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Tangled Up and Confused

3 Jan

People are complex. They may willingly share their lives with us but still keep some things to themselves. Even people we know well may hold back and act in ways they think we’ll accept that may not be their true character. It’s possible to get involved with someone and see them entirely differently than they really are. If they say all the right things, flatter us, or in other ways ingratiate themselves to us, we may not be aware of what’s really going on. If someone says they love us but then don’t show up when we’re scheduled to meet, we may be confused and demand an answer. If they want us to stay connected to them, they may say whatever it takes to hold us there despite our disappointment. If this continues, and they let us down again and again, we may find ourselves tangled up in a relationship that sounds great, but doesn’t make any sense. Words are powerful, and if someone wants to, they may try to hold us close despite what they’re doing by continuing to say the things we most want to hear. Everyone wants to be loved. It’s incredibly rewarding and satisfying to know that someone really loves us. When that happens, we feel great and fulfilled, but sometimes the situation isn’t what we imagine and we may get hurt. We never have to stay in any relationship that isn’t working or makes us feel bad. We deserve complete happiness, and no matter what someone says, what they do is who they really are. By stepping back and looking at everything clearly and objectively, our vision will clear and we will know how we want to proceed. We are in complete control of our lives and can change anything at any time. We know what we want, and with focus and determination, we will have it.

It’s good to have friendships with those around us. Many people will come in and out of our lives, and some will be friends, and others will be passing acquaintances. Real friendship and close connections require time and effort. There’s no such thing as a part time friend – we’re either there or we aren’t. If someone we thought was a friend betrays us or lets us down, we can re-evaluate the relationship and make any changes we desire. We are the most important people in our lives, and by keeping our eyes open, and seeing things as they really are, we will find the happiness we seek.

Most people are good and want to choose the right as they move forward. Complicating our lives with lies, fictitious tales, misdirection or other types of manipulation will never make us happy. We can do anything we like, and if we want to create havoc, distrust and disharmony, we can, and we may fool those around us for a time. But eventually truth always rises and if we’ve been dishonest or deceitful, we may be left standing alone. There is greatness in us all. By choosing the best roads ahead, and being honest in all our interactions, we can have the life we want the most.

Today if you’re tangled up in a relationship that’s confusing and doesn’t make any sense, step back and see everything clearly. You deserve the very best of everything and complete happiness. Change what isn’t working and step forward in a new direction. You are amazing and more powerful than you imagine. Trust yourself and be confident. Every happiness is there for you. Move ahead and claim it.

Candy Coated

14 Sep

There are billions of people on the planet earth. They come in and out of our lives continually and as we interact with them, our connections may be positive, negative or somewhere in between. Everyone thinks they are good judges of character and some of us can spot phony baloney from 30 paces. But it isn’t always easy to recognize someone who is pretending to be something they aren’t. If someone wants something from us and doesn’t care how they manipulate us to get it, they may be very good actors. They may look the part, say all the right things, and convince us they are on our side when the truth may be very different. If we take a spoonful of mustard and freeze it, then roll it in a ball and dip it in chocolate, we could set it in a box of chocolate bon bons and it would blend right in. Nobody would know it wasn’t a delicious fudge filled truffle until they actually took a bite and got a mouthful of bitter, strong mustard. Candy coating can cover a lot of blemishes and can hide what lies inside. Flattering words, considerate gestures, and smiling agreement can make us believe something that isn’t real. We are intelligent and if we dig just a little deeper and scatch the surface a little more, we will get more information that will help us understand the situation as it really is instead of how it appears to be. People will do what they will do, but we are in control of our lives and can be wise as we move forward. We are extremely capable and smart. Nothing can fool us indefinitely and we will uncover the truth. By taking our time to see everything clearly, we can make excellent decisions, and build strong connections that will lead us to success.

It’s very pleasing to have someone else’s admiration. When they tell us we’re brilliant, or beautiful, or look at us with unwavering devotion we may be swept away. It all looks so wonderful, and it might be. But there are opposites in everything and we may face a time when someone we thought was angelic turns out to be the devil himself. Okay, maybe not THE devil, but someone who is intentionally leading us astray in an effort to get us to do something or take something from us. Nobody can do anything perfectly, and even the most practiced liar will stumble. If we don’t get caught up and pay attention, we will see things as they truly are, and be able to make wise decisions about our next step.

Most people are good and it’s good to trust those around us. We don’t have to be suspicious of everyone’s motivations, but we can keep our eyes open and listen carefully. Nobody is going to look out for us like we look out for ourselves. Truth is powerful. It can be hidden for a time but it cannot be help back forever. We are intelligent and wise, and with patience and focus, we will discover it, and find success.

Today if you have doubts about someone near you, trust your instincts. Look for the truth in every interaction. You are wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and will find the best way forward. Every single blessing is waiting for you, and every destination is possible. Be strong and stand firm. Step forward with clarity, and take charge. All your dreams are there, and you can make them yours.