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Not Moving In

2 Apr

We all have ups and downs in our lives and will suffer from disappointment or discouragement from time to time. Life can be challenging and difficult, and if we’re suffering, we may find great comfort in sharing our despair with someone who cares. Getting support and sympathy from someone else can make us feel better and help us continue on. Others may come to us for encouragement when they’re struggling, and we can be there with a listening ear and a kind word. Being supportive is helpful, but it doesn’t mean we’ll take the burden away and carry it ourselves. We can visit and share the load, but we don’t have to move in and take over. Those who are suffering may want to hand the issue over to us and leave it behind, but we all have trouble, and nobody wants to take on more. If we care deeply about them, we may really try to help, but everyone is responsible for finding their own answers and solving their own problems. It’s not fun to suffer and go through hard times, and we may face very difficult issues, but we gain much as we unravel and untangle them and find the way through. Our greatest lessons come from adversity, and as we solve each problem we are enriched and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. We have everything we need to do anything we must. There isn’t a problem too complex or too difficult for us to solve. We are highly capable, and can trust that no matter what is happening, no matter how convoluted and twisted the issue is, we can find the way through. Life is filled with possibilities and nothing can hold us down forever. We are stronger and wiser than we may imagine, and every answer is already there for us. By being confident in times of discomfort and despair, and trusting ourselves, we will prevail. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach.

Some people get overwhelmed more easily than others. When things go wrong, they become unsure of themselves, and struggle to keep going. They may worry they will fall and never be able to rise again but that will never be true. Even in our darkest moments, there will be light ahead. No storm can last forever, and the sun will always rise again. Difficult times will come to us all, and we may be overwhelmed and unsure for a time, but with focus and clarity we will find the road ahead. All our dreams will still be there waiting for us, and we can step forward and claim them.

If we’re in a relationship with someone who needs a lot of support and attention, we may spend all our time helping them get through and sacrifice our own desires and goals. It’s good to be helpful, but we’re all responsible for our own lives. If we fix every problem for someone else, they lose the opportunity to learn and grow by solving them themselves. Instead of opening all the doors for them, we can stand side by side and encourage them to step forward on their own.

Today if you’ve been leaning on someone else to get through a personal issue, trust yourself. You are powerful and strong, and nothing can overcome you. Be confident and stand tall. Every answer is there for you and you will find the way forward. All your dreams are possible, and there is great happiness ahead.

Pause

30 Mar

Everyone has their own dreams and goals they want to accomplish. They are personal to our own individual journeys, and we decide where we want to go and what we want to do. If we were all alone and there were no obstacles to impede our progress, we could accomplish everything as soon as we desired. But life is full of diversions, distractions, unexpected developments, other people making all kinds of decisions that impact us, and a million other complications. We may run into something that stops us and blocks the way forward that requires us to pause in our pursuits for a time. It’s frustrating to have to wait when we want to move, but if we must endure an interruption, we can find ways to make it beneficial. As we wait, we can use the time to review how far we’ve come and look at all the possibilities for the way ahead. Answers may appear that we overlooked while we were pressing forward, and we might discover better methods for accomplishing our goal. Taking a pause in our progress doesn’t mean we must forsake the goal. Time out is not the end. It’s just a break from the road to address something else. While some goals may be time sensitive and stopping might prevent us from achieving them now, most of the time what we’re after can wait while we take care of other things. We can manage what needs our attention right now, take care of it, and then resume our journey forward toward our own personal goals. We know what we want, and there isn’t a detour powerful enough to keep us from it. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we desire. Every goal is possible, and with patience and focus, we will make them ours.

Those around us may ask for our time and assistance. If they have authority over us, we may not be able to decline whatever they request, but if not, we can decide what we want to do. It’s good to be helpful and share our talents and time with others, but if we continually pause our own journey for the sake of someone else’s, we will not achieve the goals we most desire. We can judiciously decide how much time we can offer, be helpful, and still continue forward toward our own goals.

We may be in a relationship with someone who needs a lot of support and guidance, and who continually asks us to do things for them. If we always do everything they ask, we may find it difficult to accomplish our own goals. We’re all responsible for our own lives. It’s impossible to reach our own goals if we give all our time to someone else. We are important and our dreams matter. We can be supportive and kind, and help out, but we need never sacrifice our entire lives for someone else’s comfort.

Today if you’ve been stopped from moving toward your own goals because of the needs of others, look at everything objectively. You are amazing and valuable, and your dreams are important. Be supportive and helpful, and serve in ways that allow you to move forward toward the goals you desire most. You are in control of your life. Every dream is waiting for you, and you have everything you need to make them yours.

Here Ya Go

26 Mar

There are lots of people who come and go in and out of our lives. We make contacts and connections, build relationships, and interact with them continually. We may only wave in passing, or they may be important and integral to our daily lives. We’re all sharing time on the planet and each of us is experiencing our own personal events. It’s good to have others who support us when things go wrong to offer help and advice, and we can be there when someone else needs us. Our connections to one another run deeper than we think, and our presence may be all that’s needed to help someone over a trial. Everyone gets the opportunity to experience problems and trouble, and we all struggle from time to time. Our lives are our own responsibility but if we’re overwhelmed with something, and someone we trust and rely on shows up, we might try to transfer the issue over onto them. We may imagine that since they care about us, they won’t mind taking on the extra burden, and believe they could manage it better than we could anyway. We may say, “Here ya go,” pass it off to them, dust off our hands, and walk away. It’s nice to think others will willingly handle all our messy, difficult problems, but our lives belong to us, and our problems are our responsibility. We own them, even when we try to give them away. Nobody wants to face problems. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, not fantasyland, and things are going to go wrong. It’s never convenient, it’s not fun and we don’t enjoy struggling, but that doesn’t mean we can’t manage the issue. We are stronger and wiser than we might think, and there isn’t anything so hard and complex we can’t figure it out. By trusting ourselves and taking things one step at a time, we will find our way through whatever comes. We are powerful and capable, and will succeed.

Guilt can be a very useful tool for manipulating others. If we’re asked to do something we don’t want to do, it may be used to get us to change our minds. They may remind us of when they helped us out of a jam, for which we were very grateful. There is always give and take in every relationship, but we’re in control of our lives. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and manipulation through infusing guilt into the equation, doesn’t change anything. We can be confident of our decisions, even if others disagree, and continue forward.

There may be times when we’re facing a very difficult problem and don’t know how to manage it. Instead of ignoring it and hoping it will magically disappear, or trying to find someone else who’ll take it, we can reach out for help and advice, and begin unraveling it ourselves. All the answers are there for us, and we are intelligent enough to find them. We can be confident we will prevail and push ahead toward resolution.

Today if you’re facing a difficult challenge and don’t know how to proceed, trust yourself. Ask for help and get the information and advice you need. You are more powerful than you realize, and nothing is too hard for you to manage. Be confident and stand strong. Every single blessing is there for you. Step forward and claim them.

Dump Site

4 Mar

Most of us want to be kind and helpful to those around us. We might offer to lend a hand when someone is in a bind or take on another’s chores when they are overwhelmed. The old saying, “Many hands make light work,” is true. When we all pitch in, even huge, difficult tasks become easier. Being open to giving our time and efforts is generally appreciated by those around us. We can be there when needed and share a part of the load. But there is a difference between being helpful and becoming someone else’s dump site. Some people may try to take advantage of our kindness and take all the stuff they don’t want to do and just dump it on us. They can do whatever they like but we don’t have to take on more than we want. We aren’t responsible for completing anyone’s tasks and responsibilities but our own. Just because someone hands us something they don’t want doesn’t mean we must accept it. Everyone is responsible for their own stuff, and if they try to push all the unwelcome and difficult tasks over onto us, we can politely and firmly decline, and step back. Being a team player means just that – being part of a team. It doesn’t mean we have to carry the entire load or do all the heavy lifting by ourselves. If we get into a situation where we’re expected to do more than is comfortable, we can decide how we want to participate. We’re always in control of our own lives and know what works best for us. We can be charitable and help in ways that benefit those around us and don’t wear us completely down. There is always more to do than one person can accomplish. By carefully planning our time, and doing our part, we can feel confident in our assistance, and ensure the success of any project. By doing what we can to help those around us, we can share our light with others, and make the world a better place.

Some people are very forceful and demanding, valuing their own importance, and diminishing the time of others. If we must interact with them, they may push projects onto us that require serious work and effort to accomplish. If they have authority over us, we may need to comply, but if not, we are not compelled to complete anything they arbitrarily assign to us. We can decide what we will and will not do, and express our decisions with grace and clarity, choosing the best road forward.

Offering our time and effort is noble, but we don’t have to give ALL our time and effort to serve those around us. Every moment we give is valuable, and we can determine how much we may offer. We can serve others and still have time for ourselves and what is important for our personal well-being. Sharing what we can, will benefit those around us and enrich our lives and experiences moving forward. We have so much to offer, and our gifts bring great light and goodness to the world.

Today if you’ve been helping others but the requests are more demanding than you can manage, determine how you want to continue. Whatever you can offer will be a blessing to those around you. Be wise and confident. You know what you need and where you want to go. You are a great gift to the world, and we’re all better because you are here. Make the best decisions moving forward, and you will find great joy.

Coming Back

1 Feb

When we think about a perfect life, we may imagine an existence filled with ease and pleasure where nothing goes wrong, and we are continually happy. It’s a nice dream and there are times when we all wish things were easier and we didn’t have to struggle. Life is our testing ground and teacher, and it isn’t always easy. It’s filled with experiences and challenges that may be very difficult and sometimes feel like they’ll break us. People make decisions that hurt us, our plans fall through, our hearts get broken, and we fall down. When we’re going through an extremely difficult time, and feel overwhelmed and broken, it’s can be hard to see how we’ll get through, much less prevail. We may feel beset by trouble and wonder why it’s happening to us. Although we may feel singled out, everyone suffers at some point. Nobody always gets a paved road ahead. There are obstacles and trials for us all. How we get through them defines where we go and what happens next. We don’t need to hide or run for cover. We already have everything we need inside us to get through anything we must. If we’re facing serious difficulty and grief and despair overcome us, we may believe we are ruined and will not recover, but that will never be true. All the answers will always be there for us and we will find them. If we need to, we can take our time and sit for a while until we know how we want to proceed. Every experience teaches us something new and changes us in some way, and even if we’re devastated, we have all the courage and wisdom necessary to get through. We may have to go far from our comfort zones, but there will always be a way back. Life is complex and we never know what will happen next, but whatever comes, we will prevail. Nothing is powerful enough to hold us down forever. We are strong and wise, and will find our way.

When we’ve been on a long, exhausting trip, it’s wonderful to get back home. We can unpack all the luggage, put everything away, and finally relax. It can feel the same after a serious challenge or trial. After the storm, the air will clear, the tension will release, and we will be renewed. The things we’ve learned will move forward with us and help us with whatever comes next, and we’ll be stronger and wiser for the struggle.

Life will take us to places we don’t dream we will go. We are not stagnant and everything we experience changes us in some way. Once we’ve stepped onto foreign ground and faced unexpected challenges, everything will be different. We will still be who we are but will grow in new ways that move us forward. Where we go from there is up to us. We can embrace what’s happened, understand what we’ve learned, and take the best lessons forward. Every dream will still be possible, and with focus and clarity, we can have the lives we want the most.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult challenge and feel crushed and overwhelmed, trust yourself. You’ve already overcome serious problems and prevailed. Stand strong and look ahead. All the answers are there for you, and you will find them. You are amazing and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident. Every dream is still possible and you will make them yours.