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Holding the Bag

20 May

We share our lives with lots of other people. Everyone has their own responsibilities and things they must address, and we all have things we continually need to get done. We’re all different and not always on the same playing field. Some of us have more money than others, more opportunities, more influence, more contacts and endless other benefits. We each have specific and unique lives, can control some things, and deal with the rest. When we interact with those around us, we may make commitments to do things, or be somewhere to help or assist in some project or task. If we’re honest when we make the deal and keep our word, generally everything works out fine. But some people don’t value honesty or loyalty, and may say they’ll do something they have no intention of following through on. If we’re the ones they gave their word to and they fail to show, we may be stuck holding the bag. It may be very uncomfortable to have issues we didn’t commit to pushed over onto us because someone else didn’t follow through. If that happens, what we do next is up to us. We can shake our heads, drop everything, and simply walk away, but if that affects others negatively, even though we weren’t initially at fault, it may come back to bite us. We can try to choose what’s best for all involved, but that may require our time and energy. By looking at everything clearly and objectively, we can decide how we want to proceed. We never have to cover for anyone else’s bad decisions, and can make the best choice for each situation. Every answer we need will be there and we can trust ourselves to choose wisely. The decisions of others may complicate our lives from time to time, but we know who we are and can move forward with confidence.

Families are complex. We all have our own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and they may vary greatly even in the same family. If one person struggles with poverty, some may step up to help, and others may not. Each has their own reasons, and despite being in the same family, they may philosophically be very far apart. We can do what we like and make our own decisions, but still be respectful of those whose choices are very different. Few things have only one right answer and there are endless interpretations for everything. By staying true to who we are and honest with those around us, we will feel good about our choices, even if they are different.

Wherever we are, if there are others around us, we may feel pressure to conform to the group. If we make a suggestion they don’t agree with, but it will benefit our situation, we can proceed on our own. We never need permission or agreement to do anything we desire. We know what we want to do and possess everything necessary to make it ours. If we need information, we can find it. If we need help, we can ask for it. There isn’t anything too difficult or complicated for us to manage, and with persistence, focus and determination, we can accomplish whatever we desire.

Today if you’ve been left holding the bag because someone didn’t follow through, decide how you want to proceed. If the goal is important, look at all the possibilities and choose the best road ahead. You are intelligent and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and stand strong. Every single destination is possible and nothing can keep you from success. It’s all there for you. Step forward and claim it.

Skate Shoes

30 Mar

There are lots of people on the earth, and all around us. As we interact with them, we get to know them, what they’re like, what they do well, how they respond and a thousand other cues that help us communicate effectively with them. Most people are polite and try to do their best, but there are always some who are ready to cheat or find ways to manipulate us and the situations we’re in. It’s like that one person on the team project who does nothing. They don’t prepare anything and skip the meetings, but when it’s time to present, they show up and take credit for what’s been done. They don’t want to work so they skate through on the efforts of others, and many times, they may get away with it. When we figure out who they are we may do everything we can to avoid them, and it’s frustrating and difficult if we have to deal with them. It’s unethical and dishonest to skip out and then take credit for things we haven’t done, but those who do it don’t really care about ethics or honesty. They just want the glory, and will take it any way they can. We can speak up and point out what’s going on and hope that will make a difference, and it might, or it might not. The best we can do is deal with what we have, be the best we can be, and continue forward toward our goals despite the annoyance. We know what we want, and there isn’t anything or anyone who can keep us from it. By keeping our eyes trained on the road ahead, with determination and confidence we will reach every success.

Life can be complex and we may face some seriously troublesome times. When things are going wrong and it feels like nothing is working out, we may be tempted to throw up our hands in despair, surrender to defeat and walk away letting someone else handle it. We can do anything we like, and if the goal is too hard right now, we can set it aside until things change, but we never have to give up. Nothing is permanent, and no matter what’s going on now, or where we are, everything will eventually change. If we keep our options open and our watch carefully, we’ll be ready when the door opens ahead.

Some people are frankly lazy. They want to move ahead but they don’t want to work. They want to achieve their goals, but they don’t really want to do anything to make that happen. When they have assignments they need to address, they may lean on those around them, and try to push them off so they skate on through to something they want to do. We’re in control of our lives, and unless someone is in authority over us, never have to take on anything we don’t want. We always have the power to say no, and can continue forward focusing on the goals we’ve set for ourselves.

Today if you’re dealing with a troublesome situation, remember all the times you’ve faced challenges in the past and succeeded. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. All the answers are there for you and you have everything you need to move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal. You are capable of amazing success and nothing can hold you in place. The whole world is there for you and you will win.

Things That Matter

28 Feb

Life is complicated and unpredictable. We never know what will happen next and it’s impossible to see how any situation will eventually end up. We’ll face endless challenges and sometimes just when it looks like everything is settling down, something else pops up that tangles and confuses. The superficial stuff that doesn’t matter is generally easy to manage, but what is important and has the potential for a big impact on our lives can be intense and complex. Things that matter are often hard to navigate, and may take all our attention and energy to manage. Big health decisions, sudden changes in our financial status, family complications, and a host of other difficult and consuming issues may arise. When serious concerns come, everything else may fall by the wayside as we try to figure out what to do and how to proceed. It may feel as though time has stopped, everything is frozen in place, and we may be overwhelmed with the decisions we need to make. Finding the best way forward may take serious thought and consideration, and we may doubt our ability to get through. When everything is upside down, and the road ahead is unknown and unclear, it’s hard to feel confident and sure. At first, we may think there is no way we’ll survive, but we are stronger than we imagine, and as the moments tick by and our understanding increases, we will find our footing. Difficult, horrible, disastrous things may happen. We might lose everything we hold dear, but as long as we’re still breathing, success is possible. Hard times come to everyone, and our worst dreams may appear, but we are stronger than we imagine, and have all the wisdom and insight necessary to find every answer we need. We will never face a time so terrible that there is no way through. By standing firm and trusting ourselves, and reaching deep for the courage within, we will prevail. Even in darkness and despair, our dreams are still there for us. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely, and with patience and determination, we will succeed.

There is no way to know the whole story of what is happening unless it’s happening to us. We may see someone struggling with what appears to be a simple situation with an easy answer, but there may be hidden complications we cannot see. We’re all different and some people prefer to keep their personal issues to themselves. We may offer our assistance if they reach out to us for help, but if the issue is private, they may prefer to keep it to themselves. We’re all more connected than we imagine, and by being supportive and caring, we can be an anchor during times of intense duress.

When our lives take a difficult turn, the skies overhead are dark and it’s hard to see the way forward, we may be concerned and unsettled. It’s hard to know what to do when everything is unsure and foreign, but we have already been through hard and complicated issues, and found our way through. There will always be a way forward and all the answers we need are already there for us. By taking our time, and trusting our instincts, we will find the way ahead and reach the destinations we desire. There will never be anything too awful or confusing for us to figure out. We are strong and wise, and will prevail.

Today if something has turned your world upside down and you feel lost and unsure, trust yourself. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. Stand strong and look at all the options possible. Every answer is there and you will find your way forward. All your dreams are still possible and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself and step forward. The road ahead is waiting, and you will win.

Freeze Frame

18 Feb

Everyone experiences many successes and things that go well. When our plans work out and the road ahead is clear and open, we feel happy and content, and sure we’ll arrive at the destinations we’ve chosen. But not every experience is good, and we’ll all suffer through disappointment and failure from time to time. Nobody is perfect and there is no way to get everything right every time. If we’ve gone through a big defeat that has impacted us greatly, we may feel the pain of loss for a long time. If we really missed the mark and the setback is intense, we might believe we’re doomed to fail going forward. We may struggle with self confidence and wonder if we’ll ever do anything well again. Life is continual and change is constant. Although our memories may hold everything frozen in time, nothing is permanent. Our past experiences teach us important lessons, and if we’ve fallen down, those lessons may be painful and difficult. It may be hard to believe we’ll ever be successful again, but the past is behind us and cannot predict the future. We aren’t forever cursed with failure just because of a bad experience. By learning all we can from what’s already happened, we can take great knowledge forward to help us moving ahead. We learn as we go, and each experience has something of value. We are wiser than we think we are, and can do amazing things. There is greatness in us all, and with patience and determination, every goal is possible.

If we’re out walking, and slip and fall, we don’t stay down and bemoan our situation. We get back up, brush ourselves off and continue on. If we go through a terrible mistake, and everything falls apart, we might stumble and fall. But we don’t have to stay down. We can look at everything that’s happened objectively, think about how we want to proceed, and then stand back up and start forward. There are unlimited destinations before us, and we have what we need to find the way ahead and reach success.

Everyone goes through hard times. We might face a time when no matter what we do, nothing works out. Every decision seems doomed to failure, and we may feel lost and confused. When we’re unsure about how to proceed, we can stop and stand still for a time, look at all the options possible, and then choose our next steps. The road may get twisted around and we might get tangled up, but we are intelligent and will find all the answers we need to move toward success.

Today if you’re unsure and doubting yourself, remember all the times you’ve already overcome difficulty and succeeded. You are strong and powerful, and have everything you need to do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most, and step forward with confidence. Every success is already there, waiting for you. Move forward and make it yours.

No Way Back

31 Jan

We have endless experiences as we go through our lives and since there are many people around us, chances are they will be included. Our connections with others are many and varied. We may only wave to them in passing, they may be coworkers with whom we have a professional relationship, close friends, lovers or something else. When we get along and our interactions are positive, we may value our time with them and try to keep the connection strong. But we’re all different and there will be times when we disagree. We may face intense arguments that cause hurt feelings and damage the relationship. If someone offends us and we feel they are unbearable, we may choose to sever our ties with them, burn that bridge down and build an impermeable wall in front of them. There is nothing we want from them and there is no way back. We can do anything we like, but nobody can see the future or what will happen next. Life has a way of looping around and if something happens that brings them back into our sphere, and we need them for something, if we’ve completely cut them off, it may be hard to re-establish our connection. People often have great memories, and burning everything down will take a lot of effort and time to resurrect. Some people are impossible and we may want nothing to do with them – that is our prerogative. But we don’t have to completely sever all our ties to them. We can walk away and steer our lives in another direction. The old saying, “Live and let live,” will apply. They can do what they want, and we don’t have to be a part of it, but we can keep the link intact, however distant, just in case something changes and we have to interact with them in the future. We can be honest in all our dealings, and do not need to pretend to like them, but we can be polite and tolerant. Every decision we make takes us somewhere. By being pro-active and making the best choices possible, we will achieve great satisfaction and success.

Some people are rude and hateful, and don’t care about anyone but themselves. It’s hard to work with someone like that, and if we must, it may test our patience and endurance. If we have a professional relationship we can’t change, we can find a way to do what is needed to work with them and then move on. If they are family, we can define how much time we can spend with them and still be comfortable and work within those boundaries. We are always in control of everything we do and we can manage our time with difficult people in ways that help us move forward with the least amount of distress.

Love relationships are complicated. If we go through a painful breakup, and it wasn’t our idea, we may be angry and devastated. If there was cheating or some other offense involved, we might want them to suffer and try to think of ways to get back at them. Breakups are hard, but we are valuable and our time is precious. Our decisions define who we are. Instead of revenge, we can walk away from any painful situation with grace and dignity, and move forward toward what will bring us happiness and peace.

Today if there’s a relationship you want to get away from, do what is needed to feel comfortable but don’t burn everything down. You are intelligent and wise, and know how to make excellent decisions. Every destination you are seeking is there for you, and every success is possible. Be confident and step closer to your goals. All things are possible, and you will prevail.