Tag Archives: Choice

Defining Moments

28 Sep

Life is long and each day we make many decisions. Each choice we make changes us in some way and the roads we choose tell the world who we are. If we are mindful, we may look at everything clearly before we decide, but there’s often a lot going on around us and it’s easy to get rushed and simply choose the first option available. If it doesn’t impact us much, it might not matter what we choose, but there are sometimes hidden agendas and unforeseen complications that arise and make moving forward difficult. Nobody is perfect and we’re all going to falter at some point, and every decision we make determines what will happen next and defines who we are. If we continually make careless and foolish choices, those around us will understand we are not to be trusted. But if we try hard to choose well, we’ll be able to build relationships and make connections that will benefit us as we move ahead. Every choice is a defining moment. By being aware of what we’re doing, and carefully evaluating where we’re headed, we will find great satisfaction, and continued success.

The world is filled with all kinds of distractions and how we manage them will determine how we’ll proceed. If we’re addicted to our phone, texting and scrolling, and value our time with it over time spent with others, our relationships will suffer. There is no end to the information we can access at any moment. We can spend every minute of every day going through on-line sites, and following others, and accomplish nothing for ourselves. We are in control of our lives, and the choices we make will take us somewhere. We can ensure we are going where we most want to go by focusing clearly on the road ahead.

We are responsible for our time and how we spend it. If we allow ourselves to be over extended and have more to do than we can effectively manage, everything will suffer. There will always be more that needs to be done. It does no good to have so many commitments that we’re overwhelmed and can’t think straight. By recognizing our limits and planning our time to allow for success, we will be able to accomplish much and reach every goal.

Today think about the decisions you’re making. Choose the roads that will take you where you most want to go. You are wiser than you think you are, and every answer you need is available. Decide how you want to proceed, and be confident. Every success is there for you.  Every dream is possible. Trust yourself and step forward, and you will prevail.

Explaining It

24 Feb

Our lives belong to us and we can do anything we like. We can decide what we want, where we want to go, what we want to accomplish and anything else we desire. Everyone knows we can all make our own decisions, but that may not stop some people from questioning us about what we’re doing. They may see us moving toward something they don’t understand, and ask us to explain ourselves. Our decisions are ours to make and we don’t need those around us to agree or go along in order to succeed. If we want to explain our thinking and what we’re doing, we can, but we’re not compelled to do so. We don’t have to share the details of our choices or why we’re doing anything. The roads we choose are up to us, and fit whatever model we have chosen for our own personal lives. Some people are more comfortable when everyone is doing the same things, and if we step away from the paths they’ve chosen, they may question us. Their need to understand and be comfortable is not our responsibility, and we don’t have to comply simply because someone else wants us to. There is a big world out there with endless opportunities for those who seek them. Every destination is possible, and we are brave enough and smart enough to find our way toward any goal we desire. The lives we want the most are there for us. By being true to who we are, and doing what is needed to move forward, we will reach great success. We already know what we want and nothing is out of reach. We can keep our eyes focused on the road ahead, and step forward, confident we will prevail.

Change is constant and no matter what is happening now, tomorrow will be different. We learn as we go, and gain skills and understanding as we go through all the experiences we face each day. If we’ve been in a career field for a long time but find it is no longer rewarding or taking us where we want to go, we can look at all the options possible and decide on something new. Others around us may question why we would ever give up what we’ve done so well for so long, but their questions have no impact on our decision. If we want something different, something more, we can have it. We are never stuck in one place indefinitely, and can change anything at any time.

If we pretend to agree with something we don’t like in an effort to move forward, it may work for a time. We can go along even if we’re not convinced, and play the game for as long as we like. But our happiness is important, and it’s impossible to be completely happy living a counterfeit existence. We can choose to honor our best selves, be truthful and step forward, honestly choosing what we really want the most. Every goal we seek is possible, and with focus and clarity, we can go anywhere and do anything.

Today if you want something different and others are asking you why, be confident. You know what you want and don’t have to explain your choice. Your life is yours to design and every destination is possible. Decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. You are more powerful than you realize and there is great success just ahead. Nothing can hold you in place, and you will prevail.

Forget That

23 Feb

There are generally people around us most of the time. We have family members, friends, acquaintances, work associates, and people we only see in passing. Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go, what we should be doing and endless other situations. We’re all entitled to our own opinions and decisions, and if we like, we may share them with others. If we are open about our desires and what we want to do next, we may freely express our thoughts to someone else. They may think we’re right on target and encourage us to move forward, or they may not. If they disagree with our plans, they may say the idea is ridiculous, or there is no way we could ever achieve the goal. They may tell us to forget that, and move onto something more reasonable – translation, something more like what they would do. We can always take any advice we like, but we know ourselves better than anyone else. Our friends may tell us to go one way, our family may point in another direction, and others may have different ideas. There are unlimited versions of what we could do and if we try to follow everyone else’s advice, we may end up going nowhere fast. If we want to take a road trip to a specified destination, there are all kinds of maps available. There will be lots of routes possible and if we can’t decide which way we want to go we might take one road for a while, then switch to another, then maybe turn around to jump onto a different highway to see what it has to offer, and on and on. We might eventually get to the destination, but it will likely take far longer and be much more difficult than if we had decided at the beginning exactly which way we wanted to go and stuck to the plan. We can do anything we like and listen to all kinds of opinions, but we are in control of our lives and once we determine exactly what we want, can step forward with confidence that we will succeed. Every destination is possible, and with clarity and focus, nothing can keep us from the goal.

Customs and traditions are powerful and may be very important to us. As we navigate through our lives, they may color our decisions and choices. We can always stay inside the lines of what has always been done, and conform to whatever patterns and customs we choose. But we’re unique and despite any pressures around us, may choose anything we like. We have our own specific gifts to offer that no one else possesses, and by honoring who we are and what we want, can bring great light and blessing to the world.

It’s always easier to manage a group of people when everyone is doing the same things, but there is great richness that comes from encouraging different ideas. Variety brings refreshment and opens new doors that may not have been previously considered. We can do whatever we like, while allowing others to also make their own choices. There are always many roads to any destination, and by being open to something new, we will learn more about ourselves and the world around us.

Today remember you are entitled to have the life you want the most. You don’t need agreement or permission from anyone to make any choices you desire. The whole world is open to you and every road is possible. Decide what you want to do and where you want to go, and take the first step forward. Every blessing awaits, and every dream is possible. Be confident and sure. Nothing can keep you from success, and you will make it yours.

Going Through

16 Feb

As we go through our lives we experience many new things.  Some experiences are easy, make us happy and move us forward, and others are more difficult to navigate and may leave lasting scars.  If we’ve been through a very intense and unpleasant event, and we’ve been hurt deeply or our way forward has been completely altered, we may feel the pain for some time.  Everything we go through teaches us something, and not all lessons are positive.  When we’re overcoming a difficult passage and must find a new way forward, we may feel bruised and uncertain.  We may even begin to believe we will never succeed again, and choose to stand still and hold tight to what is familiar.  We can live our lives any way we like and there is always the option of staying in the same place.  But we are capable of achieving even our highest expectations and if we stand still we will never know how far we could go.  There is comfort in familiarity and if we’re recovering from something difficult, staying close to what we know may help us feel strong again.  But once we’re back on our feet and things have settled, we can start on a new road and begin once more.  Life is filled with opportunity and there is nothing we can’t do.  We can be courageous enough to let go of pain from the past and move forward with confidence.  The road is long and we have much to learn.  Walking forward and pushing ahead will help us become the people we really want to be.  We are stronger and braver than we realize.  There is nothing we can’t do.  We can move forward and overcome any obstacle.  Our lives belong to us and we will find happiness and success.

If we’ve been through a traumatic event and our lives have changed dramatically, it can feel like we’ve fallen into a deep well that is impossible to escape.  The only constant in life is change.  No matter where we are or what’s happening now, it will change.  There is no way to hold anything in place forever.  When it feels like everything is out of control and we are held down by pain or fear, we can step back and trust that soon things will be different.  We are capable of managing anything that comes to us.  Time will turn the tide, and we will find our footing again.

We cannot control what others do or what comes to us but we are always in control of our own lives.  Our decisions are always in our power and even if we feel lost we can make our own choices going forward.  There will always be another road to walk on, and another way to get where we want to go.  Nothing is strong enough to hold us in place or take our choices from us.  We can decide how we want to continue forward.  Success is always there for us and no matter where we are now, there is a road that will take us to it.

Today if you’ve been through a difficult passage and are holding yourself in place, remember how strong and capable you are.  There isn’t anything too complicated for you to overcome.  Your life belongs to you alone and you can make excellent decisions.  Look ahead and choose the road you want to travel.  Be confident and begin forward.  Everything you dream of is waiting for you and you will reach it.

Second Guessing

10 Jan

In difficult and complicated situations when we’re making decisions about what we want or need to do, we want to make the best choice going forward.  If we need to confront someone about something they did or apologize for something we’ve done it might be difficult to decide how to proceed.  We can objectively review all the facts to clarify exactly what we want to say and how we want to address our concerns.  Once we determine what the best course of action is we can proceed with confidence and do what is needed to amend the situation.  But sometimes after we’ve decided what needs to be done we might second guess our decision.  What if things don’t go the way we want them too, what if our interaction goes awry and things get worse, what if the other person refuses to see us, the list of possibilities is endless.  Second guessing may hold us back from doing what we need to move forward and hold us in place somewhere we don’t want to be.  If we need to do something to fix a situation and default to doing nothing because we are afraid or unsure about what might happen, the situation will remain unresolved.  We will carry it with us going forward.  The only way around any problem is to solve it. There is no way to know how anything will work out when we’re trying to move forward, but one thing is certain, if we do nothing everything will remain the same.  Addressing our problems head on and facing them instead of looking away will help us continue forward toward our goals and bring us confidence.  We don’t have to hold onto any issue longer than we want to.  All the answers are there for us.  Taking control of the issue and facing it will help us find our way forward and bring us happiness and satisfaction.

There are endless “what ifs” if we think about them.  Lots of things can always go wrong but lots of things can also go right.  If we try to address a problem or situation with someone else and they don’t want to settle the issue, it then belongs to them.  Once we’ve done all we can to resolve the problem we don’t have to carry it forward.  We can’t control what anyone else does and if they will not agree to work things out, we can let it go and hope things will improve over time.

In our lives we will have the opportunity to solve many difficult situations.  Some answers will come easily and others will take time and serious thought.  There is no problem without a solution.  We can be confident in our ability to understand any situation clearly and find the answers we need.  Nothing is impossible and we are wise and capable.  Our happiness and comfort are our responsibility, and when things go wrong we can take control of our decisions and choose the best path forward.

Today if you need to solve a difficult problem and have been second guessing the way forward, choose the best solution and move ahead.  You know what needs to be done and you are wise enough to find the answers you need.  Be confident and brave.  You have everything you need to succeed.  There isn’t anything too difficult for you to resolve.  Make your decisions and move forward.  Success is there for you.