Tag Archives: Detour

Letting It Go

25 Aug

We’re in control of our lives and can do anything we like. We can choose the goals we want to achieve, and the places we want to go, and start forward. Many times, we’re able to accomplish what we’ve set out to do, but sometimes things don’t go the way we hope. There may be times when even if what we want is good, and even if we’re willing to do everything we need to get there, the road is blocked. When we get stopped in our tracks, it might seem like there are other worldly forces at work against us, and we may be confused and upset that nothing is working. When we want something very badly it’s hard to accept that we can’t have it. We can keep trying to push against the wall in front of us, and expend a lot of energy trying to force our way through. All of that might make us feel better, but may not move us ahead. If we’re stuck and nothing we do moves us forward, we may have to let our plans go for now. Letting go of something we’ve worked very hard for and want very much, isn’t easy. We may feel hurt and upset, frustrated and angry. We are only in control of ourselves and there will always be many forces and influences happening all around us we may know nothing about that may impact our plans. Life is fluid and change is constant. Not being able to accomplish something right now doesn’t mean it’ll never be possible. The goal is still there, and in time, we’ll be able to achieve it. Meanwhile, we can look at everything objectively, let go of the original plan, and move onto something else. When things change, and our situation is different, we can return back and try again. Everything we want is possible, but it may not be possible today. We can step back, revise our current plans, and continue forward. Nothing will remain out of reach forever, and with patience and persistence, we can achieve anything.

Although we know what we want, and can plan effectively to achieve it, there will always be a lot of unknown factors that may come into play. We may encounter unforeseen complications and irritating snags that clog the road ahead and make advancement difficult. Disappointment is a part of life, and we may face difficulties that keep us from success. If we get stopped, we can try again. If we still can’t move, we can focus on something else until the road ahead clears and we can reach success.

Some people say “there’s a reason for everything” as a way of explaining what we can’t control. But that doesn’t mean the reason we’re stopped is because we aren’t entitled to achieve the goal. The problem we’re facing may have nothing to do with us. Delays and detours are annoying, and it can be hard to wait, but we are intelligent and can do whatever is needed to reach any goal we desire. If we have to wait, and do something else, we can. The goal will always be there and when the time is right, we’ll reach it.

Today if the road ahead toward the goal you want is blocked and you can’t get through, look at everything objectively. If there is no way forward right now, set it aside and pursue something else. Life is all about change and soon the way will open, and you’ll be able to move toward success. You are amazing and powerful, and can achieve anything. Be patient and look ahead. All your dreams are there for you.

What Doesn’t Kill Us

17 Jul

“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” Friedrich Nietzsche

Life is filled with challenges. We face something new every day, and sometimes we’re up against serious trials and things that test us, and push us hard. Everyone dreams of a life filled with pleasure, where nothing ever goes wrong, and each day is like a holiday. Dreaming is nice, but we live in reality. There are times when our lives sail along without much distress, but nothing stays the same forever, and we will eventually face something difficult and troublesome. Living in nirvana sounds nice but if everything was easy, we would learn nothing, and never get the chance to build our personal strength. There are endless lessons to learn, and when trials press on us, we get the opportunity to learn more. Each challenge teaches us something new about ourselves and the world around us, and even when we think we can’t survive, we will. If we want a fit body with strong muscles, lifting weights helps. When we lift something heavy our muscles strain to complete the task. The tension and pressure we exert isn’t easy, but when we’re done, we are stronger. The same is true in our personal lives. When we must pull from deep within to find the answers we need, and unravel complex and difficult issues, we get stronger and more capable. It’s unlikely anything we face will be so hard it could kill us. Even when the odds are against us, and we’re up against a fierce problem, we will find our way. There really isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us down. We can manage any complication, face any trial, and find success. As we do, we will gain strength and wisdom, and great satisfaction.

Nobody gets a perfect life. We will all struggle from time to time. Sometimes the problems come from decisions we’ve made, and sometimes we have no influence or control over what happens. Many things will go well for us, but not all roads ahead are paved. We may have to climb over big obstacles, face detour after detour, and get turned around a time or two. Difficult journeys take persistence and patience. We already possess everything we need to face whatever we must. We can trust ourselves to prevail no matter what lies ahead. Every destination is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will reach success.

If we’re facing something daunting and overwhelming, we may doubt ourselves. We might imagine the problem is too big to overcome, or we don’t have the intelligence necessary to prevail. We all have doubts from time to time, but every single answer we need is already there for us. We don’t have to overcome everything all at once. We can take one step at a time, unravel the first problem and then the next, and we will find our way.

Today if you’re facing something difficult, and you aren’t sure you can overcome, trust yourself. You’ve already managed many hard issues and prevailed, and have everything you need to win. Be confident, and step forward. Nothing can hold you in place, and you will succeed.

Rubber Hammer

22 Jun

Every day brings us something new, and with each step we learn more about ourselves and the world around us. It isn’t always a picnic, and we will all face trials and problems that need to be solved. As we work through each issue, we gain additional insight and understanding. We might find ourselves in a situation where we can’t make any headway, and move forward. It might be because we haven’t yet gotten all the information we need to solve the issue, or it could be that we don’t currently have the tools we need to get the job done. If we have to pound a big nail into a hard piece of wood, a good strong hammer will help us accomplish it. But what if the only hammer we have is made of rubber? A hammer is a hammer right? Rubber isn’t steel, but it seems like it would work eventually, so we pound away and pound away, and make minuscule progress, but success is far away. We could stay in place and work the problem indefinitely with the tool we have, or we could get a better hammer. A heavy, steel hammer would enable us to complete the task quickly and easily, and move on to something new. Sometimes all we have to do to reach success is get a better tool. But if we like the tool we’re using, are attached to where we are and what we’re doing, and are concerned about making any changes, we may end up pounding away indefinitely, hoping what we already possess will be enough. Life can be hard and the choices we make will either make it easier or more difficult. Having a rubber hammer when we need a steel one won’t help us advance. We are intelligent and can look at every situation objectively and see what we need to reach success. By choosing the tools that help us move forward, and working hard to get to the goal, we will succeed.

When we set out to complete a goal, we design our way forward and choose the method and road we desire. We try to choose well, but we might find the road we’ve chosen has a lot of detours, switchbacks, and roadblocks. We’re moving forward but the pace is very slow and cumbersome. If we’re very attached to the original idea, we might hold on hoping that even though there is no indication of change, somehow, it’ll eventually work. Like hammering in a nail with a rubber hammer. Every goal is possible and we can be flexible enough to alter our plans if needed. Nothing can keep us from success when we’re ready to move, and we will prevail.

Everyone wants a life of ease and comfort. Being comfortable in our choices is important, but an easy road won’t always move us ahead. If we aren’t advancing, we can stop and look at all the possibilities. There will always be another option and we can choose the one that will take us to our destination. Every single goal is there for us and all our dreams are possible. We have everything we need to find our way forward, and reach success.

Today if you’re stuck and aren’t moving forward, look at all the options available. There are many roads to every goal. Choose the one that will take you to success, and step forward with confidence. You are powerful and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Trust yourself. Every dream is there for you, and you will succeed.

Staying Down

26 May

As we navigate through our lives, we experience all kinds of developments and find our way through countless twists and turns. The road ahead is sometimes easy and we can advance quickly, getting to the desired goal. But every road is different, and there may be times when it seems no matter what we do, we remain stuck in place. There may be obstacles too high to overcome, or someone else standing in the way who refuses to move. Complications will come and may interfere with our plans and stop us in our tracks. We may get pushed off the path, and have to sit and wait for things to change. If we get blocked and can’t move forward, instead of complaining and pacing impatiently, we can stand still where we are and work on something else. Everyone gets knocked down from time to time, and if we can’t see a way forward right now, we can stay down and wait. Staying down when we can’t move forward isn’t giving up. While we wait, we can look at everything clearly and consider all the possibilities ahead. Taking the time to review what’s happened, where we are, and how we can continue forward, will help us come up with a plan. We can see everything objectively, and decide on the best road ahead. Nothing can hold us in place forever, and in time, however long that takes, we’ll be able to start again and achieve any goal we desire. We’re in control of our lives, and no matter what happens, can find the road ahead that will take us to success. We are powerful and strong, and nothing is out of reach. By being confident and patient, we will achieve every success we desire.

Complications are a part of life. There are few times when we can go from where we are to where we want to be without something going wrong. We only have control over ourselves and there are millions of others making decisions that may impact our ability to advance. We may get hung up and be unable to move forward for a time, but if we’re devoted to the task and determined to succeed, nothing can stop us indefinitely. There are unlimited roads ahead and if the one we’re on gets blocked, we can step on another and continue. Nothing can hold us down forever, and we will reach the goal.

If we’ve had one complication after another and it seems no matter what we do, the doors ahead are blocked, we can set the goal aside for a time and work on something else. Change is constant and whatever we’re facing today will be different tomorrow. Nothing can stay the same forever, and eventually we’ll be able to start again. Every goal is possible, and with patience and determination, we can accomplish anything we desire.

Today if you’ve been stopped and can’t move forward because of circumstances out of your control, look at everything objectively. Decide on your next steps and prepare for when things change and you can start again. You are highly capable and intelligent, and nothing can hold you in place indefinitely. Every success is there for you and in time, you will reach it.

Best Friend

29 Apr

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what they should do. Most of us want to be successful completing what’s important to us and try to move forward a little every day toward the destinations we desire. Life is complicated and sometimes our progress doesn’t exactly go the way we hope it will. Problems arise, we make decisions that don’t always work out and it seems we have to continually modify and adjust to push through. We might get to a point where we think we should be further down the road than we are or that somehow, we should be doing better in some way. We may set our personal standards very high and if we don’t meet them, become critical of our performance. There is always room for improvement no matter what we’re doing, and we can always do a little more, but we can honor how far we’ve come and what we’ve already accomplished. Berating ourselves for not getting to the goal fast enough, or doing everything perfectly isn’t helpful. We aren’t perfect – nobody is. We learn with each step we take, and as long as we keep stepping forward, we’re winning. It’s fine to have high standards and want to do our best, but we only have control over our own decisions, and things we know nothing about may derail us. We can learn to accept complications and the delays they may cause without tearing ourselves down for not getting to the goal fast enough. We know what we want and have everything we need to get it. We can do anything we like, but we can’t do it all today. Trusting ourselves as we push through, and being patient when there are detours and setbacks will give us the confidence we need to succeed.

If our best friend comes to us upset because they didn’t reach a goal as planned, instead of ridiculing them for not getting it done, we probably would offer them support and kindness. Because we care for them, we may encourage them not to get discouraged, and help them start again. However, we are often harder on ourselves in the same situations. We expect more of ourselves than we expect of others, and that can work against us. Learning to allow the same patience and support we give to others for our own individual struggles will bring us great relief and encouragement. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We can trust that no matter what comes, or what goes wrong, we’ll find our way forward.

Perfection may be our goal, but it’s not likely to be our achievement. There is no way to know everything, and there are endless situations that may enter our lives and disrupt everything we have going on. Learning to bend when things go wrong, and keep our eyes on the goal, even when the road turns, will help us reach success. We are stronger and wiser than we think we are, and nothing can keep us from our goals.

Today if you’re disappointed in yourself because you haven’t gotten as far as you think you should, stop and look at how far you’ve already come. You are amazing and nothing is beyond your reach. You know what you want, and each step takes you closer to the goal. Be confident and continue forward. Every success is there for you and you will prevail.