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Hope

12 Dec

We have a lot of different relationships and connections in our lives. They may be casual acquaintances we speak to once in a while and see only in passing, or very close and intimate. We value our close relationships and they may have deep impact on our lives. When we love someone and they make decisions that bring them unhappiness or negatively affect our relationship with them, we may hope they will change. We might talk to them about the situation and sincerely ask them to listen to our concerns. Sometimes they will and things improve, but other times we may hope in vain. It’s crushing to be in love with someone who says they love us in return but will not commit. It’s devastating to watch someone close addicted to substances that are hurting them but cannot stop. And it may be overwhelming to see someone we love make the same bad mistakes again and again, and suffer miserably. Although we may hope and pray for the changes needed to stop the suffering, the decisions of others belong to them alone. There is no way to control their choices even if they are destructive. We must evaluate the situation and determine what is best going forward. Sometimes we may stay in the relationship continuing to hope things will improve. Other times it may be important for us to go another way. We can never change anyone but ourselves. If we are in a relationship that is hurting us because of choices being made out of our control, we may choose another way forward.

We are responsible for our own happiness and there may be times when we must end a relationship in order to stay on the road that’s best for us. There is no way to carry anyone’s life but our own, and we may need to alter our course as we continue forward. They say hope springs eternal and in some ways, it does. We can always continue to hope someone will change and find success, but hope is not reality. It is only desire. Reality is what we’re living now. How we manage it will determine how happy we are. We can be loving and supportive without being part of a destructive game. We can allow others to make whatever choices they choose, and continue forward our own way.

We may be pressured to stay in a dysfunctional situation with the hope that if we do, it will improve. That might happen, but change is something that must come from within. If those we are hoping for do not want it, everything will remain the same. Staying in a damaging situation that does not change will hold us in place and prevent us from finding our own success. We can’t change anyone else no matter how much we desire or hope for it. Keeping our eyes focused clearly on what is real and what we want will bring us happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been hoping someone close to you would change to be happier or healthier, remember the change you seek cannot come from you. Be loving and kind, and supportive and caring, and continue forward. Your life is the only one you can control. Continue moving toward your goals and find success. Everything is there for you and you will reach it.

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Seasons

11 Dec

We go through many different challenges and changes as we navigate our lives. The years come and go, and with them come new experiences that bring us trials or joys depending on where we are and what’s happening around us. In the natural calendar year there are four defined seasons, each with its own expression and blessing. But in our lives the seasons are unnumbered and unlimited. No matter what we’re going through now will change to something else. If we’re in a season of disappointment and regret it will not last forever. Even if we feel devastated and overcome, the days will pass, and soon we will be somewhere else. Life is fluid and ever changing and no season lasts forever. We determine some of what will come by the actions we take, but many things are out of our control and we all face times we could never predict or imagine. The blessing is in the opportunity to experience something new. There are countless things to learn each day, and the chance for growth is ever present. Being aware and awake, and facing every moment fully brings us the greatest blessing. Whether we’re facing hard times or days filled with joy, there is much to be learned and each lesson takes us closer to the person we most want to be. Nobody lives in perfect peace and happiness all the time. Embracing the difficult and happy moments will help us find balance and joy in our lives. We have so much to offer and can grow through every experience we face. Life is a wonderful teacher. We can capture every moment and find great joy as we learn and move forward.

When we’re young we often dream of lives filled with promise and prosperity. Nobody ever wishes for a life full of trial and trouble. We can’t control everything around us but we can control the choices we make. If we choose roads that bring disharmony and contention, we will never find happiness. If we make decisions without thinking, hurt others to move ourselves forward, or manipulate situations to get something we want, our reward will not be the peaceful, happy lives we seek. Every choice we make brings a result. We can re-evaluate our decisions, and if needed, modify them to bring the destinations we desire.

There are few situations in our lives that cannot be changed. If we aren’t happy where we are, we can change what we’re doing and move closer to the destinations we desire. Nobody is frozen in time and there isn’t anything we can’t modify. We may need to change our connections to those around us, move to a different location, or simply stop doing something that is holding us in place. Whatever is needed is within our control. We own our lives and can create them any way we desire. Every season changes and if we want to be somewhere else, we can get there.

Today if you aren’t where you want to be, turn your course and change direction. Your life is yours and you deserve to be happy. Decide where you want to go and take the first step to get there. You can make your dreams come true. Nothing is impossible. Take control and do what is needed to find true happiness. It’s right there for you and you will reach it.

Done

8 Dec

When we’re working hard toward a goal we may be busy with a lot of details and complications.  If things are moving along toward the finish line it’s easier to keep going than if the situation is continually complicated and difficult.  When the answers are there and everything is going right we feel buoyed up and positive.  But there will be times when no matter what we do we can’t move forward and after several frustrating misses we may decide we’ve had enough.  There comes a point when we are done, and no matter what we wanted to accomplish our focus has changed and we are ready to let go.  Everyone has limits to their energy and patience, and when we reach the end of those limits we may decide the goal is no longer worth pursuing.  Of course we can change our lives any time we wish.  There is no one right way to live and if we want to modify our course we can.  There is no shame in changing our minds.  If the goal isn’t important and can be left behind, we can walk away.  However, if it’s something we absolutely want and don’t feel we’ll be happy until we achieve it, we don’t have to forsake it completely.  Sometimes all we need is a break from the struggle.  We can step away for a while, collect our thoughts, and rethink our plans to find a new way through.  There really isn’t anything we can’t accomplish but some things don’t come easily and take considerable effort and determination to achieve.  We have enough confidence and intelligence to accomplish anything.  We can look at the situation objectively and decide how we want to proceed.  Everything is there for us and we can determine what to do next.

We can keep our lives small and only do what is required to get by, keeping to ourselves and limiting our exposure to new things and ideas.  Or we can extend ourselves and reach higher for something new and exciting.  Whatever we want we can achieve but to achieve anything outside our normal experience will take effort and determination.  Things may go wrong when we step out of our comfort zone and if we can’t tolerate anything but ease we may quickly return to what we know.  If we want something new, we have to be willing to be uncomfortable while we learn it and stay the course until we make it ours.

Success doesn’t always come the first time we try.  It takes practice to learn something new and there will likely be several failures before we get things right.  The mechanics of riding a bicycle are easy – sit on the bike and pedal.  But actually learning to ride one takes practice.  The same is true when we try anything new.  If we give up the first time we fall we’ll never master the skill.  We have all the confidence we need to do anything we desire.  We can take our time, plan our way forward, and find success.

Today if you’ve been working on something that continues to elude you and you are done dealing with it, take a break and think about what you really want to accomplish.  If the goal is important look for another way to master it.  All the answers are there for you.  Try again.  You will reach the end and find success.

Somewhere Else

7 Dec

As we go through our lives making decisions, one thing always leads to another and sometimes we end up where we didn’t intend to go. Maybe we take a job in a field we aren’t really interested in because it’s all we can get at the time. We think we’ll keep it until we find what we really want and at first perhaps we sincerely look for something else. But time goes by and we get used to what we’re doing and after a while we forget about anything else. It’s easier to keep doing anything than it is to change. Routines are powerful and once established we may keep them indefinitely. If we are satisfied with our lives there is no reason to change but if we continually feel we want to be somewhere else, happiness may elude us. We can only be in one place at a time. If where we are isn’t where we really want to be we may feel unsettled, and like a shoe that’s a little too tight there is the continual nagging that something isn’t right. We can change our lives at any time but change takes effort and determination, and if we’re complacent we may simply muddle through and take what comes. It’s easy to let life roll out on its own and go along. We can go through the motions, do what others expect, and keep our heads down, but true happiness will never come from complacency. If we really want to live fully we must look up and decide if what we’re doing is what we really want. We can do anything and there is nothing out of reach. All options are on the table. We need only decide how we want our lives to be and then do what is necessary to make that happen. We deserve complete, unabashed happiness. We can be exactly where we want to be doing exactly what we want to do. We can move forward and do things our way.

Once we have an established pattern in our lives, those around us learn to depend on it. They know where we’ll be and what they can expect from us. Our connections to our relationships are important and strong. If we decide we want to do things differently we may experience tension and frustration from those around us. It’s easier to keep things going as usual and maintain the status quo. But we can determine what’s best for us and take any road we choose.

When our lives are predictable and stable we have a strong anchor. If we decide to change things we may loosen our stability for a while as we go through transition. As we move forward with confidence we will rebuild that stability and find satisfaction. We can live the lives we dream about and do the things we really want to do. We have all the courage and insight we need to move forward as we choose. Life is a great blessing. Living it the way we want will bring us joy and contentment.

Today if your life isn’t going the way you desire and you want to be somewhere else, start on the road that will take you there. You can do anything you choose and nothing is out of reach. Complete happiness is available to you every single moment. Reach for it, find it, and make it yours. You are a great blessing to the world. Make your dreams come true. They are there for you and you can have them.

Moving On Again

6 Dec

We have countless experiences as we go through our lives.  Sometimes things go well and we feel happy and content, and sometimes there is trouble.  We may have an experience that devastates us, is hard to understand, and makes going forward difficult.  Perhaps someone we love unexpectedly dies, we lose something important, or a relationship we value suddenly breaks apart.  When we go through something very difficult that is far reaching and touches us deeply it can be hard to find our footing again.  We may feel lost, untethered and drifting, unable to find an anchor.  Trying to touch down again and figure out what to do next may be confusing and seem too complicated.  We may face a jumble of thoughts rolling through our mind making it hard to connect to anything that might work.  When we begin a jigsaw puzzle and dump the entire collection of pieces out of the box, there is a lot to look at and sort through.  But as we pick up each piece and examine it and begin to put one with another, after a time we find our way to the solution and picture is whole.  As we try to navigate a complicated and painful time in our lives we can begin by looking at just one thing we can control and use that to help us connect to the next piece, and the next, until we find our way through.  We can manage anything that comes to us, even very difficult and complex issues.  Taking them step by step and giving ourselves time to process each development will help us move forward.  Life is long and there is time to work everything out.  We are strong enough and wise enough to find our way through.  Each step takes us closer to the light we seek and if we continue nothing will keep us from success.

Getting over a heartbreaking experience isn’t easy.  As we make headway and begin to feel stronger we may hear or see something that reminds of what we’ve lost and the walls begin to crash in again.  Healing takes time and isn’t a straight line forward.  We will have setbacks and pauses in our journey.  If we fall into despair we can stop for a moment to regain our footing.  Every sorrow will be overcome and we will find happiness again.  We can trust in our personal strength and remember how far we’ve come.  Nothing is too hard for us to manage and no matter what has happened we will find our way through.

Learning to trust again after a serious disappointment may not come easily.  If we’ve been extremely hurt we may need to step back for a while to regroup and determine how we want to proceed.  There is no rush to heal and there is plenty of time to find all the answers we need.  We can rest until we feel ready to begin again.  We will find the road forward.  We know who we are and what we want, and nothing can keep us from reaching any destination we desire.

Today if you’ve been hurt and feel lost and unsure about the way forward, take a step back and let your mind rest.  All the answer you seek are there for you.  Every door will open as you move forward.  Trust in your strength and rely on your wisdom.  You can do anything.  There is light for you just ahead.  Keep moving forward and reach it.

Laser Focus

5 Dec

Everything we want to do requires attention. There may be a lot to accomplish and we can try to multi-task and do more than one thing at once, but scientific research has proven the human mind can only effectively concentrate on one thing at a time. If we try to do more, whatever we’re doing will not be done as effectively as possible. Lasers are amazing devices. They can take energy from many sources, pull it together, and direct it into pinpoint accuracy. There is no wavering or indecision – only complete focus on the target. When we want to accomplish something, it requires our concentration and attention but it’s impossible for us to only see the target we’re aiming for. There will be distractions, other decisions may alter our course, and at some point, we may need to completely reroute the way forward. We don’t live in a vacuum and there will always be other things going on around us. We may desire “laser focus” where we only see the goal ahead and nothing else, but that isn’t possible. We are capable of managing many things and with patience and continued determination, we will reach any destination we desire. Life is complex and there are a lot of balls in the air all the time. Learning to adapt and modify, changing our way forward when necessary, and adjusting to complications as they come will help us find success. We can do anything. We can set the laser down and still reach the destination.

If we focus exclusively on a single goal and refuse to look at anything else we may miss important cues and information. When we drive a car, we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead, but it’s important to also look around to see what’s near us and what’s headed our way. There is potential danger in seeing only the road directly in front of us and nothing else. The same is true in any endeavor we are seeking. We can be focused on moving ahead while still being open to what’s around us. Life is full of surprises, opportunities, and complications. Being able to see them before they arrive will help us move forward more effectively and successfully.

Although we don’t want tunnel vision when we’re pursuing a goal we must ensure we don’t become involved in everything going on around us. If we do everything that captures our attention and follow every attractive distraction we will never advance forward. Getting involved in each detail around us will merely hold us in place. We can’t move forward if we’re spinning in circles. We must find the happy medium between tunnel vision and diversion. We know what we want and where we want to go. Keeping the goal in mind will help us manage all the distractions around us and still find success. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We have everything we need to do anything we desire.

Today if you have a goal you’re trying to achieve and there are a lot of distractions capturing your attention, remember what you want the most. You can pay attention to what’s going on around you and still keep your focus on the road ahead. You are in control. Keep your eyes trained on the destination you seek and continue forward. The road ahead is waiting for you. Continue forward and you will reach the goal.

What it Takes

4 Dec

When we really want to change something about ourselves we have be willing to do what is necessary to make it a reality.  Some believe people don’t ever change and many times that’s true.  It’s certainly easier to coast through our lives and do nothing to better ourselves than it is to strive for excellence.  We can have any kind of lives we desire.  If we’re content being who we are and keeping things the same, we may.  But if we want to see how far we can go and really push ourselves toward excellence we must pay attention and purposely go forward with intent.  It takes time and vigilance to make a change that becomes part of who we are.  We can dream about being different and hope that somehow something will happen to simply create the changes we desire.  Wishing and dreaming will never bring us what we want but if we don’t put forth any effort, that’s as far as we’ll go.  There is nothing we can’t achieve if we want it badly enough.  There is no change too difficult or impossible to reach.  If we are determined to turn something in our lives, and we are intent on making the change a reality, we will succeed.  It won’t happen overnight and it may not be easy but we have everything we need to get to the goal.  True happiness comes when we achieve the life we want the most.  Deciding what that means and doing what is needed to make it happen will bring us great satisfaction and contentment.

It’s comfortable to be around situations with which we are already familiar.  We know what to expect, we may know all the players involved, and we feel confident we can manage whatever develops.  It’s nice to be comfortable and we can do the same things every day if that’s as far as we want to go.  But life is full of possibilities and no matter where we are today if we want something different we can get it.  There are endless new experiences available to us and nothing can stop us from having them.  There is so much to be found if we’re willing to step off our regular path and try something new.  We can open any doors we desire and go to new destinations.  The world is there for us and if we want to move, nothing can keep us in place.

There will always be some risk when we want to change something.  We can’t see the future and the road ahead is unknown.  Things may go exactly as we think they will or we may face completely unexpected developments.  It doesn’t matter what we face, we have everything we need to figure out any situation that comes to us.  We are smarter and braver than we think we are and nothing will stop us from succeeding.  We can embrace any change we desire and do what is needed to make it ours.  The world belongs to us and there isn’t anything we can’t do.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something different but are unsure, be confident and take the first step toward the goal.  You have everything you need to do anything you want.  Every dream is possible and nothing will keep you from success.  You are powerful and strong, and nothing is out of reach.  Step forward and make all your dreams come true.