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Smackdown

14 Sep

We share the world with lots and lots of other people, and each of us has our own ideas about what we should do and how things should go. We may find others who share many of our opinions, but no two people are exactly the same. Although we may try to always get along with those around us, we will likely face times of conflict because we don’t share the same viewpoints. If the interaction is civil and polite, we may simply agree to disagree, but some people are very sure their way is the only correct way to proceed. If we don’t agree with them, we may face serious contention, and even become engaged in an argument or worse. If they are strong and have some sort of control over us, and will not tolerate dissent, they may smack us down to shut us up and hold us in place. We may be forced to follow along despite our personal views. Others may be able to hold us down for a time, but nothing is permanent, and the situation will change. If there’s nothing we can do for now, we can remain in place and wait patiently until a new door opens. We are entitled to our own opinions and can live our lives any way we like, and it’s hard if we must temporarily follow something we don’t agree with. By keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will be ready when an opening appears that allows us to modify our situation. Our ideas and perspectives are important and valuable, and we can trust ourselves to find ways to communicate them in ways that are positive and move us forward. There isn’t anything or anyone powerful enough to hold us down forever, and with clarity and patience, we will find the way ahead.

If we’re sure we have the answers and know the best way forward, we may try to convince others to follow us. We may say we respect their opinions but if they are different than our own, we may try persuade them to follow us. If they disagree, and we’re adamant, we may try whatever tactics we can find to make them comply. What we do defines who we are, and bullying or forcing others to follow us will never help us build the connections we seek. If we’re willing to bend and listen to other viewpoints, cooperation and compromise will open the doors ahead.

There are many roads to every goal and there is never only one way to succeed. Everyone’s ideas are worthwhile, and by listening to other suggestions, we can find the best way forward. New ideas bring fresh perspectives that may not have been seen initially. We are intelligent and will always have a lot of answers but nobody knows everything. By being open and flexible, we will be able to evaluate many different possibilities that enable us to move ahead with confidence and clarity, and reach the goal.

Today remember that everyone has something to offer. The world is filled with differences that enrich us and enhance the road ahead. Listen carefully to any suggestions you receive and decide on the best way forward. You are amazing and intelligent, and nothing is out of reach. Decide how you want to proceed, and take the first step. Every single goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success. 

Trusting the Tide

7 Sep

Life is unpredictable and nobody knows what will happen next or how things will develop. We may be happily sailing along without any concerns when suddenly something changes unexpectedly, and we’re thrown into a fog of confusion and uncertainty. We can only control our own decisions and there are lots of people making choices we know nothing about, that may affect us and stop us in our tracks. When everything turns upside down and we can’t see the road ahead, we may feel surrounded by trouble and lost. The oceans are very big and powerful. Each has a tide that is consistent and constant. No matter what happens in the world, the tide continues to reach the shore. Big storms may cause them to swell and take over the beach, but no storm lasts forever, and eventually everything will settle. We can trust that the rhythm of the tide will continue non-stop until the end of time. When we’re going through extremely difficult and challenging times, when it’s hard to see the way forward and we feel overwhelmed and unsure, it may seem we’ll never get through and instead be frozen in place. We may doubt our ability to manage what’s happening and wonder how we’ll ever find our way again. But we are stronger, wiser and more powerful than we think we are, and nothing can hold us down forever. Like the constant tide, we can trust that no matter where we are or what’s gone wrong, we will find the answers. We will always, every single time, find the way ahead. By remembering how much we’ve already overcome we will find the strength and temerity to stand strong and step forward. Every success is still there for us, and with patience and determination, we will reach them all.

Nobody knows everything and we may face a situation that is so confusing and threatening, we feel it’s impossible. There is too much going on and too much to comprehend all at once. We don’t have to figure everything out in three seconds. If we can’t process what’s going on, we can step back and take the time we need to see everything objectively and clearly. There is always a way forward and by openly looking carefully at the situation, we will find it. Life can be hard, but a big, unexpected turn to the left doesn’t mean we can’t proceed. We are intelligent and capable, and will prevail.

We may face a time when our very worst, dreaded dreams come true. The one thing we thought we could never survive has happened. What do we do now? We can try to hide from the situation, go to bed and pull the blankets up over our head, but refusing to look at problem will never solve it. It will remain until we face it and take it apart piece by piece and find the answers we need. There isn’t anything we can’t do. Like the constant tide, we can trust that no matter what comes, we will find our way through. Life is complicated, but we are smart. Every blessing awaits, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing an extremely difficult situation and you feel overwhelmed, trust yourself. You are powerful and wise and nothing, absolutely nothing can overcome you. Be confident and stand strong. The whole world is blessed because you are here. Show us your best and step forward. There is great success just ahead. Keep your eyes on the goal and you will win.

Permanent

18 Jul

When we’re young, we have ideas about how we want our lives to go. We may make big plans about what we’re going to do – we’re going to be astronauts, or race car drivers, or ballerinas or a million other choices. If we hold onto the same dream as time passes, and work out what we need to do to reach it, we can do just about anything. But time has a way of changing how we think, and modifying what we want. We learn more about how things work and what we can expect, and make choices about the type of lifestyle and work life we desire most. If we’re lucky, and everything falls into place as expected, we may reach our fondest dreams exactly when and how we want them, but this is real life and there’s a lot going on we can’t control. Complications will always arise and sometimes the road will turn without warning. One thing leads to another and we may find the careers we end up with, the places we’re living, and the things we’re doing aren’t what we originally planned on. If we’re happy where we are, great, but nothing is permanent, and if we still yearn for something different we can move toward it. Time is powerful. If we’ve been in a situation that is unfulfilling and unrewarding for a long time, we may believe it would be too difficult to try to change it and just decide to suck it up and deal with it. Of course we can do anything we like, but there isn’t anything that can’t be changed if we’re willing to do what is necessary to change it. It may not be easy, and may be uncomfortable while we work on the transition, but every dream is possible. We can move locations, change careers, let go of relationships that aren’t working, and modify anything that isn’t making us happy. We’re in control and it’s all up to us. By deciding what we want the most and then doing what is needed to make it ours we can achieve complete happiness and satisfaction. Nothing is out of reach and we are smart enough, and strong enough to reach success.

Relationships are important and when they work well they add great benefit and blessing to us. It’s wonderful to share our lives with someone who likes us, enjoys spending time with us, and wants the best for us. If we’re in a relationship that is difficult and brings continual duress and stress, it will be impossible to be happy. We might learn how to deal with the ups and downs, and how to manage the arguments and problems, but expending energy just to get through on a continual basis will wear on us and prevent us from finding true happiness and peace. We deserve complete happiness and never have to stay in any situation that doesn’t work for us. We can change anything at any time, and have the lives we dream of.

If we’re working, our careers may be very important to us. If we’re doing something we enjoy, work is easy, but that isn’t always the case. The dream jobs we want aren’t always available to us and we may end up doing something we didn’t plan on because of opportunity, income or a thousand other reasons. Once we’ve been in the job for a while and become established, it may seem that although we aren’t happy, trying to change would be too difficult. Change isn’t always easy but if there is something we really want, we have everything we need to get it. Routines are comfortable and it’s easy to keep doing the same things again and again, but nothing is permanent. We can modify anything at any time. Every option is possible and with wisdom and clarity, we can create the lives we want the most.

Today if you’re not satisfied with something in your life but have been reluctant to change it, think about what you want the most. You are amazing and far more capable than you imagine. Every dream is possible if you’re willing to do what is needed to make it yours. Decide how you want to proceed, and take a step forward. Nothing is too difficult for you or too far away. Be confident and stand strong. There is great happiness and success just ahead, and you will make them yours.

Flood Waters

22 Jun

We all share the planet with lots of other people. We have friends and associates, people we work with, neighbors, family – the list is long. We may get along well with those around us and it’s easy when everyone is on the same page and sharing common interests. We’re all different and unique in our own specific ways, and conflict is a normal part of life. There will be few times when everyone agrees about everything. If our relationships are important to us, we can take the minor disagreements in stride and continue on but we may face a situation where we are completely opposed to what someone else is doing or saying. If we’re confident in our own position we may handle the conflict more easily than if we’re threatened by what’s happening or want more control over the issue. If we get angry enough we may decide to severe the relationship and burn that bridge behind us. We can do anything we like, but every connection we make is a bridge that supports us moving forward. If we burn down everything that doesn’t go our way, nobody will be around to help us when things change. When flood waters come if we’re stuck with no bridge to cross, we may lose more than we bargained for. We don’t live in Nirvana and will never agree with everyone, but we can find a way to disagree and still hold onto the relationship. By looking at the situation objectively and weighing every aspect carefully, we can make decisions that allow us to maintain our position without destroying our connections with those around us. Nobody gets everything the way they want it. We can learn to give and take and find common ground that will support us and pave the road ahead. We are intelligent and wiser than we imagine. Every answer we need will always be there for us and every success is possible.

Some people have very quick tempers and may become irate when things don’t go their way. Like a small child who loses their turn, they may decide to take their ball and go home instead of working through disagreements. Refusing to bend will never build strong relationships. If we quit and walk away every time someone annoys us, we will have few connections to share our lives with. Living alone and isolated might be easier when things are going well, but when the storms come – as they inevitably will – our personal relationships will bring us great comfort and satisfaction.

Good, strong relationships require compromise. We can’t always have things our way, even if we’re sure it’s the best way forward. Every opinion has value and we all deserve to live our lives the way we want to. If we come to an impasse and simply cannot agree on something, we can set it aside until our situation changes and new options arise. There is an answer to every question and a solution for every problem. If we are patient and willing to listen, we will find the way forward.

Today if you’ve had enough and are sure there is no way to continue, think about all the options possible. Before you burn a bridge, look at everything objectively and be open to new ideas. You are intelligent and highly capable and can find the answers you seek. Be wise and be confident. Every answer is there for you and with clarity and focus, you will find the way forward. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire, and you will succeed.

Holding the Bag

20 May

We share our lives with lots of other people. Everyone has their own responsibilities and things they must address, and we all have things we continually need to get done. We’re all different and not always on the same playing field. Some of us have more money than others, more opportunities, more influence, more contacts and endless other benefits. We each have specific and unique lives, can control some things, and deal with the rest. When we interact with those around us, we may make commitments to do things, or be somewhere to help or assist in some project or task. If we’re honest when we make the deal and keep our word, generally everything works out fine. But some people don’t value honesty or loyalty, and may say they’ll do something they have no intention of following through on. If we’re the ones they gave their word to and they fail to show, we may be stuck holding the bag. It may be very uncomfortable to have issues we didn’t commit to pushed over onto us because someone else didn’t follow through. If that happens, what we do next is up to us. We can shake our heads, drop everything, and simply walk away, but if that affects others negatively, even though we weren’t initially at fault, it may come back to bite us. We can try to choose what’s best for all involved, but that may require our time and energy. By looking at everything clearly and objectively, we can decide how we want to proceed. We never have to cover for anyone else’s bad decisions, and can make the best choice for each situation. Every answer we need will be there and we can trust ourselves to choose wisely. The decisions of others may complicate our lives from time to time, but we know who we are and can move forward with confidence.

Families are complex. We all have our own ideas about how things should go and what should be done, and they may vary greatly even in the same family. If one person struggles with poverty, some may step up to help, and others may not. Each has their own reasons, and despite being in the same family, they may philosophically be very far apart. We can do what we like and make our own decisions, but still be respectful of those whose choices are very different. Few things have only one right answer and there are endless interpretations for everything. By staying true to who we are and honest with those around us, we will feel good about our choices, even if they are different.

Wherever we are, if there are others around us, we may feel pressure to conform to the group. If we make a suggestion they don’t agree with, but it will benefit our situation, we can proceed on our own. We never need permission or agreement to do anything we desire. We know what we want to do and possess everything necessary to make it ours. If we need information, we can find it. If we need help, we can ask for it. There isn’t anything too difficult or complicated for us to manage, and with persistence, focus and determination, we can accomplish whatever we desire.

Today if you’ve been left holding the bag because someone didn’t follow through, decide how you want to proceed. If the goal is important, look at all the possibilities and choose the best road ahead. You are intelligent and capable, and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Trust yourself and stand strong. Every single destination is possible and nothing can keep you from success. It’s all there for you. Step forward and claim it.