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Tag Archives: Suffer

Paying Attention

4 Jun

There’s a lot going on around us all the time. There are people constantly coming in and going out of our lives, and endless things to grab our attention and distract us. It’s easy to get caught up in the action and lose track of what we’re doing or where we’re headed. People and things interrupt us, others ask questions or need our input, and we may get sidetracked until we forget where we were. There’s no way to keep the world out of our lives completely, and as we push ahead if there’s a lot going on, our own personal progress may get stalled. We might get involved in what others are doing, or set our goals aside so we can help with something specific. It’s good to interact with those around us and we learn a lot by being part of other people’s lives. But the destinations we want to reach are important and we can carefully and judiciously monitor our time so that while we’re sharing it with others, we still have enough to do what we want for ourselves. By paying attention to our own personal needs as well as those around us, we’ll find great success and satisfaction. We can’t do everything at the same time, but we can plan effectively to make sure what’s most important gets our energy and focus. Our lives are ours to design and every decision we make determines what we’ll accomplish and where we’ll go. If we keep our eyes on the goals ahead, even if we step away for a time, we’ll reach them. Every destination is possible. We can plan our time effectively, prioritize what’s most important, and succeed. Nothing is too complex for us to manage, and with patience and wisdom we can make every dream a reality.

When we’re struggling to find our way forward, and there are many details we need to work out, the distractions around us may become invasive and irritating. If there’s a lot of noise and activity, it can be hard to focus on what we’re doing. We’re never frozen in place, and if where we are isn’t working, we can move to a location that is more amenable and helpful for us. Instead of complaining, we can take action. We’re always in control of our lives and can do what is needed to achieve our goals.

Nobody lives in Nirvana and we all suffer from time to time. As we’re pushing ahead, we may notice someone near us having a problem. Our goals are important but offering to help when needed won’t prevent us from reaching success. We develop great compassion and understanding as we assist others. Our lives are enriched and we understand our part in the big picture. We’re all more connected than we may realize and reaching out to help someone else will always embellish us and move us forward.

Today decide how you want to proceed and pay attention to what’s going on around you. You can focus on the goals you want to achieve and actively move forward, or set your project aside and work with others for now. Everything you want to accomplish is possible and with planning and determination you can go anywhere and do anything. Be in control and step ahead with confidence and courage. Every dream is possible and you will make them yours.

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Bruised and Bleeding

4 Mar

We interact with all kinds of people every day and there might be someone who doesn’t agree with us, doesn’t like us, or in some way finds it difficult to deal with us. We’re all different and personality conflicts can happen. If we get entangled with someone who truly dislikes us or wants something from us we can’t give, there may be trouble ahead. Most of us want to get along and try to be flexible when there’s disagreement, but some people hold a hard line on their expectations, and if we don’t meet them, we may pay a high price. They may malign us to our associates, or say we’re liars and manipulators simply because we don’t agree with them. They may even try to turn our family members against us. We can’t control what anyone else does and if they are determined to hurt us and leave us bruised and bleeding, there isn’t much we can to do stop them. Lies may tarnish us for a time, but truth always rises and will show itself. In the end, the only person lies hurt is the one telling them. Dishonesty may bring temporary satisfaction as the intended victim is hurt, but the cost to our integrity will be high. We will lose the trust of those around us and it will be impossible to build strong relationships. We might achieve the damage we desired, but we will be alone in the victory. Nobody wants to associate with someone who is vindictive and mean. They may be our friend today but eventually we may become their target. We can honor those around us, even if they’re completely different. There’s always a compromise possible and with respect and honesty, we can find the best way through.

It’s very painful when someone is persecuting and maligning us to our friends and family, and we will suffer. We can try to defend ourselves and correct the information and that might work, but people are complex and their opinions may be influenced by what they hear. If someone is determined to make us suffer, the damage may be intense. We may lose friends, associates, and even family members. Despite the disappointment and pain, we can stand firm. We know who we are and in time, the truth will show itself. By keeping our standards strong and honestly holding onto what is right, we will prevail.

It’s very difficult to fight a lie. If someone isn’t constrained by truth they may say and do anything to make a point. If there is evidence of the lie, we may offer it, but often lies are merely one person’s word against another. We need not get tangled up in fabrication and deceit. We can go forward and continue making excellent choices and choosing the right. Our honesty will shine through and in time, every lie will be exposed for what it is, and we will succeed.

Today, if someone is saying terrible things about you and you’re being hurt, remember who you are. You are valiant and wise, and nothing can keep you from success. Hold fast to the truth and be honest in all your dealings. Your virtue will shine through and truth will rise. Be confident and step forward. Nothing can hold you down and you will prevail.

Knowing and Hoping

5 Jan

As we interact with others, either in our personal relationships or in passing, we learn how they respond to different situations and what we can expect from them.  It’s helpful to recognize their patterns and choices and have a clear expectation of their behaviors.  But sometimes we may hope their expected responses will change in ways that are better for them or will fit into our needs more effectively.  They say hope springs eternal, and in some ways it does.  If someone we’re close to often makes bad decisions and those decisions hurt them and those around them, we may hope they will change and our hope may make us believe something that isn’t real.  We must always be willing to face things as they are and understand we can only control our own lives and the decisions we make.  Even if we know what is best, even if we are sure we know the right way forward, if it’s someone else’s decision to make we have no control over the end result.  It takes a lot of energy to try to control situations that belong to someone else and no matter how much we put into our efforts, if the decisions aren’t ours to make, we will not change the outcome.  It’s best to step back, see the facts clearly, hope for the best, and then accept whatever choices are made.  We can control our lives any way we desire while allowing others to do the same and make their own choices despite what we hope for them.  Doing so will give us the freedom to move forward on our own road while still being available when needed.

When we love someone who is doing something destructive, it’s hard to stand by and watch as things go wrong.  We may offer counsel and advice if they are receptive, but then we must step back and let them make the decisions they desire.  It’s very hard to watch those we love suffer, especially if we are sure we know how to fix the situation.  We all learn from the things we experience, and ultimately every lesson must come from within.  We can let go and allow those around us to make their own choices and learn their own lessons, despite what we hope they will choose.

Facts may tell us all about how something works, how it looks, or what we can expect it to do but they can never predict our personal reactions and how they will affect us.  We really don’t know a stove is hot unless we touch it.  Until then it’s undefined information.  The same is true in our lives.  Most of what we do is done through trial and error.  We learn from the things we experience and those we love learn the same way.  It takes some of us more time than others, and we all take different roads on the journey.  We can hope for the best, while understanding and accepting whatever comes.  Life is a great teacher that allows each of us to learn our own way.  We can walk beside those around us, and let them choose their own path forward.

Today if you’re hoping someone you love will make a positive choice, do what you can to set a good example.  Be there to offer help when needed and let them choose for themselves.  Share your life with them while focusing on your own journey forward.  Live your life well and let your success light the way.