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What They Said

23 May

Our lives are busy as we’re focused on attending to our responsibilities, taking care of what’s pressing, and trying to get everything that’s important done on time. As we interact with others, situations will undoubtedly arise where our input or suggestions are requested. If we’re interested in what’s going on, we may spend valuable time thinking about it and how to navigate through it. But sometimes, when we’re busy, even if the issue is important, we may be too distracted to offer anything and simply go along with what everyone else wants. Going with the flow of those around us is easy, doesn’t require any time or thought, and sometimes everything works out just fine. However, when things go wrong, we may stand back and shake our heads at the calamity around us and feel blameless, because after all, it wasn’t our decision. That’s not entirely true. If we choose to go along with what others are doing, we’re making a conscious decision to agree. That means we own it as well as everyone else. If things go awry, we’re just as responsible as the others involved. We are always accountable for everything we do, even if all we do is coast along with others. Casting blame on those who had the original idea when the plan falls apart does not exclude us. Life is filled with opportunities to learn and grow, and each decision we make teaches us something valuable going forward. Even when we don’t make a choice, we are choosing. Everything we do has a consequence. Owning our part in our decisions and then doing what is needed to correct them will take us where we want to go and make us the people we want to be. We are wise and capable of making excellent decisions and with determination and purpose, can achieve anything we desire.

If we ride in the backseat of a car, we aren’t driving. We aren’t deciding which turn to take or even what the destination will be. But if we get in the car, there is a tacit understanding that we agree to accept wherever it goes, and where it ends up. The same applies if we go along with other peoples’ decisions. We may not make the choice ourselves, but aligning ourselves with them implies our acceptance and agreement with it. Everything we do has a consequence. We can ensure we end up where we want to go by weighing each decision carefully before we choose.

If we’re in a situation with someone who has authority over us who decides we’ll do something we don’t agree with, we may feel we can’t object. Like being caught in a slipstream gliding along, we may feel powerless to escape. We can always express our concerns over any issue. We can positively speak up with clarity and respect, and share our viewpoint. Then if we must participate, we can move forward with confidence that we did our best.

Today if you’ve been taking a backseat to the decisions around you and going along with what others have decided, remember your life is important and your choices are valuable. Speak up and share your viewpoint. Every step will take you somewhere. Make sure it’s where you most want to go. Be confident and proceed with determination. Create the life you want the most and all your dreams will come true.

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Stopping the Wave

14 May

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. One thing always leads to another and each decision we make turns our lives a little this way or that. Sometimes what seems to be an insignificant and unimportant choice may surprise us by turning our lives in a direction we didn’t anticipate. Our choices can be far reaching, and we may feel the ramifications of them for a long time. It’s like a wave in the ocean that travels for hundreds of miles before finally breaking on the shore. A thousand things could change because of one simple choice and we may end up somewhere we never intended to go. One event triggers another, and then another, and before we know it one little decision may have changed everything. Although we can’t control those around us, we always have control over ourselves. If we’re paying attention and see we’re going somewhere we don’t want, we can stop and change direction. We can adjust our choices and stop the wave from continuing any further. We never have to complete any journey that’s taking us away from where we want to go. We can apply the brakes, stand still and review our options, and then redirect our course toward the goals we want to achieve. Our lives belong to us. If we’ve made a mistake, we can correct it. If we’re going the wrong way, we can turn around. Everything is in our power and we can do anything we want. By taking control and choosing our next step forward, we can reach any destination we desire. Every dream is possible and with determination and focus, we will reach them.

There are times when it may feel that life has its own direction and we’re being swept along without any choice. One thing is certain, if we don’t decide where we want to go and do what is needed to get there, circumstances and others may decide for us. Other people may make decisions about what we need to do and where we need to go, and if we don’t take control, we may end up like a leaf on the wind, going here and there without any destination in mind. Our lives are ours to design and with purpose and determination, we can achieve any goal we choose.

If we’ve made a decision that has had difficult and far reaching consequences, we may feel we’ve ruined our lives and there is no way to correct the situation. Nothing is permanent and we can change anything at any time. It may take a lot of effort, but we’re strong enough to manage whatever is necessary. It may take a lot of time, but we will move forward with each step we take. Nothing is too difficult or complicated for us to change and with focus and dedication we can move in the direction we want to go and make our dreams come true.

Today if you feel like you’re caught in a wave moving you toward somewhere you don’t want to go, remember you’re in control of your life. Turn toward what you most want to achieve and take control of the way forward. Nothing is out of reach and you have all the courage and wisdom you need to find your way. Every dream is possible and you are strong enough, and smart enough to achieve anything. Choose your next step and move toward your goal. Every success is possible and you will achieve it.

The Most

8 May

There are endless things we can do with our lives. We can accomplish any goal we choose, go anywhere we want, and do anything we desire. But life is complicated and busy, and sometimes what we want the most gets buried under the other things pressing on us. There are responsibilities requiring our attention and an endless list of things that need to be done. It’s easy to get busy doing details and checking boxes off, and push aside the one thing we’ve been wanting to do. We can spend our time any way we like but one thing is certain – we will always do what we want to do most. We may think that’s ridiculous – we don’t want to spend our days doing chores or taking care of endless details more than anything else. However, we’re always in control of every decision we make and everything we do reflects our choices. If we push aside what we desire in order to do things we feel we must, we decide that’s where we want to be. Of course, responsibilities must be tended to and we want to be responsible in our actions. It’s possible to take care of our duties and still make time to do the things we want the most. If we don’t make our dreams a priority, we may find that time has slipped away and we haven’t accomplished what we wanted most of all. Our lives are ours to design and we can be responsible and still do all the things we want to accomplish. If we’re very busy it will take careful planning, but we’re certainly capable of finding the way. Our lives flash by in an instant. We can take control of our time, manage what needs to be done, and ensure we accomplish the desires of our hearts. Every dream is possible and we can achieve them. We can have the lives we desire and do all the things we want. Every goal is reachable and we are strong enough, and wise enough to find our way to them.

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go. Those around us may press us to keep our focus on the tasks at hand and not spend our time dreaming about other things. There will always be more work to do and tasks to accomplish, and we’ll never run out of details that need our attention. It’s up to us to make time for the things we want to do. If we plan for personal time to address the goals we most want to achieve, we’ll find get satisfaction and happiness as we reach them.

When we’re very busy with lots of pressing details, it may seem impossible that we’ll ever have time for ourselves. If we don’t control how we spend our time, life and those around us will control it for us. Nobody knows what we need more than we know ourselves. No matter how busy we are, we can step back and take the time we need to do the things we want most to accomplish. If we’re persistent and continue step by step to move closer to our goals, we’ll reach them and find great success.

Today if there’s something you want to do but your schedule is packed, take a step back and plan some time just for you. Take the first step toward your goal and each day move forward a little more. Soon you’ll reach the destination you desire and find success. Your life is yours to design. Make it the way you want it and you’ll find great happiness and satisfaction. It’s all there for you. Step forward and make it yours.

Getting Even

15 Apr

We live in the world with billions of other people. It’s great to have others around us, and we learn and grow by interacting with them. Most people are considerate and try to do their best, but there are some who don’t care about anyone but themselves and will do anything to get what they want. If they’ve hurt us or kept us from something we’re striving for, we may be angry and decide we’re going to get even. We might feel we must even the score in order to move ahead. Of course, we can always push back and hurt someone who has hurt us, but getting even won’t ever move us forward. Being intensely focused on making someone else pay will hold us in place or may even move us further from our goals. It’s impossible to target someone else’s life and work on our own at the same time. Every moment we spend plotting and planning, and executing retribution is time we can’t spend moving forward. It isn’t easy to be someone else’s target and when we’re hurt, we may feel like revenge is the only way to restore our spirit. But revenge and getting even does just that – it makes us even with the behaviors that hurt us. We are better than that. Rising above bad behavior and taking a higher stand will empower us and give us authority over the issue. If we’re true to the standards we want in our lives and focus on choosing the roads that take us where we most want to go, we will gain self-confidence and success. Others may do what they will. By holding fast to who we are and choosing the best roads going forward, we will reach every destination we desire. We are powerful and wise, and can always make excellent choices that take us where we want to go.

When we’re children we’re taught to play fair. But the world isn’t always fair. Sometimes cheaters win, and sometimes bad people get the prize. It hurts when we can’t stop someone from unfairly taking something from us. We can certainly push back if there’s a way to reclaim what’s been lost, but sometimes there is no recourse and we must accept what’s happened. It’s normal to feel bad when we’ve been abused, but there are unlimited roads to every goal. If someone has taken the road we’re on we can find another. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely. There are endless possible options and with focus and determination we will find the way forward.

Nobody is strong enough or powerful enough to keep us from our goals. Every dream we desire is possible and even if we have to start over, we can reach them. If those around us aren’t supportive, we can change our relationships and do what is needed to create the lives we want. We can go anywhere and do anything. Nothing is out of reach. We can move forward and achieve anything we desire. Great success is always possible and we will reach it.

Today if you’ve been manipulated and hurt, keep your eyes on the goals you desire. Nothing can keep you from success. Find the road that will take you forward and keep moving. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing can hold you down. Every dream is possible and you can make them come true.

Making an Impact

28 Feb

Nobody lives in a bubble exclusive to those around them. We’re all part of the world and everything we do has an effect on something around us. Newton’s Third Law of Motion states, “For every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction.” Everything we do causes something else to happen. The response may be small and we may not notice anything different but it’s impossible to live our lives without creating some sort of change. Each decision causes a ripple effect that may create a new situation somewhere else. What kind of effect we have depends on the decisions we make, and our behavior influences everything around us. If we have a happy demeanor and positive outlook, we may bring light to others. Conversely, if we’re rude or grumpy, angry or curt, we may bring something else entirely, and if we’re vengeful or manipulative, may sow seeds of discontent and distrust. Every choice will produce some sort of response. We aren’t responsible for the feelings and choices of others, but we are responsible for the way our behavior and decisions impact their lives. We are part of the whole and whether we acknowledge that or not is irrelevant. Each step leaves an imprint and it’s up to us to decide what that will do. We can be mindful of every decision and think about all the possible ramifications before we act. We have everything we need to live happily and successfully. We have so much to offer, and with patience and careful consideration, can bring light and joy to those around us.

Nobody lives in nirvana and sometimes disappointing things happen that hurt us and change how we feel about the world. When things go wrong and we’ve been hurt, we may decide we’ve had enough and determine to seclude ourselves from others. We have a lot to offer but it will be impossible to share our gifts if we lock our lives away because of pain or disappointment. We can manage anything that comes and find our way back to happiness. We are capable, strong and wise, and nothing can keep us from the lives we desire.

Happiness comes from our actions but some people think they can find it by hurting others out of spite or maliciously causing problems for those around them. Their motivations will never justify the hardship they create and, in the end, they may find themselves angry and alone. The law of the harvest is inescapable. If we sow seeds of discontent, we will never reap joy. Everything we do takes us somewhere. We can make excellent choices that take us where we want to go and bring us great happiness.

Today, think about your decisions before you act. Make sure they will bring you the results you desire. You’re in control of your life and can do anything you choose. Make choices that will take you to the destinations you want the most and bring happiness into your life. You are a blessing to us all and have so many gifts to offer. Share them with us and make the world a better place.

Deadlock

22 Feb

Everyone has their own opinions and ideas about how things should go. We’re all entitled to our viewpoints and can live our lives any way we choose, but if we must cooperate with others and we disagree, we may get stuck. If agreement is necessary before we can move forward and we can’t find common ground, we will remain in place until something changes. It’s not always easy to find compromise when we are diametrically opposed to the other party’s viewpoint. If we’re on opposing ends of the spectrum, it can be difficult to form an alliance in an effort to move forward. Everyone’s opinion is important, even if we disagree. If we want cooperation, all voices must be heard. We’re all unique and our perceptions are specific to each of us. We can do anything we like individually, but if we’re part of a group, we may need to bend in order to find agreement. There will be few moments when everything goes our way and we get everything we want. Other viewpoints may seem intolerable at first, but by listening carefully and patiently we can find common ground on which to agree. Each side can hold onto what’s most important and relinquish areas of contention in order to move ahead. If we want success, we must learn to compromise effectively. A deadlock situation will hold us in place and keep us from our goals. We are intelligent and have the wisdom we need to find the best arrangement where everyone feels heard and the impasse ends. We can reach any goal we desire by being open to suggestion and allowing others to engage and participate.

If we believe in something strongly and someone questions that belief, we may feel personally assaulted. Our defenses may rise and we may go on the offensive regarding our position. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and ideas, and it doesn’t matter if others disagree with us. We can listen to opposing viewpoints without being threatened, and if we choose, can modify our stand. But our lives are ours to design and we can make our own choices even if they are in opposition to those around us.

When there are disagreements, it’s up to us how we respond. We can get angry and try to muscle the conversation in our direction. Trying to make others adopt our choice with force rarely works. Instead, if we respond patiently and politely, we may open the conversation effectively and allow everyone to express their own opinions. Respectful discussion can open the door to compromise and help us move closer to our goals. We are smart enough to know how to proceed and with confidence and understanding will reach any destination we desire.

Today if someone else’s ideas are keeping you from moving forward, be receptive to their point of view and express your own ideas confidently and patiently. Find a compromise that lets you step ahead and allows them to hold onto what they need. You are amazing and wise, and will find every answer you need. There isn’t anything that can hold you back from the goals you desire. Speak up and step forward, and you’ll reach success.

Owning It

15 Feb

Everyone has dreams and goals, and things they want to accomplish. Maybe we want to climb mountains or run marathons, maybe we want to write books and influence others, or maybe we just want to be happier. Whatever we desire is possible but it won’t happen just because we want it. There is no magic wand or genie who will appear to grant our wish. The only way to get what we want is to do what is needed to make it happen. If we want to climb mountains or run a marathon, we must put in the hours of physical training required. If we want to write a book we have to actually start typing, and if we want to be happier, we must determine what is holding us back and change our situation so we can move forward. It’s really a simple calculation – if you want to get to “B” you must go through “A” first. Choosing what we want and then pushing forward toward it will bring us success. When we look at our goals objectively it’s easy to see what needs to be done, but actually engaging and doing the work is a whole different story. We can set any goal we choose but if we want to accomplish it, we must do everything necessary to achieve it. Every dream is possible but nothing will change if all we do is dream. Imagine what our lives would be like if we were willing to do everything to make all our dreams come true. The confidence and satisfaction that come from achieving a long-desired goal brings great happiness. We deserve complete and abounding happiness. We can give it to ourselves by focusing on what we want most, and then doing what is needed to make it happen. We can focus on the road ahead and push through until we succeed. There isn’t anything we can’t do. Every destination and every goal are possible, and we can make them ours.

There are many reasons why we may not pursue something we want. It may take a lot of time, it might be difficult, it will change our lives, our families may not like it, we may have to change – the list is long and unending. If we want, we can live a mediocre existence, simply doing what is expected and going through the motions. But we own our choices and can go anywhere we desire. Deciding to create the lives we want the most will bring us the greatest happiness and fulfillment.

Fear of the unknown can be crippling. It can hold us in place even if where we are isn’t comfortable. We can’t see what lies ahead and there will always be some risk when we step out of our routine and choose something more. We may face challenges, but we are intelligent and capable, and even if we get tangled up, can find our way through. There are endless roads to every destination, and if one doesn’t work, we can step on another. Every goal is possible, and we have all the wisdom and courage to make our dreams come true.

Today if you’ve been dreaming of something more and want to change your life, look ahead and choose the path that will take you there. You are amazing and nothing is out of reach. Believe in yourself and step forward. Make the choices that will open all the doors. You can go anywhere and have the life you desire. Nothing can keep you from success. Start today. All your dreams are possible, and you will have them.