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The Gift

8 Aug

We have all kinds of responsibilities and tasks to get done. Some are routine and we’re used to managing them, but other stuff comes up and if we’re facing something difficult or unpleasant, we may put it off and try to avoid it. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to deal with it, and we would love someone else to volunteer to take it off our hands. When we have a lot to carry, it would be very convenient to hand everything that’s weighing on us over to someone else and walk away. Just leave it with them and let them deal with it. We can try that and we might be able to get rid of a few things but nobody is going to forget the little gift we gave them, and in time, they may bring us an even bigger one to deal with in return. Fair is fair, and if we expect others to take care of our crap, we have to be willing to take care of theirs. Since there is no way to know how big their issues might be, it’s better to stand firm, and manage the issues we have on our own. It doesn’t usually work to push our problems off on others but that doesn’t mean others won’t try to push their troublesome tasks off onto us. If we’re open and welcoming, they may simply hand them off and ask us to take care of them. We might be okay with that once in a while, but if it becomes habit, it might seriously impact our time and our relationship. Everyone is responsible for their own lives and their own responsibilities. We don’t have to solve anyone else’s problems or carry their burdens for them. Our lives will bring us enough to manage, and if we manage it well, and take care of things as they arise, we will feel great satisfaction as we move forward. Our confidence will rise and we’ll find great success.

Some people need more attention and help than others. They may be unsure of their abilities, need more information, they may be confused, or they may just be lazy. Whatever the case, if we’re asked to help, we can certainly step up and try to assist. But helping with an issue isn’t taking ownership of it. The problem does not belong to us and we are never responsible for solving it. We can help where possible and offer any advice we may have, and allow those who own the problem to find the answers they need.

There are all kinds of problems and complications in life. Nobody can solve them all or save anyone else. We can take care of our own issues and, when possible, help those around us take care of theirs. We are strong enough for anything our life brings, and can solve any problem or face any trial that arises. If asked, we can help those around us, but we can never carry the load for everyone else. We can be considerate and try to assist, but the responsibility for the success of others lies with them. We can take care of our responsibilities, share when we can, and find great success and happiness moving forward.

Today if someone has asked you take on a problem that belongs to them, you need not agree. Be helpful, but let others manage their own issues, and give the gift of self-reliance. You are incredible and wise, and we’re all enriched by your presence. Set the best example moving forward and the whole world will benefit.

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Piling On

18 Jul

Life is full of unexpected twists and turns, and sometimes it seems like it twists and turns right on top of us. We can manage any complication that comes along, but when they come linked together, it can get crazy. We get up in the morning and discover there’s no water because there’s been a water main break somewhere, then the microwave door explodes open for no apparent reason and throws hot food all over us, the car developed a flat tire overnight, and we can’t find our keys. It can happen, or any of a million variations on the theme. We’ve all been there and will probably go there again. Sometime it’s like a chain reaction – one thing goes wrong, and then another, and another and we’re left standing confused and overwhelmed. It’s hard to explain when trouble piles on and we may feel we’re cursed or doomed in some way. Of course, that’s not possible. The whole world hasn’t turned against us, and nobody orchestrated this to drive us crazy. When a combination of unrelated troubling events come together, they may stop us in our tracks. Lots of things can always go wrong, but they can always be turned back around. The water main will be repaired, the microwave can be adjusted, the flat tire can be fixed and we will find our keys. Instead of seeing roadblocks as a complete stop and getting upset, we can see them as merely a detour in our plans, and confidently and capably manage them. We can maintain our composure and see everything clearly so we can plan our next steps. Everything we do teaches us something of value, and no matter how dire the circumstance, there will always be something for which to be grateful. Our worst day will have blessings for us. We are strong and smart, and nothing can overcome us. We can continue moving forward no matter what’s in the way, and find success.

When we’re furious and angry, it’s impossible to reason clearly. It might feel good to vent all our frustration and tell the whole world how mad we are, but it won’t help us find the answers we need. Even if everything goes wrong and we’re completely frustrated, we can keep our composure and think clearly. Everything we need is already there for us and with patience and self-control, we will more easily find the way forward.

We can never predict what will happen next and there is no way to prepare for the unknown. No matter how well we plan, something may go wrong. There may be no way to continue on the road ahead and we may have to completely regroup and find another possibility. It’s not easy to change direction and start again, but we are more powerful than we realize and can do anything we must to find our way. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and we will prevail.

Today if everything seems to be going wrong and the road ahead has disappeared, trust yourself and be confident. You are wise and intelligent, and nothing can keep you from success. There will always be another way forward, and you will find it. Look at all the options available and start again. Every success is possible, and you will reach it.

Terminal

9 Jul

People make all kinds of decisions as they go through their lives. If the choices are inconsequential, chances are others won’t be impacted. But if they are serious, and far reaching, may cause heartburn and difficulty for those around them. We’re all more connected to each other than we may realize. If we choose something that affects not only our lives, but the lives of others, it may alter our relationships with them. We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like, but if we only see ourselves as we move ahead, our decisions may cause problems for others. We aren’t responsible for anyone else’s life but our own, but every step we take and every decision we make will take us somewhere. If we do something that causes serious pain or harm to those around us, we may terminally break our connection with them. It’s difficult to stay involved with someone who brings trouble into our lives. It may take considerable effort and time to look at all the possibilities that may arise when making a big decision. If we don’t take the time we need to ensure we’re taking the best steps forward and instead jump to the easiest possible option, we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. Our relationships are important and the connections we build help us achieve our goals. Burning bridges behind us because we carelessly chose the easiest path ahead can only work against us. We are wise enough to choose well and can make excellent decisions. We can take our time, weigh all the options before us, and move forward with confidence, preserving the network we’ve built and ensuring the best outcomes. Every possibility is there for us and with patience and determination we can find the best road ahead.

Some people fly by the seat of their pants. They make snap decisions without taking time to see what may happen after the choice has been made. If they end up in a mess – which may often be the case – they may blame those around them or influences that they couldn’t control. We’re all responsible for every choice we make. There is no way to push accountability onto someone else. Every destination we desire is possible and we have everything we need to choose the best road forward.

There may be times when we must choose something that will hurt someone else. Sometimes there are no easy answers to the questions before us. If we evaluate all the options and choose the best possible scenario, we can manage any collateral damage that may occur. We can reach out and help those whose lives are impacted negatively, and help them work through any complications that arise. Life can be complex and sometimes things don’t come easily. But we are strong and capable, and can manage any situation we must.

Today if you’ve been hurt by someone else’s decision and can’t find the way forward, take the time you need to evaluate all the options possible. You can achieve anything you desire. There are many roads to every destination, and you can chart a new course. Nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is possible and you will prevail.

Adding It Up

2 Jul

We all learned to add in grade school and it’s a skill we use often in all kinds of ways. Adding one plus one will always make two, no matter where we are or what we’re doing. It’s a constant that never changes. Adding up all the factors in play helps us find the solutions we need to take another step and move forward. However, there may be times when our vision may be clouded and we don’t see the whole picture before us. People are complex and when we’re interacting with them, they may present themselves in ways that create a certain picture that may or may not be accurate. The sum of all the parts sometimes doesn’t add up to the image they want to portray. If they tell us they’re always honest, we may have no reason to doubt them. But then, perhaps we see them cheat on a time sheet, or lie about where they are, or take something that isn’t theirs. Everything we do is a factor in the overall equation. If we want the end result we’re seeking, and want to be the people we say we are, all the parts have to add up. We can say anything, but we aren’t what we say, we are what we do. We can choose to live our lives with integrity, honesty and clarity and bring light into the world. Or we can choose another path, deceive those around us, manipulate situations and forge ahead pushing others out of the way, and disregarding anyone but ourselves. The choices are ours to make but one thing is certain. We will always be the sum total of our decisions no matter which way we choose. One plus one will always equal two. Nothing can change the truth. We can live our lives any way we like and if we choose well, and make strong, honest decisions, will have the lives we dream about. Every blessing is possible and each step we take can move us closer to gaining them.

Although we’re always in control of our lives, there may be great pressure to comply with the views of those around us. If we align ourselves with actions and behaviors we aren’t comfortable with, we may get along, but the price may be high. It’s impossible to be genuine and conform at the same time. We can respect other ideas, and still be ourselves. We can be honest and choose our own road going forward.

If what we’re being told doesn’t match what’s happening, or if the road is convoluted and confusing, and nothing is adding up to the picture we’ve been given, we may need to take another look. We can stop and objectively view all the parameters before us. We are wise enough to see things as they really are and make the best decision moving forward. We can have the lives we want the most, and ensure everything we desire is adding up to the results we seek.

Today, take a moment to look ahead and make sure the road you’re on is headed toward the destination you desire. You are wise and capable, and can reach any goal you seek. Look at the possibilities around you and choose the direction that takes you forward. Pay attention and ensure each step moves you closer to where you want to be. Add everything up and find the answers you need to reach success. You are amazing and nothing can hold you in place. Everything is possible and you will win.

Bankrupt

17 Jun

Everyone has a lot going on in their lives much of the time. We have many responsibilities, chores and things that need our attention, and there are others around us who may ask for our help as well. We can’t stretch the days any longer than they are and when we’re busy, and someone asks for our time, despite the pressures we’re already under, we may agree and try to find a way to get it done. We may say yes even when we can’t see how we’ll be able to accomplish the task. Most of us want to be helpful, but we must all work within the limits we have. It does no good to over extend ourselves and bankrupt our time. We’ll only end up frustrated and overwhelmed with too much to do and no way to accomplish it. There are lots of people around us and we all have a lot to do. There is no way we can help everyone who asks or be there continually for others, and still get our personal responsibilities cared for. Our time is limited and it’s important and appropriate to manage it in ways that move us forward and give us the opportunity to accomplish our own tasks as well as help others with theirs. Our needs are important and we can value and care for them. It’s counterproductive to commit to more than we can accomplish or get so busy we have no time to take care of ourselves. We can be helpful and still be pro-active. We can offer what works within our personal constraints and then say no to any more. There will always be more need than we can fill. With patience and wisdom, we can exercise self-control and manage our time in ways that help others while still having time for ourselves.

It can be hard to say no when we’re pressed to help. Those close to us may require more support than we can comfortably give, but we may try because they need us. It’s not selfish to decline requests that will be more than we can handle. We can help when possible and understand that we’re all responsible for our own lives. If we fall apart from exhaustion because we’ve over committed, we won’t be able to take care of anything. It’s appropriate to care for ourselves first and then attend to all the other demands around us.

Our personal relationships are important and need attention to keep them happy and healthy. Scheduling too much to do and pressing ourselves to accomplish so much that we neglect time with those we love will hurt us in the end. The world is filled with need. We can do our part without doing too much, and manage our time effectively. Our lives are always in our control. With careful consideration, we can take good care of ourselves and still serve those around us.

Today if you’ve agreed to do more than you can manage and find yourself overwhelmed and over extended, step back and look at what you can comfortably manage. Revise your commitments so that you have the time you need to care for yourself and those you love. Help when you can but manage your time in ways that benefit you and those around you. You are amazing and the whole world is blessed by your presence. Take the best of care and step forward with confidence.

What They Said

23 May

Our lives are busy as we’re focused on attending to our responsibilities, taking care of what’s pressing, and trying to get everything that’s important done on time. As we interact with others, situations will undoubtedly arise where our input or suggestions are requested. If we’re interested in what’s going on, we may spend valuable time thinking about it and how to navigate through it. But sometimes, when we’re busy, even if the issue is important, we may be too distracted to offer anything and simply go along with what everyone else wants. Going with the flow of those around us is easy, doesn’t require any time or thought, and sometimes everything works out just fine. However, when things go wrong, we may stand back and shake our heads at the calamity around us and feel blameless, because after all, it wasn’t our decision. That’s not entirely true. If we choose to go along with what others are doing, we’re making a conscious decision to agree. That means we own it as well as everyone else. If things go awry, we’re just as responsible as the others involved. We are always accountable for everything we do, even if all we do is coast along with others. Casting blame on those who had the original idea when the plan falls apart does not exclude us. Life is filled with opportunities to learn and grow, and each decision we make teaches us something valuable going forward. Even when we don’t make a choice, we are choosing. Everything we do has a consequence. Owning our part in our decisions and then doing what is needed to correct them will take us where we want to go and make us the people we want to be. We are wise and capable of making excellent decisions and with determination and purpose, can achieve anything we desire.

If we ride in the backseat of a car, we aren’t driving. We aren’t deciding which turn to take or even what the destination will be. But if we get in the car, there is a tacit understanding that we agree to accept wherever it goes, and where it ends up. The same applies if we go along with other peoples’ decisions. We may not make the choice ourselves, but aligning ourselves with them implies our acceptance and agreement with it. Everything we do has a consequence. We can ensure we end up where we want to go by weighing each decision carefully before we choose.

If we’re in a situation with someone who has authority over us who decides we’ll do something we don’t agree with, we may feel we can’t object. Like being caught in a slipstream gliding along, we may feel powerless to escape. We can always express our concerns over any issue. We can positively speak up with clarity and respect, and share our viewpoint. Then if we must participate, we can move forward with confidence that we did our best.

Today if you’ve been taking a backseat to the decisions around you and going along with what others have decided, remember your life is important and your choices are valuable. Speak up and share your viewpoint. Every step will take you somewhere. Make sure it’s where you most want to go. Be confident and proceed with determination. Create the life you want the most and all your dreams will come true.

Stopping the Wave

14 May

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. One thing always leads to another and each decision we make turns our lives a little this way or that. Sometimes what seems to be an insignificant and unimportant choice may surprise us by turning our lives in a direction we didn’t anticipate. Our choices can be far reaching, and we may feel the ramifications of them for a long time. It’s like a wave in the ocean that travels for hundreds of miles before finally breaking on the shore. A thousand things could change because of one simple choice and we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. One event triggers another, and then another, and before we know it one little decision may have changed everything. Although we can’t control those around us, we always have control over ourselves. If we’re paying attention and see we’re going somewhere we don’t want, we can stop and change direction. We can adjust our choices and stop the wave from continuing any further. We never have to complete any journey that’s taking us away from where we want to go. We can apply the brakes, stand still and review our options, and then redirect our course toward the goals we want to achieve. Our lives belong to us. If we’ve made a mistake, we can correct it. If we’re going the wrong way, we can turn around. Everything is in our power and we can do anything we want. By taking control and choosing our next step forward, we can reach any destination we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we will reach them.

There are times when it may feel that life has its own direction and we’re being swept along without any choice. One thing is certain, if we don’t decide where we want to go and do what is needed to get there, circumstances and others may decide for us. Other people may make decisions about what we need to do and where we need to go, and if we don’t take control, we may end up like a leaf on the wind, going here and there without any destination in mind. Our lives are ours to design and with purpose and determination, we can achieve any goal we choose.

If we’ve made a decision that has had difficult and far reaching consequences, we may feel we’ve ruined our lives and there is no way to correct the situation. Nothing is permanent and we can change anything at any time. It may take a lot of effort, but we’re strong enough to manage whatever is necessary. It may take a lot of time, but we will move forward with each step we take. Nothing is too difficult or complicated for us to change and with focus and dedication we can move in the direction we want to go and make our dreams come true.

Today if you feel like you’re caught in a wave moving you toward somewhere you don’t want to go, remember you’re in control of your life. Turn toward what you most want to achieve and take control of the way forward. Nothing is out of reach and you have all the courage and wisdom you need to find your way. Every dream is possible and you are strong enough, and smart enough to achieve anything. Choose your next step and move toward your goal. Every success is possible and you will achieve it.