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Reckoning

2 Jun

We make millions of decisions as we go through our lives. Everyone wants to be happy and nobody tries to make a bad choice on purpose that will increase their suffering. We try to make good decisions at every turn and most of the time we’re successful. But we may face a situation where what we’ve chosen blows up in our faces, and we crash and burn. Maybe we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, maybe we were in a rush or a thousand other factors came into play. If the choice is grievous, when it hits the fan, we may try to hide or pretend we don’t know anything about what’s happening. That might work for a time, but nothing can stay hidden forever, and eventually our part will be found out. We’re all accountable for everything we do – the good and the bad. When the reckoning comes, we may be sorely sad for the choice we made, and may suffer greatly due to ramifications of what’s occurred. If we generally manage our lives well and make sensible, balanced choices, and this is an unusual screwup, we’ll likely be able to recovery and restore what has been lost. However, if we’re continually irresponsible and repeat seriously bad judgement again an again, chances are we’ll lose the trust of those around us. It’s hard to rely on someone who constantly makes bad decisions that tangle up our lives. We’re all capable of choosing well, but good choices don’t just happen because we want them. We must actively do what is needed to get the facts and think about what we’re doing before we jump. By looking for the information we need and taking our time to review all the possible options, we have a better chance of choosing well. Our lives are a reflection of every choice we make, and each success is possible if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours.

Some people believe it’s easier to ask for forgiveness after the fact than for permission before we act. Leaving others in the dark only to surprise them with some unexpected problem is a recipe for disaster. By including everyone involved before we choose, we can get their opinions and good advice to help ensure we’re headed in the right direction.

Nobody is perfect and it’s likely that we’ll all make a bad choice at some point. When the situation begins to deteriorate and we realize we’re headed for trouble, we can be honest about our part in what’s happened and begin the process of changing direction. If we need advice, we can ask for it. Every situation can be amended and with patience and persistence, we can correct our course, and move forward with renewed confidence.

Today if you’ve made a bad choice and created a problem that is complex and difficult, trust yourself. You are not defined by a mistake. Look at everything objectively and decide how you want to proceed. There is a solution to every problem, and you will find the answers you need. Be calm and confident. The road ahead is still there for you and you will reach success.

Nothing To See Here

19 Apr

We all make dozens of choices every day. Life is busy and can be complicated, and the decisions we make now can have a serious impact on what happens next. We all want to make good choices that bring us the results we most desire, but we aren’t perfect, and we will make mistakes. Sometimes we make a bad choice because we didn’t get all the facts beforehand, or someone else manipulated the situation, or we just took a wrong turn. It happens, and when it happens to us, we may be very uncomfortable. Although we know what we’ve done, we may try to escape the blame by hiding, or pretending we have no idea how everything went awry. We might say, “It wasn’t me. Nothing to see here.” We can deny our part in any situation, but truth has a way of revealing itself, and if we’ve lied, our dishonesty will come back to bite us. Everyone falters from time to time, and it’s best to simply admit our mistake and then do what’s necessary to fix it. We are accountable for everything we do – good or bad. Falling down doesn’t mean we’re useless and complete failures. It just shows us what didn’t work and gives us the chance to try again. We are strong enough and wise enough to recognize where we went wrong and find the answers we need to correct our course and continue forward. A wrong turn doesn’t end our journey. The road is still there for us and after we repair what’s been broken and amend what’s gone wrong, we have every opportunity to try again. Life is full of chances. If we make a mistake the first time, we can start over. If we get it wrong again, we can try another time. Nothing can keep us from success if we’re willing to do what is needed to reach it. Every single dream is possible, and if we stay the course, and remain focused on the goal, we will achieve greatness.

When we say something, people believe us. If we don’t tell the truth, once we’re exposed and our lies are laid bare, we will lose the trust of those around us. Our relationships will suffer and may never be completely restored. We can trust ourselves and those around us enough to always be honest, even when the news is bad. Our integrity and honesty are worth more than we can imagine, and by being truthful, we will build connections and open doors ahead.

There is no way to change the past. Once something happens, it will stand forever. Trying to paint a bad choice with pretty colors will not change the facts. Truth is truth. If we’ve made a big mistake, we can look at where we went wrong, and think about all the options possible for us to repair the situation and move forward. Nothing is permanent and everything can be changed. We can trust ourselves to find the way ahead and begin again.

Today if you’ve made a big mistake and you’re worried and embarrassed, step forward and stand tall. Nobody expects perfection. Look at everything openly and clearly, and decide how you want to proceed. Every success is still there for you and nothing can keep you from it. Be confident, and sure. You have so much to offer, and you will succeed.

Manufacturing

12 Apr

Life is filled with opportunities and possibilities. There are unlimited options constantly available, and we can do anything we want to do. We can reach any destination and achieve any goal but the lives we want the most won’t just happen because we’re good people and desire them. In business when something is produced, it begins in manufacturing where it’s created. When completed, it’s shipped to those who’ve ordered the product. Companies mark things in “Receiving” when they arrive, and the process continues. Some people think of their lives like they are waiting in Receiving to greet their dreams and desires when they arrive. They may think about them, talk about them, plan for when they get them, and simply wait. Odds of getting the life we want by simply waiting – zero. It doesn’t matter how much we want something, how much planning and positive thinking we do, if we do nothing to achieve the goal, we likely won’t get it. We must think of ourselves not as being in Receiving, but Manufacturing. We are responsible for creating whatever it is we’re hoping to gain. We can do anything, but if we want to be successful, we must concentrate on the doing part. Everything is possible, but it won’t all be easy. Some goals may take a lot of work and effort and require a long time of continued focus. If the goal is complicated and requires a lot of planning and continued focus, it may take longer than we imagine to reach it. But nothing is impossible if we’re willing to do what is necessary to make it ours. Rome wasn’t built in a day, and we don’t have to do everything all at once. We can move forward one step at a time and open each door as it arrives. Every dream is there for us and we can design our lives any way we like. By focusing on the goal, and continuing forward, we will succeed.

Traditions are powerful and some people feel they must honor them and keep things the same as they’ve been in the past. If we decide we want to do something different, we may face opposition from those close to us. They are certainly entitled to their own opinions and ideas, but we are the only ones who know exactly what we want to accomplish and where we want to go. Our lives are ours to design and we don’t need agreement or permission to do things our own way. Every destination is possible, and with determination we can reach them all.

It’s easy to coast through life. We can go along with what others are doing and play follow the leader for as long as we like, but until we take control, we won’t reach the destinations we most desire. It’s impossible to reach our own goals when we’re following someone else’s plans. We know what we want and have everything necessary to make it ours. By living on purpose and directing our journey toward the destinations we most desire, we’ll gain great happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’ve been waiting for your life to change, decide what you want the most and take the first steps forward. Everything you desire is possible, but only you can make it yours. You are stronger and wiser than you imagine, and everything is there for you. There is great success ahead, and you can make it yours.

Not Moving In

2 Apr

We all have ups and downs in our lives and will suffer from disappointment or discouragement from time to time. Life can be challenging and difficult, and if we’re suffering, we may find great comfort in sharing our despair with someone who cares. Getting support and sympathy from someone else can make us feel better and help us continue on. Others may come to us for encouragement when they’re struggling, and we can be there with a listening ear and a kind word. Being supportive is helpful, but it doesn’t mean we’ll take the burden away and carry it ourselves. We can visit and share the load, but we don’t have to move in and take over. Those who are suffering may want to hand the issue over to us and leave it behind, but we all have trouble, and nobody wants to take on more. If we care deeply about them, we may really try to help, but everyone is responsible for finding their own answers and solving their own problems. It’s not fun to suffer and go through hard times, and we may face very difficult issues, but we gain much as we unravel and untangle them and find the way through. Our greatest lessons come from adversity, and as we solve each problem we are enriched and learn more about ourselves and the world around us. We have everything we need to do anything we must. There isn’t a problem too complex or too difficult for us to solve. We are highly capable, and can trust that no matter what is happening, no matter how convoluted and twisted the issue is, we can find the way through. Life is filled with possibilities and nothing can hold us down forever. We are stronger and wiser than we may imagine, and every answer is already there for us. By being confident in times of discomfort and despair, and trusting ourselves, we will prevail. Every goal is possible, and nothing is out of reach.

Some people get overwhelmed more easily than others. When things go wrong, they become unsure of themselves, and struggle to keep going. They may worry they will fall and never be able to rise again but that will never be true. Even in our darkest moments, there will be light ahead. No storm can last forever, and the sun will always rise again. Difficult times will come to us all, and we may be overwhelmed and unsure for a time, but with focus and clarity we will find the road ahead. All our dreams will still be there waiting for us, and we can step forward and claim them.

If we’re in a relationship with someone who needs a lot of support and attention, we may spend all our time helping them get through and sacrifice our own desires and goals. It’s good to be helpful, but we’re all responsible for our own lives. If we fix every problem for someone else, they lose the opportunity to learn and grow by solving them themselves. Instead of opening all the doors for them, we can stand side by side and encourage them to step forward on their own.

Today if you’ve been leaning on someone else to get through a personal issue, trust yourself. You are powerful and strong, and nothing can overcome you. Be confident and stand tall. Every answer is there for you and you will find the way forward. All your dreams are possible, and there is great happiness ahead.

First

24 Mar

In nature, there is order to how things happen. Each season has its own influence and impact, and no matter what comes, they continue to follow the same patterns. When it’s cold outside, everything hibernates and waits. When it starts to warm, seedlings begin to burst and grow, and leaves start to pop out on trees. We all accept this as part of the natural order. One thing prepares for the next. The same is true in our personal lives. We can decide to run a marathon, but first, we must commit to training for it. If we want a job that requires a lot of knowledge, we must first do what is required to obtain it. Doing what is needed in the first place will enable us to accomplish the goal that comes after. If we’re very confident, we may try to jump ahead of what needs to be done first and charm our way to what we want, and we might get lucky once or twice, but nothing takes the place of real preparation. What comes first is important to what comes next. Builders understand that to build a strong, enduring structure, they must begin by digging a deep foundation and fortifying it in ways that will support the building through whatever comes. Without first creating the foundation, the whole thing will eventually fall. We know what we want, but we must be willing to do whatever is required to achieve it. We can talk about what we’re going to do until we’re blue in the face, but until we step forward and start, nothing will change. Accomplishing whatever we must, one step at a time, from beginning to end, will take us to the goal. We can do anything and go anywhere. Nothing is beyond our reach, and we will succeed.

When we fly on a plane, we’re instructed that if something goes wrong and we need oxygen, to put the oxygen mask on ourselves first before we try to help others. If we can’t breathe, we won’t be able to assist anyone else. Taking care of ourselves before we devote our time to others is important. Sacrificing our personal needs and pushing ourselves to exhaustion will stop us in our tracks and keep us from accomplishing anything. We are the most important people in our lives, and it isn’t selfish to take care of ourselves first. By making sure we have what we need to be healthy and strong, we will be able to reach any goal we desire and serve those around us.

Repetition can only reinforce what we’re doing. If we continually do the same things, we won’t be able to move onto something new. Every goal is possible, but they won’t just fall into our laps because we desire them. We must take the first step forward and then do what is needed to make them ours. We have all the courage and wisdom necessary to achieve any goal we desire. By trusting ourselves, and stepping forward with confidence, we will reach success.

Today start at the beginning and take the first step toward the destinations you desire most. You are intelligent and capable, and know what you want. Trust yourself. You are more powerful than you imagine. Every dream is there for you, and with determination and faith, you can make them yours.