Tag Archives: Support

Holding It In

28 May

Everyone is different and we all have our own opinions about how things should go and what we should do. There are endless ideas about everything that happens and those differences bring great depth to our experience and help us understand the world. But differences can also cause conflict, especially if someone believes they have the right answers and refuses to listen to any other option. If we must work with them and have a different idea for moving forward, we may struggle to express our viewpoint. Conflict is a normal part of life and can be challenging. If we remain silent, things may be easier, but keeping our ideas to ourselves prevents others from hearing another option. We are important and our contributions are valuable. We can be confident in speaking up and offering new ideas and different methods to accomplish any goal. We are capable and intelligent, and offer a unique perspective that can augment and enrich the way ahead. Every idea has worth, and being open and sharing our impressions and thoughts will bring refreshment and a new point of view that may unlock new doors. There is no way to know what suggestion will turn the tide and pave the way ahead. If we keep our thoughts to ourselves, they will never have the chance to bring us success. We are more powerful and wise than we think we are, and nothing can hold us in place. We can openly contribute to every situation and fearlessly explain our point of view. There is great success ahead, and by sharing our ideas and thoughts with those around us, we will reach every destination we desire.

Some people are very confident, outspoken and strong willed. They know what they want, and don’t hesitate to tell others their opinions, and push their way to the front of the line. If we aren’t as confident and are interacting with them, we may feel intimidated by their behavior. If we have a different opinion about how to proceed, instead of sharing, we may hold our ideas in and keep them to ourselves. Nobody can read our minds and it’s impossible for anyone to know where we stand unless we tell them. Nobody has all the answers. We all have something to offer. By trusting ourselves and speaking up, we can contribute to everyone’s success.

There is always a risk when we share our own ideas that those around us won’t agree, and we’ll be left standing alone with no support. That may happen, but it doesn’t mean our ideas are worthless. It only means they are different than what is needed right now. It’s impossible to know what the future holds, and a proposed course that doesn’t work right now may be perfect for something coming up. There is no down side to offering and hearing alternate opinions and new suggestions. They open us up to original concepts and different roads ahead.

Today if you’ve been unsure about sharing your own ideas, speak up and let others know where you stand. You are amazing and capable, and every idea has value. Be confident and trust yourself. Share your thoughts about how to proceed, and let others know where you stand. The whole world is there for you, and nothing can keep you from your goals. Every success is possible, and you will prevail.

Moving On

23 Apr

We accomplish millions of things as our lives advance. There are tasks we must do to stay on track and keep things rolling forward, responsibilities that need to be taken care of, and seemingly endless projects that continually arise. We may face times when there is more to do than we can possible complete and we have to choose which is most important. What’s important to us can always take priority over other things that need our time. We decide what we want to do and how we want to proceed. But we share the world with lots of other people who have their own opinions. They may bring ideas and projects they want us to do with them or accomplish for them. If we are under their authority, their desires may take precedence over our own. Our personal choices may have to wait while we do something required of us. However, most of the time we’ll be free to choose for ourselves. Others may ask us to do things for them, and we can certainly help if we like. Most of us want to be helpful, and we may agree when someone asks for our time. Our decisions belong to us and if we want the lives we desire the most, we must make them with our personal goals in mind. There will always be something to take our focus away from what we really want, and if we’re not careful, we may spend our time doing things that cannot move us forward. Our dreams and goals are important, and we can focus on them, and decide to keep moving on and progressing forward. There are unlimited things that can hold us in place, but if we keep our eyes focused on the road ahead, we will get to every destination we seek. We can make our dreams reality, and do anything we desire.

Some people need a lot of individual support as they move forward. We’re all different and our skills and needs differ from one to another. If we’re involved with someone who needs a lot of help and encouragement to progress, they may ask for more of our time than we are comfortable providing. We’re all responsible for our own lives and can make excellent decisions about how we spend our time. We can carefully evaluate what we may offer, and still be successful moving forward.

We always do what we want to do most. Sometimes it’s because there’s something we desire, but other times it may be because we’re under duress or pressured to accommodate a situation. We’re in control of our lives and can always decide what works best for us. We can discern where to offer our time, and choose the best road ahead. We’re intelligent and capable, and there isn’t anything we can’t manage and manage well. Every destination and goal are possible, and with focus and careful planning, we can accomplish anything.

Today if you’re being pulled away from the road you want to travel, manage your time wisely and return to the goal when things change. Keep your focus on the way ahead, and you will reach every destination you desire. You are amazingly capable and nothing is out of reach. Take control of your life and move forward with confidence. Every dream is there for you. Step forward and claim them. There is great success ahead, and nothing can keep you from it.

Escape

6 Aug

Life is full of options and opportunities. Every single day brings something new into our lives, and new people will come and go as time passes. Sometimes we make lasting relationships and spend significant time with someone, getting to know them well, and incorporating them into our lives. If our values are similar, and we’re interested in the same things, those bonds may be very strong. It’s good to make close connections but it won’t happen with everyone we meet. We may have passing interactions with people we see once and don’t see again. As we’re getting to know someone and begin to build rapport with them, we learn more about them. We might find we have lots in common, or we may discover their true attributes are nothing we want to be involved with. Maybe they’re dishonest, or make horrible decisions that bring grief and destruction to everyone around them, or they have deep, hidden hatred for others. We never have to stay in any situation or relationship that makes us uncomfortable. We can always step back, and step away. There is no reason to continue an association that isn’t working or that will bring us discomfort. Escape is always an option in every circumstance, no matter what’s going on. We can choose another path and go our own way. We are never inexorably tied to anyone else. Our lives belong to us and we can manage them in ways that are positive and work well. If someone around us is doing things we don’t want, or is making decisions that don’t work for us, we can walk away. We’re all responsible for the lives we live. Every choice we make takes us somewhere, and we can ensure where we’re headed is where we want to go. Every blessing is possible and there are unlimited roads to travel. We can have the lives we dream about and find great, abiding happiness.

Most of us try to be helpful and want to be patient with others who are struggling. We can be supportive but it’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves. It never works to try to fix someone else’s life for them. Everyone owns their own problems and must find their own solutions. We’re not responsible for saving anyone else, and we need not accept or excuse bad behavior, or go along with bad decisions. We can set an excellent example for success, and step forward with confidence and clarity.

We may be asked to help when someone has twisted their lives up and don’t know what to do. We can be kind and offer any advice we feel appropriate, but they must solve their problems on their own. Getting tangled up in the confusion of someone else’s mistakes will not help them find resolution. We can be supportive and still allow them to do what is needed to resolve their situation. We all have everything we need to find the way forward.

Today if you’re in a situation that’s uncomfortable, and you don’t want to continue, you can step away. You know what’s best for you and how you want to proceed. Take control and do what is needed to change direction and start again. You are valuable and important, and can go anywhere. Make the best decisions moving forward and you will reach your goals. Nothing can keep you from the life you desire.

One Step Forward

2 Jul

There is much to learn as we navigate through our lives.  There are things we need to master to be effective in our jobs or responsibilities, things we want to accomplish that bring us pleasure, and things that must be learned in order to survive.  The road to understanding anything takes time and effort.  We gain some knowledge simply by living our lives and interacting with others.  But much of what we want to understand and fully embrace requires time and diligence.  We push forward to conquer one step and that leads us to the next.  One thing upon another takes us down the path of comprehension until we fully grasp what we’ve been seeking.  When we want to move quickly we may try to take shortcuts as we process everything before us and sometimes they help but can backfire and require us to take a step back and try again.  It’s hard to be patient when we’re trying to master something important and it requires a long time.  It’s hard to wait for understanding when the knowledge we desire will move us closer to where we want to be.  One thing is certain, if we stop we will never succeed.  Even if what we’re trying to do takes years to achieve we can be diligent in pressing forward a little each day to eventually reach the goal.  By keeping our eyes forward and taking one step at a time we can reach any destination we desire.  Nothing is out of reach and success is always possible.  We have everything we need to do anything we choose.  It’s all there for us.  With patience and determination we can reach every goal.

If we decide to tackle a huge goal that requires much time and effort we may struggle pushing forward.  Those around us may offer their support or they may discourage us perhaps believing the goal is too difficult and we will never win.  They may advise us to be happy with what we already have and to let go of the desire to gain more.  Our choices are ours to make and we may abort any plans at any time.  But if we want to achieve the things we truly desire it doesn’t matter how hard the road gets.  We can continue forward and manage any difficulty required to reach the goal.  We are strong and capable and can make all our dreams come true.

When the road is long it’s natural to tire and desire rest.  We can always step away from any struggle when we need refreshment.  Taking a break doesn’t mean we are giving up.  If we need time to regroup we can take it.  When we’re ready to begin again the road will still be there waiting for our return.  We can have the lives we dream about and do all the things we imagine.  The whole world is there for us and every destination is possible.  We can move forward one step at a time and find success.

Today if you’re pushing toward a goal and aren’t sure you can keep going, decide what you really want in your life.  Every dream is possible and you are strong enough and wise enough to make them come true.  Look ahead.  Decide how you want to proceed, chart your course and continue forward.  Success is always there for you and you will reach it.

Giving In

27 Oct

Most of us like to be helpful. We try to be available when others need us or we offer assistance when we see someone struggling. We want to be there for our friends and family and be supportive. But there may be some who take advantage of us and create situations where we feel uncomfortable. Sometimes it’s because they lack personal boundaries and there are no limits to what they will ask. If they lie to us to get to their objective, we may get tangled up in situations that are difficult and confusing. If they are close friends, family, or loved ones, and this becomes a pattern we may get hurt. If we believe in promises that never become reality and continue to trust them to follow through despite what we’ve experienced, we may find ourselves unsettled and miserable when we deal with them. It can be hard to say no to someone close to us even if we know we may get hurt. There is an old saying that “Hope springs eternal,” and in our personal relationships that is often true. Even if someone has disappointed us many times we may hope the next time will be different. We may trust them to change even if there is no evidence a change is coming.

We are entitled to be happy. We deserve the best life we can create for ourselves. We can understand and clearly define our personal boundaries and when someone steps over them, we can back up. Being in control of our lives and decisions is our responsibility. If someone close to us continually abuses our trust, manipulates us to get what they want, or doesn’t follow through on their promises, we may step back and disengage from them. We don’t have to end our relationship but we can define what we will not do and hold fast to our decision. It’s impossible to change anyone but ourselves. We can’t make others follow through, and we can’t make them honest. But we can control what we do at every turn. If we are asked to do something that makes us uncomfortable we can say no.  If we are promised something we are sure will not happen, we can refuse to believe it. We can stay in our relationships and still honor our boundaries so we are happy.

Some people define love as doing everything others want. They try to make everyone happy and are uncomfortable expressing anything different from those around them. But we are all unique and it’s impossible to make everyone else happy. The world is a big place and there isn’t anyone else exactly like us. We don’t always have to agree or act a certain way to be loved. We deserve love just because we’re here. We can define what works for us and we can say no when we need to. If we are clear about our decisions those around us will know our true selves and respect us for our honesty. We never have to go along or give in if we don’t want to. We can be kind and patient, loving and supportive, and still say no.

Today if you’ve been going along in a situation that is making you uncomfortable, you may say no. You offer so much to the world and we are all blessed because you’re here. You can do what is best for you. You’re in control of your life and you can choose how you live it. Make your best decisions today and happiness will follow.