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Thin Skin

7 Aug

There are all kinds of people in the world and they each have their own ideas about life and how things should go. We know who we are, and are sure about what we want and how we want to move forward. It’s easy to make friends and feel comfortable when those around us are like us. When they believe the same things we do, and understand our point of view, it’s easy to connect and build alliances. But the world is a big place, and people come from many diverse backgrounds. There will be many others who are vastly different than we are, and their views may be in direct opposition to what we believe is right. That does not make them wrong, or wicked, or less than us. It only makes them different. If we can’t tolerate anything outside our own ideas, it will be very difficult to interact with them. We are entitled to believe anything we desire and we can form our own opinions about everything in life. But if we’re so thin skinned we cannot tolerate anyone who is different, it may be difficult for us to get along. Some people say they “celebrate diversity” but when someone questions their ideas and presents an opposing view, they shut down or become angry. No two people are exactly the same. Everyone has their own perspective, and unless they are hurting others, each has value. We don’t have to adopt anything we don’t want, and can decide how we’ll live our own lives. We can be confident in our views, and strong enough to accept other points of view, even if we don’t understand or agree with them. Life is full of variety and variation. We can be welcoming and respect other points of view, and still hold onto to what is most important. Everyone has worth, and we can honor each individual, and still choose our own way forward.

When we’re growing up, what we experience in our families seems normal and right. As we mature, we begin to see other expressions and understand that our experience is unique to us and not universal. We can hold onto exactly what makes us comfortable and refuse to change, or we can embrace other points of view and allow them to enrich our understanding of the world around us. Holding on may feel comfortable, but will never allow us to expand our thinking and become more accepting.

Life would be easier if everyone was the same. If we were all on the same road with the same ideas, there would be less conflict and more harmony. That may be true, but it’s the differences that bring great richness to our experience, and broaden our thinking. We can accept difference and uniqueness, and honor the right for everyone to express their own ideas and viewpoints. Life is a great teacher, and by being open and welcoming, we will gain great insight and wisdom.

Today if you want everyone to agree with you and find it hard to accept different points of view, remember we are all important and worthwhile. Each expression has value. Be open to new ideas that will enhance your experience and help you understand the world. You are incredible and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Let others tell you who they are, and welcome new ideas. Your life will be enriched, and you’ll find great satisfaction moving forward.

Treadmill

19 Jun

We interact with lots of people as we navigate through our lives. We build relationships with those around us, we make friends, we have family members, and there are others we only see in passing. When our connections are positive, they embellish our lives and bring us great satisfaction and happiness. But not every relationship works well, and if we’re in a situation where there is continual strife and contention, it may wear on us and make us unhappy. We never have to stay in any situation we don’t want, but relationships are complex, and because of history or habit, we may stay where we are even if it doesn’t bring us peace or happiness. We might go over the same territory again and again, and the same issues over and over with no end in sight. Like being on a huge treadmill with an endless track that goes around and around, and never moves us forward. We are in control of our lives and can endure any situation for as long as we like. Relationship habits can be hard to break, and even if we’re miserable, we may stay and repeat the same problems and behaviors indefinitely. Our personal happiness is important. If we’re not getting what we need to find it where we are, we can step away. The unknown may be intimidating at first, but foreign territory is only foreign until we make it ours. Every new road is unknown in the beginning, but we have all the courage we need to take it and start something new. We deserve complete and fulfilling happiness, and can make decisions that will bring it to us. Nothing is impossible, and we cannot be held in place when we’re ready to move. We can trust ourselves to make positive choices, and choose the roads that will take us to the destinations we desire most.

We can all make choices that take us where we want to go. We never have to choose options that bring us hardship, and if we find we’re on the wrong road, can always change direction. We aren’t responsible for creating happiness for anyone else, and we aren’t required to do anything we don’t want to do. Our lives belong solely to us, and with wisdom and clarity, we can make decisions that take us where we want to go. Every possibility is there for us and all options are available. We can chart our own course toward whatever goal we desire, and find complete success.

It’s good to be patient, but we never have to wait indefinitely for something to change so we can be happy. If we’re in a relationship that is difficult, we may stay hoping the situation will improve or the other person will change, and things will get better. That might happen, or it might not. Waiting around for change that may never come will not benefit us. We don’t need agreement or permission to alter our course. When we’re ready to move ahead, we can step onto another road, and pursue success.

Today if you’re in a situation that is not making you happy, decide what you want the most. Complete happiness is always possible, and it’s there for you. Step off the treadmill, and walk forward with confidence. Every dream is possible, and nothing is out of reach. You deserve every good gift. Look ahead and move toward your dreams. You are capable of greatness, and nothing can keep you from success.

Change Direction

12 Jun

There are unlimited things we can accomplish in our lives and there isn’t anything we can’t achieve. We know ourselves better than anyone else ever could, but we never know what will happen next. We can’t see the future, and there is no way to see what’s around the next corner. Although we’re in control of every decision we make, we can’t control anything else that happens. We are strong and capable, and if we’re on the road toward a goal we want to achieve, and are persistent and diligent, it’s likely we’ll succeed. But change is constant, and our ideas and desires are always in flux. We continually modify how we feel about our lives and what’s happening around us, and review all the possibilities and options we might pursue. As we grow and learn, at some point, we may decide we no longer want something we’ve been working toward. Maybe we’ve outgrown the need for the goal, or our experiences have taught us new things that make it no longer desirable. A change a of heart can happen at any time, and if it does, we’ll need to decide how we want to proceed. We never have to continue on any path we no longer want. It doesn’t matter how much time or energy we’ve invested, or how far we’ve come. We can change direction and go another way. If we no longer want the goal, we can step away and move toward something else. Our dreams are ours alone, and we always know what we want. If we’re true to our unique desires, we can have the lives we dream about. Our lives are ours to design, and we can create them any way we like. All options are there for us, and we will reach every destination.

Our time is very valuable. How we spend it will determine where we go and what we accomplish. We can do anything, and if we want to, can continually go from one idea to the next, never staying long enough to accomplish anything. If we do, we may find years have gone by and we haven’t achieved any goal. There are many distractions all around us all the time. It’s not possible to do everything that piques our interest. By specifically choosing exactly what we want to do, and then working toward the goal with focus and attention, we can accomplish anything and move forward with confidence and clarity.

Sometimes we have no control over changes that come into our lives. The road we’ve been on may suddenly disappear because of circumstances out of our control. If we can’t move forward, we can change direction and find another road. If the goal simply isn’t possible at this time, we can set it down, and move onto something new. Putting something on hold isn’t abandoning it and giving up. We can wait until our situation changes and start again. Every goal is possible. With patience and conviction, we really can have the lives we want, and make our dreams come true.

Today if your desires have changed and you no longer want to continue toward a goal you’ve been working on, decide what you want the most, and change direction. Your life is yours to design. Choose the destinations you desire most and step forward. Every dream is possible, and you have all you need to make them yours.

Changing Location

24 Apr

There are endless places to go in the world, and unlimited things to see. We can choose any destination and then do what is needed to get there. All options are possible but we won’t go anywhere until we decide to move. We are where we are, and if we don’t like a particular location, we don’t have to stay there. Our lives belong to us and we have control over every decision we make. If we’re unhappy or feel unfulfilled, it’s up to us to do what is needed to change. We never have to continue to tolerate a situation simply because that’s where we are. We are strong and powerful, and nothing can hold us in place against our will, but we must decide if we’re ready to move. Change won’t just happen because we’re thinking about it. Even if we’re unhappy, life won’t simply provide something new for us. We can move or we can stay in the same situation indefinitely. Going someplace new requires effort and there are no guarantees things will work out the way we want them to. The road ahead may be easy and we might get to a new location quickly and with few problems, or it might be hard with lots of complications and twists and turns. There is no way to know in advance how hard it will be and if that’s enough to keep us in place, we can stay where we are. But if we want something different, and are ready to do what is necessary to change our situation, nothing is out of reach and the whole world is possible. We can change anything in our lives, and reach every goal ahead.

It’s very uncomfortable to hear someone continually complain about their situation or where they are in life, and do nothing to change it. We will all face times when we end up somewhere we don’t want to be. Getting there is not the end of the road or the end of the journey. We may have to wait until our situation allows us to move, but as soon as the opportunity arises, we can step away and advance toward the destinations we desire. Life is fluid and nothing is permanent. It may take planning, and we may have to work to achieve the changes we desire, but everything is possible, and we can have the lives we want the most.

Nobody can read the future, and we never know what tomorrow will bring. However, one thing is certain – if we do nothing it’s unlikely our lives will dramatically change. Standing around complaining about our lot in life may bring us temporary relief from an uncomfortable situation, but will do nothing to make things better. Our lives are an incredible blessing. We can decide what we want and then do what is needed to get there. All destinations are possible and nothing is too far to achieve. We are strong and capable, and can do anything we desire.

Today if you’re frustrated with where you are and want a change but have been unsure about moving forward, trust yourself. You are intelligent and wise, and nothing is too hard for you. Decide what you want and where you want to go. Every destination and goal are possible. You are amazing and have everything you need to get the life you want. Step forward with clarity and confidence. Every blessing is already there for you, and you will have them.

Endurance Test

15 Apr

There are a lot of challenges and tests we navigate throughout our lives. We never know what we’ll have to face as the future unfolds, and although we are intelligent and capable, we may have to endure something that overwhelms us for longer than we want. Trouble comes in all kinds of ways, and there may be times when we can’t move. We aren’t alone in the world and can’t control what others are doing. We might find ourselves in a situation where someone else’s bad decisions affect us in negative ways. It doesn’t feel fair that we must suffer because of actions out of our control, and if that happens, we may be frustrated and angry. We are in charge of our lives, and nobody wants to be restrained from moving forward because of decisions out of our control. However, if that is what’s happening, we can deal with it until things change. It’s hard to be patient when we want to move, but we are intelligent and can find the way to manage whatever comes. We can look at all the possibilities waiting for us, and plan how we’ll progress when things open up again. Waiting gives us time to think about all the possible eventualities that may occur, and helps us refine our way forward. We are very strong and completely capable of doing whatever we desire. Change will come and we’ll be able to begin moving ahead again. Until then, we can work on what is available right now, and prepare for the future. Every destination we desire is waiting for us, and when we can move again, we’ll reach them.

Sometimes when we fly on a plane, we may encounter a situation where we’ve arrived at our destination, but the plane must circle for a while before we can land. We eagerly await our turn to finally get off the plane. While we wait, we may feel impatient. It’s hard to be in a holding pattern in our lives. We know where we want to go and what we want to do, and waiting to progress may weigh heavily on us. We may feel the press of time passing, and our frustration may increase. It won’t help us to get angry if we can’t change the situation. Instead of wasting our energies wishing things would change, we can use the time to get ready for when all the doors open again. We are intelligent and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. Things will resolve, and we’ll jump forward toward all the goals we desire.

Learning to endure difficult situations gives us grace, and teaches us more about ourselves. We are capable of greatness, and our power is increased as we work through every situation. The whole world is there for us and if we can’t get to our goals today, we’ll get them tomorrow. If tomorrow we’re still stuck, they will remain in place waiting for our arrival. We are powerful and wise, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’re having trouble enduring a situation you can’t change, decide what you want and determine how you will proceed. Every destination is still there for you, and all the doors ahead will open. You are amazing and can do anything you desire. Your future is waiting. Be patient, and get ready. Every dream is possible, and you will succeed.