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Tag Archives: Problem

The Gift

8 Aug

We have all kinds of responsibilities and tasks to get done. Some are routine and we’re used to managing them, but other stuff comes up and if we’re facing something difficult or unpleasant, we may put it off and try to avoid it. We don’t want to look at it, we don’t want to deal with it, and we would love someone else to volunteer to take it off our hands. When we have a lot to carry, it would be very convenient to hand everything that’s weighing on us over to someone else and walk away. Just leave it with them and let them deal with it. We can try that and we might be able to get rid of a few things but nobody is going to forget the little gift we gave them, and in time, they may bring us an even bigger one to deal with in return. Fair is fair, and if we expect others to take care of our crap, we have to be willing to take care of theirs. Since there is no way to know how big their issues might be, it’s better to stand firm, and manage the issues we have on our own. It doesn’t usually work to push our problems off on others but that doesn’t mean others won’t try to push their troublesome tasks off onto us. If we’re open and welcoming, they may simply hand them off and ask us to take care of them. We might be okay with that once in a while, but if it becomes habit, it might seriously impact our time and our relationship. Everyone is responsible for their own lives and their own responsibilities. We don’t have to solve anyone else’s problems or carry their burdens for them. Our lives will bring us enough to manage, and if we manage it well, and take care of things as they arise, we will feel great satisfaction as we move forward. Our confidence will rise and we’ll find great success.

Some people need more attention and help than others. They may be unsure of their abilities, need more information, they may be confused, or they may just be lazy. Whatever the case, if we’re asked to help, we can certainly step up and try to assist. But helping with an issue isn’t taking ownership of it. The problem does not belong to us and we are never responsible for solving it. We can help where possible and offer any advice we may have, and allow those who own the problem to find the answers they need.

There are all kinds of problems and complications in life. Nobody can solve them all or save anyone else. We can take care of our own issues and, when possible, help those around us take care of theirs. We are strong enough for anything our life brings, and can solve any problem or face any trial that arises. If asked, we can help those around us, but we can never carry the load for everyone else. We can be considerate and try to assist, but the responsibility for the success of others lies with them. We can take care of our responsibilities, share when we can, and find great success and happiness moving forward.

Today if someone has asked you take on a problem that belongs to them, you need not agree. Be helpful, but let others manage their own issues, and give the gift of self-reliance. You are incredible and wise, and we’re all enriched by your presence. Set the best example moving forward and the whole world will benefit.

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Ghosts

18 Jul

Our lives are a compilation of all our experiences, and we become who we are as we learn going through everything that happens.  Sometimes it’s easy and there is sunshine and cake, but other times the clouds roll in and we get caught in a mire of difficulty, confusion and trouble.  There is no predicting what will happen next and what’s in the past is tattooed on our history forever.  There may be times when something painful from before returns and demands our attention.  Lots of things can go wrong and remembering a bad experience can bring all the painful feelings back in an instant.  Doubt, sorrow, grief, and despair may revisit us and remind us of what we thought we’d left behind.  As we remember what happened and how we felt we may review again and again our actions and try to figure out what went wrong.  There is no way to change the past and if we’ve been hurt, the ghosts of the memory may come again and again until we finally let them go.  There is no way to move forward and hold onto the past at the same time.  When we’re ready we can look at everything clearly, accept that our lives have changed, set the heartache down, and walk away.  Letting go doesn’t mean we have to forget what we’ve learned.  We can carry the lessons forward with us to help us navigate the future and deepen our understanding of life.  We deserve complete happiness and allowing ourselves to leave pain behind and move forward will bring it.

Every problem has a solution but there may be times when the only way to end a problem is to change course.  We can leave a bad relationship that brings us pain and suffering, a job that is unfulfilling or demeaning, or a connection with someone that is destructive.  Once we identify what the problem is we can begin to find the answers we need to address it.  If the answer requires a big change in our lives it will take determination and courage to bring it about.  It doesn’t matter how hard it is to resolve any issue.  We have all the courage and strength we need to do whatever is necessary to correct our course and find happiness.

Everything we experience becomes part of who we are and goes forward with us forever.  How we manage the memories is up to us.  There is no need to go back and dissect every action, every word, or every outcome.  We are not perfect and when we look back there will be things we wish we could change.  But the past is behind us and cannot be altered.  There is no need to carry every disappointment forward.  We can learn everything possible from the experience and continue on with confidence.

Today if there are ghosts from the past reminding you of things that went wrong, be confident and let them go.  What’s behind you is gone and will not return.  Take everything you’ve learned going forward and continue toward your dreams.  You are incredible and wise, and nothing will stop you from succeeding.  Everything is possible and you will reach every goal you desire.  Nothing can keep you from success.

Wearing Armor

5 Jan

Life is ever changing and can be complicated. We have good times and bad, we go through countless challenges and we learn continually. Sometimes we struggle with problems that confound us and as we navigate our days there may be times when something especially difficult comes. When the hardest times come upon us and we feel overwhelmed, even though we may momentarily believe we can’t survive them, we will get through them in time. Centuries ago soldiers preparing for battle made sheets of armor to wear to protect them from swords and arrows. The armor allowed them to face the enemy confidently and preserved them as they fought. Although we don’t wear armor, we can strengthen our resolve and determination to overcome whatever we’re facing and have an unshakable will to succeed. We can envision armor around us when we face threatening situations and have the calm resolve that no matter what comes, nothing will prevent us from progressing forward. We are strong and there isn’t anything too difficult for us to manage. When we’re facing extreme odds and the fire ahead is intense, we can press forward with confidence as though we were wearing armor and we can succeed.

We are not born with unlimited strength. Strength comes to us when we must press against trial. Each challenge we overcome makes us stronger and every problem gives us additional tools to use going forward. The old saying of “No pain no gain,” is effective when we think about the challenges we face. If everything came easily to us and nothing ever went wrong, we would have no need for strength or even understanding of complex matters. The struggle through trials enhances our power going forward. We may face very difficult situations that are confusing and difficult. But no matter what comes, with patience and the armor of determination, we will navigate them successfully and overcome.

Deciding we are capable is often the first step to success. If we believe we can win, often we will. Doubt has a way of weakening resolve and if we are unsure, we may struggle to find the answers we need to move forward. Confidence is a very valuable tool in our arsenal of success. It enables us to unravel even complicated and extraordinarily hard problems simply because we believe we can. We are always able to solve whatever comes to us. We have everything we need to find our way, overcome any obstacle, and solve any problem. We are wise and capable. We have the armor of confidence and determination on our side and we can face any challenge with the certainty that we will triumph.

Today if you feel overwhelmed with a difficult problem you are facing, if you feel concerned you can’t manage it, remember there isn’t anything you can’t do. Surround yourself with armor. Be determined and believe in your success. You are stronger than you realize and there is nothing too difficult for you. You have everything you need already. Go forward with confidence. You will succeed.

In the Middle

17 Jun

There are times in our lives when decisions must be made that affect others involved.  When everyone agrees on the same choice it’s easy to move forward and get things done.  But we’re all different and our ideas about how things should go sometimes don’t match.  We may feel our solution is best and then be confronted with someone who disagrees.  If the choices are vastly different, there may be conflict as the final decision is determined.  We all understand that compromises must be made from time to time but if we feel strongly about going a certain direction and someone else feels strongly about going the opposite way it may be hard to find common ground.  And sometimes there isn’t anything common within the choices.  When that happens we can find a way to go forward by looking for a solution somewhere in the middle of both directions.  It won’t be exactly the way we want it but it won’t be exactly the other way either.  We can give and take some control.  We don’t have to give it all up but we can’t take it all either.  Finding the middle allows both sides to compromise without giving up anyone’s entire choice.  It isn’t always easy, especially if strong feelings are involved, but it is the best way to ensure we continue to move forward.  If we dig in and refuse to give up anything we’ll end up stuck and that gets us nowhere.

If we find ourselves in a situation where we absolutely believe we are right and the other side is completely wrong it may be hard to hear why we should alter our decision.  Our choice may be an excellent option but rarely is there only one way to get anything done.  There are many ways to do everything and although our ideas may be great, it’s important to remember there are lots of great ideas.  If we openly listen to all the options presented and take the time to really understand another perspective we will more easily be able to compromise.  Allowing all the other points of view to be considered opens the door for new perspectives.  And those new perspectives teach us more about the situation and the options available.

Sometimes we may feel there is only one answer for a problem we’re facing.  There is only one way we can see to get through it.  When that happens if we patiently explain our position and why we believe it must go that way others will be more receptive to our solution than if we simply tell them this is the way it’s going to go.  We all deserve to be heard.  Finding the place in the middle is possible if we respect everyone’s opinion as much as our own.  Even when we’re sure we’re right, sometimes after hearing another viewpoint we may see where we could modify and find an even better solution.  Listening allows us to hear.  And hearing all the possibilities helps us find the best answers.  We are fully capable of making our own decisions but we are also capable of collaborating those decisions when needed.  Collaboration brings a more cooperative partnership and helps us move forward more effectively.

Today if you’ve made a decision and you’re sure it’s the best way but others disagree, listen to their perspective and understand their point of view.  You’ll learn more and your views will broaden.  Stretch your vision to find a compromise that works for everyone and you’ll feel more support and unity going forward.  We’re all in this together.  Join hands with those around you to get the job done.