Tag Archives: Grief

In Pieces

15 Jan

Everyone wants an easy life where things always go well, and all our dreams and desires come true. We may dream of a world where nobody suffers, and everyone lives in peace and harmony. It’s nice to think about situations like these, but the real world doesn’t work that way. There will be good times when everything goes well and our plans work out, but there will also be hard times when our lives are turned upside down and nothing works. If something happens that hurts us badly and we are devastated, we may feel torn in pieces, holding onto the way things were before everything went south, and trying to figure out what to do now that it’s all gone. It’s hard to grasp sudden and difficult changes immediately, and for a time we may feel stunned and completely confused about what’s going on and what to do. Lots of things can go wrong – we may lose our jobs, our lovers may leave us, we may get seriously ill, or a thousand other scenarios. Nobody wants to suffer but suffering may come, and when it does, we may face our worst fears as we try to navigate through. It may seem the pain is so deep and all encompassing, that we cannot survive. No matter how bad the situation is, nothing is powerful enough to hold us down indefinitely. We already have everything we need to get through anything that comes. The answers are there for us and we have all the intelligence and wisdom necessary to find them. We can stand firm even when the winds blow against us, and reach deep for the courage to continue. Feeling broken in pieces by pain and suffering isn’t easy, but we are more powerful than we think we are, and will prevail. Hard times may stop us for a moment, but we know what we want, and will find our way through. By looking at everything objectively, we will see the road ahead, and be sure of success. Nothing can keep us from any destination we desire. We will find our way and claim the prize.

There are few things more painful than a broken heart. When someone we love deeply turns away from us or hurts us beyond repair, we may feel completely fractured and sure we’ll never be whole again. Our hearts may feel torn and battered, and we may lose faith in ourselves and trust in the future. No matter how it happened, it hurts to lose love. We can take the time we need to grieve and cope with our new situation, and when we’re ready, can look ahead at all the options before us. There will always be a new road and every destination will be waiting for us.

Grief and pain have their own timetable. We can’t rush healing. It takes how long it takes. While we’re getting through, we can take care of ourselves and reach out to others for support. We can lean on the strength of those who care about us until we feel strong enough to stand alone again. Life is full of promise and possibilities. Every dream is possible, and with courage and focus, we can have the lives we desire most.

Today if you’ve been devastated and are in pain, remember how strong you are. Be still and take the time you need to heal. You are incredible and have so much to offer. We’re all blessed because you are here. Trust yourself and step ahead. Every dream is there for you, and you will succeed.

Into the Unknown

14 Jan

Life is full of experiences and we never know what will happen next. There is a lot of uncertainty and what’s around the next corner may surprise us. If we’re comfortable with our routine and like the way things are now, we might try to do everything possible to keep things the same. We can try all we want, but there is no way to prevent what’s coming down the pike. When things suddenly change and the landscape quickly becomes foreign, we may find ourselves in unknown territory. It can happen over time or everything can change in an instant. Trying to grab onto normalcy and routine when the bottom falls out may be an exercise in futility. When the winds of change come, and they will come for all of us, the best we can do is hold on until we figure out how to proceed. Stepping into the unknown isn’t comfortable and we may feel lost and disoriented for a time. There will always be a way forward and if we stand still and take the time we need to see the road ahead, we’ll find it. We are capable of understanding and managing everything that comes to us. We may not like it, there may be moments of serious self-doubt and concern, and the road ahead may be dark and unclear. But we are intelligent and with patience and calm, will find all the answers we need. There are never any guarantees in life, and we may face things we don’t dream we can overcome. There may be times we’re sure we won’t survive, but the day passes, and we start again. All the courage and wisdom required to get through will be there when we need it. We are stronger and more resilient than we imagine, and nothing can keep us from success. Hard times will come. We will be tested, and we might stumble and fall. But we can get back up again, and step forward with confidence and clarity. Every destination is there for us, and nothing can keep us from success.

Change is constant and when an uncomfortable development arrives, we may be filled with dread and concern. We aren’t on the earth alone, and if the situation is frightening or unsettling, we can reach out to those we trust for advice and counsel. There will be an answer to every question and a solution to every problem. Nothing is impossible for us to unravel. By trusting ourselves, and getting help when we need it, the road ahead will open, and we’ll be able to move forward.

When we lose something we value greatly, we may grieve for a time and feel intense sorrow. When pain is prevalent, we may feel frozen and unable to move. It’s okay to stand still. There is no rush to continue forward. We can take the time we need to find peace and clarity, and when we’re ready, can begin again. All our dreams will still be there for us, and we will make them ours.

Today if you’re facing a very difficult challenge and you have no idea how to get through, trust yourself. You’ve already overcome many hard trials and trying times. You are strong and capable. Be confident and take your time. Every answer is there for you, and you will prevail.

Still Down

31 Jan

Disappointments are a normal part of life. Everything doesn’t always go the way we want it to, or how we think it will. Small disappointments are easy to overcome and we navigate through them without much distress. But some things impact us greatly and alter how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. If we’ve suffered through a devastating development that has left us feeling broken and deeply hurt, we likely won’t sail through it quickly or without serious discomfort. Heartbreak, betrayal, and intense, serious setbacks can be very difficult to overcome. We’re capable of managing anything that comes to us, but when we’ve had the emotional air knocked out of us by an acutely painful event, it may be impossible to immediately bounce back. We’ll need time to understand what’s happened, and find our footing again, but no matter what happens, our lives continue forward. Even when we’re suffering, life goes on. There are things we have to take care of, places we need to be, and responsibilities that must be tended to. We must continue forward despite how we feel. Intense sorrow and grief are not permanent and cannot hold us indefinitely. Time will help, but there is no way to know how much time it will take. Each day will bring a little more relief, and moment by moment, we will move forward. No matter what’s happened or how badly we’ve been hurt, we will eventually find our way through. It won’t happen overnight, and we may have many days of despair before we heal completely, but we have everything we need to find our way back to full confidence and peace. Life is complicated and there will be trouble. But we are strong, and nothing can hold us down forever.

Nobody can know our deepest feelings or the full extent of anything we’re going through. If we’ve been struggling over something difficult for a while, those around us may have lots of ideas and advice. They may give us suggestions and recommendations for moving forward. We can listen to and try anything they offer if we feel it will help, but we know ourselves better than anyone else, and know what we need. We have all the courage and strength necessary to overcome anything. In time, we will find peace and comfort, and be sure of the way ahead.

When we’re trying to get over something difficult, we may feel we should be further down the road than we are. Grief has its own timetable, and although we may try to rush it, will take the time it takes. By being involved in the world around us we can improve our outlook, and refresh our thinking. There are endless goals still possible and we can accomplish anything we desire. A setback may be difficult, and it may hurt, but it isn’t the end of the road. It’s just a pause, and there is great success ahead.

Today if you’re suffering from a painful event, and feel disconnected and lost, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing can hold you down indefinitely. There is still light. Give yourself time to heal and be confident. Look ahead, and step forward. You are amazing, and every dream is still there for you. You will find the way ahead, and reach great success.

Invisible Thread

16 Jul

The world is a busy place. There are billions of people doing billions of things all the time. Even in our small circle, there are others all around us and a lot going on. It might seem we’re all separate and doing things on our own, and sometimes we are, but in the overall scheme of things, we’re all connected more than we may realize. What one person does may have far reaching affects on the lives and decisions of those around them. Even insignificant, and seemingly unimportant choices may ripple through and change things in their path. Everything that happens creates something new. We never know how much impact our presence makes. Every step we take, every person we encounter, everything we say and do, creates a new reality around us. Like an invisible thread running through the world, our circles intertwine and our influence blends with those around us and creates the world we live in. There is no way to be in the world and leave it untouched. Just by being here we are making an impression of some kind. If we’re negative and mean, that impression may bring unhappiness and frustration. If we’re kind and caring, it may bring great comfort and satisfaction. Who we are and what we do will either embellish or detract from our experience and the experiences of those around us. We don’t live in a vacuum and will make an impact of some kind. Our lives are ours to design and we can do anything we like. We can bring light and joy and experience complete happiness. There is greatness in each of us. What we do with it is up to us.

When we think of the enormity of the world, we may feel insignificant and unnoticed. In the towns where we live, big or small, we feel ignored and overlooked. There is often a lot of noise and busyness, and if we’re demure or quiet, we may struggle to be heard. There is value in every voice and we all have something to offer. We can be confident, even if we’re not the fastest, the strongest, or the loudest, that our opinions and ideas are important. The gifts we have to offer are unique, and when we share them, we can change everything.

We’re all one human family and as such, feel each other’s pain and suffering. We feel grief when we hear of disasters and turmoil in far away places, and compassion for those who are struggling. We’re all different and there may be conflicting views, but we can overcome them by honoring our human connections and trusting each other. We’re all in this together, and each choice we make will either enrich us or detract from our experience. There is no way to remove the influence of our presence. We are integral and valuable. We can bring happiness and joy to those around us, and give light to the world.

Today if you feel like you’re not important and nobody cares about what you’re doing, remember nobody else in the entire world can give the gifts you offer. You are unique and precious, and the whole world is blessed because you are here. Be confident and trust yourself. You are amazing. Your influence reaches further than you imagine, and we are all enriched by your presence.

Living Well

30 Jul

We all live in ways that are unique to our personal desires and goals.  We make our own decisions and the lives we end up with are the lives we choose.  Some people are very successful and inventive, and do things that impact the world or change the way it works.  Some discover cures for diseases, or create things that alter the way we live, or serve in grand ways that embellish thousands and change the world for the better.  It’s amazing and wonderful to have such greatness among us, but we don’t have to do incredible or grandiose things to live well.  The world is blessed by things that amplify goodness and make it work more easily but we also bless it when we choose well in small ways.  By being kind, serving others, and showing charity to those around us, we change the world for the better and augment the environment around us.  We have far more influence over those we interact with than we may realize.  When we reach out to comfort sadness, or extend our hands to help lift a heavy burden, when we listen with compassion or offer a kind word when someone is down, we change the world for the better.  Like ripples in the water after a pebble is tossed in, our influence can move forward indefinitely.  When we choose well we bring glory to the world around us.  That glory brings light into darkness and joy where sorrow once prevailed.  We have the power to change the world.  By choosing well, and living in ways that serve not just ourselves but those around us we turn everything toward light and bring joy and comfort.  We are powerful and good, and our choices reflect who we most want to be.

No life is perfect and there will be days when clouds roll in and the skies of trouble darken.  We may face serious trials and difficult challenges as we push forward and there may be times when we feel doubt and fear over what will happen next.  Misery may overwhelm us and we may be uncertain about how to proceed.  When we’re struggling we can allow others to reach out to us and offer help and support.  We don’t have to do everything alone.  Allowing others to comfort us will bring light and lift us as we continue forward.  Letting others help us when we are overcome helps us live well.  When things settle again and we’re back on a more even keel we can reach out to others and share the gift we received.

The world is filled with billions of people but we are all important and valuable.  Reaching out in kindness, even in small ways, can change everything for someone who is struggling.  Cheering a crying child, helping lift a grocery sack, opening a door, or simply listening when others speak are simple and effective ways to serve.  We can turn sadness into peace, sorrow into comfort and grief into hope.  We are more powerful and influential than we realize.  The whole world is blessed because we are here and we can share that blessing every day.

Today if you feel like your life is small and inconsequential and don’t think you’re important, remember your influence is greater than you know.  You are amazing and powerful and we all want to share our lives with you.  The whole world is better because you are here.  Be joyful.  Your light brings happiness to us all.