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The Third Law

28 May

Newton’s third law of physics tells us that for every action, there is an equal and opposite reaction. Nothing in life happens in a vacuum and every decision we make brings a result. As we make choices, we may have a good idea what the result will be based on what we know about the situation and what we’ve chosen, or we may not know where our decision will take us. But they all take us somewhere. There is no way to remain where we are as we step forward on the road ahead. Everyone wants to make good choices, and for the most part we will. But sometimes if the circumstances are confusing, or we get inaccurate information, or our emotions influence us in ways that don’t work, we may choose badly. When we take the first step on any road, we will inevitably end up where that road leads. Every journey has a destination and if it’s somewhere we don’t want to go, it’s up to us to step off the road we’re on, and go in another direction. It’s unlikely others will intercede and move us onto a better path. We’re in charge of our lives, and are responsible for every choice we make. Even if we feel swept along and pressured to continue on the wrong road, we can always step away and choose another path. Nobody knows us better than we know ourselves, and we have all the courage and determination we need to direct our lives toward the destinations we desire most. There are unlimited choices to make, and with patience and wisdom, we can find the roads that take us where we most want to go. Our lives are ours to design. We need never go along or follow others. We know what we want and have everything we need to get it. We can choose our own journey and reach any goal we desire. Nothing is out of reach and we can make all our dreams a reality.

Some people may think they know what’s best for us. They may constantly give us direction or try to persuade us to do things they feel will take us where we need to go. They are certainly entitled to their opinions, and we can listen to their advice if we like. However, our lives belong to us and we are the only ones who have complete understanding about what we need and what we want. We can choose the road ahead even if it’s different from what others recommend, and move forward with confidence and clarity.

There is no way to see the end of any road from the beginning. Even if we plan well and choose the best possible option at the beginning, things may change and we may find we aren’t headed where we most want to go. Learning to turn and adjust our trajectory with each new development will enable us to reach the destinations we desire and help us find success. Life is all about change and we are certainly flexible enough and wise enough to navigate the road ahead to ensure we find success.

Today if you’ve made a decision that isn’t taking you where you want to go, stop and look at all the options possible. Find the road that leads you to success and start again. There isn’t any destination you can’t reach. Choose your next steps carefully and begin. Every road is there for you and you can do anything. Be confident and step forward. Success is waiting for you and you will reach it.


Free Space

12 May

Our world is a busy place. We have a lot to do every day, and no matter how much we get done, there is more waiting for us. We are glued to our smart phones, iPads, day planners, and calendars. We constantly check our email, voice mail, Twitter, and Facebook, and a dozen other things. It’s an invasive and constant situation. Of course, life hasn’t always been this way, but the technology age is here, and whether we like it or not, we are part of it. When we add our daily routines of work, chores, errands, gym, walking the dogs, cooking, cleaning up, and everything else we have to do, it gets exhausting, and can be overwhelming. After a time we need a break.

Taking time for ourselves is not just an option, it’s a necessity. We need to plan for time down, without the electronics, without the phone, without the pressure. Just time to recharge, and rest. For some of us that may include time spent with family or friends. Or it might mean an outing to a museum, or gallery. We might decide to stay home, and just veg on the couch with a good book. If we have the time and resources, it could mean a vacation trip to someplace we’ve always wanted to go. Whatever it means to us, whatever it takes to rejuvenate ourselves, that’s what we need.

But in order to make it happen, we need to plan for it. We need to write it in our day planners, enter it into our smart phones, and if we’re working, we need to request the time off. Once we have it planned we must commit that no matter what happens, outside of a natural disaster, atomic explosion or death, we will follow through, and take the time.

I have a family member who works constantly. He is always extremely busy with one project or another. He makes lots of plans, and he completes them. He goes to his regular job during the day, and when he finishes there, he starts working on the project of the month. He is always coming up with new and ingenious ideas, which are great, but he seems unable to see that all he does is work. He is not married because he doesn’t have time to date. He doesn’t go on vacation because he has too much to do and can’t ‘find’ the time. He rarely visits his family because he doesn’t want to stop the progress he’s making on item A, B, or C. He works constantly. As a result, he is always tired, and he has few friends. He isn’t happy with his life like it is, but he says working this hard now will ensure that in the future he’ll have the freedom he wants. Well, that might happen. Or he might find that this will become his lifelong model, and he’ll never stop to get to that freedom.

No matter how much we do, we will never be completely done with what comes next. Life is a continuous process. There is no end until we die. Work will expand to fill the time we give it – no matter how much time that encompasses. We can work 24/7 if we like, and we still won’t be done. So, either we control the work or the work controls us. If the work is controlling us, when do we get to live our lives?

Plan for time down. Plan for it. And then take it. Take the time you need to recharge your batteries. Turn off the phone. Turn off the computer. Shut down the iPad. Forget about Twitter feeds, and what’s happening on Facebook. Go outside. Take a walk. Take a nap. Go skateboarding. Go surfing. Play tennis. Do whatever makes you happy. Take time apart from your usual schedule to restore. If we can do this regularly, we will have more energy when we return to our busy lives, more excitement for what we’re doing, and more happiness in the long run. This life will take everything we give it. We need to make sure we give something back to ourselves.