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Better Late

23 May

Life is busy and we often have a lot of things to take care of and accomplish. It would be nice if we had people to do our chores, run our errands and take care of details for us, but that is a luxury most of us don’t have. It’s always nice, despite our busy schedules, to make time for friends and family. We might set up lunch dates or times to walk and talk together or any number of other activities that re-connect us and allow us to share our lives. When we set a time to meet, we expect everyone to be there. If someone is late, we can be understanding and continue on, but if they’re late every time it may become an issue. There is an old saying, “Better late than never,” well maybe. We can certainly excuse late arrivals once or twice, but if it’s a constant issue, and every time we set a time to meet the other person is consistently, habitually late, it may become a problem. Our time is valuable, and deserves to be honored. Constantly showing up late shows a lack of respect and can logistically create problems for our personal schedules. If we see that our appointments with someone will always run late, we can decline future requests to meet. We are always in control of our own lives and never have to do anything that doesn’t work for us. We can make excellent choices and decide how we will proceed in every instance. Our lives are ours to design and with clarity and focus, we can choose the best way forward.

Some people have trouble keeping their word. If they don’t show for appointments, and don’t follow through on commitments, it will be hard to trust them. They may apologize profusely when they drop the ball, and promise it won’t happen again, only to forget the promise the next time something comes along. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and every decision we make – good or bad. Nobody will cover our mistakes indefinitely, and we must accept accountability for every choice. If we’re negligent, we will face the consequences of our actions. Change is always possible, and when we’re ready we can correct any problem or issue.

Blaming others or situations when we’re at fault never works. If we’re irresponsible we can say it’s the way we were raised. If we’re rude we can say the situation warranted it, and on and on. We can try to excuse any bad behavior, and others might believe us for a time, but that won’t work indefinitely. By looking at every choice carefully, choosing the best path forward, and keeping our word, we will gain the trust and companionship of those around us. We can create the lives we dream of by being wise and considerate of others. Every goal is possible if we’re willing to follow through and do what is needed to make it ours.

Today if you’ve dropped the ball on a commitment, decide how you want to proceed. There is greatness inside you, but it’s up to you to choose the better part. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and every dream is possible. Be the best you can be and every door will open. You are amazing. Show us your best, and every success will follow.

Broken Apart

19 Apr

Everyone wants an easy life filled with fun, and smooth sailing. We all love the good times when everything goes well and we have no worries or concerns. When nothing is too hard or overwhelming and the sun is shining on us, we feel invigorated and happy. But life isn’t constant and nothing stays the same forever. There are always things going on we can’t see or anticipate, and trouble eventually comes to us all. There may be something that is so painful and extreme, what we have to face may make us feel broken inside and unable to stand. There’s so much heartache and distress, we may think we can’t survive. Our strength may be pushed to the limit, our patience may fade, and we may be exhausted trying to get through. If there is no end in sight, and the road forward seems endless, we may be sure of defeat and think of simply surrendering and giving up. A broken bone cannot tolerate any weight. It will hang useless and dangling. But if we correct its alignment and build a cast around it for support, in time it will heal, and thereafter be even stronger than it was before the break. We are the same way. Hard times will come and we will surely be tested, sometimes beyond what we believe we can tolerate. But with faith and determination, we can hold things steady, learning as we go and gaining the tools we need to correct the situation and continue forward. All the lessons we learn as we heal will go forward with us, making us stronger and wiser. Being broken apart is difficult and painful, but we have everything we need to find every answer and prevail. Nothing can hold us in place forever. We are strong and powerful, and every success is there for us.

Some problems take a long time to resolve. They may take years to process, and we feel the weight of them at every moment. We will find all the answers we need, but they won’t all come right away. We can take things one step at a time, unraveling one piece, and then move on to the next. It’s like eating an elephant – it can’t be done all at once. It’s hard to be patient when there are lots of complications and details that make our journey slow and arduous, but every goal is possible. By keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, with patience and clarity, we will prevail.

If there’s something about ourselves we’ve tried over and over to change – we want to lose weight, or be more patient, or let go of a bad habit – and still we hold onto it, we may begin to believe we cannot succeed. We may think there’s something inside us that’s broken we can’t fix. That will never be true. We’re in control of our lives, and when we’re ready, nothing can keep us from success. Once we decide what we want the most, we can step forward with confidence and do what is necessary to make it ours.

Today if you feel broken apart because of something you’re facing or a situation you don’t think you can manage, trust yourself. You are far stronger and more powerful than you think you are. There isn’t anything you can’t handle. Be confident and sure of success. There is greatness in you and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Everything is possible and all your dreams are waiting. Step forward and claim them.

Another Let Down

8 Apr

Everyone makes their own decisions and we’re all accountable for each choice we make. If we make commitments and honor them, people will learn to trust us. If we give our word and then just forget about it because we really didn’t mean it, others will understand we are not reliable. Life is complicated and we will face all kinds of dicey and uncomfortable situations. If we’re pressed against something we don’t think we can manage, we might say anything just to escape. We may agree to do what someone else wants, or say we’ll take care of the issue, when in fact we have no intention of doing either. We may focus on simply looking good for the moment and getting away, and push off any responsibility we have for following through. We can do anything we like, but one thing is certain – every decision we make will have a result. Dodging our accountability doesn’t eliminate it. We own every choice, good or bad. If we can’t do something, or don’t understand how to proceed, instead of making up stories to get through, it’s far better to be completely honest about what’s happening. Nobody knows everything and we’re all going to be in situations that confound us and tangle the way forward. If we’re open about our true feelings and refuse to agree to something we cannot do, we can stand strong and step forward with confidence. Our lives are what we make them. By being truthful and clear, we can pave the road ahead and reach success.

It’s good to trust others, but we may face a situation when that trust is abused and broken. Maybe someone makes a date with us, but then fails to show. They may have a very convincing excuse, and we may forgive them and try again. If they stand us up a second time, it will be harder to believe them when they try to explain. Some people don’t care how their decisions affect others. They may make all kinds of commitments they never intend to keep, and if we care for them, their irresponsibility may hurt us deeply. We know who we are and what we want. If we’re in a situation that isn’t working, we can step away and go in a new direction

There is an old saying, “Burn me once, shame on you. Burn be twice, shame on me.” Continually trusting someone who constantly lets us down will never take us where we want to go. There is no way to change anyone else or control their decisions. Once we see who they are and how they act, it’s up to us to decide what our relationship with them will be. We never have to stay in any relationship that brings pain or discomfort. There will always be another road and a new way forward. By trusting ourselves, and choosing what’s best for us, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been let down again by someone, think about what you want the most. You are more precious and powerful than you imagine, and deserve complete happiness. There is nothing strong enough to hold you in place. Choose the roads that will lead you to success and step forward confident and sure. You are amazing, and we’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself. The best is just ahead.

Skate Shoes

30 Mar

There are lots of people on the earth, and all around us. As we interact with them, we get to know them, what they’re like, what they do well, how they respond and a thousand other cues that help us communicate effectively with them. Most people are polite and try to do their best, but there are always some who are ready to cheat or find ways to manipulate us and the situations we’re in. It’s like that one person on the team project who does nothing. They don’t prepare anything and skip the meetings, but when it’s time to present, they show up and take credit for what’s been done. They don’t want to work so they skate through on the efforts of others, and many times, they may get away with it. When we figure out who they are we may do everything we can to avoid them, and it’s frustrating and difficult if we have to deal with them. It’s unethical and dishonest to skip out and then take credit for things we haven’t done, but those who do it don’t really care about ethics or honesty. They just want the glory, and will take it any way they can. We can speak up and point out what’s going on and hope that will make a difference, and it might, or it might not. The best we can do is deal with what we have, be the best we can be, and continue forward toward our goals despite the annoyance. We know what we want, and there isn’t anything or anyone who can keep us from it. By keeping our eyes trained on the road ahead, with determination and confidence we will reach every success.

Life can be complex and we may face some seriously troublesome times. When things are going wrong and it feels like nothing is working out, we may be tempted to throw up our hands in despair, surrender to defeat and walk away letting someone else handle it. We can do anything we like, and if the goal is too hard right now, we can set it aside until things change, but we never have to give up. Nothing is permanent, and no matter what’s going on now, or where we are, everything will eventually change. If we keep our options open and our watch carefully, we’ll be ready when the door opens ahead.

Some people are frankly lazy. They want to move ahead but they don’t want to work. They want to achieve their goals, but they don’t really want to do anything to make that happen. When they have assignments they need to address, they may lean on those around them, and try to push them off so they skate on through to something they want to do. We’re in control of our lives, and unless someone is in authority over us, never have to take on anything we don’t want. We always have the power to say no, and can continue forward focusing on the goals we’ve set for ourselves.

Today if you’re dealing with a troublesome situation, remember all the times you’ve faced challenges in the past and succeeded. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. All the answers are there for you and you have everything you need to move forward. Be confident and trust yourself. Step forward toward the goal. You are capable of amazing success and nothing can hold you in place. The whole world is there for you and you will win.

Counterfeiting

23 Mar

In this day of information overload, virtually everywhere we go we are bombarded with advertisements with pretty pictures telling us how we should live our lives, what we should do and how we should look. They are filled with scenes of happy people loving life, the suggestion being if we do what they say, we’ll be happy too. However, all those pictures are just actors playing a role. Doing what others think is best might bring us happiness, or it might not. We can play any role we like, pretend we’re something we aren’t, and dress up any situation to appear different than it really is. Counterfeit money looks real from a distance. By simply making Xerox copies of bills, we could fool anyone if they were far enough away. But upon closer inspection it will be obvious that the paper isn’t right, the ink is all wrong and it’s completely fake. If we haven’t yet achieved the level of success in our jobs we desire, or made all the money we think we deserve, or if we’re not as informed as we want others to believe, we may use counterfeit measures to convince them. We can dress up, act out, and manipulate others until we’re sure we’ve convinced them of whatever it is we want them to believe. We might fool them for a while, but just like getting a closer look at counterfeit bills, eventually our true selves will emerge and the truth will rise. It’s impossible to keep up false appearances forever. Instead of pretending, we can work to gain the attributes we desire. By living openly and honestly, we will gain the trust of those around us and make good, strong connections. Nobody is perfect and we all have things we want to change. We can show our true selves and be confident in who we are, and where we stand. Every success is possible, and with determination and focus, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Sometimes it can seem others have it easier than we do. They seem to get what they want and don’t struggle. We may think they have no idea how hard life can be, but we may be way off base. There is no way to know the personal dealings of anyone’s life unless they share the details with us. There may be hidden sorrow and disappointments we cannot see from the outside. Nobody gets a perfect life filled with rainbows and butterflies. We all face challenges and trials, and roads filled with rocks and detours. By keeping our eyes focused on our own journey and not comparing ourselves to others, we will ensure our success and reach every destination.

Many people prefer everyone to be on the same page, doing the same things, and agreeing as a group. Peer pressure is real and we may be asked to conform to something we don’t want. We can do anything we like, but we all have specific gifts to offer that nobody else can give. We can choose what works best for us and take our own path, no matter what others are doing. We have so much to offer, and by being true to who we really are, we can bring great light and blessing to the world.

Today if you’ve been pretending or following someone else’s path, remember you are important and have your own gifts to give. Be yourself and choose the road that takes you to the goals you desire most. There is greatness in you and you can set an amazing example for us all. Be strong and confident, and step forward focused on your own journey. Success is waiting and nothing can keep you from it.