidence. Nothing can keep you from success, and you will prevail.

Not Me

7 Feb

Nobody is perfect and although we try to always make good decisions and choose well, sometimes we’re going to make mistakes. It’s the normal course of life. We might decide to do something that seems good at the beginning but turns into a complete mess, screwing up our lives and anyone else involved. It happens to everyone and nobody is exempt. We’re going to go the wrong way from time to time, and what we do after that will determine what happens next. When the bottom falls out and we’re left holding the bag, we can try to deflect the blame onto someone else. We could say it wasn’t us, we weren’t involved, nobody told us about it, and a million other excuses that won’t change anything. Pushing the blame for something we’ve done onto someone else will never help, and will reflect badly on us going forward. Many times, everyone already knows who was involved when things go wrong. Pretending to be invisible or making sure we’re somewhere else when it all hits the fan won’t fix anything. We’re accountable for everything we do and every decision we make. Hiding, deflecting, pretending or trying to dodge our involvement will only delay the inevitable. It’s far better, no matter how bad things are, to stand tall and admit our involvement. It’s only a mistake, not the end of the world. Nothing is permanent and no matter what’s happened there will be a way to correct our course. We are intelligent and can find the way forward no matter how convoluted the situation may seem. With confidence and courage, we can address any misstep and make whatever changes are needed to point us in the right direction. Every destination is possible and we will find the way ahead.

It’s impossible to know everything about everything. When we’re making decisions, there may be something we can’t see or some fact we don’t know about. We can only use the information available to us at any time, and if we discover later there is more to the story that affects the way forward negatively, we can modify our plans. If we’re flexible and open, we can still find our way to the goal despite any complications. Life is filled with possibilities and there will always be another way ahead. With focus and planning, we can reach any destination we desire.

There may be times when we might be blamed for something we didn’t do. It’s difficult to feel the scorn of others for something we’re not responsible for and we may certainly stand up for ourselves and protest our innocence. If doubt still remains, we can continue forward making the best choices possible, and in time, truth will prevail. We can make excellent decisions that show the world who we are, and that take us where we want to go and help us achieve our most valued goals. We are strong and powerful, and we will prevail.

Today if things have gone wrong from a decision you’ve made, own your part and do what is needed to correct the situation. Mistakes happen and you can change direction. Look at everything openly and decide on the best course of action. You are wise and intelligent, and all the answers are there for you. Trust yourself. You will prevail.

Too Hard

3 Feb

There are endless things we can accomplish in our lives. We can achieve goals, go to new places, and reach success in many ways. There may be times we want to achieve something that’s difficult and ambitious. If there are a lot of possible complications, or we must accomplish many demanding steps before we can even start, we might think it’s just too hard to accomplish. It’s like deciding to climb a big mountain. First, we have to get in good physical shape, which depending on how things are now, may take a lot of time and arduous work. Then we have to learn everything about mountain climbing, what complications may arise, what to do when the altitude gets high and oxygen gets low, and dozens of other things. Then when we’re ready, we have to practice many times on smaller hills. Finally, after we’ve done everything we can to prepare, we can set forth to climb the mountain. When we first decided we wanted to do this, we may have had no idea what was involved in getting ready, and after we get all the facts, we may decide it’s too hard to attempt. Of course, we can change our minds about anything at any time, but if the goal is something we really want to accomplish, we can find a way to do everything we must to achieve it. If we push ourselves beyond what is comfortable in order to accomplish something great, the satisfaction we gain when we succeed will bring great richness and happiness to our lives. Some things are very hard to do, but the difficulty level doesn’t decide our success. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and if we’re determined and focused, nothing can keep us from our goal. Every dream is possible, and we can have the lives we desire.

When we’re pushing toward a big goal, it’s great to have the support of those around us. Having our own personal cheering section can lift us when the road gets hard, and give us the courage to continue when things go wrong. But we don’t need the agreement of others to do anything we want to do. We can design our lives any way we like, and achieve every goal that moves us forward. We can do anything we desire, and with confidence, every dream can be ours.

If we’ve been pushing forward for a while and the way ahead is difficult and filled with problems and complications, we may tire of the struggle and begin to think we can’t succeed. We can step back and look at everything objectively, and get all the facts. If the goal we desire is out of reach right now, and everything is standing in our way, we can set it aside for a time until our situation changes. Nothing is permanent and eventually things will fall into place more easily, and we can start again. Every goal is possible and with careful planning, and constant diligence, we can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach, and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been trying hard to get to a destination you desire, but there are a lot of detours and setbacks, decide how you want to proceed. You are strong enough and wise enough to find the way forward. Choose your next steps and move forward with clarity and confidence. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed.

Listen Up

5 Dec

There are lots of people always coming in and out of our lives. We have friends, work associates, acquaintances, family members and others who are part of our everyday experience. Some we merely wave to in passing, but others are more important and may carry a lot of influence. Our lives belong solely to us and we can do anything we want, but there may be times when those around us don’t agree with the choices we’re making and give opinions about what we should do. Nobody can possibly know us better than we know ourselves, but that won’t prevent others from giving us advice about the paths we’re choosing. They might think they know better because they are older or have more experience, or they may just prefer that everyone else do what they would do. Their reasons for the advice mean nothing, and we can certainly listen to anything anyone else offers us. However, our experiences are unique to us alone, and even those very close to us will never have the exact same perspectives we possess. We always know what we want and where we want to go. Letting others make decisions for how we’ll proceed will only take us to the destinations they have chosen. If we want to achieve our own personal goals, we must choose our own way and proceed forward according to our own desires. We can listen to any advice that’s offered, but our happiness and satisfaction can only be accomplished by choosing what we want the most. We don’t have follow anyone else. We are wise and capable, and can find our way to any destination we choose. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with confidence we can make all our dreams come true.

The world is filled with opportunity and there are endless roads we can travel. There will always be more than one way to get to any goal. If someone blocks our path, or there’s a detour that prevents us from moving forward, we can look around and find another way forward. There will be few times when what we want to accomplish comes easily and without problems. It doesn’t matter if the way ahead gets complex, or we have to reroute our direction to continue, we have everything we need to find our way and reach success.

There are lots of ideas and opinions out there, and sometimes those around us might tell us we should live differently than we are. They may point out how difficult the road we’ve chosen will be, or they don’t think we have what it takes to prevail. Opinions vary, and are only valuable to those who hold them. We don’t have to adopt anyone else’s ideas, and we don’t have to follow their assumptions or take their directions. We are powerful and strong, and can do anything we like. Every destination is possible, and we already possess everything we need to reach them.

Today if someone is giving you advice and telling you to alter your course, remember how wise and capable you are. You know what you want and you have everything you need to succeed. Trust yourself and be confident. The whole world is there for you, and you can do anything and go anywhere. Success is always possible. You have everything you need to make every dream come true.

Free Pass

14 Nov

Every choice we make has consequences. If we’re careful and thoughtful, and do our best to choose the best possible options, chances are the consequences of those decisions will work in our favor. But people are complex and life is complicated. Things go wrong, unexpected problems arise, and we make mistakes. If we’re stressed, overwhelmed, angry or distracted, we might make a decision that isn’t in our best interest and has dire results. We are free to choose anything we like, but we’re not free to choose the results of those decisions. There is no way to escape our accountability for the choices we make. It doesn’t matter is we were stressed, upset, confused, or convinced by someone else to do something. If we make a decision, it belongs solely to us, and we’ll answer for what happens next. When we choose the first step on any path, we also choose the last. Accountability must be satisfied and there is no way to escape. We may have good excuses for why we did something, and they may be convincing, but there are no free passes. We are responsible for every decision we make. Nobody can make us do anything we don’t want to do. If we acquiesce when we know it’s the wrong choice, we must endure what comes. We can try to explain our way out, and offer any excuses we think might help us, but nothing can change the path we’ve chosen. Once a decision is made it cannot be erased. But even if we’ve erred, we can do what is necessary to fix the situation, and then proceed forward with renewed confidence and choose more carefully. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices, and nothing can prevent us from reaching our goals. With wisdom and patience, we can choose the roads that will move us forward and help us find success.

There are a lot of excuses and reasons for bad decisions. If the situation was intense and we felt pressured, we may say we couldn’t help what happened. We are always in control of everything we do, and even if we’re being pressed or bullied, we can stand firm and make the best decisions possible. Every choice we make takes us somewhere and by being proactive and thoughtful, we can make the best decisions that bring us the results we most desire.

It’s good to be kind and have mercy on someone who chooses badly, but justice must prevail. Nobody is perfect and even if others are considerate and understanding, we are still accountable for our choices. Once we’ve chosen a road, we must travel it to the end. There is no way to erase the past and the best we can do is choose more wisely moving forward. Life is all about learning and every step teaches us something to carry forward. We are able to learn from our mistakes and make excellent choices. Every goal is possible and with wisdom and care, we will reach them.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision that’s bringing you difficulty and trouble, think about your next steps forward. You can change course and turn your direction toward where you most want to go. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Opposition

30 Oct

A new highway that’s clear and smooth is easy to travel. We can coast along and look at the scenery, not worried about obstructions or interference as we move ahead. The pavement is even, and the trip is effortless and uncomplicated. We may wish our lives went as easily, and sometimes they do. When that happens, we can relax and just go with the flow. But life is fickle and nothing stays the same forever. Before we know it, something goes wrong, and there is opposition blocking our way. Opposition is a normal feature of every day life. There are endless ideas and attitudes, and countless people coming in and out of our focus all the time. Everyone has a different slant on how they think everything should proceed, and when their opinions conflict with our own, even if we’re headed in the same direction, there may be push back. The paved roads we desire may be impossible to find. If we’re determined to do things our way, and refuse to consider any other interpretation, we my face a very difficult and stressful situation. It’s good to be confident, and we can live our lives any way we choose, but when others are involved, it can get messy if everyone doesn’t agree. There are many roads to every destination and even if our ideas are excellent, it doesn’t mean they are the only ones worth considering. If we are alone and don’t have to acknowledge anyone else in our decision, we can do anything we like. But if others are included, every idea will need to be explored. We are intelligent and can make excellent decisions. Including others in the choices we make going forward will help diffuse conflict. Opposition will always be there, but if we’re open to other interpretations and ideas, we’ll find the best way forward.

It’s very hard to collaborate with someone who only sees their own point of view. If we are limited to one road ahead and will not consider any other option it will be impossible to hear any other message. Tunnel vision limits us to only one solution, but there are always other options possible. If we only look one way, we may miss many other options that may bring success more easily and effectively. Looking around and letting new ideas enter the picture will enable us to more easily find the best way forward, and reach our goal.

When we have a good idea and others are involved, we can explain our plans and hope for agreement. There will times when everyone will be on the same page, but other times there may be objections. We can listen to any challenges or doubts, address them and together determine our next steps. Opposition need never stop us from progressing. We can listen and find common ground with those around us, and work together to reach the goal.

Today if you’re getting push back on an idea you want to pursue, listen to the opposing viewpoint and evaluate all your options. There will always be a possible compromise that will enable you to move forward. You are smart and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Be open to new ideas, and use them to find the best road ahead. Every success is possible and nothing will keep you from winning.