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Have Mercy

12 Mar

Everyone makes mistakes from time to time.  We don’t know everything and sometimes we choose the wrong path for many different reasons.  When we choose badly and hurt those around us, we may ask for forgiveness in an effort to move forward more easily.  It’s good to forgive others when they’ve hurt us.  Carrying around anger from an issue in the past can hold us back and rob our freedom.  If we hold onto anger and disappointment it may keep us from happiness, and the weight of the load may make us miserable.  Forgiving someone for something egregious doesn’t justify or excuse their behavior, but allows us to let go of the pain and be free of the anger.  It’s good to have mercy on others when they’ve erred, and shake away anything holding us in place.  When we’ve been hurt or offended, when someone has done something to diminish us or harm us, we may forgive them knowing the act of forgiving them is for us, to release us from the pain.  Mercy is an act of compassion and kindness, and we can have mercy even when it’s difficult.  Everyone is responsible for every decision they make and mercy will never remove accountability or justice.  Even if we’ve been forgiven, we must answer for every choice.  Nobody is perfect and there will be times when we all make mistakes.  We can only control our own decisions and if we’ve been hurt, we can forgive and move on.  Life is long and we have unlimited experiences as we navigate forward.  We need not carry any pain along with us.  We can have mercy, let go, and trust that justice will prevail.

Revenge seems like a good idea when we’ve been hurt.  It seems fair to even to the score and inflict on someone else what they’ve done to us – or worse.  We all want life to be fair, and may try hard to make sure we’re always fair and appropriate with those around us.  If we’ve been treated badly, we may be tempted to strike back in an effort to make things right.  But lowering our standards to those who have done something wrong will only prove we can do what they’ve done.  It will never elevate us, or make us better.

Allowing those who choose badly to be accountable for what they’ve done instead of trying to punish them is appropriate.  When we’ve been hurt we can determine to continue to be the best we can be and live up to the personal standard we’ve set.  Our lives belong to us and what we do is our responsibility.  Instead of evening the score when we’ve been hurt, we can choose instead to overcome it.  There is nothing more important or powerful than our personal integrity.  Choosing well, despite the choices of others will bring us satisfaction and happiness.

Today if someone has hurt you or done something untoward or hateful to you, remember who you are and honor your personal standards.  You are capable of greatness and nothing is more important than your personal integrity.  Rise above contention and choose nobility.  Nothing can diminish you or hold you in place.  Move forward with confidence.  You are amazing and incredible, and there is great success ahead.


Fair and Even

7 Mar

As we interact with others who come in and out of our lives, we will meet many different kinds of people.  Some will be nice and enhance our experiences, and others may be difficult.  Everyone has their own expressions and ideas about life. We may agree with them at times and or we may be at odds.  There is an old expression, “An eye for an eye,” which loosely means I will give you back what you give to me.  It seems fair to return what we’ve been given and we may want to keep the score even by doing so.  However, if someone does something mean or hateful to us, returning that to them may not serve us well.  We may feel better hitting back, but all we will have accomplished is proving we can go as low as they did.  Who we are is defined by what we do, not what is done to us.  What seems fair may not always be the best choice.  If we want to be the best we can be, we must be willing to reach higher when we’ve been hit below the belt.  When we’ve been betrayed, scorned, cheated on, lied to, or in any other way demeaned, we can step back and decide what is in our best interest going forward.  We need not continue relationships that don’t work.  We can keep a high standard for our behavior and walk away from those who choose another road.  We are always in control of our decisions and can choose the paths that take us where we want to go.  We can be fair and still move forward with grace and dignity.  We deserve the very best of everything.  By choosing well, we will achieve it.

The fight or flight reflex can have a huge influence over us when we’re in situations that are threatening or aggressive.  We may have an almost uncontrollable desire to run from whomever is involved, or we may feel anger rise in us and desire to smash our opponent.  This is a survival mechanism that warns us of impending danger.  However, most of the time we may not be in real danger, but threatened by a situation or person who is bullying and forceful.  If we take a minute to think about how best to proceed instead of simply reacting, we will find greater success moving forward.  We can take a deep breath, recognize the instinctive cues, and then calmly make a decision about how to proceed.  We can be in control of our lives even when things go wrong and choose the best paths ahead.

Sometimes people get ahead and win despite poor decisions and bad behavior.  It’s hard to watch someone succeed by cheating or bullying, and it goes against our ideas of fair play.  When those who are dishonest or unethical win, we may feel burned and angry.  But life has a way of looping around and in the end, there is no way to escape personal accountability.  We can ensure our peace and happiness going forward by making the best choices each day and choosing the paths that will take us where we most want to go.

Today if someone has done something to hurt you and you want to get back at them, remember who you are and what you really want.  Reach higher and choose the road that will take you to excellence.  You are amazing and powerful, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Make your best decisions and every road will open ahead.


6 Feb

As we travel our journey through life there are countless turns, switchbacks, detours and times when we must re-route our way forward. There are rarely moments when the road ahead is paved, perfectly straight and without problems. We learn to navigate by adjusting our course as needed, and try to be as flexible as possible in order to get to the goal. Even if we do everything to plan well, sometimes things go awry and all our ideas get stopped in their tracks. It can feel like a huge avalanche has fallen on the road ahead and there is no way around it. We may stop and wait until the road is cleared but there are always other options available. We can sit and watch while others sort out the mess before us, and be patient while a solution is determined, or we can act on our own to move forward. Huge complications that stop our progress take time to untangle and while we’re working on them new options become available. It’s hard to see other roads when we’re focused on moving forward. When we’re stopped we can look around and all other possibilities become clear. There is never only one road to any destination we desire. There are countless ways to travel and endless options to try. We can review all the potential roads ahead and choose the one that works. There is no destination out of reach or impossible to find. We can alter our course and find the way around any avalanche in our path.

Everyone has their own ideas about what can and cannot be done. Some people are confident in their purposes until something goes wrong, at which time they throw up their hands and walk away. If we stop our journey forward every time we hit a snag we’ll end up staying exactly where we are. There will always be problems, there will always be things in the way, and we will often need to change course. Our goals are important and we certainly have everything we need to achieve them. There is no problem we can’t solve, or change we can’t accommodate. We are strong and powerful and can do anything we desire.

We may think we want an easy life, filled with comfort and success that requires us to do little. However, when things are easy we don’t learn anything new and don’t have the opportunity to become strong. Strength is built through trial, not ease. When things go wrong and we have to try harder, or when our plans fail and we have to start over, we gain wisdom and power. We learn to trust ourselves and understand more deeply what we’re made of and how the world works. Everything we need is already inside us. We can reach and find all the courage and insight necessary to go forward toward success and have the lives we want. It’s all there for us. We need only move forward and claim it.

Today if all your plans have been stopped in their tracks and you can’t move forward, look around at the options available. There are many roads that will take you where you want to go. Make a new plan and chart a new course. You will reach your destination. You are powerful and wise, and nothing will keep you from your dreams.

Now What

30 Jan

As we’re moving through our lives, focusing on our goals, enjoying our associations with others, and working toward our destinations, sometimes things go exactly the way we plan. Events roll forward in predictable ways and the road ahead is open and unobstructed. When we’re moving forward and things are going well we feel confident and sure of success, and it’s only a matter of time before we achieve the goal we’re seeking. And then out of nowhere, sometimes everything changes. We’re steaming along and suddenly the bottom falls out of our plans. It’s like running headlong into an invisible wall. We may be stunned and rattled, speechless and unable to move. Sudden changes turn our course immediately, often without warning, and we may stand stupefied for a moment and wonder, now what? If everything we depended on disappears, and everyone who was with us turns away, we may be left standing, bereft and confused. Change is part of life and sometimes the changes we experience are extreme and unexpected. When they happen, it may be so dramatic and all encompassing that we may have no idea how to proceed. If we stop and stand still, and take some time to wrap our heads around all the changes and understand where we are now, we will find the courage we need to continue. The road we were on may be gone but there are countless others we can take and we can start again. We can regain our footing, refocus on what we want to do, and step forward.

When our lives are routine and things are happening the way we expect them to, we feel comfortable and sure. We know how our days will go, and everything is familiar. It’s good to feel relaxed and we may become complacent thinking we’ve got everything under control and all is well. If things suddenly change our first instinct may be to deny what has happened. We may believe if we don’t acknowledge the situation it won’t impact us. Looking away from an issue will not remove it, and ignoring problems will not solve them. Although we may desperately want things to stay the same, change will come, and we can do what is needed to continue forward.

When our lives suddenly change in ways we don’t want and didn’t expect, we may try to force them back to the way they were. We may attempt to restore what was, but there is no way to go back in time and no way to change what has happened. Life marches forward and will not retreat. We can step back, take time to process our new reality and then decide how we want to continue. All our dreams can come true but sometimes we must take the long way around to get to them. If things go wrong, we can find another way. If the bottom falls out, we can rebuild it. Everything is possible and nothing is strong enough to keep us from our goals. We can keep moving forward through any complication and find success.

Today if all your plans have suddenly gone up in smoke and you feel lost and confused, take a moment to understand where you are. Look around and decide how you want to proceed. The goal is still there for you and you can still reach it. Decide on the way forward and start again. The road is there and success is only steps away.

Playing Chicken

23 Jan

Everyone is different, and goals and dreams vary from person to person.  What’s important to one is useless to another, what is desired by one is cast off by another, and so on.  While we may often be successful in managing those differences there will likely be times when we clash with someone else and conflict arise.  If neither side is willing to bend we may decide to play chicken and push our way forward, daring the other person to blink.  It’s good to know what we want and how to get it, but in times of conflict, pushing forward in direct opposition to someone else may not always be our best option.  Determining not to bend may escalate the conflict and before we know it the situation may spiral out of control to a place nobody wanted to go.  Being open to other opinions and listening intently to other viewpoints will help us understand opposing views more clearly.  Once we see things from both sides we may more easily find a compromise that is acceptable to everyone that allows us to move forward.  There is no one right way to do anything.  There are always several options in any scenario and if we’re open to seeing them, the way forward will be easier to find.  Playing chicken will never open the door to increased understanding or acceptance.  It will only prove we know what we want and don’t care about other ideas.  We are capable of being open and willing to hear all viewpoints.  Once everyone knows the whole story from all perspectives, finding an acceptable way forward will be possible.

It’s good to be confident about our lives and decisions, but if we allow our confidence to become superior to those around us it may turn into arrogance.  The difference between solid confidence and arrogance is the conviction that not only can we accomplish what we want to do, our ideas are better than anyone else’s.  Arrogance closes doors before us and other options available.  We can be open to new ideas and outcomes and still be confident in our ability to succeed.  New ideas will bring us fresh perspective and help us find success more easily.

We can always live our lives any way we choose.  We don’t need permission to decide what we want.  If there is dissent, we can be patient and listen to opposing views, and then make whatever decision works best for us.  There need not be tension and stress because we disagree.  We can be gracious and kind, thank others for their input and then choose the best option going forward.  Disagreement need not always turn into a fight.  We can be open and polite, and then make our decisions.

Today if there’s something you really want to do and someone is standing in your way, give them time to express their opinion and listen carefully.  Discuss your views and then decide the best way forward.  There is more than one way to do anything.  The best options are there for you.  Be open and wise.  You will find the best way forward.

Being the Turtle

22 Jan

When we decide to accomplish a goal, we may look at all the options before us and make a plan to begin. We can carefully look at where we want to go and decide how to get there. Once we begin working our plans sometimes the path takes longer than we planned on. It’s hard to wait for something we really want, and we may become impatient with continual delays and complications that keep us from moving forward. If it’s been a long time and we’re tired, we may decide it’s too much and abandon the idea altogether. But if we abandon a goal we cannot accomplish it. It won’t just happen because we want it, or simply appear because we’ve put energy into it. We can always change our plans and move on to different things but if the goal is something we really want, walking away from it out of frustration will not bring satisfaction. We don’t know what we don’t know and some things will take longer than we like, or be more difficult than we thought when we started. If the price turns out to be too high, we can let it go, but every goal is reachable if we’re willing to do what it takes to get there. Things won’t always go the way we want them to but we have all the wisdom and patience we need to continue forward if we desire the destination ahead. If we have to go slow, we can go slow. If we have to wait for a time, we can wait. The goal will always be there and it doesn’t matter how long it takes to reach it. There isn’t anything we can’t do. We can understand the road before us, weigh all the options, and make the best choice going forward.

There is no need for patience if we experience immediate gratification. If everything comes to us the moment we desire it we learn to expect life to work around our needs and may begin to feel entitled. Unfortunately, the world doesn’t revolve around any one person. Everyone has unique personal needs and desires. Nobody gets to go to the head of the line or get an extra measure of attention just because they want it. No matter what we want to do, we can decide how to get there and then work through anything that stands in the way. We are strong enough and smart enough to figure out any complication and find success. We can be patient when we must and still move ahead.

If we’ve been working on something for a long time and our progress forward has been slow we may decide to reevaluate our plans. Timing is important and if what we want to accomplish isn’t working out now, we can set it aside for a time and try again later. Our lives are always changing and sometimes the thing that held us up in the past works for us in the future. We can review our choices and decide how to proceed. We can continue to move forward slowly or we can try again later. Whatever we decide we will find success if we truly desire it.

Today if you’re frustrated with the complications and problems involved in a goal you’ve been trying to reach, step back and review the situation clearly. Decide if you want to continue or set it aside for now. Choose the best way forward. Success is there and you will find it.

Never Happened

16 Jan

Life has a lot of ups and downs and nobody gets a free pass from problems. Things go wrong and we may have to change what we’re doing, where we’re going, or how we’re moving forward. There are unlimited possibilities for complications and detours, and rarely will the road ahead be without some sort of compromise. When there is something very important to us or someone we really want in our lives and the situation changes in unexpected, sometimes disastrous ways, it can be difficult to accept. If the thought of letting go of a dream is too devastating to face, we may decide to ignore what has happened and pretend everything is fine. Denial only makes acceptance impossible and when we refuse to accept what is real we are living in a dream state. It is better to understand whatever reality we are living, even if we must adjust our plans, and find our way through. There isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage, and we can face any disappointment and continue forward. Sometimes things don’t work out. Sometimes we are going to lose and when that happens, despite the disappointment and sorrow, we can find our way. There will always be another step we can take, and there will always be another road to travel. We can accept whatever comes and still find success. We have everything we need to be happy. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us back.

Love is a powerful emotion. When we love someone, we want to be near them and share our lives with them. If they feel the same about us we may find great joy in our interactions with them. But it’s possible to fall in love with someone who doesn’t return our affections. It can be heartbreaking to realize our fondest dreams of them will not be realized. If we must walk away from a relationship we want badly it may be hard to find our footing. But there is always another road ready for us. We can accept what is real, face the situation openly, and find success going forward.

When our lives take a difficult unexpected turn and it’s hard to face the changes before us, the temptation to stay in place may be strong. We may convince ourselves that if we stay where we are things will change, and despite what has happened, everything will work out the way we want it to. We can only control our own choices and waiting for happiness to come to us is futile. Our happiness is our responsibility. We can modify our way forward to accommodate whatever changes have occurred and find our way to the destinations we desire. Our lives belong to us and we can be happy no matter what developments we must face.

Today if your road has suddenly turned and what you were hoping to achieve is no longer available, look at all your options and choose the best way forward. Happiness is there for you and you can modify your course to reach it. Accept whatever changes you must and continue forward. You already have everything you need to succeed. Keep your eyes focused ahead and you will reach the destination you desire.