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That Loving Feeling

26 Sep

Human relationships can be very rewarding. Our lives are enhanced and enriched when we have deep, strong connections to others that are positive and uplifting. When we first find someone we’re attracted to and begin to draw close to them, we may be filled with infatuation. It can be a dizzying, delirious feeling that makes us weak in the knees and unable to concentrate. The first rush of love can be quite intense but it cannot last. If we stay close, time and interaction will ripen our feelings to a deeper, more sustaining sense of love. Being in love can be an incredibly positive experience that augments our lives and enhances our senses. But if we want the love to last it must move beyond feelings. We must do things that show how we care, learn how to support one another, and live our lives in ways that include each other. Although we may have very strong and intense feelings about someone else, love itself is a verb that requires action if we want it to last. We can’t focus only on ourselves, and our personal wants and desires, and expect to have a healthy, strong relationship. That means we must be willing to give our time, our energy, and our attention, and meet our partner’s needs with grace and patience. The best relationships in our lives will come when we do everything we can to build them up and make them last. Human bonds that complete our lives and bring us great happiness are precious and rare. It’s extraordinary to find someone we love with whom we want to build a future. It’s more precious than anything else we may experience. By valuing our relationships and treating them with care, doing everything possible to make them strong and vibrant, we will find great happiness.

The things we want in life are ever changing. One year we’re sure we want one thing and the next we’re on to something new. But our needs are a different story. We can change what we want at any time, but our needs are hard-wired into who we are. If we’re in a relationship and we’re sure we’re in love but the other person doesn’t fulfill our basic needs for attention or communication, it’s unlikely it will survive. We’ll have to choose to either continue an unworkable situation or move on. We deserve every happiness and the best relationships possible.

The world is filled with all kinds of people. It’s possible to fall for someone who is narcissistic and selfish. We may overlook the things that are difficult in the beginning, but eventually it will be impossible to ignore bad behavior. We are worth the best relationships possible. We need never surrender to a situation that doesn’t make us happy or bring us a deep fulfilling connection. We can decide what we want, and then do what is needed to make sure we get it.

Today if you’re in a relationship that isn’t making you feel worthwhile and cared for, you can change direction. Every happiness you desire is possible. You are amazing and all your dreams can come true. Care deeply for yourself and choose wisely. There is tremendous happiness waiting, and you will reach it.

Bankrupt

17 Jun

Everyone has a lot going on in their lives much of the time. We have many responsibilities, chores and things that need our attention, and there are others around us who may ask for our help as well. We can’t stretch the days any longer than they are and when we’re busy, and someone asks for our time, despite the pressures we’re already under, we may agree and try to find a way to get it done. We may say yes even when we can’t see how we’ll be able to accomplish the task. Most of us want to be helpful, but we must all work within the limits we have. It does no good to over extend ourselves and bankrupt our time. We’ll only end up frustrated and overwhelmed with too much to do and no way to accomplish it. There are lots of people around us and we all have a lot to do. There is no way we can help everyone who asks or be there continually for others, and still get our personal responsibilities cared for. Our time is limited and it’s important and appropriate to manage it in ways that move us forward and give us the opportunity to accomplish our own tasks as well as help others with theirs. Our needs are important and we can value and care for them. It’s counterproductive to commit to more than we can accomplish or get so busy we have no time to take care of ourselves. We can be helpful and still be pro-active. We can offer what works within our personal constraints and then say no to any more. There will always be more need than we can fill. With patience and wisdom, we can exercise self-control and manage our time in ways that help others while still having time for ourselves.

It can be hard to say no when we’re pressed to help. Those close to us may require more support than we can comfortably give, but we may try because they need us. It’s not selfish to decline requests that will be more than we can handle. We can help when possible and understand that we’re all responsible for our own lives. If we fall apart from exhaustion because we’ve over committed, we won’t be able to take care of anything. It’s appropriate to care for ourselves first and then attend to all the other demands around us.

Our personal relationships are important and need attention to keep them happy and healthy. Scheduling too much to do and pressing ourselves to accomplish so much that we neglect time with those we love will hurt us in the end. The world is filled with need. We can do our part without doing too much, and manage our time effectively. Our lives are always in our control. With careful consideration, we can take good care of ourselves and still serve those around us.

Today if you’ve agreed to do more than you can manage and find yourself overwhelmed and over extended, step back and look at what you can comfortably manage. Revise your commitments so that you have the time you need to care for yourself and those you love. Help when you can but manage your time in ways that benefit you and those around you. You are amazing and the whole world is blessed by your presence. Take the best of care and step forward with confidence.