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Tag Archives: Ethics

Following Along

27 Apr

When we meet someone we really admire and who impresses us we may desire to be like them.  They may have a life situation we like or be doing things we want to do but so far have not accomplished.  As we are drawn in we may follow them around trying to learn more about how they live and the choices they make.  It seems logical that if we want something in our lives and find someone who has it we can copy what they’ve done and achieve the goal for ourselves.  That could work but we’re all different and what works for one person doesn’t always translate into success for someone else.  A lot depends on who we are, where we are and what opportunities are available to us.  Following someone else along, doing everything they do, and saying all the things they say will not duplicate their experiences in our lives.  We are unique and have very specific gifts to offer.  There is no way to be exactly like anyone else and surrendering who we are to find success will never bring us happiness.  We can achieve anything we want our own way.  We can follow good advice and mimic successful behavior when it works for us but we must be genuine if we want real success.  Each of us has our own combination of blessings to share with the world and individual gifts can only be offered by those who possess them.  Recognizing our personal uniqueness and embracing our personal style will help us open all the doors we seek moving forward.  Every success is possible when we are authentic and true to ourselves.  There is no need to follow along behind anyone else.  We know what we want and we know where we’re going.

Some people project authority in everything they do and we may be captured under their spell.  If they are honest and caring their influence may enhance our lives and deepen our understanding.  But if they are spiteful, aggressive, or mean to others as they push forward, if we follow them we may have to compromise our standards.  No matter what we’re trying to achieve we can hold fast to the standards we value.  We have enough wisdom and personal strength to accomplish anything and we can do it in ways that ennoble us and take us closer to the person we want to be.

There may be times when we’re influenced by someone who takes us down a road we don’t want to travel.  Once we realize we’re headed toward a destination we don’t want we can stop and redirect our way forward.  We don’t have to remain in any situation that doesn’t work for us no matter who is involved.  We may step away at any time and start again.  We always know what road we want to travel.  We are courageous enough to find it and move forward toward any goal we seek.

Today if you’ve been following someone else hoping for success but want to change direction, step off the road you’re on and redirect your course.  You are in control of your life and know exactly what you want.  You can reach any destination you desire and all options are possible.  Look ahead and chart your course.  You are unique and the world is blessed by the influence you bring.  Be yourself.  Every success is there for you and you will find it.

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Falling in Place

15 Mar

It’s a great feeling to accomplish a goal we’ve worked hard for. There may be great pride in the work we’ve done to achieve what we set out to do and we may feel relieved and satisfied when we reach the end of a long road. Hard work and determination can bring us great fulfillment and happiness when we’ve endured all the challenges before us and reached success. Few goals will come without effort and if we want to accomplish the things most important to us we must plan our way forward. Simply hoping things will happen or trusting in life to merely roll accomplishments our way is futile. It’s unlikely things will automatically fall in place the way we want them to. We must actively pursue what we really want to accomplish and then chart a course to achieve it. There isn’t anything we can’t do and all our dreams can become reality but it’s up to us to make them happen. We have all the intelligence and wisdom we need to figure out any road ahead of us. We can decide what we want and then begin forward to reach the goal. Life is filled with possibilities and we are the only ones who can keep us from any destination. There is no complication too difficult, no problem too complex, or situation so extreme we can’t find the way around it. If we want something badly enough we can have it. Everything is possible. We need only decide what we want and then do what is needed to get it.

Our behavior and attitudes can hang us up and hold us back from where we want to go. We can’t expect to open doors if we’re rude and hateful to those around us, or continually looking for ways to trip someone else up. If we are selfish and only interested in what makes us look good at the expense of those around us we may burn bridges we’ll need later to get to the goal we’re seeking. Success is more than accomplishment. It’s also reflected in the person we become and how we interact with those around us. Being considerate and polite, and ethical in all our dealings, will help us move forward and enable us to build the connections we need to reach the destinations we choose.

Things will always go wrong no matter what road we’re on. It’s normal for complications to arise and we may have to change direction to move forward. There are few times when our trajectory from one point to another is in a clean, straight line. Most of the time we’ll have detours and things in our way to navigate around. We are strong and capable and certainly wise enough to figure out any problem we may face going forward, and we can find the way to any goal. Every destination is possible and with determination we will find success.

Today if you’ve been standing back and hoping something will happen to bring you success, take control and move toward the goals you desire. You have everything you need to succeed. Take the first step and plan your journey forward. Open every door that will take you where you want to go. Nothing is too far away or too hard for you to reach. Every success is possible. Take control and all your dreams will come true.

Fair and Even

7 Mar

As we interact with others who come in and out of our lives, we will meet many different kinds of people.  Some will be nice and enhance our experiences, and others may be difficult.  Everyone has their own expressions and ideas about life. We may agree with them at times and or we may be at odds.  There is an old expression, “An eye for an eye,” which loosely means I will give you back what you give to me.  It seems fair to return what we’ve been given and we may want to keep the score even by doing so.  However, if someone does something mean or hateful to us, returning that to them may not serve us well.  We may feel better hitting back, but all we will have accomplished is proving we can go as low as they did.  Who we are is defined by what we do, not what is done to us.  What seems fair may not always be the best choice.  If we want to be the best we can be, we must be willing to reach higher when we’ve been hit below the belt.  When we’ve been betrayed, scorned, cheated on, lied to, or in any other way demeaned, we can step back and decide what is in our best interest going forward.  We need not continue relationships that don’t work.  We can keep a high standard for our behavior and walk away from those who choose another road.  We are always in control of our decisions and can choose the paths that take us where we want to go.  We can be fair and still move forward with grace and dignity.  We deserve the very best of everything.  By choosing well, we will achieve it.

The fight or flight reflex can have a huge influence over us when we’re in situations that are threatening or aggressive.  We may have an almost uncontrollable desire to run from whomever is involved, or we may feel anger rise in us and desire to smash our opponent.  This is a survival mechanism that warns us of impending danger.  However, most of the time we may not be in real danger, but threatened by a situation or person who is bullying and forceful.  If we take a minute to think about how best to proceed instead of simply reacting, we will find greater success moving forward.  We can take a deep breath, recognize the instinctive cues, and then calmly make a decision about how to proceed.  We can be in control of our lives even when things go wrong and choose the best paths ahead.

Sometimes people get ahead and win despite poor decisions and bad behavior.  It’s hard to watch someone succeed by cheating or bullying, and it goes against our ideas of fair play.  When those who are dishonest or unethical win, we may feel burned and angry.  But life has a way of looping around and in the end, there is no way to escape personal accountability.  We can ensure our peace and happiness going forward by making the best choices each day and choosing the paths that will take us where we most want to go.

Today if someone has done something to hurt you and you want to get back at them, remember who you are and what you really want.  Reach higher and choose the road that will take you to excellence.  You are amazing and powerful, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Make your best decisions and every road will open ahead.

Looking Good

2 Aug

These days there is a lot of focus on our external appearance.  Everywhere we look there are ads for products to make us look younger, thinner, more desirable and more beautiful.  Some of us are short, some tall, some heavy, some thin, some old, and some young.  The scope of appearance among us is very broad and diverse.  We can try to look like all the pictures we see of famous, beautiful people and we may succeed but looking good according to the standards set by others may not bring us happiness.  There is great joy to be found in difference and if we all looked the same the scenery would be quite boring and uninspiring.  It’s important to embrace our own personal style and rejoice in our own special appearance.  We are one of a kind.  There has never been and never will be another person exactly like us.  We can love our own personal beauty even if it differs from what those around us think it should be.  When we are happy and content with who we are, when we are striving to be our very best and doing the things we most want to do our external appearance will reflect joy and peace and there is nothing more beautiful.  Finding beauty by looking good on the outside is only part of the story.  It also includes how we feel about ourselves.  We are all beautiful in different ways.  Living our lives purposefully and directing them toward the destinations we most want to achieve will bring us light and happiness that will be reflected in all we do, and will create more beauty than anything else ever could.

Our outward appearance is always affected by what is going on inside us.  If we are struggling with conflict and stress it will be reflected in our appearance.  It’s impossible to hide everything we’re going through and even if we’re great actors, there will likely be a crack in the armor.  Difficult times come to all of us and as we navigate them we may appear to be tense or even angry to those around us.  We will find comfort and respite from the trial if we remind ourselves we can manage anything that comes and will be successful.  We can overcome every challenge and continue to walk forward with confidence.

If we are living unethically or dishonestly we may try to appear to be doing things differently and we may be able to fool those around us for a time.  We may continue to smile and act as though we’re doing things well and it may work for a while but eventually what we’re doing secretly will rise and become apparent through our behavior.  We can’t look our best if we’re living deceptively.  If we want to be our best we must do our best.  We have everything we need to choose wisely and move forward on roads that will bring us true success.  Living honestly and true to our personal values will bring us joy and that will bring us true beauty.

Today if you want to be truly beautiful, make the best choices you can.  Choose to be honest and travel the roads that will bring you joy.  If there is stress and conflict, remember how powerful and capable you are.  There isn’t anything too difficult for you to manage and you will prevail.  You are a great blessing to us all and your true personal beauty is a gift to the world.

What it Means

19 Jul

There are all kinds of ways to define success in life.  We all have ideas about what success means and how we manifest it in our lives.  Some believe it’s defined by money or position, or by those we know or over whom we have influence.  The outward appearances of success may involve many things but real success has little to do with what others see and more to do with how we feel.  Our personal success is intimately tied to who we really want to be and what we personally want to achieve.  Ultimately it must be defined by us and how we choose to live our lives.  No matter how we define it if we achieve what we determine is best for us we will find happiness.  The world has all kinds of ideas about how we should live and what success looks like but if want to be truly happy we must define it for ourselves.  We are always in control of our personal decisions and we may direct our lives any way we choose.  If we are true to the things we desire most and do what is needed to achieve them we will find great success.  Our personal successes will bring us great confidence and clarity as we move forward and help us define the paths we want to travel.  We know what we want most in our lives and who we want to be.  Every choice we make will either take us closer to those goals or move us in another direction.  As we move forward toward our personal success we will find great satisfaction in our journey and fulfillment going forward.

Outward success is essentially arbitrary and may be expressed in countless ways.  If we are convinced it’s merely a reflection of our monetary worth we may strive to acquire money in order to feel successful.  If we determine it’s how we are ethically and morally we may pattern our lives after the values we hold dear.  What it means is entirely up to us and has little to do with how others define it.  There may be pressure to conform to the definitions of success as determined by our social group, family or others and we may certainly follow any direction we choose.  In the end if we choose what is most important to us, despite the ideas of others, we will find happiness.

We must live with ourselves and our decisions every day.  If we choose to go along with others for the sake of convenience or conformity we may get the goals we want most or we may not.  When others are driving the train and we’re merely passengers we have no control over where we’re headed.  However, if we proactively direct our lives and make choices with our personal goals in mind we will reach the destinations we want most.  We deserve every happiness and reaching for our personal successes will bring it to us.

Today if you’ve been following someone else’s idea of what you need to do to be successful, decide what you want most.  Determine where you want to go and who you want to be.  You will reach every destination you desire and find great personal success.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  Go forward with confidence.  It’s all there for you.