Tag Archives: Habit

Ten Lies

9 Feb

We make endless decisions as we go through our lives. When we have to answer for something or explain a situation, we always have the choice of either being honest or making up a story. If the situation is difficult or we’ve done something that has caused problems, we may be tempted to lie about what actually happened.  Of course, we can do anything we like, and if we want to fabricate a tale that takes us out of the equation, we can certainly come up with something. Telling a lie may seem like it’ll clear the way ahead, but there’s always a catch. Nothing ever stands alone and remains untouched for long. Before we know it, we may have to tell another lie to explain circumstances that arise from the tale we told originally. In the end, we may have to tell ten lies to cover up for the first one. We’re all creative but it may become difficult to keep tangling the web without everything falling apart. It’s hard to remember made up stories over time, and we may find ourselves completely twisted up trying to keep our cover. No matter what’s happened or what we’ve done, the best and easiest way forward is to tell the complete truth. We might be embarrassed, but we can get over that. We might get in trouble, but we’re accountable for everything we do, and that’s fair. When we’re honest in all our dealings, even when it’s hard, we will gain the respect of those around us. They will understand they can trust us, and that may pave the road ahead to the goals we seek. We are intelligent and can make excellent decisions. By being wise and thoughtful before we act, and choosing the best path forward, we will achieve great success and satisfaction.

White lies are stories we tell because the truth may be difficult to navigate. Someone may ask us a question about their appearance, and if we’re concerned that being completely honest may hurt their feelings, we may choose to embellish the truth a little. Getting into the habit of telling little white lies that don’t seem to hurt anyone might be okay, but once we take one step away from the truth, it’s easy to take another step further. Instead of saying things that aren’t really true, we can find a way to be truthful without causing an issue.  

Some people are very ambitious and will do anything to get what they want. They may have no problem telling lies to get ahead. They are willing to cheat if necessary to go around anyone in their way. If we must deal with them, we will never know if anything they say is true or not. Instead of taking their word for anything, we can do our own research and figure out what’s real. Once we understand the true story and what is actually happening, we can decide how we want to proceed to get to our goal. We have all the wisdom we need to choose the best roads ahead. By being honest and careful, there isn’t anything we can’t accomplish.

Today if you’re in a difficult situation and it would be easy to lie to get out of it, think about the person you most want to be. Every decision brings a result, and by choosing well we will achieve what we want the most. Trust yourself and be confident. There isn’t anything you can’t manage, and every goal is possible. You are smarter and braver than you think you are. Step forward with clarity and you will succeed.

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Programmed

17 Mar

When we’re children, we see what our parents and other adults around us are doing and watch the decisions they make. We may begin to pattern our lives around their example because we don’t have much to compare them to. As we get older and begin to step away from the family unit more and more, our understanding of different ideas and interpretations broadens, and we begin to see that not everyone does things the same way. Everything we see changes us a little and we start to form our own ideas about how we want to live our lives and what we want to do. As we mature, we may think we’re on a completely different road than the one our parents taught us, and then we realize we’ve made a decision exactly the same way as they would. We may believe we really haven’t changed at all, and think we’re programmed to continue making the same choices and the same mistakes we saw our first family make, and there’s nothing we can do about it. While it’s definitely true that what we learned and saw as a child may have influence over what we do as adults, nobody is destined to repeat history. We all have our own agency and can do anything we like, but we must consciously decide what that will be. It takes effort to live “on purpose” instead of just going through the motions. Each of us is an individual and we can all design our lives any way we like. There is no destiny keeping us from making our own choices. It’s all up to us. If we want to turn in a different direction, we can. If we want to go down a new road, we can. Everything is possible. Nothing can keep us from achieving any goal we desire. By deciding what we want, and then doing what is needed to make it ours, we can have the lives we want the most. Great success is possible, and we will prevail.

Some families stay very close to tradition. They follow the same rules the generation before followed and hold firm to the habits and customs of the past. Just because something has always been done one way doesn’t mean it cannot be done differently. Despite tradition, we are in control of our own lives. We can continue to follow the traditional behaviors if that’s what we want, or we can forge our own way forward. We know what we want and have everything we need to achieve it.

It takes courage to live our lives according to our own personal desires and aspirations. The pressure to follow along with the norm can be great, but it’s impossible to make our own dreams come true by following what others are doing. We are entitled to complete fulfillment and happiness, and by following our personal desires and doing what is needed to make them ours, we will achieve it. Every single dream is possible, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you want to move in a different direction but have hesitated, decide what you want the most, and take the first step forward. Every destination is there for you and you have everything you need to reach them. Be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and have all the courage you need to succeed.

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Obstacle Course

7 Mar

Everything we do has an effect on our lives. The decisions we make have the possibility of moving us forward toward the goals we seek, or holding us in place where we stand. Which way it goes depends on what we choose. We can do anything we like and are in control of where we go. If we’re focused on a goal and determined to succeed, chances are we’ll make decisions that will push us closer to it. But life is filled with all kinds of distractions and impressions, and there may be times when we choose something even if we know it may hold us back. We have many different ideas and emotions that affect us in many ways, and may develop patterns that impact our decisions. If they’re detrimental, we may find we’ve created an obstacle course and will have to dodge something in the way or crawl through a complication we’ve created. Our lives are a reflection of the choices we make. There are endless variations possible and if we choose a temporary fix over a successful solution, we may be able to take one step forward but the road ahead may elude us. Sometimes we know the choice we’re making may bring additional confusion or problems, but because of influences around us or our personal desires, may make it anyway. It’s like someone who wants to lose weight but has the chocolate cake anyway. Every goal we want to accomplish is possible but we must be our best advocates when deciding how to achieve it. We can make decisions that will move us forward and bring success. We possess all the self-control and wisdom we need to get to the goal. Nothing is too difficult for us to manage and we can have the lives we desire.

It’s impossible to find success if we haven’t decided what we really want. Talk is cheap and we can say we want this or that, but until we actually begin moving toward the goal, it’s only fantasy. We can spend our lives dreaming of how we wish things were or we can do what is needed to make them a reality. Our lives belong solely to us and we can design them any way we like. With perseverance and determination, we can make choices that move us closer to where we want to be and achieve any goal.

Nothing can hold us back more effectively than procrastination. It’s a habit that can paralyze our lives and keep us in place. Putting something off until tomorrow will never move us closer to our goals. There will always be another tomorrow and if we persist in putting things off, may find years have gone by and we’re no closer to where we want to be. It’s possible to stay in one place our entire lives if we do nothing to advance. Every dream is possible but we must take control and pursue the road ahead to make them come true. We can do anything. We can decide what we want and then do what is needed to make it ours.

Today if you’ve been making decisions that are creating situations that stand in your way, think about what you want the most. You can do anything but you must focus on the goal to make it yours. Decide to take control and start on the road that will bring you success. You are capable and wise, and nothing is out of reach. Step forward and make your dreams come true. Everything is possible and you will succeed.

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About Time

29 Jan

Time is an eternal concept that has no beginning and no end.  It continues forward uninhibited and uncontrolled, and there is no way to hold it back.  No matter what we’re doing, it constantly advances and nothing we do can stop it.  As children the days seem long and time is rarely a factor in the things we do.  As we become adults we learn that our time has parameters we must work within and when we’re busy it seems to move more quickly.  Because we have no control over the passage of time, we must learn to manage it effectively.  There is no way to add another hour to our days because we are overextended.  We have the same amount of time each day to accomplish the things important to us.  If we get distracted, if we lose focus or forget our objective, we may find the day goes by and we haven’t accomplished what we wanted.  We are always in control of our lives and every decision either takes us closer to or moves us further away from our goals.  If we take control of our choices and are clear on our direction forward we will accomplish much.  Everything is possible if we are aware and willing to do what is needed to accomplish it.  We can manage our time carefully, think about the best plan going forward, and achieve any goal we set.

When we’re working on something important and we have a time limit there is added pressure to get things done.  If the parameters are sufficient we may be successful, but sometimes the limits put on our endeavors are unrealistic or complications come up that prevent us from moving forward, and we don’t make the cutoff.  If we can’t extend the time needed to complete a task and it’s impossible to get it done before time is up, we will fail.  There is no way to see all the twists and turns of any journey from the beginning.  Sometimes things go wrong, sometimes people get in the way, sometimes nothing works the way we think it will, and we fail.  But failure to complete one task does not mean failure overall.  We can begin again, make a new plan, and accomplish anything we desire.

Procrastination is a dangerous habit.  It’s simply a decision to delay action over something or to put a task off until later.  We can always change our plans and if necessary, wait to accomplish something while doing something else.  But habitual procrastination can lead to carelessness or even laziness.  If we get into a habit of always putting things off we will accomplish very little.  There is rarely a perfect time to do anything, and if we want to get something done we can find a way to do it.  We are in control of every move we make, every choice and decision, and we can be successful in accomplishing many things.  Everything is available to us and we can move forward with confidence and purpose.

Today if you’re pressed against a time limit for a task you’re trying to complete, work as efficiently as possible and accomplish what you can.  Manage your time effectively and plan accordingly.  You have everything you need to be successful.  Be wise and thoughtful, and go forward with confidence.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  Everything is possible and you will reach the goal.

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Keeping Score

28 Aug

As we go through our lives we have many opportunities to serve others and help out.  Most of us want to help when we can and try to be available to those who need us.  Serving those around us brings great satisfaction and joy, but there may be times when we feel we’re giving too much or others are taking advantage.  If the same people call on us over and over again for things they should be managing themselves we may begin to feel we’re being used.  We can always decline any request but there are sometimes complications in our relationships or associations that make saying no more difficult.  If we feel we’ve been taken advantage of or manipulated because of relationship constraints, we might decide we deserve something in return and begin to keep score tallying up what we’ve given and what we’ve received.  If we find we’ve given much more than has been reciprocated it may affect how we feel about the other party and what we’re willing to do going forward.  It’s important to have balance in our lives and if we’re doing things that bring us discomfort we may certainly stop.  But we are responsible for the decisions we make and if we allow others to abuse our generosity we can stop.  We don’t have to keep track of how much we’ve given, or how many times we’ve agreed to help.  If we feel we’ve given all we can, we can say no when the next request comes.  We never have to do more than we are comfortable with and choosing what is fair and best for us going forward will bring us peace and confidence.  It’s better to manage our decisions with those around us than to give more than we want and lose our connection.  We know what’s best and we know what we can do.  Taking control and choosing wisely will allow us to be helpful without giving too much.

Some people have trouble managing their lives.  They may make decisions that bring complications into their lives and get overwhelmed when things go wrong.  We’re all responsible for the lives we live and can create them any way we choose.  If we are careless and foolish, and make choices that bring us hardship, we are responsible for the situations that arise.  We cannot push the burden of cleaning up a problem we’ve created onto someone else.  Our choices belong to us and the results of those choices are our responsibility.  We can change our lives any time we want.  We don’t need to rely on others continually to show us the way.  We have all the wisdom and intelligence we need to make good decisions and walk the path we desire most.

It’s good to ask for advice when we need it and we may certainly seek out those who may help us when we get stuck.  But if we fall into the habit of constantly asking others to help us solve our problems we may forget we are capable of solving many of them on our own.  We can resolve even complex and difficult issues if we take the time we need to evaluate them and choose our way forward.  It’s fine to seek help when we need it but we can also learn to be self-reliant and trust that we’ll find the answers.  There really isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage.  We have incredible insight and great wisdom from which to draw and all the answers are there for us.

Today if you’ve been asked to help again and feel you may be giving too much, evaluate the situation objectively and make the best choice before you proceed.  You are in control of your life and can manage it any way you choose.  If you’re stuck and feel like you need help to find answers, seek it, but remember you already know what you want to do and have all the courage and wisdom you need to proceed.  You are amazing and wise.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  Be courageous.  You have everything you need to succeed.

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