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House of Mirrors

18 Oct

We’re all different and our experiences as we go through our lives make us into the people we become.  Most of us learn from things that go wrong and adjust our lives to prevent making the same mistakes going forward.  But some people have trouble discerning the mistakes they make.  It’s hard for them to understand how their actions connect to what happens to them.  It’s not our place to judge what anyone else does but if we have people like this in our lives, we may be affected.  It’s hard to have a relationship with someone who continually makes choices that bring heartache and trouble.  We may find ourselves continually adjusting to the next disaster and trying to find a way around it.  Although we are only responsible for the decisions we make, we may be seriously impacted by those made by others close to us.  Like paint, they can smear their dysfunction all over our lives and before we know it we may get caught up in their problems in ways that are not helpful.  If we remember we are individuals and have complete ownership over our own decisions, we can stand beside someone who struggles and be supportive without becoming part of the issue.  We can be friends without getting caught up in turmoil and confusion.  Learning to stand beside someone and still stand apart will help us navigate through any difficult relationships we have.  Life isn’t always easy but we have everything we need to find the right road going forward that will bring us comfort and peace.

We don’t know what we don’t know.  Sometimes we may begin a relationship with someone that seems positive and satisfying.  We connect with them, we think we understand them and they seem to understand us.  It’s great to make connections with others that make us feel good and brighten our lives.  But sometimes people hide their true selves and it takes time for their real behaviors to shine through.  When things change, if the turn is dramatic enough, we may feel we’ve entered a house of mirrors.  Nothing is as we thought and we aren’t sure what to do next.  We are always in control of our lives and never have to stay in any situation that is uncomfortable.  We can make a turn and change our lives at any time.

We may get into situations where the people we’re associating with begin to make decisions we aren’t comfortable with.  They are choosing to continue toward a goal we don’t want or their methods are ideas we don’t agree with.  We always have the power to change any relationships in our lives.  We aren’t assigned to others and can move in a new direction away from those near us at any time.  Our lives are ours to design and we can decide how we will proceed.  We can be confident when we make choices that take us where we want to go and courageously continue forward toward success.

Today if you’re in a relationship that isn’t working or have been caught up in a situation that is moving you toward a destination you don’t want, take control.  You know where you want to go and have everything you need to get there.  You don’t have to stay in any situation that isn’t comfortable.  Change direction and move forward toward success.  You can do anything you desire and every option is possible.

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Man Overboard

17 Oct

We are all capable of accomplishing many things.  We are strong and smart and when we put our minds to the task, there are few situations that are impossible for us to manage.  But there may be times when something happens or someone asks us to do something that is so far out of our normal realm that we’re sure there is no way we could ever get through.  It might be something beyond our comfort zone and we’re sure it will overcome us and are afraid to even attempt it.  It takes courage to step into the unknown and push ourselves beyond what we believe are our limits, but in reality we can do far more than we may think is possible.  When the stakes are high and we’re facing the seemingly impossible our first instinct might be to turn and run.  We can always step back from any challenge, but there is great reward in stepping beyond what we know and pressing forward toward a difficult goal. We have skills and abilities we can rely on to get us through very daunting tasks and will learn more with each step we take.  Once we reach the end of the trial and look back at what we’ve accomplished, we may be amazed at how strong we really are.  We have deep reserves ready to pull from and there really isn’t anything we can’t do.  No matter how great the challenge or how difficult the road ahead, we can trust ourselves to succeed.  We can be brave enough to travel any road before us.  Life is filled with opportunities and embracing them as they come along will deepen our perspective and bring great reward and confidence.

If we’re at sea and the boat is tossed in distress, and we are unsure about what will happen, it won’t help to jump overboard.  Jumping from a rocking ship right into the turbulent ocean will not solve our problem but when we’re facing a difficult challenge we may be tempted to jump to get away from it.  Trouble comes to all of us and doing everything we can to avoid dealing with it will never move us forward.  Few problems solve themselves.  We have all the courage and wisdom we need to figure out anything that happens.  We can stand firm in the wind, hold on tight when things get rocky and press forward.  Every answer we need is there for us and with patience and determination we’ll find it.

When we’re in the midst of a storm and are worried about what will happen next, it can be hard to see beyond what we’re facing.  It’s hard to see things clearly when we’re stressed and unsure but we’ve faced difficult times before and prevailed.  We can get through whatever we must and with each step forward get closer to success.  Trouble will come but we have everything we need to manage it and find our way forward.

Today if you’re facing a difficult situation and aren’t sure you can survive, remember how strong and capable you are.  There isn’t anything strong enough to hold you down.  Trust yourself and step forward.  Every answer you need is already there for you.  Be determined and continue moving ahead.  You will prevail.  Every success is possible and your will reach it.

Unchanging

15 Oct

If someone hurts us and our lives are negatively impacted, we may very much want to find a way to make the other party involved aware of what they’ve done.  We may feel once our voice has been heard and we’ve been vindicated we can more easily let go of the pain we’ve suffered.  But sometimes it’s impossible to get a resolution to a situation no matter what we do.  The other party may not care that we’re hurt, or that they are the cause of distress.  When that happens we may carry the pain forward with us, sometimes indefinitely.  Since it will never change, it may continually prick us with the unfairness we feel and hold us in place as the years pass.  Unresolved conflict is hard to let go of.  It’s like a math equation we can’t solve.  It stays the same and never changes.  We can worry about it and fret over it until we’re willing to accept the fact that we can’t solve it and turn the page.  Carrying unsettled conflict along with us as we go through our lives will weigh us down and may keep us from complete happiness.  What is in the past can never be changed.  Holding onto it will never alter it or help us moving forward.  We can accept it as it is, set it down and let it go.  Our lives belong to us and when we hold onto hurt from the past we forfeit a portion of control going forward.  We deserve complete happiness and by letting go of what is holding us down we can achieve it.  We can be free of past pain and heartache.  We need only decide to set it down, and leave it behind.

If we’ve created a painful situation for someone else, either intentionally or accidentally, we can recognize our role in it and do what is needed to correct it.  We are all more connected than we think we are and everything we do affects the world around us in some way.  If we’ve been a negative influence, we can change our focus and direction toward something more positive.  We can resolve any conflict we’ve created and pave the way forward with friendship and cooperation.

Some people don’t care about others or who they hurt.  They storm through their lives doing as they please and let the chips fall where they may.  If we’re in their path of destruction we may get run over and chewed up.  There may be great disappointment and pain as their lives intersect with ours.  We are only responsible for the decisions we make.  If decisions made by others negatively impact us, we can find a way to navigate around them and move forward outside their influence.  Our happiness is our responsibility and if we get hurt we can find the way back toward the light.  This life is a great blessing.  We need not give up one moment to a painful situation we cannot change.  Instead, we can move forward with confidence and reach every goal we desire.  Everything is possible and we will find great success.

Today if you’ve been carrying around pain from something in the past and have been unable to let it go, look at all the attributes you possess.  Remember how wonderful you are.  There is greatness in you and we’re all blessed because you are here.  Let go of what is behind you and move forward with confidence.  The whole world is there for you and everything you desire is possible.

Getting Lost

12 Oct

When we know where we’re going and have a clear view of the way forward, we are confident we’ll reach our goal and make our way to the destination.  However, if what we want to accomplish is new we may consider all our options and make a plan for the road ahead, but we really don’t know how things will roll out.  We may take a wrong turn and get confused and lost along the way, and it may take time to figure out how to correct our course to get back on track.  When we get lost we may believe the time we spend trying to find our way again is wasted.  After all, if we had gone the right way to begin with we wouldn’t have spent all that time trying to discern how to proceed.  But instead of seeing time spent trying to find our way forward as time forfeited, we can see it as time invested in learning about what works.  Everything we do teaches us something.  When we get lost and have to explore new possibilities, we have the chance to open doors we may have ignored simply walking past them.  Getting lost allows us to stop and look around and see all the possibilities before us.  We may discover a new road that brings great blessings as it takes us to the destination we desire.  As we consider new possibilities, we may change our focus and decide to push toward something we hadn’t previously considered.  Getting lost isn’t always negative.  New answers and our best ideas may arise as we open our minds to something different.  We can go anywhere we choose, and if the road turns we can still reach our goals.  Nothing is too far away or too difficult to reach.  We have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Maps are helpful when we’re planning a trip and if we take a ruler we can draw a straight line from where we are to where we want to go.  It’s easy to see the path but unfortunately, roads don’t always go in a straight line.  They twist and turn, go around obstacles, switch back to where we were to avoid something in the way, and can cover many more miles than if they went directly from one point to another.  Our lives are the same way.  Rarely will we get from one place to another in a perfectly straight, unbroken line.  There will be complications and detours to navigate, and many distractions, but if we keep our eyes focused on the goal we will succeed.

Getting lost on our journey gives us the opportunity to stop and rethink our plans.  Standing still can open new doors and we can decide if the goal we were seeking is still what we want, or if there are other priorities we would rather pursue.  We can go anywhere we choose and taking time to consider all the options possible will help us make choices that will bring us happiness and satisfaction.  Our lives are ours to design and nothing is impossible.  We can do anything we desire and make every dream reality.

Today if you’ve gotten lost on your way forward and are frustrated thinking you’re wasting time, look around and see all the possibilities before you. You know more now than you did before and have a better idea of what lies ahead.  Choose the road you want the most.  You can reach any goal you desire.  Be confident and step forward.

Undone

11 Oct

Conflict is a normal part of life. We’re all different and our ideas about how things should go are specific to our own experiences and desires. Although we may agree with others on some things, there will likely be times when what we want is in direct opposition to the thoughts of those around us. If the decision doesn’t impact us or have a lasting affect on our lives, we may politely disagree and let it go. But if it has a big influence over what we’re doing or stops us from where we want to go, we may get into an intense situation as we push for our views to be accepted and refuse to move toward the other side. Severe disagreement may create anger that might overtake us if we aren’t careful. We may become completely undone and lose control if the issue is extremely important to us and we cannot abide the idea of letting it go. Unfortunately, if anger takes over we may act out in ways that deteriorate the discussion and lose our ability to convince the other side to consider our viewpoint. It can be hard to be calm when we feel we’re losing something very important. It can be hard to listen to the other side and try to understand their position. But ranting and raving, raising our voices or in other ways impacting the situation negatively will never get us what we want. It’s impossible to bring others over to our side by making them feel bad. We are always in control of our behavior – good or bad. When we’re facing difficult situations and feel our emotions start to rise, we can step back and take an objective view of things. There are always possible compromises and if we keep our heads we’ll find them. We can achieve any goal we desire by staying focused and work through any complications that arise. Everything is possible if we are willing to find the way through.

Some people love to argue. They like the intensity of heated discussion and the chance to prove they are right, no matter what the issue is. Arguing for the sake of arguing rarely brings any benefit to those involved. Plenty of conflict will present itself without trying to invent more. It’s better to diffuse it when we it arises and find a way forward that includes everyone’s input. There are always many ways to do anything and we can find an inclusive and supportive road going forward.

There will be times when no matter what we say or how convincing we are, we will not get our way. We may have to change our focus and do things differently than we prefer. Being flexible and willing to go another way takes patience and self-control. Although we may not be on the road we want, we are creative enough to find our way forward. There are endless roads to every destination and we can find our way ahead even if we must take a detour to get there.

Today if you’re in a situation that feels impossible and you’re in opposition to what you’re being asked, try to be flexible and find a compromise that will work. There are endless possibilities available and you’ll find one that fits. Be patient with compromise and keep your eyes focused on your goals. Everything is possible and you will reach the destination you seek.

Behind It All

10 Oct

We all want a life filled with happiness and great experiences.  It would be wonderful if we never had to suffer, go through heartbreak or loss, and each day was clear and bright and filled with joy.  But we live in the real world and things will inevitably go wrong.  Sometimes we struggle because of decisions we’ve made or those made by others, sometimes because of events out of our control, and sometimes we have no idea why everything went wrong.  When we’re under water with stress and despair, if the trial is long lasting and difficult we may begin to believe it will never end.  The dark clouds over us may seem stationary and we don’t see any changes ahead.  Storms can be treacherous and frightening, and if there’s a lot of noise and disharmony they may cause us to shiver for a moment.  When the sky over us is dark and looming, and the clouds are dense and threatening, we may forget that behind it all the sun is brightly beaming, waiting for a clearing to shine down on us.  The sun is always there, no matter how dark it is overhead.  When we’re going through difficult challenges we can remember that behind any anxiety and duress, it is shining over us.  It’s always there and we can count on our ability to find the answers we need and the sun breaking through.  Hard times come to us all and we may feel overwhelmed and pushed to our limits, but no matter what is happening now, there is always the chance for happiness ahead.  Life will try us and there may be times when we’re sure we can never prevail.  But step by step we will find our way and every single issue will be resolved.  We are more powerful and capable than we may believe.  We can manage any problem we face and find success.  The sun is always there no matter how dark the sky is overhead.  We can trust in it and in ourselves to get through.

There are unlimited roads possible to every destination we seek.  There is no one right way to live life.  When we’re trying to find our way through a puzzling and difficult challenge, we don’t have to take the same path that everyone else has tried.  We can revise our thinking and do something different.  If we are open to new possibilities and ways of thinking, no matter how confounding the issues are before us, we will find the way through.  There is no limit to what we can do and nothing we can’t overcome.

Unresolved problems don’t simply go away and stay away forever.  They will return again and again until we determine to finally settle them once and for all.  If we’re facing a problem we did not resolve in the past that is weighing us down, we can commit to taking it apart until we close it completely, and move forward undeterred and confident.  We deserve complete and total happiness and facing the issues that block our path and deciding to solve them before moving on will help us achieve it.

Today if you’re in the midst of serious trials and trouble, if the way ahead is dark and you feel unsure, remember the sun is shining brightly behind it all.  You can find every answer you need to settle any issues you’re facing.  You are stronger and wiser than you imagine.  Do what is needed to clear the road ahead and continue forward.  Nothing is too difficult for you and every dream is possible.

Out in the Cold

9 Oct

The friendships and relationships we build as we go through our lives give us great comfort and a sense of belonging. It’s wonderful when we are part of a community, and when we have close connections to those around us we feel validated and supported. But we may face a time when we choose something different than what those around us think we should do. We may take a different road or start a new journey that takes us away from where we are and those we love. As we step forward, if our current companions stay in place, the distance between us will stretch and if we don’t hold onto to our connections we may become separated. We can always make any changes we like and go anywhere we want to go but sometimes if those we love don’t choose to go with us, although we are happy with our decision, we may feel left out in the cold alone. We are certainly capable of finding our way forward in any endeavor and have all the resources and courage we need to go anywhere we choose. But even if we’re happy with the choices we’re making, being alone can be unsettling for a time and we may question our decisions. Although it’s nice to have concurrence when we choose a new path and it’s fun to have our friends with us, there may be times when what we want must be accomplished on our own, all by ourselves. In those situations, we can be confident in our choices and trust that we have everything we need to succeed. We know what we want and are capable of doing whatever is needed to reach happiness and success.

There may be great power in a group situation. When several people join together in a common cause they may overcome great obstacles and find many answers. Although there are many benefits to working as a team, there will be times in our lives when what we want to do must be done alone. We are always free to choose the direction of our lives. Sometimes that may be what everyone else is doing, but other times the road we choose is set apart from those around us. We can take any path to any destination at any time. If we must go alone, we can. Every destination is possible and we can travel anywhere we desire.

Every choice and decision is ours to make. If we like, we can have the lives others design for us and follow any direction we’re given. But if we want complete happiness and satisfaction we must choose our own path. Nobody knows what we want better than we know ourselves. We can be confident in our decisions even if they differ from those around us. We know where we want to go and what we want to accomplish. Life is a great blessing and we don’t need the agreement of anyone to create the lives we want the most. Every destination is possible and every dream can come true.

Today if you’ve decided to turn away from the path you’ve been traveling and there is opposition around you, remember your life is yours to design. You can do anything you like. If you must travel alone, you will find your way. All options are possible and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Step forward and create the life you want the most. Every dream is possible and you can make them all come true.