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Free Pass

14 Nov

Every choice we make has consequences. If we’re careful and thoughtful, and do our best to choose the best possible options, chances are the consequences of those decisions will work in our favor. But people are complex and life is complicated. Things go wrong, unexpected problems arise, and we make mistakes. If we’re stressed, overwhelmed, angry or distracted, we might make a decision that isn’t in our best interest and has dire results. We are free to choose anything we like, but we’re not free to choose the results of those decisions. There is no way to escape our accountability for the choices we make. It doesn’t matter is we were stressed, upset, confused, or convinced by someone else to do something. If we make a decision, it belongs solely to us, and we’ll answer for what happens next. When we choose the first step on any path, we also choose the last. Accountability must be satisfied and there is no way to escape. We may have good excuses for why we did something, and they may be convincing, but there are no free passes. We are responsible for every decision we make. Nobody can make us do anything we don’t want to do. If we acquiesce when we know it’s the wrong choice, we must endure what comes. We can try to explain our way out, and offer any excuses we think might help us, but nothing can change the path we’ve chosen. Once a decision is made it cannot be erased. But even if we’ve erred, we can do what is necessary to fix the situation, and then proceed forward with renewed confidence and choose more carefully. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices, and nothing can prevent us from reaching our goals. With wisdom and patience, we can choose the roads that will move us forward and help us find success.

There are a lot of excuses and reasons for bad decisions. If the situation was intense and we felt pressured, we may say we couldn’t help what happened. We are always in control of everything we do, and even if we’re being pressed or bullied, we can stand firm and make the best decisions possible. Every choice we make takes us somewhere and by being proactive and thoughtful, we can make the best decisions that bring us the results we most desire.

It’s good to be kind and have mercy on someone who chooses badly, but justice must prevail. Nobody is perfect and even if others are considerate and understanding, we are still accountable for our choices. Once we’ve chosen a road, we must travel it to the end. There is no way to erase the past and the best we can do is choose more wisely moving forward. Life is all about learning and every step teaches us something to carry forward. We are able to learn from our mistakes and make excellent choices. Every goal is possible and with wisdom and care, we will reach them.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision that’s bringing you difficulty and trouble, think about your next steps forward. You can change course and turn your direction toward where you most want to go. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

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Opposition

30 Oct

A new highway that’s clear and smooth is easy to travel. We can coast along and look at the scenery, not worried about obstructions or interference as we move ahead. The pavement is even, and the trip is effortless and uncomplicated. We may wish our lives went as easily, and sometimes they do. When that happens, we can relax and just go with the flow. But life is fickle and nothing stays the same forever. Before we know it, something goes wrong, and there is opposition blocking our way. Opposition is a normal feature of every day life. There are endless ideas and attitudes, and countless people coming in and out of our focus all the time. Everyone has a different slant on how they think everything should proceed, and when their opinions conflict with our own, even if we’re headed in the same direction, there may be push back. The paved roads we desire may be impossible to find. If we’re determined to do things our way, and refuse to consider any other interpretation, we my face a very difficult and stressful situation. It’s good to be confident, and we can live our lives any way we choose, but when others are involved, it can get messy if everyone doesn’t agree. There are many roads to every destination and even if our ideas are excellent, it doesn’t mean they are the only ones worth considering. If we are alone and don’t have to acknowledge anyone else in our decision, we can do anything we like. But if others are included, every idea will need to be explored. We are intelligent and can make excellent decisions. Including others in the choices we make going forward will help diffuse conflict. Opposition will always be there, but if we’re open to other interpretations and ideas, we’ll find the best way forward.

It’s very hard to collaborate with someone who only sees their own point of view. If we are limited to one road ahead and will not consider any other option it will be impossible to hear any other message. Tunnel vision limits us to only one solution, but there are always other options possible. If we only look one way, we may miss many other options that may bring success more easily and effectively. Looking around and letting new ideas enter the picture will enable us to more easily find the best way forward, and reach our goal.

When we have a good idea and others are involved, we can explain our plans and hope for agreement. There will times when everyone will be on the same page, but other times there may be objections. We can listen to any challenges or doubts, address them and together determine our next steps. Opposition need never stop us from progressing. We can listen and find common ground with those around us, and work together to reach the goal.

Today if you’re getting push back on an idea you want to pursue, listen to the opposing viewpoint and evaluate all your options. There will always be a possible compromise that will enable you to move forward. You are smart and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Be open to new ideas, and use them to find the best road ahead. Every success is possible and nothing will keep you from winning.

Two Wrongs

5 Aug

Every decision we make takes us somewhere. If we’re mindful and careful, and take time to see the road ahead before we choose, we have a better chance of ending up somewhere we want to go. There’ll always be unforeseen complications and details we don’t know about, and sometimes things will go wrong. But most of the time, if we consider all our options, we can make excellent choices that bring us the results we desire. If we get involved in a situation where someone has a lot of influence over us and asks us to do something we aren’t sure about, we may hesitate. If they’re forceful and determined to push us their way, despite our concerns, we may acquiesce and go along. Sometimes other people’s decisions will work out for us but other times we may end up headed for trouble. We always have the choice to change direction and start again, but if we’re swept up under someone’s influence, we may feel powerless to turn around. One bad decision may lead to another, and then another, and before we know it, we’re in foreign and difficult territory, far from where we want to be. Two wrongs can never make anything right. They don’t cancel each other out, and continuing on the wrong road in the hopes that somehow it will magically turn into the right one, will never work. We’re always in control of our lives and no matter what others choose or how much pressure they bring in an effort to take us along, we can make our own decisions. We don’t have to agree to anything we don’t want. Nobody knows more about where we want to go than we do. We can have the lives we desire most by making careful choices that lead us to the destinations we want. Every blessing is possible and with patience and determination, we will find true happiness.

Some people like to control others to get what they want. If we have something they want, they may do all kinds of things to try and make us give it. If we don’t agree, they may manipulate the situation to pressure us into compliance. It’s very difficult and unpleasant to deal with situations like these, and if being honest and straightforward doesn’t work, we may consider something underhanded in an effort to escape. We’re always accountable for everything we do, and there is no excuse powerful enough to turn bad behavior into good. Choosing well will always bring blessings. We have all the courage and wisdom we need to make decisions that reflect our high standards and hold fast to what is noble and right.

If we go along with a bad decision that complicates and negatively impacts our life, we can stay with it and hope things will improve, or stop and rethink the way forward. No decision is written in stone and we can change direction at any time. We don’t need permission or agreement to correct our course. Every road is possible and with determination and focus, we can move toward the destinations we want the most.

Today if someone is pressuring you to make a choice you don’t agree with, stand firm and choose what’s best for you. You’re in control of your life and can go anywhere you desire. Every option is available and you will find the right way forward. Choose roads that will take you where you want to go, and make your dreams come true.

Heart

25 Jul

We live in a world with billions of people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there are many others around us all the time. They come and go every day, and we build connections and relationships, some just in passing, and others that last our entire lifetimes. Everyone has their own perspective and ideas about how the world works and how things should go. We may agree, or disagree, and every exchange teaches us something new. Sometimes misunderstandings arise and we may have no idea what went wrong. There are always a lot of distractions on the surface, but if we want to know what’s really going on, we’ll have to dig a little deeper. If we want to find out what’s really happening, we’ll have to get to the very heart of the matter. That may mean looking at things we’re uncomfortable with and allowing ourselves to be see where we may have gone wrong. Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes. If we discover we’ve done something that’s caused pain or discomfort, we can look at the situation openly and do what is needed to amend it. In times of distress or misunderstanding, it will never serve us to ignore the issue and pretend it will go away on its own. Most problems won’t resolve without the input of those involved. They may get pushed back and ignored, but they will remain unsettled until we clearly look at them and do what is needed to address them. If we refuse to see them, we will carry them forward with us indefinitely and they may affect our future happiness and comfort. We deserve to live happily and unencumbered by problems. We can face any situation pulling on us and find the answers we need to resolve it and let it go. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to find every answer we desire. Our lives are important and we are valuable. We can live effectively and openly, and find every happiness.

Some people are very private and don’t like to share their feelings. They may not tell us if we’ve done something that’s offended them. Instead, they may pretend everything is fine but we may sense something is amiss. It can be hard to find answers when the person holding them isn’t comfortable sharing information with us. We can be patient and understanding, and extend the hand of friendship even in times of duress. Showing we care, despite any friction, will help us build trust and open the doors to better communication.

We have all kinds of relationships, and can always choose to build a bridge, or close a door. We don’t have to continue relationships that are painful, or destructive, and we can walk away if a situation isn’t working. If we aren’t comfortable, we can change direction and step away. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives, and we have everything we need to get them.

Today if you feel something amiss in a relationship and don’t know what to do, think about what’s happened and get to the heart of the matter. Reach for understanding, and then move forward with confidence. Nothing is too complicated for you to comprehend, and you will find all the answers you need.

Loosening the Grip

21 Jun

Life is filled with options and every day we make dozens of decisions. Some of them are inconsequential and it doesn’t matter what we choose, but others may have far-reaching impact on our lives. Getting into debt, continuing a dysfunctional relationship, committing to more than we can accomplish, and other choices, may bring great stress and difficulty. It’s easy not to pay attention and make spur of the moment decisions, but every choice we make will take us somewhere and if the destination isn’t someplace we want to go, we may experience tribulation and discomfort. We’re always in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can be aware of every choice and try to make excellent decisions, or we can fly by the seat of our pants and let the chips fall where they may. It’s all up to us. If we choose poorly and complicate our lives, we can try to blame others and their influence, our inability to see clearly, our inexperience, or anything else. But in the end, we own every choice we make. Thankfully, nothing in life is permanent and we can always modify our situation and the road ahead. It’s always possible to loosen the grip of any difficult situation and start again. There will always be an alternative available to us. It may take time to correct our position, and it may take work, but we have everything we need to do anything we desire. Every possibility is there for us and we can choose wisely and accomplish any task we choose. We deserve fulfilling and happy lives. We can make good, strong decisions, correct our course when needed, and step forward with confidence and clarity.

There are many influences from others that press on us every day. There are endless opinions about how we should live our lives, and if we aren’t sure about which way to turn, we may do as they suggest in an effort to find our way. We know ourselves better than anyone else and can make excellent decisions about what’s best for us. We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to make good choices moving forward, and can find our way to any goal we desire.

Sometimes there may be pressure to follow along with those around us. It’s fun to join in with the group when they’re doing things we want to pursue, but if we have other ideas about where we want to go, we can forge our own personal path forward. Even if everyone is going one way, we can choose another. Our lives belong solely to us and we can do anything we want or go anywhere we want to go. The road ahead is determined by our decisions, and when we’re true to ourselves, all our dreams can come true.

Today if you’re in a bind because of decisions you’ve made, decide how you want to proceed. You have everything you need to get the life you want. Every challenge can be overcome and there are solutions and answers to every issue. Be confident and make a plan to move forward. Every dream is possible, and you can make them all yours.

Middle Road

1 May

No two people are exactly alike. We may have friends who share similar interests and agree with us on lots of things, but we’re all unique in many ways and there will always be differences. Sometimes those differences are insignificant and we can overlook them, but other times they may be extreme and difficult to ignore. If we’re diametrically opposed to someone else’s idea or opinion, it may cause disagreements and conflict as we try to interact with them. Some people are intensely convinced their viewpoints are the best and don’t like being questioned. They’re committed to their opinions and don’t respond well when others disagree. They prefer unwavering loyalty and want others to follow along. It may be easier to remain quiet when we disagree with those who have strong opinions, but our ideas are just as important as anyone else’s. We never have to go along to get along, and can certainly express our own thoughts at any time. We can be polite and gracious to the opposing viewpoint, and still hold fast to our own beliefs. There is always a possible compromise no matter how far apart our ideas may be. If we’re willing to bend a little, and meet in the middle, we can allow everyone to have a voice, even if our views are completely different. We all want to be heard, and deserve to have our ideas honored and respected. We can listen to other interpretations, even if we don’t agree, and find a way to work together. There is no one, perfect way to live and every road offers something of value. We can be open to new ways of thinking, and share the journey with those who are different. Life is all about learning and with each experience we gain something of value to carry forward.

When we’re sure of ourselves and believe our ideas are best, it may be hard to comprehend how anyone could disagree. Although we’re happy on the path we’ve chosen, that doesn’t mean there aren’t other roads that will take us to success. We can listen to other ideas and find a compromise that allows everyone to participate. By turning a little to the left or right, we can work together to reach any destination.

If we’re convinced there is only one way forward, we may demand that others comply with our wishes. Digging in our heels and refusing to budge will never move us forward. It’s impossible to advance when we’re standing still arguing over how to proceed. Few people will be convinced to follow along if they are forced to agree. It’s far better to use our positive influence to express our views and then listen to other opinions. The best answers are always available and by being open to hearing all options possible, we will find them.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, express your opinion to those around you and ask for their input. Be open to other ideas and listen carefully. All options are possible and hearing every opinion will open new doors. Find answers that include everyone and move forward with confidence. You are incredible and capable. Nothing is beyond your reach. Every destination is possible and together, you will reach it.

The Beach

30 Apr

Everyone wants an easy life where things go right and we’re not in pain or inconvenienced. It would be great if we didn’t have to deal with problems and complications, and could just move forward exactly the way we want going exactly where we want to go. Nobody really wants to face a tangled mess holding us in place, or figure out how to get through a convoluted, complex and painful situation. But we’ll all face them from time to time, and what we do in those moments will often determine what comes next. If we ignore the situation, and just look the other way, it will remain until we address it. Or it may worsen, at which point we may wish we had done something sooner. There will be times when our lives will go just the way we want them to, and everything will be easy, but those times are fleeting. Life has lessons for us to learn and every problem we solve teaches us something new about ourselves and the world around us. We gain new skills that help us moving forward, and become more confident every time we overcome adversity. We become stronger, more capable, and wiser with each experience. The successes bring us increased fortitude, and the failures help us become more teachable and humble. Everything we go through has a blessing to offer and there is something good we can take away from each experience. Even in our darkest hours, there is light to be found. Learning as much as we can as we move forward will help us find our way, and ensure success. We are strong and capable, and nothing is powerful enough to hold us down. Every success is possible and with determination we can make all our dreams come true.

Vacations are wonderful and we all need and deserve them. It’s a wonderful thing to lean back in a lounge chair and tarry on a beach with nothing to do. When we step away from our responsibilities and take a break, we find refreshment and renewal, and gain the strength we need to continue forward. There is much we want to accomplish and we can return to our lives rested and ready, and push ahead toward success. Everything is possible and we are intelligent and competent enough to achieve anything we desire.

When we’re going through very difficult and complicated issues, when it seems the trouble is endless and we’re struggling to find our way through, it may feel like we’ll never win. There is just too much stress, too much conflict, and too much to worry about. But if we stand firm and take everything apart one step at a time, we’ll find the answers we need and resolve the issue. There isn’t anything too hard or complex for us to figure out. We can be confident we’ll prevail and push forward until we reach success.

Today if you’re overwhelmed with an issue that is consuming your life and feel like there is no way out, remember how strong and powerful you are. You’ve resolved many difficult issues already and have everything you need to succeed. Nothing is beyond your reach. Be confident and walk forward. Success is just ahead and you will reach it.