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Long Way Around

22 Jan

Everyone has their own plans for moving forward, and their own ideas about how things should go. If we have control over a situation, we can make all the decisions necessary to ensure it goes our way. It’s great when we can drive the train and choose the destination, but that won’t always be the case. We share the world with a lot of other people and it’s unlikely any of them will see everything exactly as we do. There will probably be times when although we’re sure we know exactly what needs to happen and how we should proceed, we have no control and must do what someone else has decided. It’s frustrating when our input is minimized, and we’re expected to follow a plan we don’t agree with. All our goals are possible, but there may be periods when we’ll have to take the long way around to reach them. Stepping further and further away from the road we want to travel is maddening. We may find it hard to interact with those making decisions that are diametrically opposed to our plans, but we have the patience and wisdom needed to manage whatever we must. Our viewpoints are valuable, and we can express them calmly and graciously. It’s important to hear all options possible and by voicing our personal opinions, we may open new doors that will take us closer to where we want to be. Some may listen to what we have to say, or they may disregard us, but speaking up allows us to at least be heard. If we can’t change the situation, we can manage it for now. Nothing stays the same forever, and in time, we’ll be able to adjust our course and get back to the roads we want to travel. By trusting ourselves, and watching for the opening we need, we can make every dream reality and reach all the destinations we desire.

Some people are very powerful and influential. They may make demands and requests we don’t understand or agree with, but if they have authority over us, we may have to acquiesce. We can do what is necessary to go along for now, but change is constant, and there will come a time when we have the chance to move on to something else. By keeping our options open and watching carefully, we will find opportunities to change course and move closer to the path we prefer.

There is no way to control our lives to prevent difficulties or hardship from coming our way. Life is full of unexpected complications and when they arise, we’ll have to deal with them. They may cause us serious discomfort and take us off track while we manage them, but they won’t last indefinitely. We know what we want, and even if we must take the long way around to get it, we can still succeed. Every opportunity is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will prevail.

Today if you must step away from your plans to do something you don’t want to do, keep your eyes focused ahead. Detours don’t mean your journey is ending. You know what you want, and nothing can keep you from your goals. Be patient and wise, and the doors ahead will open. You will reach every destination you desire and find great success. There is great happiness ahead, and you will achieve it.

Being Heard

7 Jan

When we think of people in groups, and assign them to a category, it’s easy to forget that the group or category designation isn’t who they are. Each person is an individual with something to offer, and each is valuable. We all deserve to be heard and treated with respect. If we are ignored, criticized because we are different, and disregarded, we may endure it for a time, but eventually the need to be heard may push us to a breaking point. We may shout to make others listen, or storm the castle to make our leaders remember we are there. Everyone has a tipping point. Treating those who are different with distain, calling them names, disparaging their opinions, or saying they don’t matter, is a recipe for eventual disaster. Nobody is better than anyone else. There is not one perfect way to live life. We are not all the same, and will never agree on everything, but each of us is precious and unique, and brings something of value to the world. Our differences are sometimes difficult to understand but that does not mean we cannot co-exist respectfully and peacefully. We are responsible for what happens after we use vindictive and hateful speech about those with whom we disagree. Every decision has a result and everything we do defines who we are. No idea or ideology is worth the destruction of others. We are all connected more than we realize. By thinking before we act and understanding and accepting differences, we can make the world better and bring peace. We are more powerful than we think we are and can make excellent decisions. By choosing wisely, and being open to every idea, our lives will be enhanced, and we will find greater satisfaction and happiness.

Some people are very sure of themselves and believe their ideas are the only ones worth having. They are confident they have all the answers and if someone disagrees, may strongly criticize them and do whatever they can to make them comply. We are in control of our own lives and may live them any way we like. We don’t have to follow anyone else’s ideas or obey. Our differences are what bring interest and depth to the world. Honoring everyone’s ideas and allowing free expression without judgment enriches our experiences and opens our minds to other possibilities.

We all have the right to choose anything we like, but we don’t have control over anyone else. We will never have all the answers or inspiration over anyone else’s life. It’s good to be confident in our decisions but that doesn’t make us ruler over the decisions of others. Everyone is valuable and worthwhile and has something to offer. By respecting the rights of others to make their own choices and honoring the gifts they offer, we bring light to everyone around us, and richness to the world.

Today if you’ve been critical of those who are different, and want them to comply with your beliefs, remember every idea has value. We all have personal inspiration unique to each of us. Listen to others and be open to new ideas. You are a great gift to the world and have so much to offer. Be confident and be wise, and the road ahead will open and take you to success.

Anchored

18 Dec

Nothing in life is permanent and change is constant. Every day something new comes along, all the plans we’ve made may shift, and we may suddenly be facing an entirely new landscape. The winds of change are unpredictable and may arise unexpectedly. We never know what will happen next, and although we may try to be prepared for unforeseen surprises, we might be taken aback when they arrive. It’s easy to move forward when the road ahead is paved and clear, is well known and well-traveled. We may set out sure of success, and everything may go exactly as planned. Or everything may turn upside down. There is no way to predict the future. All we can do is cope with whatever happens the best we can, and alter our plans and direction in ways that enable us to continue. When we’re going through tumultuous times and everything is unsure, we are never completely adrift in the wind. We have internal anchors that help us stay focused and remind us of our capacity for success. These anchors are created and enriched with each accomplishment we achieve. We are never so far out of our comfort zone that we can’t find our way. There will never be a time when we are so untethered and adrift that we will permanently fail. All the answers we need, even in uncertain times, are already there for us, and the wisdom and knowledge we’ve attained so far will guide us to them. By trusting ourselves and remembering everything we’ve overcome so far, we can summon the courage we need to face anything. Our anchors will always be there to hold us firmly and securely. Hard times will come, things will go wrong, the road may disappear, but we will prevail. Every success is there for us, and with determination and calm, we will reach them all.

When our lives are going well and things are working out the way we want them to, we may feel at ease and relaxed. Enjoying conflict free moments gives us time to rest and consider our options for the future, so that when things change, and clouds appear, we will be confident in moving forward. We are stronger and more powerful than we realize, and nothing can keep us from our goals. Every dream we desire is possible and we have everything we need to make them ours.

Some people think life is like a scorecard. They believe that trouble happens because of something we did wrong. It’s likely we’ll all make mistakes along the way, but problems may arise we have no control over regardless of what we do. We can do everything right and still the road may turn because of circumstances beyond our reach. Problems will come but they cannot hold us in place. We will find the way ahead, and reach the destinations we desire.

Today if you feel like you’re in a whirlwind of trouble and can’t find your footing, stop and remember all the times you’ve succeeded already. You are intelligent and capable, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Trust yourself and step forward with confidence. You will find every answer. All your dreams are still there for you. Step forward and claim them.

Stirring It

16 Nov

We make continual decisions as we go through our lives. Each choice has a result and if we’re careful and take our time, chances are the results we get will be the ones we hope for. But we are complex beings and there is sometimes more involved than just making a good decision. If what we’re doing will affect those around us, they will play a part in the choices we make. Maybe they hurt us in the past, and we carry bitter feelings that affect which way we’ll go. If there is a way to get what we want and hurt them back in the process, we might opt for that even if it’s not exactly the best choice to make. There is always the possibility of stirring up trouble if we want to. We might think it’s fair – you hurt me, I hurt you – evens the score. Well maybe. But evening the score rarely brings lasting satisfaction and might cause more trouble for us moving forward. Life is complicated enough without trying to tangle it up further by purposely hurting someone else. Nobody gets a free pass, and we’re all going to get hurt at some point. What we do with that is up to us. We can seek revenge, and determine to get it no matter what. We could let it eat away at us and consume our thoughts. Or we can get through it more wisely by learning all we can from what’s happened, and using that knowledge to help propel us forward in the future. One thing is certain – the anger and resentment we hold will only hurt us. It will have no affect on those who caused it. We don’t need to be hurt any more than what we’ve already experienced. By holding onto everything we’ve learned, we can let go of any bad feelings and step forward confident we’ll reach success. Nobody is strong enough to stop us from reaching our goals. They may stand in our way, but there are other roads we can travel. We are powerful and wise, and will prevail.

Our lives are ours to design. We can reach any goal or destination we choose. It doesn’t matter if others disagree with us or try to stop us in our tracks. We are intelligent and will find the way forward. Some people are threatened by the success of others, and if we’re winning, may try to prevent us from advancing. They may well delay our progress, but nothing stays the same forever, and in time, we’ll be able to navigate around them. Every dream is there for us, and we can do anything with patience and determination.

Some people love to stir up conflict. They enjoy seeing people confused and frustrated. If we must interact with them, we may become the subject of their difficult intervention. They may do things to hurt us or make our progress forward harder than it needs to be. We can’t make anyone else behave appropriately, but we can control everything we do. They may goad us and tease us, but we never have to take the bait. We can be confident and make excellent choices to be true to who we are and where we want to go.

Today if you’re dealing with someone who is trying to pull you away from your goals, keep your focus on what you want the most. You are stronger and more powerful than you think you are. Be confident. All your dreams are possible, and they will be yours.

Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.