Tag Archives: Suffer

No Way Back

31 Jan

We have endless experiences as we go through our lives and since there are many people around us, chances are they will be included. Our connections with others are many and varied. We may only wave to them in passing, they may be coworkers with whom we have a professional relationship, close friends, lovers or something else. When we get along and our interactions are positive, we may value our time with them and try to keep the connection strong. But we’re all different and there will be times when we disagree. We may face intense arguments that cause hurt feelings and damage the relationship. If someone offends us and we feel they are unbearable, we may choose to sever our ties with them, burn that bridge down and build an impermeable wall in front of them. There is nothing we want from them and there is no way back. We can do anything we like, but nobody can see the future or what will happen next. Life has a way of looping around and if something happens that brings them back into our sphere, and we need them for something, if we’ve completely cut them off, it may be hard to re-establish our connection. People often have great memories, and burning everything down will take a lot of effort and time to resurrect. Some people are impossible and we may want nothing to do with them – that is our prerogative. But we don’t have to completely sever all our ties to them. We can walk away and steer our lives in another direction. The old saying, “Live and let live,” will apply. They can do what they want, and we don’t have to be a part of it, but we can keep the link intact, however distant, just in case something changes and we have to interact with them in the future. We can be honest in all our dealings, and do not need to pretend to like them, but we can be polite and tolerant. Every decision we make takes us somewhere. By being pro-active and making the best choices possible, we will achieve great satisfaction and success.

Some people are rude and hateful, and don’t care about anyone but themselves. It’s hard to work with someone like that, and if we must, it may test our patience and endurance. If we have a professional relationship we can’t change, we can find a way to do what is needed to work with them and then move on. If they are family, we can define how much time we can spend with them and still be comfortable and work within those boundaries. We are always in control of everything we do and we can manage our time with difficult people in ways that help us move forward with the least amount of distress.

Love relationships are complicated. If we go through a painful breakup, and it wasn’t our idea, we may be angry and devastated. If there was cheating or some other offense involved, we might want them to suffer and try to think of ways to get back at them. Breakups are hard, but we are valuable and our time is precious. Our decisions define who we are. Instead of revenge, we can walk away from any painful situation with grace and dignity, and move forward toward what will bring us happiness and peace.

Today if there’s a relationship you want to get away from, do what is needed to feel comfortable but don’t burn everything down. You are intelligent and wise, and know how to make excellent decisions. Every destination you are seeking is there for you, and every success is possible. Be confident and step closer to your goals. All things are possible, and you will prevail.

Do It Again

11 Jun

As we move through our lives, we experience many different things. We push toward our goals and with persistence and patience, achieve them. Some things come easily and we accomplish them quickly, but other things take time and effort, and can get complicated and difficult. We can never see the end of the road from the beginning, but if we’re persistent and determined, we can reach the destinations we desire. We only have control over ourselves, and may face a situation where no matter what we do we can’t move ahead. There may be others standing in our way, or making decisions that keep us from advancing, or the timing may make the goal impossible right now. If we get stuck, we always have options. We can look for another way forward, or we can simply keep repeating what we’re doing, hoping somehow if we just do it again, it’ll work. Repeating the same behavior over and over will not change our situation. Persistently going over the same steps won’t move us forward. If what we’re doing isn’t working, doing it again, harder, faster or with more enthusiasm won’t fix it. Going around in the same circle over and over will only hold us in place. If we want to push ahead, we’ll need to let go of the road we’re on, and move onto another. There are always many roads to every destination. Getting attached and clinging to one that doesn’t work will not take us to success. We are intelligent and can look at any situation objectively and openly, and find the answers we need to succeed. Every destination is there for us, and with wisdom and planning, we can reach them all.

From a distance it’s hard to see all the details of any situation. What looks good from afar may look very different when we get up close. A window down the road that looks open and inviting, may turn out to be a mirror on a door that is nailed shut. We can stand and hope it will turn into the window we thought it was, or we can accept what is real, and look for another way forward. We are certainly smart enough and flexible enough to adjust to whatever we must, and find our way to any goal we desire.

Our relationships are important to us, and when they’re positive bring great happiness and satisfaction to our lives. If we’re in a situation where our connection to someone else is fraught with stress, disappointment and pain, it’s up to us to decide how long we want to suffer. Enduring a bad relationship for a long time is no guarantee that it will ever change. We’re in control of our lives and our happiness is important. We can stay in any situation we want for however long we want, but there are always other options, and we can change anything at any time. We are powerful and strong, and every success is there for us.

Today if you’ve been doing the same thing over and over hoping it will work, step back and look at all the options possible. There will always be another road that leads to success. Change your focus and try something new. You are amazing and capable, and nothing is beyond your reach. Every success is there for you, and every dream is possible. Step forward with confidence, and you will prevail.

Not Real

13 May

Everyone has an idea of how they want their lives to go and what they want to do. There are endless opportunities and we can do anything we want. We know we’re in charge of our direction and what we accomplish, but life is complicated. We have commitments to jobs, to family, to associates and others, and although we’re in control of our lives, sometimes what we want to do takes a back seat to what we feel we must do. As we try to accomplish everything, we may ignore some unsettled issues from the past. Problems we haven’t solved and don’t want to face may pull on us, niggling us they are still there. We’re busy and it’s inconvenient to stop what we’re doing to take care of something from before. Instead, we might just push it behind us, shut the door on it, and hope it will disappear on its own, but that never happens. Truth is truth and will not be denied. Refusing to look at something and pretending it’s not real will never alter our reality. We carry every unresolved issue forward until we finally decide to turn around and face it. Dragging old problems behind us is exhausting and eats into our happiness. It doesn’t matter how difficult or painful the issue is, we have everything we need to see it openly and take care of it. There is always enough time to address any issue that’s holding us back, solve it, and move forward unencumbered. Our happiness is important and doing what is needed to ensure we make the most of it will help us achieve every goal we desire. When we’re ready we can move forward with confidence and clarity, and find great success.

It would be great if each day everything worked out and nobody got in our way. We could move ahead easily and without problems or delays. Unfortunately, life doesn’t usually work that way. Most of the time there will be things we don’t want to endure, issues we don’t want to face, and frustrations that hang us up. We can focus on all the problems and complications, but in the midst of each challenge there will be things going right. We can manage whatever is before us and focus on what we’re learning as we solve each issue. Our lives belong to us, and we can handle them with excellence and certainty.

Nobody wants to suffer but we don’t live in Nirvana, and suffering is part of the game. People may hurt us, our plans may fall apart, lovers may leave, and we may be left standing alone. If the pain is great, we might pretend the issue isn’t happening. We may convince ourselves if we don’t look at it, it isn’t real. Burying our heads in the sand will never help us move forward. What is real exists whether we want it or not. It’s best to accept whatever has happened, solve any issues we must, and take everything we’ve learned forward with us. We are intelligent and strong, and nothing can hold us down indefinitely. Every dream is there for us, and we will succeed.

Today if you’re ignoring a painful issue that’s holding you in place, open all the doors and find the answers you need to move forward. You are amazing, and a blessing to us all. Be confident. You can do anything. Nothing can stop you from realizing your dreams.  Every success is there for you and you will prevail.

Still Down

31 Jan

Disappointments are a normal part of life. Everything doesn’t always go the way we want it to, or how we think it will. Small disappointments are easy to overcome and we navigate through them without much distress. But some things impact us greatly and alter how we feel about ourselves and the world around us. If we’ve suffered through a devastating development that has left us feeling broken and deeply hurt, we likely won’t sail through it quickly or without serious discomfort. Heartbreak, betrayal, and intense, serious setbacks can be very difficult to overcome. We’re capable of managing anything that comes to us, but when we’ve had the emotional air knocked out of us by an acutely painful event, it may be impossible to immediately bounce back. We’ll need time to understand what’s happened, and find our footing again, but no matter what happens, our lives continue forward. Even when we’re suffering, life goes on. There are things we have to take care of, places we need to be, and responsibilities that must be tended to. We must continue forward despite how we feel. Intense sorrow and grief are not permanent and cannot hold us indefinitely. Time will help, but there is no way to know how much time it will take. Each day will bring a little more relief, and moment by moment, we will move forward. No matter what’s happened or how badly we’ve been hurt, we will eventually find our way through. It won’t happen overnight, and we may have many days of despair before we heal completely, but we have everything we need to find our way back to full confidence and peace. Life is complicated and there will be trouble. But we are strong, and nothing can hold us down forever.

Nobody can know our deepest feelings or the full extent of anything we’re going through. If we’ve been struggling over something difficult for a while, those around us may have lots of ideas and advice. They may give us suggestions and recommendations for moving forward. We can listen to and try anything they offer if we feel it will help, but we know ourselves better than anyone else, and know what we need. We have all the courage and strength necessary to overcome anything. In time, we will find peace and comfort, and be sure of the way ahead.

When we’re trying to get over something difficult, we may feel we should be further down the road than we are. Grief has its own timetable, and although we may try to rush it, will take the time it takes. By being involved in the world around us we can improve our outlook, and refresh our thinking. There are endless goals still possible and we can accomplish anything we desire. A setback may be difficult, and it may hurt, but it isn’t the end of the road. It’s just a pause, and there is great success ahead.

Today if you’re suffering from a painful event, and feel disconnected and lost, remember how strong and powerful you are. Nothing can hold you down indefinitely. There is still light. Give yourself time to heal and be confident. Look ahead, and step forward. You are amazing, and every dream is still there for you. You will find the way ahead, and reach great success.

Paying Attention

4 Jun

There’s a lot going on around us all the time. There are people constantly coming in and going out of our lives, and endless things to grab our attention and distract us. It’s easy to get caught up in the action and lose track of what we’re doing or where we’re headed. People and things interrupt us, others ask questions or need our input, and we may get sidetracked until we forget where we were. There’s no way to keep the world out of our lives completely, and as we push ahead if there’s a lot going on, our own personal progress may get stalled. We might get involved in what others are doing, or set our goals aside so we can help with something specific. It’s good to interact with those around us and we learn a lot by being part of other people’s lives. But the destinations we want to reach are important and we can carefully and judiciously monitor our time so that while we’re sharing it with others, we still have enough to do what we want for ourselves. By paying attention to our own personal needs as well as those around us, we’ll find great success and satisfaction. We can’t do everything at the same time, but we can plan effectively to make sure what’s most important gets our energy and focus. Our lives are ours to design and every decision we make determines what we’ll accomplish and where we’ll go. If we keep our eyes on the goals ahead, even if we step away for a time, we’ll reach them. Every destination is possible. We can plan our time effectively, prioritize what’s most important, and succeed. Nothing is too complex for us to manage, and with patience and wisdom we can make every dream a reality.

When we’re struggling to find our way forward, and there are many details we need to work out, the distractions around us may become invasive and irritating. If there’s a lot of noise and activity, it can be hard to focus on what we’re doing. We’re never frozen in place, and if where we are isn’t working, we can move to a location that is more amenable and helpful for us. Instead of complaining, we can take action. We’re always in control of our lives and can do what is needed to achieve our goals.

Nobody lives in Nirvana and we all suffer from time to time. As we’re pushing ahead, we may notice someone near us having a problem. Our goals are important but offering to help when needed won’t prevent us from reaching success. We develop great compassion and understanding as we assist others. Our lives are enriched and we understand our part in the big picture. We’re all more connected than we may realize and reaching out to help someone else will always embellish us and move us forward.

Today decide how you want to proceed and pay attention to what’s going on around you. You can focus on the goals you want to achieve and actively move forward, or set your project aside and work with others for now. Everything you want to accomplish is possible and with planning and determination you can go anywhere and do anything. Be in control and step ahead with confidence and courage. Every dream is possible and you will make them yours.