Tag Archives: Detour

What Doesn’t Kill Us

17 Jul

“That which does not kill us makes us stronger.” Friedrich Nietzsche

Life is filled with challenges. We face something new every day, and sometimes we’re up against serious trials and things that test us, and push us hard. Everyone dreams of a life filled with pleasure, where nothing ever goes wrong, and each day is like a holiday. Dreaming is nice, but we live in reality. There are times when our lives sail along without much distress, but nothing stays the same forever, and we will eventually face something difficult and troublesome. Living in nirvana sounds nice but if everything was easy, we would learn nothing, and never get the chance to build our personal strength. There are endless lessons to learn, and when trials press on us, we get the opportunity to learn more. Each challenge teaches us something new about ourselves and the world around us, and even when we think we can’t survive, we will. If we want a fit body with strong muscles, lifting weights helps. When we lift something heavy our muscles strain to complete the task. The tension and pressure we exert isn’t easy, but when we’re done, we are stronger. The same is true in our personal lives. When we must pull from deep within to find the answers we need, and unravel complex and difficult issues, we get stronger and more capable. It’s unlikely anything we face will be so hard it could kill us. Even when the odds are against us, and we’re up against a fierce problem, we will find our way. There really isn’t anything powerful enough to hold us down. We can manage any complication, face any trial, and find success. As we do, we will gain strength and wisdom, and great satisfaction.

Nobody gets a perfect life. We will all struggle from time to time. Sometimes the problems come from decisions we’ve made, and sometimes we have no influence or control over what happens. Many things will go well for us, but not all roads ahead are paved. We may have to climb over big obstacles, face detour after detour, and get turned around a time or two. Difficult journeys take persistence and patience. We already possess everything we need to face whatever we must. We can trust ourselves to prevail no matter what lies ahead. Every destination is there for us, and with determination and focus, we will reach success.

If we’re facing something daunting and overwhelming, we may doubt ourselves. We might imagine the problem is too big to overcome, or we don’t have the intelligence necessary to prevail. We all have doubts from time to time, but every single answer we need is already there for us. We don’t have to overcome everything all at once. We can take one step at a time, unravel the first problem and then the next, and we will find our way.

Today if you’re facing something difficult, and you aren’t sure you can overcome, trust yourself. You’ve already managed many hard issues and prevailed, and have everything you need to win. Be confident, and step forward. Nothing can hold you in place, and you will succeed.

Rubber Hammer

22 Jun

Every day brings us something new, and with each step we learn more about ourselves and the world around us. It isn’t always a picnic, and we will all face trials and problems that need to be solved. As we work through each issue, we gain additional insight and understanding. We might find ourselves in a situation where we can’t make any headway, and move forward. It might be because we haven’t yet gotten all the information we need to solve the issue, or it could be that we don’t currently have the tools we need to get the job done. If we have to pound a big nail into a hard piece of wood, a good strong hammer will help us accomplish it. But what if the only hammer we have is made of rubber? A hammer is a hammer right? Rubber isn’t steel, but it seems like it would work eventually, so we pound away and pound away, and make minuscule progress, but success is far away. We could stay in place and work the problem indefinitely with the tool we have, or we could get a better hammer. A heavy, steel hammer would enable us to complete the task quickly and easily, and move on to something new. Sometimes all we have to do to reach success is get a better tool. But if we like the tool we’re using, are attached to where we are and what we’re doing, and are concerned about making any changes, we may end up pounding away indefinitely, hoping what we already possess will be enough. Life can be hard and the choices we make will either make it easier or more difficult. Having a rubber hammer when we need a steel one won’t help us advance. We are intelligent and can look at every situation objectively and see what we need to reach success. By choosing the tools that help us move forward, and working hard to get to the goal, we will succeed.

When we set out to complete a goal, we design our way forward and choose the method and road we desire. We try to choose well, but we might find the road we’ve chosen has a lot of detours, switchbacks, and roadblocks. We’re moving forward but the pace is very slow and cumbersome. If we’re very attached to the original idea, we might hold on hoping that even though there is no indication of change, somehow, it’ll eventually work. Like hammering in a nail with a rubber hammer. Every goal is possible and we can be flexible enough to alter our plans if needed. Nothing can keep us from success when we’re ready to move, and we will prevail.

Everyone wants a life of ease and comfort. Being comfortable in our choices is important, but an easy road won’t always move us ahead. If we aren’t advancing, we can stop and look at all the possibilities. There will always be another option and we can choose the one that will take us to our destination. Every single goal is there for us and all our dreams are possible. We have everything we need to find our way forward, and reach success.

Today if you’re stuck and aren’t moving forward, look at all the options available. There are many roads to every goal. Choose the one that will take you to success, and step forward with confidence. You are powerful and wise, and can accomplish anything you desire. Trust yourself. Every dream is there for you, and you will succeed.

Staying Down

26 May

As we navigate through our lives, we experience all kinds of developments and find our way through countless twists and turns. The road ahead is sometimes easy and we can advance quickly, getting to the desired goal. But every road is different, and there may be times when it seems no matter what we do, we remain stuck in place. There may be obstacles too high to overcome, or someone else standing in the way who refuses to move. Complications will come and may interfere with our plans and stop us in our tracks. We may get pushed off the path, and have to sit and wait for things to change. If we get blocked and can’t move forward, instead of complaining and pacing impatiently, we can stand still where we are and work on something else. Everyone gets knocked down from time to time, and if we can’t see a way forward right now, we can stay down and wait. Staying down when we can’t move forward isn’t giving up. While we wait, we can look at everything clearly and consider all the possibilities ahead. Taking the time to review what’s happened, where we are, and how we can continue forward, will help us come up with a plan. We can see everything objectively, and decide on the best road ahead. Nothing can hold us in place forever, and in time, however long that takes, we’ll be able to start again and achieve any goal we desire. We’re in control of our lives, and no matter what happens, can find the road ahead that will take us to success. We are powerful and strong, and nothing is out of reach. By being confident and patient, we will achieve every success we desire.

Complications are a part of life. There are few times when we can go from where we are to where we want to be without something going wrong. We only have control over ourselves and there are millions of others making decisions that may impact our ability to advance. We may get hung up and be unable to move forward for a time, but if we’re devoted to the task and determined to succeed, nothing can stop us indefinitely. There are unlimited roads ahead and if the one we’re on gets blocked, we can step on another and continue. Nothing can hold us down forever, and we will reach the goal.

If we’ve had one complication after another and it seems no matter what we do, the doors ahead are blocked, we can set the goal aside for a time and work on something else. Change is constant and whatever we’re facing today will be different tomorrow. Nothing can stay the same forever, and eventually we’ll be able to start again. Every goal is possible, and with patience and determination, we can accomplish anything we desire.

Today if you’ve been stopped and can’t move forward because of circumstances out of your control, look at everything objectively. Decide on your next steps and prepare for when things change and you can start again. You are highly capable and intelligent, and nothing can hold you in place indefinitely. Every success is there for you and in time, you will reach it.

Best Friend

29 Apr

Everyone has their own ideas about how things should go and what they should do. Most of us want to be successful completing what’s important to us and try to move forward a little every day toward the destinations we desire. Life is complicated and sometimes our progress doesn’t exactly go the way we hope it will. Problems arise, we make decisions that don’t always work out and it seems we have to continually modify and adjust to push through. We might get to a point where we think we should be further down the road than we are or that somehow, we should be doing better in some way. We may set our personal standards very high and if we don’t meet them, become critical of our performance. There is always room for improvement no matter what we’re doing, and we can always do a little more, but we can honor how far we’ve come and what we’ve already accomplished. Berating ourselves for not getting to the goal fast enough, or doing everything perfectly isn’t helpful. We aren’t perfect – nobody is. We learn with each step we take, and as long as we keep stepping forward, we’re winning. It’s fine to have high standards and want to do our best, but we only have control over our own decisions, and things we know nothing about may derail us. We can learn to accept complications and the delays they may cause without tearing ourselves down for not getting to the goal fast enough. We know what we want and have everything we need to get it. We can do anything we like, but we can’t do it all today. Trusting ourselves as we push through, and being patient when there are detours and setbacks will give us the confidence we need to succeed.

If our best friend comes to us upset because they didn’t reach a goal as planned, instead of ridiculing them for not getting it done, we probably would offer them support and kindness. Because we care for them, we may encourage them not to get discouraged, and help them start again. However, we are often harder on ourselves in the same situations. We expect more of ourselves than we expect of others, and that can work against us. Learning to allow the same patience and support we give to others for our own individual struggles will bring us great relief and encouragement. There isn’t anything we can’t accomplish. We can trust that no matter what comes, or what goes wrong, we’ll find our way forward.

Perfection may be our goal, but it’s not likely to be our achievement. There is no way to know everything, and there are endless situations that may enter our lives and disrupt everything we have going on. Learning to bend when things go wrong, and keep our eyes on the goal, even when the road turns, will help us reach success. We are stronger and wiser than we think we are, and nothing can keep us from our goals.

Today if you’re disappointed in yourself because you haven’t gotten as far as you think you should, stop and look at how far you’ve already come. You are amazing and nothing is beyond your reach. You know what you want, and each step takes you closer to the goal. Be confident and continue forward. Every success is there for you and you will prevail.

Reserve

21 Apr

Life is full of challenges. Wherever we are and whatever we’re doing it’s likely some situation will come that complicates our plans or something will arise we have to figure out. There are lots of roads to every destination but they aren’t all paved and we may run into bumps and unexpected detours as we try to push forward. We’re strong and can often make whatever adjustments are necessary to keep going, but if we’ve been dodging obstacles for a while, and every turn seems to bring more trouble, we may tire and feel like we can’t continue. We may believe we’ve reached our limit and are done. Fatigue is natural when we’ve been pushing a long time, and it’s okay to take a rest when we need to. If we think we’ve had enough and can’t go on, we can always decide to quit and give up. However, if the goal is important to us, there is always the possibility we can still get there. Even when we’re sure we don’t have any energy left, it’s likely there’s still more we can do. Like the reserve gas tank in our car, when we hit empty, we can reach deep and go a little further. Just because we can’t see the end of the road doesn’t mean it isn’t close. If we want to get to the destination, we can stop and regroup, and then take another step. Sometimes one more step forward will change everything. Every goal is possible and we already possess everything we need to succeed. We can trust that we are strong enough to get there. Trouble will come, complications may arise and every turn may bring more problems. Life can get tangled up but we are intelligent and will find our way. Nothing is out of reach, and we have everything we need to succeed.

Sometimes things seem to go in circles and we get stuck going around until we find a way out. We never know what will happen next and just when we think we’ve got things figured out, something else may go wrong. Some goals are hard to reach but that doesn’t mean they’re unattainable. We can be flexible and with each step we learn what works and what doesn’t. As we carry that knowledge forward, we will have the keys we need to open the doors ahead. Every goal is possible, and with determination we can go anywhere and do anything.

When we’re trying to do something difficult there may be some who’ll tell us it can’t be done. Just because something hasn’t been accomplished before doesn’t mean it’s not possible. It only means nobody has yet done what is needed to achieve it. We can succeed at even extraordinary tasks if we do what is required to get there. Nothing is beyond our reach and every dream is possible. We can have the lives we desire most, and nothing can keep us from success.

Today if you’re tired of trying to achieve a goal that has eluded you, and you feel like giving up, step back and think about what you want. If the goal is important and you still want to achieve it, you have what you need to get there. Look ahead and take another step. Even if the road is steep, you can climb it. You are amazing and powerful. Every dream is there for you. Trust yourself and be confident. Success is just ahead, and you will reach it.