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Looking Over Your Shoulder

22 Nov

Life is complex and unpredictable. We will experience things we never imagined and face challenges that may try us and push us to our limits. We’ll also have some wonderful days filled with happiness and each event we experience will remain in our memories as we continue forward. Nobody gets a perfect life with all paved roads and unending success. Everyone will have hard times, and go through periods of distress, worry, and confusion. Although we always want to succeed at everything we do, it’s likely we’ll face failure at some point, and our lives may be upended. We may lose our jobs, forfeit our money, our lovers may leave us and countless other difficult things may happen. If we’ve been seriously hurt it may take significant time for us to heal and trust ourselves and our lives again. When we are ready to start over, the scars of what’s happened will remain and may continually prod us not to trust what lies ahead. Lots of things could happen but nobody can read the the future. We don’t know what will happen, who will enter our lives, or how things will work out. Things may have gone wrong in the past, but the past can never predict the future. However, if we continually look over our shoulder at where we were and obsess over everything that went awry, it will be nearly impossible to move forward. If our eyes are looking back, we will not be able to move ahead. There is much to be learned as we go through our lives, and although they hurt, the hardest times teach us the most. Instead of looking back and trying to dissect everything that went wrong, we can use the skills we’ve gained from what’s behind, and step forward armed with more information and greater confidence. Life is always moving ahead, and each day we get the chance to try again. We are stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing can hold us back when we’re ready to move. We can look forward with clarity and be sure of success.

We may go through something that’s so painful and encompassing that it stops us in our tracks and shakes us to our very core. We may be temporarily paralyzed and unable to move. Our minds may race trying to grasp what’s happened and we may feel completely overwhelmed and lost. Nobody wants to suffer, but this is real life, and bad stuff happens. Our world may be rocked and we may be dumbfounded for a moment, but we are intelligent and wise, and already possess everything we need to face anything that comes.

Our lives belong solely to us. We decide how we will proceed and what we will do. Situations may develop that take us off course, but the road will remain, waiting for us to return. Nothing can prevent us from moving toward any destinations we desire. If we must modify our plans, we can. If we must turn and go in another direction, we will find the way. We are powerful and highly capable, and we will succeed.

Today if you’ve been looking back and holding onto a painful memory, remember how important your life is. You have incredible gifts to offer, and the whole world in enriched because you are here. Turn your eyes to the road ahead, and stand strong. Nothing can keep you from your dreams. Be confident and step forward with clarity and resolve. You are amazing, and every blessing awaits.

Flood Waters

22 Jun

We all share the planet with lots of other people. We have friends and associates, people we work with, neighbors, family – the list is long. We may get along well with those around us and it’s easy when everyone is on the same page and sharing common interests. We’re all different and unique in our own specific ways, and conflict is a normal part of life. There will be few times when everyone agrees about everything. If our relationships are important to us, we can take the minor disagreements in stride and continue on but we may face a situation where we are completely opposed to what someone else is doing or saying. If we’re confident in our own position we may handle the conflict more easily than if we’re threatened by what’s happening or want more control over the issue. If we get angry enough we may decide to severe the relationship and burn that bridge behind us. We can do anything we like, but every connection we make is a bridge that supports us moving forward. If we burn down everything that doesn’t go our way, nobody will be around to help us when things change. When flood waters come if we’re stuck with no bridge to cross, we may lose more than we bargained for. We don’t live in Nirvana and will never agree with everyone, but we can find a way to disagree and still hold onto the relationship. By looking at the situation objectively and weighing every aspect carefully, we can make decisions that allow us to maintain our position without destroying our connections with those around us. Nobody gets everything the way they want it. We can learn to give and take and find common ground that will support us and pave the road ahead. We are intelligent and wiser than we imagine. Every answer we need will always be there for us and every success is possible.

Some people have very quick tempers and may become irate when things don’t go their way. Like a small child who loses their turn, they may decide to take their ball and go home instead of working through disagreements. Refusing to bend will never build strong relationships. If we quit and walk away every time someone annoys us, we will have few connections to share our lives with. Living alone and isolated might be easier when things are going well, but when the storms come – as they inevitably will – our personal relationships will bring us great comfort and satisfaction.

Good, strong relationships require compromise. We can’t always have things our way, even if we’re sure it’s the best way forward. Every opinion has value and we all deserve to live our lives the way we want to. If we come to an impasse and simply cannot agree on something, we can set it aside until our situation changes and new options arise. There is an answer to every question and a solution for every problem. If we are patient and willing to listen, we will find the way forward.

Today if you’ve had enough and are sure there is no way to continue, think about all the options possible. Before you burn a bridge, look at everything objectively and be open to new ideas. You are intelligent and highly capable and can find the answers you seek. Be wise and be confident. Every answer is there for you and with clarity and focus, you will find the way forward. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire, and you will succeed.

Better Late

23 May

Life is busy and we often have a lot of things to take care of and accomplish. It would be nice if we had people to do our chores, run our errands and take care of details for us, but that is a luxury most of us don’t have. It’s always nice, despite our busy schedules, to make time for friends and family. We might set up lunch dates or times to walk and talk together or any number of other activities that re-connect us and allow us to share our lives. When we set a time to meet, we expect everyone to be there. If someone is late, we can be understanding and continue on, but if they’re late every time it may become an issue. There is an old saying, “Better late than never,” well maybe. We can certainly excuse late arrivals once or twice, but if it’s a constant issue, and every time we set a time to meet the other person is consistently, habitually late, it may become a problem. Our time is valuable, and deserves to be honored. Constantly showing up late shows a lack of respect and can logistically create problems for our personal schedules. If we see that our appointments with someone will always run late, we can decline future requests to meet. We are always in control of our own lives and never have to do anything that doesn’t work for us. We can make excellent choices and decide how we will proceed in every instance. Our lives are ours to design and with clarity and focus, we can choose the best way forward.

Some people have trouble keeping their word. If they don’t show for appointments, and don’t follow through on commitments, it will be hard to trust them. They may apologize profusely when they drop the ball, and promise it won’t happen again, only to forget the promise the next time something comes along. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and every decision we make – good or bad. Nobody will cover our mistakes indefinitely, and we must accept accountability for every choice. If we’re negligent, we will face the consequences of our actions. Change is always possible, and when we’re ready we can correct any problem or issue.

Blaming others or situations when we’re at fault never works. If we’re irresponsible we can say it’s the way we were raised. If we’re rude we can say the situation warranted it, and on and on. We can try to excuse any bad behavior, and others might believe us for a time, but that won’t work indefinitely. By looking at every choice carefully, choosing the best path forward, and keeping our word, we will gain the trust and companionship of those around us. We can create the lives we dream of by being wise and considerate of others. Every goal is possible if we’re willing to follow through and do what is needed to make it ours.

Today if you’ve dropped the ball on a commitment, decide how you want to proceed. There is greatness inside you, but it’s up to you to choose the better part. There isn’t anything you can’t do, and every dream is possible. Be the best you can be and every door will open. You are amazing. Show us your best, and every success will follow.

Broken Apart

19 Apr

Everyone wants an easy life filled with fun, and smooth sailing. We all love the good times when everything goes well and we have no worries or concerns. When nothing is too hard or overwhelming and the sun is shining on us, we feel invigorated and happy. But life isn’t constant and nothing stays the same forever. There are always things going on we can’t see or anticipate, and trouble eventually comes to us all. There may be something that is so painful and extreme, what we have to face may make us feel broken inside and unable to stand. There’s so much heartache and distress, we may think we can’t survive. Our strength may be pushed to the limit, our patience may fade, and we may be exhausted trying to get through. If there is no end in sight, and the road forward seems endless, we may be sure of defeat and think of simply surrendering and giving up. A broken bone cannot tolerate any weight. It will hang useless and dangling. But if we correct its alignment and build a cast around it for support, in time it will heal, and thereafter be even stronger than it was before the break. We are the same way. Hard times will come and we will surely be tested, sometimes beyond what we believe we can tolerate. But with faith and determination, we can hold things steady, learning as we go and gaining the tools we need to correct the situation and continue forward. All the lessons we learn as we heal will go forward with us, making us stronger and wiser. Being broken apart is difficult and painful, but we have everything we need to find every answer and prevail. Nothing can hold us in place forever. We are strong and powerful, and every success is there for us.

Some problems take a long time to resolve. They may take years to process, and we feel the weight of them at every moment. We will find all the answers we need, but they won’t all come right away. We can take things one step at a time, unraveling one piece, and then move on to the next. It’s like eating an elephant – it can’t be done all at once. It’s hard to be patient when there are lots of complications and details that make our journey slow and arduous, but every goal is possible. By keeping our eyes focused on the road ahead, with patience and clarity, we will prevail.

If there’s something about ourselves we’ve tried over and over to change – we want to lose weight, or be more patient, or let go of a bad habit – and still we hold onto it, we may begin to believe we cannot succeed. We may think there’s something inside us that’s broken we can’t fix. That will never be true. We’re in control of our lives, and when we’re ready, nothing can keep us from success. Once we decide what we want the most, we can step forward with confidence and do what is necessary to make it ours.

Today if you feel broken apart because of something you’re facing or a situation you don’t think you can manage, trust yourself. You are far stronger and more powerful than you think you are. There isn’t anything you can’t handle. Be confident and sure of success. There is greatness in you and nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Everything is possible and all your dreams are waiting. Step forward and claim them.

Things That Matter

28 Feb

Life is complicated and unpredictable. We never know what will happen next and it’s impossible to see how any situation will eventually end up. We’ll face endless challenges and sometimes just when it looks like everything is settling down, something else pops up that tangles and confuses. The superficial stuff that doesn’t matter is generally easy to manage, but what is important and has the potential for a big impact on our lives can be intense and complex. Things that matter are often hard to navigate, and may take all our attention and energy to manage. Big health decisions, sudden changes in our financial status, family complications, and a host of other difficult and consuming issues may arise. When serious concerns come, everything else may fall by the wayside as we try to figure out what to do and how to proceed. It may feel as though time has stopped, everything is frozen in place, and we may be overwhelmed with the decisions we need to make. Finding the best way forward may take serious thought and consideration, and we may doubt our ability to get through. When everything is upside down, and the road ahead is unknown and unclear, it’s hard to feel confident and sure. At first, we may think there is no way we’ll survive, but we are stronger than we imagine, and as the moments tick by and our understanding increases, we will find our footing. Difficult, horrible, disastrous things may happen. We might lose everything we hold dear, but as long as we’re still breathing, success is possible. Hard times come to everyone, and our worst dreams may appear, but we are stronger than we imagine, and have all the wisdom and insight necessary to find every answer we need. We will never face a time so terrible that there is no way through. By standing firm and trusting ourselves, and reaching deep for the courage within, we will prevail. Even in darkness and despair, our dreams are still there for us. Nothing can hold us in place indefinitely, and with patience and determination, we will succeed.

There is no way to know the whole story of what is happening unless it’s happening to us. We may see someone struggling with what appears to be a simple situation with an easy answer, but there may be hidden complications we cannot see. We’re all different and some people prefer to keep their personal issues to themselves. We may offer our assistance if they reach out to us for help, but if the issue is private, they may prefer to keep it to themselves. We’re all more connected than we imagine, and by being supportive and caring, we can be an anchor during times of intense duress.

When our lives take a difficult turn, the skies overhead are dark and it’s hard to see the way forward, we may be concerned and unsettled. It’s hard to know what to do when everything is unsure and foreign, but we have already been through hard and complicated issues, and found our way through. There will always be a way forward and all the answers we need are already there for us. By taking our time, and trusting our instincts, we will find the way ahead and reach the destinations we desire. There will never be anything too awful or confusing for us to figure out. We are strong and wise, and will prevail.

Today if something has turned your world upside down and you feel lost and unsure, trust yourself. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. Stand strong and look at all the options possible. Every answer is there and you will find your way forward. All your dreams are still possible and nothing can keep you from success. Trust yourself and step forward. The road ahead is waiting, and you will win.