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Finding the Why

30 Aug

Our decisions and choices are motivated by many factors. There are things we want for ourselves, things other people want us to do, and stuff we have to do just because we are where we are. Every day brings new responsibilities and assignments, some we’re happy to manage, and others bring frustration and annoyance. We never have to do anything we don’t want to do, and if we’re adamantly opposed to whatever is before us, we can step away. But we aren’t alone here, and our relationships with those around us sometimes involve doing things we’re not thrilled about, or don’t want. Every decision we make belongs to us and there will always be a reason for each choice. If we’re not happy and are doing things that continually perpetuate feelings of discontent, it’s important to understand why we keep doing them. If there are family pressures, we don’t feel we can ignore, or professional responsibilities we can’t leave, we may be stuck for now. But if we’re doing things that aren’t making us happy or moving us forward, and there is no real reason to continue, we can step back and decide what we really want, and change direction. Once we understand why we’re doing something, we can determine what we want to do next. Our lives are always in our control and we can do anything we like. There is no situation or individual with the power to hold us in place. We can turn away from anything that isn’t bringing us happiness or fulfillment, and choose a different road. We can have the life we imagine and reach any goal. We are powerful and wise, and we know what we want. There is a road to every destination we desire and with focus and determination, we will find success.

We’re all individuals, different and unique in our own personal way. What’s important to one may mean nothing to someone else. There isn’t one, perfect way to live life, and every interpretation has benefit. Tradition can be very powerful and if we’ve been living our lives based on what’s always been done in the past, we may feel secure keeping things the same, but that doesn’t guarantee we’ll be happy. No matter where we are or what we’re doing, we deserve to be happy. If the road we’re on isn’t fulfilling our dreams or bringing joy into our lives, we can choose another.

There are routines we follow regularly that are familiar and that help bring order into our lives. We know what to expect, and there are few surprises. However, repeating the same things again and again can be powerful. We may continue doing something without even understanding why we’re doing it. Every day is a gift, and if we don’t pay attention, we may miss the opportunity to accomplish what we want the most. We always have the power to move toward the goals and destinations most important to us, and create the lives we desire.

Today if you’re on a road that isn’t taking you where you want to go, look at all the possibilities before you and change direction. You know what you want, and have everything you need to achieve it. Your life is precious and valuable, and you can do anything you desire. Be confident. Nothing can keep you from complete success.

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Doing It Anyway

14 Jun

We can accomplish just about anything we want to as we go through our lives. Few things are out of reach and if we’re determined to get something done, we can reach any goal we desire. If we want to do something new that’s never been accomplished before, others may tell us it’s impossible, and there’s no way we’ll succeed. There are some things that aren’t possible – we can’t fly on our own, we can’t jump over skyscrapers, or dig to the center of the earth – but most things are possible and within reach if we’re willing to work for them. Even if others have tried something and failed, it doesn’t mean we won’t succeed. If nobody else has been able to get it done, we can do it anyway. The world is filled with possibilities and we are only limited by our own personal choices. We don’t have to stay in one place, or do the same things, or remain in familiar situations. We can step out, reach for something new, and push ourselves to achieve something more. Every day brings new options and we already have what we need to experience them. Routines may make us feel comfortable but they rarely teach us anything new. We can change things up, open new doors, step on new roads, and head for someplace different. Life is filled with possibilities, and we can do anything we want to do. Variety brings refreshment and renewal, and teaches us more about ourselves and the world around us. The potential is there for us, and we can step forward and experience something we’ve never done before. We can have the lives we dream about and go anywhere we want to go. The opportunities are endless, and the whole world is waiting.

Life is filled with responsibilities and there are things we must do each day in order to care for our lives effectively. It’s easy to get caught up in them and find ourselves in a rut, and all our days may look the same with little variation. It’s fine to have a predictable life and stability is helpful when we want to move forward. But we can take care of business and still find time to stretch beyond where we are toward something new. We’re in control of our own destinies and can shape and design them any way we choose.

People may have all kinds of expectations for our lives. Our families may expect us to follow certain traditions, our jobs may require us to fit into a specific model, and others may want us to follow along with their choices. It’s always easier to interact when everyone is on the same page, but our lives belong to us. We can express them any way we want, and do what’s most important to us, even if nobody else agrees. We have unique and specific gifts to offer the world that nobody else can give. Our choices are ours to make and we can live the lives we want the most.

Today if you’ve been doing what’s expected but want something more, decide what you want and step forward. Your life is yours to design. Everything you dream about is possible. You have all that’s needed to do anything you want. Change direction and begin toward the life you desire most. It’s all there for you, waiting, and you can have it.

Half the Equation

26 Apr

We live in the world with billions of other people. Of course, we won’t ever meet them all but we’ll generally have many people coming and going out of our lives all the time. As we work with them or affiliate with them in any way, they may ask us to do things for them. Most people want to be helpful and will often do as they are asked. It’s fine if we get all the information we need and can accomplish what they’ve requested but sometimes we may be in position where we don’t have everything necessary to effectively do what we’ve agreed to. Maybe we didn’t receive all the facts to answer any questions that come up, or the situation changes while we’re in the middle of it and nobody informs us. We don’t know what we don’t know and if we aren’t told about key changes, we can’t possibly choose the best way forward. It’s very uncomfortable to try to manage something over which we have no control and it only gets worse if we can’t reach those who can shed light on the issue. If we can’t let go of the responsibility or return it to those in charge, we may be stuck holding the bag. If we can’t get out from under it, we’ll have to manage things the best we can. We can stand firm, and explain the situation to those who are negatively affected by it until we can address the issue and correct it. We are capable and can be confident that no matter what happens we will choose the best options possible. Problems arise, and complications are a continual issue. We can manage everything with confidence and grace, and find our way through.

Some people rush through their lives, always in a hurry, and moving on to the next thing. It’s hard to get all the information and facts correct if we rush over them and don’t take the time needed to make sure we understand all the facts. If we have to guess, we might get it right sometimes, but often we may miss out on important facets that will help us through. We are always in control of our lives and if a situation isn’t clear, we can ask for more information until we understand exactly what is needed.

Some issues are complicated and complex. In order to resolve them, we must get as many facts as possible so we have a clear picture of what’s going on. Getting half the information we need will never help us succeed. If we can’t get the answers necessary, we may feel frustrated and miserable trying to plow through. It’s a waste of time to try to solve anything without all the facts. We can set the problem aside and wait until we have more information and then start again and resolve it. We are intelligent and capable, and we know what we need to succeed.

Today if you been tasked with resolving an issue but you don’t have all the information you need or the tools necessary to complete it, step back and look at all the possibilities before you. If you cannot solve the problem at this time, set it aside until you get what you need to be successful. Waiting for clarity doesn’t mean giving up. When you get everything necessary to resolve the issue you can move forward. You know how to be successful and nothing is too confusing or difficult for you to manage. Every success is possible and you will prevail.

Boundary Line

25 May

We’re all entitled to live our lives any way we choose. We can do anything we like, go where we want to go and become the people we want to be but our decisions may sometimes be in conflict with what others think we should be doing. We all have opinions about what we think should happen and our personal decisions are specific to each of us. It’s inappropriate and sometimes destructive to direct other peoples’ personal lives and correct them if they choose a path we wouldn’t have chosen. It can be hard to keep our opinions to ourselves if we love the other person involved. We may certainly offer our advice if it’s wanted and we can express our concerns but we cannot direct anyone’s life but our own. Others may make choices that are completely different than what we think they should do but nobody knows all the facts in someone else’s life. We can only see what is happening on the outside and understand what they are willing to share with us. We all have the right to confidently choose any path we desire despite how differently others may want us to live. Making our own decisions about our lives allows us to share our unique gifts with others. If we follow a path designed by someone else our lives will reflect their vision and not our own. We can choose our own way and live the life that’s best for us.

Learning to respect boundary lines is important. When we drive a car, we must stay in our own lane, and when we play a game, we must follow the rules. Boundaries bring order and help us understand where we are. Although we can’t see them, each of us have personal boundary lines regarding our choices and the lives we live. We have the freedom to choose anything we desire. If someone steps over the line and tries to direct us, correct us, guide us, or push into lives we haven’t chosen, we need not comply. We can choose what’s best for us even if it doesn’t match what someone else thinks we should do.

Personal boundaries are important. They help us protect our privacy and allow us the freedom to decide how we want to live our lives. Some people believe they have the answers for others. They may offer advice or even criticism if we don’t comply with their ideas. A desire to control others will never bring happiness and often brings conflict. It’s important to understand where our true authority lies and respect the ability of others to make their own decisions, even if we disagree.

Today if someone is trying to direct you to turn onto a road you haven’t chosen, be confident. You are the only one who knows everything about your life and what you want. You are driving the train and can take it anywhere you choose. Listen to good advice and then do what is best for you. You can make excellent decisions and be confident in your choices. You have everything you need to find success and you know where you want to go. Be true to yourself and choose the best road forward.

Interesting and Important

6 Jun

A very wise man once told me, “In our lives, some things are interesting, and other things are important.” A simple statement, but over the course of time I have pondered it again, and again. There are certainly a lot of interesting things in life. Our world is diverse, and there are new things to learn every single day. We have the continual opportunity to embrace new ideas, learn about different places, experience fun and interesting events, and do something new. There is more to see, and do than we could ever complete in one lifetime.

And there are things in our lives that are important. The most important things tend to be intangible. We may want to work on being more patient, show more compassion, be stronger in our convictions, help others more, be kinder – whatever they are, they are very important goals that deserve our attention. Because they are intangible, the reminders to do them can be illusive. There is no alarm clock going off to remind us to be kind today. It must come from within us.

Of course, there are important tangible things as well – the mundane chores that must be done so we can get along effectively, the attention to our families, our relationships, and our jobs, the maintenance issues we all deal with, and a thousand other things. All of these tangible things are important, and must be tended to.

It seems logical then, that our important tasks should take priority over other interesting endeavors. But, sometimes the interesting things take precedence. We get pulled away, we get distracted, and what is most important to us gets pushed back. After a while we realize we haven’t accomplished what we’d hoped. We got our necessary tasks done, but we were so busy with all the interesting things around us, we didn’t work on our personal goals at all. We were just too busy. It happens, and if we don’t plan carefully, it will happen regularly.

If we get carried away with the interesting things in our lives, and forget the important things we really want to accomplish, we may get lost. Living comfortably is often about order. If we can address what is most important to us first, and then move on to what is interesting afterward, we’ll probably be more comfortable. We’ll be more confident knowing that we accomplished what we wanted to do most. When we take care of the things that are most important to us, we have more peace in our lives.

Today, if you have something important that you really want to do, make it a priority. There will probably be interruptions, and something truly interesting and fun may come up. But finish the important task first, work on your personal goals, and make time for what means most to you. Plan your days this way, and you’ll have more control over your direction, and more fun in your pleasures. It’s all about order. Plan to succeed. Do your first things first. Then relax, confident that no matter what else comes today, you’ve accomplished what was most important.