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Ho Ho Ho and All That Stuff

1 Dec

The holidays are a busy time and can be stressful and exhausting. There may be parties we’re expected to attend, traditions everyone wants to continue, or other situations we may or may not want to do. Everyone is unique and we all have our own ideas about how things should go and what we should do. Although we all understand that intellectually, there may be times when we are pressed to go along with others. We might even pressure someone else to follow our lead because it’s what we enjoy and we want them to participate. We’re in control of our own lives, but if someone in authority over us expects us to do things a certain way, we may have to comply. Family expectations and traditions are powerful. We may choose to go along just to keep the peace and get through with as little conflict as possible. No matter what’s going on or how we feel about it, we can work through any situation and find the best way forward. We never have to do anything we aren’t comfortable with and we can decline any offer with grace and patience. There may be much to accomplish, but with careful planning, and taking the time we need for ourselves, we will prevail. We know who we are and what we want. By keeping our eyes on the goal ahead, and moving forward with clarity, we will succeed.

Everyone wants to be happy but personal happiness is expressed in different ways. We don’t have to jump up and down, and laugh all day long to convince ourselves or others that we’re content. Our outward expressions are unique. Some people share every emotion with those around them and others are quiet and still even when they feel great joy. We can share our optimism and happiness with those around us if we like, or we may keep things to ourselves. Our lives are ours to design and every option is possible.

If we’re stressed and having a hard time, it can be very annoying if someone near us is bounding with holiday fun. We may wish they’d just put a sock in it and fade away. If we need time to ourselves to regroup and settle, we can step away from the activity around us and zone out for a while. Sometimes just a few minutes of quiet and peace can greatly refresh us and give us the boost we’re seeking. There are endless ways to express ourselves at any moment. We can do what works for us and find the happiness we desire.

Today if you’re tired and stressed, and feel pressure to participate in activities around you, decide what you really want. If you need time alone, take it. You are the most important person in your life. Your desires are important, and every dream is possible. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. You are wise and capable, and nothing is out of reach. Be happy and choose the way ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t do.

Sorry, Not Sorry

24 Oct

Nobody is perfect and although we may try hard to do everything right, and always say the right things, at some point we’re going to falter. We interact with lots of other people and they all have their own ideas about how things should go and what we should say. If we do something without thinking, or if we’re mad and do something on purpose that causes pain or distress for someone else, we may, or may not, feel bad about it. A lot depends on the situation and our relationship with the other party. If they are someone who is very difficult and we struggle to get along with them, and we say something that offends them, we frankly may not care. They can deal with it.  After all, we have to deal with them all the time. Other times we might do something offensive simply because we don’t have all the facts, or our information is inaccurate. When the mis-step is pointed out to us, we may apologize and correct our course moving forward. Life is full of all kinds of differences and interpretations, and it’s impossible to get them all right every time. Every situation is different and we can look at everything objectively and then decide our next step. Most of us want to get along with others, and try not to put obstacles in the road ahead by hurting those around us and making enemies. If we cause a problem we can always do what is needed to fix it. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to understand. By choosing wisely and making the best decisions moving forward, we can be sure we’ll reach success.

Not everyone is nice and easy to get along with. Some people are rude, impolite or even mean. They have their own reasons for how they act and we need not spend any time trying to figure that out.  However, if we have to interact with them, we will need to find a way to do it without causing too much distress. We don’t have to succumb to anyone else’s demands if they are not in authority over us. We can listen to them, respond politely, and then make the best choice moving forward. 

Families and relationships are complex. If we’re in a situation with someone we love where they are constantly criticizing and berating us, or telling us what to do, we may feel oppressed and overrun. We’re all entitled to our own opinions but we don’t have any control over anyone else. Everyone gets to make their own choices. Our lives are our responsibility and we always have the power to step away from any situation that isn’t working. We can define how much contact allows us to stay connected without letting others control us. We know who we are and what we want, and with focus and determination, nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’ve offended someone, look at the situation carefully and completely, and determine the best step forward. Be polite and gracious, even if you disagree, and continue moving toward your goals. You are highly capable and intelligent, and will always find your way. Be confident and wise. Every single blessing is waiting for you. Step forward and claim them.

Blinking Lights

2 Dec

We live on a big planet with billions of people. There is always a lot going on everywhere, and endless distractions that capture our attention. When we’re trying to accomplish a goal or get to a specific destination, if we take our focus away from the road ahead, whatever we’re doing will likely take longer or be pushed completely out of reach.  Like colorful blinking lights, there will always be unlimited things that may distract us and pull us away from what we’re doing and what we want to achieve. We may swerve a little here toward some shiny object, or little there toward a new attractive idea. We can do anything we like, and can stop and spend all the time we desire doing whatever we want. But one thing is certain – if we aren’t moving down the road we want to travel, we will never reach success.  There is no way to reach any destination if we don’t purposely move toward it. Just taking things as they come, and going with the flow is easy, but will not take us where we most want to go. We already know what we want, and have everything necessary to make it ours. There isn’t anything out of reach if we’re determined to achieve it. We can have the lives we most desire and go anywhere we like. By focusing on the goal, planning the way forward, and staying on track, we will succeed. 

Our relationships with friends and family are important. We can spend all the time with them we like, and may do many fun things together. It’s good to build strong relationships but there is no need to sacrifice all our free time for them. Our personal goals and desires are important, and we can find the best balance between doing what others want and still have time to move toward what we most want to accomplish. We will find great satisfaction by managing our time in ways that allow us to spend time with those we care about and still pursue the destinations we desire.

We never need agreement or permission to do anything we like, and we never have to conform to anyone else’s plans or ideas. We are unique and can choose any road we desire. By deciding what we want, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we will find great happiness and success. Everything is possible, and by keeping our eyes focused on the goal ahead, we will reach every destination.  If we are determined to prevail, nothing is too far away or too difficult. Success is there for us, and we will make it ours.

Today if you’ve been distracted by what’s going on around you and have lost track of the road ahead, decide what you want the most. Look at everything possible and make a plan to proceed. You are more capable and powerful than you imagine, and nothing is out of reach. Step forward with confidence, and move closer to the goal. There is great success ahead and it will be yours.

Sandpaper

4 Nov

We share the world with lots of other people. They constantly come and go, in and out of our lives. We have friends, co-workers, associates, acquaintances and all manner of connections. We might face a time when someone we must interact with is abrasive and rude. They may say insulting things to us, demean us at every turn, and seem to delight in making us miserable. It’s very hard to be kind to someone who is mean to us, but returning barb for barb, and insult for insult, will never move us forward. Stooping to their level only makes us like them. By refusing to fall prey to their infernal put downs and disrespect, we can hold fast to our own standards and remain polite and civil. We don’t have to roll over and take whatever it is they’re dishing out, and when we respond with clarity and grace, we will always gain the upper hand. Nobody knows what motivates people to degrade others. Perhaps they suffer from poor self-esteem and putting others down makes them feel powerful. Maybe they are jealous of who we are or what we’ve accomplished. It doesn’t matter what drives their negative behavior. We have no control over what they do, but we have complete control over how we respond. By holding fast to our own values, and refusing to engage them in a negative free for all, we will maintain control over the situation. It’s impossible to fight with someone who refuses to participate. We can stand strong, reflect our best behavior, and refuse to take the bait. There is great success just ahead for us, and nothing and nobody can keep us from it.

Family relationships can be powerful and are sometimes tricky to navigate. No family is perfect, and there may be varying levels of underlying tension and frustration. If one member is particularly critical or negative, it may be hard to deal with them. If we aren’t living our lives the way they think we should, it may be hell to pay when we’re around them. Of course, our lives belong solely to us, but that may not stop them from telling us we’re doing it all wrong. Their opinions belong to them and have no bearing on our decisions. We know what we want and where we want to go, and can do anything we like.

Some people love to complain. No matter what’s going on in their lives, they find problems and disappointments. If we must interact with them, their continual grumbling may wear us down. Everyone has their own ideas about life, and we never have to follow anyone else’s lead. We can keep our eyes focused on our own goals, and trust ourselves to achieve every success. It doesn’t matter what anyone else says or does. We know what we want, and have everything we need to achieve anything.

Today remember how amazing you are. You have gifts to offer that nobody else can bring. You possess great light and potential, and every goal is possible. You are strong and powerful, and the whole world is blessed and enriched because you are here. Nobody can take your dreams away. Be confident and step forward with clarity and purpose. Every success is waiting, and you will make them yours.

Reset

27 Oct

Life is full of change and nothing stays the same forever. We are constantly adjusting and modifying everything we do to fit what is happening around us and what we want to accomplish. Our personalities are unique to us and we all have attributes we like and other things not so much. We may have a behavior that stumps us up every time we display it, but have ignored it and worked through whatever headaches it brings. Maybe it’s a quick temper that gets us into trouble, or a lack of self control that brings disappointment. There are unlimited expressions and we can do anything we like. If we continue to repeat behaviors that don’t work for us, we’ll continue to face the consequences they bring. Change is always possible, but it isn’t always easy. If we’ve been doing something the same way for a long time, changing course will take focus and effort. We are entitled to complete happiness and can let go of anything that stands in the way. Once we decide what we want to change, we can be on the alert for triggers that cause it to rise. Patterns can be deeply ingrained, and we may fall prey to failure at the beginning. But if we stick to it, and persist in pushing forward, we will be able to reset our response and change to something that serves us better. Everything is possible and with patience and determination, there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can be confident and trust ourselves to make any changes we desire that will lead us to success. We are strong and powerful, and nothing is out of reach.

Families and traditions are very powerful. If something has always been done a certain way for a long time, our families may expect us to continue doing them and keeping to the tradition. There may be intense pressure to conform to something we don’t want. Following an undesired road will never take us where we most want to go. We can honor our families and be respectful, and still choose another path. Our lives belong to us, and we are responsible for our own happiness. Every dream is there for us and with clarity we can make them ours.

Relationships are important to us and when they are strong and healthy, bring great blessing and reward to our lives. If we’re in a relationship where we’re pressed to conform to behaviors we don’t want, it may be hard to stand up for ourselves. Everyone has their own opinions about how life should go, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and where we want to go. By being honest and choosing our own way forward, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if there is something you want to change, decide how you want to proceed. You are amazing and capable, and can do anything you desire. Every destination is possible and nothing can hold you in place. Choose what you want the most, and step forward with clarity and confidence. Focus on the goal and trust yourself. Success is always there for you and you will reach it.