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Digging A Hole

22 Jul

People are incredibly creative. No matter what happens or what gets in the way, we can figure out how to proceed and what to do next. We’re intelligent and highly capable and can do anything we put our minds to. Everything we do defines who we are. If we’re honest in all our dealings, those around us will trust us and we’ll be free to move forward untethered by made up tales or stories that are untrue. Being honest requires intent and if we get into a situation that is uncomfortable and the best way ahead is difficult, we might choose to manipulate things by creating a fictitious scenario that allows us to move forward more easily. We can tell all the lies we want, but once we start fabricating, it’s hard to turn back around and tell the truth. It’s like digging a hole. When we first start we may make only a shallow dent in the surface, but if we keep digging, the hole will get bigger. Eventually we may find ourselves standing on the bottom with no way out but to climb up a vertical wall which is very difficult. Each lie is like digging another shovel full of dirt putting us in deeper and deeper. Lying complicates our lives in ways we can never predict. It’s hard to remember all the various things we’ve said and eventually, however long that takes, we may get so tangled up, moving forward will become impossible. Life can be hard and we’ll all face situations we don’t want to deal with, but by honestly looking at everything objectively we will find the way forward. We are smarter than we think we are, and nothing is too difficult for us to manage, and manage well. Choosing honesty brings freedom. We know who we are and what we want, and with clarity and integrity, we can reach any goal we desire.

We all want healthy, happy relationships. We may try hard to be cooperative and helpful, and not do things that bring stress or disharmony. It’s good to try to get along, but we don’t have to pretend to be something we’re not. We’re all different, and if we’re in a group where everyone wants to do something we have zero interest in, we can certainly go along to appease everyone else, or we can honestly and openly decline. There is sometimes a lot of pressure to conform and it’s always easier to follow along than to choose our own road. But our ideas are important and we are entitled to our own opinions. We can be polite and still say no. When we’re true to who we really are, we will find great satisfaction moving forward. 

Some people believe telling lies is okay so long as nobody gets hurt. That’s like saying it’s okay to cheat a little if nobody knows. The problem with being dishonest is that it tends to feed on itself. We tell one little tiny lie, and then it’s easier the next time to do it again. Then maybe something bigger happens and lying worked before so we do it again. After a while it may become a behavior trait and we may forget all about being honest. The best choice is to choose to tell the truth, no matter what. When we do, we will always be clear on where we stand, and have access to all the answers we need. We have so much to offer, and choosing to live well will bring us endless blessings.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation and it would be so easy to fix if you just lied about it, remember who you are. There is greatness in you and you are an incredible gift to the world. Be the best you can be, and choose wisely. Every single blessing is waiting for you and there isn’t anything you can’t do. Be confident in your decisions, and step forward with clarity and integrity. Every goal is possible and nothing can keep you from success.

Trouble Backing Up

11 May

We are all in control of our lives and can make any decisions we like. Each choice will take us somewhere and change our circumstance in some way. Sometimes the changes are big and impact us greatly, and other times they hardly make a ripple. Nobody is perfect and at some point we will all make a decision that doesn’t work out. If it causes a lot of disruption and turmoil, it may take some time to straighten everything out and start again. If we’re cocky and confident in who we are and our ability to do well, we may have trouble going back to the beginning when things go wrong. We might try to ignore the problems we’ve created, or push the blame onto someone or something else, or we might openly deny we had anything to do with it. We can do anything we want, but truth is powerful and no matter how far we try to distance ourself from what’s happened, we will eventually be found out. We are accountable for everything we do – even the stuff we don’t want to face. Backing up and returning to the beginning to figure out where we went wrong, and then doing everything needed to correct the situation will enable us to start again and continue toward success. Mistakes happen and when they do they show us what doesn’t work and help us reset our direction. We are intelligent and wise, and there isn’t anything we can’t figure out. When things go wrong, we can turn around and address them with confidence and clarity. Every success is possible, and with determination and focus, we will reach them all.

Some people think they know everything. They may spend a lot of time telling us about all the things they excel at and how smart and capable they are. They may tell us what we should be doing or how we should proceed, even if they don’t have all the facts. It’s good to be confident but we are the only ones who know exactly what we want and how we want to get there. We can listen to any advice that’s offered, and then proceed according to our own desires.

We all want clear, paved roads that lead to our chosen destinations. We may luck out and get them at some point, but most of the time the journey from A to B isn’t exactly an easy, straight line. There may be unforeseen complications, people might stand in our way, and a thousand things may change that complicate our plans. It doesn’t matter how hard the road is or how long it takes to travel. We know what we want, and with persistence and faith, we can accomplish anything. If we have to back up, we can. If we need to change direction, we’ll find the best way ahead. Everything is possible and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if your plans have gone awry and you’ve veered off course, stop and look at all the options around you. Go back to the beginning and change direction. A detour will only delay your success and is never the end of the journey. Trust yourself and be confident. You already have everything you need to do anything you desire. Decide how you want to proceed, and step forward. All your dreams are possible and you will make them yours.

Candy Coated

14 Sep

There are billions of people on the planet earth. They come in and out of our lives continually and as we interact with them, our connections may be positive, negative or somewhere in between. Everyone thinks they are good judges of character and some of us can spot phony baloney from 30 paces. But it isn’t always easy to recognize someone who is pretending to be something they aren’t. If someone wants something from us and doesn’t care how they manipulate us to get it, they may be very good actors. They may look the part, say all the right things, and convince us they are on our side when the truth may be very different. If we take a spoonful of mustard and freeze it, then roll it in a ball and dip it in chocolate, we could set it in a box of chocolate bon bons and it would blend right in. Nobody would know it wasn’t a delicious fudge filled truffle until they actually took a bite and got a mouthful of bitter, strong mustard. Candy coating can cover a lot of blemishes and can hide what lies inside. Flattering words, considerate gestures, and smiling agreement can make us believe something that isn’t real. We are intelligent and if we dig just a little deeper and scatch the surface a little more, we will get more information that will help us understand the situation as it really is instead of how it appears to be. People will do what they will do, but we are in control of our lives and can be wise as we move forward. We are extremely capable and smart. Nothing can fool us indefinitely and we will uncover the truth. By taking our time to see everything clearly, we can make excellent decisions, and build strong connections that will lead us to success.

It’s very pleasing to have someone else’s admiration. When they tell us we’re brilliant, or beautiful, or look at us with unwavering devotion we may be swept away. It all looks so wonderful, and it might be. But there are opposites in everything and we may face a time when someone we thought was angelic turns out to be the devil himself. Okay, maybe not THE devil, but someone who is intentionally leading us astray in an effort to get us to do something or take something from us. Nobody can do anything perfectly, and even the most practiced liar will stumble. If we don’t get caught up and pay attention, we will see things as they truly are, and be able to make wise decisions about our next step.

Most people are good and it’s good to trust those around us. We don’t have to be suspicious of everyone’s motivations, but we can keep our eyes open and listen carefully. Nobody is going to look out for us like we look out for ourselves. Truth is powerful. It can be hidden for a time but it cannot be help back forever. We are intelligent and wise, and with patience and focus, we will discover it, and find success.

Today if you have doubts about someone near you, trust your instincts. Look for the truth in every interaction. You are wiser and more powerful than you imagine, and will find the best way forward. Every single blessing is waiting for you, and every destination is possible. Be strong and stand firm. Step forward with clarity, and take charge. All your dreams are there, and you can make them yours.

Making It Ours

14 May

Strong, healthy relationships embellish our lives. It’s good to build connections with others and share our lives with them, and when we do, we may find great comfort and satisfaction in their company. Most people are kind and welcoming, will value our friendship and association, and treat us with respect. But there are all kinds of people in the world, and we may get involved with someone who is unpredictable, unreliable, or dysfunctional. If we build relationships with them, and spend a lot of time interacting with them, they may create trouble and bring havoc into our lives. If we care for them, we may find ourselves excusing their bad behavior and even taking the blame for them when they act out. Making their issues ours will never fix the problem or bring us happiness. When we first get to know someone and they let us down, we may excuse it because we understand they’re struggling. As time goes by and they fail to follow through again and again, we may continue to give them additional chances and try to be patient. It’s noble to be patient with others but it’s not appropriate to constantly excuse bad behavior if it hurts us. We are valuable and should be cherished and treated with the utmost care and respect. If someone close to us continually breaks promises and leads us along time and again, it is appropriate to step away. Nothing can be gained by being constantly let down and hurt. We can be polite and kind, and let others own their problems by removing their negative influence from our lives. Dysfunctional relationships never work. We deserve complete happiness and can make decisions that will bring it to us. By valuing ourselves, we can step forward with confidence and choose the best roads moving forward. Happiness is there for us, and we have everything we need to reach it.

When we’ve been in a relationship for a long time, it may be hard to walk away even if we’re unhappy. We may feel the weight of history, friends and family may encourage us to tough it out and stay, and we may not want to hurt the other person’s feelings. A lot of things may come into play, but there are no valid reasons to stay in a relationship that isn’t working. Nothing is worth the price of our happiness. Changing direction and starting over isn’t simple, but we are smart enough and strong enough to change anything at any time.

Nobody knows the details of any relationship, but the parties involved. What people see on the outside is just a small representation of the whole picture. Our lives belong to us and we don’t need to feel compelled to explain any decision we make. We know what we want and have everything necessary to reach any goal. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine and can do anything we desire. By trusting ourselves, and doing what is necessary to be happy, we will find great comfort and satisfaction.

Today if you’re not happy in your current situation, make a plan to change. The future is yours to design, and you deserve the best of everything. Be confident and trust yourself. Every single blessing is there for you. You are amazing and powerful, and every dream is waiting. Step forward on the road that will make them yours.

Pierced Through

28 Jan

We build all kinds of relationships as we go through our lives. Our families, our close friends, our treasured associates, and others embellish our lives and we cherish our connections to them. It’s good to have strong, healthy connections with those we value and love. But our interpretation of a relationship may be different from the other’s point of view. They may not feel as close to us as we do to them, or they may have their own ideas about what the relationship can give them. If they are looking to use it to move themselves forward or get something they want, and don’t care about our feelings, they may betray us in ways we never imagined. Being set up or betrayed by someone we trust can be excruciating. It can feel like we’ve been pierced through with something sharp and wicked. We may be so stunned by what they’ve done we can’t move and must stand still until we fully understand what’s happened. Betrayal is a bitter and extremely painful experience. Everything has gone up in smoke and the connection we thought we had has been completely severed. It’s very difficult to repair the damage done. After the fracture, our entire landscape may change, and we may find we’re on completely new ground. It’s a very hard thing to endure, but it gives us valuable information. Once the truth of our relationship has been exposed, we can look at everything clearly and make the best decision for stepping forward. Even if we’ve lost something important, we’ve gained the wisdom and knowledge we need to continue with confidence, sure of the road ahead. We are far stronger and wiser than we imagine, and nothing can hold us in place. With clarity and focus, we will find the way forward and reach success.

When someone hurts us deeply, after we recover from the initial shock and pain, we may set our sights on revenge. They hurt us, so we’ll hurt them right back. It seems fair – they started it after all. But focusing on revenge will take us away from the things we want to accomplish. The time spent coming up with ways to make someone else miserable is time we could be spending on moving closer to the goals we want. By letting it go and pushing forward toward success, we win. We control our future and can achieve anything we desire.

Some people are just rotten. They don’t care who they hurt so long as they get what they want. We’re all accountable for everything we do, and eventually will pay for every choice we make. But when that happens is unknown. It’s hard to watch bad people get ahead and succeed, but their day of reckoning will come. In the meantime, we can focus on our own goals and dreams, and design our lives in ways that bring us great joy and satisfaction. We are powerful and intelligent, and can do anything we desire. Every single blessing is there for us, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’ve been betrayed by someone and are struggling to find the way forward, trust yourself. You are amazing and capable. Nothing can keep you from anything you desire. Look at everything openly and objectively, and choose the road ahead that will take you to success. Every dream is there for you, and you will prevail.