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Deadlock

22 Feb

Everyone has their own opinions and ideas about how things should go. We’re all entitled to our viewpoints and can live our lives any way we choose, but if we must cooperate with others and we disagree, we may get stuck. If agreement is necessary before we can move forward and we can’t find common ground, we will remain in place until something changes. It’s not always easy to find compromise when we are diametrically opposed to the other party’s viewpoint. If we’re on opposing ends of the spectrum, it can be difficult to form an alliance in an effort to move forward. Everyone’s opinion is important, even if we disagree. If we want cooperation, all voices must be heard. We’re all unique and our perceptions are specific to each of us. We can do anything we like individually, but if we’re part of a group, we may need to bend in order to find agreement. There will be few moments when everything goes our way and we get everything we want. Other viewpoints may seem intolerable at first, but by listening carefully and patiently we can find common ground on which to agree. Each side can hold onto what’s most important and relinquish areas of contention in order to move ahead. If we want success, we must learn to compromise effectively. A deadlock situation will hold us in place and keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and have the wisdom we need to find the best arrangement where everyone feels heard and the impasse ends. We can reach any goal we desire by being open to suggestion and allowing others to engage and participate.

If we believe in something strongly and someone questions that belief, we may feel personally assaulted. Our defenses may rise and we may go on the offensive regarding our position. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and ideas, and it doesn’t matter if others disagree with us. We can listen to opposing viewpoints without being threatened, and if we choose, can modify our stand. But our lives are ours to design and we can make our own choices even if they are in opposition to those around us.

When there are disagreements, it’s up to us how we respond. We can get angry and try to muscle the conversation in our direction. Trying to make others adopt our choice with force rarely works. Instead, if we respond patiently and politely, we may open the conversation effectively and allow everyone to express their own opinions. Respectful discussion can open the door to compromise and help us move closer to our goals. We are smart enough to know how to proceed and with confidence and understanding will reach any destination we desire.

Today if someone else’s ideas are keeping you from moving forward, be receptive to their point of view and express your own ideas confidently and patiently. Find a compromise that lets you step ahead and allows them to hold onto what they need. You are amazing and wise, and will find every answer you need. There isn’t anything that can hold you back from the goals you desire. Speak up and step forward, and you’ll reach success.

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Snakes

8 Feb

There are all kinds of people in the world. Many are good, honest individuals who are helpful and kind, but there are some who are differently inclined. They may be hurtful and mean, and cause problems for those around them. When someone who is disruptive and hateful enters our lives, we may feel like we’ve fallen into a den of snakes, unable to escape. As we struggle through the conflict, we may try to avoid them as much as possible. We can’t control what anyone else does and if someone is determined to wreak havoc on us, we may not be able to stop them, and have no choice but to deal with it as it happens. They may say nasty things about us, make up stories that demean or disparage us, or try to alienate our friends and family. It’s upsetting to go through and even if we try to extricate ourselves from their focus, until they are ready to let us go, we may suffer. There is no way to know their motivations for causing others pain. Some people are unhappy and angry, and because misery loves company, instead of facing their problems and finding solutions to move forward, they may exercise their control by making those around them miserable. It’s a very uncomfortable situation to be in. We’re all accountable for the choices we make. Although we can’t stop anyone from hurting us, we can choose well ourselves. We can set the bar high by focusing on what is good and right, and continuing forward with honesty and integrity. Truth always rises and whatever negative things are said about us, or what is done to us, it will be offset by the excellent example we set.

When someone is hateful, it’s tempting to return back to them the same treatment. Fair is fair, right? Unfortunately, bowing down to their level to get back at them only proves we can be as low as they are. It’s easy to do and say nasty things, and it’s easy to be vengeful and mean. But choosing the better path and staying true to our high personal standards expresses our authenticity and gives us power. We can continue forward with confidence that truth will prevail and we will overcome.

It’s hard to fight a liar. If we try to expose their deception, they will simply lie again. One lie leads to another and we may be swept away as they create their own reality. We can remain still and stand strong despite the whirlwind of fiction surrounding us. We don’t need to defend ourselves when truth is on our side. We can be polite and firm, and confident and resilient, as we navigate our way through. Nothing can keep us from the values we set for ourselves, and we can be sure when we choose the right, in the end we will prevail.

Today if you’ve gotten tangled up with someone who is determined to undermine you through dishonesty and bad behavior, remember who you are. You have enough power to stand firm even in conflict. Hold fast to your excellent standards and set the bar high. Your virtue will overcome any falsehood or treachery. You are amazing and valiant, and nothing can hold you down.

Never Ending

1 Feb

We have a lot of good experiences in life and sometimes things go exactly the way we want them to and we feel happy and content.  But pain is a normal part of our lives and we’ll all go through difficult passages from time to time.  When we’re hurting and feel overcome, it can be hard to see any light ahead.  Intense, painful events can knock us down and we may feel the impact of the disappointment for a long time.  If we suddenly lose a job we value, a trusted friend betrays us or a lover leaves, or we experience the death of someone close, we may be left bereft and devastated.  It takes time to recover from very difficult situations.  We may try to put it behind us and each day the pain recedes a little, but it may take longer to feel strong again than we imagine.  Deep, invasive disappointments affect how we feel about ourselves and how we see the world around us.  While we suffer, we may lose faith in the future, doubt that we are lovable, or think the whole world has turned against us.  It can be a lot to overcome.  They say time heals all wounds, and that’s true but it might take more time than we thought.  It may seem the pain is never ending but each day we step a little further down the road, and heal a little more.  It doesn’t matter how long it takes us to feel whole again.  The important thing is to keep moving forward.  In time, however long that takes, we’ll feel confident and complete again.  We can trust ourselves to find our footing.  Life will give us many opportunities to learn and grow, and even if it hurts, each lesson gives us something valuable to carry forward.  We can face anything that comes.  We are strong and capable, and nothing can hold us down.

It’s fun and exciting to eat something really delicious and we may enjoy trying new foods from different places.  What if something happened and suddenly our taste buds no longer worked?  If everything we ate was tasteless and bland the whole experience would be altered.  When we’re in pain, it can feel like life has lost its flavor and nothing is appealing any longer.  Colors may seem dull, and we may feel numb and invisible.  When pain takes over it’s hard to feel anything else but nothing lasts forever and eventually we will heal and everything we’ve lost will return.

When the road has been long and challenging, and we’re tired and feel overcome, it can be hard to take another step.  We may believe we can’t move anymore and think about giving up and giving in.  Life can be difficult and when we’re in pain it can be hard to feel hope.  We can give up, but we are stronger than we realize, and nothing is powerful enough to stop us.  There is nothing capable of holding us down if we are determined to stand.  Pain hurts and we will suffer, but no night lasts forever.  The sun always rises and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been hurt and are struggling to find your way, trust yourself.  You have overcome many difficulties already and you can conquer anything.  Step forward and have faith.  Every blessing is possible and nothing will keep you from success.  The road to happiness is already there for you.  Stand strong and look ahead.

Making the Choice

16 Jan

Lots of things happen to us as we navigate through our lives. Sometimes everything goes well and we feel settled and secure, but other times we may be beset with trouble and anxiety. Life is all about change and we can be assured that no matter what we’re experiencing now will not remain forever. Every day brings something new, and good or bad, how we get through it is up to us. Nobody has a charmed existence filled with butterflies and sunshine. We all suffer from time to time and go through difficult passages that test us and push us to our limits. Every situation brings its own pack of issues but we can decide no matter what comes to be strong and find peace even in trial. We can’t control what goes on outside of us but we’re always in control of what we do and how we manage each event. We can choose to be confident when things go wrong and stand strong no matter what comes. We can trust the answers we need will arise when we’re ready for them and believe we’ll prevail in every situation. There really isn’t anything too powerful or overwhelming for us to handle. We are braver and more capable than we may realize. Trials and trouble will come and we may feel unsure at first but we have everything we need already inside us to find our way forward. Winds may blow against us and storms may rage for a time but nothing lasts forever, and if we trust ourselves and rely on our intuition and personal wisdom, we will prevail. Each time we overcome adversity we gain more insight and knowledge about ourselves and the world around us. Those gifts go forward with us and help us become the people we most want to be.

Everyone likes to complain when things go wrong. We can bemoan our situation for as long as we like and tell those around us how unfair life is and how oppressed we feel. There’s nothing wrong with venting our personal feelings and we may feel better after getting it all out in the open. But complaining doesn’t solve anything and won’t move us ahead of the issue. Instead of talking about the problem, we can begin doing what is needed to solve it and let it go. When we do, we can move forward and continue on our journey toward success.

Every day we choose what we’ll do and where we’ll go. Those around us and the situations we’re in may influence the decisions we make, but in the end the responsibility for each choice is ours. If we aren’t happy it’s up to us to change things until we’re in a better place. We own our lives and every decision we make takes us somewhere. We can plan our steps forward to get to the destinations that bring us lasting happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’re unhappy with your current situation, remember you’re in control of your life. You deserve the best experiences possible and can do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most and take the first step toward achieving it. Be confident and choose well. You are powerful and strong. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Everything is possible and you can make your dreams come true.

Turning

17 Dec

Life is filled with ups and downs.  We never know what will happen or what tomorrow will bring.  Sometimes things go wrong, and when all we planned disappears, and the hopes and dreams we counted on are no longer possible, we may be stunned, and it can be hard to know what to do next.  If everything from the life we thought we had goes up in smoke and we can’t see any hope for the future, we may feel lost and frozen in place.  What will we do now?  Where will we go?  How can we face the uncertain days ahead?  It’s difficult to know what to do when everything we counted on is gone.  But life is resilient and continues on, no matter what we’re going through.  It can seem unfair and somehow impossible that everything can continue moving forward when we’re standing still in disbelief and confusion, but the world keeps turning despite our loss and we must find a way to turn with it.  Every challenge and trial brings a blessing and even if it’s hard to see at first, will always be there for us.  When we’ve lost everything, we have the chance to start something new.  When the bottom falls away, we have the chance to build a firmer foundation.  There is opportunity in every experience and if we look around we’ll see possibilities before us, even in the depths of despair.  Our lives will continue onward and we will survive.  There’s a lot ahead of us and we can still reach our destinations.  When we’re ready we can start again, turn in a new direction, and begin to move forward with renewed confidence and clarity.

When we’re starting out in life, we may have a clear idea of where we want to go and what we want to achieve.  It’s possible all our dreams will come true and we’ll never suffer a setback, but chances are the perfect scenario won’t exactly be our experience.  Even if we do everything possible to ensure things go the way we want them to, we may face an impasse.  There are all kinds of influences we don’t know about and decisions being made that may impact our way forward.  When the door ahead suddenly closes it may no longer be possible to continue on the same road, but there are many roads to every destination and if we’re flexible and willing to bend, we’ll find them.

Disappointment is something we all experience.  If it’s great and encompassing, it may be difficult to believe we’ll ever succeed.  It’s hard to trust what hurts us and if we’ve suffered from a great loss we may lose faith in our ability to move forward.  Big disappointments hurt but they are just a signal we must change direction to keep moving ahead.  There are endless ways to accomplish any goal.  If one way fails, we can try another.  We are wise and creative, and nothing is too complicated or difficult for us to manage.

Today if you’ve lost everything you thought was sure going forward and you don’t know what to do now, give yourself time to think.  You’re smart and intuitive, and there are endless options ahead.  Decide what you want the most and turn your course toward the future.  You are capable and strong.  Nothing is out of reach.  Start again and nothing will keep you from success.

One Ray

29 Nov

There are times in everyone’s life when we feel beset with problems. Sometimes many things go wrong at the same time and it’s hard to manage all the turmoil and disharmony. It’s difficult to find sunshine when there are layers of dark clouds hanging over us and we may be so discouraged we don’t even bother to look up to see if it’s there. Life is unpredictable and no matter what we do or where we go, at some point trouble will find us. It may come as a result of someone else’s decisions, or because of a choice we made, or it may come out of the blue with no explanation. Things go wrong and sometimes everything turns and we suddenly find ourselves in the midst of confusion and anxiety trying to figure out what to do next. No matter what has happened or how bad the situation is – and it might be very bad – we can trust there will always be something going right. It’s hard to focus on what’s working when many things are failing, but there will always be something that continues to work in our favor. We’re still breathing, we’re still here, and we can take a moment in the storm to identify something to hang onto. There will always be something going for us and once we recognize it our confidence will rise. Even in the darkest storm when everything is heavy and threatening, the sun is shining brightly above the clouds. It’s always there and during our darkest hours we can find the one ray of sunshine in our lives that endures. We are stronger than we think we are and there isn’t anything we can’t manage. Even if the bottom falls out and we feel lost, we will find our way. There will always be light ahead and nothing can keep us from it.

Daily frustrations come and go. We learn new skills as we go and find ways to move forward through everyday distractions and complications. But when there are serious issues looming, we may feel unsure and may believe we don’t have what is needed to get through. When we don’t know what to do next, we can stop for a moment to see everything before us. There is no need to rush through trouble. We can take some time to assess the situation completely and find the answers we need. They are already there for us and stepping back will help us see them.

No matter how complex or difficult the situation we may be facing, there is always an answer and hope going forward. There’s no need to succumb to desperation and imagine we won’t survive. We already have everything needed to manage whatever we must. We are powerful and strong and even during times of serious distress have enough courage and wisdom to find our way. We can trust ourselves and move confidently forward through any darkness. Resolution will come and we will prevail.

Today if you feel overwhelmed trying to get through a seriously difficult issue, remember how strong and capable you are. You have everything you need to find all the answers. There isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident and push forward. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can keep you from success.

Heavy

14 Nov

We’ll have many happy days as we go through our lives but there will also be days when the sun won’t shine and we’re burdened with problems, concerns and difficult issues that rob us of peace and make us miserable.  Misery happens and even if we try to shield ourselves by making good choices, things will inevitably go wrong from time to time.  We can get through anything we need to and all the answers will come eventually but while we struggle we may feel unhappy and heavy with worry and concern.  When the cares of the world are weighing upon us it can be hard to face our days and continue pushing forward.  We can refuse to look at the issue and pretend everything is fine, hoping that somehow it’ll work itself out.  It’s possible but seriously unlikely that our problems will resolve themselves.  Instead of trying to hide from them we can face them head on and do what we must to resolve them once and for all so we can let them go.  Carrying around a heavy burden is tiresome and will keep us from moving toward the goals we want the most.  By stopping and looking at everything clearly, opening all the doors to the roads ahead, we can find the answers we need to solve any problem.  It doesn’t matter how hard the issue is, it doesn’t matter how many times we’ve already tried to fix it, we can try again and find success.  Life is filled with opportunity and when we’re bogged down with trouble, we can push forward and find our way.  We are stronger and more capable than we think we are and nothing is heavy enough to hold us back.

Lifting weights will help us build physical strength.  As our muscles get stronger, we can lift heavier and heavier weights until we reach our goal.  Gaining strength doesn’t come easily.  Sitting around and hoping we’ll magically get stronger by doing nothing will never work.  We have to push ourselves and test our limits and then push through them until we achieve the strength we desire.  The same is true in our personal lives.  When we’re tested with heavy burdens and difficult challenges, as we find our way through we gain additional skills and build our personal strength.  We learn about ourselves as we struggle and can use the knowledge we gain moving forward.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage.  We can be confident and continue moving toward our goals.

If we’re going through a serious complication that completely takes over our focus we may believe we can’t survive it.  We might think the problem is too difficult, too intense and too pervasive for us to manage, but we are strong.  We can believe in our ability to handle whatever is before us, no matter how serious the issue is.  The answers will always be there for us and if we look carefully we’ll find them.  We can do anything.  Success is always possible and we can reach it.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with a problem and don’t know how to get through, trust yourself.  You’ve overcome many difficult issues already and you will find the answers.  You are strong and wise, and nothing is too heavy for you to carry.  Be confident.  You will prevail and find your way forward.