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Not Me

7 Feb

Nobody is perfect and although we try to always make good decisions and choose well, sometimes we’re going to make mistakes. It’s the normal course of life. We might decide to do something that seems good at the beginning but turns into a complete mess, screwing up our lives and anyone else involved. It happens to everyone and nobody is exempt. We’re going to go the wrong way from time to time, and what we do after that will determine what happens next. When the bottom falls out and we’re left holding the bag, we can try to deflect the blame onto someone else. We could say it wasn’t us, we weren’t involved, nobody told us about it, and a million other excuses that won’t change anything. Pushing the blame for something we’ve done onto someone else will never help, and will reflect badly on us going forward. Many times, everyone already knows who was involved when things go wrong. Pretending to be invisible or making sure we’re somewhere else when it all hits the fan won’t fix anything. We’re accountable for everything we do and every decision we make. Hiding, deflecting, pretending or trying to dodge our involvement will only delay the inevitable. It’s far better, no matter how bad things are, to stand tall and admit our involvement. It’s only a mistake, not the end of the world. Nothing is permanent and no matter what’s happened there will be a way to correct our course. We are intelligent and can find the way forward no matter how convoluted the situation may seem. With confidence and courage, we can address any misstep and make whatever changes are needed to point us in the right direction. Every destination is possible and we will find the way ahead.

It’s impossible to know everything about everything. When we’re making decisions, there may be something we can’t see or some fact we don’t know about. We can only use the information available to us at any time, and if we discover later there is more to the story that affects the way forward negatively, we can modify our plans. If we’re flexible and open, we can still find our way to the goal despite any complications. Life is filled with possibilities and there will always be another way ahead. With focus and planning, we can reach any destination we desire.

There may be times when we might be blamed for something we didn’t do. It’s difficult to feel the scorn of others for something we’re not responsible for and we may certainly stand up for ourselves and protest our innocence. If doubt still remains, we can continue forward making the best choices possible, and in time, truth will prevail. We can make excellent decisions that show the world who we are, and that take us where we want to go and help us achieve our most valued goals. We are strong and powerful, and we will prevail.

Today if things have gone wrong from a decision you’ve made, own your part and do what is needed to correct the situation. Mistakes happen and you can change direction. Look at everything openly and decide on the best course of action. You are wise and intelligent, and all the answers are there for you. Trust yourself. You will prevail.

Too Hard

3 Feb

There are endless things we can accomplish in our lives. We can achieve goals, go to new places, and reach success in many ways. There may be times we want to achieve something that’s difficult and ambitious. If there are a lot of possible complications, or we must accomplish many demanding steps before we can even start, we might think it’s just too hard to accomplish. It’s like deciding to climb a big mountain. First, we have to get in good physical shape, which depending on how things are now, may take a lot of time and arduous work. Then we have to learn everything about mountain climbing, what complications may arise, what to do when the altitude gets high and oxygen gets low, and dozens of other things. Then when we’re ready, we have to practice many times on smaller hills. Finally, after we’ve done everything we can to prepare, we can set forth to climb the mountain. When we first decided we wanted to do this, we may have had no idea what was involved in getting ready, and after we get all the facts, we may decide it’s too hard to attempt. Of course, we can change our minds about anything at any time, but if the goal is something we really want to accomplish, we can find a way to do everything we must to achieve it. If we push ourselves beyond what is comfortable in order to accomplish something great, the satisfaction we gain when we succeed will bring great richness and happiness to our lives. Some things are very hard to do, but the difficulty level doesn’t decide our success. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and if we’re determined and focused, nothing can keep us from our goal. Every dream is possible, and we can have the lives we desire.

When we’re pushing toward a big goal, it’s great to have the support of those around us. Having our own personal cheering section can lift us when the road gets hard, and give us the courage to continue when things go wrong. But we don’t need the agreement of others to do anything we want to do. We can design our lives any way we like, and achieve every goal that moves us forward. We can do anything we desire, and with confidence, every dream can be ours.

If we’ve been pushing forward for a while and the way ahead is difficult and filled with problems and complications, we may tire of the struggle and begin to think we can’t succeed. We can step back and look at everything objectively, and get all the facts. If the goal we desire is out of reach right now, and everything is standing in our way, we can set it aside for a time until our situation changes. Nothing is permanent and eventually things will fall into place more easily, and we can start again. Every goal is possible and with careful planning, and constant diligence, we can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach, and we will prevail.

Today if you’ve been trying hard to get to a destination you desire, but there are a lot of detours and setbacks, decide how you want to proceed. You are strong enough and wise enough to find the way forward. Choose your next steps and move forward with clarity and confidence. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed.

Listen Up

5 Dec

There are lots of people always coming in and out of our lives. We have friends, work associates, acquaintances, family members and others who are part of our everyday experience. Some we merely wave to in passing, but others are more important and may carry a lot of influence. Our lives belong solely to us and we can do anything we want, but there may be times when those around us don’t agree with the choices we’re making and give opinions about what we should do. Nobody can possibly know us better than we know ourselves, but that won’t prevent others from giving us advice about the paths we’re choosing. They might think they know better because they are older or have more experience, or they may just prefer that everyone else do what they would do. Their reasons for the advice mean nothing, and we can certainly listen to anything anyone else offers us. However, our experiences are unique to us alone, and even those very close to us will never have the exact same perspectives we possess. We always know what we want and where we want to go. Letting others make decisions for how we’ll proceed will only take us to the destinations they have chosen. If we want to achieve our own personal goals, we must choose our own way and proceed forward according to our own desires. We can listen to any advice that’s offered, but our happiness and satisfaction can only be accomplished by choosing what we want the most. We don’t have follow anyone else. We are wise and capable, and can find our way to any destination we choose. By trusting ourselves and stepping forward with confidence we can make all our dreams come true.

The world is filled with opportunity and there are endless roads we can travel. There will always be more than one way to get to any goal. If someone blocks our path, or there’s a detour that prevents us from moving forward, we can look around and find another way forward. There will be few times when what we want to accomplish comes easily and without problems. It doesn’t matter if the way ahead gets complex, or we have to reroute our direction to continue, we have everything we need to find our way and reach success.

There are lots of ideas and opinions out there, and sometimes those around us might tell us we should live differently than we are. They may point out how difficult the road we’ve chosen will be, or they don’t think we have what it takes to prevail. Opinions vary, and are only valuable to those who hold them. We don’t have to adopt anyone else’s ideas, and we don’t have to follow their assumptions or take their directions. We are powerful and strong, and can do anything we like. Every destination is possible, and we already possess everything we need to reach them.

Today if someone is giving you advice and telling you to alter your course, remember how wise and capable you are. You know what you want and you have everything you need to succeed. Trust yourself and be confident. The whole world is there for you, and you can do anything and go anywhere. Success is always possible. You have everything you need to make every dream come true.

Free Pass

14 Nov

Every choice we make has consequences. If we’re careful and thoughtful, and do our best to choose the best possible options, chances are the consequences of those decisions will work in our favor. But people are complex and life is complicated. Things go wrong, unexpected problems arise, and we make mistakes. If we’re stressed, overwhelmed, angry or distracted, we might make a decision that isn’t in our best interest and has dire results. We are free to choose anything we like, but we’re not free to choose the results of those decisions. There is no way to escape our accountability for the choices we make. It doesn’t matter is we were stressed, upset, confused, or convinced by someone else to do something. If we make a decision, it belongs solely to us, and we’ll answer for what happens next. When we choose the first step on any path, we also choose the last. Accountability must be satisfied and there is no way to escape. We may have good excuses for why we did something, and they may be convincing, but there are no free passes. We are responsible for every decision we make. Nobody can make us do anything we don’t want to do. If we acquiesce when we know it’s the wrong choice, we must endure what comes. We can try to explain our way out, and offer any excuses we think might help us, but nothing can change the path we’ve chosen. Once a decision is made it cannot be erased. But even if we’ve erred, we can do what is necessary to fix the situation, and then proceed forward with renewed confidence and choose more carefully. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices, and nothing can prevent us from reaching our goals. With wisdom and patience, we can choose the roads that will move us forward and help us find success.

There are a lot of excuses and reasons for bad decisions. If the situation was intense and we felt pressured, we may say we couldn’t help what happened. We are always in control of everything we do, and even if we’re being pressed or bullied, we can stand firm and make the best decisions possible. Every choice we make takes us somewhere and by being proactive and thoughtful, we can make the best decisions that bring us the results we most desire.

It’s good to be kind and have mercy on someone who chooses badly, but justice must prevail. Nobody is perfect and even if others are considerate and understanding, we are still accountable for our choices. Once we’ve chosen a road, we must travel it to the end. There is no way to erase the past and the best we can do is choose more wisely moving forward. Life is all about learning and every step teaches us something to carry forward. We are able to learn from our mistakes and make excellent choices. Every goal is possible and with wisdom and care, we will reach them.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision that’s bringing you difficulty and trouble, think about your next steps forward. You can change course and turn your direction toward where you most want to go. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Opposition

30 Oct

A new highway that’s clear and smooth is easy to travel. We can coast along and look at the scenery, not worried about obstructions or interference as we move ahead. The pavement is even, and the trip is effortless and uncomplicated. We may wish our lives went as easily, and sometimes they do. When that happens, we can relax and just go with the flow. But life is fickle and nothing stays the same forever. Before we know it, something goes wrong, and there is opposition blocking our way. Opposition is a normal feature of every day life. There are endless ideas and attitudes, and countless people coming in and out of our focus all the time. Everyone has a different slant on how they think everything should proceed, and when their opinions conflict with our own, even if we’re headed in the same direction, there may be push back. The paved roads we desire may be impossible to find. If we’re determined to do things our way, and refuse to consider any other interpretation, we my face a very difficult and stressful situation. It’s good to be confident, and we can live our lives any way we choose, but when others are involved, it can get messy if everyone doesn’t agree. There are many roads to every destination and even if our ideas are excellent, it doesn’t mean they are the only ones worth considering. If we are alone and don’t have to acknowledge anyone else in our decision, we can do anything we like. But if others are included, every idea will need to be explored. We are intelligent and can make excellent decisions. Including others in the choices we make going forward will help diffuse conflict. Opposition will always be there, but if we’re open to other interpretations and ideas, we’ll find the best way forward.

It’s very hard to collaborate with someone who only sees their own point of view. If we are limited to one road ahead and will not consider any other option it will be impossible to hear any other message. Tunnel vision limits us to only one solution, but there are always other options possible. If we only look one way, we may miss many other options that may bring success more easily and effectively. Looking around and letting new ideas enter the picture will enable us to more easily find the best way forward, and reach our goal.

When we have a good idea and others are involved, we can explain our plans and hope for agreement. There will times when everyone will be on the same page, but other times there may be objections. We can listen to any challenges or doubts, address them and together determine our next steps. Opposition need never stop us from progressing. We can listen and find common ground with those around us, and work together to reach the goal.

Today if you’re getting push back on an idea you want to pursue, listen to the opposing viewpoint and evaluate all your options. There will always be a possible compromise that will enable you to move forward. You are smart and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Be open to new ideas, and use them to find the best road ahead. Every success is possible and nothing will keep you from winning.

Two Wrongs

5 Aug

Every decision we make takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and careful, and take time to see the road ahead before we choose, we have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. There’ll always be unforeseen complications and details we don’t know about, and sometimes things will go wrong. But most of the time, if we consider all our options, we can make excellent choices that bring us the results we desire. If we get involved in a situation where someone has a lot of influence over us and asks us to do something we aren’t sure about, we may hesitate. If they’re forceful and determined to push us their way, despite our concerns, we may acquiesce and go along. Sometimes other people’s decisions will work out for us but other times we may end up headed for trouble. We always have the choice to change direction and start again, but if we’re swept up under someone’s influence, we may feel powerless to turn around. One bad decision may lead to another, and then another, and before we know it, we’re in foreign and difficult territory, far from where we want to be. Two wrongs can never make anything right. They don’t cancel each other out, and continuing on the wrong road in the hopes that somehow it will magically turn into the right one, will never work. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter what others choose or how much pressure they bring in an effort to take us along, we can make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to anything we don’t want. Nobody knows more about where we want to go than we do. We can have the lives we desire most by making careful choices that lead us to the destinations we want. Every blessing is possible and with patience and determination, we will find true happiness.

Some people like to control others to get what they want. If we have something they want, they may do all kinds of things to try and make us give it. If we don’t agree, they may manipulate the situation to pressure us into compliance. It’s very difficult and unpleasant to deal with situations like these, and if being honest and straightforward doesn’t work, we may consider something underhanded in an effort to escape. We’re always accountable for everything we do, and there is no excuse powerful enough to turn bad behavior into good. Choosing well will always bring blessings. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to make decisions that reflect our high standards and hold fast to what is noble and right.

If we go along with a bad decision that complicates and negatively impacts our life, we can stay with it and hope things will improve, or stop and rethink the way forward. No decision is written in stone and we can change direction at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to correct our course. Every road is possible and with determination and focus, we can move toward the destinations we want the most.

Today if someone is pressuring you to make a choice you don’t agree with, stand firm and choose what’s best for you. You’re in control of your life and can go anywhere you desire. Every option is available and you will find the right way forward. Choose roads that will take you where you want to go, and make your dreams come true.

Heart

25 Jul

We live in a world with billions of people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there are many others around us all the time. They come and go every day, and we build connections and relationships, some just in passing, and others that last our entire lifetimes. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas about how the world works and how things should go. We may agree, or disagree, and every exchange teaches us something new. Sometimes misunderstandings arise and we may have no idea what went wrong. There are always a lot of distractions on the surface, but if we want to know what’s really going on, we’ll have to dig a little deeper. If we want to find out what’s really happening, we’ll have to get to the very heart of the matter. That may mean looking at things we’re uncomfortable with and allowing ourselves to be see where we may have gone wrong. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we discover we’ve done something that’s caused pain or discomfort, we can look at the situation openly and do what is needed to amend it. In times of distress or misunderstanding, it will never serve us to ignore the issue and pretend it will go away on its own. Most problems won’t resolve without the input of those involved. They may get pushed back and ignored, but they will remain unsettled until we clearly look at them and do what is needed to address them. If we refuse to see them, we will carry them forward with us indefinitely and they may affect our future happiness and comfort. We deserve to live happily and unencumbered by problems. We can face any situation pulling on us and find the answers we need to resolve it and let it go. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find every answer we desire. Our lives are important and we are valuable. We can live effectively and openly, and find every happiness.

Some people are very private and don’t like to share their feelings. They may not tell us if we’ve done something that’s offended them. Instead, they may pretend everything is fine but we may sense something is amiss. It can be hard to find answers when the person holding them isn’t comfortable sharing information with us. We can be patient and understanding, and extend the hand of friendship even in times of duress. Showing we care, despite any friction, will help us build trust and open the doors to better communication.

We have all kinds of relationships, and can always choose to build a bridge, or close a door. We don’t have to continue relationships that are painful, or destructive, and we can walk away if a situation isn’t working. If we aren’t comfortable, we can change direction and step away. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives, and we have everything we need to get them.

Today if you feel something amiss in a relationship and don’t know what to do, think about what’s happened and get to the heart of the matter. Reach for understanding, and then move forward with confidence. Nothing is too complicated for you to comprehend, and you will find all the answers you need.