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Loosening the Grip

21 Jun

Life is filled with options and every day we make dozens of decisions. Some of them are inconsequential and it doesn’t matter what we choose, but others may have far-reaching impact on our lives. Getting into debt, continuing a dysfunctional relationship, committing to more than we can accomplish, and other choices, may bring great stress and difficulty. It’s easy not to pay attention and make spur of the moment decisions, but every choice we make will take us somewhere and if the destination isn’t someplace we want to go, we may experience tribulation and discomfort. We’re always in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can be aware of every choice and try to make excellent decisions, or we can fly by the seat of our pants and let the chips fall where they may. It’s all up to us. If we choose poorly and complicate our lives, we can try to blame others and their influence, our inability to see clearly, our inexperience, or anything else. But in the end, we own every choice we make. Thankfully, nothing in life is permanent and we can always modify our situation and the road ahead. It’s always possible to loosen the grip of any difficult situation and start again. There will always be an alternative available to us. It may take time to correct our position, and it may take work, but we have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every possibility is there for us and we can choose wisely and accomplish any task we choose. We deserve fulfilling and happy lives. We can make good, strong decisions, correct our course when needed, and step forward with confidence and clarity.

There are many influences from others that press on us every day. There are endless opinions about how we should live our lives, and if we aren’t sure about which way to turn, we may do as they suggest in an effort to find our way. We know ourselves better than anyone else and can make excellent decisions about what’s best for us. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to make good choices moving forward, and can find our way to any goal we desire.

Sometimes there may be pressure to follow along with those around us. It’s fun to join in with the group when they’re doing things we want to pursue, but if we have other ideas about where we want to go, we can forge our own personal path forward. Even if everyone is going one way, we can choose another. Our lives belong solely to us and we can do anything we want or go anywhere we want to go. The road ahead is determined by our decisions, and when we’re true to ourselves, all our dreams can come true.

Today if you’re in a bind because of decisions you’ve made, decide how you want to proceed. You have everything you need to get the life you want. Every challenge can be overcome and there are solutions and answers to every issue. Be confident and make a plan to move forward. Every dream is possible, and you can make them all yours.

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Middle Road

1 May

No two people are exactly alike. We may have friends who share similar interests and agree with us on lots of things, but we’re all unique in many ways and there will always be differences. Sometimes those differences are insignificant and we can overlook them, but other times they may be extreme and difficult to ignore. If we’re diametrically opposed to someone else’s idea or opinion, it may cause disagreements and conflict as we try to interact with them. Some people are intensely convinced their viewpoints are the best and don’t like being questioned. They’re committed to their opinions and don’t respond well when others disagree. They prefer unwavering loyalty and want others to follow along. It may be easier to remain quiet when we disagree with those who have strong opinions, but our ideas are just as important as anyone else’s. We never have to go along to get along, and can certainly express our own thoughts at any time. We can be polite and gracious to the opposing viewpoint, and still hold fast to our own beliefs. There is always a possible compromise no matter how far apart our ideas may be. If we’re willing to bend a little, and meet in the middle, we can allow everyone to have a voice, even if our views are completely different. We all want to be heard, and deserve to have our ideas honored and respected. We can listen to other interpretations, even if we don’t agree, and find a way to work together. There is no one, perfect way to live and every road offers something of value. We can be open to new ways of thinking, and share the journey with those who are different. Life is all about learning and with each experience we gain something of value to carry forward.

When we’re sure of ourselves and believe our ideas are best, it may be hard to comprehend how anyone could disagree. Although we’re happy on the path we’ve chosen, that doesn’t mean there aren’t other roads that will take us to success. We can listen to other ideas and find a compromise that allows everyone to participate. By turning a little to the left or right, we can work together to reach any destination.

If we’re convinced there is only one way forward, we may demand that others comply with our wishes. Digging in our heels and refusing to budge will never move us forward. It’s impossible to advance when we’re standing still arguing over how to proceed. Few people will be convinced to follow along if they are forced to agree. It’s far better to use our positive influence to express our views and then listen to other opinions. The best answers are always available and by being open to hearing all options possible, we will find them.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, express your opinion to those around you and ask for their input. Be open to other ideas and listen carefully. All options are possible and hearing every opinion will open new doors. Find answers that include everyone and move forward with confidence. You are incredible and capable. Nothing is beyond your reach. Every destination is possible and together, you will reach it.

The Beach

30 Apr

Everyone wants an easy life where things go right and we’re not in pain or inconvenienced. It would be great if we didn’t have to deal with problems and complications, and could just move forward exactly the way we want going exactly where we want to go. Nobody really wants to face a tangled mess holding us in place, or figure out how to get through a convoluted, complex and painful situation. But we’ll all face them from time to time, and what we do in those moments will often determine what comes next. If we ignore the situation, and just look the other way, it will remain until we address it. Or it may worsen, at which point we may wish we had done something sooner. There will be times when our lives will go just the way we want them to, and everything will be easy, but those times are fleeting. Life has lessons for us to learn and every problem we solve teaches us something new about ourselves and the world around us. We gain new skills that help us moving forward, and become more confident every time we overcome adversity. We become stronger, more capable, and wiser with each experience. The successes bring us increased fortitude, and the failures help us become more teachable and humble. Everything we go through has a blessing to offer and there is something good we can take away from each experience. Even in our darkest hours, there is light to be found. Learning as much as we can as we move forward will help us find our way, and ensure success. We are strong and capable, and nothing is powerful enough to hold us down. Every success is possible and with determination we can make all our dreams come true.

Vacations are wonderful and we all need and deserve them. It’s a wonderful thing to lean back in a lounge chair and tarry on a beach with nothing to do. When we step away from our responsibilities and take a break, we find refreshment and renewal, and gain the strength we need to continue forward. There is much we want to accomplish and we can return to our lives rested and ready, and push ahead toward success. Everything is possible and we are intelligent and competent enough to achieve anything we desire.

When we’re going through very difficult and complicated issues, when it seems the trouble is endless and we’re struggling to find our way through, it may feel like we’ll never win. There is just too much stress, too much conflict, and too much to worry about. But if we stand firm and take everything apart one step at a time, we’ll find the answers we need and resolve the issue. There isn’t anything too hard or complex for us to figure out. We can be confident we’ll prevail and push forward until we reach success.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with an issue that is consuming your life and feel like there is no way out, remember how strong and powerful you are. You’ve resolved many difficult issues already and have everything you need to succeed. Nothing is beyond your reach. Be confident and walk forward. Success is just ahead and you will reach it.

Deadlock

22 Feb

Everyone has their own opinions and ideas about how things should go. We’re all entitled to our viewpoints and can live our lives any way we choose, but if we must cooperate with others and we disagree, we may get stuck. If agreement is necessary before we can move forward and we can’t find common ground, we will remain in place until something changes. It’s not always easy to find compromise when we are diametrically opposed to the other party’s viewpoint. If we’re on opposing ends of the spectrum, it can be difficult to form an alliance in an effort to move forward. Everyone’s opinion is important, even if we disagree. If we want cooperation, all voices must be heard. We’re all unique and our perceptions are specific to each of us. We can do anything we like individually, but if we’re part of a group, we may need to bend in order to find agreement. There will be few moments when everything goes our way and we get everything we want. Other viewpoints may seem intolerable at first, but by listening carefully and patiently we can find common ground on which to agree. Each side can hold onto what’s most important and relinquish areas of contention in order to move ahead. If we want success, we must learn to compromise effectively. A deadlock situation will hold us in place and keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and have the wisdom we need to find the best arrangement where everyone feels heard and the impasse ends. We can reach any goal we desire by being open to suggestion and allowing others to engage and participate.

If we believe in something strongly and someone questions that belief, we may feel personally assaulted. Our defenses may rise and we may go on the offensive regarding our position. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and ideas, and it doesn’t matter if others disagree with us. We can listen to opposing viewpoints without being threatened, and if we choose, can modify our stand. But our lives are ours to design and we can make our own choices even if they are in opposition to those around us.

When there are disagreements, it’s up to us how we respond. We can get angry and try to muscle the conversation in our direction. Trying to make others adopt our choice with force rarely works. Instead, if we respond patiently and politely, we may open the conversation effectively and allow everyone to express their own opinions. Respectful discussion can open the door to compromise and help us move closer to our goals. We are smart enough to know how to proceed and with confidence and understanding will reach any destination we desire.

Today if someone else’s ideas are keeping you from moving forward, be receptive to their point of view and express your own ideas confidently and patiently. Find a compromise that lets you step ahead and allows them to hold onto what they need. You are amazing and wise, and will find every answer you need. There isn’t anything that can hold you back from the goals you desire. Speak up and step forward, and you’ll reach success.

Snakes

8 Feb

There are all kinds of people in the world. Many are good, honest individuals who are helpful and kind, but there are some who are differently inclined. They may be hurtful and mean, and cause problems for those around them. When someone who is disruptive and hateful enters our lives, we may feel like we’ve fallen into a den of snakes, unable to escape. As we struggle through the conflict, we may try to avoid them as much as possible. We can’t control what anyone else does and if someone is determined to wreak havoc on us, we may not be able to stop them, and have no choice but to deal with it as it happens. They may say nasty things about us, make up stories that demean or disparage us, or try to alienate our friends and family. It’s upsetting to go through and even if we try to extricate ourselves from their focus, until they are ready to let us go, we may suffer. There is no way to know their motivations for causing others pain. Some people are unhappy and angry, and because misery loves company, instead of facing their problems and finding solutions to move forward, they may exercise their control by making those around them miserable. It’s a very uncomfortable situation to be in. We’re all accountable for the choices we make. Although we can’t stop anyone from hurting us, we can choose well ourselves. We can set the bar high by focusing on what is good and right, and continuing forward with honesty and integrity. Truth always rises and whatever negative things are said about us, or what is done to us, it will be offset by the excellent example we set.

When someone is hateful, it’s tempting to return back to them the same treatment. Fair is fair, right? Unfortunately, bowing down to their level to get back at them only proves we can be as low as they are. It’s easy to do and say nasty things, and it’s easy to be vengeful and mean. But choosing the better path and staying true to our high personal standards expresses our authenticity and gives us power. We can continue forward with confidence that truth will prevail and we will overcome.

It’s hard to fight a liar. If we try to expose their deception, they will simply lie again. One lie leads to another and we may be swept away as they create their own reality. We can remain still and stand strong despite the whirlwind of fiction surrounding us. We don’t need to defend ourselves when truth is on our side. We can be polite and firm, and confident and resilient, as we navigate our way through. Nothing can keep us from the values we set for ourselves, and we can be sure when we choose the right, in the end we will prevail.

Today if you’ve gotten tangled up with someone who is determined to undermine you through dishonesty and bad behavior, remember who you are. You have enough power to stand firm even in conflict. Hold fast to your excellent standards and set the bar high. Your virtue will overcome any falsehood or treachery. You are amazing and valiant, and nothing can hold you down.

Never Ending

1 Feb

We have a lot of good experiences in life and sometimes things go exactly the way we want them to and we feel happy and content.  But pain is a normal part of our lives and we’ll all go through difficult passages from time to time.  When we’re hurting and feel overcome, it can be hard to see any light ahead.  Intense, painful events can knock us down and we may feel the impact of the disappointment for a long time.  If we suddenly lose a job we value, a trusted friend betrays us or a lover leaves, or we experience the death of someone close, we may be left bereft and devastated.  It takes time to recover from very difficult situations.  We may try to put it behind us and each day the pain recedes a little, but it may take longer to feel strong again than we imagine.  Deep, invasive disappointments affect how we feel about ourselves and how we see the world around us.  While we suffer, we may lose faith in the future, doubt that we are lovable, or think the whole world has turned against us.  It can be a lot to overcome.  They say time heals all wounds, and that’s true but it might take more time than we thought.  It may seem the pain is never ending but each day we step a little further down the road, and heal a little more.  It doesn’t matter how long it takes us to feel whole again.  The important thing is to keep moving forward.  In time, however long that takes, we’ll feel confident and complete again.  We can trust ourselves to find our footing.  Life will give us many opportunities to learn and grow, and even if it hurts, each lesson gives us something valuable to carry forward.  We can face anything that comes.  We are strong and capable, and nothing can hold us down.

It’s fun and exciting to eat something really delicious and we may enjoy trying new foods from different places.  What if something happened and suddenly our taste buds no longer worked?  If everything we ate was tasteless and bland the whole experience would be altered.  When we’re in pain, it can feel like life has lost its flavor and nothing is appealing any longer.  Colors may seem dull, and we may feel numb and invisible.  When pain takes over it’s hard to feel anything else but nothing lasts forever and eventually we will heal and everything we’ve lost will return.

When the road has been long and challenging, and we’re tired and feel overcome, it can be hard to take another step.  We may believe we can’t move anymore and think about giving up and giving in.  Life can be difficult and when we’re in pain it can be hard to feel hope.  We can give up, but we are stronger than we realize, and nothing is powerful enough to stop us.  There is nothing capable of holding us down if we are determined to stand.  Pain hurts and we will suffer, but no night lasts forever.  The sun always rises and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to find your way, trust yourself.  You have overcome many difficulties already and you can conquer anything.  Step forward and have faith.  Every blessing is possible and nothing will keep you from success.  The road to happiness is already there for you.  Stand strong and look ahead.

Making the Choice

16 Jan

Lots of things happen to us as we navigate through our lives. Sometimes everything goes well and we feel settled and secure, but other times we may be beset with trouble and anxiety. Life is all about change and we can be assured that no matter what we’re experiencing now will not remain forever. Every day brings something new, and good or bad, how we get through it is up to us. Nobody has a charmed existence filled with butterflies and sunshine. We all suffer from time to time and go through difficult passages that test us and push us to our limits. Every situation brings its own pack of issues but we can decide no matter what comes to be strong and find peace even in trial. We can’t control what goes on outside of us but we’re always in control of what we do and how we manage each event. We can choose to be confident when things go wrong and stand strong no matter what comes. We can trust the answers we need will arise when we’re ready for them and believe we’ll prevail in every situation. There really isn’t anything too powerful or overwhelming for us to handle. We are braver and more capable than we may realize. Trials and trouble will come and we may feel unsure at first but we have everything we need already inside us to find our way forward. Winds may blow against us and storms may rage for a time but nothing lasts forever, and if we trust ourselves and rely on our intuition and personal wisdom, we will prevail. Each time we overcome adversity we gain more insight and knowledge about ourselves and the world around us. Those gifts go forward with us and help us become the people we most want to be.

Everyone likes to complain when things go wrong. We can bemoan our situation for as long as we like and tell those around us how unfair life is and how oppressed we feel. There’s nothing wrong with venting our personal feelings and we may feel better after getting it all out in the open. But complaining doesn’t solve anything and won’t move us ahead of the issue. Instead of talking about the problem, we can begin doing what is needed to solve it and let it go. When we do, we can move forward and continue on our journey toward success.

Every day we choose what we’ll do and where we’ll go. Those around us and the situations we’re in may influence the decisions we make, but in the end the responsibility for each choice is ours. If we aren’t happy it’s up to us to change things until we’re in a better place. We own our lives and every decision we make takes us somewhere. We can plan our steps forward to get to the destinations that bring us lasting happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’re unhappy with your current situation, remember you’re in control of your life. You deserve the best experiences possible and can do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most and take the first step toward achieving it. Be confident and choose well. You are powerful and strong. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Everything is possible and you can make your dreams come true.