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Overkill

18 Sep

As we interact with everyone around us, there will be times when we’re in agreement with what’s happening, and other times when we’ll disagree. We’re all individual and have our own unique ideas about life and how things should go. When everyone wants the same things it’s easy to move forward, but if we are in direct opposition there will be conflict. It’s normal to have disagreements, and how we handle them when they arise will color what happens next. If we’re determined to get our way, and absolutely refuse to budge, we may get angry when others won’t bend to our will. Instead of simply working the problem and trying to find a solution, our emotions may take over and we may do and say things that insult, or hurt those involved, hoping that if we make them feel bad enough, they’ll comply. Our fight or flight reflex is in full control, and we aren’t running anywhere. We are determined to fight it out until we win. By yelling, insulting, demeaning, or whatever other destructive tool we can find, we decide we’ll squash anyone who opposes our point of view. We’ll use anything, no matter how extreme, to get our way. Going overboard in our reactions during times of disagreement will never help us move forward. Using a cannon when all we need is a fly swatter will only cause bad feelings, and broken trust. Nobody wants to work with someone who can’t control their temper or accept other opinions. Even if we feel strongly and are sure our way is the best way forward, instead of losing our minds and trying to force the issue, we can express ourselves openly and with clarity, and then let everyone decide how to proceed. All opinions are important, and we can be patient, and open toward resolution. Success is always possible, and with clarity and confidence, we can reach every destination.

We’re all at different places on our own journeys. If we’ve moved forward quickly and are ahead of the group, we may think we’re entitled to give advice and correction to those coming along. Everyone appreciates help when they’re struggling, but nobody wants to constantly be told what to do. We can be positive and encouraging, and share whatever information we’ve gained, and then let others decide how they’ll proceed. We can lead the way without directing every turn.

Everyone has their own methods for navigating the road ahead. Some people like to move slowly and learn everything they can with each step. Others prefer to run faster and only take what they think they’ll need moving forward. There is no one perfect way to live, and there is no need to micro-manage or design anyone else’s journey. We can trust those around us to make their own decisions, and be available for help and advice if they seek it.

Today if you’re sure you know the best way forward, share your views with those around you and let everyone decide how they want to proceed. Every idea has value, and we can be confident that together, we’ll find the best road forward. You are wise and capable, and have nothing to prove. Be confident and open to everything. Nothing will keep you from any destination you desire, and success will be yours.

Complete Stop

19 Aug

Life is uncertain and no matter how hard we try to plan, there will be unexpected developments from time to time that gum up the works and complicate our way forward. They may be minor, just inconveniences we have to work around, or full on disasters that stop us completely and block the road ahead. Or they might be a million variations in between. When we’re trying to get to a goal and things get in the way, it’s frustrating. If there are continual issues that keep us from advancing it can be maddening. It’s hard to endure problem after problem, and keep a positive outlook. Being held in place against our will isn’t comfortable, and we may lose our temper while we have to wait. We can rage against the situation, scream and yell, and try to force our way through, and that might work, but may make everything worse. The energy it takes to have a full-blown tantrum will take away from the energy we need to find our way forward. Hard times will come to us all. They aren’t easy to face and we might end up completely confused for a time, standing still trying to figure out what to do. We can raise our voice, and tell everyone around us how bad we feel, or we can step back and quietly look at what’s happened and review all the options before us. There is never only one way to get to any destination. There will always be another road possible, and with patience and focus, we will find the best way forward. Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place indefinitely. Every single goal is possible, and there isn’t any problem or complication powerful enough to keep us from whatever we desire. We can trust ourselves to find every answer, and be confident of success.

We share the world with lots of other people making their own choices and decisions. Sometimes those decisions may impact our lives in ways that make it harder for us to move ahead. We only have control over ourselves, and if someone does something that gets in the way of our plans, we can modify them and find another way around. We know what we want, and have everything we need to do anything we desire. We can change direction when we need to, and reach the goal.

When we make an excellent plan, we may be sure it’s the only way for us to succeed. If something goes wrong, someone drops the ball, or an unforeseen development turns everything upside down, we might panic, thinking we’ll never win. Although our original idea may have been effective, if it’s no longer viable, we don’t have to give up. We have all the wisdom and patience we need to evaluate all the possibilities, and come up with a new way forward. We are smarter and more powerful than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if the road you were on has turned and the way to your goal is blocked, remember how creative and intelligent you are. You have overcome many complications and problems already, and have everything you need to find your way again. All the answers you need are already there for you. Trust yourself, and step forward. Every destination is waiting, an you can reach them all.

Thin Skin

7 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world and they each have their own ideas about life and how things should go. We know who we are, and are sure about what we want and how we want to move forward. It’s easy to make friends and feel comfortable when those around us are like us. When they believe the same things we do, and understand our point of view, it’s easy to connect and build alliances. But the world is a big place, and people come from many diverse backgrounds. There will be many others who are vastly different than we are, and their views may be in direct opposition to what we believe is right. That does not make them wrong, or wicked, or less than us. It only makes them different. If we can’t tolerate anything outside our own ideas, it will be very difficult to interact with them. We are entitled to believe anything we desire and we can form our own opinions about everything in life. But if we’re so thin skinned we cannot tolerate anyone who is different, it may be difficult for us to get along. Some people say they “celebrate diversity” but when someone questions their ideas and presents an opposing view, they shut down or become angry. No two people are exactly the same. Everyone has their own perspective, and unless they are hurting others, each has value. We don’t have to adopt anything we don’t want, and can decide how we’ll live our own lives. We can be confident in our views, and strong enough to accept other points of view, even if we don’t understand or agree with them. Life is full of variety and variation. We can be welcoming and respect other points of view, and still hold onto to what is most important. Everyone has worth, and we can honor each individual, and still choose our own way forward.

When we’re growing up, what we experience in our families seems normal and right. As we mature, we begin to see other expressions and understand that our experience is unique to us and not universal. We can hold onto exactly what makes us comfortable and refuse to change, or we can embrace other points of view and allow them to enrich our understanding of the world around us. Holding on may feel comfortable, but will never allow us to expand our thinking and become more accepting.

Life would be easier if everyone was the same. If we were all on the same road with the same ideas, there would be less conflict and more harmony. That may be true, but it’s the differences that bring great richness to our experience, and broaden our thinking. We can accept difference and uniqueness, and honor the right for everyone to express their own ideas and viewpoints. Life is a great teacher, and by being open and welcoming, we will gain great insight and wisdom.

Today if you want everyone to agree with you and find it hard to accept different points of view, remember we are all important and worthwhile. Each expression has value. Be open to new ideas that will enhance your experience and help you understand the world. You are incredible and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Let others tell you who they are, and welcome new ideas. Your life will be enriched, and you’ll find great satisfaction moving forward.

Loud Mouth

22 Jul

There are billions of people on the planet sharing space with us. We’ll never see them all but there will likely always be people around us. We are constantly interacting with others, some we know and others who are strangers in passing. Everyone out there is making their own decisions, and doing things that may affect our lives, not always positively. Some people have strong personalities and are very forceful. They know what they want and make sure everyone around them is aware of where they’re headed. If we’re timid and more reserved, and don’t agree with them, they may run over us pushing forward, never looking back. If we must work with them, and they power over us, and we feel intimidated, we may shrink down and try to blend into the background to avoid a confrontation. It can be hard to stand our ground in front of someone determined to diminish us. Everyone is valuable, and we all have things to offer that are important and worthwhile. Those who are louder may try to push us, but being loud doesn’t mean they have all the answers or know everything. It just means they’re loud. We don’t have to outmatch them in sound or muscle to make our positions known. We can speak up with confidence and clarity, and offer our own perspectives. Nobody will see things exactly as we do, and we can share our point of view in ways that open new doors ahead. We are the only ones who can give the gifts we have to offer. By trusting ourselves, and refusing to shrink, we can contribute to every situation and be part of the road ahead. There is greatness within us. We can share our impressions and ideas, and find intense reward and satisfaction.

Nobody sees everything the same way. We all perceive what is happening through our own filters, formed by the experiences we’ve had so far. What is obvious to one, may be unseen to another. There will rarely by only one way to accomplish anything, or one road that leads to a destination. When we feel strongly about a situation, we can share our thoughts with others involved, and then allow them to express their ideas as well. We don’t have to insist that everything be done our way, but can compromise and bring everyone into the plan.

If we must work with someone who believes they are the only one who has the answers, and they refuse to hear another other options, it may be hard to feel valued and appreciated. If they have authority over us, we may have to follow their instructions. But if not, we can express our opinions and suggestions, and request consideration. If they refuse, we may decide to step away. We have much to offer, and our contributions make the world a better place.

Today if you have to work with someone who is loud and forceful, and is trying to convince you their way is the only possible option, trust yourself and remember your ideas are valuable. Speak up and share your thoughts with those around you. You are amazing. There is nobody else like you in all of creation. You bring light and wisdom, and we’re all blessed because you are here.

Still There

20 Jul

There are unlimited experiences we’ll have as we navigate through our lives. We can’t read the future and there is no way to anticipate what will come next. Each day brings new challenges and we may be amazed and surprised at the things we must face. Even if we try to plan effectively, something can happen unexpectedly that completely knocks us off course. If we must face several difficult challenges one after the other, we may tire, and if another appears, we may believe we have nothing left. We might think we’ve used up all our courage and stamina, and there is no way we can manage anything more. If we’re overwhelmed, we may decide to just give up. Even if we’ve been through an extreme situation, and feel it has pulled everything we have within us, we will still have what we need at every turn. We will never use up all our courage and wisdom, or run out of intelligence and insight. No matter how hard the road has been, or how long we’ve been struggling, we will always have what we need to continue forward. Our capacity to prevail will still be there. Life is filled with uncertainty, and we may get lost a time or two, but with focus and determination, we will always find our way forward. The road we need ahead will be there for us, and we will succeed. Things will go wrong, we may get knocked down and run over, and we might face desperate moments we aren’t sure we can survive. But nothing can hold us down indefinitely or keep us from moving ahead. We can unravel any situation that conspires against us, solve any problem that arises, and find the road forward. Every success is there for us already. We need only trust ourselves to continue, and claim it.

There is no way to prepare for the unknown and we might get caught off-guard by something we feel unready to face. Nobody knows everything, but we are intelligent and capable of managing whatever comes. If we’re overwhelmed and fall down, we can be still until we’re ready to get back up. All the answers we need are there for us, and with confidence and clarity, we will find our way. Nothing is powerful enough to keep us in place. We know what we want, and can achieve it, no matter what comes.

Some events are so devastating and disastrous, they change our lives. We may see things in a completely new light, and may dramatically alter our course moving forward. Change is constant and unpredictable, but changing course doesn’t mean we have to give up our dreams. The destinations we desire will still be there for us, and when we’re ready, we can move toward them. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and can prevail through whatever we must face. Every goal is possible, and we will succeed.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult situation and it seems everything has changed, trust yourself. Nothing can hold you down and all your dreams are still possible. Look at everything objectively, and decide how you want to proceed. You are powerful and amazing, and every success is there for you. Step forward with calm and confidence. You have everything you need, and you will win.