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Perfect Timing

16 Sep

Our lives are complicated and busy, and we often have many things we want to accomplish. Everyone has their own personal goals waiting to be achieved, and although we may think about them often, because of other commitments, they may get pushed aside. We may think we’ll wait until things settle down, and we have more time to address them. After all, we have a lot to do and we’ll get to them eventually. Responsibilities tend to be constant, and there will always be something else to attend to. Waiting for the perfect time, and watching for a window when everything is settled and our time is wide open to do the things we want the most, is a fool’s game. The chances of ever reaching a complete pause are close to zero. Everything is constantly changing and until we pro-actively set time aside to address our own personal goals, we will likely never reach them. There will always be something that needs to be done, but our lives are important and we deserve complete happiness. By valuing the destinations we most want to reach and then setting time aside to move toward them, we will find great satisfaction and happiness. We own our lives but we must take control of them. If we don’t, time will pass and we may find years have gone by and we’re still standing in the same place. We deserve complete happiness, and by carefully planning and making our dreams a priority, we will have it. Nothing is beyond our grasp and with clarity and confidence, we can achieve anything.

It’s good to be helpful and serve others. We can serve in our communities, at work, within our personal circle of friends and family, and countless other ways. Helping others is noble and worthwhile, but we can be helpful and still make time for our own desires. It isn’t selfish to think of ourselves and push toward the destinations we want to achieve. Our desires are important and we can find ways to be helpful and still move toward our own dreams.

When we’re busy and overwhelmed it’s hard to think about our own wants and needs. If we’re stressed and it seems everyone wants a piece of us, it’s difficult to consider our own desires. There are lots of people around us and many may want our time and attention, but we are in control of our lives. We decide how much we can give, and can handle whatever we must and still take time for ourselves. We are important and our dreams are important. We can have the lives we want the most by managing our time in ways that allow us to move closer to our dreams.

Today, remember that you are the most important person in your life. Nobody will make your dreams come true but you. Plan your time in ways that lets you accomplish what you must and still move toward your personal goals. Every single dream is there, waiting. Step forward, and be confident. You are wise and capable. Nothing is out of reach, and you can claim the life you want the most.

Candy Coated

14 Sep

There are billions of people on the planet earth. They come in and out of our lives continually and as we interact with them, our connections may be positive, negative or somewhere in between. Everyone thinks they are good judges of character and some of us can spot phony baloney from 30 paces. But it isn’t always easy to recognize someone who is pretending to be something they aren’t. If someone wants something from us and doesn’t care how they manipulate us to get it, they may be very good actors. They may look the part, say all the right things, and convince us they are on our side when the truth may be very different. If we take a spoonful of mustard and freeze it, then roll it in a ball and dip it in chocolate, we could set it in a box of chocolate bon bons and it would blend right in. Nobody would know it wasn’t a delicious fudge filled truffle until they actually took a bite and got a mouthful of bitter, strong mustard. Candy coating can cover a lot of blemishes and can hide what lies inside. Flattering words, considerate gestures, and smiling agreement can make us believe something that isn’t real. We are intelligent and if we dig just a little deeper and scatch the surface a little more, we will get more information that will help us understand the situation as it really is instead of how it appears to be. People will do what they will do, but we are in control of our lives and can be wise as we move forward. We are extremely capable and smart. Nothing can fool us indefinitely and we will uncover the truth. By taking our time to see everything clearly, we can make excellent decisions, and build strong connections that will lead us to success.

It’s very pleasing to have someone else’s admiration. When they tell us we’re brilliant, or beautiful, or look at us with unwavering devotion we may be swept away. It all looks so wonderful, and it might be. But there are opposites in everything and we may face a time when someone we thought was angelic turns out to be the devil himself. Okay, maybe not THE devil, but someone who is intentionally leading us astray in an effort to get us to do something or take something from us. Nobody can do anything perfectly, and even the most practiced liar will stumble. If we don’t get caught up and pay attention, we will see things as they truly are, and be able to make wise decisions about our next step.

Most people are good and it’s good to trust those around us. We don’t have to be suspicious of everyone’s motivations, but we can keep our eyes open and listen carefully. Nobody is going to look out for us like we look out for ourselves. Truth is powerful. It can be hidden for a time but it cannot be help back forever. We are intelligent and wise, and with patience and focus, we will discover it, and find success.

Today if you have doubts about someone near you, trust your instincts. Look for the truth in every interaction. You are wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and will find the best way forward. Every single blessing is waiting for you, and every destination is possible. Be strong and stand firm. Step forward with clarity, and take charge. All your dreams are there, and you can make them yours.

Stepping Away

3 Sep

Our lives are often busy and we have lots of details and responsibilities that need our attention. Some things are easy to check off our lists. We get to them, we get them done, and we move on. But other situations may be messy and tangled up, and require a lot of focus and time. If we’ve been dealing with something for a while, and other things have suffered because our time has been monopolized by this one issue, we may decide it’s not worth it to continue, and choose to let it go and walk away. If the issue is so complicated and keeps changing, resolution may elude us. Everyone has the same amount of time every day, and no matter what we do or how much we want it, we can never add to the total. Once it passes, it’s gone forever. We’re in control of our lives, and if something isn’t working or we get stuck going around in the same circle over and over, we can change our focus and step away. The problem will remain, but our situation is ever changing, and as we do other things we may uncover new ideas and solutions we didn’t see when we were involved initially. We can think about how we want to proceed, and when we’re ready, can revisit the issue again. Stepping away isn’t giving up. We can change direction for a time and do other things, allowing ourselves to think about all the possibilities. We are intelligent and capable, and with focus and time, nothing is beyond our understanding. We can trust ourselves to find the answers we need, and move toward success.

Our relationships are important, and when they’re strong and healthy, add great enrichment and benefit to our lives. Some people need a lot of support. They may be continually unsure or afraid of change, and constantly ask us to help them. It’s good to be helpful, but we must all face our own lives and make our own decisions. If someone close to us often insists on leaning on us for help and advice, we may be asked to give up more time than we’re comfortable with. We can’t change anyone else, but we can find ways to assist without negatively impacting our other responsibilities.

Families are important and our connections with them can be very intense. Tradition is powerful and if we’re expected to do things a certain way simply because it’s always been done that way, and we aren’t comfortable following along, we don’t have to continue. We can politely and patiently express our own viewpoint, and then do what we choose. Our lives are ours to design and we don’t need permission or agreement to do anything we desire. Every road is there for us, and all destinations are possible.

Today if you’ve been caught up in a situation that is taking all your time and energy, and you want something different, step back and decide how you want to proceed. You don’t have to stay anywhere you don’t want to be. Decide what you want the most, and begin the journey forward. Every dream is possible, and nothing can keep you from success. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is out of reach.

Staying Down

30 Aug

We share the world with billions of other people, and although we’ll never meet even a small fraction of them, there will likely be others around us much of the time. We work with them, pass them as we go from one place to the next, and interact with them on a regular basis. We try to get along and avoid conflict, but sometimes we may get into a situation where things go wrong and we find ourselves in the middle of a serious disagreement that may have lasting negative consequences. We might get knocked down in the struggle, and if we do, we’ll have to decide if we’re going to stand back up and face the trouble, or stay down and wait. Whatever decision we make will determine what happens next. If we believe in our position, and feel confident we are right, we may jump back up and continue on. But if we’re unsure, and those around us seem stronger and more powerful than we are, we may decide to lay low until things settle down. In the midst of intense conflict it may be difficult to get our point across and waiting may be wise. Every situation is different and we’ll have to use serious judgement to determine how best to proceed. Our views are important, and just because someone else is louder and more forceful than we are, doesn’t mean we can’t be heard. With patience and careful consideration, we can decide the best road forward. All voices are important, and when the time is right, we can step forward and express our views with confidence and clarity. We are intelligent and capable, and can stand firm even in conflict. We know who we are and what we want. Our ideas, thoughts and suggestions are valuable, and when we’re ready, we can share them openly and move forward toward success.

People are complicated and complex. What one believes is absolutely, positively the right thing to do, another may completely disagree. We all want harmony and good will in our interactions, and many times that will be our experience. But there are endless roads to every destination, and the road we choose may not appeal to those around us. If we must agree, we can find a compromise that includes everyone’s point of view and allows for success. We are smart enough to find the way through, no matter how convoluted or twisted the road becomes. Every destination is possible, and with courage, and patience, we’ll find our way to them all.

If we’re headed to a destination by ourselves, we can choose any road we like. We can simply pick the direction we want to go and step forward. However, if others are going with us, and have different ideas about how to get there, our opinion will only be one of many. Learning to be flexible and listen to other viewpoints isn’t always easy, but it will help pave the road ahead. By giving a little and compromising on how we proceed, we’ll build strong connections with those around us, and ensure success. There isn’t anything we can’t do and do well. We are amazing and wise, and will find the best answers.

Today if there is conflict and disagreement, decide on the best way to manage it. Listen carefully to all the views presented, and offer your perspective with patience and grace. Be open to new roads and options. You are so smart, and nothing is too difficult for you to manage. Every road is open. Success is always there for you, and you will find your way to any destination you desire.

In the River

16 Aug

We are in control of our lives and can do anything we want. We all have responsibilities and things that require our attention, but how we live and where we go is up to us. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can step away and move in a different direction. Complaining about the situation will do nothing to change it. If we’re in a lake swimming and want to stop but the water is deep, we can tread water. Because the water isn’t moving in any direction we can basically stay in the same place. However, if we’re in a river and decide to tread water, we will never be able to remain in the same location. The movement of the river’s current will persist, and despite our efforts, push us continually down stream. Although we aren’t doing anything to keep moving, the water will carry us. The same is true in life. If we’re in a situation we don’t like but haven’t made any effort to step away, it will continue to carry us along to wherever it leads. If we do nothing, we are making the choice to continue following along. Looking away or treading water will not move us onto something else. We must decide to step onto a new road, and then begin. Our lives belong to us and our happiness is our own responsibility. If we just coast along and try to endure what isn’t making us happy, nothing will change. Nobody is going to come along and fix the situation for us. It’s all up to us. We can have the lives we dream about, but we must create them ourselves. Everything is possible and when we’re ready, nothing can keep us from any destination we desire. All our dreams are there, waiting. By stepping up and taking control, we can make them ours.

Some people love to complain. They talk about how bad their jobs are, grouse about their living conditions, complain about their salaries, and endless other topics. Nobody gets a perfect life and we all have situations and things we would like to change. Complaining is normal and when others share our misery, can help alleviate our frustration. But if all we do is complain and refuse to take action to change the situation, we become part of the problem. Nothing is permanent in life and everything can be changed. If we aren’t happy, we can decide what we most want to do, and then begin forward and change our situation.

Everyone has their own ideas about how life should go. What is perfect for one doesn’t work for another. We are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had so far, and even if a scenario works for those around us, it may not be a good fit for us. We never have to go along to get along. Our lives are ours to design and before we do anything, we must decide what we want, and where we want to go. Once that is determined, we can plan our steps forward to reach success.

Today if you’ve been treading water and waiting for your situation to change, look at all the possibilities around you and decide how you want to proceed. There are endless opportunities available, and the goals you seek are within reach. Decide what you want the most and step forward with confidence. Nothing can keep you from your dreams. They are there for you and you can make them reality.