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Free Pass

14 Nov

Every choice we make has consequences. If we’re careful and thoughtful, and do our best to choose the best possible options, chances are the consequences of those decisions will work in our favor. But people are complex and life is complicated. Things go wrong, unexpected problems arise, and we make mistakes. If we’re stressed, overwhelmed, angry or distracted, we might make a decision that isn’t in our best interest and has dire results. We are free to choose anything we like, but we’re not free to choose the results of those decisions. There is no way to escape our accountability for the choices we make. It doesn’t matter is we were stressed, upset, confused, or convinced by someone else to do something. If we make a decision, it belongs solely to us, and we’ll answer for what happens next. When we choose the first step on any path, we also choose the last. Accountability must be satisfied and there is no way to escape. We may have good excuses for why we did something, and they may be convincing, but there are no free passes. We are responsible for every decision we make. Nobody can make us do anything we don’t want to do. If we acquiesce when we know it’s the wrong choice, we must endure what comes. We can try to explain our way out, and offer any excuses we think might help us, but nothing can change the path we’ve chosen. Once a decision is made it cannot be erased. But even if we’ve erred, we can do what is necessary to fix the situation, and then proceed forward with renewed confidence and choose more carefully. We are intelligent and capable of making excellent choices, and nothing can prevent us from reaching our goals. With wisdom and patience, we can choose the roads that will move us forward and help us find success.

There are a lot of excuses and reasons for bad decisions. If the situation was intense and we felt pressured, we may say we couldn’t help what happened. We are always in control of everything we do, and even if we’re being pressed or bullied, we can stand firm and make the best decisions possible. Every choice we make takes us somewhere and by being proactive and thoughtful, we can make the best decisions that bring us the results we most desire.

It’s good to be kind and have mercy on someone who chooses badly, but justice must prevail. Nobody is perfect and even if others are considerate and understanding, we are still accountable for our choices. Once we’ve chosen a road, we must travel it to the end. There is no way to erase the past and the best we can do is choose more wisely moving forward. Life is all about learning and every step teaches us something to carry forward. We are able to learn from our mistakes and make excellent choices. Every goal is possible and with wisdom and care, we will reach them.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision that’s bringing you difficulty and trouble, think about your next steps forward. You can change course and turn your direction toward where you most want to go. Stand strong and step forward with confidence. You know what you want, and you will prevail.

Seeing the End

31 Oct

Every goal we want to achieve is possible. We can go anywhere, do anything, and accomplish whatever we desire. Every dream is available if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. If we can imagine it, we can achieve it. But in order to get to the end of any road and reach our goals, we must be able to visualize it. It’s impossible to reach anything undefined. If we want to actually achieve a goal, we must understand exactly what it is we’re trying to reach and see the end from the beginning. We might really desire success, but being successful is an undefined destination. Before we can reach it, we must decide exactly what we want to be successful doing, and then step forward and begin to move toward the goal. It’s impossible to reach any destination when we don’t know where we’re going. Once we define our destination, we can make a plan for the road ahead, and step forward with confidence that we will succeed. Dreams are nice and we can dream about how we want our lives to be as long as we like. However, if we want those dreams to become reality, we must clearly determine what it will take to make them happen, and then do what is needed. We are highly capable and everything we desire is possible. We can have the lives we want the most, and go anywhere we want to go. Every destination is there, waiting for us. We can trust ourselves to do what it takes to reach them, and find great satisfaction and joy in our success.

Everyone wants to be happy but our happiness is our responsibility. Other people can’t give it to us and although some situations will bring it, they are fleeting and soon gone. If we want real, sustained happiness we must design our lives in ways that make it possible. Doing things the way others expect and putting off our dreams will not create it. Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we like. Choosing paths that take us where we most want to go, and doing what we most want to do will bring us lasting and fulfilling happiness.

We can’t control what happens to us, what others will do, or how most things will roll out. We only have control over our own decisions and the choices we make define who we are and where we go. We can listen to the counsel of others and take whatever advice we like, but our choices belong solely to us. The road ahead is determined by the decisions we make. We can create our own future by making choices that take us where we most want to go. Nothing is too far to reach. Every success is possible and with determination and focus, we can go anywhere and do anything.

Today if you’ve been going along with what others think is best for you, step back and look at every possibility. You can have the life you dream about. Envision the destinations you want to reach, and then take the first step toward them. You are amazing and strong, and can do anything you desire. Be confident and move ahead with clarity and determination. Your life is yours to design, and complete happiness is there for you. Step forward, and claim it.

Follow the Leader

30 Sep

Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we like. We always know who we are but there may be times when we modify our course to follow someone else, and decide to pattern our lives after theirs. If they’re successful in ways we desire, we may choose to copy their actions and decisions in the hopes that we’ll achieve the same success for ourselves. There are countless self-help books available that tell us if we want to be happy or accomplish something important, we need only copy what the author has done and we’ll succeed. Whether that is accurate or not is debatable but if we believe them, we may try to emulate their lives instead of living our own. Like the child’s game, Follow the Leader, we can copy anyone else’s moves and decisions at any time. We can follow them for as long as we like and we might end up somewhere we want to go – or we might not. It all depends on the decisions we make along the way. Each of us is unique and our life expressions are individual to our own experiences. Trying to be like someone else might move us closer to a goal, but if we only copy another’s choices, we’ll never know what we could do on our own. We are highly capable and able to achieve anything we desire. There isn’t a destination we can’t reach, and we already possess everything we need to be successful. Following along will only take us where someone else wants to go and teach us someone else’s lessons. There are endless paths to discover and we can create the lives we dream about by finding them on our own. We can forge our own unique road ahead and achieve any goal we desire. Nothing is beyond our reach and we will find great success.

When we’re unsure about where we’re headed, we can lean on someone else’s decisions and direction until we feel more confident. However, if we continue to rely on decisions made by others, we won’t reach the destinations we most desire. There is no way to reach our personal goals by following someone headed in a different direction. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it. We can trust ourselves and step ahead with confidence, and reach every destination we desire.

There are countless possibilities in life and before we decide what we want we may follow many different ideas and try on various viewpoints and opinions. Every option has its benefits and drawbacks, and as we explore each, we will discover what’s important to us and what we want most. There are endless opportunities and we can design our lives any way we like. We are the only ones with the gifts we have to offer and the whole world is blessed because we are here. Every option is possible and with determination and focus, we can have the lives we dream of.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s ideas and decisions, trust yourself and decide to create the life you want the most. Step forward with confidence. You can do anything and nothing is too far to reach. Think about what you want the most and then move toward your goal. Nothing can keep you from any destination you desire. Success is there for you, and you have everything you need to reach it.

Justify

28 Aug

We can do anything we want, and make any decisions we desire, good or bad. Our lives are always in our control and we can take any road, and choose any path we like. We may make good decisions most of the time, but life can get complicated and sometimes the waters can get muddy. Maybe someone who has influence over us wants us to do something that goes against our values, or is dishonest. Or someone we love does something wrong and asks us to keep it to ourselves, even though it may hurt others. We can do anything we want and if we go along with things that aren’t in our best interest, may justify the decision because of our relationships or some other excuse. We can try to justify anything and we might be able to explain the situation away in some ways, but there is no way to change the truth. Explaining our reasons for making a wrong turn will never make it right. We can talk until we’re blue in the face, but the facts will still remain. Nobody is perfect and we all err from time to time. Hanging onto a bad decision and trying to convince others it’s really a good choice will never work in our favor. It’s exhausting, and unlikely to bring the results we’re seeking. If we’ve made a mistake, we will suffer the consequences. No justification can keep us from reaping the harvest we’ve sown, but all is not lost. When we falter, we can acknowledge the situation and then do what is needed to correct our course, and repair any damage we’ve done. We are strong and wise, and can change direction at any time. Every goal is possible, and with determination and careful consideration, we can make the best decisions to reach them.

It’s nice to dream about how life could be, and when we’re unhappy we can spend all the time we like imagining a better situation, but dreams will never change our reality. If we’re unhappy, and aren’t on the road we want to travel, we can do what is needed to change. Nothing is permanent and we can step onto a new path at any time. We need only decide what we want, and then begin to move toward it. Our lives are in our control, and we can do anything we like. We deserve complete happiness and satisfaction, and can make choices that will take us to it.

Decisions are a constant fact of life. Every single day we make dozens of them, and every step we take is affected by the choices we make. If we find we’re headed in the wrong direction, continuing forward will not magically turn us toward where we want to go. The wrong road will never turn into the right one on its own. We’re in charge of our lives and can stop, consider all possible options, and then choose the best way ahead. Every dream is possible and we can achieve the goals we desire most.

Today if you’ve made a bad decision and have been trying to justify it to yourself and those around you, reconsider the way forward. You already know what you want. Change your course until you’re headed in the right direction. Make decisions that will bring your dreams into focus and create the life you desire the most. Everything is possible. Be wise and thoughtful, and every dream can come true.

The Gift

8 Aug

We have all kinds of responsibilities and tasks to get done. Some are routine and we’re used to managing them, but other stuff comes up and if we’re facing something difficult or unpleasant, we may put it off and try to avoid it. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to deal with it, and we would love someone else to volunteer to take it off our hands. When we have a lot to carry, it would be very convenient to hand everything that’s weighing on us over to someone else and walk away. Just leave it with them and let them deal with it. We can try that and we might be able to get rid of a few things but nobody is going to forget the little gift we gave them, and in time, they may bring us an even bigger one to deal with in return. Fair is fair, and if we expect others to take care of our crap, we have to be willing to take care of theirs. Since there is no way to know how big their issues might be, it’s better to stand firm, and manage the issues we have on our own. It doesn’t usually work to push our problems off on others but that doesn’t mean others won’t try to push their troublesome tasks off onto us. If we’re open and welcoming, they may simply hand them off and ask us to take care of them. We might be okay with that once in a while, but if it becomes habit, it might seriously impact our time and our relationship. Everyone is responsible for their own lives and their own responsibilities. We don’t have to solve anyone else’s problems or carry their burdens for them. Our lives will bring us enough to manage, and if we manage it well, and take care of things as they arise, we will feel great satisfaction as we move forward. Our confidence will rise and we’ll find great success.

Some people need more attention and help than others. They may be unsure of their abilities, need more information, they may be confused, or they may just be lazy. Whatever the case, if we’re asked to help, we can certainly step up and try to assist. But helping with an issue isn’t taking ownership of it. The problem does not belong to us and we are never responsible for solving it. We can help where possible and offer any advice we may have, and allow those who own the problem to find the answers they need.

There are all kinds of problems and complications in life. Nobody can solve them all or save anyone else. We can take care of our own issues and, when possible, help those around us take care of theirs. We are strong enough for anything our life brings, and can solve any problem or face any trial that arises. If asked, we can help those around us, but we can never carry the load for everyone else. We can be considerate and try to assist, but the responsibility for the success of others lies with them. We can take care of our responsibilities, share when we can, and find great success and happiness moving forward.

Today if someone has asked you take on a problem that belongs to them, you need not agree. Be helpful, but let others manage their own issues, and give the gift of self-reliance. You are incredible and wise, and we’re all enriched by your presence. Set the best example moving forward and the whole world will benefit.

Piling On

18 Jul

Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and sometimes it seems like it twists and turns right on top of us. We can manage any complication that comes along, but when they come linked together, it can get crazy. We get up in the morning and discover there’s no water because there’s been a water main break somewhere, then the microwave door explodes open for no apparent reason and throws hot food all over us, the car developed a flat tire overnight, and we can’t find our keys. It can happen, or any of a million variations on the theme. We’ve all been there and will probably go there again. Sometime it’s like a chain reaction – one thing goes wrong, and then another, and another and we’re left standing confused and overwhelmed. It’s hard to explain when trouble piles on and we may feel we’re cursed or doomed in some way. Of course, that’s not possible. The whole world hasn’t turned against us, and nobody orchestrated this to drive us crazy. When a combination of unrelated troubling events come together, they may stop us in our tracks. Lots of things can always go wrong, but they can always be turned back around. The water main will be repaired, the microwave can be adjusted, the flat tire can be fixed and we will find our keys. Instead of seeing roadblocks as a complete stop and getting upset, we can see them as merely a detour in our plans, and confidently and capably manage them. We can maintain our composure and see everything clearly so we can plan our next steps. Everything we do teaches us something of value, and no matter how dire the circumstance, there will always be something for which to be grateful. Our worst day will have blessings for us. We are strong and smart, and nothing can overcome us. We can continue moving forward no matter what’s in the way, and find success.

When we’re furious and angry, it’s impossible to reason clearly. It might feel good to vent all our frustration and tell the whole world how mad we are, but it won’t help us find the answers we need. Even if everything goes wrong and we’re completely frustrated, we can keep our composure and think clearly. Everything we need is already there for us and with patience and self-control, we will more easily find the way forward.

We can never predict what will happen next and there is no way to prepare for the unknown. No matter how well we plan, something may go wrong. There may be no way to continue on the road ahead and we may have to completely regroup and find another possibility. It’s not easy to change direction and start again, but we are more powerful than we realize and can do anything we must to find our way. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we will prevail.

Today if everything seems to be going wrong and the road ahead has disappeared, trust yourself and be confident. You are wise and intelligent, and nothing can keep you from success. There will always be another way forward, and you will find it. Look at all the options available and start again. Every success is possible, and you will reach it.

Terminal

9 Jul

People make all kinds of decisions as they go through their lives. If the choices are inconsequential, chances are others won’t be impacted. But if they are serious, and far reaching, may cause heartburn and difficulty for those around them. We’re all more connected to each other than we may realize. If we choose something that affects not only our lives, but the lives of others, it may alter our relationships with them. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but if we only see ourselves as we move ahead, our decisions may cause problems for others. We aren’t responsible for anyone else’s life but our own, but every step we take and every decision we make will take us somewhere. If we do something that causes serious pain or harm to those around us, we may terminally break our connection with them. It’s difficult to stay involved with someone who brings trouble into our lives. It may take considerable effort and time to look at all the possibilities that may arise when making a big decision. If we don’t take the time we need to ensure we’re taking the best steps forward and instead jump to the easiest possible option, we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. Our relationships are important and the connections we build help us achieve our goals. Burning bridges behind us because we carelessly chose the easiest path ahead can only work against us. We are wise enough to choose well and can make excellent decisions. We can take our time, weigh all the options before us, and move forward with confidence, preserving the network we’ve built and ensuring the best outcomes. Every possibility is there for us and with patience and determination we can find the best road ahead.

Some people fly by the seat of their pants. They make snap decisions without taking time to see what may happen after the choice has been made. If they end up in a mess – which may often be the case – they may blame those around them or influences that they couldn’t control. We’re all responsible for every choice we make. There is no way to push accountability onto someone else. Every destination we desire is possible and we have everything we need to choose the best road forward.

There may be times when we must choose something that will hurt someone else. Sometimes there are no easy answers to the questions before us. If we evaluate all the options and choose the best possible scenario, we can manage any collateral damage that may occur. We can reach out and help those whose lives are impacted negatively, and help them work through any complications that arise. Life can be complex and sometimes things don’t come easily. But we are strong and capable, and can manage any situation we must.

Today if you’ve been hurt by someone else’s decision and can’t find the way forward, take the time you need to evaluate all the options possible. You can achieve anything you desire. There are many roads to every destination, and you can chart a new course. Nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is possible and you will prevail.