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Ants

2 Feb

Nobody gets a perfect life where nothing goes wrong and at some point, we will all face challenges and problems of some kind. Often they are mere annoyances we can resolve pretty quickly and move on. We’re intelligent and able to find answers when we need them and can usually navigate through whatever comes. But life is uncertain and nobody knows what will happen next. We may experience a heart pounding, crushing development that leaves us standing frozen and unsure. Ants can carry up to twenty times their body weight. If we had to do that, it would be close to 4,000 pounds. If we really worked at it, we might be able to get there, but most of us would never be able to carry that much. Physical weight is one thing, but emotional weight can feel just as heavy and when something terrible happens, can seem impossible to bear. We may not have to actually lift something tangible, but we may be completely overwhelmed by grief, confusion, and loss. The unexpected death of a loved one, being suddenly abandoned by a lover, the destruction of our personal finances, and endless other painful things may happen. We don’t have control over everything that will come, but we are capable of controlling what we do when they arrive. At first we may be paralyzed and unable to process the situation, or we may jump up and scream, and refuse to believe what’s happened. Nothing we do can change the facts, and after the initial shock and despair, we can begin to decide what to do next. We are far stronger than we think we are, and even if our worst dreams come, we will find our way through. If we need to stop and think, we can. If we need advice, we can ask for it. All the answers will be there for us when we’re ready to see them and start again. Life is complex and at times very difficult. But there isn’t anything that can hold us down forever, or keep us from moving forward. By trusting ourselves, and taking things one step at a time, we can get through anything and find relief. There will always be a way ahead, and with faith and determination, we will find it.

When we’re young and experience our first love, and things eventually end, we may believe we’ll never love anyone else again. We may think we’ll never get over losing the love of our lives. But time passes, we develop and mature, and everything changes. We find someone new, and move on. In the midst of heartbreak and disappointment, it may seem we’ll never get through. We may suffer greatly and believe the pain will be permanent. But life is all about change, and no matter what we’re going through today, tomorrow will be different. We can hold onto our courage, and trust ourselves that no matter what’s gone wrong, we will prevail.

Some people love drama and hold onto difficult situations, revisiting them again and again, milking them for every emotion. We can hold onto disappointment for as long as we like, but until we set it down and let it go, we will remain exactly where we are. There are endless destinations waiting for us and every success is possible, but we must be willing to leave the past behind and step forward to gain them. We deserve complete happiness, and when we’re ready to begin again, we can make it ours.

Today if you’re suffering through a painful disappointment and feel overwhelmed and unable to cope, trust yourself. You have already overcome many difficult situations and you will find your way through. You are far wiser and more capable than you realize, and nothing can hold you down forever. Stand strong, and be confident. The answers are there and you will find them. Every destination is waiting, and they will be yours.

Look Away

7 Dec

We share the planet with billions of other people.  They are all around us, coming and going, connecting or just passing by.  We love some of them, tolerate others and try to ignore the ones that make our lives difficult and complicated.  Some connections are easy and flow with little stress or anxiety, but others can be complex, fraught with intensity and hard to manage.  We may feel uncomfortable if we must deal with someone who is temperamental or bossy, or an old lover who broke our heart comes around, and we might do everything we can to avoid their attention.  We may try to blend into the background, keep our head down and look away, anything to prevent them from approaching us.  If that works, we may breathe a sigh of relief that we have averted any connection with them.  Nobody wants to deal with difficult people or situations, but there is no way to hide forever.  The very person we definitely don’t want to run into may show up unexpectedly, catch us off guard, and we may suddenly find ourselves face to face with them.  At that moment, it will be up to us how we handle what happens next.  We can shrink and try to disappear, which will never work, or we can stand firm and trust ourselves to find the best way through.  We already have every bit of courage and wisdom we need to navigate any difficult situation.  There isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine.  Nothing is too hard for us to get through, and with patience and grace, we will find our way.

Every experience we have teaches us something.  When our experiences are good, we gain greater confidence and helpful knowledge that embellishes us and helps pave the road ahead.  But hard times come to all of us, and when we go through something painful and destructive, it may leave a lasting mark on us.  We may lose our trust in others, doubt ourselves, or be afraid of what will happen next.  There is no way to change the past, but there will always be a way to move forward.  We don’t have to hold onto what hurts us forever.  We can look at everything objectively and find ways to let go and move ahead.  Every destination is still there for us and every success is still possible.

Problems rarely solve themselves, and if we’ve left something unresolved because it was just too painful to look at it, it will remain.  Time cannot fix what’s been left unattended.  Trouble becomes heavier as it waits, reminders will arise, and eventually we’ll have to face the inevitable.  It doesn’t matter how hard the problem is or how tangled it has become.  We can find the answers we need, and when we’re ready, can do what is needed to settle the issue once and for all, and move on.  

Today if you’ve been trying to avoid a situation or someone difficult, remember how strong and powerful you are.  You are perfectly capable of managing anything you must and there is nothing that can overcome you.  Be confident and stand firm.  Every blessing is already waiting for you, and with patience and determination, every success will be yours.

In the Hinterland

1 Jul

Life can be complicated and we may experience things we never dream will happen. We know we’re in control of our own decisions, but everything else is beyond our grasp. Things change, people come and go, choices are made that interfere with our lives, and things may develop that leave us standing alone, unsure of what to do next. There will always be lots of opportunities and possibilities around us, but if we don’t know what we want, or where we want to go, we may get stuck pondering and trying to find answers. Sometimes it may be because something big has changed in our lives. Perhaps a serious relationship has ended, we’ve had an unexpected development in our jobs, or we just no longer feel comfortable where we are. We may feel the urge to do something different, but haven’t yet identified what that will be. Floating around in the hinterland in our minds we may feel without an anchor, and unsettled. Where do we go from here? What should we do? How do we begin? Even when we’re unsure of our next steps, we know deep inside what we really want. We can examine our true desires, trust ourselves to believe we can achieve them, and then decide how we want to proceed to make them ours. There will always be a road ahead, and we are competent and capable enough to find it. Every answer is already there for us. Once we decide what is most important, we can step forward and claim it. Times of uncertainty will come to us all, but we are intelligent and wise, and will find our way. Every possibility is there for us. Every road is open. We need only decide what we want, and then move toward success.

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what we should do. Some people may believe they know what we need, and will tell us how to proceed. We can certainly take any advice we like, but nobody can possibly know us better than we know ourselves. Our lives are ours to design, and we don’t have to conform to anyone else’s viewpoint or follow their lead. We can chart our own course, and go anywhere we desire. Everything is possible, and we will prevail.

Time stops for no one, and even if we stand still, the world will continue forward. We can remain in place for as long as we like. There is no rush, and if we need time to think about our next step, we can take it. When we’re ready to move, everything will be there for us. There isn’t any destination we can’t reach, and no goal we can’t achieve. We can look at every option possible, and then choose our next steps. We are stronger and more powerful than we imagine, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if things have changed, and you’re not sure how to proceed, trust yourself. You already know what you want. Decide where you want to go, and step forward with confidence. You are amazing and strong, and already have everything you need to succeed at anything you desire. Nothing can keep you from success. Every dream is possible, you will make them yours.