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Ho Ho Ho and All That Stuff

1 Dec

The holidays are a busy time and can be stressful and exhausting. There may be parties we’re expected to attend, traditions everyone wants to continue, or other situations we may or may not want to do. Everyone is unique and we all have our own ideas about how things should go and what we should do. Although we all understand that intellectually, there may be times when we are pressed to go along with others. We might even pressure someone else to follow our lead because it’s what we enjoy and we want them to participate. We’re in control of our own lives, but if someone in authority over us expects us to do things a certain way, we may have to comply. Family expectations and traditions are powerful. We may choose to go along just to keep the peace and get through with as little conflict as possible. No matter what’s going on or how we feel about it, we can work through any situation and find the best way forward. We never have to do anything we aren’t comfortable with and we can decline any offer with grace and patience. There may be much to accomplish, but with careful planning, and taking the time we need for ourselves, we will prevail. We know who we are and what we want. By keeping our eyes on the goal ahead, and moving forward with clarity, we will succeed.

Everyone wants to be happy but personal happiness is expressed in different ways. We don’t have to jump up and down, and laugh all day long to convince ourselves or others that we’re content. Our outward expressions are unique. Some people share every emotion with those around them and others are quiet and still even when they feel great joy. We can share our optimism and happiness with those around us if we like, or we may keep things to ourselves. Our lives are ours to design and every option is possible.

If we’re stressed and having a hard time, it can be very annoying if someone near us is bounding with holiday fun. We may wish they’d just put a sock in it and fade away. If we need time to ourselves to regroup and settle, we can step away from the activity around us and zone out for a while. Sometimes just a few minutes of quiet and peace can greatly refresh us and give us the boost we’re seeking. There are endless ways to express ourselves at any moment. We can do what works for us and find the happiness we desire.

Today if you’re tired and stressed, and feel pressure to participate in activities around you, decide what you really want. If you need time alone, take it. You are the most important person in your life. Your desires are important, and every dream is possible. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. You are wise and capable, and nothing is out of reach. Be happy and choose the way ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t do.

Beaten and Destroyed

14 Oct

Everyone wants an easy, happy life. We all want to find true love, win the lottery and be enormously successful. It’s nice to think about the situations we dream of that we believe will bring us endless happiness and long lasting peace, but life isn’t nirvana and no matter who we are or what we’re doing, odds are at some point things will go wrong. There is contention and opposition in everything, and if we’re on the wrong side of the story, we may suffer greatly. We may face failure in business, we may lose our money, our lovers may walk out, a serious health issue may develop, or a million other unexpected possibilities. If the situation is devastating and at first we have no idea how to proceed, we may feel beaten down and lost. It may seem our lives are destroyed and there is no way to recover. Bad things will come to us all, serious and unbelievable events may knock us down, and we may be sure we’re doomed and will never survive. It’s hard to have faith in the light when all we can see is darkness. Terrible things may happen but nothing stays the same indefinitely. No matter what’s gone wrong or fallen apart, or how our plans have blown up, everything will eventually change. Even when we’re unsure, we can trust that we will find our way. Even if it seems there is no answer, an answer will come. We are stronger and more powerful than we think we are, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage and manage well. We can stand firm in the wind, and be confident we will prevail.

There are few things more painful than betrayal. It’s hard to understand when someone we trust or love intentionally does something to hurt us. Instead of wasting time trying to figure out why they did what they did, despite the pain, we can step back and look at the situation objectively. Their actions have been destructive, but they have given us more information that will help us as we move forward. We know them better now than we did before, and can do what is needed to protect ourselves in the future. The pain will eventually ease and we will find our way forward.

If we do something that causes a serious setback, we may lose our confidence. It may seem we aren’t smart enough, or capable enough, or any number of other factors. None of that is true. Even when we make excellent decisions, we have no control over what happens next. Failure is painful but it gives us valuable information. By focusing on what we’re learning, we can use it to help us move forward, and be confident and sure of success.

Today if everything has fallen apart and you are devastated and unsure, remember how strong and capable you are. The whole world is blessed and embellished because you are here. Look at everything objectively and learn all you can, and then start again. You have so much to offer.  Trust yourself and move forward. Every dream awaits, and you will make them yours.

Smackdown

14 Sep

We share the world with lots and lots of other people, and each of us has our own ideas about what we should do and how things should go. We may find others who share many of our opinions, but no two people are exactly the same. Although we may try to always get along with those around us, we will likely face times of conflict because we don’t share the same viewpoints. If the interaction is civil and polite, we may simply agree to disagree, but some people are very sure their way is the only correct way to proceed. If we don’t agree with them, we may face serious contention, and even become engaged in an argument or worse. If they are strong and have some sort of control over us, and will not tolerate dissent, they may smack us down to shut us up and hold us in place. We may be forced to follow along despite our personal views. Others may be able to hold us down for a time, but nothing is permanent, and the situation will change. If there’s nothing we can do for now, we can remain in place and wait patiently until a new door opens. We are entitled to our own opinions and can live our lives any way we like, and it’s hard if we must temporarily follow something we don’t agree with. By keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will be ready when an opening appears that allows us to modify our situation. Our ideas and perspectives are important and valuable, and we can trust ourselves to find ways to communicate them in ways that are positive and move us forward. There isn’t anything or anyone powerful enough to hold us down forever, and with clarity and patience, we will find the way ahead.

If we’re sure we have the answers and know the best way forward, we may try to convince others to follow us. We may say we respect their opinions but if they are different than our own, we may try persuade them to follow us. If they disagree, and we’re adamant, we may try whatever tactics we can find to make them comply. What we do defines who we are, and bullying or forcing others to follow us will never help us build the connections we seek. If we’re willing to bend and listen to other viewpoints, cooperation and compromise will open the doors ahead.

There are many roads to every goal and there is never only one way to succeed. Everyone’s ideas are worthwhile, and by listening to other suggestions, we can find the best way forward. New ideas bring fresh perspectives that may not have been seen initially. We are intelligent and will always have a lot of answers but nobody knows everything. By being open and flexible, we will be able to evaluate many different possibilities that enable us to move ahead with confidence and clarity, and reach the goal.

Today remember that everyone has something to offer. The world is filled with differences that enrich us and enhance the road ahead. Listen carefully to any suggestions you receive and decide on the best way forward. You are amazing and intelligent, and nothing is out of reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step. Every single goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success. 

Trusting the Tide

7 Sep

Life is unpredictable and nobody knows what will happen next or how things will develop. We may be happily sailing along without any concerns when suddenly something changes unexpectedly, and we’re thrown into a fog of confusion and uncertainty. We can only control our own decisions and there are lots of people making choices we know nothing about, that may affect us and stop us in our tracks. When everything turns upside down and we can’t see the road ahead, we may feel surrounded by trouble and lost. The oceans are very big and powerful. Each has a tide that is consistent and constant. No matter what happens in the world, the tide continues to reach the shore. Big storms may cause them to swell and take over the beach, but no storm lasts forever, and eventually everything will settle. We can trust that the rhythm of the tide will continue non-stop until the end of time. When we’re going through extremely difficult and challenging times, when it’s hard to see the way forward and we feel overwhelmed and unsure, it may seem we’ll never get through and instead be frozen in place. We may doubt our ability to manage what’s happening and wonder how we’ll ever find our way again. But we are stronger, wiser and more powerful than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down forever. Like the constant tide, we can trust that no matter where we are or what’s gone wrong, we will find the answers. We will always, every single time, find the way ahead. By remembering how much we’ve already overcome we will find the strength and temerity to stand strong and step forward. Every success is still there for us, and with patience and determination, we will reach them all.

Nobody knows everything and we may face a situation that is so confusing and threatening, we feel it’s impossible. There is too much going on and too much to comprehend all at once. We don’t have to figure everything out in three seconds. If we can’t process what’s going on, we can step back and take the time we need to see everything objectively and clearly. There is always a way forward and by openly looking carefully at the situation, we will find it. Life can be hard, but a big, unexpected turn to the left doesn’t mean we can’t proceed. We are intelligent and capable, and will prevail.

We may face a time when our very worst, dreaded dreams come true. The one thing we thought we could never survive has happened. What do we do now? We can try to hide from the situation, go to bed and pull the blankets up over our head, but refusing to look at problem will never solve it. It will remain until we face it and take it apart piece by piece and find the answers we need. There isn’t anything we can’t do. Like the constant tide, we can trust that no matter what comes, we will find our way through. Life is complicated, but we are smart. Every blessing awaits, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing an extremely difficult situation and you feel overwhelmed, trust yourself. You are powerful and wise and nothing, absolutely nothing can overcome you. Be confident and stand strong. The whole world is blessed because you are here. Show us your best and step forward. There is great success just ahead. Keep your eyes on the goal and you will win.

Permanent

18 Jul

When we’re young, we have ideas about how we want our lives to go. We may make big plans about what we’re going to do – we’re going to be astronauts, or race car drivers, or ballerinas or a million other choices. If we hold onto the same dream as time passes, and work out what we need to do to reach it, we can do just about anything. But time has a way of changing how we think, and modifying what we want. We learn more about how things work and what we can expect, and make choices about the type of lifestyle and work life we desire most. If we’re lucky, and everything falls into place as expected, we may reach our fondest dreams exactly when and how we want them, but this is real life and there’s a lot going on we can’t control. Complications will always arise and sometimes the road will turn without warning. One thing leads to another and we may find the careers we end up with, the places we’re living, and the things we’re doing aren’t what we originally planned on. If we’re happy where we are, great, but nothing is permanent, and if we still yearn for something different we can move toward it. Time is powerful. If we’ve been in a situation that is unfulfilling and unrewarding for a long time, we may believe it would be too difficult to try to change it and just decide to suck it up and deal with it. Of course we can do anything we like, but there isn’t anything that can’t be changed if we’re willing to do what is necessary to change it. It may not be easy, and may be uncomfortable while we work on the transition, but every dream is possible. We can move locations, change careers, let go of relationships that aren’t working, and modify anything that isn’t making us happy. We’re in control and it’s all up to us. By deciding what we want the most and then doing what is needed to make it ours we can achieve complete happiness and satisfaction. Nothing is out of reach and we are smart enough, and strong enough to reach success.

Relationships are important and when they work well they add great benefit and blessing to us. It’s wonderful to share our lives with someone who likes us, enjoys spending time with us, and wants the best for us. If we’re in a relationship that is difficult and brings continual duress and stress, it will be impossible to be happy. We might learn how to deal with the ups and downs, and how to manage the arguments and problems, but expending energy just to get through on a continual basis will wear on us and prevent us from finding true happiness and peace. We deserve complete happiness and never have to stay in any situation that doesn’t work for us. We can change anything at any time, and have the lives we dream of.

If we’re working, our careers may be very important to us. If we’re doing something we enjoy, work is easy, but that isn’t always the case. The dream jobs we want aren’t always available to us and we may end up doing something we didn’t plan on because of opportunity, income or a thousand other reasons. Once we’ve been in the job for a while and become established, it may seem that although we aren’t happy, trying to change would be too difficult. Change isn’t always easy but if there is something we really want, we have everything we need to get it. Routines are comfortable and it’s easy to keep doing the same things again and again, but nothing is permanent. We can modify anything at any time. Every option is possible and with wisdom and clarity, we can create the lives we want the most.

Today if you’re not satisfied with something in your life but have been reluctant to change it, think about what you want the most. You are amazing and far more capable than you imagine. Every dream is possible if you’re willing to do what is needed to make it yours. Decide how you want to proceed, and take a step forward. Nothing is too difficult for you or too far away. Be confident and stand strong. There is great happiness and success just ahead, and you will make them yours.