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Holding It In

28 May

Everyone is different and we all have our own opinions about how things should go and what we should do. There are endless ideas about everything that happens and those differences bring great depth to our experience and help us understand the world. But differences can also cause conflict, especially if someone believes they have the right answers and refuses to listen to any other option. If we must work with them and have a different idea for moving forward, we may struggle to express our viewpoint. Conflict is a normal part of life and can be challenging. If we remain silent, things may be easier, but keeping our ideas to ourselves prevents others from hearing another option. We are important and our contributions are valuable. We can be confident in speaking up and offering new ideas and different methods to accomplish any goal. We are capable and intelligent, and offer a unique perspective that can augment and enrich the way ahead. Every idea has worth, and being open and sharing our impressions and thoughts will bring refreshment and a new point of view that may unlock new doors. There is no way to know what suggestion will turn the tide and pave the way ahead. If we keep our thoughts to ourselves, they will never have the chance to bring us success. We are more powerful and wise than we think we are, and nothing can hold us in place. We can openly contribute to every situation and fearlessly explain our point of view. There is great success ahead, and by sharing our ideas and thoughts with those around us, we will reach every destination we desire.

Some people are very confident, outspoken and strong willed. They know what they want, and don’t hesitate to tell others their opinions, and push their way to the front of the line. If we aren’t as confident and are interacting with them, we may feel intimidated by their behavior. If we have a different opinion about how to proceed, instead of sharing, we may hold our ideas in and keep them to ourselves. Nobody can read our minds and it’s impossible for anyone to know where we stand unless we tell them. Nobody has all the answers. We all have something to offer. By trusting ourselves and speaking up, we can contribute to everyone’s success.

There is always a risk when we share our own ideas that those around us won’t agree, and we’ll be left standing alone with no support. That may happen, but it doesn’t mean our ideas are worthless. It only means they are different than what is needed right now. It’s impossible to know what the future holds, and a proposed course that doesn’t work right now may be perfect for something coming up. There is no down side to offering and hearing alternate opinions and new suggestions. They open us up to original concepts and different roads ahead.

Today if you’ve been unsure about sharing your own ideas, speak up and let others know where you stand. You are amazing and capable, and every idea has value. Be confident and trust yourself. Share your thoughts about how to proceed, and let others know where you stand. The whole world is there for you, and nothing can keep you from your goals. Every success is possible, and you will prevail.

Not Real

13 May

Everyone has an idea of how they want their lives to go and what they want to do. There are endless opportunities and we can do anything we want. We know we’re in charge of our direction and what we accomplish, but life is complicated. We have commitments to jobs, to family, to associates and others, and although we’re in control of our lives, sometimes what we want to do takes a back seat to what we feel we must do. As we try to accomplish everything, we may ignore some unsettled issues from the past. Problems we haven’t solved and don’t want to face may pull on us, niggling us they are still there. We’re busy and it’s inconvenient to stop what we’re doing to take care of something from before. Instead, we might just push it behind us, shut the door on it, and hope it will disappear on its own, but that never happens. Truth is truth and will not be denied. Refusing to look at something and pretending it’s not real will never alter our reality. We carry every unresolved issue forward until we finally decide to turn around and face it. Dragging old problems behind us is exhausting and eats into our happiness. It doesn’t matter how difficult or painful the issue is, we have everything we need to see it openly and take care of it. There is always enough time to address any issue that’s holding us back, solve it, and move forward unencumbered. Our happiness is important and doing what is needed to ensure we make the most of it will help us achieve every goal we desire. When we’re ready we can move forward with confidence and clarity, and find great success.

It would be great if each day everything worked out and nobody got in our way. We could move ahead easily and without problems or delays. Unfortunately, life doesn’t usually work that way. Most of the time there will be things we don’t want to endure, issues we don’t want to face, and frustrations that hang us up. We can focus on all the problems and complications, but in the midst of each challenge there will be things going right. We can manage whatever is before us and focus on what we’re learning as we solve each issue. Our lives belong to us, and we can handle them with excellence and certainty.

Nobody wants to suffer but we don’t live in Nirvana, and suffering is part of the game. People may hurt us, our plans may fall apart, lovers may leave, and we may be left standing alone. If the pain is great, we might pretend the issue isn’t happening. We may convince ourselves if we don’t look at it, it isn’t real. Burying our heads in the sand will never help us move forward. What is real exists whether we want it or not. It’s best to accept whatever has happened, solve any issues we must, and take everything we’ve learned forward with us. We are intelligent and strong, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. Every dream is there for us, and we will succeed.

Today if you’re ignoring a painful issue that’s holding you in place, open all the doors and find the answers you need to move forward. You are amazing, and a blessing to us all. Be confident. You can do anything. Nothing can stop you from realizing your dreams.  Every success is there for you and you will prevail.

Static

9 Apr

There’s a lot going on all around us all the time. There are people going here and there, talking about endless subjects, continual decisions being made, and lots of activity. We live in a world with billions of others and each has their own viewpoints and objectives, and make an impact wherever they are. Like static on a radio, the background actions and noise are constant, humming along no matter where we are or what we’re doing. If we tune into everything that’s happening and try to hear every word, it’ll be impossible to keep our eyes focused on our own goals. We don’t have to know what everyone else is doing or thinking in order to get ahead, and living our lives as a reflection of others is unlikely to bring us happiness. We can reach out when we need to and still keep our eyes focused on our own lives. If we get distracted by what others are doing, we may lose our footing for a time. There will always be another story and another event to pull us away from where we’re headed. We can get involved in anything we like, but if we want satisfying and fulfilling lives, it’s important to remember what our own dreams and desires are, and work on accomplishing them. True happiness will be ours when we do the things that are most important to us and take us where we most want to go. There will always be noise and distractions, and situations will pull on us and take us off track. But we’re in complete control of our lives, and can redirect our focus to our own personal journey. Life is an incredible gift. Creating the lives we truly desire will bring us great contentment. We can do anything, and all our dreams are possible.

Some people think they have the answers for everyone around them. They may try to instruct us about how they think we should live our lives. We can certainly listen to any advice we receive, but we can make our own choices. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve any goal we desire. We don’t need anyone else’s agreement to do whatever we choose. Every option is possible and we have everything we need to reach any success we seek.

There are unlimited opinions for everything we can imagine. They may be interesting but they aren’t necessarily based on fact or even reality. They’re just ideas formed by personal experience and interpretation. Everyone is entitled to their own perceptions but we don’t have to share them. There will always be lots of different possibilities and roads to travel, and we can choose our own. We can make any decisions we want, and live our lives according to our own personal preferences and choices.

Today if you’re being pulled in different directions because of all the noise and activity around you, remember where you want to end up. You are in control of your life and can do anything you desire. Focus on what you want the most, and move forward toward the goal. You are intelligent and amazing, and nothing is out of reach. Every goal is possible, and you can have the life you want the most. Step forward with confidence. You can make all your dreams come true.

Silver Linings

31 Mar

Everything is fluid in life, and nothing is certain. When we want to accomplish something, we can do our research, make excellent plans, and chart a positive course ahead, but we can’t read the future. Although we have complete control over the choices we make, there is no way to know about all the other decisions being made by those around us. Someone completely unconnected to us, maybe even far away, may do something that causes the dominoes to fall in our direction and when they reach us, suddenly all our plans have to change. The road we chose may close and all the ideas we so carefully put together may no longer work. It’s disappointing, sometimes heartbreaking, when what we want isn’t possible. We may feel depressed for a time, and unable to think about starting again, but nothing stays the same forever. We can take time to grieve if we need it and then when we’re ready, we can look at all the options before us and choose our next steps. Hard times come to all of us, but with every experience there will be something of value to carry forward. Weathering the storm will make us stronger, and we’ll have more knowledge than we had before. There will be a silver lining if we look for it. Life is all about learning and everything we go through teaches us something new. Whatever we gain, even if it seems small now, will embellish us in ways we may not perceive. We are strong and capable, and we know what we want. If we can’t move ahead as planned, we have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find another way. If our situation isn’t workable, we can set our plans aside for a time, and when things change, return and start again. We have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we can have the lives we want the most.

Sometimes unexpected developments stop us in our tracks. The doors that were previously open and welcoming may close and force us to change direction. There is never only one road to any destination. If the goal is still possible, we can chart a new course and continue on. If circumstances prevent us from achieving it right now, we can move on to something else and wait until the opportunity to try again presents. We can do everything but we may not be able to do it all today. We can make plans for the future, and when things open again, we will be ready.

It’s very hard to stand still when we want to move. It’s challenging to wait but waiting gives us time to evaluate every possible option, and see every opening. We can look at everything clearly, review the benefits of each choice and make a plan for when things change. We are completely capable of finding our way to any goal we desire. If we have to wait, we can. We know what we want, and in time, we will achieve it.

Today if you’re frustrated with a situation that’s holding you in place, think about how you want to move ahead. Make a plan for the future, and prepare for when things change. The door may be closed now, but it will open, and when it does you will be ready. Everything you desire is still there for you. Be patient and stay focused. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success.

Heavy Load

26 Mar

The things we must face change every day. There can be unexpected developments that suddenly alter the road ahead, and make it necessary for us to change our plans. When things don’t work out the way we thought they would, or something serious goes wrong, there may suddenly be more to carry than we planned on. Problems arise, details get in the way, and complications creep in that make the way forward, if not impossible, certainly more difficult than we want. We already have responsibilities and things we must attend to, and when there’s a change in the road ahead, it may make getting them done more difficult. Let’s say there’s a huge field covered with rocks and it’s our job to pick them all up and move them. All we have is a big bag to carry them in and each rock we pick up and add makes the load heavier. After a while, the bag may become too heavy to carry and we have to drag it behind us, until in the end, we can’t move. When lots of things go wrong and we have to navigate through, it’s like picking up rocks along the way and trying to manage them all. If we can’t solve the problems as they arise, we add them to the bag, until we get to a point where we can’t handle any more. But we never have to carry a load that’s too heavy for us. We don’t have to solve everything right away. We can carefully evaluate what we can do, and if we can’t resolve an issue right now, instead of carrying it along with us, we can set it aside for later. When our situation clears, we can go back to the issues waiting for us and begin to unravel them, one at a time. We can decide what’s most important, and let the others things wait. With patience and wisdom, we will make the best decisions moving forward, and reach the goals we most desire.

Lots of people have lots of opinions about the way things should go. They may tell us we should be able to handle more than we’re managing, or that we need to solve every problem as soon as it appears. They are entitled to their opinions, and even if they are important to them, it doesn’t mean they must be important to us. We don’t need agreement or permission to set our own course. We have all the intelligence and inspiration we need to find the way forward, and reach any destination.

There may be times when we must deal with a lot of complicated, difficult pieces to a hard situation. When there’s a lot going on it can be challenging to find the answers we need. If we step away from the fray and take some time to see the situation objectively, our vision will clear and we will see the road ahead. We are completely capable of handling anything that comes to us. There isn’t anything that can hold us back indefinitely. We can trust ourselves to find all the answers we need, and manage every situation competently, and move forward toward success.

Today if you’re dealing with a lot of complex and difficult issues and you’re confused and concerned about finding your way, step back and look at the situation openly. All the answers you need are already there for you. Let your vision clear and the road ahead will arise. You are incredible and strong, and will always find your way. Nothing is out of reach, and you will succeed.

The Road

11 Mar

Everyday something new happens and we can’t see what’s coming next. There is no way to anticipate the unknown. All we can do is take one step at a time and face whatever presents itself as it arises. All roads have a destination and the road we’re on is going somewhere. If we’ve chosen the way ahead the destination may be clear and obvious. It’s easy to plan when we know the way forward and where it will lead. But life is uncertain and sometimes we get turned around and pointed in directions we never intended to go. People make decisions that affect us, things go wrong, unexpected events derail our plans, and endless other possibilities can knock us off course. If we’ve been pushed onto a path we didn’t choose, we may be uncertain about what will happen and unsure where we’ll end up. Foreign roads can be unsettling. When the terrain is unknown, and we can’t see ahead, it’s hard to know what to do. If we’re facing something we’ve never been through before and there is trouble and complications, we may feel lost and untethered as we try to find our footing. Stepping into the unknown isn’t easy, but we can trust ourselves and remember how strong and capable we are. We may feel lost for a moment, but we will find our way. The road may be unclear and murky ahead, but with each step we will see a little more. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to find our way through anything. Nothing is strong enough or confusing enough to hold us in place indefinitely. We’ll find the way forward, and in time, reach success.

There is no way to know everything ahead of time. Even when we plan carefully and chart our course with clarity and wisdom, things may go awry. There will always be many unknowns in every scenario. When the road turns unexpectedly, we may face problems that tangle up our plans and stop us in place. We can take the time standing still to look at all the options ahead and find the opening we need to continue forward. Things may go wrong, trouble may come, and everything may go up in smoke, but we are intelligent and wise, and will find our way through.

Sometimes things happen that completely derail our plans for the future. Everything we wanted to accomplish may suddenly be impossible, and all our ideas will no longer work. When that happens, we can sit down in frustration and refuse to move, or we can review every available option and find a new way to move forward. If we want to continue ahead, nothing will ever be powerful enough to stop us. Every dream is still there for us, and when we’re ready, we will make them ours.

Today if you’re on a road you don’t want to travel but can’t step away, be patient. Change is constant and soon you’ll be able to chart your own course. You are smart enough to manage any complication and find your way forward. Every dream is possible and with clarity and wisdom, you will gain the life you want the most. You are powerful and intelligent. Step forward with confidence. Nothing can keep you from success, and you will prevail.

Not Me

7 Feb

Nobody is perfect and although we try to always make good decisions and choose well, sometimes we’re going to make mistakes. It’s the normal course of life. We might decide to do something that seems good at the beginning but turns into a complete mess, screwing up our lives and anyone else involved. It happens to everyone and nobody is exempt. We’re going to go the wrong way from time to time, and what we do after that will determine what happens next. When the bottom falls out and we’re left holding the bag, we can try to deflect the blame onto someone else. We could say it wasn’t us, we weren’t involved, nobody told us about it, and a million other excuses that won’t change anything. Pushing the blame for something we’ve done onto someone else will never help, and will reflect badly on us going forward. Many times, everyone already knows who was involved when things go wrong. Pretending to be invisible or making sure we’re somewhere else when it all hits the fan won’t fix anything. We’re accountable for everything we do and every decision we make. Hiding, deflecting, pretending or trying to dodge our involvement will only delay the inevitable. It’s far better, no matter how bad things are, to stand tall and admit our involvement. It’s only a mistake, not the end of the world. Nothing is permanent and no matter what’s happened there will be a way to correct our course. We are intelligent and can find the way forward no matter how convoluted the situation may seem. With confidence and courage, we can address any misstep and make whatever changes are needed to point us in the right direction. Every destination is possible and we will find the way ahead.

It’s impossible to know everything about everything. When we’re making decisions, there may be something we can’t see or some fact we don’t know about. We can only use the information available to us at any time, and if we discover later there is more to the story that affects the way forward negatively, we can modify our plans. If we’re flexible and open, we can still find our way to the goal despite any complications. Life is filled with possibilities and there will always be another way ahead. With focus and planning, we can reach any destination we desire.

There may be times when we might be blamed for something we didn’t do. It’s difficult to feel the scorn of others for something we’re not responsible for and we may certainly stand up for ourselves and protest our innocence. If doubt still remains, we can continue forward making the best choices possible, and in time, truth will prevail. We can make excellent decisions that show the world who we are, and that take us where we want to go and help us achieve our most valued goals. We are strong and powerful, and we will prevail.

Today if things have gone wrong from a decision you’ve made, own your part and do what is needed to correct the situation. Mistakes happen and you can change direction. Look at everything openly and decide on the best course of action. You are wise and intelligent, and all the answers are there for you. Trust yourself. You will prevail.