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Grudge Match

5 Jul

Conflict is a normal part of life. We may not like it and we may try to avoid it but we’re all individuals and differences will happen. We don’t have to agree with everyone and everything and there will be times when we won’t comply with what someone else wants. When there is tension and disagreement we may blame the other party for not agreeing with us and making things difficult. We may understand that we’re all entitled to our own opinions but when push comes to shove, despite that understanding, we may press to get our own way. If we can’t prevail we may hold a grudge against the other party and allow it to color our interactions with them going forward. Grudges have no power over anyone but the person carrying them. If we’re angry we may hold tight to them and they may keep us down and prevent us from moving forward. They can be crippling and will never solve any problems or help us find answers. It can be hard to let go of disappointment. We can blame everyone and everything for what goes wrong but that will change nothing. If we want our situation to improve we must let go and actively step forward. Our lives are always in our control and we can manage anything effectively to move ahead. We can accept differences and with patience and grace find the way forward through any conflict. Life is filled with challenges and we are certainly smart enough and wise enough to manage them. Every success is possible, even in disagreement, and we can find all the answers we need.

Some people like to argue and enjoy the intensity and dynamic of heated discussions. When we interact with them it may be difficult to find answers as they question every statement we make. It can be hard to get our point across if they dissect everything we say and oppose every suggestion. We don’t have to defend our position and we don’t need complete agreement in order to move forward. There are always possible compromises and adjustments to any plan. If we are open and flexible we will find the answers to address every concern and reach understanding.

There will be times when we won’t get our way and things will turn in a direction we don’t want. We may feel like we’ve lost the battle and carry anger away from the situation. Life is sometimes an uphill battle and sometimes we’re going to lose but that doesn’t mean we aren’t important and valuable. We can be open to new ideas and accept change when we must in order to keep moving ahead toward the goals we want the most. We can do anything even when things go wrong. We are strong and capable and with patience and determination we will find success.

Today if you’re struggling with a decision and unhappy about what’s happened, let go of any anger and look at your options going forward. Disappointments are just turns in the road. You can still get to your goals and succeed. Change direction and re-chart your course. Every destination is possible and you are strong enough and wise enough to get there.

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Crucible

22 Jun

Each of us faces many challenges as we go through our lives.  We learn to overcome difficulty with practice and gain strength by pushing hard against trials that test and define us.  We may experience a severe complication that makes us question our ability to overcome and knocks us completely down.  We may lose everything we thought was real and have to face a brand new reality – one we may never have planned on and don’t want.  When everything blows up and we’re standing bereft and shaken it may seem impossible that anything will ever be right again.  The crucible is upon us and we must face it alone.  We will each face a moment when everything changes and our lives hang in the balance.  What we do from that moment forward will define the life we have.  If we allow the situation to utterly crush us and give up, surrendering to the pain and refusing to get up again, our lives will in essence stop at the moment of impact.  Nothing will change and we’ll be stuck in sorrow and pain forever.  But if we are determined to continue ahead we can pull from deep inside and garner all the strength and wisdom we possess.  Trouble will come and at some point we may be overwhelmed.  We can give up and lie down or we can stand strong against the wind and push forward despite the struggle.  Our lives are always in our control.  Even against terrific odds and intense distress, success is possible.  We always have everything we need to keep going no matter what has happened.  We can trust in ourselves to correct our course and find the way forward.

Sometimes the very thing we think we could never endure happens to us and suddenly we are faced with our worst nightmare.  There is never any way to turn back the clock to prevent a disaster or prepare for its arrival.  We have to take things as they come and when bad things happen it may be extremely difficult to keep going.  We may be stunned and shocked, unable to move or even think as we try to figure out what to do.  There is no way to control most of what happens in our lives but we have what we need to get through whatever comes and find our way again.  We are strong and possess everything necessary to solve any situation and continue forward.

We may face something so encompassing it changes our circumstances from that point forward.  What was possible before is no longer an option and we must recreate the road ahead.  When everything around us changes and nothing is familiar we may lose our confidence not sure of what’s happening or where to go.  If we step back and look at everything objectively and see the entire situation openly we will find the answers we need to begin again.  Starting over brings new blessings and lessons that help us in the journey ahead.  We can do anything.  We are powerful and capable and nothing, nothing can hold us down.

Today if you’re facing a serious trial and have no idea what to do, remember all the times you’ve faced trouble before and prevailed.  You are mighty and powerful and nothing is too strong for you to overcome.  Be courageous and confident.  You have everything you need to find your way.  Success is there for you and you will reach it.

All Kinds

6 Jun

We interact with all kinds of people throughout our lives.  Some of them will become trusted friends and companions, some will only be passing acquaintances and some will be difficult to deal with.  Everyone makes their own decisions and lives according to their own ideas.  Most people are nice and try to get along with those around them, but some people are cruel and mean, and don’t care who they hurt or damage as they storm through their days.  When they come into our arena we may find it difficult to manage what they throw our way and may negatively get caught up in their choices.  It’s hard to navigate through volatile behavior and nobody wants to become a target.  Trying to find our way through is like trying to walk unscathed through a minefield.  We never know what our next step will bring or which way to turn.  We don’t have to figure out why someone is mean or cruel but if we want to manage the situation effectively we will need to find a way forward that protects us as much as possible and still allows us to be heard.  No matter what others are doing around us we are in control of ourselves.  We can remain calm even if everyone else is upset and patiently look for solutions.  Our choices are ours to make and if we objectively see each situation we will find the best way forward.  We can control our own behavior and make excellent choices even in the midst of conflict.  We know what we want to do and by choosing well we will find success.

The fight or flight reflex is hard wired into us.  When someone threatens us we may instinctively feel the need to fight back or run for cover.  These reflexes protect us and warn us of impending danger, but in most circumstances of conflict our lives aren’t at risk.  We don’t have to run from trouble and we never have to fight to make our point.  We can manage a difficult situation by using reason and influence.  There are always many ways to solve any problem and with patience and careful consideration we will find them.

It takes two to fight and it’s impossible to fight with someone who is agreeable.  We can rant and rave to try and make a point but kindness will always end the fight.  Although we may not agree with someone who is being contentious and rude, we can politely state our position and allow them to answer us.  Being willing to listen instead of forcefully pushing our point often ends disagreements and paves the way to compromise and resolution.  We are strong and capable and understand how to get to the goals we desire.  There isn’t anything too complicated for us to figure out and with patience and grace we will find the way forward.

Today if someone is pushing you around and treating you badly, before you respond take a moment to decide what you want to accomplish.  All the answers you need to move ahead are there for you.  You can control your behavior and make your point succinctly and politely, and exhibit kindness even under duress.  Make the best choices going forward and listen to your opponent’s point of view.  You have all the wisdom and influence you need to win, and with patience and grace you will get there.

In Disguise

1 Jun

We experience a lot of different things as we go through our lives.  No matter how hard we try there is no way to control everything that comes to us.  Sometimes life is great, and other times the tide turns and we have to walk through difficulty and trial.  When things go wrong and we’re miserable trying to find our way through a complicated and challenging mess, it can be hard to see any benefit from what we’re enduring.  Sometimes there is just a crap storm and we may feel there’s nothing valuable in what we’re experiencing.  There may be moments when the situation is awful and nothing we can do changes it.  But there will undoubtedly also be other moments when we’re facing a big disappointment, and sure it’s the end of the world as we know it, when suddenly we see the turn has brought us a blessing we could never have predicted or expected.  We can’t read the future and a change in direction doesn’t always spell disaster.  Sometimes the turn takes us exactly where we want to go.  It’s hard to imagine a blessing when our lives are turned upside down, but when we see things from a new perspective we may find the road we’ve been seeking is already under our feet.  Life is filled with all kinds of contradictions and being willing to see everything openly will help us recognize blessings in disguise when they come.  Every success is possible but they don’t always come to us the way we plan.  Sometimes the unexpected challenge opens the door to our goal.  We can see every development as a possible window that shows us how to find our way forward.  Every destination is possible and with continued determination nothing is out of reach.

Few things come to us the moment we want them.  Most of the time we must wait for our plans to move forward or for things to fall into place so we can achieve the goal we’re seeking.  Learning to wait isn’t easy when we want something badly but patience allows us to be productive while we wait and helps us manage complications as we push ahead.  It would be wonderful if we could achieve our goals simply because we desire them but that isn’t reality.  Whatever is worth achieving is worth working for.  We can do what is needed to have the lives we desire and find success.

There is great potential in all of us but potential is only unrealized achievement.  Potential means nothing if we are unwilling to work for what we want.  We may be talented and capable but if we are lazy and do nothing to move forward we will not succeed.  Every blessing is possible and no goal is out of reach if we are willing to do what is needed to achieve it.  Waiting for our dreams to come true is like waiting for the sky to turn green.  It’s not going to happen.  We can take control of our lives, push through conflict, learn the skills we need, and create the lives we want.

Today if you’re in the midst of trouble and can’t see how anything is going to work out, be patient.  The road you’re on may lead you to the very goal you’re seeking.  You have everything you need to do anything you want.  All options are possible and no destination is too far.  Make a plan, stay the course, and reach for the stars.  They are there for you and all your dreams can come true.

Aspersions

16 May

People have all kinds of ideas about everything.  We’re all different and the way we see the world may be completely different than those around us.  We interpret what we see and hear through our own personal filters.  Different ideas may work against us at times if what we say or do is interpreted to mean something entirely different than what we intend.  Aspersions may be unjustly cast on our character due to incorrect interpretations and may cause us great discomfort as we try to figure out what happened.  If someone says something about us that has no basis in fact or reality but is merely based on their translation of something we did, we may find ourselves trying to untangle a mess we didn’t create.  The truth will always rise in time but in the interim we may be twisted around defending ourselves even if we’ve done nothing wrong.  The world is filled with all kinds of people and we have no control over what they think or do.  They may cause us considerable grief because they mistakenly believe something untoward about us.  If that happens, we will have to work through the situation until we find resolution.  It’s frustrating to feel persecuted unjustly and it may complicate our lives until we find the way through.  Truth is truth and will always rise.  No matter what has happened we will find the answers and correct any situation necessary.  We can stand firm and confident that our personal integrity and excellence will shine through.  We will find the answers and reach resolution.

No matter how nice and friendly we are, not everybody will always be our friend.  There may be times we meet someone who doesn’t like us or with whom we find it difficult to interact.  Perhaps their temperament is unpredictable, or they are angry or judgmental.  We have no control over what others do but we can control our response to anything they bring.  We can be gracious and kind in the face of anger, and polite and calm if things get out of control.  We are always in control of ourselves and can choose the best road regardless of what is happening around us.

Some people are dishonest and unethical.  If we have high personal standards it may be difficult to interact with them.  If we must work with them and they do things that are not in keeping with our values we may be very uncomfortable.  We don’t ever have to compromise what is important to us.  We can express our personal views and walk away from any situation that isn’t in keeping with them.  Our lives are ours and we may hold fast to what is important to us.  Opinions vary but our standards are ours to keep.  We can live true to the values we cherish and stay focused on what we want the most.

Today if someone has said something about you that isn’t true, remember your actions express who you really are.  Words mean nothing when they don’t represent what is real.  Continue to hold fast to the values you cherish and be the best person you can be.  Set an example of honesty and truth to the world around you.  You are amazing and nothing can diminish you.  Be confident and strong.  You know who you are and nothing will hold you back from achieving every goal you desire.

Leaving it Behind

30 Apr

We have all kinds of different relationships in our lives.  There are friends, colleagues, acquaintances, neighbors and many kinds of personal connections.  As we interact with them our experiences run the full gamut of emotion.  Sometimes we get along well and everything goes smoothly but there may be times when someone does something offensive or hurtful, and dealing with them is painful.  When we have a bad experience or someone acts in ways that destroy our trust or constantly negatively impact our lives we may step away from them.  We deserve to be happy and difficult relationships may bring us intense disharmony and conflict.  We are in control of our lives and never have to stay in any situation we don’t want.  The other party may want us close and press us to continue forward with them but we can make our own decisions.  We always have the power to move forward and can leave any negative relationship behind.  Our happiness is our responsibility.  We need not suffer indefinitely through a dysfunctional or destructive situation.  We can confidently choose a new road that moves us toward the goals we desire.  Our lives belong to us and we may design them any way we like.  There isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us in place.  We deserve the very best of everything and have sufficient courage and wisdom to achieve it.

Patterns and expectations can be powerful influences in our lives.  If we’ve been managing a difficult relationship for a while and want to change there may be pressure from others involved to keep things the same.  People like routines.  They help us understand what to expect and when we stick to them, even if they are destructive, we may feel secure simply because we know the situation well.  But routines are just patterns we design and we can change them when they don’t work.  We know what we want and can modify our direction at any time.  There is no reason to embrace unhappiness in an effort to keep the peace.  Our happiness is valuable and we can do whatever is needed to gain it.

Changing direction moves us away from where we are into the unknown.  It may be unsettling to choose a new road going forward but every road we travel is foreign at first.  We don’t know what the future will bring and we may be unsure about our steps as we move forward.  There are wonderful possibilities ahead and we are capable and strong enough to face any new situation with confidence.  We can look forward and discover every potential success.  The whole world is ours for the taking.  Every opportunity is available.  We can go anywhere and achieve any goal we desire.

Today if you’ve been struggling through a difficult situation and want a change, step away and start again.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold you in place.  Every possibility is available to you.  Turn your course onto the road you desire and move toward the goals you seek.  There is greatness in you and nothing is out of reach.  You can do anything and make all your dreams can come true.

Festering and Ready

13 Apr

When everything is going right in our lives the road ahead is easy to travel.  Things line up the way we want them to and there are fewer complications as we sail through without delay.  But things will inevitably go wrong and when they do may block our path.  If the situation is painful or complex, instead of addressing it, we might decide to set it aside, try to ignore it and find another road forward.  When we tuck something away that needs our attention we may be able to hold it down for a time but if it’s important it will fester while it waits and may grow in intensity.  Like a festering wound we may be able to hold the infection at bay for a time but eventually it will grow and cause enough pain to make us acknowledge it and take care of it.  When we have personal issues that cannot work themselves out on their own, if we want to move forward we will have to address them.  If we continue to ignore them, they will continue to grow and fester and reach a point where they interfere with our happiness.  We deserve to be happy and doing things that keep us from complete and full happiness will never bring us what we really want.  Trying to hold back problems that need our attention is wasted energy that does nothing for our personal growth.  We have enough courage and intelligence to look at any issue openly and find a resolution.  Every blessing we desire is possible.  We can face any situation that is holding us back, do what is needed to resolve it, and move forward with confidence.  There is no need to look away when things get complicated.  We are capable and strong enough to manage anything and find success.

Conflict is a normal part of life.  Sometimes it’s easy to navigate and we simply solve the issue and move on but when it gets intense and complicated we may be tempted to escape instead of face it.  If we run away from a situation without resolving it, things will never improve.  As we wait, the situation may escalate and when we’re finally ready to see it, things may be far more intense than if we’d faced it at the beginning.  Problems don’t generally disappear on their own.  It’s better to be open to everything as it happens and find the answers we need when they first begin.  We know how to find answers and nothing is too complicated for us solve.

There are a lot of distractions all around us and it’s easy to look away from serious situations and get involved in other activities that keep us busy and away from issues we don’t want to face.  Denial is an effective tool to help us look away but it never works for long and in the end the problem we avoid will return and require our attention. We can stand strong in the face of trouble, see what is before us, and find all the answers we need.

Today if there is a situation you dread and don’t want to face, step forward and look at it openly.  See everything as it is and determine to solve the problem.  All the answers are there for you and you have all the wisdom and patience you need to find them.  You have everything you need to resolve any issue.  You are capable and strong and nothing is out of reach.  Be confident and sure, and go forward toward success.