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Thin Skin

7 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world and they each have their own ideas about life and how things should go. We know who we are, and are sure about what we want and how we want to move forward. It’s easy to make friends and feel comfortable when those around us are like us. When they believe the same things we do, and understand our point of view, it’s easy to connect and build alliances. But the world is a big place, and people come from many diverse backgrounds. There will be many others who are vastly different than we are, and their views may be in direct opposition to what we believe is right. That does not make them wrong, or wicked, or less than us. It only makes them different. If we can’t tolerate anything outside our own ideas, it will be very difficult to interact with them. We are entitled to believe anything we desire and we can form our own opinions about everything in life. But if we’re so thin skinned we cannot tolerate anyone who is different, it may be difficult for us to get along. Some people say they “celebrate diversity” but when someone questions their ideas and presents an opposing view, they shut down or become angry. No two people are exactly the same. Everyone has their own perspective, and unless they are hurting others, each has value. We don’t have to adopt anything we don’t want, and can decide how we’ll live our own lives. We can be confident in our views, and strong enough to accept other points of view, even if we don’t understand or agree with them. Life is full of variety and variation. We can be welcoming and respect other points of view, and still hold onto to what is most important. Everyone has worth, and we can honor each individual, and still choose our own way forward.

When we’re growing up, what we experience in our families seems normal and right. As we mature, we begin to see other expressions and understand that our experience is unique to us and not universal. We can hold onto exactly what makes us comfortable and refuse to change, or we can embrace other points of view and allow them to enrich our understanding of the world around us. Holding on may feel comfortable, but will never allow us to expand our thinking and become more accepting.

Life would be easier if everyone was the same. If we were all on the same road with the same ideas, there would be less conflict and more harmony. That may be true, but it’s the differences that bring great richness to our experience, and broaden our thinking. We can accept difference and uniqueness, and honor the right for everyone to express their own ideas and viewpoints. Life is a great teacher, and by being open and welcoming, we will gain great insight and wisdom.

Today if you want everyone to agree with you and find it hard to accept different points of view, remember we are all important and worthwhile. Each expression has value. Be open to new ideas that will enhance your experience and help you understand the world. You are incredible and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Let others tell you who they are, and welcome new ideas. Your life will be enriched, and you’ll find great satisfaction moving forward.

Loud Mouth

22 Jul

There are billions of people on the planet sharing space with us. We’ll never see them all but there will likely always be people around us. We are constantly interacting with others, some we know and others who are strangers in passing. Everyone out there is making their own decisions, and doing things that may affect our lives, not always positively. Some people have strong personalities and are very forceful. They know what they want and make sure everyone around them is aware of where they’re headed. If we’re timid and more reserved, and don’t agree with them, they may run over us pushing forward, never looking back. If we must work with them, and they power over us, and we feel intimidated, we may shrink down and try to blend into the background to avoid a confrontation. It can be hard to stand our ground in front of someone determined to diminish us. Everyone is valuable, and we all have things to offer that are important and worthwhile. Those who are louder may try to push us, but being loud doesn’t mean they have all the answers or know everything. It just means they’re loud. We don’t have to outmatch them in sound or muscle to make our positions known. We can speak up with confidence and clarity, and offer our own perspectives. Nobody will see things exactly as we do, and we can share our point of view in ways that open new doors ahead. We are the only ones who can give the gifts we have to offer. By trusting ourselves, and refusing to shrink, we can contribute to every situation and be part of the road ahead. There is greatness within us. We can share our impressions and ideas, and find intense reward and satisfaction.

Nobody sees everything the same way. We all perceive what is happening through our own filters, formed by the experiences we’ve had so far. What is obvious to one, may be unseen to another. There will rarely by only one way to accomplish anything, or one road that leads to a destination. When we feel strongly about a situation, we can share our thoughts with others involved, and then allow them to express their ideas as well. We don’t have to insist that everything be done our way, but can compromise and bring everyone into the plan.

If we must work with someone who believes they are the only one who has the answers, and they refuse to hear another other options, it may be hard to feel valued and appreciated. If they have authority over us, we may have to follow their instructions. But if not, we can express our opinions and suggestions, and request consideration. If they refuse, we may decide to step away. We have much to offer, and our contributions make the world a better place.

Today if you have to work with someone who is loud and forceful, and is trying to convince you their way is the only possible option, trust yourself and remember your ideas are valuable. Speak up and share your thoughts with those around you. You are amazing. There is nobody else like you in all of creation. You bring light and wisdom, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Still There

20 Jul

There are unlimited experiences we’ll have as we navigate through our lives. We can’t read the future and there is no way to anticipate what will come next. Each day brings new challenges and we may be amazed and surprised at the things we must face. Even if we try to plan effectively, something can happen unexpectedly that completely knocks us off course. If we must face several difficult challenges one after the other, we may tire, and if another appears, we may believe we have nothing left. We might think we’ve used up all our courage and stamina, and there is no way we can manage anything more. If we’re overwhelmed, we may decide to just give up. Even if we’ve been through an extreme situation, and feel it has pulled everything we have within us, we will still have what we need at every turn. We will never use up all our courage and wisdom, or run out of intelligence and insight. No matter how hard the road has been, or how long we’ve been struggling, we will always have what we need to continue forward. Our capacity to prevail will still be there. Life is filled with uncertainty, and we may get lost a time or two, but with focus and determination, we will always find our way forward. The road we need ahead will be there for us, and we will succeed. Things will go wrong, we may get knocked down and run over, and we might face desperate moments we aren’t sure we can survive. But nothing can hold us down indefinitely or keep us from moving ahead. We can unravel any situation that conspires against us, solve any problem that arises, and find the road forward. Every success is there for us already. We need only trust ourselves to continue, and claim it.

There is no way to prepare for the unknown and we might get caught off-guard by something we feel unready to face. Nobody knows everything, but we are intelligent and capable of managing whatever comes. If we’re overwhelmed and fall down, we can be still until we’re ready to get back up. All the answers we need are there for us, and with confidence and clarity, we will find our way. Nothing is powerful enough to keep us in place. We know what we want, and can achieve it, no matter what comes.

Some events are so devastating and disastrous, they change our lives. We may see things in a completely new light, and may dramatically alter our course moving forward. Change is constant and unpredictable, but changing course doesn’t mean we have to give up our dreams. The destinations we desire will still be there for us, and when we’re ready, we can move toward them. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and can prevail through whatever we must face. Every goal is possible, and we will succeed.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult situation and it seems everything has changed, trust yourself. Nothing can hold you down and all your dreams are still possible. Look at everything objectively, and decide how you want to proceed. You are powerful and amazing, and every success is there for you. Step forward with calm and confidence. You have everything you need, and you will win.

On Borrowed Time

6 Jul

Every decision we make has an outcome. The results we get may be what we expected or they could be entirely different. When we’re making choices, if we want to get to the destination we’re seeking, we can take our time and evaluate all the possible options before us. If we choose wisely, we’re more likely have a positive outcome. But life is complicated and there are all kinds of distractions and people around us that may influence our choices. If we choose something out of desperation without thinking, we may end up far from where we want to go. If we choose something out of spite or malice, we may get results that are very difficult and unpleasant. Few things are instantaneous and there is often a lag time between the choices we make and how the results affect our lives. It may seem like everything is fine, but if trouble is brewing that we can’t yet see, it’s like living on borrowed time. There is no way to escape accountability for anything we do. The seeds we sow will always bring a harvest, and if we’ve been unwise or vengeful, that harvest may bring us great discomfort. We can try to dodge the results, and even deny we were involved, but truth will always rise, and in the end, we’ll have to face the consequences of what we’ve done. Living on borrowed time is often a recipe for disaster. We are capable of making good, strong, wise decisions, and with careful consideration, can pave the road ahead in ways that help us reach our personal goals. We know what we want, and with wisdom and clarity, can do anything we desire. Every dream is possible, and with thoughtfulness and attention, we can always reach success.

There are all kinds of people in the world and some may be difficult for us to deal with. We may not understand them, or they may do things that make our lives difficult. If they bring us trouble, we may think about getting back at them. There are endless ways to make others miserable, and if we want to, we can cause hardship. Throwing stones may feel good at first, but will never move us closer to our own goals. Taking time for revenge only takes time away from our own journey. We can rise above any complication, and continue forward toward the goals we want the most.

Nobody can read the future and we never know what will happen next. We can try to make excellent choices, but we can only use the facts we have, and sometimes we don’t get the whole story. No decision is forever and we are never frozen in place. We can change anything we like at any time. If we’ve chosen a road that looked good at the beginning but is taking us far from where we want to go, we can stop and choose something else. We are always in control of our lives and can always modify them. We can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach, and we will succeed.

Today if you’ve made a bad choice and are living on borrowed time before everything turns, remember how strong and capable you are. You know what you want and have everything you need to reach any goal you desire. Decide how you want to proceed, and make the best choice moving forward. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success. Step forward with confidence and clarity, and you will succeed.

Obstruction

24 Jun

We live in the world with billions of other people. We’ll never meet them all but there will likely always be someone around us. We all have our own goals and ideas, and are all on different roads. There are unlimited ways to get to any destination, and we choose our own path. Although our journey is ours alone to design, it doesn’t mean while we’re on our way we’ll be alone the entire time. Everyone gets to design their lives any way they like and we may face a time when someone else’s journey causes a disruption in our own. We may be in each other’s way trying to move forward. What we want may be in direct opposition to what they are trying to achieve, and if we must work together, there will be conflict. If we’re sure our plans are best and we’re determined to continue the way we started, it may be hard for us to listen to any other point of view. We can dig in our heels, and refuse to budge, but a stalemate will never move us forward. There is a way around every obstruction we may face. Compromising doesn’t mean we have to give up what we want. We can hear other suggestions for the way forward, and modify our plans to accommodate whatever situation we’re in. We never have to stop our journey indefinitely to allow someone else to complete theirs. It will always be possible to find a solution to any impasse that lets everyone continue forward and helps us reach our goals. We are smart and able to find solutions to any problems we face. By being open to new ideas and listening carefully, we’ll find the answers we need. Success will always be there for us, and we will prevail.

When we drive a car there are rules of the road we must obey. They are designed to help everyone move ahead without causing problems or blockades. We will rarely have the road to ourselves, and it’s important to follow the rules so that everyone can move forward and reach their destination. If we come upon something that blocks our path, trying to ram it out of the way or drive over it may cause us more delay and trouble than simply stopping, and looking for a way around it. The same is true in our personal journeys. We can always find an alternate route to get us to our goal, and overcome any obstacle. Nothing can keep us from success, and we can move forward with clarity and confidence.

Some people may feel they have all the answers and any non-compliance with their ideas is unacceptable. If they have authority over us, we may be compelled to follow their lead, but if not, we can choose our own path. We’re all entitled to our own opinions, but that’s all they are – opinions. Nobody has the inside track on anyone else’s life. We know what we want, and where we want to go, and with determination and focus, can reach every goal.

Today if your plans have hit a big roadblock and you can’t move, stop and look at all the possibilities available. There is always a way around any problem we face. Decide how you want to proceed, and continue forward. You are capable of greatness, and nothing can keep you from your goals. Trust yourself and step forward toward success.