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Off the Mark

11 Jun

Life takes us to many places, and sometimes our circumstances turn and suddenly we’re someplace new. If we’re far from our intended destination, we may wonder how we got there and what to do next. We can’t control most of what happens and when our situation changes without warning, and everything is modified, we may be confused and concerned about what’s happening and how to manage it. There’s no way to predict what will come to us. Because of decisions out of our control, or developments we couldn’t foresee, we may end up on a road to someplace unexpected. Nothing in life is permanent and everything is always changing. We may be way off the mark from where we want to be, and have to deal with a new reality. Our plans may not work right now, and we may have to wait, but in time, every opportunity will present itself and if we’re ready, we can turn back onto the road we desire most. Learning to be flexible and bend when there are modifications will help us manage disappointment and find the way forward. We may have to put our dreams on hold for a time, and take undesirable steps in a direction far from where we want to be. But nothing lasts forever, and if we keep our focus, when the situation changes again, we can step forward and start over. Being off the mark only postpones our ability to succeed. We will always get another chance to reach the destinations we desire. Nothing is out of bounds and we have everything we need to prevail. We can be patient in the meantime, and do what is necessary to move forward so that when the chance to break free arises we’ll be ready. Every dream is possible and with determination and patience we can reach every goal we desire.

We all have control over our decisions but there may be times in life when we must bend to someone else’s choices. Professional pressures, family relationships, and other complicated situations may prevent us from doing everything exactly the way we want to do it. If we must alter our course to accommodate a situation we can’t control, our plans may have to wait until our circumstances change. Our destinations will always be there for us and when we can take more control over our direction, we will find them.

It’s hard to be patient when we want something. It’s hard to wait for people to move out of our way or for the situation to correct itself so we can step forward. But waiting gives us time to refine our choices and decide exactly how we want to proceed. When the opportunity to start again is available, we can continue with our plans and move forward. We can achieve anything we like but we can’t achieve it all today, and there will always be a chance tomorrow. All our dreams are possible. With careful consideration and planning, we will make them ours.

Today if things have changed and you can’t move forward the way you want to, do what is necessary to take care of what’s happening and effectively manage the situation. Your chance to start again will come. Be wise, and be patient. Every dream is still possible and you will prevail.

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Where Are You?

18 Apr

In this day and age of technological advancements, it seems there are screens everywhere. We have our iphones, ipads, laptops, and every other conceivable device to keep us “connected,” whatever that means. It’s fine to use whatever tools we need when we have things to do but if we become so dependent on our devices that we can’t set them down, we may create problems for ourselves. If we’re constantly staring at a screen, it will be impossible to be completely effective in our personal lives. And if we let them interfere with our personal relationships, we may create uncomfortable complications we could avoid. If we’re having lunch with a friend or family member and continually watch our phones, or continue to text others, we may alienate and offend those we’re with. It’s impossible to be in two places at the same time. What is possible is to physically be in one place and mentally be in another, and the place in our head will actually be where we are. We can’t have meaningful connections with people we ignore, or engage in conversations in person at the same time as we’re engaging in the virtual world. We must decide what’s most important and where we really want to be. If we only engage in virtual connections, our in-person skills will suffer. It’s demeaning and disrespectful to expect others to wait around while we talk to someone else on-line. We decide where we want to be every moment of every day. Our personal connections are important. We’ll find great happiness and satisfaction when we value them enough to give them the attention they need and the time they deserve. Nothing is more valuable than our interpersonal relationships. We can control our choices to ensure we show how much they mean to us by caring for them and honoring them.

We’re often busy and when there’s a lot going on and someone wants to see us, we may ask them to wait a moment until we can give them the time they need. Most people are patient and will wait, but if we continually push them off because we’re distracted with one thing after another, they may give up and decide to move on. The valuable information and beneficial guidance they may have offered us will be lost if we’re unable to effectively govern how we spend our time.

Life rushes by in a flash. Every single day is a blessing and by focusing on where we are in each moment, we’ll get the most out of them. Being where we are instead of mentally checking out to someplace else will enrich our lives in deep and profound ways. Nothing is more important than this moment. We can take control of our lives and choose to live here and now, and find great satisfaction and happiness.

Today if you’ve been distracted by all the screens and technology around you, remember you only have this one day. Yesterday is gone and there are no guarantees for tomorrow. You are an incredible gift to the world. Share your life in-person with those around you and live fully in this moment, and every happiness and success will be yours.

Getting Serious

4 Feb

There are unlimited things we can do in life and endless goals to achieve. Each day changes us a little and teaches us something new. Our dreams and goals change as we grow, and what we wanted in the past may not be our focus today. We learn new things each day and can adjust our direction going forward to get to the goals we want the most. Some goals take a lot of thought and we may need time before we decide we’re ready to move toward them. If they require changes in our patterns or behaviors, we may need to prepare before we’re ready to embrace them completely. It’s okay to take our time. We don’t have to jump on an idea the moment we think of it. Success doesn’t have to be tied to the amount of time we take to achieve it. We can think about what we want and decide when we want to accomplish any goal we desire. Once we’re ready and determined to move forward, nothing can keep us from success. There isn’t anything we can’t do if we’re focused on the goal. We can plan our way forward, and each step we take will move us closer to where we want to go. There are infinite possibilities before us every day. We can dream big and then make our dreams come true. No destination is out of reach. Once we decide where we want to go and are willing to do what is necessary to get there, nothing can keep us from success. Life is filled with opportunities. We can do anything and can have the lives we dream about. We can get serious about what we really want and make it ours. It’s all up to us.

There are countless things that can go wrong when we’re trying to accomplish something. People may intervene and get in the way, decisions out of our control may complicate the road ahead, and our timing may be impacted and we may have to wait. There will rarely be a paved, straight road ahead without any problems or delays. We are capable of managing any complications that arise and if we have to wait, we can step aside for a time until things improve and then return to continue our journey forward. Our lives belong to us and we can make them any way we like. We can accomplish any goal and reach any destination.

A bright, sunny day with clear skies and comfortable temperatures makes life enjoyable and easy. When things are going well and the road ahead is clear and open, we can move forward quickly and accomplish much. But the weather in our lives is unpredictable and can change without warning. When dark clouds roll in and the rain has us locked in, we can use the time to plan our next steps ahead and be ready when things change. Nothing can keep us from anything we desire. We can stay focused on the goal and be confident of success.

Today if you’re ready to begin moving toward a goal you’ve been thinking about, take the first step forward. Decide to hold fast even if things get complicated and keep moving ahead. There isn’t anything you can’t do and no destination is too far to reach. Trust yourself and be confident. You are amazing and powerful, and nothing is impossible. Every success is just ahead. Your dreams can come true and you will win.

Whatever

24 May

Our lives are busy and we go through many different experiences every day. People may come to us with issues and problems and ask for help, we encounter our own personal complications and snags to work on, and we may juggle several things trying to stay on top of everything. There are times when it may be difficult to stay ahead of the curve as we navigate through all the tasks and issues before us. As a way of coping, we may become complacent and opt to stay on the outskirts instead of remaining involved. Sometimes it doesn’t matter what we think and any choice going forward will be fine. We can step aside and let things simply roll out as they will. But if we want the outcomes most important to us we must address the situation clearly and purposefully decide which way to go. If we just look away and say “Whatever” when things get tough, we may find we end up far from where we intended to go. It’s always easy to back away from difficult challenges and let others manage them, but if we don’t have any input in resolving an issue, we have no input in where it will take us. We are responsible for our lives and every decision we make – even if we decide not be involved. Each result that comes will impact us in some way. Our input and ideas are important and we can remain engaged even if it’s uncomfortable. We can direct our lives and control the roads we travel. Every blessing is possible when we decide to make it ours. There isn’t anything too complex or difficult for us to manage and we can reach any goal we desire.

Life continues forward every moment of every day. There is no way to hold back time or keep the future from arriving. As each minute passes are lives are defined by the choices we make. If we allow others to decide for us and are controlled by situations and decisions we aren’t making, we will never have the lives we dream of. It may be easier to let things come as they will but without direction we will simply go to different places with no goal or objective in mind. It’s like deciding to take a road trip without deciding where we want to go. The scenery may be nice but we will never reach the goals we desire. We can choose what we want in our lives and move forward with intent. Only then will we reach the destinations we truly want.

Waiting for success without actively doing what is needed to achieve it will never bring it to us. We can wait for our lives to change before we begin forward but waiting is simply standing still hoping for a new situation. If we really want success, we can step forward and actively move toward it. There is no goal too far to reach and we can do anything we desire. Every destination is possible and with intent and focus we can reach it.

Today if you’ve been holding back and letting others determine what will happen next, remember you are important. Your dreams are precious and you can reach them. Take control and determine where you’ll go. You are powerful and capable and nothing is too difficult for you to overcome. Step forward. Every dream is possible.

About Time

29 Jan

Time is an eternal concept that has no beginning and no end.  It continues forward uninhibited and uncontrolled, and there is no way to hold it back.  No matter what we’re doing, it constantly advances and nothing we do can stop it.  As children the days seem long and time is rarely a factor in the things we do.  As we become adults we learn that our time has parameters we must work within and when we’re busy it seems to move more quickly.  Because we have no control over the passage of time, we must learn to manage it effectively.  There is no way to add another hour to our days because we are overextended.  We have the same amount of time each day to accomplish the things important to us.  If we get distracted, if we lose focus or forget our objective, we may find the day goes by and we haven’t accomplished what we wanted.  We are always in control of our lives and every decision either takes us closer to or moves us further away from our goals.  If we take control of our choices and are clear on our direction forward we will accomplish much.  Everything is possible if we are aware and willing to do what is needed to accomplish it.  We can manage our time carefully, think about the best plan going forward, and achieve any goal we set.

When we’re working on something important and we have a time limit there is added pressure to get things done.  If the parameters are sufficient we may be successful, but sometimes the limits put on our endeavors are unrealistic or complications come up that prevent us from moving forward, and we don’t make the cutoff.  If we can’t extend the time needed to complete a task and it’s impossible to get it done before time is up, we will fail.  There is no way to see all the twists and turns of any journey from the beginning.  Sometimes things go wrong, sometimes people get in the way, sometimes nothing works the way we think it will, and we fail.  But failure to complete one task does not mean failure overall.  We can begin again, make a new plan, and accomplish anything we desire.

Procrastination is a dangerous habit.  It’s simply a decision to delay action over something or to put a task off until later.  We can always change our plans and if necessary, wait to accomplish something while doing something else.  But habitual procrastination can lead to carelessness or even laziness.  If we get into a habit of always putting things off we will accomplish very little.  There is rarely a perfect time to do anything, and if we want to get something done we can find a way to do it.  We are in control of every move we make, every choice and decision, and we can be successful in accomplishing many things.  Everything is available to us and we can move forward with confidence and purpose.

Today if you’re pressed against a time limit for a task you’re trying to complete, work as efficiently as possible and accomplish what you can.  Manage your time effectively and plan accordingly.  You have everything you need to be successful.  Be wise and thoughtful, and go forward with confidence.  There isn’t anything you can’t do.  Everything is possible and you will reach the goal.

Big Left Turn

21 Dec

Unfortunately, even though we try not to, sometimes we make a terrible decision. We do something that hurts others and is so egregious our lives are greatly impacted. Sometimes what we’ve done impacts us or others so greatly, nothing is ever really the same afterward. We may not have done it on purpose, or we might have acted willingly if we were angry enough, but whether we meant to or not, once it’s done it can’t be undone. If we’ve made a big left turn and broken the road we’ve been on, our lives will change. If we’ve hurt those we care about we may feel the repercussions for a long time.  Sadly, sometimes a relationship we really cared about is so badly damaged it cannot be repaired. When this happens, once we realize the full impact of what we’ve done, we may feel great remorse. If we’re still angry we might not feel sorrow for a while, but it’s destined to come to us at some point. Since we can’t change the past all we can do is go forward. We have to do what we can to make things right, and forgive ourselves. The road may have changed dramatically and we may feel very unsettled until we figure out what to do next, but going forward is our only option.

There are lots of reasons why we make big mistakes, but in the end, the reasons really won’t matter. The only thing that matters is what we do next. If we’ve lost a valuable relationship we can try to rebuild it. If we are able to regain the trust of the other person, it’s possible we may restore it.  However, if the trust has been broken too severely, we may never have that relationship back. If there’s someone we really care about and we’ve lost them, our only option forward is to love them from afar and let them know we want them in our lives. Over time we all change. Wounds heal, and feelings mend. After enough time has passed it’s possible we’ll be able to start again.

Our lives are fluid and ever changing. What we do today often affects what comes to us tomorrow. The worst decisions are often made out of anger and haste, when we rush to an assumption or try to even a score. We may prevent bad decisions if we stop and give ourselves time to think before we act. We know we should, but in the heat of the moment, sometimes things get out of control. Being out of control never brings happiness and often brings heartache. If we can take some time to breathe and think before we jump, we may figure out a way forward that will not destroy our relationships or the path we want to be on. Only we can decide what we’ll do. We can make good decisions and we can choose wisely.  If we wait just for a moment, and consider where we’re going, oftentimes we’ll make a better and happier decision. Hard times come to us all but we can prevent them from becoming disastrous if we stop and think before we act.

Today if you’re feeling edgy and upset, if you’re angry and determined to get even or make someone pay for some slight you think they’ve caused, stop for a moment before you do anything. There is a lot at stake. Your relationships, your future happiness, and your personal peace are a big price to pay for anger. Don’t pay it. Take a breath. This is just a moment and it will pass. Give yourself some space. The right answer will come and you’ll be in control. Then make the best decision and you’ll go forward with confidence. You know what to do. Today choose the right and peace will follow.

Bending

17 Jul

Patience is a beneficial virtue to acquire. If we learn to be patient, we can often understand things more easily, and prevent conflict by listening, and waiting for answers instead of pushing. Being patient is a gift to those we interact with. When we’re patient, others learn they can trust us to listen, and not jump to conclusions ahead of time. Although this is a valuable skill, is it possible to be too patient? Can we give too much? Can we wait too long?

When we’re in a relationship we value, and things aren’t going the way we want them to, we may discuss the issue with the other person, tell them why we aren’t happy, and ask for a change. If they are not ready, they may need time. If we’re patient, we may offer that time in order to preserve the relationship. Sometimes with communication and effort, things improve, and the problems work themselves out. But other times, despite our willingness to wait, things stay the same. Patience will not create change. It only allows time for change to happen. If the situation doesn’t improve after a time, we have to decide if we can wait a little longer, or if we need to move on.

It is possible to bend too far in trying to make something work. If we find the wait is beginning to affect our happiness, we need to rethink the situation. We offer patience to help situations improve, but if nothing changes all the patience in the world will not help. If we bend too far, and give too much, we may find ourselves in a very uncomfortable place.

Today if you’ve been patiently waiting for a situation to change and it’s not happening, re-evaluate your options. Determine how long you feel comfortable waiting, and when you get there if nothing has improved, move on. Patience is a noble attribute, and it’s good to exercise it. But don’t bend so far that you’re miserable. Sometimes even the best changes don’t come. Sometimes we have to let it go, and move on. Today think about that. The situation may be important, but you’re important too. Be patient, and be kind, but remember your happiness is valuable. Do what you need to ensure it.