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Who’s In Charge

10 Nov

There are lots of people in our lives. Everyone is unique and they all have their own ideas about how things should go. If they are very confident they know what’s right, they may share their opinions with those around them, whether they ask for them or not. Those who are loud and confident may press us into following them and doing what they say. If we let them, they may take control of our decisions and we may end up far from where we want to go. It can be hard to stand up to someone in authority whose ideas are different than our own. We may start out going along just to keep the peace, but if we continue to follow along, we may end up simply making choices without thinking. Every road has a destination and we’ll eventually end up wherever it leads. Chances are we’ll be fine whatever happens, but being fine isn’t the same thing as being happy. It doesn’t matter what those around us want, and it doesn’t matter where they think we should go. We are in control of our lives, and when we’re ready, can take charge of the journey and move toward what we want the most. Our lives are ours to design. We don’t have to do anything like anyone else. We can choose where we want to go, and then do what is necessary to reach every destination. There is greatness in us all, and with focus and determination, we can have the lives we want the most.

The influence of family can be great. There may be intense pressure to keep certain traditions and do things that are agreeable to everyone. We can certainly do anything we like, and if we want to avoid conflict, can keep a low profile and just do as requested. We own every decision we make and are responsible for our own happiness. If we want something different, we can have it. We can be polite and honor the decisions of others, and then make our own choices. Every dream is possible, and when we’re ready, nothing can hold us in place.

Life is like a box of crayons. Just like all the colors, there are many different ideas and expressions possible. Everyone doesn’t have to be blue, or red to fit in. We can express our own individual desires and dreams, and choose the roads we want the most. Our differences bring great richness and depth to our lives. We’re in control of our own destinies, and can reach any goals we desire.

Today if you’re being pressured to follow someone else’s road, remember how unique and extraordinary you are. You bring great light and blessing to the world just as you are. Decide what you want the most, and begin your journey. Be confident and strong. You are amazing and powerful, and every success is there for you.

Reset

27 Oct

Life is full of change and nothing stays the same forever. We are constantly adjusting and modifying everything we do to fit what is happening around us and what we want to accomplish. Our personalities are unique to us and we all have attributes we like and other things not so much. We may have a behavior that stumps us up every time we display it, but have ignored it and worked through whatever headaches it brings. Maybe it’s a quick temper that gets us into trouble, or a lack of self control that brings disappointment. There are unlimited expressions and we can do anything we like. If we continue to repeat behaviors that don’t work for us, we’ll continue to face the consequences they bring. Change is always possible, but it isn’t always easy. If we’ve been doing something the same way for a long time, changing course will take focus and effort. We are entitled to complete happiness and can let go of anything that stands in the way. Once we decide what we want to change, we can be on the alert for triggers that cause it to rise. Patterns can be deeply ingrained, and we may fall prey to failure at the beginning. But if we stick to it, and persist in pushing forward, we will be able to reset our response and change to something that serves us better. Everything is possible and with patience and determination, there isn’t anything we can’t do. We can be confident and trust ourselves to make any changes we desire that will lead us to success. We are strong and powerful, and nothing is out of reach.

Families and traditions are very powerful. If something has always been done a certain way for a long time, our families may expect us to continue doing them and keeping to the tradition. There may be intense pressure to conform to something we don’t want. Following an undesired road will never take us where we most want to go. We can honor our families and be respectful, and still choose another path. Our lives belong to us, and we are responsible for our own happiness. Every dream is there for us and with clarity we can make them ours.

Relationships are important to us and when they are strong and healthy, bring great blessing and reward to our lives. If we’re in a relationship where we’re pressed to conform to behaviors we don’t want, it may be hard to stand up for ourselves. Everyone has their own opinions about how life should go, but nobody knows us better than we know ourselves. We know what we want and where we want to go. By being honest and choosing our own way forward, we will find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if there is something you want to change, decide how you want to proceed. You are amazing and capable, and can do anything you desire. Every destination is possible and nothing can hold you in place. Choose what you want the most, and step forward with clarity and confidence. Focus on the goal and trust yourself. Success is always there for you and you will reach it.

All About the Fit

20 Oct

The world is filled with all kinds of options and ideas. There will always be more to do and see than we’ll ever be able to accomplish, and we’re only limited by our own personal desires. We may have an idea about something we want to pursue, and begin toward the goal only to discover as we get closer that it’s not exactly what we wanted. We can always change course or alter our plans at any time. It’s impossible to see the end of any road at the beginning, and if we find we’re headed in the wrong direction, can turn around and start again. We might choose something that works out great, and then something else that doesn’t fit at all. If others are involved they may encourage us to keep trying when things go wrong, and we can stay on track for as long as we like. But if the plan no longer takes us to what we really want, it will not lead us to success. When we purchase clothing, we have to try different styles and sizes until we find what fits. It does no good to buy something too big or too small that is impossible to wear. We may have to try several different things until we find the right fit, but when we do, everything works out well and we feel good. The same is true in our decisions. Some things look good at first but when we see more clearly how they’ll develop, may find they won’t work out. Nothing is permanent and every decision can be modified and adjusted. Once we decide what we want, we can begin moving forward and make any necessary changes as they arise. Every dream is possible and we already have everything we need to succeed. We can trust ourselves to choose the right fit and reach every goal.

Everyone has their own ideas and may give us all kinds of suggestions and point us in all kinds of directions. What they’re doing may work well for them, but that doesn’t mean it’s what we want. We can listen to all the advice offered, and then decide how we will proceed. Each person is unique and our dreams are specific to us alone. We can find our way forward and with confidence reach every destination.

It hurts to wear shoes that are too tight, and we may develop painful blisters as we struggle through. Wearing shoes that are too big isn’t much better, and we may stumble and fall because they get in the way. When we choose things that don’t fit where we want to go, we will suffer in much the same way. We might feel constricted, or fumble around looking for the next step. We already know what we want, and nothing can keep us from our goals. We can do what is needed right now to move toward success.

Today if you’ve been wandering around unsure of your direction, decide what you want the most and step forward. You are wiser and more powerful than you think you are. Nothing is out of reach, and you will succeed. Trust yourself and be confident. Every single dream is possible, and you will make them all yours.

Exempt

5 Oct

We share the world with billions of other people, and there will always be people coming and going in and out of our lives. They interact with us, work with us, share families with us, or just see us in passing. Everyone is different and we’re all doing different things. In an effort to make things go more smoothly, there are rules for civility and politeness that help us all get along without increasing friction. Most of us try to be pleasant and polite, and don’t get up in other people’s faces just to annoy them. We try to get along and be positive, but there is always the exception. No matter where we are, there may be someone who is rude and difficult, who may make our lives miserable. They have bad manners, interrupt us when we’re speaking, leave a trail of trash behind them, and ignore any suggestions for improvement. They don’t care how they affect others or if they degrade those around them. It’s very hard to deal with people like this. They can complicate our days and when they come around, we may try anything to avoid them. People will do what they will do, but we can hold fast to the standards we set. There will always be many roads to get to our goals, and we can find ways around any problem that arises. We can be polite even if those we encounter are not. The road to success is rarely paved and clear, but we have everything we need to move ahead, no matter what is standing in the way.

Some people are very good at telling others what they should do, how they should act, and where they should go. They constantly preach and pontificate, giving instructions regarding whatever is happening around them. They are great at explaining the rules and demanding compliance, but because they see themselves as set apart on a higher plane, feel they are exempt from following them. They simply do what they want, and expect others to accept it. It is never appropriate to set standards for others we do not intend to follow. We are all part of the whole, and if one must comply, we should all comply.

We are all human beings sharing the planet at the same time. Although some may have fame and fortune, some may have privilege and power, nobody is more worthwhile than anyone else. Our circumstances do not determine our value. We are precious and priceless because we are unique, and there isn’t anyone now, nor has there ever been anyone who can offer the gifts we have to give. We deserve complete happiness, and can do what is necessary to achieve it. Every blessing is there for us, and every dream is possible.

Today if you must deal with someone who is unpleasant and rude, remember how valuable you are. Set the example for excellence and step forward with confidence. You know what you want and nothing is out of reach. Be the best you can be, and every destination will be yours.

Steadfast

28 Sep

There are opposites in everything – black and white, good and evil, right and wrong. Whatever opinions or beliefs we hold, someone, somewhere will have an opposing view. Endless ideas and interpretations are everywhere and if we haven’t decided which way we’re going, we may be pulled in countless directions. We can listen to all the views around us and when we’re ready, decide what is best and how we want to proceed. Everyone is different and we will undoubtedly face times when our views clash with those around us. If everyone else is singing one song and we’re on another page, we will likely face conflict. We’re all entitled to our own beliefs and decisions, but that doesn’t mean the power of the group won’t come into play. It’s far easier to get to the goals desired if everyone agrees. When there is dissent, it can make the road a lot rockier. In an effort to make things easier for those around us, we may be pressured to go along and asked to conform with something we disagree with. Of course, we can do anything we like and if we want to acquiesce we can, but our ideas are important and we are entitled to express them any way we like. We never have to follow anyone else if we want something different. We can be polite and still be steadfast in our decisions. Our lives are ours to design, and we may live them any way we choose. We don’t need agreement or permission to choose our own way forward. By trusting ourselves, and being confident, we can step ahead on the roads we desire most, and find great success.

Some people are very loud and forceful. They believe their ideas are best and may press us to do things their way. Being loud may open some doors, but certainly doesn’t equate to having power over us. We can do what we like, even if it’s different from everyone else. There are countless roads to every destination, and we can choose the ones we’ll travel. Our dreams are ours alone. We can take control, choose our own direction, and move toward any destination we desire.

Group think squashes creativity and removes individual responsibility. Nobody makes their own decisions, and nobody gets blamed when things go wrong. Nothing could be more damaging to personal growth. It’s good to have friends and build connections, but we can connect with others and keep our own autonomy. We are all unique and have special, individual gifts nobody else can offer. By honoring our personal differences, and stepping forward according to our own specific desires, we will bring great depth and blessing to the world around us.

Today if you’re being pressured to align yourself with others, remember your contribution is important. Trust yourself and follow your own road. You have so much to offer and bring gifts nobody else can give. Be steadfast and confident. You are amazing and powerful. Your light brings great joy and we’re all blessed because you are here.