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Making the Choice

16 Jan

Lots of things happen to us as we navigate through our lives. Sometimes everything goes well and we feel settled and secure, but other times we may be beset with trouble and anxiety. Life is all about change and we can be assured that no matter what we’re experiencing now will not remain forever. Every day brings something new, and good or bad, how we get through it is up to us. Nobody has a charmed existence filled with butterflies and sunshine. We all suffer from time to time and go through difficult passages that test us and push us to our limits. Every situation brings its own pack of issues but we can decide no matter what comes to be strong and find peace even in trial. We can’t control what goes on outside of us but we’re always in control of what we do and how we manage each event. We can choose to be confident when things go wrong and stand strong no matter what comes. We can trust the answers we need will arise when we’re ready for them and believe we’ll prevail in every situation. There really isn’t anything too powerful or overwhelming for us to handle. We are braver and more capable than we may realize. Trials and trouble will come and we may feel unsure at first but we have everything we need already inside us to find our way forward. Winds may blow against us and storms may rage for a time but nothing lasts forever, and if we trust ourselves and rely on our intuition and personal wisdom, we will prevail. Each time we overcome adversity we gain more insight and knowledge about ourselves and the world around us. Those gifts go forward with us and help us become the people we most want to be.

Everyone likes to complain when things go wrong. We can bemoan our situation for as long as we like and tell those around us how unfair life is and how oppressed we feel. There’s nothing wrong with venting our personal feelings and we may feel better after getting it all out in the open. But complaining doesn’t solve anything and won’t move us ahead of the issue. Instead of talking about the problem, we can begin doing what is needed to solve it and let it go. When we do, we can move forward and continue on our journey toward success.

Every day we choose what we’ll do and where we’ll go. Those around us and the situations we’re in may influence the decisions we make, but in the end the responsibility for each choice is ours. If we aren’t happy it’s up to us to change things until we’re in a better place. We own our lives and every decision we make takes us somewhere. We can plan our steps forward to get to the destinations that bring us lasting happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’re unhappy with your current situation, remember you’re in control of your life. You deserve the best experiences possible and can do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most and take the first step toward achieving it. Be confident and choose well. You are powerful and strong. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Everything is possible and you can make your dreams come true.

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Turning

17 Dec

Life is filled with ups and downs.  We never know what will happen or what tomorrow will bring.  Sometimes things go wrong, and when all we planned disappears, and the hopes and dreams we counted on are no longer possible, we may be stunned, and it can be hard to know what to do next.  If everything from the life we thought we had goes up in smoke and we can’t see any hope for the future, we may feel lost and frozen in place.  What will we do now?  Where will we go?  How can we face the uncertain days ahead?  It’s difficult to know what to do when everything we counted on is gone.  But life is resilient and continues on, no matter what we’re going through.  It can seem unfair and somehow impossible that everything can continue moving forward when we’re standing still in disbelief and confusion, but the world keeps turning despite our loss and we must find a way to turn with it.  Every challenge and trial brings a blessing and even if it’s hard to see at first, will always be there for us.  When we’ve lost everything, we have the chance to start something new.  When the bottom falls away, we have the chance to build a firmer foundation.  There is opportunity in every experience and if we look around we’ll see possibilities before us, even in the depths of despair.  Our lives will continue onward and we will survive.  There’s a lot ahead of us and we can still reach our destinations.  When we’re ready we can start again, turn in a new direction, and begin to move forward with renewed confidence and clarity.

When we’re starting out in life, we may have a clear idea of where we want to go and what we want to achieve.  It’s possible all our dreams will come true and we’ll never suffer a setback, but chances are the perfect scenario won’t exactly be our experience.  Even if we do everything possible to ensure things go the way we want them to, we may face an impasse.  There are all kinds of influences we don’t know about and decisions being made that may impact our way forward.  When the door ahead suddenly closes it may no longer be possible to continue on the same road, but there are many roads to every destination and if we’re flexible and willing to bend, we’ll find them.

Disappointment is something we all experience.  If it’s great and encompassing, it may be difficult to believe we’ll ever succeed.  It’s hard to trust what hurts us and if we’ve suffered from a great loss we may lose faith in our ability to move forward.  Big disappointments hurt but they are just a signal we must change direction to keep moving ahead.  There are endless ways to accomplish any goal.  If one way fails, we can try another.  We are wise and creative, and nothing is too complicated or difficult for us to manage.

Today if you’ve lost everything you thought was sure going forward and you don’t know what to do now, give yourself time to think.  You’re smart and intuitive, and there are endless options ahead.  Decide what you want the most and turn your course toward the future.  You are capable and strong.  Nothing is out of reach.  Start again and nothing will keep you from success.

One Ray

29 Nov

There are times in everyone’s life when we feel beset with problems. Sometimes many things go wrong at the same time and it’s hard to manage all the turmoil and disharmony. It’s difficult to find sunshine when there are layers of dark clouds hanging over us and we may be so discouraged we don’t even bother to look up to see if it’s there. Life is unpredictable and no matter what we do or where we go, at some point trouble will find us. It may come as a result of someone else’s decisions, or because of a choice we made, or it may come out of the blue with no explanation. Things go wrong and sometimes everything turns and we suddenly find ourselves in the midst of confusion and anxiety trying to figure out what to do next. No matter what has happened or how bad the situation is – and it might be very bad – we can trust there will always be something going right. It’s hard to focus on what’s working when many things are failing, but there will always be something that continues to work in our favor. We’re still breathing, we’re still here, and we can take a moment in the storm to identify something to hang onto. There will always be something going for us and once we recognize it our confidence will rise. Even in the darkest storm when everything is heavy and threatening, the sun is shining brightly above the clouds. It’s always there and during our darkest hours we can find the one ray of sunshine in our lives that endures. We are stronger than we think we are and there isn’t anything we can’t manage. Even if the bottom falls out and we feel lost, we will find our way. There will always be light ahead and nothing can keep us from it.

Daily frustrations come and go. We learn new skills as we go and find ways to move forward through everyday distractions and complications. But when there are serious issues looming, we may feel unsure and may believe we don’t have what is needed to get through. When we don’t know what to do next, we can stop for a moment to see everything before us. There is no need to rush through trouble. We can take some time to assess the situation completely and find the answers we need. They are already there for us and stepping back will help us see them.

No matter how complex or difficult the situation we may be facing, there is always an answer and hope going forward. There’s no need to succumb to desperation and imagine we won’t survive. We already have everything needed to manage whatever we must. We are powerful and strong and even during times of serious distress have enough courage and wisdom to find our way. We can trust ourselves and move confidently forward through any darkness. Resolution will come and we will prevail.

Today if you feel overwhelmed trying to get through a seriously difficult issue, remember how strong and capable you are. You have everything you need to find all the answers. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident and push forward. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from success.

Heavy

14 Nov

We’ll have many happy days as we go through our lives but there will also be days when the sun won’t shine and we’re burdened with problems, concerns and difficult issues that rob us of peace and make us miserable.  Misery happens and even if we try to shield ourselves by making good choices, things will inevitably go wrong from time to time.  We can get through anything we need to and all the answers will come eventually but while we struggle we may feel unhappy and heavy with worry and concern.  When the cares of the world are weighing upon us it can be hard to face our days and continue pushing forward.  We can refuse to look at the issue and pretend everything is fine, hoping that somehow it’ll work itself out.  It’s possible but seriously unlikely that our problems will resolve themselves.  Instead of trying to hide from them we can face them head on and do what we must to resolve them once and for all so we can let them go.  Carrying around a heavy burden is tiresome and will keep us from moving toward the goals we want the most.  By stopping and looking at everything clearly, opening all the doors to the roads ahead, we can find the answers we need to solve any problem.  It doesn’t matter how hard the issue is, it doesn’t matter how many times we’ve already tried to fix it, we can try again and find success.  Life is filled with opportunity and when we’re bogged down with trouble, we can push forward and find our way.  We are stronger and more capable than we think we are and nothing is heavy enough to hold us back.

Lifting weights will help us build physical strength.  As our muscles get stronger, we can lift heavier and heavier weights until we reach our goal.  Gaining strength doesn’t come easily.  Sitting around and hoping we’ll magically get stronger by doing nothing will never work.  We have to push ourselves and test our limits and then push through them until we achieve the strength we desire.  The same is true in our personal lives.  When we’re tested with heavy burdens and difficult challenges, as we find our way through we gain additional skills and build our personal strength.  We learn about ourselves as we struggle and can use the knowledge we gain moving forward.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage.  We can be confident and continue moving toward our goals.

If we’re going through a serious complication that completely takes over our focus we may believe we can’t survive it.  We might think the problem is too difficult, too intense and too pervasive for us to manage, but we are strong.  We can believe in our ability to handle whatever is before us, no matter how serious the issue is.  The answers will always be there for us and if we look carefully we’ll find them.  We can do anything.  Success is always possible and we can reach it.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with a problem and don’t know how to get through, trust yourself.  You’ve overcome many difficult issues already and you will find the answers.  You are strong and wise, and nothing is too heavy for you to carry.  Be confident.  You will prevail and find your way forward.

Unbelievable

7 Nov

We all have ideas about how things should go and what should happen.  We make plans and try to design our lives in ways that ensure what we want most will come to us and we’ll be on the right road going forward.  We have control over all our decisions but basically everything else is left up to chance.  We can make all the right choices to get to a goal and still not reach it because of situations out of our control.  Sometimes things develop in ways we can’t understand and no matter how we try to wrap our heads around it, can’t make sense of it.  When that happens, we may stand and watch, stunned as the world seems to tilt on its axis and we are left out in the cold.  We may struggle to figure out how to process our new reality.  No matter how well we prepare or how sure we are about the road ahead, things may change suddenly and we may find ourselves standing on foreign ground with no idea what to do next.  Confusing, complicated events may come but we are capable of managing if we step back and take the time we need to see everything clearly.  There are many roads to every destination and if the one we’ve been on has disappeared, we can choose another.  We can let go of any preconceived notions about how we should proceed and alter our plans to fit the new situation we’re in.  Change is constant and even if the change we’re facing is difficult, we can find our way.  We are capable of adjusting our plans, redirecting our way forward and still finding success.

People do all kinds of things.  If someone does something that impacts us negatively we may question their reasoning.  If they value their relationship with us they may do something to amend the situation.  But we can’t make people care about others and if we’re someone they don’t consider worth their time they may continue on without regard to what’s happening to us.  If we can’t eliminate their influence over us we’ll have to cope.  It’s not easy to deal with unpleasant and disagreeable people but we are intelligent and can find a way around them.

When something unexpected and extreme happens that affects our plans going forward, we may shudder in unbelief.  Our idea of what is normal may be challenged and we may struggle to understand our position and how to take the next step.  There may be times when unforeseen developments knock the air out of us and we’ll have to hold on tight to keep standing.  Life is filled with surprises and even if we’re uneven for a moment, we can find our footing by trusting our instincts and remaining calm.  Whatever storm is passing over will abate and we’ll be able to see clearly again.  We are strong and capable and even in the midst of serious turmoil can find our way.

Today if you’re facing a situation that has rocked your foundation and you’re struggling to comprehend what to do, remember how capable you are.  You can stand steady even when the ground shakes.  You can face anything and find the answers you need to get through.  Be confident.  There is nothing powerful enough to hold you down.  Step forward and start again.  There is great success ahead.

Endurance Test

29 Oct

It would be great if every objective or project we had to complete worked out easily.  It would be wonderful if every time we had to do something, no matter what it was, that all the doors would open automatically, everyone would be helpful, and there would be nothing in our way.  That would be perfect, but sadly, those situations tend to be the exception and not the rule.  Most of the time we’ll have to push through something in our way or process a complication or issue preventing us from advancing.  Continual problems may make us consider giving up even if what we want to do is important to us.  Of course, we can change direction any time we want to and let anything go whenever we choose.  But if we want to continue instead of giving up, we can work on our ability to endure a little longer.  Endurance is simply our ability to withstand whatever we’re going through and is a skill we can improve and make stronger.  When we learn to endure well and hold on despite strong winds blowing against us, we have a better chance of achieving our goals.  Some things are hard to accomplish.  They take serious effort, lots of time and energy, and may test our ability to tolerate the challenges they present.  But anything worth achieving is worth our best efforts.  There isn’t anything strong enough to keep us from a destination if we’re willing to navigate whatever is in the way.  We’re stronger than any complication, and smarter than any problem.  We can find our way through and reach our goals.

When we’re on a road trip, if snow begins to fall and accumulate on the highway, our situation may become treacherous.  We can slow down in an effort to continue safely and push forward toward our goal.  Slowing down gives us the chance to carefully see everything in front of us and determine how to navigate forward.  Our progress will be affected but not stopped.  In our personal lives when things get complicated, sometimes we need to slow down to review all our options.  We can keep moving forward with caution until we’re sure the road ahead is exactly where we want to go and can see the destination before us.

There may be times when our situation changes and we must stop our plans completely and re-evaluate where we’re headed.  Perhaps there’s something preventing us from moving forward on the road we’ve been traveling.  The goal may still be possible but we need to redirect how we get there.  We can achieve anything if we’re determined but we might need to change direction to succeed.  It doesn’t matter how many times we correct our course or how may tries it takes to get moving again.  If we’re persistent we will find the way.  Nothing is out of reach and with patience and planning we can reach every goal we set.

Today if you’re facing lots of complications and the road ahead is blocked, remember there are many roads to every destination.  Look around and see all the options possible.  You can go anywhere you choose.  Be strong, endure well and press forward.  Every dream can come true.  You are wise and capable, and nothing is too far to reach.

Unchanging

15 Oct

If someone hurts us and our lives are negatively impacted, we may very much want to find a way to make the other party involved aware of what they’ve done.  We may feel once our voice has been heard and we’ve been vindicated we can more easily let go of the pain we’ve suffered.  But sometimes it’s impossible to get a resolution to a situation no matter what we do.  The other party may not care that we’re hurt, or that they are the cause of distress.  When that happens we may carry the pain forward with us, sometimes indefinitely.  Since it will never change, it may continually prick us with the unfairness we feel and hold us in place as the years pass.  Unresolved conflict is hard to let go of.  It’s like a math equation we can’t solve.  It stays the same and never changes.  We can worry about it and fret over it until we’re willing to accept the fact that we can’t solve it and turn the page.  Carrying unsettled conflict along with us as we go through our lives will weigh us down and may keep us from complete happiness.  What is in the past can never be changed.  Holding onto it will never alter it or help us moving forward.  We can accept it as it is, set it down and let it go.  Our lives belong to us and when we hold onto hurt from the past we forfeit a portion of control going forward.  We deserve complete happiness and by letting go of what is holding us down we can achieve it.  We can be free of past pain and heartache.  We need only decide to set it down, and leave it behind.

If we’ve created a painful situation for someone else, either intentionally or accidentally, we can recognize our role in it and do what is needed to correct it.  We are all more connected than we think we are and everything we do affects the world around us in some way.  If we’ve been a negative influence, we can change our focus and direction toward something more positive.  We can resolve any conflict we’ve created and pave the way forward with friendship and cooperation.

Some people don’t care about others or who they hurt.  They storm through their lives doing as they please and let the chips fall where they may.  If we’re in their path of destruction we may get run over and chewed up.  There may be great disappointment and pain as their lives intersect with ours.  We are only responsible for the decisions we make.  If decisions made by others negatively impact us, we can find a way to navigate around them and move forward outside their influence.  Our happiness is our responsibility and if we get hurt we can find the way back toward the light.  This life is a great blessing.  We need not give up one moment to a painful situation we cannot change.  Instead, we can move forward with confidence and reach every goal we desire.  Everything is possible and we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been carrying around pain from something in the past and have been unable to let it go, look at all the attributes you possess.  Remember how wonderful you are.  There is greatness in you and we’re all blessed because you are here.  Let go of what is behind you and move forward with confidence.  The whole world is there for you and everything you desire is possible.