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The Price

18 Sep

We can do anything we want in our lives. We can accomplish any goal and reach any destination. Everything is possible but nothing will simply happen because we desire it. Despite what we want, and what some may tell us, few things are free and basically everything we desire will require something from us. It may be monetary, physical, emotional or technical, or any of an unlimited variety of sacrifices. If we want the goal, we’ll have to pay the price. It’s up to us to determine if the price is worth what we’re trying to gain. Sometimes that will be easy to discern – as in the case of monetary cost. If we don’t think the item we want is worth the cost, we won’t pay it. However, other factors aren’t as easy to perceive, and we may find ourselves in a situation where what we’re giving far exceeds any benefit we will derive in the end. We are intelligent and capable, and would never knowingly enter into an agreement that will take more than we want to give. Unfortunately, sometimes the parameters and costs aren’t easy to ascertain and we may forge ahead blindly hoping everything will work out. We never have to stay on any road if we aren’t comfortable or there are no benefits for us to continue. We are in control of our lives, and if we’ve chosen something that isn’t working out the way we want, we can step away and change direction. We can achieve anything we desire if the costs to accomplish it are possible and we’re willing to pay them. Our lives are ours to design. We can go anywhere and do anything. Choosing the roads we want the most and managing them well, will bring us great satisfaction and happiness moving forward.

Successful relationships are partnerships of giving and taking. We give our time and attention to someone else, and support their efforts, and they give the same back to us in return. We offer help and consideration when things get hard, and loving kindness to smooth the way ahead. If we’re in a situation where we’re giving and the other person is only taking, the balance will be unsettled and we may pay more than we’re comfortable with. We deserve complete happiness and can change anything in our lives at any time. We can have happy, healthy relationships that bring us great pleasure and contentment. By choosing carefully, and making sure our connections are balanced and even, we will find great happiness and satisfaction.

In the retail market, prices change and fluctuate. The same can be true in our personal lives. We may enter into an agreement with the understanding that things will go a certain way, but as time passes the situation may change. If we’re not getting the benefits we need from our involvement, we can alter our course. Nothing in life is permanent. We can change anything at any time. We know what we want, and can do what is needed to ensure we achieve it.

Today if you’re in a situation where you’re giving more than you’re receiving, remember how valuable you are. You deserve every happiness and success. Every road is open and you can go anywhere and do anything you desire. Decide what you want the most, and step forward toward your goal. Nothing is out of reach and you will prevail.

Make Me Happy

13 Sep

Our lives are a reflection of all the experiences we’ve had and a result of every choice we make. If we choose things that take us where we want to go, we often find happiness. But choices can be affected by those around us, or situations that have influence over us. If we’re trying to impress someone and they’re doing something we normally wouldn’t like, we might choose it to show our alignment with them. Following someone else’s ideas can only take us where they’re headed. Our lives are always in our control. Doing things opposed to the life we desire will only delay or completely prevent us from finding true happiness. If we lack confidence or are unsure about where we want to go, we may pattern our lives after someone we admire. There’s nothing wrong with mimicking good, strong characteristics, but we’re responsible for our own lives. We can’t be who we are and someone else at the same time. Nobody else can make us happy. It’s a responsibility that falls completely on us. When we live authentically, and make choices that represent who we really are, happiness will follow. We are unique and valuable just as we are. There is no need to conform to those around us, or try to fit into someone else’s mold. We have individual and specific gifts to offer and nobody could ever replace us. We can be confident in living the lives we want the most, and choosing the roads that take us where we want to go. Every dream can come true and we can reach any destination we desire. Nothing is out of reach and complete happiness is always possible.

Our lives are our responsibility. If we’re not happy, it’s up to us to do what’s needed to change. We never have to stay in any situation indefinitely. There will always be options available and we can alter our course until we’re on the road we desire most. If others want us to stay where we are, they may try to hold us in place. We can stay in any situation for as long as we like but if we’re ready to move forward, nothing can keep us down. We deserve complete happiness. If we’re not getting it, we can change our lives and direction until we reach it.

Life is filled with responsibilities and details that require our attention. If we’re very busy attending to many obligations, our personal happiness may be pushed aside. It’s easy to forget ourselves when we’re busy serving others, but our personal needs are important. If we neglect ourselves, and let our own desires sit dormant, it will be impossible to feel complete. Nothing is more important than our personal health and well-being. When we nurture ourselves, and take the best of care, everything will come more easily, and we’ll find satisfaction and success moving forward.

Today if you’ve been setting aside your own personal needs in order to take care of everything else, remember you are important and priceless. You can have the life you dream about. Make choices that will take you where you most want to go and show us who you are. There isn’t anyone else like you and we need the gifts you have to offer. Step forward with confidence and claim your happiness. It’s always there for you, and every blessing is possible.

Twisted Roads

12 Sep

As we’re pressing forward toward the goals we want to achieve, sometimes the road turns or we’re taken off course. Unexpected developments often occur and when they do, we may have to change direction. There will always be options for moving ahead and each choice will give us information that helps us continue forward. We’re capable of making our own decisions but there may be times when others or outside influences force us to take a direction we don’t want or don’t like. If that happens, we may be sure we’re headed the wrong way and attempt to return and start again. But life continues on and despite our best efforts we may continue to be pulled along against our will. There are endless roads to every destination and even when we’re sure we’re not headed in the right direction, sometimes we may be surprised to find we have arrived at exactly where we need to be. An unexpected change of direction can take us somewhere we didn’t know we wanted to go. Nobody knows everything and every decision we make is determined by what we can see at the moment and the information we have. There will always be more details we don’t know. The road we’re on may get twisted up and turned around, and then surprisingly take us to the very place we most want to be. It’s impossible to see the end from the beginning. We may be diverted by a turn that takes us someplace new, and enhances our experiences in ways we never imagined. Being open to every possibility will bring us unexpected blessings, and enhance our lives in rich and wonderful ways.

We always know what we want the most. We may not share our desires with anyone but we understand where we want to go and what we want to do. Confusion and disagreement don’t change our desires, and with determination we can achieve every goal we choose. Sometimes there’s a straight road ahead, but other times we may get sidetracked along the way. Life is filled with all kinds of surprises. It’s impossible to control anything outside ourselves. We can let changes happen and still move forward with confidence.

Even if we plan well and are sure we know where we’re headed, things may change. We can’t see the end from the beginning, and although we have faith we’ll reach our destination, how long that takes or where we’ll go along the way is unknown. A broken road that becomes impassable requires us to change our plans. The path may not take us to the original goal we wanted but may turn and open new doors and horizons before us. We may discover a new destination that brings us great happiness and satisfaction.

Today if you’re trying to reach a goal but everything is pushing you in a different direction, step forward with confidence. If you must change your course, be open and discover what lies ahead. You may be surprised to find great blessings and happiness waiting for you. Life is filled with unexpected changes and each has great potential. Be open and ready. The whole world is filled with possibilities. There is great success and happiness waiting for you, and you will reach it.

Crystal Ball

4 Sep

We can do anything we like with our lives, and can make any decisions we desire. We don’t need agreement or permission to choose the paths we want to travel, or decide on any action. Some people like control and may try to turn us in one direction or another to achieve their personal ends, but we never have to take the bait. The future is ours to determine and we can create it any way we like. There are unlimited roads to every destination, and if we’re focused and determined, nothing is out of bounds. We don’t need a crystal ball to see the future and can choose the direction we’ll take at every moment. It’s great to understand our personal freedom, but life is filled with responsibilities and tasks that can hold us in and restrict our movement. Some things can be modified to fit within our parameters, but others require us to bend or wait. It’s hard to stand still when we want to be moving forward, but nothing can hold us in place forever. We can do everything we want to do, but we can’t do it all today. Learning to wait well takes practice and patience. Life is long and if we’re determined, nothing can keep us from any goal we desire. There isn’t a detour long enough or wide enough to keep us from success. Every dream is possible if we’re willing to do what it takes to make it ours. There are no secrets to having a happy, successful life. We can decide what we want, and then move forward and accomplish it. Nothing is out of reach. Nothing. It’s all possible and we can have the lives we dream about.

It might seem life would be easier if we could see into the future. If we knew what was going to happen, we could prepare for it before it arrived. The thing about life is we learn new things every day that help us understand the world more effectively and give us the skills to manage what’s coming next. If we knew what was headed our way before we were prepared to handle it, our lives would be in chaos. We don’t have to know what’s going to happen ahead of time in order to navigate it effectively. Every answer will always be there for us when we need it, and with patience and clarity, we will find them.

When we want to accomplish something, we may carefully consider how we’ll achieve it, allow for complications that may arise, and plan for each step of the journey. It’s great to have a plan but plans can’t predict every turn the road ahead may take or what may stand in our way. If we’re flexible and able to bend as issues arise, we’ll be able to continue moving forward and in time, reach the destination. Life is full of surprises and everything can change in a moment. We can alter our course when we need to and reach every goal. Success is always possible and we will reach it.

Today if your plans aren’t working out and you aren’t sure how to continue, all the answers are already there for you. Review every possible option and choose the road that will move you closer to your goal. You have everything you need to do anything you want. Nothing is too far away or too difficult for you. You are strong and capable, and have all the wisdom and insight you need to succeed. Be confident and trust yourself. Every destination is possible, and you will reach them.

Finding the Why

30 Aug

Our decisions and choices are motivated by many factors. There are things we want for ourselves, things other people want us to do, and stuff we have to do just because we are where we are. Every day brings new responsibilities and assignments, some we’re happy to manage, and others bring frustration and annoyance. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and if we’re adamantly opposed to whatever is before us, we can step away. But we aren’t alone here, and our relationships with those around us sometimes involve doing things we’re not thrilled about, or don’t want. Every decision we make belongs to us and there will always be a reason for each choice. If we’re not happy and are doing things that continually perpetuate feelings of discontent, it’s important to understand why we keep doing them. If there are family pressures, we don’t feel we can ignore, or professional responsibilities we can’t leave, we may be stuck for now. But if we’re doing things that aren’t making us happy or moving us forward, and there is no real reason to continue, we can step back and decide what we really want, and change direction. Once we understand why we’re doing something, we can determine what we want to do next. Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything we like. There is no situation or individual with the power to hold us in place. We can turn away from anything that isn’t bringing us happiness or fulfillment, and choose a different road. We can have the life we imagine and reach any goal. We are powerful and wise, and we know what we want. There is a road to every destination we desire and with focus and determination, we will find success.

We’re all individuals, different and unique in our own personal way. What’s important to one may mean nothing to someone else. There isn’t one, perfect way to live life, and every interpretation has benefit. Tradition can be very powerful and if we’ve been living our lives based on what’s always been done in the past, we may feel secure keeping things the same, but that doesn’t guarantee we’ll be happy. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we deserve to be happy. If the road we’re on isn’t fulfilling our dreams or bringing joy into our lives, we can choose another.

There are routines we follow regularly that are familiar and that help bring order into our lives. We know what to expect, and there are few surprises. However, repeating the same things again and again can be powerful. We may continue doing something without even understanding why we’re doing it. Every day is a gift, and if we don’t pay attention, we may miss the opportunity to accomplish what we want the most. We always have the power to move toward the goals and destinations most important to us, and create the lives we desire.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t taking you where you want to go, look at all the possibilities before you and change direction. You know what you want, and have everything you need to achieve it. Your life is precious and valuable, and you can do anything you desire. Be confident. Nothing can keep you from complete success.

What We Know

27 Aug

People continually come into our lives. We meet them in passing, from others we know, as business associates, or just by saying hello. There are billions of them on the earth and no matter where we go, or what we’re doing, chances are they’ll be around us. As we develop personal bonds and relationships, we get to know them on a deeper level. We start to understand how they think and begin to expect how they’ll react to certain situations. But we can never know everything about anyone and sometimes things happen that make us see them in a different light. We may find they have a hidden volatile side, or a raging temper if they’re crossed, and we can step back a bit to see them more clearly. If they’re very important to us or we have strong feelings for them, if we see behaviors that are destructive or demeaning, we may ignore them and pretend they don’t exist. Knowing something doesn’t always mean we’ll acknowledge it openly. As we look the other way, we may be able to continue our relationship with them for a while, but eventually everything will be exposed and we’ll have to decide how we want to proceed. By facing the situation clearly and accepting the way things really are, we’ll be able to choose the best road forward. We’re all responsible for our own lives, and we can only solve our own problems. If our relationship is negatively impacted by bad behavior, and the other party is unwilling or unable to change, what happens next is up to us. We deserve happy, fulfilling lives. We can make choices that will move us forward toward the goals we want the most, and create the lives we desire. Nothing can hold us in place. We are in control of our lives and by choosing well, can find great happiness and peace.

Nobody knows everything about everything. It’s possible to find ourselves in difficult and complex situations because of decisions made by others that have nothing to do with us. If we’re suddenly somewhere we don’t want to be and didn’t plan on going, we can stop and change direction. We’re not inexorably controlled by anything. We can turn around and step away from any situation that isn’t working for us. We know what we want, and have everything we need to get it.

People sometimes hide personality traits from others. If they’re selfish, they may pretend to be kind and giving. If they’re intense and angry, they may pretend to be easygoing and polite. It’s possible to fool others for a time, but nobody can keep up pretenses forever. When we’re getting to know someone new, if we take our time getting close to them, we’ll have the chance to see them as they really are. Once we can see them clearly, we can decide how we want to proceed. Our happiness is important and valuable. We can keep our eyes open and see everything objectively, and create the connections we want the most.

Today if you’re entangled in a relationship that isn’t working, remember your happiness is important. You deserve the very best of everything and never have to stay in any situation that’s uncomfortable or difficult. Decide what you want the most, and then begin moving toward the goal. Every happiness is there for you, and you will have it.

Confidence

12 Aug

Personal confidence is a great asset. It’s buoys us up if we doubt and gives us courage for what lies ahead. We feel confident when we know what we’re doing and the outcomes we desire are easy to achieve. It’s easy to feel strong and capable when we know the road ahead and have been successful in managing it in the past. Personal confidence grows when we achieve the goals we desire and move forward down the roads we choose. It’s good to be confident and feel in control, and able to prevail. But life is filled with all kinds of surprises and unknowns, and we will eventually come upon a situation where we have to do something we’ve not only never done before, but doubt we can achieve. Having to step forward when we’re unsure will test our resolve and challenge us in ways that may be uncomfortable and difficult. We don’t know what will happen, and we may not believe we’ll get through. We may not believe we’ll succeed or even survive the test, but we’re stronger than we think we are, and no matter what we must do, can find the courage to accomplish it. We will always have enough strength and determination to face whatever may come. We already possess great reserves of tenacity and fearlessness, and we can pull from deep within to get whatever tools we need to succeed. Nothing is too difficult or complex for us to manage. Even if we’re scared, uncertain or worried, we can trust ourselves to step forward and find our way. We can test our confidence and prevail. There is no road too hard, no hill too high, and no path too steep for us to overcome. We can do anything we desire and every goal is possible.

All our dreams are possible and we can set our sights on any destination we want. Others around us may not believe we can succeed, and may try to dissuade us from pursuing a goal out of fear that we’ll fail. It doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks. We don’t need agreement or permission to go after our dreams. We may take any advice we like, and then continue forward toward the goals we’ve chosen. We are powerful and capable, and nothing is out of reach.

Believing we can win is the first step in every endeavor. If we aren’t sure we can manage it, and think we’ll try but feel pretty confident we won’t prevail, we will fail. It’s unlikely we’ll accomplish anything despite ourselves. Generally, if we don’t think we can do something, odds are we won’t be able to do it. However, if we are determined to prevail, and decide we’ll push through whatever may be in the way, nothing will keep us from our goal. There isn’t any destination too far away, or accomplishment too difficult for us to manage. We are strong and wise, and can have the lives we want.

Today if you’re facing a big challenge and don’t feel confident you can overcome the obstacles in front of you, remember how strong and powerful you are. You are more capable than you think you are, and can do anything you decide to do. Be confident and step forward. The goal is reachable and nothing will keep you from it. All your dreams can come true, and you will prevail.