Tag Archives: Position

Hard Line

14 Jan

There are billions of people in the world and although we’ll never come in contact with many of them, there are others around us most of the time. Sometimes it’s easy to interact with them but other times they may interfere with our plans, get in our way, object to our ideas, and basically make it harder for us to do what we want to do. It takes some skill and decorum to get through sticky situations when someone else isn’t on the same page we’re on and doesn’t share our views. Compromise is always a possibility but if we’re mad or determined to get things our way, we may draw a hard line and refuse to budge. That might work for us sometimes, but often all it does is escalate the situation and make things worse. If others feel their views are dismissed or ignored, we may find ourselves in an emotionally charged and difficult position. The whole idea is to move forward in every aspect of our lives, and there are many roads to every goal. Whatever we want to accomplish can likely be done in several ways. Instead of deciding it’s our way or the highway, we can open our minds up to the possibilities and options presented by others and bring them on board. Everyone wants to be heard and feel valued. We can get to our goals and reach every destination by listening carefully and finding a solution that expresses everyone’s point of view. It takes a little more work than just forging ahead our own way, but the ultimate success is worth it. Everyone has good ideas. We can include them in our plans and move forward.

We’re all at different places on the spectrum of intelligence and understanding. Some people are very smart and understand concepts and ideas quickly and completely. Others take more time to comprehend the goal and what must be done to accomplish it. How fast we understand the issue doesn’t define our success. When everyone is ready, they can contribute ideas for success, decisions can be made, and a plan can be put into motion. Everything is attainable and with patience and cooperation we can reach any goal.

When we’re confident and have a clear understanding of an issue, if we want others to agree with us, we may state our position and the reasons why we feel the way we do. We may convince those around us to follow our lead, or they may prefer to do things their way. There is not one, absolute, perfect answer to any problem. We can accept modification of our plans that include everyone’s perspective. The idea is to get to the goal – not necessarily to get to it in one specific way. We can be tolerant and patient enough to include those around us and choose the best road ahead.

Today if you’re sure you have the perfect answer to a problem but others around you disagree, listen carefully to their suggestions. There are always many roads to any destination. Include those around you and find an answer that represents everyone. You are wise and strong. Share your wisdom and allow others to share theirs with you. Compromise will bring freedom and success. You have so much to offer. Be willing to listen and move forward with confidence.

In the Middle

17 Jun

There are times in our lives when decisions must be made that affect others involved.  When everyone agrees on the same choice it’s easy to move forward and get things done.  But we’re all different and our ideas about how things should go sometimes don’t match.  We may feel our solution is best and then be confronted with someone who disagrees.  If the choices are vastly different, there may be conflict as the final decision is determined.  We all understand that compromises must be made from time to time but if we feel strongly about going a certain direction and someone else feels strongly about going the opposite way it may be hard to find common ground.  And sometimes there isn’t anything common within the choices.  When that happens we can find a way to go forward by looking for a solution somewhere in the middle of both directions.  It won’t be exactly the way we want it but it won’t be exactly the other way either.  We can give and take some control.  We don’t have to give it all up but we can’t take it all either.  Finding the middle allows both sides to compromise without giving up anyone’s entire choice.  It isn’t always easy, especially if strong feelings are involved, but it is the best way to ensure we continue to move forward.  If we dig in and refuse to give up anything we’ll end up stuck and that gets us nowhere.

If we find ourselves in a situation where we absolutely believe we are right and the other side is completely wrong it may be hard to hear why we should alter our decision.  Our choice may be an excellent option but rarely is there only one way to get anything done.  There are many ways to do everything and although our ideas may be great, it’s important to remember there are lots of great ideas.  If we openly listen to all the options presented and take the time to really understand another perspective we will more easily be able to compromise.  Allowing all the other points of view to be considered opens the door for new perspectives.  And those new perspectives teach us more about the situation and the options available.

Sometimes we may feel there is only one answer for a problem we’re facing.  There is only one way we can see to get through it.  When that happens if we patiently explain our position and why we believe it must go that way others will be more receptive to our solution than if we simply tell them this is the way it’s going to go.  We all deserve to be heard.  Finding the place in the middle is possible if we respect everyone’s opinion as much as our own.  Even when we’re sure we’re right, sometimes after hearing another viewpoint we may see where we could modify and find an even better solution.  Listening allows us to hear.  And hearing all the possibilities helps us find the best answers.  We are fully capable of making our own decisions but we are also capable of collaborating those decisions when needed.  Collaboration brings a more cooperative partnership and helps us move forward more effectively.

Today if you’ve made a decision and you’re sure it’s the best way but others disagree, listen to their perspective and understand their point of view.  You’ll learn more and your views will broaden.  Stretch your vision to find a compromise that works for everyone and you’ll feel more support and unity going forward.  We’re all in this together.  Join hands with those around you to get the job done.