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Getting Even

15 Apr

We live in the world with billions of other people. It’s great to have others around us, and we learn and grow by interacting with them. Most people are considerate and try to do their best, but there are some who don’t care about anyone but themselves and will do anything to get what they want. If they’ve hurt us or kept us from something we’re striving for, we may be angry and decide we’re going to get even. We might feel we must even the score in order to move ahead. Of course, we can always push back and hurt someone who has hurt us, but getting even won’t ever move us forward. Being intensely focused on making someone else pay will hold us in place or may even move us further from our goals. It’s impossible to target someone else’s life and work on our own at the same time. Every moment we spend plotting and planning, and executing retribution is time we can’t spend moving forward. It isn’t easy to be someone else’s target and when we’re hurt, we may feel like revenge is the only way to restore our spirit. But revenge and getting even does just that – it makes us even with the behaviors that hurt us. We are better than that. Rising above bad behavior and taking a higher stand will empower us and give us authority over the issue. If we’re true to the standards we want in our lives and focus on choosing the roads that take us where we most want to go, we will gain self-confidence and success. Others may do what they will. By holding fast to who we are and choosing the best roads going forward, we will reach every destination we desire. We are powerful and wise, and can always make excellent choices that take us where we want to go.

When we’re children we’re taught to play fair. But the world isn’t always fair. Sometimes cheaters win, and sometimes bad people get the prize. It hurts when we can’t stop someone from unfairly taking something from us. We can certainly push back if there’s a way to reclaim what’s been lost, but sometimes there is no recourse and we must accept what’s happened. It’s normal to feel bad when we’ve been abused, but there are unlimited roads to every goal. If someone has taken the road we’re on we can find another. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely. There are endless possible options and with focus and determination we will find the way forward.

Nobody is strong enough or powerful enough to keep us from our goals. Every dream we desire is possible and even if we have to start over, we can reach them. If those around us aren’t supportive, we can change our relationships and do what is needed to create the lives we want. We can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach. We can move forward and achieve anything we desire. Great success is always possible and we will reach it.

Today if you’ve been manipulated and hurt, keep your eyes on the goals you desire. Nothing can keep you from success. Find the road that will take you forward and keep moving. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can hold you down. Every dream is possible and you can make them come true.

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Making an Impact

28 Feb

Nobody lives in a bubble exclusive to those around them. We’re all part of the world and everything we do has an effect on something around us. Newton’s Third Law of Motion states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Everything we do causes something else to happen. The response may be small and we may not notice anything different but it’s impossible to live our lives without creating some sort of change. Each decision causes a ripple effect that may create a new situation somewhere else. What kind of effect we have depends on the decisions we make, and our behavior influences everything around us. If we have a happy demeanor and positive outlook, we may bring light to others. Conversely, if we’re rude or grumpy, angry or curt, we may bring something else entirely, and if we’re vengeful or manipulative, may sow seeds of discontent and distrust. Every choice will produce some sort of response. We aren’t responsible for the feelings and choices of others, but we are responsible for the way our behavior and decisions impact their lives. We are part of the whole and whether we acknowledge that or not is irrelevant. Each step leaves an imprint and it’s up to us to decide what that will do. We can be mindful of every decision and think about all the possible ramifications before we act. We have everything we need to live happily and successfully. We have so much to offer, and with patience and careful consideration, can bring light and joy to those around us.

Nobody lives in nirvana and sometimes disappointing things happen that hurt us and change how we feel about the world. When things go wrong and we’ve been hurt, we may decide we’ve had enough and determine to seclude ourselves from others. We have a lot to offer but it will be impossible to share our gifts if we lock our lives away because of pain or disappointment. We can manage anything that comes and find our way back to happiness. We are capable, strong and wise, and nothing can keep us from the lives we desire.

Happiness comes from our actions but some people think they can find it by hurting others out of spite or maliciously causing problems for those around them. Their motivations will never justify the hardship they create and, in the end, they may find themselves angry and alone. The law of the harvest is inescapable. If we sow seeds of discontent, we will never reap joy. Everything we do takes us somewhere. We can make excellent choices that take us where we want to go and bring us great happiness.

Today, think about your decisions before you act. Make sure they will bring you the results you desire. You’re in control of your life and can do anything you choose. Make choices that will take you to the destinations you want the most and bring happiness into your life. You are a blessing to us all and have so many gifts to offer. Share them with us and make the world a better place.

Deadlock

22 Feb

Everyone has their own opinions and ideas about how things should go. We’re all entitled to our viewpoints and can live our lives any way we choose, but if we must cooperate with others and we disagree, we may get stuck. If agreement is necessary before we can move forward and we can’t find common ground, we will remain in place until something changes. It’s not always easy to find compromise when we are diametrically opposed to the other party’s viewpoint. If we’re on opposing ends of the spectrum, it can be difficult to form an alliance in an effort to move forward. Everyone’s opinion is important, even if we disagree. If we want cooperation, all voices must be heard. We’re all unique and our perceptions are specific to each of us. We can do anything we like individually, but if we’re part of a group, we may need to bend in order to find agreement. There will be few moments when everything goes our way and we get everything we want. Other viewpoints may seem intolerable at first, but by listening carefully and patiently we can find common ground on which to agree. Each side can hold onto what’s most important and relinquish areas of contention in order to move ahead. If we want success, we must learn to compromise effectively. A deadlock situation will hold us in place and keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and have the wisdom we need to find the best arrangement where everyone feels heard and the impasse ends. We can reach any goal we desire by being open to suggestion and allowing others to engage and participate.

If we believe in something strongly and someone questions that belief, we may feel personally assaulted. Our defenses may rise and we may go on the offensive regarding our position. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and ideas, and it doesn’t matter if others disagree with us. We can listen to opposing viewpoints without being threatened, and if we choose, can modify our stand. But our lives are ours to design and we can make our own choices even if they are in opposition to those around us.

When there are disagreements, it’s up to us how we respond. We can get angry and try to muscle the conversation in our direction. Trying to make others adopt our choice with force rarely works. Instead, if we respond patiently and politely, we may open the conversation effectively and allow everyone to express their own opinions. Respectful discussion can open the door to compromise and help us move closer to our goals. We are smart enough to know how to proceed and with confidence and understanding will reach any destination we desire.

Today if someone else’s ideas are keeping you from moving forward, be receptive to their point of view and express your own ideas confidently and patiently. Find a compromise that lets you step ahead and allows them to hold onto what they need. You are amazing and wise, and will find every answer you need. There isn’t anything that can hold you back from the goals you desire. Speak up and step forward, and you’ll reach success.

Owning It

15 Feb

Everyone has dreams and goals, and things they want to accomplish. Maybe we want to climb mountains or run marathons, maybe we want to write books and influence others, or maybe we just want to be happier. Whatever we desire is possible but it won’t happen just because we want it. There is no magic wand or genie who will appear to grant our wish. The only way to get what we want is to do what is needed to make it happen. If we want to climb mountains or run a marathon, we must put in the hours of physical training required. If we want to write a book we have to actually start typing, and if we want to be happier, we must determine what is holding us back and change our situation so we can move forward. It’s really a simple calculation – if you want to get to “B” you must go through “A” first. Choosing what we want and then pushing forward toward it will bring us success. When we look at our goals objectively it’s easy to see what needs to be done, but actually engaging and doing the work is a whole different story. We can set any goal we choose but if we want to accomplish it, we must do everything necessary to achieve it. Every dream is possible but nothing will change if all we do is dream. Imagine what our lives would be like if we were willing to do everything to make all our dreams come true. The confidence and satisfaction that come from achieving a long-desired goal brings great happiness. We deserve complete and abounding happiness. We can give it to ourselves by focusing on what we want most, and then doing what is needed to make it happen. We can focus on the road ahead and push through until we succeed. There isn’t anything we can’t do. Every destination and every goal are possible, and we can make them ours.

There are many reasons why we may not pursue something we want. It may take a lot of time, it might be difficult, it will change our lives, our families may not like it, we may have to change – the list is long and unending. If we want, we can live a mediocre existence, simply doing what is expected and going through the motions. But we own our choices and can go anywhere we desire. Deciding to create the lives we want the most will bring us the greatest happiness and fulfillment.

Fear of the unknown can be crippling. It can hold us in place even if where we are isn’t comfortable. We can’t see what lies ahead and there will always be some risk when we step out of our routine and choose something more. We may face challenges, but we are intelligent and capable, and even if we get tangled up, can find our way through. There are endless roads to every destination, and if one doesn’t work, we can step on another. Every goal is possible, and we have all the wisdom and courage to make our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something more and want to change your life, look ahead and choose the path that will take you there. You are amazing and nothing is out of reach. Believe in yourself and step forward. Make the choices that will open all the doors. You can go anywhere and have the life you desire. Nothing can keep you from success. Start today. All your dreams are possible, and you will have them.

Looking In

18 Jan

“You can fool all the people some of the time and some of the people all the time, but you cannot fool all the people all the time.” Abraham Lincoln

As we go through our lives, every decision we make takes us somewhere and tells the world and those around us who we really are. We can say anything to anyone to convince them we are one way or another, but what we do tells the real story. Our actions will always shine the truth on every situation. If we’re good at pretending and hold fast to what we’re trying to portray, we may even convince ourselves we are different than we really are. But nothing can hold the truth back forever. It will always rise and show itself openly and clearly to us and those around us. We can do anything we like with our lives and gain any attributes we value, but it takes determination and focus to do our best and be honest and authentic in every decision. The world is filled with all kinds of temptations and possibilities. Sometimes it may be easier to get what we want by deception and trickery instead of working toward the goal with integrity and diligence. If we are desperate to win the prize, we may choose a path of deception that takes us far from the person we most want to be. We might fool those around us but when we look in the mirror, the person staring back will always know the truth. There is never a need to compromise our personal values or integrity. There isn’t anything we can’t do honestly and valiantly. It may take longer than cheating the system, but choosing well enhances our self-esteem and builds our confidence. We deserve the best lives possible, and choosing to be honest in all our dealings will help us achieve every goal.

There are all kinds of ideas in the world and a constant tug of war between what is right and wrong. The values of one group may contradict the values of another, and there will always differences of opinion. Despite differences in interpretation, we can choose the best road forward that reflects our personal honesty and ethical standards. There will always be the opportunity to make excellent decisions and choices that are above reproach and enhance us going forward.

Nobody is perfect and imperfections are a natural part of life. We all have things about ourselves we’d like to change and when we’re ready can do what is needed to alter them to better reflect who we are. Despite any perceived shortcomings, there is never a need to hide are true selves. We are valuable as we are and have much to offer. There is nobody else in the world who can give the gifts we have to share. We can be sure of our abilities and go forward with clarity and confidence.

Today, if the goal you’re trying to reach has been difficult and you’re considering cheating to get there, remember your choices tell everyone who you really are. Choose the path that will reflect your personal honesty and integrity. You are a great blessing and your influence can lift us all. Make the best decisions possible and set the example for good. Step forward with confidence, and you will find great success.

Hard Line

14 Jan

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never come in contact with many of them, there are others around us most of the time. Sometimes it’s easy to interact with them but other times they may interfere with our plans, get in our way, object to our ideas, and basically make it harder for us to do what we want to do. It takes some skill and decorum to get through sticky situations when someone else isn’t on the same page we’re on and doesn’t share our views. Compromise is always a possibility but if we’re mad or determined to get things our way, we may draw a hard line and refuse to budge. That might work for us sometimes, but often all it does is escalate the situation and make things worse. If others feel their views are dismissed or ignored, we may find ourselves in an emotionally charged and difficult position. The whole idea is to move forward in every aspect of our lives, and there are many roads to every goal. Whatever we want to accomplish can likely be done in several ways. Instead of deciding it’s our way or the highway, we can open our minds up to the possibilities and options presented by others and bring them on board. Everyone wants to be heard and feel valued. We can get to our goals and reach every destination by listening carefully and finding a solution that expresses everyone’s point of view. It takes a little more work than just forging ahead our own way, but the ultimate success is worth it. Everyone has good ideas. We can include them in our plans and move forward.

We’re all at different places on the spectrum of intelligence and understanding. Some people are very smart and understand concepts and ideas quickly and completely. Others take more time to comprehend the goal and what must be done to accomplish it. How fast we understand the issue doesn’t define our success. When everyone is ready, they can contribute ideas for success, decisions can be made, and a plan can be put into motion. Everything is attainable and with patience and cooperation we can reach any goal.

When we’re confident and have a clear understanding of an issue, if we want others to agree with us, we may state our position and the reasons why we feel the way we do. We may convince those around us to follow our lead, or they may prefer to do things their way. There is not one, absolute, perfect answer to any problem. We can accept modification of our plans that include everyone’s perspective. The idea is to get to the goal – not necessarily to get to it in one specific way. We can be tolerant and patient enough to include those around us and choose the best road ahead.

Today if you’re sure you have the perfect answer to a problem but others around you disagree, listen carefully to their suggestions. There are always many roads to any destination. Include those around you and find an answer that represents everyone. You are wise and strong. Share your wisdom and allow others to share theirs with you. Compromise will bring freedom and success. You have so much to offer. Be willing to listen and move forward with confidence.

Stumbling

11 Dec

Life is busy and there are always complications and unforeseen developments. Things rarely go exactly as planned or expected. Most of the time we are able to bend with the tide and continue forward but sometimes something may trip us up and we may stumble or even fall down. Perhaps someone makes a decision we never dreamed of and it throws us for a loop, or a development happens that suddenly alters the road moving forward. When everything changes and we trip trying to find our footing it sometimes takes a while to figure out what to do next. Everything may look different and we may be unsure which way to turn. If we are determined to hold onto our previous plan and refuse to adjust to the changes before us, we may get stuck and unable to move. There is no way to travel a road that no longer exists. Demanding that everything return to the way it was will not help us. Life is all about change and sometimes that means we have to change with it and rethink the way ahead. There is always more than one road to any destination we desire. We can look at all the options before us and consider new ideas that will help us reach the goal we seek. It’s frustrating to have to stop and regroup when we’re focused on the road ahead, but if we keep our eyes open, we’ll see new possibilities that can take us where we want to go. We can learn about new roads and find our way forward. Everything we want to do is there for us. We can adjust our thinking and continue on.

We don’t know what we don’t know, and even if we’ve planned well there will always be unknown influences we have no control over. If we hit a snag and can’t get through, we can find our way around it. We might stumble trying to see the road but stumbling isn’t a full stop. It’s a chance to stand still for a moment and re-assess where to go next. We can try something new and step on a different road to get to the goal. We are certainly capable of changing our focus and learning new ways to accomplish anything. We can be confident, even if everything changes, that we’ll find our way.

When dancers practice for a performance they don’t always perform every action perfectly. If they miss a step, they go over it again and again until they master it and learn to make it work. It’s the same for our personal lives. If something trips us up, we can try different ideas until we find the one that works and moves us forward. We can make the stumble part of the dance and continue on. Every dream we desire is possible if we continue forward and do what is needed to make it come true. We can have the lives we want the most by deciding we will succeed, no matter what comes.

Today if your way forward has been upended and you aren’t sure what to do next, take a look around. There are endless possibilities before you and you will find your way. Everything you desire is in your power. Start again and press forward. All your dreams are only steps away. You have everything you need to reach them and make them come true.