Tag Archives: Sadness

On the Clock

1 Sep

Everyone is different and each of us has our own, unique style for how we live and what we do. There are endless versions of humanity, and no two people are exactly alike. Although everyone understands this, we may face a time when someone tells us we should be doing things more like them. If we’ve suffered through a painful experience or disappointment, we may feel devastated and upset. How long it takes us to get over it and feel confident again is specific to the experience and our personal feelings. If it’s taking a while to regain our footing, someone may tell us to “Get over it!,” as though that will fix everything. They may have a timeframe they believe is sufficient for us to grieve and then expect us to jump back in, all fixed up and ready to go again. Although they may be on the clock in their own lives and set defined boundaries for personal experiences, our own choices and expressions may be very different. It is not our job to make everyone around us comfortable with our decisions. What we go through and how we manage is unique to each of us. If we need time, we can take it. If we need to step away, we can. We are the only ones who know everything we’re experiencing, and we never have to conform to anyone else’s ideas about how we should process anything. Some adjustments are difficult, and we don’t have to rush through them in order to comply with anyone else’s ideas. When we’re ready to start again, the road will be there for us. Every opportunity is possible, and we can trust ourselves to step forward, and claim them.

We may go through a difficult passage, when it seems no matter what we do, we fail. It may feel like the planets have aligned against us, and there is no hope. If we are overwhelmed and sure of defeat, we may think the only option is to give up. Just let go of our dreams, and fall down into an endless cycle of misery. No matter how it feels, there will never be a time when success will not be possible. Hard times will come, we may run into a big wall in front of us, and the road may get seriously hard, but nothing lasts forever. With patience and persistence, we will find our way through. All our dreams are waiting, and we can make them ours.

There is no timeframe for grief. It takes as long as it takes. We can’t rush it but we can work to understand it, and regain our footing. Holding onto pain and disappointment will never change what’s happened. We are strong enough to look at everything objectively, learn what we can, and begin to look ahead. Standing still gives us time to think, and plan for what we want to do next. When the clouds begin to clear, and we feel the sun again, we can move toward the destinations we most desire. We are more powerful and capable than we imagine, and nothing is out of reach.

Today if you’ve been suffering through a difficult situation and can’t see the end of the road, trust yourself. Take the time you need to heal and find peace, and when you’re ready, start again. You are amazing and bring great light to the world around you. Be confident, and believe in yourself. Every single success is there for you, and you will reach them all.

Starting Again

5 Feb

People are complex beings, filled with all kinds of different ideas, perceptions and emotions. We interpret our experiences through what we’ve already seen and done, and many times, we’ll have an expectation of how things will evolve and what will happen. Things they might actually go the way we think they will, but sometimes unexpected developments turn everything upside down and we are caught unaware and unprepared. Maybe we had no control over how things played out or we didn’t understand the entire situation, or misunderstood something important. A thousand things can go sideways at any time and if we end up somewhere we had no intention of going, or find ourselves in a situation we don’t want, we may struggle to find our way again. We only have control over ourselves and the decisions we make. Everything else is out of our hands. Even if we’ve chosen well, the decisions of others may alter our course and cause disruption in our plans. There are many roads to every destination, and if the road we’re on isn’t working we can step aside and try something else. If we aren’t happy with the direction we’re traveling or where we’re headed, we can turn and start again. We can change anything necessary to create a situation that works best for us. We’re always in control of our lives and we know what we want. We can do anything and go anywhere we desire. There are endless possible options always available and we need only decide how we want to proceed. No road is a permanent destination and nothing can stop us from having the lives we dream about. Everything is possible and we can achieve anything we desire.

A lack of control over our lives can lead to depression and sadness. We may be in a situation where someone else is telling us what we should do and where we should go. If they are powerful and demanding, we may simply follow their lead and obey their direction. If we do, we will end up with the lives they design and desire. We are all unique and deserve to live our lives in ways that bring us complete fulfillment and happiness. It’s impossible to find satisfaction living someone else’s life. Our dreams and desires are important and valuable. We can stand strong and choose to live the lives we want the most.

Our choices make us who we are. Each decision takes us somewhere and teaches us something. If we aren’t happy or feel unsettled, we can change course and start again. We have unlimited opportunities to try something new. We can always move in a new direction that will bring us satisfaction and happiness. Life is filled with possibilities and we can do anything. All our dreams are possible and by taking control and choosing the way forward we can make them real.

Today if you don’t like the road you’re on and want something more, turn in a new direction that takes you toward your dreams. Look ahead and decide what you want. Nothing is too far for you to reach and every destination is possible. You deserve complete happiness. Step forward and start again on the road that will take you to it.

Burns and Scars

4 Feb

Life is full of ups and downs. Sometimes we have fun and things go well, sometimes the bottom falls out and our dreams are shattered, and sometimes it’s some version in between. Nobody gets through their lives without being hurt from time to time, and when we’re really hurt and burned badly, it takes time to heal. If our dreams have gone up in smoke, if we’ve been betrayed by a loved one, or what we thought was real turns out to be a mirage, we can be devastated. Getting burned hurts. It hurts a lot and it takes time to recover. When we burn our skin, if the burn is very deep and serious, it has to heal from the bottom up. Dead cells must be removed from the top of the burn to allow it to heal more quickly and prevent scarring. The removal of that layer is often painful but necessary for recovery. When we’ve been emotionally hurt we have to do the same thing. We have to rub off the initial shock, confusion, and denial in order to get to the heart of the matter and recover. We can’t look the other way or the burn will never heal. It can be very painful to look at things completely when we’re devastated. It’s difficult to go through the process of removing obstacles to recovery, but if we do, we will be able to heal and go forward with renewed confidence.

When we’ve been hurt on the outside, after the wound heals we often develop a scar. If the wound was intense and very invasive, the scar may be large and thick. If we were only hurt a little, the scar may be smaller and smoother, but there is always a scar of some type after the wound heals. Over time scars refine and become less noticeable but they never go away. There is no way to be completely restored to our original state, and they will always be reminders of what happened to cause them. When we’re emotionally hurt and recover, we carry scars with us going forward as well. At the beginning if the scar is invasive and thick, it may keep us from making certain choices or feeling confident. Over time as we grow and change, just like the scars on the outside, the scars on the inside will refine. They will never go away completely, and we’ll always remember what caused them. But they will smooth out and we’ll find ways around them. Scars aren’t bad. They help us remember where we’ve been, and they need not hold us back. We can learn all we can from the experience and as we heal we can move forward.

As years pass, our appearances change through the normal course of aging. The laughter or sadness we’ve experienced show in lines on our faces. Our bodies show the wear and tear of life, and all the scars from all the injuries, large and small, we’ve endured. The lines, wrinkles, and scars are proof that we’ve lived our lives. We will never be the perfect beings we were when we arrived here, and everything that leaves a mark is a testament of our courage and endurance. We are going to get burned, in more ways than one, and we’ll carry the scars from those burns until we die. They are proof of how strong we are and what we’ve overcome. This life is challenging. There is a lot to learn. Sometimes we’re going to be hurt but there is nothing we can’t overcome. We will carry the marks, the lines, and the scars forward, but we will also carry the knowledge of what we’ve learned. And learning is what it’s all about.

Today if you’ve been burned by something that has hurt you deeply, you will recover. You will find your way through and you’ll carry the experience with you going forward, and it will not hold you back. You are courageous and strong. Be confident. You can do anything and you will succeed.